I had anorexia at the age of 3 and still suffer to this day. Early childhood trauma is a big deal. (I’m 27)

It could have possibly been lost in translation, many things are not always translated properly

@@victoriancrow I’m so sorry. You are strong

It is a french word "anorexique", I believe it's the term for someone suffering from anorexia nervosa

So that's why I lost my appetite....

I like my kids. They listen to me. I feel like the older they get the more I think they are wonderful. I hope my kids turn out ok. I pray about that often.

I was insanely calm and level headed for my age, and not a single adult stopped to consider that may not 100% be a good thing because they were too busy praising me for good behavior

Children are supposed to misbehave, that's the point of childhoold- to make mistakes and learn from them. If a child is scared of making mistakes- not even repeating wrong behavior but accidentally doing or saying the wrong thing, then thats a real problem. You're not teaching them anything, ur just forcing them into submission

Not a good correlation at all

i got too calm my father and mother said, i was so much "into my own world"

To see babies described as anorexic...that's got some control issues to it. These tiny kids lives are so out of control and screwed up that anorexia is developed? My God how maligned these kids lives already were. Then realise millions of them. What a humanitarian travesty. Wonder was there follow up studies.

@@lorinapetranova2607 I feel that the institution may have contributed to their anorexia. I’ve watched and read about much of that eras institutions. They simply neglected the children, for lack of staff mostly. Lots of feeding babies requires a slow progress of spoon fed time consuming attention…. Likely in which nobody wanted to do. Thus, they say the babies are “anorexic”.

@@lorinapetranova2607 you have to take into consideration when this video was made. Anorexia is an old medical term for low body weight. It has only recently taken the mental component of control and food aversion into account.

@@natalyrausch yes they mean medical anorexia; it’s when you’re undernourished but not by choice. Like through an illness or neglect or not having money for food. You don’t think you’re fat.

I agree, it's mind blowing

I’m so sorry. I hope you healing completely in JESUS precious name. Choose to forgive and forget. GOD will help you be whole again. I’m sorry. I love you but JESUS loves you more!!! 🌹

Мне очень жаль, что у Вас такой опыт. У меня совсем другая история, я жила в прекрасной семье, вокруг меня было много хороших людей, но и достаточно злых. Я никогда не позволяла меня никому обижать, хотя многие пытались и даже делали это прикрываясь любовью, заботой, а сами просто утопили меня в токсичности. Сейчас у меня очень маленькое окружение, и я не разочаровалась в людях. Изначально, встречая человека, я буду думать о нем хорошо, хоть и так же как вы не буду ему доверять. Глобально, я тоже никому не доверяю, п. ч. мы разные все люди, и мы даже сами себе не можем доверять, потому что под действиями разных чувств и эмоций можем поступать по-разному в одной и той же ситуации. Вам 40,не держите это в себе, забудьте, вы уже давно ушли вперёд, у вас своя жизнь, наполняйте ее радостью❤

I kind of understand you. My childhood was a bit different, but also filled with neglect, emotional abuse and sometimes sort of life treats from an idiotic mother, who had some sort of temper tantrums and outbursts of rage. I too grew up very smart and very disciplined. But no amount of therapy can help with certain issues. I'm filled with cold quiet rage most of the time, like literally hating/despising everyone and everything for no reason. Suffered from depression for many years, my whole youth was destroyed by depression. Can't really have any emotional connection with anyone, while being able to fake it easily. I easily fake a cheerful happy warm presence, cause it's kind of useful in life and also cause I'm kind of scared that I'll be completely alone, rejected and may be bullied if I stop faking normality, but in reality I feel only two types of emotions : pain+emptiness+despair, or rage which can't be transformed, or used, or expressed or whatever. I had tremendohs amounts of therapy with some of the best psychotherapists in the country, but not many things changed. Or ok, many small things might have changed but the central issues are the same and aren't affected in the least. Now it's even worse since I got more mature, more down to Earth and lost my youthful naivity which somehow was allowing me to believe that sometimes miracles can happen and that some day I'll have a life of a normal person.

Yo te entiendo. He sufrido burlas, menosprecios y maltratos cuando fui niña. Me han dejado de lado... pero sabes que? Yo decidí sanar. Por favor, no te rindas. Hay esperanzas aún, confía en el poder de la oración, eleva plegarias con fe para sanar esas heridas. Ten fe. Sólo Dios conoce tu dolor y puede sanarte, cree y verás el resultado.

DIOS TE BENDIGA HERMOSA. DIOS ES EL UNICO QUE NOS ENSEÑA A AMAR Y PERSONAR DE VERDAD. EL NOS AMA CON AMOR ETERNO, ES SATANAS QUE VINO A ROBAR MATAR Y DESTRUIR ♥ CON JESÚS Todo cambia. Abrazos querida.

