If you could add one rule to this list what would it be? 🤔

The one rule I’d add: Treat yourself like you‘d treat a friend - more positive affirmations and less negative self talk 😉 I love the idea of the 3 year rule🙏

Here is a rule: leave every situation or environment better than you found it. Whether that's really listening to someone, being a courteous driver, or picking up a piece of litter. Edit: I am a bit blown away with the number of people this post resonated with.

0:13 It's better to be an hour early than a minute late 1:06 Move before you're motivated 2:08 If it won't matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 min worrying about it 3:02 Never go to bed angry 4:19 Never use two words when one will do 6:29 Learn to laugh at yourself 7:18 Give yourself three years to reach big goals 8:08 You are responsible for everything 8:42 Never skip a workout two days in a row 9:41 Assume the best in people

My rule: try to be as honest as you can, with people but also with yourself. If you lie, you make things complicated. If someone asks you a question, ask yourself first before you answer.

One rule that I have, which maybe isn't quite a rule as much as a mindset, is to romanticize life as much as you can, especially the little things. As someone who struggles a lot with fluctuating depression, often times the only way that I am ever able to get out of a depressive episode is to start romanticizing little things. If you can't live for the big things, like family, friends, etc, then live for the little things. Everyday, the things I look forward to the most are drinking tea, taking a walk in nature, cuddling my dog, looking at the trees in the wind, looking at art, listening to music, eating a yummy meal, sitting down to read a book, etc. It's these things that truly make life enjoyable, so don't forget to immerse yourself in them whenever you can! Also, this is especially helpful when I have to do something that I don't particularly want to do, such as housework or an assignment. My little trick to get me through it is to pretend that I'm in a Studio Ghibli movie montage of someone cleaning their house or working. I'll play soft music in the background as though it were the movie soundtrack, and it really helps. It helps me feel as though these boring/unpleasant activities are being romanticized, and a bit less unpleasant.

Rule 11: Allow yourself - and others - the permission to change. Change your mind. Change your beliefs. Change your assumptions. Change your health. Even change your rules :-)

One rule I think it's most important for mental health is - don't think that you're late to achieve something. Media is full of very young people who achieved a lot already, and it's very easy to start comparing yourself and thinking that you're too old for achieving anything. But that's so wrong, if you're a college student and lose 2-3 years because of certain life circumstances, that's OK, just move on, in the grand scheme of life those 3 years will turn out to be irrelevant, what is important is that you keep working on what you believe is best for you. That also applies to situations when people realise that they are in the wrong place at, for example 35 or 40 years of age. If you feel you found something new you're very passionate about, don't talk yourself out of it just because you're not in your early 20's anymore. It's never too late.

I ended up listing down about 23 rules, 10 from the video and 11 from the comments and 2 of my own. Here they are if you are interested: 11. Romanticize your life as much as possible 12. Don’t think you’re late to achieve something 13. Be kind (to yourself, to others), be smart (educated, informed, have common sense), be strong (physically, emotionally, mentally) 14. Always discover new music 15. Try to be as honest as you can 16. Pour into yourself first 17. Date yourself 18. Allow yourself to be bad at certain things 19. Cut out toxic people immediately 20. Show gratitude 21. Celebrate small steps properly 22. It’s easier the second time around 23. You’re not the first person in this situation and you won’t be the last

I have three life rules for myself: be kind (to others and yourself), be smart (educated, informed, and common sense), and be strong (mentally, physically, emotionally). I have never come across a circumstance where these three rules don't apply and generally give a positive outcome.

My favourite mindset quote to live by is 'it's a bad day, not a bad life' and it reassures me when I become overwhelmed

One of my rule is small things counts. If you neglect things because of how small or insignificant it is you are leaving a hole in a big picture. So try not to neglect things coz sometimes small things matter the most. 😊

Summary 1) it's better to be an hour early to be a minute late 2) move before you motivated 3) if it won't matter in 5 years, dont spend more than 5 min worrying about it 4) never go to bed angry 5) never use two words when one will do 6) learn to laugh at yourself 7) give yourself 3 years to reach big goals 8) you are responsible for everything 9) never skip a workout two days in a row (actually for every habit) 10) assume the best in people

My Rule: Tell people when they do something that changes your life for the better, even if it's small. You have no idea how much letting someone know that may mean to them.

