yes indeed beautiful story

Absolutely beautiful. The love they have for each other is wonderful to see.

Yeah that's one good thing. Next.

I wish my daughter would keep a relationship going with her siblings like this.

This part is truly amazing.

there are some problems here only God can figure

We know that they still love us and we love them too. But there is something about being raised by another person.

So true..we can't expect children to continue what the parent have started.. children are individual of their own..

True. I noticed something in the beds of younger sisters. There are pictures of everyone but not mother and father. Maybe I'm wrong but you can't blame them if it's true.

@@ameraagao4423 That's what I tell my friends and family. Our dreams are not our children' dreams. So stop building dreams for our children. We need to encourage them to build their own dreams and support them where needed or possible. I have come across People Who are so disappointed thst when their children finished their education, do help their parents fulfil their parents dreams but start a life of their own.

Truth ❤

Yes.

Really? That's a really good update

Thanks for the update, I wonder was he able to help his parents even though he followed his own heart..

That’s a wonderful update..so happy to hear he follow his dreams even though it will make his parents unhappy. I grew up almost the same only I’m a girl and my parents expect me to marry and have many children. I too follow my heart and dreams. My parents were not happy and disowned me for many years. I’m still happy at the choices I made. I don’t know where I’d be if I didn’t follow my dreams for better education and life!

Smart decision he follow his dream and happiness.

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So beautifully documented. Truly, this deserves an award. While we feel the heartbeats of the parents, the children too deserves a break...

The only thing I can say is that I am truly sorry. So sad. The young man is the miracle and didn’t even know it.

Deserved best documentary film 🎥

SAD STORY 😢

@@gracenorman8994 an unspoiled family who have spread out and when they meet, they struggle to speak to each other, not sharing a common language. It is beautiful and it makes my heart ache with tenderness for them...

True so the lives evolve.... and the society development happens.....

One day when they are 60 years. Their hearts would bring them back. By then their parents would not be there anymore. Sad.

@@goskaes5468 You are so right. They didn't raise their children. They didn't feed and provide for them. They left them at an orphanage, with good reason perhaps. And those children should not be shamed into returning, also with good reason.

@@PeterSimonYiu,nobody knows if they gonna reach their 60,nor me and you. Only God knows.

don't be sorry for the father in my opinion he done that so when they grow up strong come back to work on the fields the back breaking work, so his attentions were not realy good...

Why don’t you marry him

This is remarkably documented , family values even when left at the hands of an older brother with a soul of an " Elder beyond his years " . He quite literally raised his sisters to believe in the depth of Love and Respect for their family who literally were dropped off at an orphanage one by one. I understas nd the belief in our traditions, holding on in what we've been taught , what worked . But, when it that tradition fails us us we must modify it for our childrens safety and future generations to carry on. One question... why couldn' his parents move to a closer village to help them? Or request help from those villagers their father was so dedicated to ? He was truly respectful of his children's decisions. The photography and the documentary was

Were excellent. So true to even modern day societies in isolated areas etc.I should stop here... I can not stop crying . It is not in isolated areas . It is and can be your next door nieghbors

Even their parents abandoned them.they ate going nsvk

That's true love

he said she would look 40. .your brain changed it for your own thoughts.

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@@user-nb8cp2wj1m After he said she would look 40, later he did say she looked 40. Watch that bit again.

I agree. I cried when he walked three days to meet them and 10 days to drop them off.

He is a true father!

159 likes, 0 thumbs down. Maybe there's hope for this world yet!

I totally agree. I'm just so happy he stood his ground and followed his heart. I cant imagine how hard it was to say no to his parents.

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ungrateful they all are. they didnt like feeling guilty about their laziness and couldnt wait to leave.

They should start a go fund me

😭😭😭😭

not so sure about the father being the "hero" of the film. His wife is left doing ALL the freaking back-breaking task of working the land - he can afford the "equanimity": he's not the one crushed by all the burdens! & he is emotional actually-very affectionate & also in tears when they leave...glad the whole family appears to have come through in the end- & that the sisters received their education! Yaaaaay!

@@desertkhaat I respect your point of view.. and that’s a different perspective and it is absolutely valid. But from what I understand is that, the father being a medical specialist sort of thing for the rural area and the kind of society where they lived i.e what the society thinks of you really matters to them , and they also try to lived upto that expectations , he has little choice to help out in the back-breaking task or say their normal hard labour lifestyles until and unless like an emergency like carrying their 2 kids for 10 days foot journey. He shed tears like a man but never over let out his emotion or try to kill their children’s dreams. Point to be noted here is we may both be wrong altogether in our assumption that the father is not toiling in the field as it is not so clearly bought out in the documentary. Best regards to you.

