Viewer interviews are 10x more helpful that the celebrity ones

Please, please never stop doing viewer interviews. They have so much value, so happy to hear there will be multiple this week!

Hyped that viewer interviews are back

The guy hit the nail on the head, he was told a job, money and achievement would lead to happiness, but these are tools and not intended to be the end all be all. He wasn’t raised well by his parents to learn how to develop relationships with others and himself.

MORE VIEWER INTERVIEWS these are always so relatable and helpful And interesting

Dude reminds me of me 10 years ago. He has NO idea how detached from his feelings he truly is. He struggles to identify a single emotion. Which is why he can tell Dr K "that's wrong" but can't point to what's right. The feelings are all there. They aren't allowed to surface so they instead take machetes to your insides. Hence the physical symptoms. Dude has a long-but-worthwhile journey ahead of him.

Viewer interview starts at 12:25

His name Locrian is quite suitable, it's the name of a musical scale that is very confusing and unresolved

This is a truly fascinating chat...obviously I'm not a medical professional and don't know shit about actual diagnosis, but what this dude seems to me is a perfectly normal (or "neurotypical" if you like) person that the current setup of society has turned into a very gray-area, apathetic, stuck-in-neutral, dismissive/avoidant guy. It's like a case study in what an always online, yet simultaneously disconnected, world can do to people. I see so much of myself in this guy, especially before I met my wife. this kind of content is the absolute best of this channel, hope it becomes a mainstay again

This may have been a tiny piece of this conversation but at 2:31:22 when dr. K said that the more internalized your attention the worse you feel I felt my frontal lobe pop into place. I’ve always wondered why some days life feels content and others it feels like the world is on my shoulders and it’s because on the bad days I am focusing entirely internally. This also explains why I’m terrible at meeting new people because I’m so focused on how I’m presenting myself that I fail to actually make a genuine connection.

*Intro & Announcements:* - *Disclaimer & Stream Intro:* 00:04:46 - *Recent Activities & Upcoming Deep Dives:* 00:05:15 - *Funny Video & Discussion:* 00:07:12 *Viewer Interview - Locorian:* - *Introduction & Initial Symptoms:* 00:12:26 - *Breakup & Guilt:* 00:14:04 - *Life After Breakup & College Experience:* 00:29:59 - *Big Tech Job & Move to Big City:* 00:30:56 - *Difficulty Making Friends & Social Rejection:* 00:33:38 - *Therapy Experience & Goals:* 01:02:21 - *Dating Experiences & Situationships:* 01:07:34 - *Dr. K's Observations & Emotional Blind Spots:* 01:25:38 - *Family Dynamics & Upbringing:* 01:41:17 - *Physical Symptoms & Medical History:* 01:47:33 - *Shrooms Experience & Emotional Catharsis:* 01:51:47 - *Smiling & Emotional Expression:* 01:57:03 - *Internal Conflicts & Emotional Variability:* 02:30:55 - *Medication & Sleep Issues:* 02:34:23 - *Takeaways & Closing Thoughts:* 02:40:05 *Dr. K's Post-Interview Discussion:* - *Emotional Suppression & Its Effects:* 02:48:23 - *Importance of Emotional Management & Therapy:* 02:49:53 - *Finding the Right Therapist & Fit:* 02:50:43 - *Outro & Announcements:* 02:51:18

Thanks for coming on Locorian! AOE healing is so back babey It never left, but viewer interviews always have so much to offer Super appreciative of him sharing his experience

Guy seems really cool. I wish him the best and hopefully he can feel more fulfilled in the future. Rooting for him!

Nice to see viewer interviews again Those were my favorite back in the day And over the years I’ve thought a lot about what I would talk about if I got the opportunity to be that viewer

Damn. I can relate so much to the problem of being scared to 'send stuff out there'. In my case I have difficulty expressing myself authentically in fear of being ridiculed, feeling stupid or dumb doing so. I feel constrained, and social interaction can be draining. Kudos to you for coming on stream and being vulnerable. It's helpful to so many people.

I assume it can be daunting but really appreciate Locorian coming on to the stream

Thank you Iocorian for sharing!

I think dr. k underestimates how much aoe hots these viewer interview streams can produce. Its just so much more tangible

Thanks, locorian, for being vulnerable and sharing your experiences with us. Dr. K, I'm grateful for your genuine curiosity and approach of leaning in and holding space for locorian during the conversation. I loved that your careful checking in and thoughtful questioning ensured that you weren't pushing him too much. I empathize with Locorian's feelings about his parents not being interested in his inner world. It seems like growing up with proximal abandonment led him to suppress his emotions and minimize his needs as a way to cope with the fear of being met with indifference. It was heartening to see glimpses of his smile, especially when interacting with the Twitch chat and towards the end of their conversation.