Another one: Make learning a priority. In good situations and bad situations if you learn something it’s usually a success. But like Dwight said, not everything is a lesson… sometimes you just fail. That’s important to remember too especially if you’re too hard on yourself.

“How you do one thing is how you do everything” this quote helped me to form the habit of being present in every thing I do. Anything from working to relaxing, I make sure that I’m fully immersed in the task.

GREAT VIDEO !! I would add something that changed my life : being interested in how my body works and learning about natural medicine so I can get rid of hard medication at 100% unless something urgent happens (because it can save life of course). Eating healthy, learning about food, natural foods, etc... Game changer for a good health and a good mind !

Wow this video is so good Matt! Many of these rules are exactly what I need to hear right now. And also the film making is en point as always, thank you for your work!

My productivity has increased gradually along the years watching your videos man . Started my second year of college and i graduated last month. These videos are great ☺️

Thank you Matt for always being insightful! My mindset has drastically changed for the better because of your videos:)

THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR WORK MATT, YOU ARE THE BEST!

I have some : 1. Text as if someone is spying on your chats. This way I never text anything harmful. Even if I had to say something strong I say it in a way which is not demeaning. Keeps things professional too.

You are the best Matt, you can't even imagine how much your videos have helped me!

I am currently binging all your videos, I miss watching it😎 Love from UK and I am excited for this video 🙌💯

Great tips! One thing hubby & I tried that doesn't work for us during out 29+ yr marriage is the "never go to bed angry" thing. Our hottest, most destructive fights are in the middle of the night when we are both tired and sensitive. If we find ourselves going in circles or escalating to an unreasonable level, we take a pause and sleep on it. After sleeping and stepping back, the perspective is so much more productive and reasonable. It doesn't work for everyone, but it does for us. Our tempers are too hot and we are both too stubborn I guess.

Hi Matt! I love every video you upload, but this one is my favorite that you've uploaded in a while. It's going to be so helpful to so many people. Thank you.

There are no shoulds, only coulds! Whenever I find myself feeling like I ‘should’ be doing something I remind myself that shoulds don’t really exist. Instead there is a long list of coulds to choose from. Just because someone else would choose one option, doesn’t mean I ‘should’ choose that option too. Life changing!

I'm speechless just thank you thank you so much

How is this man always on top of the game when it comes to his yt videos? It's always a pleasure to watch your videos Matt, thank you

Thank you. Such a great list.

Wonderful content, We just need this kind of reminders to develop ourselves and maintain that momentum in our daily life !. Thanks Matt 🙌🏻!!

Powerful video! I already apply many of these rules to my life, but it's good to be reminded of them.

Appreciate Matt telling me exactly how much to fast forward during the add break

This video clarified so much things to me. It was like a short podcast and I watched it between exercises during my workout, I appreciate that

I started watching Married at first sight Australia during lockdown and now I'm hooked 😅

Awesome content ❤ I will put these rules into action. Thanks Matt

Thanks a lot Matt!

Great list. Happy to see I'm already on the same page on a lot of these.

Broo, I think is the best advices and rules and not advices to encourage toxic productivity or hustle culture! Definitely writing this down.

This is the best content by Matt that i have watched so far … thanks Matt 💕💕

Thank You Matt 🙌

I needed this thank you ❤

Over the years of reading self help books and listening to high level performers I have adopted many rules you mentioned. I am not perfect and I will have to adopt the don't miss a habit 2 days in a row, this will be a big one for me as I tend to beat myself up when I lose a "streak"

These were great Matt! I've had a break from youtube recently and am happy to come back and watch such a great video :) been a long-time follower, your growth (in all sense of the word) has been brill to watch!

Yet another brilliant video filled with value from one of the biggest inspirations behind my recent decision to start a UKposts channel. Thanks Matt!

