Stay save,Susan and Desi. I don't like snow,my dog does. He passed,these summer. See you next week.❤❤❤

Vintage Gal: love your comment. ❤

Yes,you are so right.

“Answers come in the stillness” - that really struck me. I need to rest and listen for the answer. Thank you 💙

Vintage Gal.... What you've said makes sense. Just being and living takes the burden off of always having to have a purpose. Love your comment. I've been retired for 3 years and I'm single and I'm now learning to just go with it and enjoy and accept. Make it simple.

That is such a lovely outlook on life ❤️

With That Said, yes it's Nice to Know, that People are There For You, but in general . . . Never FEAR Being Alone. This is When You really Get to Know Yourself.

That is awesome just keep on every day one step at a time and one minute at a time. I am so glad you have your Furbaby and your grandchildren. You are enough and it’s never too late.❤️❤️❤️

The story put a tear in my eyes. What a beautiful story. My purpose is to waje up in the morning and see the adorable faces of my pets as they are my family. Simply to do some good in the world.

What a beautiful story :)

I also lost mine at 17. My grandmother was also my step grandma. It was natural for her to stay in our lives, along with my aunt, her daughter. Both gone now and I miss them terribly. I wish I could of been a better person then. I hope they have forgiven me.

So much thanks to you! Please see my main comment in which I wonder if I will be remembered because I, too, am a step. Big, big thanks to you!

@@dangell8984 I am a step, in a complicated situation -- what family is not complicated -- and I assure you, you were/are forgiven. And, from the other side of the generations, I wish I had been a better person when younger in relation to some older, loving family members. It is when I look at my step kids, and their kids, and see how I understand the things that challenge them, and when necessary forgive them, that I feel hope that I am now forgiven. We are all only human, after all.

Crafty Angells I took her for granted in my younger years, I didn’t appreciate the little life lessons she was trying to teach me along the way.I would roll my eyes and act so bored with her. She had the patience of a saint. I was a typical cynical know it all teenager. Then I got older and had my own kids, I realized that all those little life lessons had actually sunk into my hard head after all. She sent me a bible verse, written on the back of an old business card when I was going thru some tough financial times and health issues. It was one of her favorite bible verses.Jeremiah 29:11 “ I know the plans I have for you.....” I saved it, and I normally don’t save stuff like that but something told me I should. I now have it tucked alongside my favorite picture of and in a frame. I strive everyday to be more like her.To be kind, patient, forgiving and not to judge others. My only advice to you, is forgive yourself because you can’t go back and change how you were but go forward with better behavior.Find a peaceful spot at a park or in nature somewhere and just talk to her, I’m sure she will hear you. Maybe she will even give you a sign once in awhile that she is still around you.

That was so interesting I wondered what being in a retirement coomunity would be like!

SlapHappy Sewing Thank you so much for replying! Yeah, it was a bit of a surprise but we manage and are managing. We love AZ and no doubt it will be our forever home. 🌵

Bravo...mskulagal..you said all I would have said about being "on" all the time , I call it. I have to have my alone time. Hubby has dementia and he wants to be by my side all the time and sometimes it gets to me...then I think how awful it will be to lose him completely. So many don't understand that for some of us we can't handle all the drama , and all the noise of big crowds. I loved you reply and all the others to. I wish you health and happiness