I'm in the same situation. Dr. K: "It's this thing and it's this thing and it's this thing. If it was only one thing, you would have figured it out." Hearing this gave me hope and determination to keep going, improving different things little by little.

I actually really enjoyed/related to this one, good to see the other side of interviews where there isn't some grand obvious issue but many smaller/fundamental things possibly compounding into larger problems

Happy to see an interview! I feel like interviews are some of the most valuable tools on the channel.

This was a wonderful interview. I felt as though Dr.K was having a conversation with me personally as I go through a lot of the same issues that Locorian is going through. I should definitely explore these feelings further and try to work at these issues.

Being able to smile when your day is shit is a lot about feeling what the person in front of you feels. If they are really happy about something, you can't be happy yourself to react to them but you can be touched by their joy in the moment. You can find their joke not very funny but still feel the joy they feel because they love telling that joke and that is what will make you smile.

I relate with this on so many levels, not as intense in some regards but definitely emotionallly afraid to share emotion with people, being able to change the headapace seems really important to understand

Viewer Interview? We are *SO* back 😭💕 This was definitely the format that had me binging Healthy GG

wish i could give this more likes, viewer interviews are so valuable. thank you, locorian!

I’m so happy the viewer interviews are back, probably the best content on this channel. This one was also particularly interesting and enjoyable to watch

Love seeing viewer interviews back! Hope there will be more❤

I'm glad I watched this all the way through because I saw so much of myself several outpatient treatments ago. I just realized last year after my second round of outpatient treatment at 34 that I had no idea what I felt, I'd call it anxiety or depressed. I also had no idea that I could feel multiple things at once. Part of eliviating suffering was naming what I feel. So far so good.

It's interesting to me that in all of these interviews the things that ultimately cause the problems of that person's life are so personal, and yet the problems that person is experiencing are so universal. I've heard so many of these guys go "I'm a loner, detached, having hard time connecting with other people, I'm a shut-in wasting my life not living it, having trouble dating etc" and during the interview the source of these same symptoms seems to always be something different.

Very helpful, thank you !

This is a very special interview and I'm glad that it happened, thank you Dr K and Locorian. The topics tackled here were more complex than usual and not easy to work through and that is exactly why it helped me so much. I feel like Locorian needed a complex answer because telling him he's just avoidant, alexithymic or autistic is not enough, it's just too simple of a label/explanation for someone who has already thought a lot and with a lot of nuances. As a person who struggled with alexithymia in the past, I know I did understand what my problem was in an abstract sense and I'm pretty sure Locorian is also introspective enough to know his inner workings from the outside. So, what is blocking him if he understands everything Dr K is saying ? Why does know how sad he is, yet doesn't understand why, and doesn't really accept it ? I thought that learning that I was alexithymic was the key for me to be able to start understanding and exploring my own emotions, because as soon as I knew, I could just start openly feeling and exploring and I would find out. For the most part, it does work, but the truth is, this is only the first step. It only makes you able to observe and feel them, but not always accept them. In a way, being alexithymic makes you afraid of a lot of your own emotions, because you don't understand them, and even if later you learn to feel, these old fears and rejections of some emotions remain in the background without you knowing. What I realized today is that even though now I am so much better at feeling in the moment, there is still some stuff that my brain blocks instinctively even before I can start to grasp it. I'm good at feeling joy, anger, fear, love, and sometimes sadness, spontaneously. But I'm really bad at feeling disappointed, regretful and guilty, because instinctively these emotions were always repressed and seen as "useless" by my brain. But I can't just make them go away, I have to accept that I feel that way too, even if it feels profoundly useless or even destructive. As I am writing this, a lot comes back to me and I understand the feeling of deep sadness but also of catharsis that Locorian describes. For me it is not the sadness of being alone, but the disappointments and guilt that I had in the past that come back to me, because I shrugged them off to move on, too many times. But it feels good, feels like mourning, like an old wound finally closing.

I love interviews like this. I can relate to this guy. I understand where he was coming from. I commend him on his bravery to come on stream. I love you Dr. K you were amazing

listened all the way, very interesting, learned a lot

Oh my, I have to thank this guy. I took so much for granted - yesterday I went to work and tons of people stopped what they were doing and said hi to me.

Seems like this is a lot of men today, the feeling of uncertainty on what to pursue and how to act for fear of being judged, rejected etc… Men’d mental health isn’t really talked about, men in general face less sympathy from society compared to women etc…. The link between parenting and adult behavior later in life is so important and we are just all becoming more aware of this.