Great video. This channel is so well done but the videos get progressively better, and they were great when I started watching years ago. I’m saving this to my favourites.

This video help a lot if you are an overthinker, thank you Matt :3

I really missed watching your content. Thanks for being out there.

another value packed video Matt! Thanks so much for sharing these, I've become so much more productive and learned so many better habits from your videos. I love that we are responsible for everything. We make decisions everyday based on our values, and it's up to our actions right now in the present that determine our future! keep up the awesome work, much support :)

I'm a fan! Just stumbled upon your channel a few days ago and love your videos - crisp, clear, inspiring...I could go on. I think your going to change my life for the better! Thanks! Keep doing what you are...

this content is always so relevant and useful, thank you for your advice and wisdom 💯

Thanks, great video. I would add, always look for ways to encourage people. Telling people they are awesome or how that are good at something cheers you both up. It's a win/win. Thanks again. Keep up the good work.

thank you for this new video :) love it! love from Switzerland

Thanks for this valuable content Matt 🙏

Inspirational as so often! :) I would add three: 1) Trust your gut 2) walk your tempo 3) be kind+respectful - to yourself and others 💜

This Video just saved a relationship of mine which was about to explode. Thank you so much 😊

Amazing, thanks MAtt!

I am in alignment with what you are saying. It is better to get early somewhere than to be 1 minute late, we are responsible for our results, exercise. Love it. ❤️

Absolutely love the 8-Mile reference. Such a strong point about learning to embrace our flaws.

thanks for the positive video matt

I was about to be real mad at you with the "it's really not that difficult to show up on time". I have ADHD. and one of the ways my ADHD manifests is being HORRIBLE at estimating how much time something is going to take. But that solution of 'double the amount of time you think it will take' is actually something that might be helpful for me. The other thing I have started learning is to start timing how long it takes me to do something so I can actually have a realistic idea... so if I combine that with your tip of doubling time I definitely would be better at getting places on time even if I get off track (which is the other reason I often end up late. I realize oh shoot I forgot to do xyz and next thing I know I've forgotten I was supposed to be leaving and shoot that was 5 minutes ago I was supposed to leave...). Appreciate the idea. Will have to track how using that helps me get places on time!

Love this video!!! Will definitely watch it again!

Great video, as always! I'm especially motivated with the three year rule. Yay! Giving myself permission to suck at something for 3 years, here I go!

One of your best videos. Thank you!

Very helpful sir. Matt D'Avella Thankyou for sharing from the Phillipines🇵🇭

Very thought provoking. Two rules I have are to have lights out at 9pm, I love early mornings. I also weigh myself each day. Then I quickly know if I’m on course, or if I need to lighten up u til I am back at my goal weight. Very helpful for me

I love these. thank you Matt!!

Having the mindset of taking a 100% of responsibility for my actions and my outcomes was a life changing rule for me too. It's very empowering. I would add: consider yourself as your main competitor. Do not compare yourself to others.

Asuming the best in people is one of the rules that has improved my happiness the most. Once you stop taking things personnaly, or misinterpreting, and belive in the good side of people, life gets so much easier and you become such a positive person.

What impresses me the most about this video is the depth of your own stock library and how well you use it. The one thing I'd add is less of a rule and more of a reminder: It's always easier the second time around - This helps me tackle big projects or re-record a video if it wasn't good enough

Thanks a lot for this video! I love that your videos are really interesting and so visually enjoyable!

I have a rule idea: Celebrate your small steps. I find difficult to appreciate the importance of common, everyday tasks towards my goals, so "forcing" me to say "HECK YEAH!" when I do them has improved my motivation, and therefore, my likelihood of keep doing them.

These rules are so so good. Thank you Matt

Awesome video. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼

Well done you! Thank you!

Great, Matt! Thanks. Another rule I have is “You are not the first person to be in this situation & you won’t be the last.” It gives one a sense of perspective.

I've recently recovered from being sick, and during that time I had to stop doing as much as I was doing before. A week ago I was ready to get back to my habits, but instead I found myself tending to chaos and procrastination, so reminding the importance of having a set of rules in my life made me realise that I should bring them back. Thank you Matt!

