A framework for understanding (and meeting) your wants and needs

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Here's why you don't know what you want, how you can figure it out, and how to start meeting your needs more effectively.
Topics:
0:00 Intro
0:49 Why You Don't Know What You Want
2:35 Two Frameworks for Understanding Your Needs
4:12 Maslow's Hierarchy (and that pyramid)
5:40 How to Think About Your Problems Effectively
8:32 Parentification and the Gifted Child
10:29 Reconnecting with Who You Really Are
12:29 Learning from Childhood Dreams
15:32 Please Subscribe
How to learn what you want
Why you don't know what you want (and what to do about it)
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КОМЕНТАРІ: 279

@paulantoine1696 Місяць тому

This is perhaps the hardest aspect of an abusive upbringing... accessing our true wants and needs. We get so skilled at doing so for others. Thank you Forrest.

@lenaccarlsson Місяць тому

I used to day dream and write short stories as a way of escaping. Maybe you did too? There might be clues there, if you did ♥

@ravioliravioligivemeareaso4447 Місяць тому

I just want to chime in and say, that you can identify with symptoms of being parentified and other trauma responses, without having been “abused.” Personally it took me a long time to identify the way my upbringing had caused unhealthy patterns in me, because I felt those were reserved for more “extreme” cases and not for people with overall “happy” childhoods. My parents are great, but in my family I have 2 other special needs siblings. As the “normal” kid with less drama, it was a natural response for me to hide my needs and become unnoticed, because I recognized my siblings had greater needs than I. You could argue my parents should’ve taken notice of me more, which is definitely true but they were just spread too thin at the time. I don’t really blame them for that. For me it was valuable to recognize that all parents will (almost certainly) ‘traumatize’ their kids in some way or other, but that doesn’t mean that they are bad parents, abusive or that we don’t love them. This might seem obvious to some, but it was valuable for me to put into words :)

@jeon_artemis Місяць тому

This!! Even I have had amazing parents but due to different circumstances, I have unmet needs as well. They should have done better, but then again they were first time parents too and they had their own issues, yet they tried their best. So your comment really resonates with me.

@ForrestHanson Місяць тому

For sure

@karintello7944 Місяць тому

Absolutely! My parents did all they could, full of love, out of their own (war) traumas, so they must have passed on to me some of this, and I became very self-sacrificing and attentive to other’s needs. Opening wide my doors to people who perfectly know what they need and how to get it - and incapable to stand up for myself - until recently 😅. So this seems to be my life’s lesson and destiny, to have brought these kids and to learn to stand up for myself.

@maryroseaoyagi Місяць тому

A na

@dorishaus400 Місяць тому

Mahalo for this wonderful bit of wisdom! Shared it with my husband as we are both working through our childhood trauma from growing up in large dysfunctional families. I’m youngest of 10 he’s 7 of 9. We’re grateful that we recognize what our issues are and we can work on them!! Love BEING WELL with you and your dad talking about so many topics that help us! And then Dr Rick Hanson’s courses on line and every Wednesday have helped us tremendously!! What a gift!! 😇🤙🏼💕

@brandijohnson7178 Місяць тому

GOLD! I’m rediscovering myself after realizing I’ve been married 19 years to a covert narcissist. I’m still alive! It didn’t destroy me! The light in me can still shine! 🎉

@awakenwithcat2222 Місяць тому

I feel your pain. Congratulations 🎉 it’s a difficult road!

@willzill538 Місяць тому

Can't lie to someone that didn't want to be lied to.

@vazazell5967 Місяць тому

So many men are ruined by society to become narcissist and hurt others

@pkc3168 Місяць тому

Me too I realised after 27 years.

@nathan_something Місяць тому

Stop. A covert narcissist is a construct of someone that started off trying to give others what they wanted and hoping they would also get what they themselves wanted. But they realized they couldn't get it because the obvious; no one owes you anything, so he came to te conclusion that he had to provide for himself. That's why every woman thinks men are so bad, it's because they don't recognize the changes occurring, very painful yet necessary sacrifices to be made (to survive).

