Japan: The Age Of Social Withdrawal | 101 East

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Kenji Yamase spends his days in his bedroom.
The 54-year-old has been a "hikikomori" all of his adult life. The term describes Japanese who rarely interact with society beyond their family.
"It's a sense or feeling that you shouldn't be here. Even if you are here, you feel like you aren't yourself," Kenji says.
Japan is home to more than one million hikikomori, according to recent government surveys. Many of them are over the age of 40 and rely heavily on their elderly parents.
Kenji lives with his 88-year-old mother. "Year by year, I can feel that she's deteriorating ... I worry about her, but I don't know what to do, so I feel very bad," he says. "I feel sad thinking about when she's gone."
An increasing number of school students are also choosing to shun the outside world. Known as "futoko", these children blame a rigid education system, bullying and strict parenting for their social withdrawal. It has led to NGOs setting up education centres across the country as an alternative to Japan's strict schools.
Umi Maekita, who runs Nemonet Free School, says most children who attend these centres eventually return to the mainstream education system. He says early intervention can prevent a lifetime of isolation.
"Telling them to go back to work or go back to school straight away is not the way," he says.
101 East meets the young and old who feel lost in Japan.
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@FaeiryneFaun
@FaeiryneFaun 4 роки тому
"Tekushi says he wants to be filmed so there's proof of his existence" I definitely teared up
@levibeebe9100
@levibeebe9100 4 роки тому
You weren't the only one tearing up
@MrKubben90
@MrKubben90 4 роки тому
lol you guys arent use to anything. i use to live his life and its a choice.
@celticwarrior777
@celticwarrior777 4 роки тому
ya thats so sad
@tomservo5007
@tomservo5007 4 роки тому
filmed or not filmed, it doesn't matter. In a few generations, no one will know about you nor remember you.
@damienholland8103
@damienholland8103 4 роки тому
@@tomservo5007 That's right.
@ferdowsurasif
@ferdowsurasif 4 роки тому
"The school counselor told me it was my fault I got bullied" . This one sentence says so much about human society.
@O1OO1O1
@O1OO1O1 4 роки тому
Yeah, there's a big misconception that seeking help results in help. It can, but it's not always the quick fix, comfortable path people suggest it is.
@wendytwteee
@wendytwteee 4 роки тому
That line just broke my heart
@fareehaxoxo8568
@fareehaxoxo8568 4 роки тому
@@O1OO1O1 Well we need to seek help from right person
@O1OO1O1
@O1OO1O1 4 роки тому
@@fareehaxoxo8568 Easier said than done. For many, bad experiences from seeking help can actually deter them from trying again. And finding the "right" person comes with it's own set of challenges. I'm not saying it isn't worthwhile to still do, just acknowledging an often unacknowledged issue. Usually the line of "seek help" or "they should get help" comes from people who've never tried to do it, have lots of means to do it, or have only had reasonable to good experiences doing it.
@gayled3059
@gayled3059 4 роки тому
Really? I think it says a lot about that counselor! He/she shouldn't have been one. How is it ever a person's fault they get bullied??
@postcodeox278
@postcodeox278 3 роки тому
He can't get a job because he doesn't have experience and can't get experience because he can't get a job. Sounds Familiar
@MasouShizuka
@MasouShizuka 3 роки тому
Ah yes. Circular logic.
@postcodeox278
@postcodeox278 3 роки тому
@@MasouShizuka So you're saying that a person can get a job without experience?
@a.r.5604
@a.r.5604 3 роки тому
@@postcodeox278 I think they were agreeing with you.
@postcodeox278
@postcodeox278 3 роки тому
@@a.r.5604 Maybe, but he used the term Circular logic. Which means he may think I am using a logical fallacy
@xtxt9135
@xtxt9135 3 роки тому
Its taught in recruiter school. Hour one, day one. Lesson 2 is if you want to apply for ANY job, you must be currently employed. It doesn't matter what the job is, just be employed. Unemployed? You're dropped from the list of applicants. Go get a job first!
@Zach-xm5wc
@Zach-xm5wc 3 роки тому
"Dogs don't betray like humans" I felt that, bro.
@Evg-gq9wz
@Evg-gq9wz 3 роки тому
Correct...
@cosmobane6995
@cosmobane6995 3 роки тому
Be sure to never forget to feed them. Starve them for days and they'll eat you.
@luis9639
@luis9639 3 роки тому
@@cosmobane6995 A human being would do the same thing, if they don't eat for a weak.
@TelmoAmaro
@TelmoAmaro 3 роки тому
In a sad way he figured out life better than most. Problem is the truth not nice to know.
@khust2993
@khust2993 2 роки тому
sounds like a villain in a shonen anime lol
@valaquenta220
@valaquenta220 Рік тому
"You feel like you're not living the life you're supposed to live. Like you're being forced to play a role", what Kenji Yamase said is extremely accurate: we're not in a society that wants us to become accomplished as individuals, but as productive as possible for the gain of a very very small amount of people. Hikikomoris for the most part are probably very smart and sensitive people, who understand how wrong everything is. Most people will just bear with the current system because of our will to survive, but the way workers are being treated all around the globe is incredibly wrong overall.
@iahelcathartesaura3887
@iahelcathartesaura3887 Рік тому
YES, amen to all you said so well!
@cheguevara5560
@cheguevara5560 Рік тому
great inside and understanding
@alexanderson6371
@alexanderson6371 Рік тому
That's exactly it
@averayugen8462
@averayugen8462 Рік тому
Its just like this in america, in my state I live alone and nobody knows me despite endless attempts to break the isolation. Completely shunned by the workplace too, When my 78 disabled housemate is gone I will be alone co0mpletely, I am 2 years younger, no families for either of us ditto for friends/kids etc..., he has a few private relationships out of my purview. In fact I have struggled in every way to get my basic needs met all my life and mostly failed. No one seeing this will believe it. Convinced. Its like torture at times... like a living death.
@lonewolf1707
@lonewolf1707 Рік тому
"Live" not "leave"
@blor3664
@blor3664 4 роки тому
Someone get that man a dog, it’s painful to watch him hurt like that.
@lup4634
@lup4634 4 роки тому
Giving him a dog will only alleviate the pain, but it won't find a solution for himself
@kingwinter2024
@kingwinter2024 4 роки тому
@@lup4634 What do you think the solution would then be for him?
@wtfisditvoorbullshit
@wtfisditvoorbullshit 4 роки тому
@@kingwinter2024 professional player at japanese chess
@moreofawave
@moreofawave 4 роки тому
Giving a dog to a person with little or no money puts the dog at risk, but I hear you. If he could get a dog AND some help paying for the dog-that would be great.
@kingwinter2024
@kingwinter2024 4 роки тому
@anonymous reviewer Well aren't you on a rush to judgement.
@1kamejirushi821
@1kamejirushi821 11 місяців тому
I was a hikikomori for more than 10 years from my late teens to late 20's. Never went outside for years or talk to anyone including my parents. I know how those shut-ins feel, looking out the window everyday, desperate to go outside and connect with people but they are just so terrified of neighbors eyes or how they are perceived by the society. Initially you'll struggle with constant panic attacks and suicidal thoughts, but they will wear off over time and you will eventually be in the state of apathy, comfortable but completely stuck in the never ending cycle of waking up in the evening, eat, browse internet, sleep again in the morning. As long as financially feasible, this continues unless some drastic external or internal change occurs. In my case it was my sister's marriage that pushed me to get back on my feet (in Japan, having a hikikomori brother-in-law is a big disadvantage when seeking for partners and I didn't want to be an even more of a burden to my family). I took gradual steps, started from going out for a midnight stroll, and when once acclimatized to outside, I seeked support from the local support group, did training, volunteering, and after some part time jobs, I went to the trading school and eventually got the full time job at the age of 33. I changed jobs since then and I'm currently unemployed again, but thats another story. I just wanted to share my experience as an hikikomori, and that there are ways to get out of the situation.
@eridiance9818
@eridiance9818 11 місяців тому
do you have friends now, even one or two?
@katerina1179
@katerina1179 8 місяців тому
Wow. That's an amazing recovery. I hope you are doing good now ❤
@VirginPride
@VirginPride 5 місяців тому
No worries, Japan is in labor shortage and has many jobs to offer.
@cosmobane6995
@cosmobane6995 4 місяці тому
No offense, bu this is probably one of the most fluent and well structured use of English language by a Japanese in a comment section.
@SapuTaro-nr5bl
@SapuTaro-nr5bl 3 місяці тому
I hope l can be like that. Become better in my 30s. Pray to you all and to myself. Amin
@jedics1
@jedics1 3 роки тому
I went out socialising regularly until I was about 40, then I just thought one day that my 20+ years of relationships with people didn't amount to much. Now I am more content to do everything by myself, I am far less stressed by the drama ppl love to create and most jobs just make me feel trapped..I have a humble yet comfortable life and never get bored, there is a lot to do and think about.