Thank you so much for sharing your feelings. I have always tried my best to be there for anyone and everyone. Yet it’s taken me years to realize that I’ve always gone out of my way to help or listen to others. Yet I felt like I was dying inside. The effort and love I tried to give to anyone and everyone drained me out. I felt guilty for saying No I cannot due this or I honestly do not like that. I once upon a time loved a large crowd it was in my 30’s yet as I got older. I realized this sounds horrible yet I do t mean too. All the love I’ve bestowed upon others was never bestowed upon me. That hurt especially on birthdays. I would plan things for friends yet no one ever planned for me. So I decided to stop driving myself bonkers about this and for a change. Due exactly what you did. I love to read,sing,play my keyboard write music or poetry,I have 3 beautiful Furbabies I love dearly. One is getting very old he is 15 almost totally blind. Yet he is still so very independent and he has believe it or not rubbed off on me. My youngest babies I adopted are 3 and they are 5 lbs each so they will be my little ones forever. They are miniature size Chihuahuas. I saw them for adoption and they were sisters who were so attached since birth when there Owner passed away his wife since she was not in good health so she took them to the Humane Society. They had I think they told me 16 pets. Wow a lot. So these were only 6 months old. So very tiny and so sweet I didn’t choose them they choose me. I asked after I first met them could I take them to my home for the weekend. So they could meet my Good boy who was 12 years old. He has never taken to any other animals except for a cat that was my Granddaughters yet it had to stay outside because I am allergic to Cats. So the Sweetest Lady in the world. Made arrangements for it to happen. Well much to my surprise he fell in love with them instantly over the weekend. So I said ok because he as he started losing his eye sight was getting depressed. So I know that it was a sign from above that they were me at to be in my life. The lady who runs the Humane Society in our State Capital has a branch in my town. She told me a story that I would like to share. She had worked until she retired as a Legal Secretary to the States Judicial System and she had to dress in suits and dresses. Made good money she had divorced and then year later at about Susan’s age she did remarry. She said she had always wanted to be working with animals and finding them new homes. Fighting for the abused ones to help reform and get them into a loving forever home. She had several people interested in these 2 sister babies yet no one wanted one it had a slight defect in her hip so she limps. She was so dependent on her Sister because there personalities are as different one is very outgoing and the other is shy and holds back. Well I knew they were meant to come home with me. I was surprised at the papers that I had to fill out and sign. I was like wow I feel as if I am adopting a human baby. To me they are. So everyone has different dreams different causes and that’s the great thing. My Mom used to tell me as a little girl that it was like ice cream it came in so many flavors because people were kinda of like that different yet just because they were different did not mean they were less than just different. So Mrs Catherine after she retired got her wish she runs the local Humane Shelter she works for free and is happier she said than all those years with all those Judges and Clerks of the Courts. So yes sometimes it’s a little hard at first to say no. I did lose some friends. Yet I truly believe that I’ve never left any body who was ever a friend to me. They were the ones to leave. I was always there. Yet just maybe a little different. Because when 60 rolled around. I realized that this is not a play it’s real life and I get one go. So by finding the strength to be my authentic self. I spent years married to a man whom I loved very much yet he was a Veteran and suffered from PTSD I took him to the VA so many times. Different meds. He spiraled out of control much like Susan’s husband. He started buying Rx drugs off the street. Then started doing cocaine,crack,Meth and I don’t know a lot about any of those because I’ve never done those. I’ve tried pot yet I could not handle the feelings it made me feel. He stole from me when I was at one of the lowest points of my life. My Dad was dying hospice was in and yet I stayed with him every nite. I quit my job to be able to have that time. I tried everything to help my husband who when not doing drugs and getting drunk everyday was a good man. Yet I felt as if I was losing my mind. There had to be something more. I harbor no hard feelings towards him for all the personal jewelry he took from my safe that was to be passed down to my Granddaughter’s. So in order to not due something Cz like end my life if I kept on living with him. So I had to take a honest look. I had been everywhere,taken him to rehab more times than I can count and yet it never stuck. So no matter how much I wanted to help him. I realized that he was the only person who could change himself. Where I could not. Yet it was killing me physically. Ulcers and blood pressure. So I had to release him. He has went to prison 3 times and gotten out. I hope he stays on the right path yet if he doesn’t. Well there is nothing I can due. I forgive him for all the abuse because it was mental,physical,I felt lower than dirt. Yet I found out I am stronger on my own than with a person who if I stay will drag me down with them. So yes you deserve to be who you are and not be judged by anyone. So thanks for sharing and keep on keeping on. Lots of love and Light sent to you. 🌹🌹🌹

I prefer small groups of people also. I have 2 very close friends. That is all I need.