@sweetiesgetmoney Місяць тому

I thought I would offer an example of the 'what did you want from your childhood dream job' question, as I ended up getting pretty lucky with that. I've wanted to make a living as a fiction author since I was 12 (and still do, but of course twenty years down the line I now understand how difficult that actually is). I had some other livings in mind too - marine biologist was one, astronomer was another. I still look into being a lighthouse keeper sometimes. What was clear to me, even very early on in childhood, was that I wanted a job where I could be alone for hours at a stretch without being scolded for being anti-social. So: working on a book, going out on a boat to dive for things to bring back to the marine biology lab, overnight shift at the observatory tracking stars. And I know these are not very accurate descriptions of marine biology or astronomy, but that was what my naive child self thought. What mattered in helping me find a job i liked was understanding what my expectation of it was, not what the job actually was. A degree in biology or astronomy was not out of the question, but I definitely didn't have the spoons or money for it straight out of highschool. So I went into agriculture. I get to be out in the back 40 for most of a day, either alone or with enough of a personal space bubble as to make no difference, either on foot or on a tractor. Tractor days are my favourite. So, yes, definitely try your best to understand what it is you actually want out of a work day. It won't make every day perfect but it can help make work tolerable at least.

@ForrestHanson Місяць тому

love this

@Bee46727 Місяць тому

Very insightful

@teejay7535 Місяць тому

Tips from my life experience (being through a lot): 1. You can recognize your needs by negative feelings. Negative feelings are just unfulfilled needs. Don't go so much with thinking or asking yourself stuff. The real deal is the feeling. You can only understand the need behind the feeling when you felt through it. Feeling is on the other side of thinking. 2. I love the image that we all have the same needs but we all have different sizes of need-cups. Whatever you've experienced in life can cause one to have a biiig cup for security and that's fine. If someone needs more -fine. If someone needs less. Fine, also. 3. Learn to fulfill your needs from the inside. The more you need the outside world to feel worthy, secure and loved - the more you need situations, people, things etc. in the outside world to feel so. It is like a need-drug. And oh my - who is not in that bad cycle...? See your own successes befor you need a medal from anyone. Sometimes it is way more worthy to learn how to be silent - but who gives a prize for that?

@Avaaaw Місяць тому

Thank you ❤ how do you fulfil your need for security and safety (due to childhood neglect) from the inside? Isn’t it something that should have been ingrained in us from the outside by our parents? Isn’t it too late?

@jeon_artemis Місяць тому

I loved your 2nd point. Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤

@jeon_artemis Місяць тому

@@Avaaaw I don't feel it's too late unless you're well into your late 40s... Because chances are, if you're young..you still can change your neural pathways due to neuroplasticity.. Get a community where you're accepted and celebrated the way you are.. and take professional help if necessary.. I'm on the same journey as you...and therapy has personally helped me a lot.

@ChillnLearn-pm4yn Місяць тому

"Feeling is on the other side of thinking." Sick quote buddy (maybe not out of context lol) but the formulation that feelings are an extension of your thoughts and much more accurate is a wonderful message to remember

@Adegorr03 Місяць тому

Great insight, love the wisdom 🙏

@Rebecca0010 Місяць тому

I love this topic because I have a bit of a fear of having needs.

@ForrestHanson Місяць тому

This is a very, very common experience for people. It's gotten easier with practice, but I still struggle to express myself sometimes.

@madelinmitford8062 Місяць тому

Same I thought about everything he said in the vid And i couldn't remember what i used to think like, when i was a kid I don't remember any needs or wants i had at that time Not just that But when he asked "what are the problems you're facing in your life?" I couldn't think of any Not that i don't have problems, i just don't know what they are This is tough but this video still helped me to take a step

@hardyharharv Місяць тому

I think you would find great relief in listening to Marshall Rosenberg's NVC Training 1-9. It's on UKposts for free!