То что бедняжки, это да, но, наверное, это не настолько плохо. Ко мне вот хорошо относятся, лучше, чем надо, а я всё равно веду себя фиг знает как. Относились бы хуже, может, я бы поадекватнее была. Лучше уж быть тревожным человеком, чем придурком каким-то. Да и не запомнят эти дети точно, как они вели себя в год

​@@jekylljekyllhyde821Пример непонимания проблемы. Судя по ходу твоей логики готов предположить, что твой возраст до "адекватного поведения" ещё не дошёл. Зато уже делаешь далеко идующие выводы (что не есмь хорошо, исходя из самих выводов). Вот скажи, а ты готова всю жизнь страдать от различных комплексов, нервозов и (возможно) психических заболеваний похуже (пересмотри видос с субтитрами, хоть и он и старый, но не устарелый), но зато "вести себя не фиг знает как"? Ты понимаешь в чём суть этого видео? Понимаешь про что пишут другие комментаторы (комментарий про работу няней в период пандемии это вообще ярчайший пример)? Был своё время один эксперимент на обезьянках: какими вырастут малыши, если заменить настоящую мать на куклу. Результаты оказались настолько страшными, что "учёного" практически отменили и выставили извергом (и не сказать, что не заслуженно). Советую поискать и почитать. Ты ЭТОГО хочешь? Я уж промолчу по поводу "но, наверное, это не настолько плохо", ибо это уже вытекающее из непонимания.

@@AR-iris спасибо! Благодаря Вам, я узнал про эксперимент "Природа любви"

​@@jekylljekyllhyde821You are sick bro

Привет, друг. Мы живём в матрице, устроенной на жестокость и страдания. Нас уничтожают из космоса. Ты ни в чем не виноват. Набери "уфолог Бова"

(Not) every parent ?

Every child deserves two parents: a mother and a father.

@@_lithp There are couples who are mother and mother or father and father and they can still raise a baby just as normal. Its not about their title its about the emotional support they give the child.

@@_lithp "the truth"

Good point

I'd say it's due to foster parents giving up easily....

Courts can also move confiscated children around to suit their budget. My parents were gone when I was two. Dad in prison, mum hit the bottle & my bro n me wards of the court. My therapist said my mum was mentally ill, alcoholism is a disease. My life followed the predictable psychiatric roadbumps: raped as a minor,, marrying an abusèr, becoming a prescription drug addict, having a narc daughter that blames me for her choices The mother I always wanted but never knew, who never sent me a birthday card passed away. Means now I'm a legitimate orpan finally.

@@KateBates22zabu I’m so so sorry. I can’t even imagine the pain that caused you. The whole system is so messed up and what’s scary is that not many people have any intention of fixing it.

@@aubreybanner7301 I don't know about fixing anything but thank you for your reply. You may save a life one day by your thoughtfulness. There was a scandal in my area of parents arranging to have their kids *scared straight* in local juvenile facility by eager guards. Paying to have their kids terrorized, this is the world we live in.

@@KateBates22zabu sadly, such atrocities have historically been embraced, dismissed and justified, but times and attitudes are radically changing thanks to the expanses of access to information and its exchange, destigmatization of matters of mental and emotional health and the bravely rebellious and unapologetic displays of embracing personal truth undertaken by so many individuals and collectively as movements which enacted social/cultural change! Viva l'amore et viva la revolution!

Allah her zorluğun yanında muhakkak bir kolaylık verir...Kuranda bunu söyler ..

I can relate, although I wasn't in a physically abusive household (although it sometimes went there...). One of my kin became more affected than I, leading me to be rushed into emotional maturity and them in responsibilities. We can't really take back what happened to us, but move forward with it. It would have been nice to live a healthier childhood, but I think the things I missed out on I can still experience. Hopefully, with a future spouse and children of my own. Best of luck and love. ❤

hey are you okay?

I'm 24 and I have a husband and a family of my own. He says I say sorry alot and worry that I did something wrong and ask for forgiveness. He tells me I don't need to say sorry and it's ok to make mistakes. I been through so much in my childhood its hard for me to me to be myself and I act the way others would like me.

Jesus took all your pain away in the cross. All you have to do is believe in him open your heart to him accept him as your Savior.

если это 65 год, то этим прекрасным деткам сейчас 60 лет +- возможно многих уже нет в живых

​@@-xl6pgочень жаль, что нельзя узнать их судьбу, как повлияло на детей их детство.

@@inna3453 да, действительно было бы любопытно, научно уже установили как влияет отсутствие родителей на поведение, однако я точно знаю: невзирая на разные факторы благоприятные или нет человек способен своей волей выбирать любую судьбу. Есть от бога у нас эта свобода выбора.

In Russia baby attacks are common

​@@nnaheim. Чего😮?! А не французские ли это дети?! 🤬

​@cheeririnaldo435 I am SO sorry you had to go through that. You are not alone and you are a survivor. Those horrible things that happened probably made you more aware of human behavior and hopefully served you well in your adult life.

Nailed it. The narrator is totally off in describing their behavior. The child looks around like, where’s the next assault going to come from. Whether verbal or physical.

@@mstina7346 They were neglected not beaten, neglected children look for reassurance. They explain that in the film.

I was like those children all the way up to 32 and then I decided I’m gonna turn my life around. Here’s what I did in short, read books about childhood trauma, identified what and where my triggers were and faced them head on. I spoke to my parents about what they did, set boundaries, fixed my relationship with my partner whose my wife now. What was done to me was their faulty but what I do to myself is my fault. I changed how I treat myself. I’m not a success story, because life is a continuous journey and if you put your guard down the memories, trauma and triggers will know where to find you. It’s an on going battle but you can fight back.

@@mstina7346 this is me now, being 40

Yeah, be like, "Okay, research is over. Time to give this child the love they need."