Awesome to see viewer interviews are back :)

I think it’s really important that we talk more about emotional suppression and conflicted emotions. When we’re like that, it takes effort to just feel and connect with others. “Emotional gravity” as he describes it kinda identifies it very well. Time stamping 2:06:00 bc it’s relevant.

i feel so called out by this. I had the same exact thing happen - got my first relationship at 25 and it became "well i can't let this die" then overtime i just lost feelings and she became super exhausting from her insecurity (the main one i always heard was that im going to leave her for a white girl - im white and she was indian) and like look man i tried and i dont want anything bad for her but it still kind of eats at me no matter how annoying and exhausting she got towards the end of it? That was back in November, and breaking it off idk *during* i didnt feel anything but was pretty dissasociated but leading up it was like getting ready to put down a cat and then after i took a long time to stop feeling constantly guilty over it "how could i do that to her, she actually loved me, i'll never have that again, why didnt you try to talk it over and work through it, maybe she could've been what you needed" etc but it just wasnt it.

“Ice is brittle” rolled straight off the tongue. This one really helped me

Love more viewer interviews, very relatable to my life

I bet this dude would be really fun to talk and play music with, between the Locrian name choice and the unresolved progression metaphor and the guitar in the back and a STEM brain for theory

Glad these are back great conversation!

Maybe my eyes are weird but I was surprised by this guy, he looks like he'd be way more confident than he sounds. If he's got any uncertainty about his appearance, I don't think he needs to. He looks pretty cool, he's even got the guitar for it.

Locrian needs to be more Ionian but that will take a major change.

Thank you so much for this. Thank you!

Out of all your interviews I've never related to one as much as this one Can relate so much with the friend part that feeling of being fine ish 29 days out of 30 and then you like snap that 1 day then back to square 1

Talking about such personal things in public to help other people is very brave.

Man, this interview really got emotions out of me, and it kinda got me numb, anyways I was able to observe why and I feel like I get myself a little more, def going to check out the trauma module. Anyways I hope more of these get made again, but also I really like the more specific content too so I don't know.

This interviews are godly , keep it up dr K ♥️

Lets goo viewer interviews are back!

I would wish that they could got more in deep, with “attachment theory “ and the “guilt” part. I think those two point really hit home for me

Damn Dr. K's questions hit hard, and are on point! :D

Great Job in making him Laugh.❤

This dude's smile is totally normal and fine. Made me happy to see it at the end

Damn this one really resonated with me Especially the part about having problems with self-expression which makes people to feel like I left them hanging

I really relate to this guy's story, and I have a question of my own: How do I warm up/become more free in expressing my emotions with other people so that I can get the social emotional connection that I'm missing?

I enjoy listening to him 👍

Love the viewers interviews rather than the main stream /celebrities ones. Just more relatable and more genuine.

I am currently at 25:45... Man it feels like this guy is trying so hard to be vague that he isn't sure about anything going on in his life, and it feels exhausting trying to puzzle his response to actually mean something.

Iran went through a violent chaotic revolution in '79 followed up by 8 years of war with Iraq. His parents, like mine, are more likely to have been through stuff.

Dr. Ks observations that Locorians responses were all "neutral" was spot on. He said he didn't know why but I hope that was just him avoiding giving medical advice. That is exactly what happened to me on SSRIs and why I caution most people against taking them. Sure I wasn't as sad but that was because they just took away all affect good and bad.

Been craving these!

This interview was a perfect case of emotional neglect of him growing up

Love this. Got so much in common with the interviewee. Surprised me

I missed these 1 on 1 viewer interviews

12:20 interview starts

I REALLY missed this!

2:16:04 This part resonated with me with how self-conscious I used to be about my teeth. I used to think people looked at my teeth when I was smiling and they would stop smiling because they weren’t perfectly straight. Now I realize it was probably more along what Dr K describes here. I probably started that negative feedback loop on myself

Dr. K asked him to give us a smile and he said No. Outside person looking in, why not? That was deep. Dr K is good at what he does👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I resonated so much with this guy except mabey in dating. But I resonate so much with this interview.

This video was amazing!

This video was AWESOME!

Viewer interviewers > Streamer interviews I can relate much better to viewers. The streamers are uninteresting and I don’t game.

He’s a dismissive avoidant. As simple as that. That’s why he doesn’t like to be rejected socially, closes off when someone needs reassurance, focuses on his career, likes people who are extroverts, has a hard time expressing his emotions as he is not fully aware of them, does indirect messaging where he is sure people have to know what he is thinking instead of expressing it and also interprets what people are thinking instead of asking, wants connection, but rejects it, defines the family connection as a relation of “no stress”, he had friends, but felt a separation from them, black and white thinking: it’s ok or it’s awful, the use of comfort creatures: playing games, doesn’t want to commit, believes only he is responsible for his needs, but also is unaware he has any, etc. The list goes on and on.