@poeticallyinclinedjayne9040 27 днів тому

@@hardyharharv ...actually, Marshall Rosenberg was renowned as developer of NVC.

@sallyprzybil2404 Місяць тому

So interesting. I recently retired. Suddenly I was faced with a stage of life where I could do what I wanted to do. However, I had no idea what that was, I had no idea what I wanted. I had spent my adulthood taking care of family as my top priority and what I wanted had not only taken a backseat but put on such a low priority that I had completely forgotten about them. So, now as a retiree, the first thing I did was try to uncover what those needs, wants are. I did soul searching, journaling, making lists, to figure things out. One thing I did was look back to childhood and teenagerhood to reconnect with my thoughts, wants, dreams at those ages. Not an easy process as the day to day stressful world of work and taking care of family had made me hide away those things so deeply. It’s a process of ‘meet and greet myself again’ of finding myself, of letting myself bloom.

@kalonicamcquesten692 Місяць тому

So well-framed. I accessed my inner 7 yr old. Got my answers. Now to the journal. Thank you.

@wombat7961 Місяць тому

I had someone ask what I wanted, this triggered a full panic attack nausea, some dizziness, had to eat food and sit until my thinking was working for me again.... It feels like I was being ambushed because it's a trick question what I want doesnt matter because I can't have it, even if it's as simple as I want a job and I've done all the right things in life to get that job. Rejection is harmful AF and it's changed my mindset over a few harmful years of it. I lost the will to fight for myself.

@ryandanielable 20 днів тому

You have just unblocked a huge part of me. I just had an epiphany while you quoted that book and feel like that person was me you're talking about! I always knew that some circumstances from my childhood slowed, frustrated and held me back. I have expectations in friends, colleagues and strangers to behave in a certain way so we can all benefit from each other as a tribe - while I can't express wants and desires above the lowest (physical) layers of Maslow's pyramid. That creates tension and drama while I get even more frustrated. It's like putting on glasses for the first time or.. like finding out that I can't run not because I'm not good at it, but because I have rocks in my boots. Thank you. The journey continues for me.

@joelhc9703 Місяць тому

Manfred Max Neef created a better frame for needs in my opinion and are basically the next: 1. Identity and dignity 2. Health and safety 3. Freedom and confidence 4. Understanding and learning 5. Effort and work 6. Rest and recreation 7. Self-esteem and compassion 8. Connection and participation Like you quoted Maslow these are not in order but simultaneous, it's like juggling.

@noompsieOG Місяць тому

When i was a kid i wanted to be a rockstar , today im a rock star. Its all mindset and passion

@kimphillips6209 Місяць тому

This video resulted in an aha moment. It describes exactly how it felt but could not explain my life. I parented my parents and my siblings.

@SaigeHealing Місяць тому

I wish more people understood this. It’s so hard being a normal human that knows they have needs that require community. People take pride in not needing anyone. I need people and don’t have many in person I can depend on outside of emergencies

@stevecarter8810 14 днів тому

I read (was it in seven habits of successful people?) a model of maturity that goes dependent (baby) -> independent (capable) -> interdependent (mature) The last phase means there are things to can't achieve by yourself, so connect with others in a healthy way to achieve them. I was stuck at (2) for so long, finally I learned to ask for help, delegate, etc. Still getting used to that. I have particular individuals in mind that act as models, e.g. a couple I know who produce shows. They can only operate by being effective collaborators with others, being clear about their vision and regularly taking the L on small issues while being firm on the key ones.

@karintello7944 Місяць тому

I also got out of a narcissist relationship recently, after many years, first full of wrath for what was done to me, then sadness about what my life might have been, then astonishment to see my own contribution to all this, and currently heavy work to get over it, find my way back to myself and acknowledge the fact that they only do what they can, everyone, me included. I think I will even need to get rid of some narcissistic fleas… But this video fully shows my current process. So I am not resentful anymore and open to the life that may come. Main problem: what do I really want… Thanks for your great advice!!