His father is a Buddhist, not only a believer but also a practitioner. He practices mantra when he is walking and sitting. You can see this when he counts the beads and rotates the mantra wheel (or some people call it "prayer wheel"). To understand him, we need to look into Buddhism. In Buddhism, the outside world that one sees is nothing but a reflection of his/her inner mind. This is the truth and all emotions come from the misunderstanding of this truth. Once a person realizes this, all emotions loss their power and cannot control you, just like you would not be amazed by any "flower in the sky".

I agree. This is so sad. Such decisions must be terribly hard on the children

Isn’t it written in the bio below the video? I think Pema is now working in the Netherlands and his younger sisters are going to college

@@leteasilence8288 I would still like to see them. And see a few short interviews. It would be great to check back in with them.

Wow, that is nice to read. But a documentary on them would be so nice.

He clearly loves children, because he greeted all the kids at the Kathmandu home and in the village. He will be a good dad one day.

I love this boy so much, smart and kind spirit .

Study for what… to become a better part of this whole corrupt system and all the daily miseries of urban life that comes with it. Maybe you are living a great privileged life and which is why you think that all the uneducated people are unappreciative of their lives!!!! Good god. U r much more ignorant than you may think you are. Seems you need to educate yourself much more.

@@6RGyan I am really sorry that you think everything is corrupted. I don't come from a wealthy family, but it didn't stop me from getting good education.

@@6RGyan Study for what? Your comment is absurd, blind and angry. There are so many fantastic jobs in the world which allows the people who have them, to help other individuals and entire communities. No one here is unappreciative of uneducated people, why would you even say that? They do jobs that are necessary, but who keeps the water coming to their villages and small towns? Engineers. Who keeps the drinking water clean? Science and more engineers. Who invents new equipment to make farming easier? More engineers. Whose education cut down the mortality rate in childbirth? Doctors. Who teaches them to read and write? Teachers? Who gave them access to the internet so they could get on youtube and scream about corrupt systems? IT Guys. You do NOT need to be wealthy to be educated and not all educated people live in urban environments. And not all urban environments are miseries. Break out of the little box you have put yourself in and explore the world.

Carrying a sick child in your back for a month to get them help shows he is dedicated to his children. I smiled when he was quick to offer to come get Sumchog because he remembered her as his weak baby. He is a healer but he couldn't help his own babies, and knew when to get outside help.

lazyDumbCat I was thinking the same thing about the father

This video made me cry, for everyone, I can only hope all are well and happy. I especially loved the Father, but wanted to hug the mother, she was so lost at times, beautiful video. Well done. Pema ik ben blij dat je besloten hebt terug te gaan naar Holland. Ik wens je allen veel geluk.

10 days is one way, and even then, it is in the more recent times with 2 short plane rides. Initially, it was 30 days one way and with Pema on piggyback. Imagine that and through th treacherous route

He walked for 30 days with him on his back to take him to the orphanage. That's a really good dad right there.

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You cannot mix rural life and education together. This man's mother is refusing to go with her son just because she is thinking for herself and what people will say if tradition is not continued. You cannot send your children to school and then expect them to remain rural and follow tradition. Tradition makes people slaves to themselves. It makes people dumb and blind. Some people cannot understand life in any other way. You can take a person out of a bush but you cannot take the bush out of person. I

@@isabelchu7063 some may say education makes one a slave to "self advancement" at the cost of all who've contributed to their upbringing.. disreguarding their sacrifices, no? There are many many aspects to this families situation and none here can make a final judgement on a proper outcome for these people. It saddens me either way. Maybe one day we will all make good and perfect decisions for ourselves and those we effect in our lives. Be blessed.

@@healthrecord508 thankfully you took the time for this post. Saying perfectly what i was thinking. There are always people judging. Looking at one side of things. It can't be helped its human nature. Built into the brain. A survival mechanism i believe. Nobody has the time or patience to look at both sides., or should i say many sides. For that you have my admiration!

@@isabelchu7063 very true. When they send them to another country it should have been expected that their mentally is not going to be the same. They are more broad minded and very educated.

@@healthrecord508 The moment the parents decided to send their kids to another country at a very young age, they should have prepared themselves that their children is not going to be the same. Do they really expect them to be same? They should have known that even before deciding to send them to another country. These kids adapted a different practices while growing, they were mold differently from their culture and practices.. Once a clay is molded and hardened, if you try to remold it, it will break. And I totally agree with the son, you cannot marry a person that you don't love.

And the fact that the Son actually recognise him because of his walking steps from a distance is amazing 😍😍😍😍

...and did you see Pema's whole expression as he took a long look at his father b4 boarding? I think he was surprised? (THAT got me.)🧐

I remembered earlier filmed when his father carried the son on his back hiked through the tough land so his son will have education and a better life.