I don't even like children that much but I felt the same way. Give them all the love!

to think that ppl prefer to subject their bodies to traumatic hormonal injections, spend a ton of money so that they can give birth and not open even a little bit their mind to adoption is truly the most great explanation of how the world we live in is so f up.

I was watching and dying to take them out of that chair and give them some warmth and hugs

@@louvretreekay12_ It takes a lot to adopt. Emotionally and financially. These children need treatment, they need extra care and not everyone is ready for that.

Понимаю тебя

I’m very sorry to hear. Derek Prince, a preacher, also went through a similar experience. I recommend searching him up and viewing any video that you like that’s relatable. Jesus be with you in all ❤

I feel you, I was on the verge of taking my own life at 24 until I found my psychologist. Talking to her consistently, once a week, for the last few years saved and completely changed my life. I owe her being here today. I wasn't a total failure, I just needed someone that cared about me

да многие понимают, у кого мама работала и была одиночкой. и через поколение это проносится, я ничего к дочери не ощущаю, но умом-то понимаю, что если ее не любить, то свяжется потом с каким-то абьюзером и похерит мне всю дальнейшую родословную. через силу глажу её, настолько это непривычно для меня, обниматься тоже сложно. ну может когда она болеет, то забочусь о ней более нежно. просто я и сама воспитывалась без особых чувств любви, в моей семье эмоции - это проявление слабости, а маму я вообще мало помню, потому что в основном с бабушкой жила. много недолюбленных детей. но детям-сиротам не повезло ещё больше..

I'm sorry you went through that. I went through something similar and it still affects my life in some ways today.

These words so much resonated with my inner self. That’s me❤ my daughter is my everything 🩷

My niece used to go see a therapist. She would take her baby with her The Dr. Noticed how different he looked compared to most kids she would see. My niece's son looked so happy and totally confident and playing. And how he had complete confidence in his mother. Not what she would see with other children.

Very sad. Little babies need to be loved and cuddled not mistreated

So true. I try to remember to pray for abused or neglected kids.

Seriously :(

I started cutting myself when I was 10

Exactly

yeah its awful

Yes, agreed. I remember multiple times other, older women would ask me if my baby is a "good baby. " I knew what she was trying to convey in her "question." I would answer, "Yes, my baby is a good baby. All of my baby's are good." Do you mean to ask me, does my baby sleep through the night? No, my baby does not sleep through the night. This does not make a baby a bad baby. There are no bad babies. They are all innocent. " They would get sheepish and realize the nastiness and incorrect correleations they had made. 🙄

Maybe because some are quite babies.....lol....while others are really loud.....

Noo. Some kids are just terrible and scream 24/7.

yeah the other day i confronted my mom about her being neglectful and she told me that she fed me and stuff, when they give you that answer you just know you will never make them understand

@@memberofchat2825 they failed us before we ever failed them. but of course facing that is beyond their cowardice/unawareness.

Me too. A dad.

Even at 1, she's just so curious, pting at everyone pretending her talk, baby babble. I just start naming things she pts at bc u know, I gotta entertain the baby. Bc I'm sure it's deep😅 but it for is & everything in her tiny world. Although I hate going out in public bc my few days off I'm trying to get as much as I can do w/ out getting side tracked. Bruh yes, I know. I think she's super precious too. I'm not really that bishy, I'm just trying to improve mine & "Gerber's baby" life here, that u want to pay so much attention to... Now if u don't mind, time is essence. Bish move, get out the way. 🥰 Pretty sure she's trying sing right now tho

I wish the best for you and your loved ones.

@heycharise i see your example and i'm so grateful. my mother's emotional abandonment the moment i felt any difficult emotions, now makes me self-abandon whenever something triggers. my father's narcissism is something i became aware of only recently but he's been physically violent since my birth. my nervous system was so fried wanting to be secure knowing i wasn't gonna be hit even before i was 1. their fuckingup my childhood made me give up on motherhood altogether. coz 1. i don't want to saddle my child with my wounds, its not light to carry it lifelong. 2. having such grandparents is something no child shud be subject to.

@@ranirathi3379 You deserved much better than that type of treatment; you have always been worthy of love and care. I hope that you are able to love yourself now.

YES. Smfh

It’s one of the reasons it’s hard for children to even realize. I didn’t even notice I was being abused and neglected until recently (i’m18) because school just assumed it’s normal or okay, and I wasn’t being severely hit or physically harmed. I thought everyone had parents like mine

@@hydrogen3266 sorry for what happened to you, hope you stay strong

I feel like our whole society does that. One size fits all when in reality it barely fits anybody.

it makes no sense

And this is so true. 🤷🏻‍♀️

My mom says the very same thing. Too bad it took her 30+ years to realize I wasn't a happy child.

@@glo85ria cats aren't children...

@@SVanTha Lol, underrated comment :)

@@SVanTha your point?

I completely feel you.

This thing is completely wrong. We do not know what pressure our mothers are exposed to during our childhood, perhaps financially or morally. Therefore, you must forgive your mother and love her even if she made a mistake in raising you. May God be pleased with you if you please your parents. Since you realized this in your old age, you do not need help from now on. Onwards

​@@reda2455no, change the story to "my father" and think if the answer would be the same...