@getstakerized Місяць тому

You can play music and start a band… at any age… you might not become famous… We can’t control how other people react to us… The real underlying desire is self-expression, something that is available to anyone… :) Thanks for the wonderful insights!! I will search out the Miller book too, sounds interesting…

@Amber24426 Місяць тому

This topic feels really heavy to me. This video is a wonderful resource but I’m noticing I have a lot of resistance to engaging with this kind of information, even though I do want to eventually be able to live a more fulfilling life. I feel pretty conflicted- I want to want to meet my needs, but I don’t know if I actually love and value myself enough to make much progress with this. My feelings on this are so convoluted and conflicting, contradicting at times… I wish navigating this topic didn’t feel so contentious and painful for me.

@robynparkinson9347 Місяць тому

Great stuff. But how does one do any of this, with complex trauma? If you spent a lifetime, unknowingly, in survival mode, disconnected from your wants and needs, potentially even from preverbal infancy? If your own parent wasn't competent enough to carry out basic parental functions its a hell of a hard road to sorting this mess out decades later.

@tmfpunk Місяць тому

THIS.

@sandifanning4665 Місяць тому

@robynparkinson9347 I feel you. I’ve been exploring this in myself especially in the last couple of years, after burning out working with other people who have CPTSD and connection-based trauma. After the initial exhaustion stage, where sometimes just getting out of bed and making tea was enough, I found myself completely at a loss as to what to do with myself. So I went back to the question(s) I would invite clients to reflect on: what brings me alive right now? I really didn’t know. So I tried: what brings me joy? What lights me up? And I let myself write down anything that I thought of. At first I wanted the big stuff, which wasn’t there. But going for a walk, spending time with my cats, watching the birds and the sky, walking by the sea, and going to the local coffee shop, all brought some life into me. So I just let that be where I was, and then I started reflecting on what *used* to bring me joy, what I’d loved previously, before I got into the work I’d been in. Writing was a big one, singing, music, massage, photography. I went and bought myself a fountain pen, and let myself go sit at the coffee shop and just write, and enjoyed that. It’s been over a year, and I am only now beginning to feel like something in me is “thawing” in terms of letting myself start to imagine what might be beyond this, and that there might be something. For those of us with complex trauma; especially the pre-birth and pre-verbal stuff, it can take a lot of space, and compassion, and acceptance, and just allowing ourselves to be wherever we are. Usually those aren’t things we got as kids, or were taught to give to ourselves, so it’s sort of a learning to be compassionate towards ourselves process too. Even now, my wants come to me often very disconnected, like a vague distant image in my mind that I can miss if I’m not really paying attention. It’s like the quietest of voices. And I don’t know if that voice spoke before and I wasn’t listening or able to listen, or if I hadn’t created that quiet and space in me yet to hear her, or if she wasn’t speaking and needed that time and space to feel safe enough and/or desirous enough to do so. All I can say is really trust yourself. Trusting myself, and trusting this sense in me that life knows how to bring itself forth, and is always guiding me towards more aliveness, has helped me go towards more of myself and more healing and opportunities. And you seem like you have some wonderful self awareness too, to have articulated what you have as you did. Sending love

@bugsstar Місяць тому

It really is. Feels like ill spend the remaining part of my life trying to heal from my childhood and the progress feels slow. Its crushing to think am destined to move thru the world just surviving. But i look at my parents in thier 70s and i see the alternative. I dont want to b a hungry ghost. So i use my persistence to focus on healing and practise having faith🤞🌞💜

@noompsieOG Місяць тому

Read the power of now. Trust me on this

@SP-ve1zz Місяць тому

It explains exactly what I feel in my self searching journey. Since decade ago I noticed that my parents were narcissists and instead of looking for validation and emotional support from them I better build up my independence. Over the years I did achieve my goal but somehow I still felt something was missing. Until early this year I finally realised what I truely want is to be respected as who I really am rather than their expectations cast upon me. I sent a long message to my mom and expressed my frustrations with acting as their "dream child". Although she didn't fully understand my pain but glad that she was willing to look at me from another view. We can learn a lot of theories and develop a series of coping mechanisms, but not until our true needs are fulfilled these issues will always be bugging us. It's important to figure out these true needs, as mentioned in the video, by asking a lot of questions, and fullfill them in a way, so we can let go and move on.