@coperfield9188
@coperfield9188 2 роки тому
Loser
@deeannap2626
@deeannap2626 2 роки тому
You are talking about me👍
@superduper2024
@superduper2024 2 роки тому
Hope you are doing okay.
@leeladhar4830
@leeladhar4830 2 роки тому
@@coperfield9188 you can't even spell that right.
@jasmineglein3721
@jasmineglein3721 2 роки тому
I feel the same way. I've realized so many relationships were meaningless. I'd rather be alone and do things by myself without all the drama. Simplicity and tranquility are more important in life. My thinking changed and I am happier
@xPoemi
@xPoemi 4 роки тому
It probably doesn't help that mental health is still a very taboo topic in Japan...
@TheKbnrba
@TheKbnrba 3 роки тому
thousands of years as a strong and prosperous nation and very spiritual and only now in the modern age they are driven by emotions i call that bullshit, its your own fault if you're emotionally messed up.
@xPoemi
@xPoemi 3 роки тому
@@TheKbnrba Definitely. I just pray that nobody close to you will ever suffer from serious mental problems so you can'tgive them this horrible opinion of yours.
@AndT101
@AndT101 3 роки тому
All that space age technological advancement is for nothing if a nation can't address it's problem of mental health.
@Shogoeu
@Shogoeu 3 роки тому
@@TheKbnrba Saying "It's your fault if you're emotionally messed up" is seriously messed up.
@Shogoeu
@Shogoeu 3 роки тому
@@AndT101 The government is spending huge sums of cash for research on that topic, but sadly the results are fictitious and there is little to no improvement.
@chowfun1976
@chowfun1976 4 роки тому
It’s so telling of Japanese society’s handling of mental illness that not once did they mention that these people suffer from major depression and crippling social anxiety.
@damienholland8103
@damienholland8103 4 роки тому
Thus making it worse.
@krunkle5136
@krunkle5136 4 роки тому
But conversely American culture tolerates people whipping around their diagnosis on social media and using it as an excuse for too much.
@confidentcat1963
@confidentcat1963 4 роки тому
Yeesh, looks like your big bowl of whataboutism just got a little bigger. Cope.
@chowfun1976
@chowfun1976 4 роки тому
Fr0ggy wtf does that even mean?
@EveryTimeV2
@EveryTimeV2 4 роки тому
@@chowfun1976 "I post memes, am I cool?"
@Kira6311
@Kira6311 3 роки тому
Seiko is kinda pretty amazing. It takes a lot of courage to admit that you may have probably screwed your child (seems like even more in Japanese society where there is a huge social pressure on parents and kids). She changed her view on Masoto and decided to go straight against the flow, speaking out about hikikimori issue and offering help. So strong and inspiring.
@user-gz4ve8mw9l
@user-gz4ve8mw9l 2 роки тому
A very responsible and understanding parent truly scarce in today's world. Where the child is often more so than not both blamed and punished for the failings of the parents and the system a like. Left to bare that burden until it devours them alive or they die and are finally laid to rest.
@indisummers4385
@indisummers4385 Рік тому
I get the feeling, however, that she is blaming herself and is doing her awareness as a kind of self-mutilation or punishment. It is also not healthy. She must learn to let the blame go.
@kerritarian4945
@kerritarian4945 7 місяців тому
@@indisummers4385 letting the blame go is easier said than done, at least she doing something great to stop the same thing to happen
@robbertou
@robbertou 3 роки тому
"The school counselor told me it was my fault I got bullied" Can't blame him for not wanting to live in such a society..
@user-gz4ve8mw9l
@user-gz4ve8mw9l 2 роки тому
Same thing I was told as a child that I deserved to be raped by my math teacher in 7th grade. Bullied by students and teachers a like abused and neglected by parents. Punished by the government and system since I was a small child till this very date permanently. So yeah can hardly blame the poor guy for any of this. Anymore than one can blame a homeless person for being homeless. Much of the issues are systemic. The failures and toxic abuses of emotionally unavailable parents are symptoms of the systemic failures. A system where people are abused bullied and punished. Yet not for their own failures or actions but for the origins. A simple cause and effect yet few care to realize it. Even fewer to attempt to remedy or prevent it.
@lazarusblackwell6988
@lazarusblackwell6988 2 місяці тому
Yeah. The so called "counselor" should get fired.
@AmethystSnow
@AmethystSnow 4 роки тому
That mum grew so much, her son taught her more than society ever could.
@maravedisolorio5905
@maravedisolorio5905 4 роки тому
Agree. She humbled herself and so realized her strictness/ inflexibility was hurting her child.
@Doxsein
@Doxsein 4 роки тому
@@maravedisolorio5905 Absolutely. Many wise thinkers would agree that the ego is the most difficult thing for a human being to dismiss. It takes a lot of willpower to learn how to detach your ego.
@susanhenry4073
@susanhenry4073 4 роки тому
I have total admiration for her. It's often hard enough for people in North American society - where mental health issues are somewhat more open - to question themselves and their beliefs, and then change. In a society like Japan's, it must be even harder - and takes great strength - to question your parenting beliefs, to question the roles and norms that society expects of you, and to risk changing and being quite different than mainstream parents.
@foottoast4235
@foottoast4235 3 роки тому
If only all moms could do that p:
@Wft-bu5zc
@Wft-bu5zc 3 роки тому
She's an awesome person. Able to admit her own faults and help her son.
@ISayToMyself
@ISayToMyself 4 роки тому
I don’t get why they won’t let an individual adopt a pet. A companion would be such a blessing for him. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@theillyri8339
@theillyri8339 4 роки тому
Probably it's a political tool . As we know Japanese population isn't increasing, and people are not marrying or having children, in one hand you have the category of people who give up, and on the other hand you have the people trying extraordinarily hard to fit in, study and work extra hours to fit the standards of Japanese society, and in such a constellation, relationships and marriage and kids are seen as a hindrance. On the other hand owning a pet is a substitution in companionship for many (just like in the west), However the situation seems to be far more extreme in Japan, and I've heard they're seriously considering new measures to break away from that, and I'm speculating this is just one of them .
@richardwhitfill5253
@richardwhitfill5253 4 роки тому
I agree
@nepadron
@nepadron 4 роки тому
The standards to adopt a pet in Japan are (no joke) almost as high as adopting a child. However, there are many many people getting rid of litters of pets in Japan, so it might just be this man's inability to navigate the social issues it would take to ask for a spare pup.
@isisantonio2250
@isisantonio2250 4 роки тому
@@nepadron agree
@choux8372
@choux8372 3 роки тому
@@nepadron that last part 💀 I'm slowly breaking out of my hikkikomori shell too, and the most mind boggling thing is that a lot of people will assist you, or at least listen to your request if you just ask them nicely. Not everyone is like that, but enough people that it's worth asking anyways
@pali_aha2781
@pali_aha2781 3 роки тому
9:38 Takuya Ishikawa wants to be filmed. He's simply crying out for help. Give me his address and I'll send him a postcard.
@eclipsa3364
@eclipsa3364 3 роки тому
Me too, please!
@ParisFranceTransit
@ParisFranceTransit 3 роки тому
You could email to the creators of this video if you're serious.
@dennisholmgren4107
@dennisholmgren4107 3 роки тому
An update on him and would be cool
@shikai69b
@shikai69b 3 роки тому
I really want to reach out and talk with him. Even if you have done nothing in your life there will always be interesting stories compiled throughout life.
@zoey5104
@zoey5104 3 роки тому
Please, I want to help him.
@WalrusesAreTheOne
@WalrusesAreTheOne 7 місяців тому
As an unsupported autistic woman, this is my life in the US
@ilovemybeard3394
@ilovemybeard3394 4 роки тому
Hikikimori: You feel like you're being forced to play a role I feel his pain 😭
@hafsakamous1642
@hafsakamous1642 4 роки тому
It's what society is about. It doesn't have to be a burden when the relationships are healthy. Everyone does his part.
@Origami84
@Origami84 4 роки тому
Cry me a river. I am forced to wake at 6am every morning to go to work. And i go by foot, because i am trying to save by not having a car. That guy that started offering himself as a dog sitter once his money began to run out is the true face of these shut-ins: for all their talk about social anxiety, they will go out and work rather than starve. As they should.
