But strange how some of us stay thinking things will get better . It doesn't happen

A heroine. For real.

Sadly if we had a difficult childhood we can end up in abusive relationships . My ex partner drank a lot and the shouting and gaslighting was a regular thing . I wasted many years with a man who couldn't care for me as he wasn't loved as a child

Good For you ! i still do not get why some women are so pathetic and stay and keep getting abused as if they do not have any self respect or self dignity.

@@sumithraarjunan8742 they feel trapped maybe it's financial but abusive men have no respect for anyone just use people

I didn't get. Anything. But. Freedom. ! Well worth it. I'd. Say. And I had a court appointed. lawyer. Its been. Over. 40. Years. My ex. Died. Several years. Back.he Gave my. . kids. So many lies. And stories. After they grew. Up. !!! He never. Paid. Child support. Nor was it. Ever. Upheld by courts. I'm. Relieved. For the. Sake. Of them. He. Died. In. Another state. !! Only one of his brothers. Told us. That. Had. Believed. He. Was. Abusive. Some. Wear Rose colored. Glasses. !!!

He was also talking about the children. I thought the same until I hear him mention she won’t get the children. If she has no way to support the children the children go to the father. Unless she can prove he is unfit. Which this was the 90’s. Vastly different time.

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Well said , and it happens more then people think , because of the FEAR instilled into one's mind , many get trapped, god bless all women w a good man .. ❤

One has to ask the obvious question how come it took you so long to learn that valuable lesson? Several abusive partners? Is it that you just thought you weren’t worthy or you simply couldn’t learn a lesson. Thankfully it wasn’t too late for you. I know other silly women who have had multiple abusive partners not necessarily physically abusive but controlling And they always defend them. I have a friend well she is with yet another abusive partner and I’ve just walked away. She never learned her lesson never. Yes, Anna I know I sound judgemental but it just makes me wonder how these victims never learn their lesson.

lot more the that..there's emotional, sexual, neglect, financial, abandonment..probably more sadly..as for lots of women they usually can't fight back, and if any do and hurt or death occurs they get locked up a long if they get brave enough cause it's hard to get away from these types,.they are possessive and never leave you alone.

So true. I was in a relationship with verbal abuse happening to me everyday. According to him, I couldn't do anything right. I was afraid every second that i was with him. It finally wears you down to you start thinking that you are useless and more. The fear would start from the time i would get up to the time I'd go to bed. And the abuse stays with you even after you get away. It takes time to even start feeling better about yourself.

@@Marie-jh4qs so sorry you went through that. I am just now realizing that I need to get out of a very bad marriage. My husband has always been an opportunistic bully. Not physically, but certainly financially and emotionally. I am waking up to understand how depressed I have been for years.

@@Ace-ke7fq and religion abuse where they stop u from praying or going to church, financial abuse, when they tell u how to spend ur own money or they keep ur money, psychological abuse, mental abuse, etc

Yes....been there done that.

We as people think we can fix that person. She also was probably manipulated into him. My mother said the same thing about my ex. I didn't see it. She just had a gut feeling.

No they are not. Mine knew

Oh yes.

Or don’t marry that woman

Parents are usually where this treatment starts, hence why they don't know how to get out.

Alexander: No one should strike anyone. Period. Except the father. He should have decked the husband.

That's a fact. Everyone of em that ever beat the hell out of me I'd look dead in his eyes and say imagine how good it would feel if you actually had the Ball's to do this to an actual man you coward ass sob! All 3 that have tortured me I have never once known either of them to stand up to another male. Pathetic

That’s why they hurt women! Their a wussy!

We forget a lot of times the vicious wife and mother.

I've never heard of a man hitting his wife once and being sorry and never doing it again.Once they start it never stops

There almost never true stories! They just say that, to sell the movie.... ....

Well maybe not singular stories but they are based on generally true stories. There are many cases of physical domestic abuse so it’s a genetic story.

How true!!!

Exactly my struggle. Complete isolation and no where to go

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You can say that again.

Exactly

I remember a story by a pastor in the 1930s about a very slight woman married to a huge male drunk. Everyone knew he beat her up and no one liked it. Anyway, one day, she tied him up while he lay on the bed drunk and when he woke up, she beat him up with a whip. He never beat her up again and everyone, including the pastor, was glad she did it. People stayed out of people's marriages and families back in the day, but people wanted her to leave him. Divorce was not common. You can divorce now, but there are women who stay with physical and mental abuse. I think if you tied him up and whipped him these days, he would sue you and the police would lock you up - even if he regularly beat you up. I suppose they reckon you could leave if you want to rather than beat him up.