@RickTashma Місяць тому

This is a great vid. Thank you, Forrest! I really appreciate the prompts and the guidance to help 'excavate' and remember my dreams and aspirations from childhood. A big part of my life has been technology and engineering, both professionally and personally. Being a biologist with a medical background, I'm also deeply committed to helping people with successful, fulfilling relationships, and well-being. In my "Third Act", I'm a coach, with training and skills in Internal Family Systems (but not as a therapist). (BTW, a big thumbs-up for your interviews with Dick Schwartz re IFS!) I will work my way through the prompts and meditate to see what else my system wants to remind me of. Cheers!

@margaritagabrielle Місяць тому

Your video came to me at the perfect time! I just put my resignation in at my job of 7 years because I was feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. I am going to use the questions in this video to help me find out what I truly do enjoy and hope it will clarify the career I should pursue next! THANK YOU!!!

@xioffb97 Місяць тому

FYI, you might also want to look into getting a vocational therapist.

@kippen64 Місяць тому

I watched the video until the end and have saved it for a future rewatch.

@camronthomas394 Місяць тому

Took me about an hour of writing after this video. Really helped to process some past insecurities that were brewing in the subconscious for a long time. Thank you 🙏

@leighnicholson2606 7 днів тому

That was so much! than was much better than just to be asked "so tell me what would be a want or need for you?'It is a hard question to answer when you don't have any emotional weight inside you to help highlight them as being authentic.

@trudyannbuckley 14 днів тому

Thank you for representing Maslow correctly! That silly pyramid/ladder is at best a simplification, and at worst can make someone more judgemental than understanding.

@anewagora Місяць тому

I'm in love with a man who is unavailable and distant. Somehow we became close friends. He doesn't want to be anything more than friends, and this left me asking for nothing because I'm not "allowed" to ask for things as just friends. But the reality is I have needs- why should it be a taboo and a big deal for him to hug me as a friend? I know my nervous system is out of whack and a tight hug from him would help so much it's a miracle. I'm just noticing that intimacy becomes taboo when someone wants to stay "just friends", and the needs of both people get neglected. He too is neglected, but he chooses to stay isolated and anti social. In the end, we are both deprived.

@tinabean713 28 днів тому

Is this man hugging other people, or are you wanting physical contact that he is not comfortable with, period? You may need to distance yourself from him a bit so that you can free yourself emotionally to find someone who will meet your needs. Obviously, I don't know you. Take this however you want, or leave it. The way you describe the man sounds like my son. Not everyone is wired for relationship.

@ginalouise6606 Місяць тому

Thanks Forrest for another great offering. You have such a gift for making complexity manageable. I appreciate you!

@malunachow Місяць тому

It's shocking when you talk about these children's survival strategies... I know both the theory and I have discovered these mechanisms on my own. I feel like you bring a deeper quality to this topic. Feel the truth and at the same time hints for transformation. Beautiful ❤🙏

@teresamarie8724 Місяць тому

I appreciate all that you do! I'm still a work in progress but your work really helps!

@imogenfayed6116 Місяць тому

Thanks Forrest I really like the tone of your conversations. Authentic to the point and calm. Very useful. Thanks.

@moonie6083 Місяць тому

So well-spoken, thanks for formulating this!