@hafsakamous1642
@hafsakamous1642 4 роки тому
Origami84 i think taking part in society is painful, but comes naturally to people without social anxiety. But when you do have it, you are a prisoner of your fears and they are real and torturous. You can’t talk yourself out of it because it is colonizing your thoughts. And on the top of it, you feel no sense of achievement and feel juged. You said it, only starving forced him out. It isn’t a face, it is a disease. Diseases need and can be cured.
@yudycampbell6988
@yudycampbell6988 4 роки тому
which national are you? me too i'm Indonesian i ever withdraw from society by locking myself in my room because i felt inferior and didn't accept reality
@craftycriminalistwithms.z3053
@craftycriminalistwithms.z3053 3 роки тому
I’m sorry love. I know this story you feel very well. I have lived it for many, many years now. After almost two decades I finally feel okay with myself. Don’t give up, know that the your role, that you feel you’re acting in, will feel more like a real life story. That it is actually a real story, with beauty hidden all over, and not completely a negative. Life has ups and downs, life constantly changes and we change with life. The changes in all of our lives, are all so different from each other, but we all are so very similar. The changes are actually part of the human experience and it can be beautiful, once you’re ready, and you’ll know when that time comes.
@phantom0948
@phantom0948 4 роки тому
That mother has so much strength. To stand up and fight for her son and right her wrongs. Very inspiring.
@mackaroni9792
@mackaroni9792 2 роки тому
I wish my mom would realize her wrongs...
@sirfer6969
@sirfer6969 2 роки тому
@@mackaroni9792 LOL me too, she often does, but way after the damage has been done.
@user-gz4ve8mw9l
@user-gz4ve8mw9l 2 роки тому
@@mackaroni9792 That would've been life altering for me I share the same sentiment. Unfortunately my mother was very toxic and abusive as she is a narcissist. She held me hostage for nearly 3 decades of my life. Using her connections with the courts, police, and doctors. Oh the horror stories I have I have an extreme anxiety disorder, OCD, and CPTSD. All of which came from the horrible physical, but mostly mental/emotional, and verbal abuse. Not to mention extreme neglect, and having an absentee workaholic yes man for a father. Whom was also very mentally ill himself. Which often manifested itself in real world actions which constantly inflicted injuries upon my life, and well being.
@Patrick3183
@Patrick3183 2 роки тому
Lmao what wrongs?
@AtmoStk
@AtmoStk 2 роки тому
It's good that she's not putting him down, but she's just enabling him.
@celestialgoddess8055
@celestialgoddess8055 2 роки тому
Not having cried that hard for a long time, this documentary definitely made me cry so painfully. I can truly relate to their experiences. The second guy, Tekushi really left a mark on me. Hoping that he'll know that there's someone like me who appreciates him. Thank you so much for this eye-opening docu!
@randzopyr1038
@randzopyr1038 2 роки тому
You could feel his loneliness through the screen - his depression is palpable. I hope he found a way to move forward and try to carry on living, but I got a sense that he had already given up.
@Groglor
@Groglor Рік тому
Same, He needs a new dog. Makes me think of how much my dog helps me.
@mimIsra1
@mimIsra1 Рік тому
@@Groglor he needs another human
@Groglor
@Groglor Рік тому
@@mimIsra1 Yes but also a dog
@sir-reynauld-the-kleptomaniac
@sir-reynauld-the-kleptomaniac Рік тому
Meanwhile me and the bois are ripping through Estalia looking for some heretics to crush! Hope y’all find your lads and do something fun!
@adammcgirt7123
@adammcgirt7123 3 роки тому
This is a world wide problem. Its depression, plus anxiety. For some ppl, modern society is poisonous fir them.
@gothboschincarnate3931
@gothboschincarnate3931 2 роки тому
Well said!
@user-gz4ve8mw9l
@user-gz4ve8mw9l 2 роки тому
I wholeheartedly agree indeed.
@trinity4827
@trinity4827 Рік тому
The problem does not originate in modern society per se. It is an accumulative of years of history. Civilization has always been unhealthy on different levels. We are just reaping the fruits of a sick past and a society that refuses to evolve on a human level.
@hayleyandkilo
@hayleyandkilo Рік тому
its poison for everybody who is modern society good for?
@themanape
@themanape 11 місяців тому
It's not just depression and anxiety. It's oppression of the helpless.
@TheJust22az
@TheJust22az 4 роки тому
I am an American and can totally relate to this life style. Fortunately, I was forced to engage in society and feel I can function like most but prefer isolation.
@scottgrunow5201
@scottgrunow5201 4 роки тому
Lar Same here. As I become older, i feel less and less inclined to try and fit in.
@timetowakeup7394
@timetowakeup7394 4 роки тому
@@scottgrunow5201 I agree when you get older other people's opinions don't matter. You also get tired of wearing a mask and being fake.
@PapakatsuTom
@PapakatsuTom 4 роки тому
This
@jonathanjacques7250
@jonathanjacques7250 4 роки тому
I feel the same, I have to be social for work but it is painful.
@cynthiaarons9373
@cynthiaarons9373 4 роки тому
Lar : One who can live without much interaction outside is one who is comfortable with one’s self and is quite strong. It is better to be alone than socialize with ppl who aren’t really interested in the other in a deep & real way; most are superficial and insincere. With a smart TV, it keeps me educated in history, science and political and current events. Unfortunately, many are not interested in discussing those topics.
@samannthaswtnss9397
@samannthaswtnss9397 3 роки тому
The man with the dog broke my heart. Please know you have reached Canada and half way around the world. I see you exist. I see you my friend. Im also a home body and rarely leave. You are not alone.
@aleisterdenven
@aleisterdenven Рік тому
I know of one person - a very young man who has lived in Voluntary Isolation since 1995!!! He wanted to become The Greatest Possible Inventor Ever,but has faced so much disenchantment and disillusionment that he became full of Infinite hatred and sadness.I don't know what will happen to him???
@maggie4396
@maggie4396 3 місяці тому
REACH HIM BY PLAYING CHESS WITH HIM OR SEND HIM MONEY BECAUSE HE OUT OF MONEY TO PAY BILLS!
@LA-fh2fs
@LA-fh2fs 7 місяців тому
"None of the clocks in the house are working, Takoya says it's because time has lost all meaning to him" That hit really deep.
@nobody3800
@nobody3800 2 роки тому
Yes, show the world those who have been isolated, polarized, rejected and betrayed by society.
@aleisterdenven
@aleisterdenven Рік тому
I know of one person - a very young man who has lived in Voluntary Isolation since 1995!!! He wanted to become The Greatest Possible Inventor Ever,but has faced so much disenchantment and disillusionment that he became full of Infinite hatred and sadness.I don't know what will happen to him???
@IdgaradLyracant
@IdgaradLyracant 4 роки тому
When a society expects perfection without flaw, only to realize everyone is flawed, but refuses to let go of thier expectations of perfection, exile is the last civilized act of those deemed imperfect.
@dougrobbins5367
@dougrobbins5367 4 роки тому
why is it the last?
@IdgaradLyracant
@IdgaradLyracant 4 роки тому
@@dougrobbins5367 Because after that the solution is less than civilized. After exile comes things like genocide, eugenics, internment camps, and worse.
@Iamthepossum
@Iamthepossum 4 роки тому
Very intelligent reply; thanks
@nextpage3535
@nextpage3535 4 роки тому
Brilliantly and also painfully put in words. It's not the hikikomori(s) or millennials - the fault is in the unhealthy mindset of society. I really love your comment :)
@Aja-Christian
@Aja-Christian 4 роки тому
Exquisitely phrased observation!
@Wildflower3328
@Wildflower3328 4 роки тому
In an age where relationships are fake, merely transactional everyone is hikikomori whether they’re physically withdrawn or not. These folks are just being real to themselves.
@su-lh8gm
@su-lh8gm 4 роки тому
True
@m2heavyindustries378
@m2heavyindustries378 4 роки тому
Unless you spend 30 yrs inside a single house without outside contact, you're not one of them, even if you convince yourself that
@NetiNeti-gm5bz
@NetiNeti-gm5bz 4 роки тому
Because of compulsory heterosexuality and gender roles, that relationships are fake and transactional. When sexuality and gender is a spectrum. The soul don't like being judge for being authentic
@Josh-rn1em
@Josh-rn1em 4 роки тому
Get just one good relationship. I have my wife. And that's all I need. It's genuine, acceptance, and love. Pick wisely and it won't be fake.
@Josh-rn1em
@Josh-rn1em 4 роки тому
@@NetiNeti-gm5bz heterosexuality is not compulsory lol
@TonOfHam
@TonOfHam 3 роки тому
There is nothing wrong with the hikikomori, they are responding to the world around them properly. It is the world that is sick. It's normal and healthy to withdraw from the sickness that our world has become. "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society. " Jiddu Krishnamurti
@hopeful5537
@hopeful5537 2 роки тому
Hi Jiddu, I am trying to make contact with you. I need your help. Hope to hear from you soon (left another message for you on "Edge of the world" animation that you did a few years ago.