Good job out with the trash!

Good for Her honestly sometimes you have to Send the Right message. Are there consequences sometimes yes, but it's better then the other end.

You can have God protection his name is Jesus Christ. I am sorry to hear how you saffered, i shere your pain with you and i am giving you a hug. Please if you can forgive the man, so you can go free and have no fear. Only Jesus can heal your broken heart and what happened to you. I speak from experience i was broken, but i desided to seek God Jesus Christ with all of my heart. I have repented from my own sins and i have met the Lord Jesus Christ in an open vision he healed my broken heart and set me free from SIN and fear and change me and my life forever. Speak to Jesus Christ today, seek him he is REAL. He can restore what you lost and give you everlasting life, cut generational curses and give you peace in your heart. ❤😢

I was I'm the same situation. The courts do not protect the victims and the judges don't take the children's protection into consideration at all.

It's hard to believe this is happening in a modern world

Bridget, have courage, have faith in yourself. You said you have got out of the miserable situation. Your children will never "emulate" their ignoble (biological) father. They will surely have the resolve to differentiate between righteousness and immorality. They will protect you from the evildoer. There are many social media platforms that are personalized, so you can always connect with your son first in cyberspace then in real life, as he grows up! Look at the bright side---you have someone to look up to ! God bless You and your son!

Have courage. Your kids are worth it. It's time to stop being a victim instead be an example for women who struggle with this.

Being single is marvellously marvellous!!!!!😊😊😊

😂 lol hell yeah.

Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen

@Anne perry u hv got point baby girl

yup

Proud of you 👏

Good for you sir 👍

You are a good man

Good for you man. I respect you.

Good for you

Great movie...was on the edge of my chair throughout.

So true and the abuse only gets worse

You put it right.❤

Very true!

It doesn't mean they don't love you, but they are sick and they don't know how to show love. They cannot handle their emotions and they are mentally ill. Many don't know how to show love, they cannot control their emotions. They take their anger out on those they DO love and are closest to them.

He did real good

I think he was on Sons of Anarchy.

I liked him too. 😀😀😃😃 He really made an impression !!

He even had the stereotypical criminal look.

Kim Coates. He's an amazing actor.

Correct 🥰🇨🇦

I agree. May God continue to guide you wife in a right path..

i.agree Whit you never depends on Your husband money never

Amen to that and NEVER give up career for children. They will not appreciate it anyway. Advice from one who made this mistake

Especially since she claimed he was abusive from the start.

BUT how many Will believe you. My own daughter's with 2 Associate Degrees and 2 Certifications Still let theses Slimy Covet NARCISSIST in to there trust and sadly feed on there B.S. hanging on every Word they LIE about. It's INCREDIBLE how book smart young girls fall for these DEMONIC!!! tricksters my oldest was just buried and her sister LEARNED NOTHING from her tragic experiences.

Thanks so much

With the kids I hope.

@@soniavadnjal7553 yes with my kids and all of my kids are grown now I would never leave my children once you are gone the kids become the next victim

It is difficult to get out. It was hard but I finally did also.

Cheryl, you are right. It's not that easy to get out. People that says why didn't you leave, don't know what its like or how it feels. Back when i was young, i said the same; even tho my mom went thru physical abuse. But i ended up being in a verbal abuse relationship and nothing is easy. People shouldn't judge us because until they go thru it theirselves, they will never understand.

But the best! Because after that storm, will definitely come sunshine.

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

Yes...But some woman are bad news too...

Pray for women AND men that are victims. It's not a one way street

Sometimes men are victims too , they just don't say anything 🤷 😔 😕

Believe it or not Judith Fiore, men can also be the victim, so pray for the men, this abuse can be both ways.

Men can also be victims too, but they just don't talk about it to their guy friends and be called a 'Pussy' or 'Pussy Whooped'.

Sounds scary. How did he die?

Lucky for u, he was dead!

Yes that's true. The victim will leave wen it's beyond intolerable

When he growls, "There will never be a divorce," you know not to make him mad.

I was 8 and 1/2 months pregnant beating black and blue face down to chest I covered my stomach with my hands and still ended up in the emergency room with a C-section my ex got nothing for that but like you said karma is gone now. My X died from liver failure.