@totallyapng7315 Місяць тому

The reason I watched this video was to explore my needs... because I had a problem with expressing them. But...how do you express something you don't even know? So thank you for this video! And yeah- the idea of solving the root of the problem flies over a LOT of peoples' heads. You can avoid the problem all you want, but it wont get solved that way. Also, note that the first "reason" you find to solve the root of your problem is usually not the real one! Finding the root takes time, (it's a root after all, you're not going to find it on the surface). Our heads will find the quickest route, and as I said before, your first answer is rarely the right answer.

@kated999 Місяць тому

Thank you so much, Forrest! I’m listening to this for the third time and it’s helping me to look at my adult choices more positively. You and your dad are two of my favorite thinkers and I can’t thank you enough for how much you’ve given this sensitive person who just wants the world to feel good. :)

@KathleenRenninger 10 днів тому

This was really helpful! "Safety, satisfaction, security", definitely worth examining. I'm remembering my dreams from childhood and will look at the elements of them that I might be able to manifest in my life now. (Even at 67, it's not too late! ) Thank you.

@rocheclip Місяць тому

I just subscribed. Thank you so much for this video! I cant afford formal therapy as a single mom and this is so helpful for my journaling and self connection that I've been trying to work on.

@jayatigupta1155 Місяць тому

I am sooooo thankful to have found this channel. I have learned so much from your content and felt less alone. Thank you for what you do! Please tell Elizabeth that her sharing her story makes me feel less alone and that I am super thankful to her too. :)

@TheFashioonqueen Місяць тому

Your work is so vital!! Thank you 💕

@WTazCreative Місяць тому

Of all of the research I've done to try and help myself this has been the most helpful video to come across. Thank you!

@Sophia-yo9rp Місяць тому

You are a great teacher. Your voice is also very soothing. Thank you so much.

@DWSP101 Місяць тому

Try being ADHD figuring out what I won’t half the time and being accurate about what I want is complicated 😅

@taylorbryant4813 Місяць тому

ADHDer here and it’s exhausting ! It’s frustrating believing you can do everything all the time all at once then being faced with reality. It’s depressing 😅

@user-qw9ex3er7m 21 день тому

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@rosettarafanelli3989 Місяць тому

So relevant in my life . Forest your podcasts have come into my life at such a necessary time . Such wonderful topics and perspectives that I have never really explored though so very needed! Thank you

@sasorispupet Місяць тому

“When a new animal is born, they can very quickly do what will increase their odds of survival like a newborn foal can run a few minutes after birth. What do newborn babies do? Cry. Asking for help is the one thing you were born knowing how to do. If you need, you should do it.”

@hopemarasco3395 Місяць тому

This was super insightful with clear instructions for deeper inner work. Thank you.❤

@Cranberries87 Місяць тому

This is excellent. I wrote all of this down and turned it into a journal prompt; I’m currently working my way through the questions. I just happened to find some childhood pictures when I was cleaning out a box of old mementos earlier - came in handy to help with this exercise. I really struggle to determine exactly what my needs are, so I’m hoping this can help me identify them and meet them. Thank you very much for this!

@lindarose712 Місяць тому

Eye opening, seeing where I squirmed a bit when you were outlining Safety, Satisfaction and Connection- I was surprised by the area that “spoke” most clearly. I appreciate your work and compassionate delivery of information

@ForrestHanson Місяць тому

Thank you!

@marykasser5217 Місяць тому

I needed this today. Thank you!😊

@robmacleod9225 Місяць тому

unbelievably helpful video. Thank you, the safety, satisfaction & connection framework is exactly what I was looking for.

@mjparent222 Місяць тому

that's the best one ! very rich of information. thank you so so so much !

@ultravioletemme101 Місяць тому

This was incredibly helpful. Thank you!

@superlady2960 Місяць тому

This was great , thank you ❤

@Mushroom321- Місяць тому

I loved the self questions !! I found out i needed that !

@krimzonvillain Місяць тому

i really appreciate the way you describe the origins of these difficulties with nuance and neutrality. there are so many ways folks can come to a similar internal experience and identifying how you got to where you are is a key part of emotional growth. your approach doesnt pathologize or demonize and doesnt assume trauma, which lets me approach my experience with gentleness and an open mind. thank you!