@TonOfHam
@TonOfHam 2 роки тому
@@hopeful5537 I responded to your other message and I'm here if you need anything so just let me know.
@Ablequerq
@Ablequerq 2 роки тому
Tell that to the psychologists.
@TonOfHam
@TonOfHam 2 роки тому
@@Ablequerq Unfortunately, psychology only deals with integrating a person to their environment or system. They are never concerned with changing the the world, only the patient's relationship to it. This is one of the frustrations people often experience when visiting a therapist or psychologist. They can never tell you what is right or wrong, what you should or should not do. They can only help you integrate into the system you are in, nothing more.
@hopeful5537
@hopeful5537 2 роки тому
Hi Jiddu, we don't have the finances to send our son to study animation. Do you know of any other way he can perhaps just start this at home, like cheaper online courses? What would he need to have at home to do it?
@iancain8215
@iancain8215 2 роки тому
I'm from Britain and I totally get where he is coming from, being alone means I'm safe.
@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything
@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything 2 роки тому
alone meaning we are safe from bad people ........... not engaging in like most useless activities that most people usually do
@werebilbyj4449
@werebilbyj4449 4 роки тому
These are the kids at school I used to get at lunch time and bring over to sit with me so they wouldn't be on their own. I have made some really long time friends because of this. We prevented a lot of bullying because of doing this. Some kids weren't interested but if you offered an ear to listen and a comfortable spot to sit for lunch you would be surprised how nice people are once you get to know them. Frankly, this sounds like people who struggle with mental health and should have been receiving treatment but due to the way society in Japan treats mental illness, these lovely individuals shut themselves off from the world, which is such a loss.
@jeffzhang9705
@jeffzhang9705 4 роки тому
I wish I were as courageous as you during school. Thanks for sharing.
@O1OO1O1
@O1OO1O1 4 роки тому
Thanks. You never know the impact your kindness may have had.
@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203
@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203 3 роки тому
Isolated kids dont need your pity. SOme people are fine alone, they just dont need bullies.
@geoffreyharris5931
@geoffreyharris5931 2 роки тому
@@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203 Some do. I did.
@geoffreyharris5931
@geoffreyharris5931 2 роки тому
Yeah. It looks like mental health issues are at work here.
@shunomar9947
@shunomar9947 4 роки тому
Since I was grade one. I was a slow learner. And my teacher always pinched me because I did not understand the lesson. And my classmates bullied me. They throw my bag like a basketball and shot into the trash bin. They stole my money and things. And because of the trauma Im afraid to go inside in the room. When the students saw me that I was not in my class. They teased me being cutting classes. They thrown me discouraging words like Im lazy. When I was in grade 3 I quitted three times. In my first year in grade 3. on the frist day class my teacher had a big shouty voice. She let me to stoop up and everyone was looking at me. Because I did not understand, she said something funny to my self and others were laughing. I did not came back after that day. On the second year, I repeated in grade 3 twice. My mother forced me to go to School. I had no choice but to follow. On the first day class. I told my seatmate that he had something liquid like milk on his ear. I told him in a nice way, I was very shy kid. He cried and his cousine came and was very angry and slapped me. I was blushed and everyone was looking at me. I ran and never cameback. On the third year, repeated 3x. My classmates bullied me they shoot me with thier toy gun and it hurts. I tried to be brave and confiscated thier toy gun. One of my classmates punched me. It was so pain. I was crying I ran and never cameback. Since that trauma. I hate to go to School. Never intermingle other kids. I stayed always in the house. We did not have electricity in the small house during that day. I quarantined my self and never talked to people. I read books in the morning until in the evening. Read read and read thats all I did. Life is very mean to me. But I need to fight and be brave to face them and ignore all the negatives and think positive things. Accept the world that not everyone is an angel.
@petitejennyhoang9247
@petitejennyhoang9247 4 роки тому
shuno mar I am very sorry and to hear about your story. But at the same time I am truly impressed by your strength and courage to move forward. Bullying is terrible and unfortunately many children including you and me have gone through it. But you should be proud of yourself for not letting it defeat you. And school is not the only place that you can learn. I have come across many nice and wonderful people that only completed high school, yet have done very well in life. Also I just want you to know that even though life could be unfair at times, there are still a lot of great people and lovely things to look toward to. I sincerely hope that you will find those precious things to hold on to. And best of luck with your future ❤️
@sasorishino
@sasorishino 4 роки тому
Sounds to me that you need a counselor or a therapist.
@articxunodorseggnej8016
@articxunodorseggnej8016 4 роки тому
It’s tough but you must go to school or find online education just so you can get a degree and good job and wipe in their face
@hazelyep3519
@hazelyep3519 4 роки тому
It hurts to read about your story. You are in my prayers. Stay strong and Love yourself 💪😊
@bigzkhalifah5851
@bigzkhalifah5851 4 роки тому
What don't kill you will make you stronger believe that!
@UnCannyValley67
@UnCannyValley67 7 місяців тому
I love these socially withdrawn video stories. They make me feel all cozy and snuggly.
@lazarusblackwell6988
@lazarusblackwell6988 2 місяці тому
LOL i understand that
@suranjanabasu498
@suranjanabasu498 Рік тому
I live in India but I have experienced many of the problems that you have presented so well. I have lived in isolation for the best part of my life. Society just does nor care and is also very cruel. Glad to see my fellow sufferers. Thanks.
@indisummers4385
@indisummers4385 Рік тому
I care.
@nebhalabir1201
@nebhalabir1201 Рік тому
❤️
@aleisterdenven
@aleisterdenven Рік тому
I know of one person - a very young man who has lived in Voluntary Isolation since 1995!!! He wanted to become The Greatest Possible Inventor Ever,but has faced so much disenchantment and disillusionment that he became full of Infinite hatred and sadness.I don't know what will happen to him???
@spm4126
@spm4126 Рік тому
All watching this video are hikkokomoris
@LodeNid
@LodeNid Рік тому
Most of these people seem to have a form of autism...
@rakaipikatan8922
@rakaipikatan8922 4 роки тому
"Honest hearts produce honest actions" a simple line to describe them. Despite the bleakness of their live, they are true to themselves.
@longratloa3222
@longratloa3222 4 роки тому
Am not sure their lives can be called bleak. There is joy in anything and bleakness also if we make it so. ..the corporate guys are just faking it with a fancy car and being loud at a bar.
@brbapappa
@brbapappa 4 роки тому
I believe they gave up hope. That's not an ideal situation but bearable at best.
@victoriakraft6055
@victoriakraft6055 2 роки тому
Thanks
@unsexyman
@unsexyman 4 роки тому
"It is no sign of good health to be fully integrated into a sick society." Krishna
@mouazahmed3139
@mouazahmed3139 4 роки тому
I love that.
@StCloud-ns7vt
@StCloud-ns7vt 4 роки тому
YES! you just rebuffed this entire doc.
@hermanlane9846
@hermanlane9846 4 роки тому
Hello - exactly. I have always known that I cannot be sane in. world gone mad.
4 роки тому
this quote is so true it hurts
@jasminealixandranorth
@jasminealixandranorth 4 роки тому
Krishnamurti!!
@Gauchland
@Gauchland 11 місяців тому
Mental illness or not, part of the issue is the shame culture of shaming these people for living differently, and blaming them for being different.
@takaakiyy3983
@takaakiyy3983 Рік тому
I am a former hikikomori in Japan.I had a mental illness but now I am able to work part time. The reason why hikikomori like them were able to appear in this documentary is because it is a creation of a foreign TV station. If their information was aired in Japanese, they would be attacked by netizens all over Japan. The Japanese are that kind of people.
@Lily-tn4ly
@Lily-tn4ly 4 роки тому
Thank you for the wonderful program. Please provide Japanese subtitles so that many Japanese can view this. たくさんの日本人に観ていただきたいです。
@maravedisolorio5905
@maravedisolorio5905 4 роки тому
I could not agree more with you. It is also great to hear that there are now 400 non-government schools across Japan that recognize the Futoko children problem and are there to provide a safe and compassionate learning space for these children. It is also admirable that one of the former hikikomori now works together with other hikikomori with art projects to bring light to this issue and as a form of therapy for the hikikomori. I was specially touched that Watchinabe made a breakthrough in his recovery as he leaned that his mother had been in pain all this years while he was on the other side of the door. And that his mother had been reading books on the hikikomori 23:33 all that time.