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

ABSOLUTELY 💯 @JANYD......❤

Girl she weak AF. She shouldn’t have got married in the first place after he was already beating her ass! These ppl be slow and weak and will let someone hurt them and they children so they can live a certain way. Str8 trash!

@@frankhendricks5918Hello👋🏽🤎

Re letter by Jany - 100% right - the best advice

No animal should ever be treated like that either. All abusive creeps: Under The Jail, off you go!

And I'd rather marry someone unattractive but respects me

@@bluecollarlit exactly. I'm disgusted by this comparison. No animal deserves being abused, yet some people do. And very poor English, to boot

Living in denial is your worst enemy, l did, for 36 years until l ended up in a reharb due to alchoholism. I came out, well empowered in knowledge and my self esteem full blast ! Today l use my experience to help helpless women in my community. This is a good teaching aid .👏👏👏

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Terrible people 😑

Don’t I know it….Going through it rn. Divorce is inevitable!!!!

It's so sickening.

Ever heard of the justice system !! They treat humans like animals daily. And still ppl become pearl clutchers

Not surprising. It happens a lot.

@Keesha Ray, I understand your point, but sometimes the abuse don’t start until after you say “I do.” It’s hard and scary.

​@@helenahall4893 Physical abuse can start after saying Yes. But red flags happen much before that, the fact is only that the victim doesn't recognise them. And there is often a reason for that.

​@@helenahall4893i wish I was nearby to hug you. I am a victim

@@iks9120 That is not always true. I'm not asking you, but only people who have been in this situation personally understand. As a survivor, I heard the stories of so many women in the group I was in. Everything I thought I knew was wrong and I just couldn't believe it. I felt guilty because now I was in the same situation asking myself, how did I end up here.

@@roxannemohalland1055 Thank you. I pray that you are safe now.

you got that right, and it's all about control over their spouse..it took me a couple of years to finally escape my fear.they always find you somehow..

I'm not sure I but the story about having no control over their anger. It's true that some men snap at anything and anyone, but abusers are usually perfectly well able to control themselves in all social situations, reserving their meanness and violence for their home life alone.

I love ❤️ ur comments

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

​@yelenaangeleski3354 they control themselves doesn't mean they aren't always angry. They simply let all the toxic anger flow on the ones closest to them or rather the ones that gives them the "satisfaction" by cowering in fear.

Not the little girl imo

If you want to see a great child actor, watch "The Fall"

"The child acting in movies is usually unwatchable"😂 Most play better than some adults.

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The cast was phenomenal. Whoever played Robert nailed it too. He was legitimately scary….& the facial expressions were spot on.

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

God Bless you honey.💗💗💗🙏💗💗💗

@@maryhafner3462 How are you doing today pretty ?

I'm so sorry that happened to you

OMG, Sooo Not Fare To You.

I'm so sorry to hear this traumatic nightmare you went through, no child or woman deserves such violent and cruel behavior from a supposed loved one.

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I am so sorry my mom is dealing with similar and she’s 65

@@happinesssomewhere18 😢 I truly hope she finds the strength to leave and find some happiness ❤

Can't imagine how you feel

Cheer up dear,if you believe in Christ,call on Him,you will find good relationships which will fill in the void.wish you the best.

Yes, keep in touch

My mom was an abuser, because she was abused as a child, refused to help with my divorce,called me fat even as a 58 year old woman

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

Thanks for the 'spoiler', i really appreciate it, nearly didn't watch because I thought it would be too sad....per title.

I sure would of got one thing straight with his new girlfriend let her know she is not my kids mother and never will be stay away from me and my kids I don't care how she feels about me she is not there mom😒 this was mine before her let them all know period.

My dad would have killed him the first time he laid a hand on me.

And he'd be on death row for first degree murder

So you like a weak dad over q protective one?

@@CS-uc2oh not as weak as this comment

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He's lashing out at his own demons.

Lucky you -not to have any experience of it. Thats how it should be but Narcissists exist,

Word up

I too hope she and the children are okay. Ten years doesn't seem near enough for a creep like him.

@@lynnjudd9036 Yes, exactly! Merry Christmas to you from the other side of the world. 😊

In those years domestic violence was a minor issue so 10 yrs would fit the bill i guess...its now lately that women are finding their feet and a few gud men who have decided to stand up and put this vicious crime on the front post why its now looked on as an actual crime

I hope all is well

Me too I am curius to know about it

Absolutely!!! I wish our mum never got married and never had us! I always felt this when I was very little and hiding from our drunk dad, trying to hurt us. I'd ask god why did he give us such horrible life? We did not ask for it! All I wanted was to come home from school and find the house is tidy and there's some food to eat but the reality was always the opposite. Abnormally of that life was so evident to me and I'd often sit on the bed, which my belongings packed, thinking of getting the train to my grandparents but I didn't have the fare of course. I regretted not running away just anywhere!