​@@PeaceIfYouCanFindItwhy always trying to make victim when is the mother the abuser....

I'm so proud of you,even though I don't know you. You deserve so much better than what you had,but I'm so glad you can love yourself now,I send more love!

а теперь ты дашь ему гиперопеку 🎉 браво

feel for you

​@@kl-kh7syоткуда ты вообще это взял???

You'll be an overbearing parent.

@@davemeade4371 lol, keep moving along buddy (troll)

💯💯💯 Exactly! We become prey animals and the adults the predators. Lone/defenseless prey animals learn the #1 thing is to always be vigilant to one’s surroundings. They also learn to not draw attention and to freeze when dangerous circumstances escalate.

How heartbreaking is that 💔

Most babies dont desire to be watched playing, children want to be played with. My autistic son is an independent, preferred to play solo and needed to learn how to socially engage and play with others. We really have no idea if what this video is claiming is the truth in regards to these children's background.

Fact's

@@hydrofire1296 I agree with that. As someone who is on the spectrum and has 2 brothers on the spectrum. This video doesn't say a lot in it, it's an old film and study. However these babies seemed more occupied with watching the adults wandering around them vs freely exploring these new toys or even just doing nothing. That is telling to me for their age. But I do agree that the information in this video is flat and assumes all of the babies used, were neurotypical.

This speaks volumes

Agreed. There's a great book on trauma called The Body Remembers that addresses this.

My body remembers and I do most of it

amen! abuse literally changes everything about you, even how you process information. Whenever I hear people say "This is why we need to start beating our children again," I become so enraged. There is a reason why we don't do it anymore. Its not worth the damage.

👏👏👏

😢❤

Jesus loves you guys 🫶🏽💞

@@SynzhielJesus loves you 🫶🏽💞

​@@lislainy1553but i only think of him as a friend and nothing more...😅

I completely agree

I am completely heart broken for them! How awful, I wish I could love on each and every baby on this planet that is being neglected! They deserve the world, they deserve nothing but happiness 💔

Incredibly sad to watch

@@adrianaaguirre5605 same!!! =(

No they aren't lol. Children at that age still have developing brains so they can't process love yet. The video was doctored. Children will always go for the blocks, that's instinct for building and development in tactile senses. You don't need love to function, it's just a chemical reaction that stimulates dopamine. Too much of it causes instant gratification. You don't know what you're saying lmao.

@@trevorjackson383 love, care and support are important at any age however when it comes to 'toxic' forms of love, then I agree because that type of love hinders growth and people do fine without that. Ofc love is not only key, so is care and attentiveness. The children who were institutionalized cannot comprehend love let alone care and support because they were never shown that nor experienced that at that age. Therefore, their brain is slowly grappling with that idea that they're not worthy enough and well that can manifest in many different ways when they get old, usually not in a good way.

It hurts my heart so much. I’m 27 and have refused to have kids until I can finish my degree, having come from a bad childhood and struggling as a young adult. My boyfriend of 7 years and I both won’t have a kid until we finish school. I’ll probably have my first child at 30. Meanwhile there are people who just have kids and don’t think this way at all. Having a stable home and family is so important....

@@lovexoangel Exactly! And how do boomers react to that? You'll be unattractive and and will "sour" by then. Like so what? I'll adopt! There's too many orphans who ended up in orphanages, mostly living in terrible conditions that would have their lives changed if they had loving parents to raise them into amazing members of the society! There's too many orphans that I could raise as my own children and be proud of than having to worry about "souring" or not being able to have biological children in any way. Time to put away the corrupt old school thinking. Time for parents to focus on being the best role model for their kids before they bring them to this world.

That's why abortion and voluntary sterilization should be easily available everywhere.

For the most part parents don’t really intend to hurt their children and often end up feeling a lot of shame and guilt about it later on. They were usually neglected as children themselves and never learned how to be good parents. Not an excuse but explains things and helps us to have compassion for them. We don’t choose the families we’re born into. Hurt people, hurt people😢

@@wendyannruns totally agree with this.👍

Увы это невозможно

Вот только в лесу эти дети бы не играли в кубики. Но выросли бы максимально адаптированными к среде. Думаю, дети из неблагополучек уже давно обошли благополучных сверстников в жизни.

​@@frostproff4311Не понимаю, как отсутствие родителей помогает в адаптации. Да и какой лес, мы люди или дикие животные. Человек должен развиваться умственно, а неблагополучки нередко только язык силы и знают.

Привет, друг. Мы живём в матрице, устроенной на жестокость и страдания. Нас уничтожают из космоса. Ты ни в чем не виноват. Набери "уфолог Бова"

​@@dtyfffygcfddf возможно, но это не легко сделать.

This is a hard one for me, my daughter is non verbal autistic, and I can see her behavior in these children. It certainly looks that way, however we always shown her unconditional love. It may be a weird intersection where two completely different paths lead to the same place.

@@wedp112I would think one of the biggest differences is autism would be present regardless of upbringing, but from what I’ve seen, many kids, especially 10+ years ago, had undiagnosed autism that compounded how they were treated, leading to trauma symptoms in addition to autistic difficulties.

That's what I was thinking. That one girl reaches out a finger like she wants to touch it and then looks around hesitantly and pulls her hand back. I think she has been yelled at (or worse) for touching things before.