@b2serious
@b2serious 4 роки тому
Japan has a saying " The nail that sticks out gets hammered." But a hammer that swings too hard breaks the nail, so now that nail is not useful and is thrown aside but now the ground is full of nails, and the one with the hammer is now stepping on them, hurting themselves.
@MA-xl3zx
@MA-xl3zx 4 роки тому
The nail that sticks out
@b2serious
@b2serious 4 роки тому
@@MA-xl3zx thanks
@torachan23
@torachan23 3 роки тому
"I'm 14 and this is deep"
@Bambim8
@Bambim8 3 роки тому
When I read "nail" I thought of a fingernail.
@nievescalvo2786
@nievescalvo2786 3 роки тому
@@Bambim8 me too. And I was like: what a weird saying :/
@Rodrigos.godoy86
@Rodrigos.godoy86 2 роки тому
I've been living like this most of my life, right now at 36 that's exactly how i live and i relate to everything i saw on this video, been looked down upon since early school, difficulties integrating with family, judgment, well the list goes on, I've been trying to be out, but we have psychological wounds that prevents us from succeeding at work, like low self confidence, we're screw ups. Its not a happy life at all.
@jesseleol
@jesseleol Рік тому
Same and I'm 31. I've been living this life since I graduated from college
@martingicemi8745
@martingicemi8745 Рік тому
Am in Kenya, African and I hear you. I really hope society and people can change for the better. Hope you heal your wounds and are able to socialize more meaningfully, adios
@Rodrigos.godoy86
@Rodrigos.godoy86 Рік тому
Thank you so much! I wish you happiness too.
@abhishekdhanger5214
@abhishekdhanger5214 Рік тому
Same with me i am 30
@JB-cs4jt
@JB-cs4jt Рік тому
Also 36 same boat, i did have jobs and semi normal things kinda lost everything. Well wishes to you all.
@margaretta-wc5rp
@margaretta-wc5rp Рік тому
I'm a well-educated Hikikomori. Got Degrees in Engineering and Law. Always wanted to be in school. Never wanted to get out into real world to work. Could use someone to talk to.
@AhmedMohammed-xq5ep
@AhmedMohammed-xq5ep 11 місяців тому
it is my first time to hear someone love school more than work.... you will be good since you like school and you have degrees... don't surrender and make your parents suffer in their late ages instead of making them happy and comfortable... you should take the step and beleive me day by day ignore bad thaughts that inhibits you untill one day you will hate to be out of work..... if one of those people just decided to take small steps and fight for themselves they would never end up suffering now... it is just our personality and our body tend to be safe and happy and comfortable, but easy life make difficult sad ending... i really feel sad and cry for them but at the end of the day it was their choice to give up.
@themanape
@themanape 11 місяців тому
You got what you wanted. What else do you want?
@riaramirez9550
@riaramirez9550 9 місяців тому
Work is just like school. There are rules, peers, and superiors. But better because you earn money to provide for your needs. So, you should love it too! I hope one day you can join the zombie world, este the workforce. And when you rejoin the society, I hope you can inspire other hikikomoris as well. I'm sure you will treat them with compassion and be none of those self-righteous, judgemental people. Good luck to you!
@Mondscheinstaub
@Mondscheinstaub 4 роки тому
Coming from Germany, having lived in Tokyo for almost two years, I can assure each of you westeners that the social pressure in our world is ridiculous compared to Japan. Their social system is totally backwards - they are technologically very forward and modern, but socially stuck in the 1950s or 60s. If you fell pressured by society and other people's expectations in Europe or the US, never move to Japan. It will break you down mentally.
@khav11
@khav11 4 роки тому
just because they tend to be far more conservative and you dont like that as a progressive i bet? doesnt mean they're "stuck 50 years ago" idiot
@Mondscheinstaub
@Mondscheinstaub 4 роки тому
Grigori Rasputin1990 Dumpster, it‘s not about liking this system or not, it’s a system that destroys humans and human relationships. It denies other people to live freely and personal development, but supports racism, sexism, violence against children, and homophobia. That‘s why there are so many suicides and other negative social phenomena rather unique to Japan. People there are supposed to function quietly and accept any form of oppression. There’s a reason why this social system has evolved in many countries. If it had been so good, people wouldn’t have fought for it to progress 🤦🏻‍♀️
@khav11
@khav11 4 роки тому
@@Mondscheinstaub well im a white straight 6"6 male so im guessing i should be fine? just to visit
@Mondscheinstaub
@Mondscheinstaub 4 роки тому
@@khav11 You can't compare visiting a country with living in it. And yeah, even as a white, straight, tall guy you will be faced with racism and sexism. Apart from that, the world doesn't belong to people like you, who happen to be white, straight and tall. But I guess as a fankid of a Russian preacher from another century, you are too close-minded to get that.
@AmethystSnow
@AmethystSnow 4 роки тому
Japan's definitely been romanticized by anime and video games. I think that's why they produce such good stories since all they can do is fantasize about the kind of freedom anime and video game characters have.
@mausoleumdouche3589
@mausoleumdouche3589 4 роки тому
Is it just me, or does anyone else think "bullied by a teacher" is a euphemism for a more sinister kind of abuse? Poor guy.
@xHappiestSadist
@xHappiestSadist 4 роки тому
That could be the case, but even if the abuse were "less severe", it can still lead to trauma and distrust in authority. It's a shame how often this still happens, even with all of the bullying awareness that has come to rise the past few years. Goes to show there's definitely something fundamentally wrong with the standardized educational model.
@1x93cm
@1x93cm 4 роки тому
it's possible. But likely some sort of corporal punishment due to his age. Either way. He's fked.
@toady7741
@toady7741 4 роки тому
We need to end forced, compulsory schooling (and with it bullying, shunning, ostracism and being "cool" and "alright" vs being a "nerd"). What we take for granted was a Prussian invention in the late 1800s.
@kubli365
@kubli365 4 роки тому
@@toady7741 I mean... it's not forced and compulsory.
@TheBuilderize
@TheBuilderize 4 роки тому
@Christina Reynolds Like buttsex
@riaramirez9550
@riaramirez9550 9 місяців тому
I lived in Japan for three years. I can say Japanese people are extremely quiet people. No loud music & keep to themselves most of the time. They are very conscientious people that when bad luck ( ie losing a job) comes to them, it takes a toll on their mental health. Passive aggressive behaviour is so common. These hikikomoris were bullied by passive aggressive people in their lives that they became passive aggressive themselves. But their introspection in life is really deep, like they really listen to their souls. I wish they find the happiness and peace they are looking for, even if it means remaining as hikikomori.
@user-qb9bz8nu2g
@user-qb9bz8nu2g 11 місяців тому
I just want to comment on Takuya-san. You have reached me all the way in Canada. My condition is similar to yours and my life is no different than yours my friend. I'm a 33-year-old Asian female hermit. I quit society few years ago. I suffer from OCD, bitterness,depression and was severely abused from my dad as well and those whom I trusted around me. I no longer trust humans. I no longer feel the passage of time and it's safe to say that I've already given on my life. But I must also say that there's no shame in choosing the hikikomori path since our current world and society has turned into absolute trash. I chose to spend my remaining life in peace and quiet hiding from the current sick world. You are not alone Takuya-san.
@h.j7469
@h.j7469 3 місяці тому
Hi, Jesus loves you sister, if you go to church, you will find peace in God...
@user-qb9bz8nu2g
@user-qb9bz8nu2g 2 місяці тому
Thank you for your kind words. In fact I'm a believer in Christ and my sole goal left in life is to make it to heaven. I just don't attend church because that would mean interacting with humans.
@smkace5558
@smkace5558 4 роки тому
"His only points of interaction were his mother [] and his dog, []…...both have died in the last two years. He says its his dog that he misses the most"
@chrislove4851
@chrislove4851 4 роки тому
I can totally relate to them...social withdrawal occurs to those individuals who have gone through bullies,couldn’t fit into society and couldn’t make a friends ...this result into social distancing and taking resort with their own self.I don’t think they are happy inside ...they just doesn’t want to go through the similar experiences that they face during childhood
@tanujakumari2363
@tanujakumari2363 2 роки тому
U just said exactly what wanted to say, .. I have suffered the same, and I do live in isolation if there is no important need or something. People compare me with them and tell me how werid and useless I'm.
@matthewlewis7513
@matthewlewis7513 11 місяців тому
Yutaka is actually depressed, I can see it. He's just not aware of it due to him being happy all the time...