@yart123 Місяць тому

I love how you “reframe” …(?) our childhood “lost” dreams into our present (as in… you might not be the rockstar you dreamed of being, but you can still express your rockstar “archetype” (?)in your life.❤

@lamaychprecious Місяць тому

Of course I subscribed! This framework is Pure gold 💎 thank you so much for the reflecting time, I'm definitely following the exercise

@ranmanfl5597 Місяць тому

Forrest i just subscribed. great delivery and thoughtful advice. i'm wrestling with a painful old relationship that doesn't meet my needs. understanding my needs is crucial to moving forward (versus acting out my unhappiness.) thanks for pointing in the right direction. looking forward to seeing you again 👀🤔

@lazarusdeagneaux1817 Місяць тому

Wow I was just scrolling and your video just auto played and it sparked my interest. Then you blew my mind! Thanks this was extremely helpful, liked and subscribed!

@SabsileT Місяць тому

Wow, the Gifted Child section was very eye-opening. Thank you for this video!

@npceggsnbacon555 Місяць тому

Thank you for this well made video. I learned and it was something I really needed to hear. ty

@bgyoga6121 Місяць тому

Great Helpful content. Thank you for sharing your work. And I appreciate the tone of your voice which creates a calming and réceptive atmosphère.

@ForrestHanson Місяць тому

I appreciate that

@pmukherjee1237 Місяць тому

I loved this! i always felt like I didn't know what I want, so it was really cool 🙂

@user-de4tf3ch7b Місяць тому

Forrest, this was great. I love the prompts for journaling and self exploration. Great topic and it was a different format from your normal podcasts with Rick but I still love it just the same. Thank you for what you do for others. You are living your dharma and I am grateful!

@safistype5952 Місяць тому

I really like your soothing voice, yet very clear articulation Thank you for this really

@Nicole-tc3kd Місяць тому

The way you thoroughly walk through the whole process is really helpful. I thought I'd stayed in touch with my inner child but you dredged up memories of how much I loved writing and illustrating stories when I was a kid. I havent done any creative writing in many years. Maybe it's time to pick that up again.

@tiffany8028 14 днів тому

Thank you. You are a beacon of hope.

@Bacalhoeira Місяць тому

Thank you, Forrest. You are such a gifted communicator. It is always a pleasure and very insightful listening to you. All the best to you and your family.

@ForrestHanson Місяць тому

Thank you!

@ChrisAndBubba Місяць тому

I really enjoyed this video. Definitely going to be watching this again as it seemed to 'click' with me internally. Thank you for all you do!!

@dirceu Місяць тому

What a great video. Lots of useful questions! Thank you.

@nsikadube7702 Місяць тому

Appreciate this video, was truly insightful thank youuu!

@mininadosolhos Місяць тому

Actually, thinking about all that makes it all feels quite simple. Thanks a lot for sharing 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@kaylinelisa 14 днів тому

You're such a great resource! Thank you.

@KaraValmeyjar Місяць тому

This video's subject matter genuinely speaks to me, as I've realized now I was forced to be parentified to help my single mom take care of my younger siblings, which was made even worse by my ADHD, autism, depression, and anxiety. I think this video will help me a little further down the healing path.

@benroberts1844 Місяць тому

This was fantastic, thanks for articulating some very challenging topics.

@brendanfrancis4156 Місяць тому

I found this to be a solidly informed and helpful video

@alparslanerbay8768 Місяць тому

Thank you so much for this video! It was really easy to understand these concepts since you gave some examples.

@mistyhelena Місяць тому

Subscribed

@MyEu4ia 11 днів тому

This video was GREAT info! I think I replayed in five times just to capture it all. Great questions to think about. Thank you so much for this!

@clairex1934 Місяць тому

thank you so much ❤

@city687 Місяць тому

Brilliant stuff here!! I see you!!