Yes, when she decided to join her brother in the long journey home I realised how amazing her character is, and yes the father is a simple and good man. They are all amazing people, I don't blame their mother either, she suffers too, it is a long tradition there, it is a hard situation. When I read comments informing now the parents had already moved to the city, that means they have given up all their family property in the village, that has been passed for many generations, a hard decision that they cannot avoid, without a son to continue the tradition it's just impossible

@@yahyayahya9999 Theyve shouldve just kept the place and put it on Airbnb.

@@yahyayahya9999 The "Father" may seem a good man on the surface Yahya but a Man does not take a Hot Iron and Burn his Wife! No you are wrong. He is not a Good Man.

@@colleen2386 I was JUST going to say that! Thank you! That shit pissed me off when I saw it. The poor mother probably spends some nights crying herself to sleep. 😔

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Ya I agree with u. Nobody is left with any choice unless miracle happens as wat the young man hopes at the end of the filming

Inherited land from hundreds and hundreds of generations vs working daily to pay rent or mortgage on a home, or land. It's the old way vs the modern way. But soon we will all wish we had our own land. Man. This one had me in tears. I pray Pema can help his family AND follow his dreams.

@@cbrooke16 life doesn't have to be that way. Owning our own homes, working and saving, if people spent as little on extra things as that family did they would have much more money. Different worlds, we're raised very privileged for sure. However, owning our homes, hard work and enjoying life can all happen. We just need to remember what is most important to us and make it happen

Agree, my mom was the same as his mom. Always use guilt to make us do what she want.

@@lilyr7221 sad that you feel like that. Did you not feel her helplessness. Mothers are more attached to the land and home n her children. And life is hard up there. Western ways have become comfort way but there is hollowness too. Wish comforts could be created in those high altitudes to ease 5e life of women.

Hope the sisters too get good life.

Absolutely!

All things have ending sadly it’s a new generation that have to decide things are shifting quickly he could have asked more knowledge about their teaching and ways about the culture and wrote down to share with the future generations…

I totally understand them both,and all 2 is correct but how do u choose? I think he's a smart,ambitious and amazing person...marrying doesn't solve anything,yet I understand...I know he will help,the way he protects his sister's show he will be a great dad and husband...he's amazing ❤

I don't understand the parents. My children are my life, nor my land. I would follow them to the ends of the earth.

Amazing that you found it

Amazing! I would love to hear more!

I'm in tears right now😢😶

Yeah sure

is your family name gurung?

Am sure when the mother went back to the house she cried her soul out.

Yes, I can relate to that. In the USA, ppl forget how truly lucky they have it. Even if living in a slum neighborhood. You still have hot and cold water, electricity, and a firm roof over ones head. I shudder to think what life is like for the parents alone in winter months. The father leaves most of the time, to get supplies. The mother has to do all the labor. I am sick, I am a lung/heart patient. I can not imagine her torture. 😭

Stop whining and the fake virtue. If you feel this way, do something.

@@desiqueen2009 there’s a difference between privilege and entitlement. Unfortunately, many Americans today feel entitled to stuff, without contributing a thing in return. There are many poor people that contribute in their own community. We should all help the helpless, just not the clueless.

I live in Uganda and I suddenly feel like we are so blessed! And we generally want our kids to do better in life than were doing

@@motherofdragons5287 The mom has an option. Her son gave her one. Shes just stubborn.

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You're 26 but looks 60 too

Very honest words he said

Lowkey threw a verbal upercut.

The Only Son was sure kept busy. He gets his education alright. We all did.

I hated him for that, she did not deserve that belittling, what is wrong with him seriously… there’s way of putting things and he got no shame or respect for his sister.

Probably the film company

I'm guessing the wonderful Dutch family who adopted their sister! 🥰

Our life is so easy and we still complain.

I think the family from Holand.

the girl who had burn scar was adopted by a dutch n d younger by an american surely they were one of who funded it

6 siblings, the son, the first sister stayed behind and has three children daughters 2 and 3 (one went to the Netherlands and one to America, one of them is the burn victim ) cannot remember who is who, daughters 4 and 5 are growing up in the orphanage, or were, , as one daughter is back in America the other is back in the Netherlands along with the brother who is now achieving his dreams, the two daughters from the orphanage , one is in college and the other is finishing high school and plans to go to college, so basically one has remained as she always has, the other five are achieving their goals dreams, college etc

I wouldn't say selfishness, its all she knows and it is tradition in that culture. Its very sad for all of them!!

@@lspag7415 It really is sad. Unfortunately it's the reality in some cultures.

I agree I think she was very selfish and complained all the time tried to make her children feel guilty

It is easy to judge from the point of view of our own cultures.