@cenganzon
@cenganzon 3 роки тому
The first 3 minutes of the video just crushed my heart. I feel pity for the 50-year-old man who was diagnosed 5 years ago only with ADHD. I imagined my son in the shoes of that man. My son, who was diagnosed with mild autism and ADHD, is so obsessed with Japan and dreams of living in Japan. I like to live in Japan too since I was a child, but after watching many videos about Japanese culture, I realize that Japan is not a good place to live for my son. Japan is a beautiful place to travel and other reasons, but for people with a developmental and mental disorder, it's just hard to imagine how is their life there. These people need x10 attention, understanding, and support from their own families. As a mother, you wanted all the best for your child so you support, guide, teach, and love them. It appears that as a Japanese, you need to cope with all the issues of society and personal problems all by yourself even your death (the number of people dying alone is increasing in Japan). They are lacking love and acceptance because of these "standards" that forces you to be NOT YOU and NOT live the life that you call life. I'm thankful that I'm living in my country full of cheerful people, lovable, supportive families up to the 2nd or 3rd generation, but still, society pressure is visible but tolerable and not painful/suicidal like in Japan.
@bangrojai4868
@bangrojai4868 Рік тому
Maybe their culture but i think it is their population ratio that made this worse. Imagine you are on your way to school alone since there is no other children in your village. I saw some Japanese movies and this is the reality. Some dialogues said," oh...this field used to be full of children playing baseball. Now it is just empty space". You have no friend since there is nobody left to play with you.
@ar2042
@ar2042 4 роки тому
Poor guy, can't even adopt another dog
@kellywest111
@kellywest111 4 роки тому
That's so dumb single guys can take care of animals and the dog need homes too. That's just unnecessary hardship.
@dw7312
@dw7312 4 роки тому
That’s sad.
@titrationss
@titrationss 4 роки тому
their society is in need of serious work. Dude just wants a friend
@akamiyayi
@akamiyayi 4 роки тому
So sad
@teksal13
@teksal13 4 роки тому
I am 67. My dog was my baby, she died about 1 1/2 years ago . I understand the guy's need for another dog.
@1abi07
@1abi07 4 роки тому
In my opinion the problem is simple. Cultural pressure that Japanese society puts on their Children. Myself an Indian and we also have this problem of judgmental society. In rest of Asian culture its much more diluted. Indians and South Koreans have a track record for depression and suicides when it comes to competitive exams and learning. When everybody says Asians are very successful they forget that many are left behind in this race.
@vfaulkon
@vfaulkon 4 роки тому
I guess it's easier to say that Asians are more successful when the ones that aren't never leave their homes or interact with people.
@TheAmubis
@TheAmubis 4 роки тому
yup, kinda reminds me of what Oda says, "There's no real future for the people who always dispose every single thing they deemed useless."
@LuckyDuckie115
@LuckyDuckie115 4 роки тому
lol has nothing to do with culture, there a millions of hermits in the U.S. Heck you can even consider the 2+ million U.S. prisoners in this category, the bulk of them prefer not to interact with anyone.
@vfaulkon
@vfaulkon 4 роки тому
@@LuckyDuckie115 I know. I am one.
@mirieshii1948
@mirieshii1948 4 роки тому
@@LuckyDuckie115 i don't think so. There are hermits everywhere, but rarely not pushed to be so because of the same reasons the Japanese encounter.
@lunarcowboy9275
@lunarcowboy9275 Рік тому
Takuya's story broke my heart, he looks so terribly sad and lonely. He clearly feels the need for an emotional connection that's why he tried adopting a dog which I think it's a wonderful idea. It's crazy that only families are allowed to adopt. When he showed the reporter that beautiful flyer with the boy and the dog... that was it for me. Maybe they would let him volunteer at the shelter? Hope he and all the others in this documentary are well and content.
@skycloud4802
@skycloud4802 4 місяці тому
I'm not sure about Japan specifically, but it's common for reputable dog breeders and dog homes to refuse dogs to single homes. The reason I was told was because dogs are highly sociable creatures and would be neglected if left at home for long periods when owner is out doing business or at work. Ironically, Hikikomori would be at home a lot anyway so it's probably in theirs _and_ the dogs interest to be together.
@maggie4396
@maggie4396 3 місяці тому
FIRST HE NEED A JOB BECAUSE HE GONNA LOST HIS HOUSE!
@Decodedz
@Decodedz Рік тому
Such a kind hearted person and life has been so cruel to him. I hope he finds some happiness.
@aleisterdenven
@aleisterdenven Рік тому
I know of one person - a very young man who has lived in Voluntary Isolation since 1995!!! He wanted to become The Greatest Possible Inventor Ever,but has faced so much disenchantment and disillusionment that he became full of Infinite hatred and sadness.I don't know what will happen to him???
@lornanyakoa1617
@lornanyakoa1617 4 роки тому
The young kid found his path early in life.
@CheapSushi
@CheapSushi 4 роки тому
I mean, practically everyone wants to be socially famous now. Lots of people making a ton of money from wanting constant attention. He is so young now, and it's humble and honest, but eventually it won't be.
@eyobassey5106
@eyobassey5106 4 роки тому
@@CheapSushi 💯💯
@FightsRightsAlways
@FightsRightsAlways 4 роки тому
"Do you want me to kill him??" I can't even imagine.
@hafsakamous1642
@hafsakamous1642 4 роки тому
Siblings say horrible things to each other when angry though.
@FightsRightsAlways
@FightsRightsAlways 4 роки тому
@@hafsakamous1642 judging by the mom's reply and the time that he said it in, I'm thinking no.
@Ha0chan
@Ha0chan 4 роки тому
yeah i'd be depressed too if i had been brough up with people like that
@snoopy_peanuts_77
@snoopy_peanuts_77 4 роки тому
older bro is a straight up triggered psycho
@retrofuture1989
@retrofuture1989 4 роки тому
@@hafsakamous1642 Saying you want to kill your sibling in a serious manner goes beyond just saying something horrible, that person truly is heartless and a horrible older brother.
@letiziareis.
@letiziareis. 3 роки тому
They are really courageous for admitting that they are hikikomori’s especially in Japan...
@meeks1201
@meeks1201 2 роки тому
What a great piece- I especially loved seeing the man who runs the alternative school for the kids that stopped going to regular school. Kids should be encouraged to be themselves, have fun, express their feelings, and feel safe.
@dbsk06
@dbsk06 4 роки тому
I totally get him. I thought Tokyo was heaven visiting as a tourist but the society is way too oppressive
@justinzhang6883
@justinzhang6883 4 роки тому
it happens everywhere, people just having all sort of problems. Luckily, some of these people in developed countries are able to be sheltered by their parents and social welfare.
@vintageb8
@vintageb8 4 роки тому
it's true. Japan is awesome as a tourist, but living there.. it's a whole different story . Well unless you're financially well-off
@khav11
@khav11 4 роки тому
@@justinzhang6883true im thankful i grew up in a well-off family! and white, male and straight, it doesnt get better than this!
@capoislamort100
@capoislamort100 4 роки тому
Grigori Rasputin1990 what are you doing with all that “privilege”...what are you contributing to society?
@justinzhang6883
@justinzhang6883 4 роки тому
capoislamort100 , he just speak the truth. Living peacefully and quietly rather be a sociopath is considered to contribute to the society.
@thesapphireempress9635
@thesapphireempress9635 4 роки тому
Such an insightful and necessary documentary. My heart goes out to those who are so lonely and emotionally in need of someone to reassure them. One common thread through many of the interviewees’ experiences is that of an unpleasant, abusive experience at school, and the impact that it had on the decision to embrace the hikikomori lifestyle. That phenomenon is something that also needs to be explored in depth, particularly since the teachers seem to be given free reign to interact with the students in a way that causes them harm. Especially for students who may have anxiety, different disorders, or are shyer than others.
@christobe7000
@christobe7000 4 роки тому
All people are good, its just bad things happen to us.
@toady7741
@toady7741 4 роки тому
Home Schooling! Online Education! Rah! Rah@ Rah#
@jinzzzxx
@jinzzzxx 3 роки тому
You feel like you're being forced to play a role. I felt that.
@shirleylangton7967
@shirleylangton7967 2 роки тому
If you're an introverted person, that's who you are! It's unfair for others to try to make you anything else. They have their own interests and talents but society won't let them.
@sickofit5547
@sickofit5547 9 місяців тому
Exactly, the same people would say don’t judge them, but are the ones judging the isolated one. Humans are not good people no matter who they try to fool.
@mirrorm00n
@mirrorm00n 4 роки тому
The people featured in this feature suffered or experienced abuse or developmental disorder when they were younger. One may feel they're all still children, hiding in a house. :( great video, anyway, very enlightening.
@lohst1672
@lohst1672 4 роки тому
Desiderio Luna thats exactly it. I’m almost 26, still feel like a child.
@Germatti13489
@Germatti13489 4 роки тому
@@lohst1672 I am 61, I think that we all feel like that at times... that we are still children inside and faking being an adult on the outside. But I think that as you get older you lose the magic you felt as a child and want to keep that magic inside.