Thank you matt I am very beginner but I try the way to continue. You are my idol.

When I started to go to my gym, I was struggling with being almost the only woman and I would get shy, lowering my performances. I decided to apply a new rule to my sessions : NEVER leave the gym without a progress. I would do the extra rep, run 1 more minute, stretch in a different way, use a new machine, etc. Thanks to that rule, I care less about others and more about myself. Physical and mental improvement !!

These are some rules I try to stick up to: 1. to live in the moment, taking day by day; having goals but not worrying too much about the future... and never think resentfully about the past 2. be comprehensive, forgiving and calm with everyone around me (always having boundaries for myself tho) 3. trying not to be angry by things I simply cannot control, because it's a waste of my time and energy 4. go outside every single day, for a walk or a run 5. feed myself with good and nutritious food 6. love the people around me and letting love in - this is what i live for amazing video, as always. keep up with the good work!!

Great video! Love you and Nat!!!

Off of the "will it matter in five years?" rule to reduce worry: will I be okay for the next five minutes? Usually, if I get bad news or something doesn't go well, I feel like things are collapsing in on me and that the rest of my life is changed forever in a devestating way and I will never be happy again. I know it's melodramatic, but it's the first instinct I've always had to it. I ask myself, "Despite what's happening, will I be okay for the next five minutes?" And 100% of the time, the answer is yes. And if I'm okay for the next five minutes, then I'll likely be okay for the five minutes after that, and so on.

I love it Matt!!

Awesome. As a writer/research/nursing professor, I'm obsessed with good writing and a common remark when grading students' papers is, "EDIT, EDIT, EDIT." Finally, I find that putting off writing my manuscripts is so easy to do. Just start moving (e.g., writing), leads to motivation (in my writing) is something I will remember. Finally, the work-out rule rings true. I always say, I'm too tired after a long hard day at work and "reward" myself (quite the antithesis) by not working, and then feel guilty the next day.

Thank you!

Love the list! Definitely helpful

All great rules, 2-day rule really helped me too! And the motivation one I really need to use more

Action precedes motivation. An eye opener. Thanks

Love this UKposts channel so much ❤️

That was really helpful, thank you. One of the best rules I have learned so far: Only ask people for advice who are already where you want to be! Or, as Naval says: "If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone!" We all to often ask for advice and receive advice from people who have never done what we want to do and who don't have any clue about the topic.

I came here to learn how to invest after listening to a guy on radio talk about the importance of investing and how he made $960,000 in 4 months from $160k, somehow this video has helped shed light on some things, but I'm still confused, I'm a newbie and I'm open to ideas.

I feel there’s a million rules a person could follow to get ahead. Videos like this are great but they used to feel a little overwhelming. However, I’m now seeing as I learn more that it’s more based on selecting the rules that work with you and building your own character.

Stellar video and super helpful!! 🤘🏻🤘🏻 If I HAD to add one more rule, I’d say to speak well to yourself. Positive self talk is an invaluable catalyst to positive change ✌🏻

This video is really helpful and good timing too. I start new job tomorrow, one I wanted to pursue for a year, and it's been such a stressful day idk why. I really resonated with advice # 3 - If it won't matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 min worrying about it, it has such a big calming effect on me like a big cold wave of cool water. thanks

Thank you for this great video I have learnt a lot but also I have been able to learn more about positivity

My rule is: Watch 1 Matt D'avella Video a Week. This is changing my life since 2020.

As always inspirational video and let me ask myself if I am doing the best of my time or not. Keep grow bro

The one that made a difference to me and is still making a difference I heard on the channel struthless. If it takes less than 2 mins do it immediately. It helps me daily with procrastinating the small stuff, which always then pile up and becomes a bigger problem.

This is one I love for both singles and couples! The 2x2x2 rule. Every 2 weeks go on a date. Every 2 months get away for a weekend. Every 2 years take a vacation. I included singles because I think it’s important to date yourself. You can go with a friend or travel solo!

Thank you!!!!