@@jacey2c170 yeah.. i think their cultures should be preserved, living in the village like that, they can live happily, the reason of living is to do good things.. for own self, and people around us.. if we talk about modernization, it cant be applied there.. they dont need internet, electricity etc.. because what they have is enough.. maybe from others perspective, they missing alot of things, but life is short, we should embrace it.. not all the people should live in modern world.. like what looks "right" by others.. that is my 2 cents.. :)

Lack of education is not always to blame. My mother, for instance, had the privilege to be very well educated, but has always had the same kind of attitude towards me and my brothers as the mother in this documentary. Sadly, so many parents around the world think that they own their children´s souls and that their children have the obligation to live as they want them to live and even to feel as they want them to feel.

@@mariavaleriagiacaglia8974 You're right. Children's obligated to take care of their parents (from asian cultures views) as well as their current family if they're married. But as a children also have their life and future to live. This is a situation with a lot of burden and hard to decide.🙏

@@yvonnegoodgridge6693 They aren't afraid of heights they grew up in the mountains. The mother only knows one way of life, she doesn't get to leave the village. Only the father does. She isn't educated about different birth control methods, so she feels that is her destiny.

Beautiful part of the world but life is very hard. Yes I agree with you and it's very sad I wish them all the very best, and like to think the son will do well in his life and help his parents in someway.

All the parents have same future rich or poor.

@Jessica Jones i think she replied him in her sheer frustration as he was not convinced to stay and marriage, no women will be keen to produce 20 kids as even giving birth to one child is physically very painful.

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U must be indian and who knows how hard this stupid culture is. I am Afghan and family pressure is way too much. Me and my other siblings are being mentally tortured bec we have moved one step forward while parents stuck in same traditions. I always ask my family why did they even gave birth to us? Is it brc girls will marry and so will boys and daughter in law take care for whole life. Even daughters as well. Otherwise u will be considered as bad kids and disowned. I hate these cultures bec i only know what i am going through.

Me too All the film I was crying

So Am I

Amazing Father!!!

Me too.....amazing good family

My feeling exactly!

The father knew to get them out. He knew that was their only hope.

It was get out or die. The strongest child, the oldest girl, who had neither sickness nor accident, was granted a lifetime of pregnancy, childbirth, hard work and misery

Catherine Robillard but she wasn't miserable. She never said that. It's the only world she knows. You are assuming she is miserable from your point of view and it's very biased. She did say that she believed her brother would be happier there if he married. I think she was happy and fine with her life as is because she never claimed to want to escape.

@@lalam3877 I agree, and though it was painful to watch the two worlds colliding, she at least was happy with her one and only decision.

unfortunately, if she follows his advice she may end up where her parents are....They had many children, but only 1 son survived & the daughters flung to the 4 winds. Now, none want to come back & help because they are no longer acclimated to living there. If the sister stops having children (already 2 have died out of 5) the others may not live & she will have no one to help her as she ages. I am not saying it is right or wrong, but Pema is in his situation precisely because there were not enough Strong Offspring left. In the west it is very hard for us to understand this - we encourage our kids to go out into the world, & even if we do not, the public school system is always working on this....we don't have as much of a cultural heritage to keep up. Pema's family seems to own quite a bit of land & it is Pema's heritage. If he does not follow his parents' wishes, generations of struggle to hold onto wealth goes up in smoke. I am saying this from my own perspective as one who is residing, & carrying on, traditions in my own family homestead. I live on property & run a farm that my ancestors came to during the Irish immigration. without me & my husband carrying it on, it would go out of the family. I feel a huge debt of gratitude to my ancestors & my immediate family - to make them proud. And I am only holding on to something 200+ years old. I can not imagine Pema's father's feelings on this. I think parents (in regions like this) make the mistake that if they send their kids for education, they will come back & make things better. america found out all about that at the turn of the century. Once kids leave the farm, so to say, they never come back to keep the culture/traditons alive. Sad for both sides.

@Guddi Shah I can see that. But all that girl wants is an acknowledgement that her mum wants and needs her.

@@therealkat2480 I think they mentioned later in the video that the sister is around 15?

The sister that stayed is 26 the 2nd youngest daughter is 15

So sad but yes, that situation is so painful ...dressing the hair by the mum and manipulating the girl's emotions...so cruel.

@@monikapol100this woman is a narcissist

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It certainly is very special, isn't it. An honest story about hundreds/thousands of years of culture and tradition colliding with our modern world. Breathtaking surroundings unfolding to a way of life that is hard for many to understand. There are many judgemental comments - I wish for those people to walk a mile in someone else's shoes and try to truly understand the dilemmas this story raises. This family has worked it out, it's their lives and their story and it is not up to us to judge. Nepali/Tibetan people are quite unique.

It is indeed! Blessed is the woman who become Pema's wife one day!

I got hooked

I didn’t think I would watch the whole thing. I hop the entire family is okay.

I’m glad I stayed and watched! I understand everyone’s viewpoint and

Well said...