@Germatti13489
@Germatti13489 4 роки тому
@Madam Meouff you might have someone write something up for you and give it out to them or tell them about it first, so that they can understand.
@foottoast4235
@foottoast4235 3 роки тому
​@Madam Meouff I have neither yet was a hikikomori for 5 years-ish, any mental illness can cause it, although those two, especially the latter are probably among the common causes. What makes Japan especially get affected by hikikomori is that they don't take mental illness seriously and it makes many go undiagnosed, also their school system probably isn't the best for someone with ADHD, but then again, what school system is?
@aronhighgrove4100
@aronhighgrove4100 Рік тому
@@Germatti13489 I think a lot of that magic is lost due to outside pressure, due to people cruelly destroying your beliefs or dreams, thinking they are superior, more right, or more realist, when they are really just pessimistic people who adapted and gave in, and want to ruin you too, some aware, some unaware. It's really a pitty we can't enjoy the magic.
@sn9731
@sn9731 3 роки тому
Masato's mother is amazing, she's just so real. Happy for her, hope she keeps going and they all flourish as a family @14:46 realising that is priceless and shows her maturity, wisdom and humility. Beautiful
@alkabahal4820
@alkabahal4820 2 роки тому
Yes takes a lot of courage share your personal stories
@borderhopper3296
@borderhopper3296 2 місяці тому
Kenji in the first case: Though he is the social stay-puts, he is very eloquent and analytical when he talks about himself.
@tingkusapam7502
@tingkusapam7502 3 роки тому
Being an asian, every middle class household has the same mindset of strict parenting which eventually led them to social isolation. And financially indepent is very mich require to live our life in our wish.
@teresiamaina9573
@teresiamaina9573 10 місяців тому
Even Africans strict parenting is a thing that drove some of us to self isolation.... a kenyan here
@armanmislang7726
@armanmislang7726 3 роки тому
This is a very enlightening documentary with so much depth, sensitivity and humanity. I particularly liked how the parents, the mothers in particular, were always there for their children through it all. The reminder that it could happen to anyone is also very real. Wishing for positivity, strength and enlightenment for everyone who is going through something like this!
@RogueShadowAngel
@RogueShadowAngel 4 роки тому
honestly, this was me ten years ago. i was forced to go to school because home school wasn't an option in my area. i mostly interact with one friend in real life when she's in town but beyond that I spend a lot of my time in my room. I'm mostly talking to my friends online. my sister is like this. I'm a shut in because of health reasons and I feel more safe because humanity is scary and I never really fit in because I was atypical in my local community. i feel these people.
@nilsify
@nilsify 3 роки тому
Thanks to everyone that was interviewed! Your experiences will help others for sure, thank you for sharing!
@omennemo8844
@omennemo8844 2 роки тому
Twenty odd years ago, I decided to stop mingling and stay to myself. I am tired of worrying about what people think of me. I too lose track of time. I visit my daughter and I say high to my neighbors but spend most of my time in my world. I have my dogs. A lot of people are doing this. It has to do with the way things are now in society. I waited until I was finished raising my children and able to live off my income. Now I am free to do me without worrying about judgmental people. I was very talkative and loved dancing and sports. I am 72 and I've done all I had to do. I did have fun and now I seek peace and quiet. I now give my voice to the internet.
@allisonnull335
@allisonnull335 4 роки тому
Speaking as somebody who has watched many treatments of this issue, this is the only one that stands out to me as having any real sensitivity, depth, or understanding of what many of the underlying factors are here. I used to be a hikikomori type myself, still kind of am. Slowly crawling out of it. If anyone has any questions, please feel free to reply here and I'll do my best to get back to you. MANY thanks to Al Jazeera for the video ~allison
@makepeace234
@makepeace234 4 роки тому
@Cam In That's all well and good, but there are many people who have psychiatric issues that need to be addressed by a qualified physician.
@Iamthepossum
@Iamthepossum 4 роки тому
J H @JH, your racism and xenophobia has no place here. Troll somewhere else. Cam is wishing you all the best in this life; but your angry and hateful attitude is like a poison you are giving yourself.
@pooja350
@pooja350 4 роки тому
I'm not going to force my religion on you. Nor do I have any questions. Though I wish you well in your progress, my friend 💙
@beeemm6012
@beeemm6012 3 роки тому
9:03 Aww when the dog's tail stopped wagging as soon as he left. My heart 😔
@moneyfreedomsuicide..1869
@moneyfreedomsuicide..1869 3 роки тому
I spent 12 years living like this.. But eventually you must get out, financial reasons force you.. It's so hard, to change..
@hellblizzard8043
@hellblizzard8043 3 роки тому
It must be hard. I hope you doing okay now.
@moneyfreedomsuicide..1869
@moneyfreedomsuicide..1869 3 роки тому
@@hellblizzard8043 yes it was still is, no I am not doing okay, planning to get some money be isolated for some time again and end it.. Just a way I feel strongly about..thanks for the nice words..
@hellblizzard8043
@hellblizzard8043 3 роки тому
I understand that I know nothing of your circumstances and it's not my place to act mighty and giving people advices, but I hope every choice you took not gonna make you regret it later.. I wish you all the best
@moneyfreedomsuicide..1869
@moneyfreedomsuicide..1869 3 роки тому
@@hellblizzard8043 thank you, I like your reply really deep intelligent, wish you everything best..
@kesihatanserantau4554
@kesihatanserantau4554 2 роки тому
For me its because of workplace mobbing that I experienced. This turned me into a hikikomori for 3 years after resigning from the job
@sickofit5547
@sickofit5547 9 місяців тому
Same. The world is filled with lunatics… the health one is the one getting away from the crazies
@Aja-Christian
@Aja-Christian 4 роки тому
Watching these videos about hikikomori is definitely making me sympathize with their situation more. I know most of these cases revolve around Japanese but I know it's a worldwide phenomenon. And now with this virus taking over the globe I'm starting to think that people like this are only going to increase. Companies are going out of business, people are losing their jobs and now with social distancing a lot of us have become involuntary shut ins for who knows how long. Once this worldwide lockdown is over, there's no doubt in my mind that many survivors will end up sinking into a depression either due to mourning the loss of a loved one or because they have no idea if or when they're going to get back on their feet. In developed nations like Japan, South Korea, the US, the UK, etc, we already had young, college educated people struggling to find full-time work, and in just the last 30 days the economy around the world just got plunged deeper into trouble. More people are probably going to just remove themselves from society because the idea of trying to get back into the rat race just seems hopeless.
@kenocken
@kenocken 4 роки тому
Very well said, I agree.
@lagerthathorkildsdottir9074
@lagerthathorkildsdottir9074 4 роки тому
Seeing this is like seeing Finnish people. Thee are lots of similarities. Poor social skills, xenophobia, poor language skills and limited knowledge about other cultures and countries. Both nations seem to have an overload of emotional and social disability
@hipsterchic
@hipsterchic 4 роки тому
I completely agree, especially with your last sentence. Although I could never live a lifestyle that reclusive, I can understand why some people do and I don’t blame them. As time has gone on I realise there are a lot of things that are wrong with society. I’m an introvert so have always been happy in my own company but as I get older I have noticed the need to be alone more and wanting to keep people at arms length.
@wm4506
@wm4506 4 роки тому
The effects of the lock down will be worse than the disease could have ever done.
@ooooooop_6067
@ooooooop_6067 3 роки тому
I completely agree and I’m one of those people who aren’t gonna know how to cope when everything goes back to normal it scares me shitless to even think about going back to school
@klnd5666
@klnd5666 4 роки тому
The guy who helps children and mother who take care for her boy were so cool. Yutaka, you are my hero.
@MegaLivingIt
@MegaLivingIt 2 роки тому
Yutaka age 11 going on 40. His was the most desperate message of all to other kids about bullying. I also don't think parents in America should keep sending a child back to the same school if they are being bullied. Leads to suicide which is completely avoidable.
@mineralwater2511
@mineralwater2511 10 місяців тому
im from the uk and i feel the same i just dont fit in anywhere no real mates you do feel like your not living i feel like a ghost people just dont see me .
@QuietlyCurious
@QuietlyCurious 3 роки тому
That artist is amazing. The Japanese are creative souls.
