say it louder for the folks in the back and with their heads up their butts. as someone with ME/CFS, i feel this so hard. i have been laughed at and in very similar situations as this girl, and only being given the run around by "qualified professionals"

Its the Health Insurance Companies that push and put pressure on the doctors and telling the Doctors to not care when in reality doctors do.

Unfortunately Doctors see: someone with chronic pain = drug seeking

💯 They always think you're faking for pain meds.

If this happened in real life,the hospital and/or the doctor could be sued for malpractice.

Yes! This needs to change! And the bedside manners!

Me too. I felt this.

Not only reproductive health…health in general….

Yeah....I went into the hospital bleeding profusely. Told the doctor I was having a miscarriage (I had been for that awful ultrasound 3 days prior) and the f***ing doctor asked me "how do you know?"😑

@@aynsleyhamilton8840 wow! Oh my word! That's so terrible!!!

He wasn't even talking to me and I felt offended.

@@deathsanguish4091 same the way he talked about it and talked to the black woman..I don’t like his attitude and he doesn’t care at all either

They would of said the same thing if it was a woman though. They follow a protocol that isn't always right. Nurses (man/woman) know better since they are the ones who speak to their patients, not the surgeons.

you do realise that the symptoms probably came from a woman who was in a clinical trial right? and the man there was just explaining how women tend to feel. now im no sexist, but like, you cant even cry about the fact that people call women 'sensitive'. you guys are really crying about a tv show? then you get mad when someone calls you sensitive? lmao

And women explain how men feel lol

wdym demand they chart, etc?

@@userkie you can demand a doctor to write into your chart exactly why they refused to not run a test for you and a lot of times (at least in my experience) they change their minds pretty quick and start running tests because they don’t want to be sued later on for their incompetence

@@angelblood13 I'll keep that in mind thanks for the info

Exactly people don't know that though

thank you for this tip. i’m terrified of becoming pregnant just bc of the way they treat women in medicine. that’s exactly why i want to become an obgyn. why won’t they listen to patients? it’s disgusting.

Did you ever speak to the doctor about how you feel? Matthew 18

Unfortunately Dr's are arrogant pricks sometimes if it isn't flashy or groundbreaking it's not worth their time. I'm sorry you have to go through the pain of loss I know what it can do to people all to well

Exactly, god I don’t even want to see an OBGYN because I know without a shadow of a doubt that they will not believe anything I say

I'm sooo sorry to your family & you. I'm a nurse practitioner, and I swear & promise that head I been at that hospital. I would have personally fought for as many test as needed to find out why a 83 elderly woman was bleeding.

Yeah, I get you. You will not be fine after you have a baby and the female system being "complex" is not a valid excuse to ignore problems

I’m currently jumping through hoops to have a hysterectomy done. 😭 I turned 26 in January and know without a shadow of a doubt that I don’t want kids… but apparently that isn’t good enough to be heard.

I've had 2 surgeries cleaning up the endometriosis adhesions. Next surgery will probably be a hysterectomy.

You aren't alone. I've been dealing with it for 22 years. And only diagnosed with it 16 years ago. I'm in a clinical study trial for it the last couple years and have 2 more years left of it.

@@QrincessQri even if you have kids.... They don't do it. I tried every pill, Hormon Patch, Spiral, nothing works. Doctors don't care, they won't do it

My doctor told me that they will remove everything. I want to try for one more kid in a few years and then I’ll do a full hysterectomy. Before we found out that it was endometriosis, my general practitioner put me on hydro because the pain was getting so bad. My husband and I lost our first baby due to endo, well that’s at least what my obgyn told me. It also took us over a year to get pregnant with our now 4 month old son. My parents originally stopped believing that I was having such bad abdominal pain and my mom thought I faked passing out at my community college from pain. They felt horrible when I was finally surgically diagnosed.

Endo pain makes you so angry as a patient

The female doctor at least tried to get her into surgery. She are not responsible for what happened, but the male doctor is. She did what she was told to do and discharge the patient, but she believed that something was wrong and told the patient to come back. I believe that the patient understood that there's nothing the female doctor could do at that point and listened when she was told to come back. I believe that the way the doctor reacted when she did show up again shows that she suspected that something was wrong, but that her hands were tied.