@@lestranged Yes.

This is exactly what I thought when I saw these poor babies....

I thought about it too

Anka you made me look this in completely different way. In a negative way, Thanks!

Not a privilege. A RESPONSIBILITY

@R•se There is always adoption

Testing needs to be an requirement in order for people to have children

@@dramacoma6786 it's easy said than done 1. There is still stigma in society about adopting especially with family, relatives and friends. 2. The adoption process is not so easy sometimes people get picky which leads to child trafficking and that's whole pandora in itself

@mcrts very true, being a hands on mother it's another responsibility where you have to be very attentive and present at all times. it's not straight forward nor has a hand book so it's always most of the time trying to find your feet and learning on the job. If you want social life all the time please spare and don't have a child.

Thank you so much for the work you do ❤

Родители бросили этих детей, они оказались в детдоме. И вот что из этого получилось... Я не смогла сдержать слез, когда показали карапуза, которому игрушки были не нужны, а нужен был взрослый, который мог бы стать ему родителем. Он глаз не сводил с психолога. Столько надежды было в его глазах...

В детском доме оказываются и не из плохих семей и увы очень быстро ребёнок приходит в такое состояние даже после любящей, прекрасной семьи. Бывает разное, авария, тяжелая смертельная болезнь, война...

Самое страшное, что сейчас и из вполне благополучных семей детей изымают и потом месяцами, годами не возвращают родителям. Просто по доносу соседей, жалко детей и их родителей, которые не устают за них биться.

​@@user-eg7gh6dp3lпочему это самое страшное. Это тоже самое

​@@user-qo1mm7pi9jНет, это уже страшнее, т.к.страдают и дети, и родители. И родител хотят забрать свою кровинушку, а им не дают. И поводов законных нет, а не отдают. Калечат всю семью. Вот поэтому такое страшнее.

I agree. It's so sad. I'm so sorry that this happens.

I’ve always been in survival mode tbh I never should’ve been

Minecraft@!!!!

Yes heartbreaking- wish I could help children like these

@@somefuckingretard8289 HAHA FUNNY GAMING REFERENCE HERE’S YOUR 5 STAR

I agree

Fact's

Yes. This is me. Gone my whole life yearning for a safe mother figure, a safe attachment. Im 42 now. A wasted human life.

Deborah Gyllien, it's never a wasted life, I hope you find your peace, because its out there waiting for you, you just have to accept it x

@@deborahbaker1254 dear debora, i want to hug you. You are save and you are loved. Always.

Я даже прослезилась, смотря это видео и держа на руках своего полугодовалого сына

@@olyapronikova6611 вово тоже самое.

Ещё ужаснее, когда в семье родитель или оба с Нарциссическим Расстройством Личности (РНЛ). С виду -рай. А ребёнок только и наблюдает - откуда прилетит. У них формируется диагноз - "хорошая девочка или мальчик".

@@user-ky7ee1mt4z спасибо, что рассказали, я об этом не знала.

Тільки не відпускайте свого сина на СВО

wild. my abusive mom also studied psychology and has a degree. once i was in my tween years, but still.

Are you serious I'm so sorry to hear that 😔

I am gonna live in the ppls closet who abounded your and beat them to death with my Gucci belt SHAME ON THEM

Same. It wasn’t until later in life I found out I lived in a few cult-like settings as well. Fun times.

I really hope you and your siblings are in a better place now surrounded by better people!! I'm so sorry you guys went through all that. Please remember that there are people who cherish you and deeply care for you!! And if no one does, someone will come into your life who will provide you the love you deserve🥺 you've been so strong, it's alright to cry it out okay? Let it all out when you need to. It must've been so hard. Reminder to drink tons of water, get enougj sunlight and that you're human!!👉👈✨✨

Same

Traumatized parents maybe

Me too

They’re probably in their 50s or 60s now, if they’re still alive

Sadly, it's very unlikely. The consequences of neglect and abuse so early in life, even with best therapy, stays in people's hearts forever.

@@OstblockLatina that’s very tragic but I still hope they found some way to enjoy life..

God bless you ! They are so adorable !

It's actually disgusting. Poor children 😢

You're right about that nowdays I see people having children but they're not ready to be parents and it makes sad seeing that. That the child doesn't get any love by the parents.

@@ripvanwinkle1537 nobody is really ready to be a parent. It's a responsibility and those who forsake this are scum of the earth

Well in that case please put me out of my missery

@@csongorarpad4670 true

People forget that its a 'Responsibility' and some people are not Responsible at all. Sad

it will carry and grow in weight for the rest of their lives....

Certainement

Looks like ADHD. I was like this in my baby videos. Either too inattentive to the people around me or switching focus to things in the distance. :) can you imagine some bogus doctor taking an add baby and calling the parent abusive? Already Happened. That's how this stuff works

​@@postalservice_spa few of the kids look a bit autistic look at the wrist movements

@@postalservice_sp i definitely see what you mean - could be ADHD symptoms but i am wondering if there is a correlation between trauma and ADHD ( for personal reasons ) however, i do understand ADHD could develop without trauma present in children

Perhaps you could train to be a child caregiver and do for others what was not done for you? You have value and could love little ones. God bless you.