Yeap me too 😅

Did you see the rainbow caused by the sprinklers as his car drove off? 🌈

​@@alienblackgoo_gleafter seeing this i went back and i did see the rainbow🌈thanks

And you've been dealing with him AND his trauma for 25 years! Thought you could heal him?!

@Energy ya something isn't right

Violence and abuse is a human problem, not specific to one sex.

@@sheilasmith7779 It's sin.

@@PotterSpurn1 Of course human violence and abuse is sin. Who says it isn't?

The front,5% 1/

Yes I agree dose not she and Michelle fifer look so much alike

She only made it by her looks and last name.

Yes she is... sorry I have never heard her name before but this her third movie I am watching. Very good acting indeed.

Agree.Her and Donna mills (she also played a wife abused by her husband..(corbin Bernsen) Dangerous Intentions.Another true movie very well acted by all concerned,

Thriller and action movies

True I have witnessed this 😢

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

Word up.😬😬😬😬😬

It's a true story

She looks like Charlie Therone

​@@MP-bw6vuI see it

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So agree

Oh my god. Am so sorry. I hope one day that p.o.s gets what's coming to him and u find peace, healing and justice

That's so horrible! Why don't they put him in jail and with all the police reports and say someone seen him do it. He should be in prison for all that s... he put you through.

In a situation like that should take on a grandmother maiden name, I guess he may be able to find you through social security number. I suppose maybe, it is just a thought, don't know if something like that would work. 🤔

What a psychopath, sending you prayers of safety and peace.

If only you knew. If you are not that type of person, you don't think as they do, and you can never out think them, because you have morals. You can only defensively react to what they've done to you- my mail was stolen in January with all of my tax paperwork, my renewed driver's license...so it's become identity theft, too. In the last month, I've been assaulted twice by people I don't know. The police are part of the problem, because they are friends. I'm not from this area. I will now have to change my social security number, I have had to call all agencies ... I will change my name, again.I did once already.. Being married to this man- and his family, his pals, cronies, his school mates from kindergarten even,- just for 3 years, became a life sentence for my daughter and myself. Turns out he had done this before, and his daughter from the first marriage went through a similar ordeal as us- but, the courts never allowed his violent history into our case.

I know! I had a very hard time the first few viewings of this movie because he does so well as a nice guy character.

Very good accord I agree with you

I had a huge crush on Jameson Parker when he was on Simon & Simon. From Ms. Harper Stacey.

Another movie where Jameson Parker plays a good guy is Violation of Trust, with Katey Sagal. That's a great movie, about following the truth, wherever it may lead.

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

Different times, unfortunately around that time they would get a less sentence compared to today however I wouldn't be surprised if Robert connections/money helped too.

Life in prison was fitting, he is a danger to society, the definition of evil.

Me too, lost hearing from Menieres disease

Brilliant suggestion! Major blessings to you.

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All ways listen to your parents..they know what is best!!

Any man that argues with a woman using logic is a fool.

Amen!!!

Its still fiction. Reality is stranger than fiction. I know, as a women I've been there. Stayed single after divorce and children are grown up. Don't forget reality is stranger than happy ever after. 😢😕💕

@@myunknownland9272 This story is not fiction. It is based on the real life case of Robert and Linda Edelman. You can read all about it if you google their names. There are 10 million people abused in domestic abuse cases. A third of all women have experienced it. And, those are just the ones who have reported it.

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This was from the 90s.

Wonderful actors, back then

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How do you remember those times when your were a toddler

@@NimaTube1 I was 4 and it’s burned into my memory. That will never go away. We lived in Lake Havasu City. 115 degree weather, black pavement, burning hot enough to cook and egg on the sidewalk, my mom ran for help, I followed her, barefoot

@@olivedog1880 Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

@@NimaTube1 Asked grandmother about a house we lived in with green steps; she said I was 18 mos. old. & shocked I remembered (we weren't there long). Amazing the things kids can remember 🌿

It's hard to c him n a serious role i seen him in another serious role, lol

I am glad you are okay. What a terrible thing to endure.