@@lillkarin7472 Sad but the female doctor would have lost her job if she directly went against her male manager. Something needs to change where employees can exercise judgement in emergency situations. Even chronic pain, if it is a severe episode, is an emergency and needs to be treated cause you cannot get relief from severe pain with ibuprofen or tylenol

I agree. I avoid one hospital where I live altogether because of the constant nonsense they pull - right down to denying what was discovered in my body in another state!! If it didn't occur here, it never happened!!

I have PCOS and I've gone to the ER after having 6-8 WEEK LONG periods feeling like I was literally bleeding to death only to get IV fluids and be dismissed as just having "abnormal uterine bleeding" and this went on for YEARS smh. Doctors ain't shit when it comes to women's health and I've noticed female doctors are way more dismissive then the male doctors which makes absolutely no sense 😞

And yet they haven’t!!

Agreed. I have fibroids and was told to have a baby too, twice. I don't think humans should be in agony like that, I don't think it's normal female problems. If it wasn't for expensive, high dosage painkillers that messes with my difestive system. I wouldn't be able to stand let alone hold food down.

@@deathsanguish4091 - I am at the point of polycystic ovarian syndrome, and am trying to get care for it now, after dealing with a near-fatal car wreck that vertically fractured my pelvis, and a host of other injuries. That's what endometriosis goes untreated, and it sucks with pain

I have endometriosis and I had a cyst on my ovary they were able to shrink it down with birth control pills. But it hurt bad to where my period didn't look like it was there and then having problems getting out of bed for 10 days at least and then very strong heavy bleeding every two weeks after that but it was like having a bad period to the extreme where it was two weeks long and then it would go away for a short time and then be for two weeks long agian. And a doctor told me having a cyst on an ovary is normal but I still have both ovaries. I even thought in all this I was pregnant and having a miscarriage and it looked like hemorage and I looked glowing according to a guy at the time before I found out what was wrong and I really thought I was pregnant and miscarriage oh and I didn't know I had endometriosis at the time it was years later that I was diagnosed with endometriosis. But I always had bad period pains before that and never knew it was endometrosis. Also I figured out way late in life that I had this condition I think I found out in like 2019 and I had the cyst in 2013.

@@brianamcshane9219 - Yes, men will way all sorts of BS to women to either get in their pants or to minimise their pain. If you were "glowing," then fever can cause that.

We need more men like you, Thankyou for advocating your wife. Continue to do so

Ayurveda saved me, the doctor knew instantly that I wasn’t lying. Called for modern day scans. He also had allopathy degree, so did give me meds, but started my sure. I was in early stage, no operation required for few weeks.

Try to understand sometimes even when people advocate their loudest medical staff, especially male doctors, often just don't care. If you'd like an example, I had an outburst of shingles following my father's death, if you aren't aware shingles comes from both chicken pox and the vaccine and is stress triggered. Anyway, I saw doctor who said No clue, if it last longer than a week come back- I was already a week into it Thanks to scheduling. I saw a second doctor, a woman, who immediately without tests knew it was shingles. Same clinic*, same team. She knew what it was because she had had it. And if the first doctor had brought in a second opinion when faced with his own lack of knowledge I wouldn't have the permanent nerve damage I do. I asked the first doctor if there were tests he could do and was told he wouldn't even know where to start. Sometimes the doctors shouldn't be doctors. I did file complaint against that doctor btw and it turned out I was his 5th complaint in 2 months.

With endometriosis I've learned that if the pain is a 6 you should tell the doctor its a 10. Its the only way to get treatment early

I've learnt not to go to hospital when you can talk. Get a loved one to take you at your worst, politeness goes out the window and your loved one can speak for you. I was sent home because I could describe my symptoms like the girl because as someone who has had fibroids for years I was accustomed to pain and could tell that something wasn't right. They sent me home with a weaker drug than I was prescribed, that did absolutely nothing. My husband carried me to his car 2 hours later when I couldn't walk, was vomiting, sweating, shivering and couldn't speak from the pain. The same Doctor that sent me home, couldn't even look me in the eye. I had to have an operation, that night.

Did she not advocate for herself???? HARD????

Advocating for yourself is hard! The woman in this video did that exact thing thing and was told to go home. The point of having someone else be your advocate is so that there’s more than one voice speaking. The more people and the louder you are, you’ll get heard.