I grew up in the city, but weekends were in my grandparents business farm, love it! That was the only place family really enjoy each other, in the city where we all live including my grandparents, it was so MUCH tension! Maybe bz we were disconnected from nature an the farm animals. Nothing like nature!

Why did you choose to come to the US? All of them liberal politicians say it's such a systemically racist horrible country capitalism is terrible they should be socialist why would you want to come to the u.s.? Am I right all the liberal politicians say how terrible the u.s. is how broken it is how bad the system of capitalism is why would anybody want to come here especially from another country so they can get a good education I would you want to do that?

The birth parents did not bring up their children. They put them in a children’s home and they were adopted. The mother now wants them back to serve her. I cannot relate to the word ‘love’, how does it apply?

@@sarabrant723 I am American. The USA is always represented so poorly to outside nations. We have more freedoms here than anywhere else in the world. We have the right to capitalism and free trade, so we can decide what kind of lifestyle we want to have by our own efforts and talents. Granted there are some cons to our country, but overall it is the best place to live. We are blessed to live without being oppressed or persecuted for our beliefs and goals. Who wouldn’t WANT to live here?!

@@grey-op2pc Thank u so much for taking the time to read and reply to my comment ❤️ and about your case, I think your parents are just a little bit afraid of everything "new" the new generation wanna search, it's kinda normal for the older generation because as you said they just don't usually think "outside their world" and they probably think of all the bad things it could go wrong so their thinking is "it's better no to face those difficult things" and stay were they are right now because it's like their comfort place they know, they are just afraid of what they don't know. But as you said you can change that mentality in your family and make a difference!! Prove that women are as capable as men and that you really want you reach your dreams too!! :D I also really hope you to reach you goals 😊

Right. I almost kept forgetting he was a child in this. He is very wise and mature. And old soul of sorts.

Let the parents make his own decisions. Please parents leave him alone.

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“That’s a terrible thing to say. Look at what you have been through. When ever I see you you’re always working….Look at your hands. Look at your face. You’re 26 but you look like you’re 40. I sent our sister to school SO THEY WOULDN’T BECOME LIKE YOU.” Where is the respect there?

This documentary shows how selfish the western culture is...all the children exposed to the west speak about what's good for self everyone else speaks of the family...very tragic situation...the parents didn't understand the family suicide they were committing sending their children away.

His mother isn't ying to impart morals or beliefs, she is being manipulative

I don't think there is a proper follow-up, exactly, but if you read the full description it includes some updates on where everyone is now (or at least where everyone was when the update was written). There's also information on how one can support villagers like Pema's family, including educational opportunities for the kids. I'm going to try searching on Google using info from the description to see if I can find more current info on both Pema and his siblings, as well as his village back home.

love will always find a way this makes me cry 😢god bless them

Torn between two cultures means if the 15yo sister stays after high school in the village, she will have up to 12 children and be in the same position as her parents with no income and a lot of mouths to feed! That's not why the parents sent the children away! Second, out of their six children, they only kept one, sent two abroad for treatment and three stayed in boarding school. The two sent abroad are too ill to stay at the family farm while the kids who are in school have no idea how to farm and look after the animals. It's a tragedy really!

Their father met them when they where 3days away from home.. he's very excited to see his children 🥺

I thought before I saw it I pitied the kids being torn away from their beautiful homeland and culture. But when I saw the life of the one poor sister left behind I was glad they got away. Her own children will have no education and a life of slaving for barely the basics. However it's a tragedy for the poor parents who loved them enough to give them away (as a parent I know it's the ultimate in love). What a heart rending story. The world Bank needs to step in to preserve these cultures. Mum should open a B n B for long term visitors who want to centre themselves, heal their weight issues a million problems inner city people have (and we do. My kids spend all day on a computer, have no family or even friendships outside school, get no excercize etc and we live in a dirty city, poor by Western standards we've no way out. Their problems can be life threatening but the number of suicides and alcoholism stemming from loneliness and ill health, obesity, addiction etc I've seen, so do we in the west have our, different, issues. Remember the westerners who adopted them were wealthy & middle class. Also they own their own land, something in the UK poor people could only dream about. In London only the rich even have a garden to grow their own veggies.

I would love to see the more of this excellent documentary

dorjeartsyakgirl ~ US sister instagram you can see their dad, he is doing great looks the same. their life is better now. pema.prima ~ Pema instagram he lives in Amsterdam sumchogkersbergen ~ sister in Netherlands

I understand this was posted two years ago, just read it last night, just wondering what happened to them now. I hope they can up date.. thank you, really nice to know some other part of the world...

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Henri, you said "you can't imagine position yourself as Pema"......just ask any middle to lower income group Asian friend, you will find not the same, but similar position.....I know. But it is expected in our culture for children to look after our aged parents in old age....and we do it gladly. Things are different now, the new generation want to live their dream. It is good but that's why Pema is struggling to decide.

