10 Tips For Better Conversations - La Rochefoucauld's Art of Conversation

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@grrggrrg4805 Рік тому

I do have a depressing insecurity about being uncharismatic/uninteresting/not worth talking to, compared to some imagined hyperconversational extrovert that i think i used to be. Taken to its logical extreme, a psychologist would probably tell me I don't think I'm worthy of love or something. I do appreciate this video. Thanks Robin.

@skrywar7598 Рік тому

Become worthy.

@b_delta9725 Рік тому

@@skrywar7598 who isn't worthy of love?

@skrywar7598 Рік тому

@@b_delta9725 Everybody who thinks he isn't? In a manner of speaking.

@lalaithan 11 місяців тому

@@skrywar7598 I don't think it works like that.

@skrywar7598 11 місяців тому

@@lalaithan No, it most certainly does not.

@no8aelanee8a33 Рік тому

1: Listen to those who speak if want to be listened to. 2: Avoid arguing with indifferent things, and avoid asking useless questions. 3: Converse cordially according to the mood of the room. 4: One must avoid talking lot a long time about oneself. 5: Let people reach their own conclusions. 6: Never speak with airs of authority or use words and terms that are bigger than things. 7: Retain opinions that might hurt the feelings of others. 8: It is dangerous to always want to be the master of the conversation. 9: Remain silent if there's nothing to say. 10: Practice the art of silence.

@Josh-vf2im 4 місяці тому

These types of comments are the worst.

@Lombardi54 2 місяці тому

I appreciate the shortcut. Thank you.

@glitchxoxo9313 7 днів тому

@@Josh-vf2im they are really useful when you're making handwritten notes by yourself and English isnt your 1st language. And pausing the video isn't too convenient.

@glitchxoxo9313 7 днів тому

Thanks a lot for this buddy

@elaishh3533 Рік тому

When asking questions try to elicit narrative response answers not just yes or no. So not “Do you like the meal? Try “what do you like about the meal? “Did you have fun” try “what did you enjoy” This will open up shy people and offer additional additional content to keep the conversation going.

@cevcena6692 Рік тому

yes, but also don't ask about mundane things if you don't want the conversation to be mundane

@darshandev1754 7 місяців тому

id rather not ask the examples you have given

@youtubeviewer4127 2 місяці тому

@@cevcena6692i never know what to talk about

@edboss36 11 місяців тому

Being a good listener is actually a important skill. People can like you instantly. The salon concept is so interesting btw thanks for sharing

@thehoodieguy1341 Рік тому

I love that the "art of silence" is something so crucial to a good conversation.

@neon6847 Рік тому

i love how concise and clear this is, no fluff, just good content.

@rinamamahit276 Рік тому

the art of silence is the only thing I mastered. I just keep silent all the time 🥲

@KAMZA. Рік тому

lol same here

@ricuriaruss3560 Рік тому

aw hope you're okay I was the same for a long time but I'm starting to come out of my shell and it's amazing. all the best

@manamsetty2664 Рік тому

It's really problematic for me when usually all I do is listen and not talk

@vamovencer Рік тому

To too kkkkkk

@vamovencer Рік тому

Me too* kkkkkkk to too is tomas and friends

@LearnAndTransform561 Рік тому

This is exactly what i have been thinking about: what is a good conversation? I wanna learn this art to have a great conversation. Thanks for sharing!!! Love your content.

@JonStallings Рік тому

"There are more artful ways!" Great topic Robin. Sadly it is too easy to try be right than to craft the art of conversation.

@mariuschirita187 7 місяців тому

A perverted conversation isn't worth having. If truth isn't the objective and idle talk is what you seek, you can easily satisfy yourself by speaking to a brick in the wall.

@qwertyzz7 Рік тому

I have been coaching people with ASD on how to have conversations and stumbled onto a very similar rule set. The battle always seem to revolve around pertinence and brevity - to use rule 6, keeping it short and sweet.

@anitadevi622 Рік тому

I am satisfied that he knows how well his themes and ideas are cooperative and effective content. Love it!

@beanconnoisseur5527 Рік тому

This is so convenient since I've been trying to better my speaking skills recently. Thanks!

@GeraldaSimatupang 10 місяців тому

4:26 I remember Simon Sinek's story on Steven Barlett's channel when you mentioned this. Basically, he watched his friend's play which he thought was terrible. When the show was done, and he met his friend backstage, he didn't confront immediately his thoughts on the performance (because the friend was still in full adrenaline out of happiness for finishing the play). He waited until the next day and gave this friend a call to open up about his opinions about the performance. This resonates with point 3 you mentioned (3:24): Converse cordially according to the mood of the room.

@JY601 6 місяців тому

This is gold but surface level only. Should go in depth on each topic with a few examples. But thank u for this guide line 🙏🏾

@WNL2013 6 місяців тому

✔️ ⚙️ 🧠

@malachiteblack5720 8 місяців тому

This is a very informative video. I managed to sit through the whole six minutes and nineteen seconds, just listening to you talk, and absorbing as much information as I can. This video is not only helpful for those who wish to learn to communicate better, but also for those who would like to practice listening. Thank you for making this video, Robin, and congratulations, for you have earned another subscriber.