Dios te ama, búscale y descubre para que te ha creado, a lo mejor tiene algo grande para tí,oraré por tí, te amo en cristo Jesus

Jesus loves you! Jesus has a purpose for you. You have breath in your body because you have a purpose. I want you to know that your life matters ❤! Take it one day at a time! You can come to Jesus with all your problems!

Hi! I’ll be 23 this year myself (just so you know this isn’t coming from someone out of our generation) You can still have a meaningful life and use your time helping those abused and neglected children if it’s something you’re truly passionate about But even if not, don’t give up :( The best is always yet to come

Jesus loves you. He is the father that you need.

he's my favorite part of this video

It's fun watching them do stuff. So cute

makes me remember of my cute son i love him!

He’s adorable ❤️

He’s also approaching 60😂

When I was growing up my family was a foster family. We took in a set of twins similar to your grandchild. They were called "crib babies." They were completely neglected. At one years old they couldn't even sit up because they were never picked up and played with thus didn't build any muscles. They were completely disengaged and just stared into space. Fortunately they were five of us children who are all girls and we all doted it on them and they lapped it up. Within 6 months of all this attention in love, they both caught up physically and were very happy, well adjusted toddlers. They were then adopted by loving family together.

Is mom your daughter?

Danke Danke Danke für Deine Liebe für die Kinder ❤❤❤

Well done for being brave

I can tell you that you're an angel to him and not just a grandmother, thank you for putting your heart and effort into that child!

Me too !

Good for you. I’m planning to go no-contact once I move out for college this year.

Yeah, I'm one of them :( I've been a quiet kid my while life

@@Lunaliladee don’t be afraid to ask for help. I never did and regret it sometimes.

thanks, ill try :)

A lot of the noisy kids at school ARE looking for attention because they aren’t getting enough at home. You have similar problems but different ways to cope.

Yep 😐

I feel your pain 😔. Same for me too ☹

My family was also dysfunctional, but didn't suffer any problems and had a great childhood. I guess it depends on the person.

Hugs to your inner child 🥰

@Mr. DixOvaRice did you watch and understand the video or.....

Same, I know from personal experience that for some of the kids the reason why they didn't touch the blocks was because they used to get hit for touching things. But at that age you don't understand so your defense is to sit there quietly and not do anything so you don't get hit again.

I used to be a index finger sucking child...it developed into a sucha bad habit that i wasnt able to sleep without that at all till i was of 11-12. And what people did was mock me by asking questions do u still do that?!?! No wonder i am having the worst time of my life with all that anxiety and panic attacks in my adulthood.

That part really broke my heart! I wish all these precious children good lives..

rhythm 22 I’m 22 and I still sick my thumb

Sucked my thumb until my first child was born at 27, dropped it cold turkey without even thinking about it after that. Now at 55 I hug a stuffed bunny pretty much every night (when I'm not hugging the husband😊) for the past 4 years, it helps with major anxiety.

@@rhythm2238 wtf SAME i sucked my thumb until i was around the same age too because it felt comforting.

Amen!!!

You know, a lot of people say it's selfish not to have children, but is it more selfish than neglecting a child?

@@cedarspirit it's selfish TO HAVE children. No human wanted to go out from their nonexisting. How when you LITERALLY don't exist. So actually the person who wants a child is the selfish one because of personal goals.

@@cedarspirit Selfish is bringing up a child to this world not being able to emotionally and financially provide for that chid. People have children for selfish reasons such as look good in the eyes of society, keep a partner with them, use children as their companionship, use them as labor, use them as punchbags, use them as pawns...the list is endless.

@@Sarablueunicorn well, you're just adding extra stuff but yeah. These could be the reason but the point is clear. If people wants children, then just fucking adopt one.

😢😢😢Грустная история у вас? Вы росли в детдоме?

Story up, Whip smart. Okay buddy.

How smart is a whip? I'd bet you're a professional victim if I had to put money on something.

You got this! ❤

I’m sure your dad having no part in this equation made things very hard on her. Don’t blame her completely…

Maybe that's what you need to do for some other child out there where you live.

Same. I want to squeeze each one tight and never let go. Every baby deserves so much love.

I actually had tears come down..I just can't imagine how people can neglect their children.. I would never be able to do that to my son. My heart would break

I hugged the pooponium out of our four, now 29 through 34, and am doing equally well with three grandsons.

Seriously. I wish I could hold all of them.

Yes, people want to pleasure themselves but not care for the natural results of it. Sad to see babies look suspicious and anxious. We can only imagine the life they had.

Though I do agree with you, there are much more children on this earth than there are parent's. You have parent's who sex sell their own kids.

that's why abortion should be legal everywhere

@@jx2na196 did my previous comment get deleted

@@annie68164 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽!!! Finally somebody said it.

Нуждаюсь…Спасибо ❤

Спасибо❤️🥹

I wondered that too, because at this point they would be between 55 and 60 years old. I hope things got better for them.

same, they probably kept records of some sort hopefully someone has them or maybe someone who comes across this video was one of the babies

Same , i hope they have peace today

@@EditsbyKelsey that went from fun fact to holy smokes

@@Michijoy lol sorry , i just wanted to give some education on RAD. 😅

Right? What's even worse for me is that I recognize the look of the last baby. The wide eyes, The heavy, irregular breathing and the constant looking around...I do that. I was put through similar treatment from the time I was born 'til very recently. I recognize that feeling...I hope these kids found some peace later in life. I really do hope.