They want a better life u can keep that and have a deep respect from who and what u came from that what shape them to do better not only for themselves but to heal there people.

True!

Exactly, he sees that it's a cycle, a very hard life. If he fulfills his mom's wishes then he will have to have many children and hope some will take care of him and his wife when they grow old, when he knows he would really want his children educated and following their own dreams. Breaking this cycle is the best thing he can do for him. I wish the while family luck and love

Yeah that's true, a lot of family leaving in the mountains with no education at all ,parents force their children to get married at the early age,

@Michelle Therese, the young man is one of the 10 children that the mother sent to an orphanage. If it's so freaking important that the male child the "only one to have the responsibility" to take care of the parents, then the mother should not have sent him to the orphanage. Being away from his native home and growing up in the orphanage, he learned a whole new way of thinking and that he wants to love the person he marries. Makes perfect sense to me.

What a wonderful family reunion ❤

GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. PURSUE YOUR DREAMS IN LIFE AND GOD will make all your dreams come true.

Wow, guilt is the price you pay for freedom...I never thought of that. Very well put.

You have verry right. I have the same guilt in my hart and that's why I'm agree with you. But the point is: this guilt is not natural, like a normal feeling developed inside person's hart. It is put it there by the analfabet mother.An animal who defence their elderness. Emotional manipulation (this is how I call it) . This is why I think: There is someone to blame! sorry..I will stop here...:) couse I have 20 retorical question...

He probably didn’t want her to waste more of her children lifes

Exactly,how wonderful to have a brother like that,who cares deeply for his sister''s.

Until I read your post, I wasn’t going to continue watching. The parents, the mother especially were very manipulative in telling him to “come home/to marry/take care of them/Drs saying her heart condition is all due to him…”as a medical professional, I can say that this would never be stated nor is a diagnosis. I can’t imagine the weight on these children at that time, nor any child due to the manipulation or coercion. Totally different world, I could never do this nor expect anything other than hopes of a great education, healthy lives, happiness and love for my children of whom have accomplishments and are out of the nest. I see even more so how blessed I truly am

@@emaulinecox5543 it may seem that way to us.... but remember, that is ALL they know. they never left before... so by telling their children to come back and get married, they truly believe that is the best for them in their hearts. they don't understand the detriment of it. so we should just observe and accept it for what it is. its not our place to judge different cultures, however, Pema is from that culture and he is doing a great job of bringing awareness about other ways of life as we can see here in this film. 🙂

​@@emaulinecox5543I felt the same way watching this. The mother was especially manipulative.

God bless them

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Yes they so kind to help those children

Sorry to disagree but to me they are the selfish parents who first, "leave" their children under the care of an institution until they are lucky enough to be adopted and when the hardest job is done (rise them, educate them and give them a good life) the parents show up again demanding what they think they are entitled. It amazes me ( and I am glad for the children) that they do not seem to have any hard feelings towards their parents. Of course, most of the problems could have been resolved with education (sexual one too) for the parents, what is the point of having children when you well know that you cannot feed them

​@@fgr3926 It wasn't selfishness or laziness! It wasn't lack of food! It was medical care they were lacking. The eldest had a serious back problem needing an operation, and one had a burn wound on the forehead that wouldn't heal. Being adopted by Westerners was their only way to get the medical help they needed. The son almost died from measles. Five of the mother's babies did not even survive. And the second oldest daughter, married and living on the family land, has lost three babies. The parents finally moved to Kathmandu themselves because of their health issues as they became elderly.

​@@fgr3926 I have to agree with the issue of having so many children when the means of providing for them are beyond what the parents can afford. My father grew up in a very rural part of Taiwan in the 1950s/1960s. He was one of 6 children, which is mind boggling to me. I cannot claim to know much about the culture shown in this documentary but as for my father's, both of his parents were from poor families and it appears the way of life then was that parents would arrange marriages between their kids. My grandmother (my father's mom) only finished primary school and it seemed no one valued education for girls; there was no prospect for a poor girl except to marry her off or else she would be another mouth to feed. The strangest part was my grandmother and grandfather didn't even see each other for the first time in-person until the day of the marriage. I can only imagine what it must have been like; meeting a complete stranger and just being expected to be the person's spouse and live and share a bed with him/her. For them, I think it was both lack of sex education and access to birth control so they kept having babies, but also that was just the way of life and how things were done. My father doesn't even know his real birthday because his parents waited a month before putting him on the family registry (and they did the same with all their other children) because they needed that month to be sure he was in the clear (even though he was born healthy). Back then, the infant mortality rate was high.