Amen Kathy! We really do have something to look forward to after this life, when we go home. You can’t trust anyone but Jesus. He will never let you down. 🙏🏻❤️

I only now came across your comment. It really touched my heart How are you now? My sincerest prayers and love are with you 🙏

@@gigi1332 thank you. I am in His perfect peace and well.

Lori Reed you are here and you do matter. It’s okay if you feel invisible, because nowadays everyone is out to get someone else. It’s better if no one knows you. Look at the news. Lol❤️

I see you, Lori Reed! And I am made stronger and more determined to be myself because I see you! Thank you!

@@vintagegal5616 Oh so true. I feel invisible but I have come to see that it can be an advantage when older. Good on you Lori and Vintage Gal !!!

You know Lori when I was in my fifties I was divorced and feeling lonely and I went out to a nightclub to try to find someone to talk to and I never felt so invisible I was dressed nice, I had a nice figure but no one saw me and I went across the street to another nightclub and I was treated the same way and I thought I give up I guess I'm just too old for anyone to care anymore... But as today as I look back I think maybe the Lord was protecting me by making me be invisible so no one would harm me... You sound like a very wise woman and I think the Lord is protecting you too. ❤️

Lori Reed.....Invisible!!! That is just how I've been feeling. It must be how you feel as you get older. I can relate to what you've said.

Everything will be fine.

Donna Rowell I like you Donna am in the same situation...I too am 61 and my marriage lasted 30yrs. I loved my life with my husband, I feel cheated of my beautiful memories because he is always part them...each piece of music...He left me two years ago, I had just lost my little dog of 16 1/2. I struggle with health problems and I have no support network. No children..no family. I am strong though in spirit and do all things I love to do. I need to keep reminding myself what a good person I was and am! It helps me to realise that I am not the only women going through such hardships and I feel proud to hear how well they manage to move on. UKposts is a great tool for us ladies to share! Good luck in your new venture!

Flaming June thank you so much for your encouragement. It’s good to know when you’re not alone. I too feel cheated and have some chronic health issues. I did initiate the divorce so I do miss him but I was so unhappy. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. Let’s stay in touch. ❤️

Flaming June bless you❤️🙏🏻

@@flamingjune4927 qaw

The same with me.

When my mother died, I felt as if my world stopped. It took me a long time to be ok ( 7 years), she will allways be a part of me, I still miss her, though the heart break is less sharp. Be patient & kind with yourself, remember your mother loved her daughter. Take it one day at a time 🌹🌹

I miss my Momma too. She was 96 when she passed away 4 1/2 years ago now. I am an only child.

@Bonnie Holman Hi Bonnie. Thank you so much for your kind words. I would at times feel agitated with my Mom. It was a feeling of being so overwhelmed with my own physical problems coupled with my Mom's needs that it was all too much for me. In many ways I became the parent and my Mom the child. From very early on in my life my Mom depended on me emotionally. She would tell me things that I probably should not have known at such an early age. I was her caretaker in many different ways. As I became older I developed my own physical problems and so caring for my Mom became more difficult. My husband helped as best he could, and I am so thankful for him. Without my faith in the Lord I could not have made it through. He gave me the strength needed for each day...and he still does. One night my Mom was in a very bad way and we took her to the hospital. They put her on oxygen in ICU. Mom was put in a very small room. There was just enough room for the bed and one chair, in which I was sitting. I started to pray for her and asking the Lord to heal her. The room began to vibrate and I opened my eyes a little bit and saw countless Angels surrounding the whole little room. I kept praying and asking the Lord to heal my Mom. After awhile my husband came in the room and told me we should go home and rest for awhile. As my husband and I got into the car he told me that he had gone down stairs to the Chapel in the hospital and was praying for healing for my mom. He told me he had a vision and that he saw a multitude of Angels in her ICU room. I looked at him and said...Oh my God....I was right there and yes...there were indeed Angels in my moms room because I saw them!! Mom was with us for a few more months till the Lord called her home. I hope my story has encouraged you and Blesssed you. God bless you and your family. Goodnight. 💜🙏💜

I lost my mother 8 years ago. Life just is not the same now 😔

AMEN ! ! ! 👍 😊

Very well said, I love it!!