@pb11118 Місяць тому

So good! Thank you

@andidekoster5725 Місяць тому

I always thought my upbringing was normal, that everyone went through life the way I did. Thinking of seeing me as a child and the reasons I did things has me in tears. I'm so happy to realize I can start building myself into the person I know I've deserved to be even if it's way later in life than I should've

@dddilworth12 Місяць тому

That was…enlightening. Thank you.

@WildcardASMR Місяць тому

This video is just incredible.

@Slipping_thru_the_Seams 19 днів тому

wonderfully presented. thanks a lot❤

@constancecampbell4610 Місяць тому

Very thought provoking and I appreciate the practical tool you gave us to think about the topic. Just subscribed. 👍

@sjmckenzie7755 Місяць тому

Really great video and excellent topic. I watched on my phone and took screenshots of all the good questions so I can journal about them. And glad for the Maslow correction - I understand his work was largely based on Indigenous philosophy that as an infant you were born self actualized and transforming into adult was the responsibility of the community so that eventually the child would also grow up and give back to the community. Certainly a lot to consider about how meeting our needs is an interdependent and co-creative process. Thanks so much for all the great insights! Your content is both valued and appreciated!

@bronsonmcdonald5473 26 днів тому

Forrest, you have really got me thinking...it hadn't occurred to me to think of 'aspects' of former desires which were significant to me perhaps being attainable via new ways. Thanks❣️v

@karinturkington2455 19 днів тому

Thank you for another spectacular video. My childhood dream was always to be a singer.

@eloise3280 Місяць тому

Thanks for framing it as a gift.

@johndean958 Місяць тому

Thankyou so much Forrest. I am feeling really good within myself for the first time for a long, long time, through have listened to you here. I cannot thankyou enough. I mean that. I will practice reminding myself of what you have said here. Such a fulfilling feeling within me . Wow. Cheers, John (Australia)

@ForrestHanson Місяць тому

Really appreciate that John, I'm glad it was so helpful.

@Domifiga Місяць тому

Love the questions ❤ thanks for the exercise

@jessicamorales2555 Місяць тому

Lovely video. Made me smile while I recalled my infant years

@victoriazelenko2804 17 днів тому

Thank you for the video! Very hopeful and inspiring. I’ve been thinking of talking to older relatives about my childhood

@TwoBlackRings Місяць тому

These shorter formats are great!

@YuliaAV 10 днів тому

thank you for sharing!!

@beccaturner8834 20 днів тому

Thank you so much 🙌

@camilabc2554 Місяць тому

Great content. Thank you for your job.

@Sunnyinlove Місяць тому

thank you for sharing this :) very useful info

@justanamorales9486 Місяць тому

Amazing!!!!! From astrology point of view this is on target 🎯 specially for the people who is not interested in astrology or the mystical, metaphysical… this is great tool and educational video to know ourselves

@malunachow Місяць тому

For me big source from childhood information are fairytales which I liked (or hit me in other ways). Seeing patterns not once time was helpful for me.

@forgesoulfire1320 10 днів тому

When you find yourself in a cycle of trusting, being let down or betrayed or left besides, trust again, repeat. But also have a cocktail of disabilities gradually leaving you with very little choice but to keep attempting to or at least faking trust, because you're more and more and more dependant on others... wanting feels like waste, wanting feels empty, wanting honestly begins not feeling at all, it turns into hollow habit. You add to that legal limitation enforced on residents of housing systems claimed to be meant to aid the impared, and feeling lessens further expression becomes deafened to match, and we wonder why so many of us distrust and distaste for so many people, places and things... Trust I'm working to improve my lot regardless of my emotional and physical turmoil, it's of course a part of life to struggle in a flailing failing system, nothing is or can be truly perfect after all. So struggle and pain are inevitable. My want at this point is to get through each day, keep a promise to a deceased relative, hopefully find direction along the way besides. Nothing small nor anything big at the same time, just, things.