@@fgr3926 In many traditional rural communities that live off farming, such as the one portrayed in this documentary, having multiple children has nothing to do with the lack of sexual education. It is a survival mechanism that allowed these cultures to thrive for centuries. There is no shortage of food there but just not enough hands to harvest crops and tend to farm animals. Traditionally, all children would stay within the tribe and help their parents harvest the fields and process the food as they age and their physical abilities and health diminish. They had nowhere to go and everything was in perfect balance. Increasing globalization and developing transportation links make it easier for people to move from one place to another, access education, and live a life that was out of their ancestors’ reach, simply because they did not have the means to get from A to B unless they chose to walk some unimaginable distances to get to where they needed to be, just like Pema’s father did when he carried him and his sister through the Himalayas to Kathmandu on his back for a month. Pema’s parents faced additional challenges when three out of their six children fell seriously ill, and they made, what was, I can imagine, a very difficult but also the only right and anything but the selfish decision to part with them in order to save their lives. With this, Pema and his two sisters also got a chance to get an education and realize their potential in other parts of the world. Yes, all to the detriment of their parents, but this is a phenomenon that has been happening across the globe for centuries. This documentary captured the moment in this transition where the tradition clashes with globalization. Which way to go is a personal dilemma on an individual level for those involved, but on a global scale, this is inevitable as this is how the world works - time goes forward, not backward. These rural communities will gradually adapt to the ever-changing world as they always have been. It may mean moving closer to bigger cities and having smaller families. One day they may even completely abandon these remote locations. The same transitions have been happening in all well-developed countries, but they are happening faster as it’s often easier to move across different locations. In many modern countries where this transition has been completed, it’s no longer the poor who live in rural locations - it’s now those from the upper strata of society who are residents there as they can afford this or/and afford to commute to the places they need to be at. This extraordinary documentary is not about quarrels between a mother and a son. It portrays the complexity of social and cultural changes that have been shaping the world for many years and will continue to do so for centuries to come. As tempting as it may be, passing judgment on any of the individuals featured here is probably not the most accurate response to the story.

They haven’t done anything but had too many babies they could not afford and want somebody else to do what they should have done. They want him to come back home to marry some cousin so the money trail will come to them THESE PEOPLE ARE MASTERS AT USING FOR MONEY. And I should know!!!!!

To have a more nuanced view, it helps to think of it in terms of the way their society is set up. Despite the idea that we tend to have about parents who "give up" their children, we have to remember that they spent a MONTH traveling for each child who was sick/injured and placed them in a children's home because it was *literally* the only way the kids could get the medical care they needed in order to live. This is also a society that doesn't have much in the way of professional elder care services (and considering the parents had to give up their children for adoption in order to ensure their kids got appropriate medical care, it's unlikely they could have afforded it regardless); you have to rely on your children for this. I certainly won't claim the parents are perfect and blameless, but it's just a complex mess of a situation.

​@@SupremeViolaHaving a baby is a selfish act. To give birth to a child in poverty, illness, and extremely difficult life is even greater selfishness. Send the child to an orphanage where you don't know what will happen to the child. In an orphanage, children can be offended, beaten, and raped. Now that someone saved and raised the children, parents want the children to return, live in the most difficult conditions, marry a stranger and hate life, this is an extreme degree of selfishness.

​@@4Dwooorldwake up too reality, you survive and procreate that is the law of nature

Yes. Very manipulative, wether she realizes it or not.

@@gailwalker6872 Well, thank you for saying it, coz I thought I was the only one who had a reaction to her manipulation. I’m so happy he chose to live for himself and that he’s found success and happiness. Such an endearing young man who “fathered” his younger sisters when they, too, were feeling abandoned. He certainly deserves the best the world has to offer.♥️😊

Complete, awful manipulation. Telling him that when they die it will be his fault, and they didn't even raise him. They kept the 'strong' daughter to help them work. Parenthood is not about what you can get from your children. You raise them in love, as I have my five, and it is painful to see them go, but it is the way life is. What mother would ever want that life for their child, in a culture that they don't even know? Good Luck to the kids, may they be happy. He offered to help them in Katmandu, but his mother wants to drag him back to a way of life that is too ancient and remote. My kids all live away, but I raised them all. Yes, I, like millions of mothers all over the world, cry after a visit, and feel pain. However, I don't fill them with guilt and misery

Right? As if the doctor told her that her health problems are because her son won’t marry. Honestly, she seems very selfish..., she didn’t even raise him!probably good the majority of the kids all lived away from their parents, and were not pushed around.

@@niki4013 Absolutely agree. Your children aren’t a commodity to be used as and when you want

Letting your children go, because you love them, is the most selfless and painful thing to do. Its a decision that few will ever understand.

My parents had to let me go, all by myself, 2 weeks after my 13th birthday. Their loving and selfless sacrifice saved me from living under the tyranny of Communism! I never saw my father again! He died in Cuba 11 years after I left! Forever grateful Papi!