Lots of these episodes come from the case notes of real past patients, glad your partners doing OK, stay safe and keep smiling....👍👌👍

I’m going through the same thing since 15 and I’m 33

Bowel and menstrual problems often come together unfortunately. Hormones can give you diarrhea. Blood flow increases during your period, which makes any internal hemorrhoids bleed like crazy... which, of course, leads to additional pain and anemia. And then there's the vagus nerve that can get triggered, and the next thing you know you're throwing up AND have the runs. It's no way to live. Get a second opinion or a third one. Get help.

try getting a pelvic floor specialist, that might help . have you had children ?

I can definitely relate to this character

Can't believe I'm sharing this but I was diagnosed with endo when I was 21. Dealt with the pain the way the doctors told me. Every month I spent 2 working days in bed writhing in pain, despite painkillers, I couldn't eat, if I did I would throw up. Ignored it until the pain got in the way of work, every day. Some obgyn gave me expensive meds he knew would do nothing. Once he was close to performing an ablation, and stopped when he found out my dad couldn't pay right then. Sent me home even though he had already administered anesthesia. I have no words to describe that trauma. He is a well known doctor. The pain from endo is real, and this episode perfectly captured the anger it feels as a patient being tossed and turned. I finally got surgery, removing endometrioma and foreign tissue in both ovaries by an obgyn who was so kind to me. I later found out, he had a family of all girls who suffer from dysmenorrhea

Isn't that more like a parasitic twin? I never knew this can happen with cysts, sounds scarry as fluck

Sounds more like a teratoma or dermoid cyst

So you were pregnant or can a cyst actually grow teeth?

@@dashans6175 cysts can grow teeth and hair

​@@dashans6175 this is not known by many people but can happen

I'm so very sorry your going through this my advice keep pestering the doctors until they listen even if it means making a appointment every 2 weeks or every week until they listen they will get to the point the will get fed up and send you to a specialist !! That's what I did for my daughter her periods were a nightmare she started them in primary school and I kid you not she would be on a period every day of the month except for a two day break and she'd start again and they were so heavy she had to take several changes of leggings and underwear out with her every time she went out incase she needed to change her clothes, she was miserable, exhausted and depressed it got to the point I kept a period diary for her and made almost weekly doctors appointments and every female doctor said we were exaggerating and eventually we saw a really nice male doctor yes a man believed us !! I showed him the diary he said this prooved nothing but I do believe you so he said we were to come see him every week for the next month, I told him shed finished 2 days ago and started today he said ok great timing then come once a week that will show me call me if it stops so he'd kniw exactly what day it stopped and started again I said ok so that's what we did, every week we went every visit and she was still on then it stopped we were seeing him that day so we didn't need to call the doctor said great I will make her a daily appointment for the next few days so I know exactly when she starts again we will see that your right, although you were right that she was on pretty much all this month but even though I believe you I doubt others will believe she will start again as soon as you say i need proof to get her the help she needs as I don't want her to be ignored any longer , and two days later she's was on again the doctor repeated the whole thing for the next month and he was getting so angry that other doctors female doctors at that ignored us for so long. He said leaving this long was just plain cruel as she was miserable, depressed and exhausted from it. After he got the proof he needed he sent her to a specialist with a letter and all the proof they needed to show we were telling the truth I remember reading the letter and it pretty much said do not ignore this, this young girl has been through enough and has been ignored and dismissed for far too long and by female doctors at that, been ignored and been on her period every day with only a two day break for over 2 years and have not one doctor help her is disgusting and I insist you help her and make this stop. If she was a adult id normally recommend putting her on the pill if all other serious conditions are ruled out but she is for too young for me to do that and only you can put her on the pill which of course will hopefully control her periods and make them normal, ( apparently a good can't put anyone under the age of 14 on the pill ). The specialist after reading it and giving it to me to read was shocked and as angry as the other doctor that noone had helped her sooner and dismissed me as exaggerating her symptoms, after taking down derails and talking to us about what was going on they did some scans and tests and ruled out anything serious and then they put my eleven year old on the pill that was it and asked you to go back in a few weeks. After starting the pill she had her periods just like they should be 3 days of inconvenience and nothing more she cried with relief when she realised she was as she said normal and not only were her periods normal but so so much lighter as well. The specialist was so pleased with the result and was so touched when my daughter turned up with a thank you card, flowers chocolates and a £20 voucher she she could buy herself something nice and gave her a tearful and emotional thank you. The doctor was very shocked but agreed to accept the gifts after my daughter got upset thinking she wouldn't accept them the doctor said it was the first time she'd ever been given a gift as a thank you and it made her day 😃 . She was told to stay on the pill and when she wants kids to stop but to be prepared she will probably get pregnant very easily and be prepared also that when she stopped the periods will probably go back to how they used to be and to be very careful not to miss a pill as she will probably have higher chance of getting pregnant than others who miss a pill yes it's a risk if you forget to take a pill that you may get pregnant but in her case its more if you muss a pill you will get pregnant not the usual you might. I told them when she gets to the point she does get a boyfriend we will be changing to the implant so there will be no risk as she does sometimes forget to take them and misses one or two due to very mild learning difficulties she has due to been very premature and having brain damage as a result of been ventilated. She was so happy when we had the follow up with the male doctor who believed her when others didn't she turned up again with thank you card, chocolates and a £25 voucher so he could buy himself something nice she decided to give him the extra that she would spend in flowers on the voucher as she didn't think he would want flowers and again a very tearful thank you, he gave her a hug and told her she was very welcome he tried to not accept the voucher but she insisted telling him he helped her when others refused and she could never repay him for that but she could give him £25 voucher so he can buy himself something nice after she got all emotional again he agreed to accept it and again he also said he'd never received a thank you card or gift before and she had made his day and he was so happy that he could help her 😃 she is 19 now and still on the pill we will be forever grateful to that doctor and the specialist for not dismissing her like so many before him had, they changed her life for the better. So please keep pestering your doctors try see others and keep going one at them until they do listen to you and never give up sorry this was so long good luck xx