Yeah so it makes sense that people are sensitive and that’s a normal thing not a bad thing.

Fragile yet resilient

@N😍🥰🤷 god is overrated

I've been saying that for years about people that think micro aggressions are real and words equate to violence.

@N😍🥰🤷 true

Me

Me.

🤝

@@eleanademera6371 Could be more subthreshold autism than neglect though.

Me and knowing my Mother shows strong signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I don't believe her or my father's bullshit that I was like that for no reason.

Yes, like they expect to get in trouble or yelled at...this is making me cry

And they are so little...too little to have had to know that kind of pain.

I think they do not feel safe so they are constantly on alert. Poor kids.

My first kid is 9 months old now and loves squealing and having fun when he plays which is such a contrast to the way these kids act....it makes me really sad that these kids feel like they can't express themselves or even play at all.

Hello, Jesus loves u so much and wants to saves you and everyone. You're so beautiful and precious to God, Jesus forgives sins, repent of his mistake and be a friend of Jesus, He is wonderful and loves you very much. have a good day and week❤❤❤

@@wolflehcar8047 I have no feud with religion since it gives people faith, but I don't believe in senseless religious views, what this person needs is a therapist who guides them in behavioral therapy, the religion comes after if they choose to

I‘m so sorry 💔 I hope you get to heal at least to some extend over time. Best to you and hang in there

It’s so fucked. I hope you’re able to get the mental health support and love that you need.❤️

I can relate fully ur not alone ❤️

Me too

Sucks to be them. 🙄

@Noel Lecombe ik, it breaks my heart to see those poor children treated like experiments rather than the very young human beings 🥺 I personally wont have any children until I am responsible enough to take care of them. There have been more children put into foster care than children with stable families.

I agree. This was heartbreaking to watch.

Because love and connection literally keep babies alive.

I’m 32 and that condition worsened. I sit in my room and feel like people are watching me.

😢

They are having the constant fear of being hit or screamed at them . That is why before doing any action like just picking up a block they are looking at the people around as if the people are going to hit or scream at them . Because of this trauma from abuse , they are starting to breathe nervously . Really it is a sad thing 🥺😨😟

They were neglected, it may be that they weren't even given any attention. They don't have a basic sense of security, so anything new to them is scary and their exploration instict is held back

@@MinTsukki yup even this can be a point

Heartbreaking to see the effect of abused and neglected babies......

Тоже самое, также в 21 год увидел реальную картину.

Грустно что родителя ничем не заменить и такие как мы, взрослые дети, останемся одиноки навсегда

Такая же история 😢

Wish there was an update video somewhere out there.

A lot of neglected and abused children don’t turn out well. The “look at me now stories” are more rare and everyone loves them, but the reality a lot of times is ; addiction,homelessness and suicide or continuing cycle of abuse. That’s why to me childhood abuse is unforgivable.

I have relatives in their sixties who suffered abuse/neglect at a young age. They are now clinically depressed and self-absorbed

@@thelastmelon9446 oh no,, pls take care of them and let them know they are loved :(

I’m fine. I grew up without a father. My mother had seven kids. She remarried another alcoholic & put us kids through hell. We survived many frightening days at his hands. We forgive and live for Jesus.

I dont believe this story, you wouldn't know at 9 months that you were on your own, please use your brain when writing fictional rubbish. Stop making stories up! So weird.

@@emmawatson9233 aww.. I had my mom who told me that. Duh 😂😂

Now that is a badass woman

Hope, your father felt the consequences for his neglect dearly.

@@len8134 yes, I am 32 now mom of a beautiful babygirl who is already 2 now, my father was an abusive husband too, lost my mom to suicide 9yrs ago and I havent seen his face since then..

Me too. I want the camera people to set aside the blocks and hold those babies. I hope they did so after the recording.

Hopefully just figuratively…

same,............

Unfortunately it may also explain another reason why neglected children are sought after by predators. They are potentially far easier to lure and groom than other children. I know we know this logically but I had never seen it play out like this.

@@ascendingwithrachellovell3239 thats the sad part 😢

I just want to tell you that the fact that your father was neglected as a child and that he did not have a healthy relationship is not an excuse that he is hot-tempered and does not care about you. ❤️🙏

I'm sorry, I don't know English and that's why I write with translators.

@@user-zd6bb5oy2v что тут забыл русский

I can relate to this

THIS IS SO TRUE OMG

I remember watching in sheer horror a story on Romanian orphanages showing babies, toddlers, children, babies crambed into cots, hands tied, children left alone, many tied to chairs, never once given a cuddle, a stroke of their faces, allowed to play or have someon read them a book. Children with disabilities dumped like rubbish. I have never stopped thinking of those children and babies and have always wished I was wealthy enough to go buy all these horrific "baby/children prisons", sack all staff then employ baby contact cuddlers. Love them. Educate them. Give them a sense of 'belonging'. God love you for what you did. Your beautiful daughter was given a life. Given loving parents. ❤

@@CateB-um7lu I have to agree with you. I actually live in România, and I myself have 3 children. Unfortunately I belive that even today children in romanian orphanages are not raised with affection and attention...It is truly a sad, sad story. On the other had the rules for adoption are pretty strict, and that makes the adoption process long and hard. I have to say that adopting I think is one of the most humane acts one can make, me and my husband discussed this issue some time ago, before having our own. I admire anyone that is willing to welcome such a child in their homes.