And he aged spectacularly ❤

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

Based on my encounters with my co-genders, most of us do tend to always get involved in everybody's lives.

But she’d still have the same personality!

@@SELIMNIVEK how was her personality?

@@tam1729 probably the same, just can’t get those rolls again!

She played a bad girl in vows of deception really good movie

She did some what I felt her folks should have been alittle more Humble with her her friend wasn't a good friend at all

YES I HAD 25 YEARS OF IT AND REARED 5 SONS , BEFORE I GOT THE SENCE NEVER TO GO TO MY MOTHER FOR HELP . I JUST LEFT AS SOON AS MY YOUNGEST GOT A APPRENTIST & LEFT HOME . my second tried to hire someone to shoot me . i wish those laws were in australia .

What's more frightening is what can happen to your kids. My neighbor use to run to me for help. Best advise is run for it and become incognito.

@@sandyfreyman3501 This is so true. People have real difficulty understanding the risk and what it takes to keep the victim and children safe. Run and go incognito is the best way. Police and the courts are often not helpful.

@@fpbsix no one has that right to judge someone going through that he'll. But you make that best decision about getting outta there

@@fpbsix thank god your here to tell the story 🙏🏽 god bless you

Simple music can make you sing simple hug can make you feel better simple things can make you happy, i hope my simple Hello brings smile to your face.

he only cared about himself. he did not care for anybody else.

Narcissist s never change.

I agree!

So true especially the part where he was saying to the new woman " this is the bitch I was telling you about" that part made me so angry

That kind of man is incapable of loving anyone.

I'm surprised I'm not dead. I'd pick up something and give it right back. I rang his bell but good one time and knocked him clear across the room.

Yes pure evil 😈 he will be judged

You Deserve it.

I mean yeah it is abuse when somebody’s physically touching you yeah it’s time to go but arguing in a relationship is actually normal because I’ve never met a couple I’ve never argue that all Eric couple argues but like me my boyfriend here we have fight we have arguments but he never puts me down and we have five sooner for me down you know who walk away from each other in the winter cold up we talk it out and you know we make apologies of need to be or whatever but you know for the most part and we don’t really fight over big things though it’s always a little things or whatever but is there for his hands I mean I’ve been with him for over 10 years he never puts his hands on me and I’m sorry but most people I know in their relationship again argues because you know when you were somewhere all the time you have disagreements and we’re both stubborn so yeah the same time I can always count on him an appointment because you the way point out because you can’t FaceTime about it normal arguing and unless you know I don’t get that unless you sit there and called your name is Sylvia then that’s abuse if he’s calling you names and all that stuff and putting you down in the argument yeah that’s wrong but again I’ve never seen a couple that never argues that all there’s no such thing to me as a relationship that I don’t have some arguments but yeah there are some relations we don’t argue at all Mimi my boyfriend and argue at first then I’ll be together for a while in fact we just are arguing Merritt for the last couple years that’s when we start arguing but then when I moved in with him where she was five years ago with her arguing and then I moved in with him I don’t know now we don’t argue at all I think we were just stressed out when we didn’t live together when we moved in together was like everything got better and I were able to work out a problem we have and I mean like with the house and stuff and finances of stuff and get things done get our bills done everything

@@tammiepage6489 I agree that arguments in a relationship are normal. But I didn’t explain my situation well. He was mentally abusive and a very mean alcoholic. I believe marriage is forever and fought for mine more than you know. Seven years after my divorce and still grieving the loss of my family unit. Tears fall as I speak of it. To this day he will still say he doesn’t care and that simply not true. Anyway please understand I fought hard to keep my family together. He fought to keeping drinking every single day we were married for over 20 years and know and dated him since 1984. In the beginning it was a couple beers after work, turned to at least a 12 pack and up to even a case on any given day off. He couldn’t stop, doesn’t want to stop and chose it above his family. Every day!!!! I begged and pleased for even one day but it was impossible for him. He has a sever illness and refuses any treatment. Little by little tearing apart all we had built together. Im not saying Im perfect just broken and sad, very sad. I already lost a son to SIDS and mot sure if thats when things got worse. But it wasn’t healthy to be told the thing he said even if in my heart I knew it wasn’t true. The decision took years ti make and always had my boys best interest at heart. I even gave him our dream house so my boys were not traumatized any more than had to be. Its been hard for all of us. I would not ever recommend divorce, ever. But there has to come a point where a person can only take so much abuse… trust me a still hurt every day!!

Self defense comes first never be with protection.