Get on birth control pill.

@@joltjolt5060 Shut up. That’s not gonna fix anything for anyone and won’t fix all the issues. I’m on the pill and I have pcos and my period is EXCRUCIATING still. you missed the whole point of their comment as well, birth control stops you from having a baby. what if they want another? dumb

That is disgusting you deserve the right to your own body wtf

Tell them to add their recomendations to your chart, so that when you go to court for malpractice it can be there.

3rd endo surgery?! I've just had one and the only reason the obgyn gave in was because he has 3 daughters with dysmenorrhea. I only found our after surgery, when I was wondering why he was so nice to me. Endo pain leaves you traumatized. I'm just realizing I should see my therapist for about the PTSD. I have BPD(borderline personality disorder) as well so when I'm not screaming out in physical pain from endo, I'm contemplating suicide.

@@nancyokang7446 I had a similar experience with my first endo surgery when i was 15 - at the time, it obviously hadn't been confirmed to be endo bcuz the surgery hadn't been done to find it yet, but I had all the symptoms. we found an obgyn that was willing to see me - at that point it had been 6+ months of daily excruciating pain, so we were desperate. she said she wouldn't do the surgery bcuz I was "too young to have endo." (🤦🏼‍♀️🙄) my mom and I literally had to beg her to do the surgery, saying we didn't care if they found nothing, we just wanted to know. she agreed reluctantly and made sure we knew that the chances of her finding anything were extremely low - I had the surgery a few days later and "shockingly" (can you sense the sarcasm?), she found endo! so we had our answer finally, but not long after, my pain returned, and was worse than before. we went back to the doc saying something wasn't right, and she had the audacity to look at us and say "I told you it wasn't endo. all that I can suggest you do now is have a hysterectomy." yes, she told that to a 15 year old girl. we realized we weren't going to get anywhere with her so we started looking for a specialist - we finally found one who had numerous excellent reviews, and 6 months after my 1st surgery, I had my 2nd lap done. I'm fortunate to have found such an incredible doctor, but I know many women aren't that lucky. the hard thing about endo is often times bcuz these doctors are so closed minded about it, and have a lack of knowledge around the condition itself, we have to be our own advocate. we have to be the ones to research our illness and push these for certain tests to be done to rule out other things.