@sandragustafsson3125 Рік тому

One thing I would like to add to this, and that ties into the point of practicing the art of silence, is to avoid filler sounds like "Um", "Eeh", "Uuh", "Ehrm", and so on. It's incredibly annoying, people lose interest and stop listening to you, and it makes it seem like you have no idea what to say or what you are even talking about. Instead - master the art of silence and practice it! This is my main "trick" when talking to people, especially groups. They are like soft toffee in my hands and I can keep them interested for quite a while.

@fakename3208 Рік тому

Thanks for this brother. I really appreciate the insights, I actually watched this before work and had some very productive meetings today. I often feel like I blab half baked ideas just to say something. Today I said less and accomplished more. God bless!

@SilasZ. Рік тому

This has been the best video I've watched all week. Cheers. I love these fascinating tidbits of history that really show such a genuine insight, a peak, into the genuine human condition and the communities of.

@enlightenedanalysis1071 11 місяців тому

Another excellent video. I read La Rochefoucauld’s book of maxims. He had a wonderful way of saying difficult things in a beautifully simple way. I agree with your points on a better conversation - specially on the art of letting the other person reason the conclusions by themselves.

@t.j.johnsonthewriter Рік тому

i like these, maybe do a few more of these, where most of your videos are longer essays, but every month or so you do one of these five minute things. tidbits if you will. great video as always

@saswatahalder4887 Рік тому

Great content, Robin loved it!!❤

@Mister_Sosotris Рік тому

This is fantastic! Thank you!

@alenescoblete5540 Рік тому

These are very important points that could help us here in the USA where having a civil conversation with someone on the opposite side of your political stance is almost impossible.

@patrickvicente1295 Рік тому

I loved the video. Very useful tips and a very engaging research about the topic.

@Lombardi54 2 місяці тому

Thank you for the video. Love your touch in mixing the idea of history and a lesson in communication. 😊

@sofianealloui Рік тому

Thank you for this great tips ♥

@theeternalgus9119 Рік тому

Thanks for this!

@AnotherRandomPasserby Рік тому

Gotta say, I love the 12th Doctor linen coat look you have on the thumbnail

@clynnd1 3 місяці тому

I love your videos but the one thing I feel is missing is examples of each scenario. I love the broad but delicate way you explained each “step”, so to speak. Excited to see more!

@coachemploisergerakotoharisoa 7 місяців тому

Hey man ! Thanks for the video ! As a french guy, I didn't know about La Rochefoucauld ! Thanks for the insight ! Take care !

@BrittanyBWrites Рік тому

This is a really insightful video-giving me something to think about.

@BobbyF2323 10 місяців тому

Thank you for this

@coreybennettboardman 7 місяців тому

Awesome ideas to keep front of mind! Thank you Robin. #7 reminds me of Anne Lamott saying, "...you don’t always have to chop with the sword of truth. You can point with it, too."

@skrywar7598 Рік тому

I like you a lot, dude. Well done improving. 😊

@dragushcobaj4121 Рік тому

I love la rouchefoucauld so much! If anyone knows any similar authors please do tell!

@karaaaa5553 9 місяців тому

Looking unfriendly is the only way I can hide my anxiety, which as a result leaves me depressed on all the good conversations I could’ve had so thanks for this video I’ll try these things out

@IamFree2 Рік тому

More of this tips please

@giulianocersosimo3385 Рік тому

really useful and interesting videos!!!

@starosity Рік тому

very helpful video!!

@KATSKAVERN 10 місяців тому

V helpful!

@emekatimothyiloba699 6 місяців тому

Thank you

@JoseCruz-sm3ed Рік тому

Hey, can you do a video in more depth about the life of Simone Weil?

@bestlaidplans2024 3 місяці тому

I need these. I'm terrible in social settings with large groups of people

@KerryFairbanks 6 місяців тому

I have ADHD/asd1 high functioning and I have read many books on conversations and people skills but unfortunately I still use these tools to eventually guide the conversation to talking about myself. I just got better at navigating small talk and cordiality until I begin to "politely control the conversion" with many please and thank yous and questions about the other person to corner them to asking me a question in the desired subject

@szxnv Рік тому

incredible explanations to help us understand!

@himeshwarirathore444 Рік тому

You are my best friend ❤

@riyatekwani4400 Рік тому

Could you please create a video on metafiction?

@juliettaaragon1831 Рік тому

@ Robin Waldun ---------- I am going through a period of refreshing my relationship with "actual reading" of books versus mostly listening to them through audio versions. And even though I came across your channel just yesterday ( May 5th, 2023 ), I know I will be returning for more because I'm enjoying your content very much. Anyhow I just wanted to let you know...and also share my genuine appreciation of your creativity through your UKposts channel.