Are you still doing viewer interviews? I couldn't find any. I am really missing these.

Awesome tip! 2:40:42

Making girl friends sucks for me. I only feel comfortable with the compromise and reciprocity that men give me when I involve in a romantic relationship. I feel cared for, we make plans together, we keep in touch. Otherwise, people don’t make any efforts to mantain the relationship. Men tend to share more stuff with me and it makes it more natural and easy to connect. I find that women don’t talk to me that much (at all) nor they share any interests.

People are on dating apps for a myriad of reasons. When I found out my ex was on Tinder behind my back, his response was, "I was bored and things were'nt going well between us". He was using it to regulate his emotions (and to seek narcissistic supply). Others use them because they are looking for a meaningful connection, seeking validation, wanting to escape loneliness, etc. The truth is, some people don't have the skills to have a secure relationship. And if someone has a pattern of train-wrecked relationships, this person is the common denominator in all his/her relationships.

How do you apply for a viewer interview

Im learning just because someone wants good things, it doesn't make them a great person. Not that this guy is a bad one, not at all. Just wants to put in the minimal effort required for the best of what human connection can give him, which isn't great.

Glad to have viewer interviews instead of big youtuber/streamer interviews. I'm not sure if it's possible within the "no diagnosis" clause of the streams, but it would be interesting to have a second video where you analyze what you discovered and what's likely happening in the brain, after thinking about it overnight.

I started wearing a rubber band on my wrist to remind myself to smile. This live hit too close to home.

We are so back baby!

God i missed viewer interviews so much

The point on suppressing emotions using up willpower makes me wonder if that could be a great deal why I seem to have little spare. It also makes me question on what a healthy way of expressing emotions us. People don't like anger, they look down or take pity if you're upset, dumping your emotions is compared to having farts build up in a room.

At 1:11:00. This is the exact situation in the film “500 Days of Summer”, except it’s the guy who is confused about where he stands.

Hey drK can you interview DBDR? An incel storytime channel, it would be great content

A very wholesome end lolll

I feel like Locorian is a Logical Overthinker that tries to gameplan emotions and social interactions (which causes his social isolation and despondency). His lack of emotional mirroring as a child could’ve led him to develop logical answers to his problems instead of voicing his emotions. As I believe he developed cognitive empathy as a coping mechanism to logically deal with emotions as he matured. Which is why he has a high understanding of emotions (but not his own because he’s used to suppressing them). I feel like he has a fear of fully expressing his emotions because he never really learned how to, and being an overthinker doesn’t help with that issue. His shroom trip that ended with him in the shower was a very telling moment in this interview as well. He had a disturbing dream, and he took shrooms and faced the feelings head first. Which might have been nothing on the grand scale, but i think it was one step closer for Locorian to fully feel emotions (especially without fear of judgement). Regardless, I hope Locorian soon starts to smile more (and fuller)!

I miss viewer interviews

Usually I really enjoy the streamer/viewer/community member chats but honestly this one was really rough to get through. I don’t think he really said anything of substance personally, didn’t really have a lot to expand on in his experiences on Dr. K’s follow ups and generally just beat around the bush. Conversation just really seemed ‘meh’. Out of curiosity, what did you guys glean from this talk? What take aways were beneficial for you? Obviously I wish you the best Locorian and you get the help you need.

8:50 my mom actually did this to me. she also would dump whatever issues with dad she had at the time. after 4 months I wanted to kill myself. this was after college graduation and she kept trying to convince me to stop pursuing my dreams and career with the degree I enjoyed to help her with realty. So she kept trying to essentially trap me to her while doing these and with how slow job hiring is as the busy seasons for my profession are july and december, I felt like that would be my life and I wanted it to end. I took the first decent offer I got and put down a payment for an apartment. 3 days later I got my dream offer. I will never forgive my mom for her hounding that I begged her to stop for months. and yes. I did my laundry, I was applying to jobs. I pulled all the weeds from the lawn. I cleared the leaves I mowed the lawn I vacuumed a floor of the house I cleaned the bathtub. She used it as a pretense to trap me in a random aggressive lecture about her excessive ruminations about some bullshit she made harder for herself.

The background music at the beginning tho🙂‍↔️🙂‍↔️🙂‍↕️😌

i gotta work on that spontaneity too instead of always the effortful calculation of how to respond

The viewer interviews are 100x better than any lecture or guide sorry.

I don’t know

cool interview. btw locorian, if you read this: i would have fun making you smile just breaking your facade down and enjoy you feeling happy :D i am not in the us, so it is not possibly going to happen, but i like you man. you seem like a cool guy to hang out with ;)

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