@@nancyokang7446 I'm so sorry you have to deal with so much pain😔 I can definitely relate to your feelings - you're so miserable, so sick and tired of being sick and tired that you feel the only way you'll finally get that much needed relief is by ending it all. it's not that you want to die, it's that you want your pain to stop. hang in there - we endo sisters will get thru this together!💛

@@marzbarj16 Thanks Marissa

That any doctor would think a 12yo is "drug seeking" is just bizarre.

It's always about the hypothetical husband or male partner and their wants. It's never about the needs of the patient that's sitting right in front of them

- That's when you lecture them on why it is not acceptable to tell a woman that a man gets to decide on what happens to her body. It doesn't matter if her husband or male partner is sitting right there. Women are not incubators for men who want children.

She has to keep fighting. Maybe she can try seeing a different provider. Tell her to bring a family member or two to advocate for her. My old co-worker had a hysterectomy at 31 because she had too many reproductive health issues and she never wanted children.

FYI, female doctors can be just as dismissive.

@@arianebolt1575 they can but men are obviously more likely to

@@arianebolt1575 Good job missing the point

Funny because the doctors do know more than average women. So maybe think again. Lmao

@@JoelEmmettMcGarrity never said they don't, women should be treated by female doctors tho because men don't take women seriously enough

Me too. Praise the Lord I'm getting better with exercise though

I have pcos as well and this is just messed up. "Normal for pcos" shouldn't be equated by doctors to "untreatable" or "you just have to push through it". I have times where I get such an intense pain I can't do anything and I just sit there moaning from the pain for a while. I'm happy that there are different medications out there to treat different symptoms, but too often these type of genuine health problems are still not taking seriously enough, even when there are women who are actually writhing in pain.

I have PCOS too. For years I had severe cramping with periods (from age 13) my cycles lasted 7-12 days. Then they started lasting 6-8 weeks at a time and I became anemic. When I would go to the ER I was always told "abnormal uterine bleeding" until the day I hemorrhaged in front of a nurse and almost lost consciousness. I got some help and then found a wonderful doctor who listened to me and probably saved my life.

@@Maramom2017 I totally understand. Mine is the pain. I have so much pain that only gets worse around my cycles. I finally fired my GYN this year and got a new one and I'm having a full hysterectomy in 2 weeks and I'm super excited. I'm done just managing my symptoms.

Doctors often ignore our pain. Saying we're over reacting, its all in our head, its jusf cramps,.... no one knows how much pain we are in how much we suffer. Its like trying to convince a wall that we need help.

And/or the fact she's saying that to a Black woman. I'm surprised this is the only comment I've seen so far acknowledging the irony in this scene. When I was diagnosed with cancer in the fall, I did the google thing that's usually advised against. I found the survival rates and there was a 20-25% difference between white and black women, with the latter being lower. Fortunately, my oncology team has been great, but I did have to advocate for myself during the diagnosis process and a bit after. As well as for any non cancer related things that crop up.

@@checksanity I was thinking the same thing

She was in a lot of pain at the time and had just dealt with a major surgery. That is decidedly a low point and you can't expect someone in that bad of a situation to self-regulate themselves perfectly and have no anger towards the person who, in her mind, denied her care.

My thoughts too. I understand she’s going through a lot but black women can also have pcos and endo i couldn’t have imagined what would have happened if the nurse was white.

@@ameliasellers6396 actually I can have the expectation of her to self regulate because the exact same is expected of me, no matter the circumstance.

I understand having went through endometriosis too. Did they also tell you that a hysterectomy isn't a cure?

@@glitterizedrainbow2311 it's not a cure but the majority of patients show at least SOME improvement in pain after the hysterectomy.

Hysterectomy is not a cure for endo, I’ve had one and still have it.

I feel this trying to get people to acknowledge I'm not well. Not endometriosis but I keep having to fight to be taken seriously. I should not be dizzy, nauseous with eyes blacking out at times for multiple days of the week!

I understand what it's like, I have this too, since childhood (doctors as a child told me it was "growing pains"), since it went untreated I had severe damage in my wrists by college. Also have other degenerative skeletal stuff. Know how constant pain can grind you down since I have had it as long as I can remember. Therapy helps.

@@stephieg 💜💜💜

Not an RA haver but I've got Fibro. The worst part with chronic pain is that, well, it's chronic. Being in mild to excruciating pain every day, forever, is exhausting. Trying to explain that to anyone else... Also pretty tiring. There's little things that can *help*, but being told I wouldn't be in pain if I exercised more and changed my diet... Ugh. I really hope chronic conditions get more attention. Maybe we'll get some real treatments someday.