Beautiful comment!

Wow, I had to read this over, twice 🙏it just resonates with my soul..If only we could remember to ask ourselves, what, have I leaned through that painful experience?..as you point out growth is what we keep striving for..But so often we need to remind ourself of this💝..thank you

Eloquent words of wisdom wrapped as a gift. Thank you!

Suzanne Schulz Amen!!

True God bless

YOU CANT GET OUT OF DEATH OR PAYING TAXES!

Wow Yvonne, you sound amazing! I really mean that, just amazing and inspiring. Thank you🥰👏👏👏

Yvonne Fitts Bless you❤️🙏🏻

@@BlingyBea Thank you...And GOD bless you.....

My son's name is Bentley 😊 Don't you just love that name. My Bentley is almost 39 w/ such style. Living up to his name. It just made me smile when you mentioned his name 😊

@@californiadreamingonabudge1862 I love that name as well! I have family in California. Years ago, there used to be a bakery somewhere in the Los Angeles area named "Mrs. Bentley's Rolls". Don't know if it still exists, but I always thought it was the most clever name! I'm glad you were gifted with a Bentley! Blessings!☺

Love your comment..i will read up on miss Eleanor soon, great Women..thank you🥰

Speckled Hen true but at times when one is in their head and can’t seem to find their way out boy oh boy having a kind loving daughter ,son , niece , nephew ,girlfriend or boyfriend ,husband or who truly likes and or loves you and cares for you, helps to remind you who you are and what you can do or they just plainly help you and let you figure it out that you can do it .

Anna White Anna, you said so beautifully how I feel right now. Blessings to you 💕

@@lisam3646 I'm sure there are many of us! Life has a way of pulling our feet right out from under us! Stay inspired, keep hope and faith close! It can get buried but it will prevail! God bless!

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Me too Anna, love your comment. I even share a brother issue!

Also an estranged brother! Also regrets and guilt! But now not so alone! Big thanks!

Considering all the growth and self-worth you expressed you developed, I was very surprised you decided to stay with him after what he did to you.

@@Bailey_G I understand your view. However, after investing most of your life into a marriage, walking away is not an easy thing. Children, grandchildren, shared assets, shared memories, decades of a happy marriage, plans and dreams for the future... all have to be considered. Bottom line - he expressed deep remorse, initiated full transparency, and supported my time of processing and grieving. He also recommitted 100% to me and our marriage. Even so, there will not be a second chance.

@@annanorth4584 kudos to you for standing by your marriage vows even though your husband did not. A promise to God is important . You really meant those words until death do us part as I do. You Re a strong and loving woman and I think you did the right thing staying in your marriage

Hattie Buchanan My mother and father remarried several years after he left her-twenty some years after they first wed. He returned, full of remorse, and they continued on. I won’t say it was totally smooth sailing thereafter...there was, understandably, a few remnants of bitterness on her part the remainder of their time together. But he never “strayed” again and he recommitted himself spiritually and sought forgiveness...although I’m not sure he ever forgave himself. Because of Mom’s ability to forgive, however, they were able to enjoy their children, grandchildren and an easy companionship together into old age. Fittingly, although I’d been with him constantly in hospice as he was declining, Mom was the one by his side as he passed from this world to the next at 88 years of age. Because of Mom, our broken family was mended. Kudos to you for giving your marriage another chance!

Yes I overcame my fear of the escalator too I never thought I would and it was a great relief but it took some time... Even my daughter was afraid when she was little... Like you when I divorced I was afraid and worried how I would make ends meet .... I think the best thing that can happen is that we do become better and stronger and we show the one who did us wrong that we were okay... I've seen a lot of women start out great and the man they marry sucks the life out of them to where they don't even know who they are anymore... So when we take back OURSELVES we can do all things through Jesus Christ which strengthens us.......🥀😁💃

This was like seeing me and feeling and saying the exact same things! Especially at the end when we go home to God. That is exactly what I said I would do as well. Only I added in that I would kneel and apologize and tell him thank you for teaching the lessons I needed to learn and that I love my father so much. It made me feel better reading this and knowing someone else felt the exact same way I did. Thank you.