@dasit6034
@dasit6034 2 роки тому
I found it a bit weird they don't mention that what he's doing is called Kintsugi, repairing a broken item with gold. this way the broken repaired item is seen as being more beautiful than an otherwise intact object, thus their flaws making them more beautiful
@rexguy7823
@rexguy7823 4 роки тому
Lived in Japan for a few years & loved it. But when this guy talks about being bullied & the adults at the school told him he deserved it, it brought to mind a train crash where hundreds of people died when I was living there. The train driver was a young guy (he died in the crash), who had been bullied by the older staff for not being on time. There are many underlying issues/problems in Japan..not a few, many
@aronhighgrove4100
@aronhighgrove4100 Рік тому
Lots of people bully about not being on time, age is not relevant here, eventhough people love to add some ageism in, and bully based on that implicitly...
@maalat
@maalat 4 роки тому
He has a lot of energy It would be difficult for him to be in a classroom with 20 other kids sitting down and doing sit work.
@tablescissors67
@tablescissors67 Рік тому
This was very compassionately presented, well narrated, and beautifully filmed. Thank you. Good food for thought.
@KG-if2oc
@KG-if2oc 3 роки тому
Thank you for this insightful & compassionate piece. I've been slowly slipping into hermithood these last several years & wondering how to go about reversing the downward spiral of depression & isolation. The two feed off each other so it's a constant loop. I often blame myself for moving to a rural neighborhood where it's easier to just simply not engage with life. In the big city, life was beating down my doors, not allowing my retreat. That broken door artwork was very powerful! I can also relate to that guy who didn't know how to re-enter society & get a job. Same dilemma here. I often refer to it as having painted myself into a corner. Covid-19 has actually given me a break from the self recrimination, since everyone else also has to stay home & isolate as much as possible, i can now feel like I'm doing something right for a change, haha :)
@Iworkwithnitwits
@Iworkwithnitwits 4 роки тому
That is cruel that Tekushi could not adopt a dog.
@someguywithabirdface2583
@someguywithabirdface2583 3 роки тому
I guess he has to find it in the streets.
@eels3658
@eels3658 4 роки тому
23:18 I'm really surprised they didn't mention Wabi-sabi (侘寂), it really seems like the artworks were inspired by it. Wabi-sabi is pretty much centered around the idea that imperfections makes something more unique and beautiful. Objects with cracks in them are often repaired using liquid gold leaf to highlight the imperfections, like in these artworks. Applying the Wabi-sabi mindset to hikikomori seems like a great way to raise awareness about them without increasing the stigma.
@LowenKM
@LowenKM 2 роки тому
OCD and ADHD are often also 'co-morbid' with Autism and Aspergers, which must be especially challenging in a culture that places so much importance on the intricacies of social communication and 'relationships'.
@pbasswil
@pbasswil 3 роки тому
As much as this seems to be about Japanese society, there is much here that's universal. Every culture has its norms & expectations; and each has its isolated individuals that can't adapt. And their existence always highlights some kind of tension within the families and schools (which prefer that they conform). Family & school act as 'fracture points'.
@aronhighgrove4100
@aronhighgrove4100 Рік тому
Very true. But as this is a view from the outside on Japan, people are more understanding. When looking at people in this condition in their own country, their compassion is replaced with disrespect and a morale high ground.
@pbasswil
@pbasswil Рік тому
@@aronhighgrove4100 True, the more you zoom into the viewpoints of the individuals involved, the more you see the cold steel gears of social pressure crunching away at the misfits. :^/
@allmine853
@allmine853 4 роки тому
i watch a young korean youtuber and she never leaves her room. she has contractual work she does in her room for a wage but never leaves. the work is picked up when completed and her groceries are ordered online and delivered. i always wonder why it seems more and more this happens
@robertd4100
@robertd4100 4 роки тому
she performes 'services'
@Rmadridista4life
@Rmadridista4life 4 роки тому
whats the channel name?
@Zilfallon3
@Zilfallon3 4 роки тому
Thank you to these people for sharing their experiences about conditions that many schizoid patients/hikkikomori have to go through. I also feel like I just don't belong in "Normal" society so I havn't try as hard as others to climb the "Ladder". Once you get tired from pretending to be who you ain't and stop trying to fit in, It will just get harder and harder to go back to living a "Normal" life that society expects from you. Well some hikkikomori/schizoid could manage to live a normal life if they try hard enough but it won't be a fun journey. Also @12:49 that made me mad. So instead of trying to help his brother who clearly suffers from illness he wanted to end his brother's life? Is being narcissist/sociopath a requirement for being successful in today society? I am tired.
@StCloud-ns7vt
@StCloud-ns7vt 4 роки тому
!!!! wonderful observation Watercat. and yes our hyper-capitalist society outright incentivizes sociopathy.
@MiniM69
@MiniM69 4 роки тому
True, there are many callous people who are rewarded for their lack of empathy. But take heart, there are wonderful people across the world! I pray you find your tribe if that is what you are searching for.
@isisantonio2250
@isisantonio2250 4 роки тому
This comment is so true!! Former-bullied-aspie living a "normal" life here🙋, and yep it's sure friking tiring.
@aronhighgrove4100
@aronhighgrove4100 Рік тому
They are not schizoid. Stop diagnosing a whole group of people because they are isolated. This is another form of abuse.
@tothepoint4080
@tothepoint4080 Рік тому
He is telling my life story , bulling by teachers
@sickofit5547
@sickofit5547 9 місяців тому
Me too
@deyatnakanya8281
@deyatnakanya8281 3 роки тому
I think those hikikomori are smart. they talked about their opinion/feeling/thought very well. people/governments should listen to them and find the solution to their concerns.
@gothboschincarnate3931
@gothboschincarnate3931 2 роки тому
Nobody cares about solutions...solutions cost money.
@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything
@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything 2 роки тому
@@gothboschincarnate3931 actually some people really care about physical practical solutions ......... don't it's hard to come up with an idea and more harder to impliment that idea into an real physical ...
@lxc647
@lxc647 4 роки тому
I'm sure there are self isolated people else where in the world too. It's really hard when you have a condition no one understands.
@Flaw93
@Flaw93 3 роки тому
its a condition not many understand, but there are people who understood, like myself,you and other people here, the core of it all is, that person itself must change himself first, if its not for him, at least change for the better for their parents, ive been in this kinds of state where i felt disconnect with society, but you yourself got to reason and think rationally, by being in this state, unconciously you are letting them control your life, more than you think, you know why? because you let your emotion get the better of you, everything around you is becoming their fault, your sense of judgement will falloff, therefore ending up destroying your own life, if you are firm in your belief, then stood by it, train your heart and mind to counter all these things, it saddens me to see that guys mother has to take care of him whilst she herself is not in a good condition, it is the duty of us as children to take care of them when they are old, what bout their emotional and physical wellbeing? are they not having the same rights as they are?
@estycki
@estycki 4 роки тому
School can be so much like prison... of course kids feel traumatized
@GadisBaliLivesAbroad
@GadisBaliLivesAbroad Рік тому
If children say they'd rather die than going to school, there is a huge problem with the school or the parenting at home.
@yusefkalam7186
@yusefkalam7186 3 роки тому
I kind of admire the hikikomori, it takes a different kind of strength to stay socially withdrawn with the pull of society
@MissyxAkunai
@MissyxAkunai 4 роки тому
Must say, good job to the mom speaking out about this and even acknowledging how the effects of verbal abuse (thats so common in Asia)
@ddanwel77
@ddanwel77 4 роки тому
Thank you Aljazeera for another thought-provoking documentary. Thank you so much
@healthychick9450
@healthychick9450 2 роки тому
So this was recommended by UKposts after I watched a video about being an INFP. Definitely relate to him in almost every way. I tolerate the outside world (people) but I love being at home, with my cat, reading, writing, creating, cooking, sleeping. I love being in nature as well. It's people that, for the most part, ruin it for me.
@hendrik3553
@hendrik3553 2 роки тому
"Actually, looking back, I'm schocked by how fast 30 years have passed. Perhaps it's because my days are so repetitive, I don't feel the passage of time." That terrifies me above all, one day waking up and realising, that I wasted my life and now it's to late to start living.
@ronmaest
@ronmaest 2 роки тому
That’s a reality for many. Think about that. How that contributes to the world?
@ghanshyam1990
@ghanshyam1990 4 роки тому
Man this documentary hit hard. Been there before when everyone wanted something from you and the minute you fail to provide them. They disappear. I'm no sociologist or psychologist but I hope they find peace in their hearts and their beings.
@robertkelley1837
@robertkelley1837 4 роки тому
That little boy is a ray of hope, totally hit me in the feels.
@KantoCafe715
@KantoCafe715 Рік тому
His flyer was absolutely adorable and amazing. Wish he could go into art.
@GOLDHenArmy
@GOLDHenArmy 2 роки тому
This was amazing! Thank you. I worked with students with exceptionalities and was the most rewarding experience. I will forever be grateful and truly believe that they have impacted my life in such a positive way.
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