Exactly I have had pain for years and they act like I’m fishing for drugs

I'm sorry

I'm so sorry you went through all of that

I don't disclose that I have PCOS to physicians for this reason especially when I'm seeking a second opinion.

I am so sorry you are going through this. According to the symptoms you described Im assuming your doctors are saying your neuropathic pain, swelling and numbness is idiopathic (I.e. not caused by a discernible underlying physical condition but rather being the physical manifestations of a psychological condition) but there are so many other reasons for neuropathy (nerve pain/disorders) than just psychological - this could be diabetes symptoms, this could be the after affect of spinal or head trauma or an infection or a metabolic or hormonal imbalance. Next time you see a doctor and get the vibe you are being pushed out the door make a voice recording on your phone (with the consent of your physician ideally) and specifically state what your symptoms are, what your history of symptoms have been, what tests or treatments you have been prescribed and then re-iterate what the physician in front of you is saying (in terms of discrediting or minimizing your recounted experiences or symptoms) and have them verbally acknowledge that their professional diagnosis and recommendation is that these symptoms are definitely psychological in nature and there is absolutely no risk that these symptoms may be indicative of a more serious condition that could threaten your life or quality or life if treatment or detection is delayed. Put that fucker on the record telling you it is all in your head and tell him that this recording will be used in the accompanying malpractice case that will be pursued against both the physician and medical institution should any harm come to you as a result of their refusal to investigate further or believe their patient.

Nerve pain has serious long term chronic and debilitating affects on your body if left untreated. Idiopathic pain is a scam in my opinion, it is an excuse for doctors to misdiagnose or ignore their patients.

Unfortunately this is a method I have had to use in practice to get adequate attention paid to a chronic issue I have lived with - and reported to doctors - for over a decade. It turns out my debilitating and worsening migraines, ear pain, post nasal drip-induced nausea and gastric reflux are ALL SYMPTOMS OF TMJ - and not one doctor out of approximately 20 suggested that my existing diagnosis of TMJ could be the cause of my symptoms. Every single one came up with a different explanation or told me there was nothing they could do. I literally got so fed up I did what I said above and lo and behold after taking a more in depth medical history we uncovered the TMJ diagnosis from my youth and everything clicked to him apparently. I’ve been treating my TMJ directly for the past year and every single one of my symptoms has gotten better.

@@ariannawhite2844 how do you treat tmj?

Have you tried other hospitals or doctors?

You mean they couldn’t care less about it

@@fluffy695 Thank you very much! 😊👍

Ohh honey the times I’ve been prescribed antidepressant for being to anxious for expressing the pain that is killing me. That is all in my head that im just looking for attention, telling me that need to get a job ( the pain stops me from keeping one) is all just pure BS .

Thats called SOCIALIST MEDICINE.

Try the Netherlands they’re even worse . I was told I should try having sex so it would help me with the pain I was 14 yrs old!!!! One time my dad had to call the ambulance coz I passed out on the bathroom floor. The on call doctor told my dad next time he should call for the mental crisis help line coz it’s all in my head. I hear Americans complaining about their doctors so I see the problem is everywhere.

Oh my God I'm soo sorry

Hope the pain will stop at some point. Sending a virtual hug in case you need one.

Oh dear God you poor thing. My hopes and prayers are with you and I really hope that you sued your doctors for everything.

@@Loveroffood41 couldn't sue. One killed himself, the other retired and closed the business because the 1st one killed himself in his office at the practice.

@@jadeswrapsandbraids Im so sorry you had to go through this. Women's issues need to be addressed at the earliest.

Because the patient is not their problem. Their only concern is money.

Did you have pain aswel? This kind of scares me because i have large blood clots, about 2x a dollar somethimes and bleed a lot. But i don't have extreme pain? I'm scared sometimes it wil affect my chance of having children.

@@SL-gz3dy It wasn't always severe cramping, but it was continuous. Continuous pain can wear you down to a serious degree. Depending on how old you are, there are suppose to be new treatments that can keep you from getting to the point I was. Keep at your doctor about it, make sure they understand exactly what you are feeling.