True👍

may god bless you on your jouney so with your family I wish you can reach yougoal in life good luck son

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This film is amazing the young man in this film deserves all support. May God grant you sll your wishes son

It was her only life because the parents didn't send her away they kept her there.

I felt so bad for her when he said that and she dropped her head.

They sent him off to live in the western world but now that they want him back, they're trying to persuade him to return to the land of his roots. He will die there, spiritually. He has tasted a different life. He cannot stay there...his soul will die. He has out grown his parents culture.

@@Emy53 I also pity him. Still does not give him a right to insult and hurt his older sister like that. The sister did not have a choice.

@@silentassassin1399 I don't think it was meant like that. He's just pointing out what a hard life she's lived. They aren't inundated by the artificial beauty standards that we are, so she's not insulted, IMO. I don't think his sister took it too hard. The idea of living in the city's just so far outside the box for her, she can't grasp it.

He offered to help his parents more if they met him halfway and moved to Kathmandu, which still would have meant he would have had to stop studying in Holland. They refused. They sent all of their children but one to live elsewhere. They still have her for company. The rest all grew up living a different life, and are no longer adapted to living in that village. I understand that his Father doesn't want to give up his ancestor's land, but it's too early to make decisions about that. (In the future, one of the sons or sons-in-law of his daughter who lives nearby might even be grateful to inherit that land.) Women marry at 16 there, and their oldest child is under 20. They can't be much older than their late thirties, so this isn't about them getting old. I'm decades older than them and still nowhere near my dotage. This isn't about old age or needing help. It's a power struggle.

@@robinlillian9471 VERY WELL SAID !

@@robinlillian9471 let's not pretend they'll live as long without access to Healthcare. They ARE old. Relatively

@@robinlillian9471 well they look old as hell!

@@robinlillian9471 Life is a constant power struggle.

Very true. Breaking the chain is a must.

Tradition induced poverty. That’s exactly what it is. Thank you for stating it like that. When your culture makes you sick, is it worth staying in. Many can say the same for social media and western greed. Everything in moderation is best. What the son is showing is that family happiness and health is more important than tradition. I agree. And sometimes breaking the bonds of toxic people, even if they are family is the only way forward.

@Nenethegreat W ur not the only one with a story. It is tradition induced poverty when the parents insist on carring on their traditions at the expense of their children's future economic well being. My grandma told me about our family tradition to marry off the females for a dowry. & the promis of future endowments. In the beginning of this family tradition there was a lot of land, precious metals, live stock & precious gems & stones. But not so after the Spaniards & Europeans took most of the country's wealth & robbed families. Still they had a mind set, & they continued the tradition even though there was noting to give or trade. It took several generations to bend & break those traditions so i could have. Yeah it's traditional poverty perpetuated...ignorance & fear.

@Nenethegreat W You're missing the point and taking this WAY too personally Luv, they presented the Mother as an absolutely miserable, unhappy person who believes life is about duty/sacrifice and because SHE had to get married, take care of a family & her elders as well as the fields, she wants her kids to suffer through it too and then subsequently take care of her. She's the type of person who will NEVER be happy no matter what you do for her, a truly miserable human being. This isn't about country mouse vs the big city, this is about people who want to receive an education and move up in the world and to make their own decision/choices.

I understand your thinking, but,. His freedom couldn't happen without the sacrifice of his parents,. ...it is a catch 22 situation, but he isn't going into a World if loving kind people, he will have to face the hatred and the cruelty of orejudice, if he gets married,. The likelihood of divorce is very high,. and raising rebellious selfish children who in the end won't worry too much about him.... The world he left behind is certainly impoverished, but it has all the human feelings that we need to be to feel loved and safe.

Peay for you and your parents

Pray for you and your family!

Wow! That's awesome! So happy for your success! You're so blessed!

Luv Yaarrr & your family David So Happy that heard your success God Bless

she watched it before

@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน i think that mother is so selfish and cruel blaming her son for her ill health. They never raised their children why should he give up his education and life to look after his parents.

Yes ut is heart broken

@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน this!

don't blame her mother. they know nothing about the world.. all she knows is she can't support all her children to get education so she let them get in the orphanage thinking her child will have good health, food, new clothes and hoping one day they will succeed in life and support the family..

Good perspective, that maybe No One could be blamed so much as the fact that it’s a tough life with a lot of tough things to deal with.

But the parents want their kids to come back and repeat their lives all over again. One of the sisters is seriously considering it. A lot of the time it’s not just the circumstances that makes you live a difficult life.

That Nepal region of women are very pretty and attractive looking

@@davidallen346 maybe what we saw is good heart, sincere honesty person, and beautiful inner heart yet humble woman, that rare we saw now in modern city Our, in middle of this modern toxic. . Cringe Instagram, til tok, twitch, only fans kind of woman🤑 ah. ..

@@noblemulia9887 That is true Fake insincere Beauty without content display in social media these days.