FACTS! Well Spoken, TYFS BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOURS!

You "Wonder," If She would have just Been Stuck In Her LIFE, If That would Not have Happened. 🤔 We Have to LIVE Our LIFE FOR Ourselve's, and as IF There may Be NO Tomorrow, because We really Don't KNOW. That is Not Promised To Us.

My birthday was on Labor Day also. Happy Birthday to us!

Wishing you all the best E akemeup!

Please don't choose fear over joy. Life is too short to limit ourselves.Courage only comes when we're experiencing adversity. Being courageous is not easy, but the payoff is so worth it.

Thank youso much for your kind words...my Mom sufffered with her anxiety...as she got older, it did get better! I am finding that in myself...the older I get the more grounded and secure I feel ..Happy New Year Amelia...!

OH Donna....your words here made me cry...I do not know exactly why...but maybe it's that feeling you get when another beautiful person understands you. That is such a gift in life....you were that for me and thank you knowing my songs and music style...thank you so much...I need to take a deep breath this weekend and try to stay away from that Ice Cream place!!!! Love to you Donna...I am so lucky you are here.

Agree!

@@LittlePoet Oh goodness, I was watching Desi on the sofa, too, and he was so stinkin' cute I was losing track of what Susan was saying and had to 'rewind' it to watch again! He almost 'hogged the stage!'

@@gardenbun I had the same experience. Desi stole the show. I couldn't stop looking at how cute he was on the back of the couch.

Ok! Well ~"Donna" had, to have summed up everything and More of what I/We are feeling regarding this weeks visit with you*..there's nothing more to add, except~ lol "Thank You Susie!🙏" Thank you for being the friend, sister, neighbor, that we all wished we had. Thank you, for the effort you pour in to your 'gift' your work..the "music" the "vidiography" The ideas you shared this week, I laughed and cried the whole way through🙏.. SO Comforting to know,, we "All" deal with so many deep issues of our hearts..Fears, regrets, forgiveness, health issues,, relationship stuff.. and yet we temper all that realness here, with Love, Art, Beauty, wellness, and Laughter, and "Safe comunity" And of course Desi! OH DESI!! CANI I JUS SAY, Desi's little Korgy friend omg👀😁!! 'and' rewind tape, that little (Jump) he/she did??..Omg Melt my heart!!🥰😂🤣 One more thing Susan,,I also will be going through a test soon MRI of my i can hardy say it (gulp) my Pancreas. 😔 I will be counting to 25.... *heavy sigh.* Itll be fine, they have given me every indication that it will, they just want to make sure.. but trust me I'll be counting to (25) and when I come through,,I will smile and cry that I did it! And faced this thing that they saw while going thru double hernia surgery few days ago.. But I'm doing we'll at this point!💕my job is very physical which I'm sure played a part in the hernia condition in the first place..Maybe God's way of getting something else checked, that would have otherwise not have..? Trying to see a good side..🤷‍♀️🥰 Happy Labor Day Sunday everyone!!

WOW! How cool is that!!!

eileen corado happy birthday

OH that Corgi pup was so precious....she only had one eye...Desi didn't bark at her, he just kept kissing her!!! It was a good night!!! .I hope your weekend is a good one Karen! xxoo Susan & Desi

PURGING WILL PAY OFF....I am into it big at my home with the Flylady System....now I love being in my own home...It is clean all the time because the simple system works....I care take my 84 yr. old husband and he loves the order, & cleanliness and I stay sane with all the wonderful challenges of life. None of it works for me without my morning Spiritual devotional time first.

Patti Allen - Followed flylady starting in 2001 but then some illnesses and job challenges took me off course for years. I have been back following some of her habits but mostly heavy purging for more than a year.