@@SL-gz3dy I also have massive clots and insane hemorrhaging without pain. I have no answers for you, but you aren’t alone. I can’t find anyone else who also just has insanely long, insanely heavy periods without pain.

Yup they act so passive towards people in pain

Why can't they remove endo earlier than they do? Why is surgery put off?

@@2degucitas Because nine times out of ten, a person dealing with endo is told it's in their head, they're making up how bad the pain is. That they don't need surgery and having a baby will magically fix it. It is a system wide issue, and it doesn't matter what country you're in, it is just this bad.

Same here, even after hysterectomy. I think the doctor missed some endo, and I have to have surgery again.

@@2degucitas unfortunately because it’s considered an elective surgery (which it shouldn’t be!). I’ve had on/off chronic pain for over 2 years and on the waiting list for a laparoscopy for over a year, even though I was only supposed to be on it for a year. It keeps getting pushed back because of covid and even when I’ve tried to get it expedited, I can’t, because of the backlog. Apparently surgeries that diagnose and help treat chronic female reproductive conditions are “elective”

@@Monntanaaxx Ugh.

“But it’s never Lupus”-Dr House My therapist has Lupus and she get hospitalized quite regularly…..

@@downhomesunset lol at the House reference.

Same here 💛🙏🎗

Or if you're young, sometimes they'll go as far as to withhold certain pain meds. I get there's an opioid crisis and they don't want patients to overdose and die; but it seems like they forget that dismissing a patient's pain can also lead to death. It's insane.

Some doctors won't agree to give a woman a hysterectomy unless her husband signs off. And if she's not married they say what if you meet a man and he wants kids. It's infuriating.

@@MsMaryPatricia Thankfully I live in Oregon and that's illegal. Also I'm gay.

It did used to be a law when my mum got her tubes tied that you had to have three kids, though.

@@Persepholeigh When birth control first came out in Ireland you had to be married and already have two kids to obtain it. Thankfully we've moved along way since them.

@@MsMaryPatricia "what if your husband would want kids" good lord, I'm about to go off, don't click "read more" if you don't wanna read a novel. I have always had insanely painful periods. The pain is so bad, my knees will buckle and I will fall from the shock. My vision also goes dark, sometimes I think I actually pass out... I also cannot eat or drink anything (not even pure room temperature water) without throwing up for at least the first day, usually first 2 days. It's agony. I went to a doctor when I was around 14-16 to see if there's something I can take, and the doctor said that birth control was an option, but I couldn't have it. His reasoning was that my future husband "may not want to date or have relations with a woman who took ~that type~ of medication." and refused to offer it to me. He also said something about its "long term psychological effects" which is just straight lies, birth control doesn't permanently damage you. But apparently these psychological effects would make me a "poor wife" which, now that I've had years to think, I think the phychological effects he was talking about was a woman feeling like she should have control over her fertility. Like... how sick of a person do you have to be? To look at a 15 year old who is sick, and withhold the medication because some man may be unwilling to fu/ck her due to her treating her pain. Revolting.

I don’t think this particular dilemma is to do with gender. It’s the fact that people with chronic illness aren’t taken seriously or aren’t believed. Yes, women do face discrimination and are often “diagnosed” with being a worrier. I’ve faced it. But people with chronic illness, regardless of gender, are often dismissed like this. Again, I’m not saying you’re wrong, I’m just saying that this different to a gender issue.

@@carriehasaproblem4959 true, though to be fair there is so many issues with women having reproductive parts issues and not being taken seriously because it's "supposed to hurt". But I do understand the stigma of chronic illness and troubles being shown here. I think it's a mix of both though

@@carriehasaproblem4959 it absolutely has a lot to do with gender.. women aren’t taken as serious when going in especially to an ER. They think they know our bodies better than we do when that’s not the case.

Well the only time that really need a woman is for woman stuff like this. Other jobs can do just fine without hiring any woman at all in the workforce. The typical men at work jobs for example.

@@arvinr.912 this is just misogynistic for no reason wtf

Look up Ehlers Danlos. I have it and your symptoms are very similar to mine.

🩷🩷Yes it does.

Ditto but currently trying work out what it is. Dizzy and nauseous majority of the times can get to the point I can't walk and my eyes black out at times. Done tests but come up fine, have to keep insisting to get referred or another treatment.