@leekspinner 2 місяці тому

Ty!

@mtbostonnyfl 9 місяців тому

you are great

@sck0305 11 місяців тому

Probably the most important skill on the planet.

@kapsxd 4 місяці тому

I've gotten accustomed to these tips and they do help, but I find myself sometimes just not knowing what to say, I force myself to be present in conversation (a common tip) but at times I have nothing to say, is that normal or is there a way to keep the flow of conversation

@lanai-wy4fr Рік тому

I wonder what you think about nodding or saying 'yeah' as the speaker talks? Is it considered thoughtful or annoying?

@hunterthefurry 8 місяців тому

The T&Cs of conversations

@onmylab Рік тому

can i see your desk,how are you organize all your notes,cuz,me and my notes just mess

@lemarginalmagnifique8547 5 місяців тому

Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, je conseille le livre "CONVERSATION & RÉPARTIE", de Nathan Stone. Y a tout ce qu'il faut savoir, c'est clair, très complet, pas de discours superflu, le top. Tous ceux à qui je l'ai conseillé en sont très contents ! C'est un indispensable.

@RCWaldun 5 місяців тому

Merci pour la recommandation! :)

@lemarginalmagnifique8547 5 місяців тому

@@RCWaldun De rien ! Merci pour ce que vous faites sur cette chaîne. 🙂

@benbenbus 9 місяців тому

It was my first day in highschool today, I fumbled my one chance to make a friend, everyone could hear my voice shake when I spoke😓

@xella3525 Рік тому

I wish saloons were still a thing

@elmo43 4 місяці тому

That’s the problem I be too quiet and be stuck thinking on what ima say next 😩🤦🏾‍♂️

@user-yo7fx2xn8m Рік тому

No until La they told me everything - as I said a message delivered by my fav singer - so let’s say 12 years ago or when was the housing crisis? -after that things started to go south.

@boom_handled Рік тому

tip 11 - use texting instead of voice chat to be able to have an easily accessible history of what has been said previously.

@epiclightning10 День тому

conversation

@9r4v3s 10 місяців тому

hot damn, very good

@april35rain47 Рік тому

I really enjoy ur way of thinking ❤️ Feels refreshing to hear pure crisp thoughts🍀 PS: u r cute so it helps too🐨

@msspeacesdiary8452 Рік тому

💜💜

@iknowtoomuch 3 дні тому

“No one likes self-absorbed monologues, which is why a lot of people find Hamlet especially insufferable.” 👏🏼🤣

@Arpit0011 Рік тому

1:50 how long it took you to pronounce this name 😂

@haydenmitchell-seeds2702 2 дні тому

I’m a very anxious person so I avoid conversation and idk what to do

@avoidbeing 10 місяців тому

just read Gaddis' Recognitions

@peachy-wd6ci 7 місяців тому

i know i’m not boring but it’s so hard to show that in comversation

@angelcampos7675 6 місяців тому

Who here like me like to use fancy words when speaking so that you sound like you speak English very fluently such as "interesting" or "strange" and "extraordinary".

@buhhhg 7 місяців тому

Honestly can't agree with rule nine. Yeah, for some people it applies, some people just need to shut up, but I'm silent most of the time because I have nothing to say and people seem to be scared of or disgusted by me because of it. I don't know if the people around me are just very judgmental or what, but it hasn't been working too well tbh

@tamto_ot Рік тому

First one

@hectorheath9742 10 місяців тому

I came here because I have a few aquantances who always dominate the conversation. In one group one of them spent about twenty minutes telling me the intricacies of assembling a kitchen cupboard without interruption, while another always talks about himself and you can't get a word in edgeways (I've since left the group for this reason). Another, a girl I know, speaks at one hundred miles an hour and might give you a few seconds to reply before she's off again. I just don't understand the lack of self-awareness of these 'friends'. It's just another of many reasons why I don't like people.

@maxpayneftw 18 днів тому

La hocus pocus

@peachysasha 11 місяців тому

I'm sorry but you can't tell me that the thumbnail doesn't give 'babygurl' vibes 😂

@AMP_PLUS Рік тому

starts at 2:50

@Red-wh3ok Рік тому

Video starts at 2:55

@user-dp5rt4jl4t Рік тому

Petty

@fryncyaryorvjink2140 4 місяці тому

Well this wasn't really what i was looking for, no offense. I think maybe if i put my phone down for a while i might be able to work on the conversation part of my brain. I have conversations with myself all the time. I'll have to memorize a list of topics to talk about, then i can free style from there

@NewDarkKnight 8 місяців тому

Looks like lashdbrjxhrdkc was a wise man.

@al1665 Рік тому

La Rochewho?

@masonmckenna797 Місяць тому

I just think really fast and interrupt people

@donaldbenson727 9 місяців тому

Toook you a really long time to get to the point

@queenc5607 6 місяців тому

Because I’m a private person. I don’t like to go many places, people are too nosy. Where do you live? Where do you work? Do you have any kids? Are you married?