@@CateB-um7lu I cant speak for Romania, bit there are videos on Bulgarian orphanages from the 1990s that are pretty bad. I know Bulgaria has worked hard to move these children into "foster homes" but orphanages are still over crowded and underfunded. But yeah, my daughter was pretty much in a crib all day until she came home with us and very very skinny.

Human contact, touching and Love are the most essential things a child needs.

The wound may have healed but the scar will always remain.

That really makes me think about my first relationship and why I stayed in it for two and half years... thank u I didn't think about that

absolutely

@@TheDementedBabe It's a good thing that you realized it, dear. Stay strong.

Yeah well mostly that's what happens, I talk from experience

@@anemptyspace Very sad to hear the truth of the world. There's no limits to bitterness and cruelty, is there?

I’ve been called "mature for your age" all my life. no. a 7y/o can’t be mature. they’re just traumatized.

@@pequitaslu when ever I tell ppl my mom is strict, what I secretly mean is she's abusive :/

@@Destiny-kx4hw same dude it sucks

@@Destiny-kx4hw im so sorry:/

@@Destiny-kx4hw OMG i have never thought about that my bestie says that to me alot that her parents are strict and so does my cousin

I actually remember things from when I was 8-9 months old, I clearly remember images and feelings, I'm 30 now, and there's so so much in the unconscious that we manifest in the everyday behaving and programming

Exacto

May you find comfort and healing in Jesus ❤ my father has diabetes and his mood swings because of low blood sugars scared me a lot as a young child, but in Jesus I have learned to forgive a lot and felt comfort and healing

I was born in 1965 and I remember my own baby cot.

Parenting isn't also descrimination like say ...' It's Just another girl born, Vati (dad). Also isn't just about be born and graduate in Europe and had kid's before. Wisdon parentings knows that the little newborn baby is a gift of the universo in Trust... I am a brazilian mother make to bilieve I was the ignorant for 30 years ,- the age the babe give up Life in other country and her business man father doesn't care for her body back

This is so beautiful

This is so sweet 💜

Remember that it is appropriate for young children to be suspicious of people other than family and caregivers. A lack of this reluctance is not healthy.

@@RONDAWILLIAMSON Yeah. Also he was born on December 2019, so he technically grew up in lockdown. It's kind of uncomfortable for him to be in a gathering of people.

This is so wholesome. People need to be nicer to babies. So many people are so quick to say "he's being defiant" or "she knows what she's doing." Give them a break, they're just babies.

Same girl

Same

Same. Also i have an attachment problem

me rn 🙃

Same case over here....

Hopefully, we learn from our mom's/parents mistakes, I did, my mom made alot, but I was sure I did not make the same ones with my daughter. There's no perfect parent, I'v probably made some. Enjoy your new little one, and be good and forgiving with yourself. My daughter is 14, and a wonderful human being, so far, I did pretty good by her.......

I wish you the very best and applaud you for trying to give your little one the life she deserves instead of those that take it out on there kid. Enjoy every moment they grow too fast ❤️

You go girl! 💖💖

Yay! Love for you and your daughter 🙏

I wish you all the best with your pregnancy and delivery. Parenthood is hard, but I'm confident you'll learn from your mom's mistakes and do better by your baby.

Rookie mistake, the first wish is always for a thousand wishes. Only then comes world peace, happy babies, etc.

Eh, babies are resilient. I'll take $100,000,000.

YES!

Agree! The world will be a better place if every parents love and takes care their child.

@@normie2716 no. You don’t deserve the money lmao

Да, тем же вопросом задалась. Столько лет прошло, интересно как сложилась их жизнь. Жизнь детей из детдома и жизнь детей из обычных семей. Повлияло ли на них это, кем они стали. Очень печально конечно смотреть на лица деток из детдома. Никто даже не улыбнулся.

@@korolevskayarp у них страх в глазах при виде взрослых людей, может их били в детдоме(((( хотя и в семье есть дети которым лучше было бы жить в детдоме, столько над ними издеваются ()

Мне 30 лет и я в обществе веду себя как дети с последних кадров. Мониторю окружение, настроение людей вокруг и не могу сосредоточиться на деле ( если есть люди вокруг ) . Пассивная, тревожная почти всегда. Думаю примерно такие взрослые из них вырастают

@@pistoletikki вы тоже в таких обстоятельствах выросли ?(

​​@@pistoletikki я была в таком состоянии примерно до 41 года. Потом я поменяла работу, где было токсичное и не принимающее меня окружение, на место, где совсем другая атмосфера. И это исцеляюще на меня повлияло. Я стала другим человеком. Постепенно учусь проявлять теплоту к другим и не стесняться этого, не бояться, что реакция будет презрительной или холодной, непринимающей. Окружение действительно очень важно. И оно работает даже без моей напряжённой внутренней работы, которую я веду с подросткового возраста. У меня даже сложилось впечатление, что я отработала некую карму за эти 40 лет и жизнь меня как-будто отпустила. Вероятно это мои домыслы, возможно я действительно что-то поняла и изменила в своем отношении к себе и людям. Во всяком случае я много работала в этом направлении.