My parents were the same. They kept asking me for money when they knew I had money to help pay for some of my siblings college tuitions, even though they knew I had my own debts for my own schooling to pay off. I reluctantly gave them the money, promising they would pay me back. Fast forward two years, my siblings finished their schooling and the amount of times they’ve guilted money off me amounted to nearly $8000. Since my siblings have finished school, I reminded my parents that they still have yet to pay me back. They kept promising me that they would, but days became weeks, weeks became months, so I was pretty much convinced they were dragging it out until I decided to drop it. Believe me, I didn’t. Instead, I plotted. My parents were very religious, and were very active in their church. I myself am no longer religious, but one day I was invited to help out an their church’s annual homeless feeding program. Just because I’m not religious doesn’t mean I’m not above helping the less fortunate. So I went. After feeding a lot of homeless folks, of course a church sermon followed as it was organized by the church. And as if god himself knew, the opportunity to get my money back was dropped onto my lap. The pastor giving the sermon was preaching about the consequences of not giving back when generosity is given. Seeing the similarities in his preaching and my predicament, I volunteered to share my own story. I was invited by the pastor to the stage and I laid it all out!! I exposed every moment my parents and siblings guilted me into lending them money with the promise of paying me back. I didn’t hold back and humiliated them in front of their fellow church friends! I will never forget the looks on everyone’s faces as they turned their gazes onto my family with disgust for exploiting my generosity. I had them! 😈 To salvage their reputation, and knowing that I will never let them forget it, my parents handed me a check for $8000 exactly. And to be sure that it wont bounce, I made them come with me to the bank to deposit it. Since it’s illegal to knowingly write a bad check, they couldn’t get out of it. I got my money back, and with it found an apartment for myself, moved out without them knowing, and have completely cut all contact!

For the Second Story you are absolutely not the jerk you made the right move cutting her loose and shout out to that mutual friend that showed you the screenshots because some wouldn't do that especially her raggedy ass friends that were trying to make you feel bad and justify what the hell she did ,once she broke up with you her recovering from being cheated on by her boyfriend ain't your problem, toss that chick at her friends in the garbage where they belong

My mother was intrusive on reading my diary when I was younger and it pissed me off. We never had the best relationship and her doing this only made it worse.

For the first story, you can 100% sue someone for not paying back money that they owe you, and $12,000 is a huge amount that would definitely go to court, even if it is between the parents and child. That’s what I believe OP should do. If their parents took advantage of them like that and are using petty excuses to not pay them back, then make them regret it so they don’t cross them again.

Story 1: Should've got it writing, not verbal.... we see this so often. $200 is too much to loan, much less $12,000. Story 2: This ex-gf, and some friends, are just nuts. She clearly doesn't give a crap about the OP and just wants the vacay. Story 3: She's more neglectful, then she is entitled. Story 4: That (bad!) mom is a complete nutjob, and a big reason why you shouldn't keep a dairy/journal, and if you do, have it under lock and key. Story 5: The parents are definitely the jerks and unreasonable.... always seems to be the overly religious ones too. It seems to me that they are trying to either hold the son/bf back or find a way to financially cripple the OP along with the son/bf so that he'd have no choice/option then to stay with the parents and not be with the OP.

Story 4: “Am I not a good mother?” Yes, you are definitely not a good mother

1st story is good example of how change in situations can lead someone who helps in great disadvantaged as there no proof he payed them at money and the could simply lie or say they already pay back if wanted but what I find interesting fact dad told not be rude or else he not going get money back which was result of money not being payed back (which make situation worst as lead to even more conflict due fact whole rudeness being cause of debt parent owed) worth noting that whole situation started because he help out and I pretty sure parents are actually in money trouble from sound of it as sound like they barely make enough money to support themselves also I got ask how many siblings does he have at home.

For the mother that read her child's diary... WTH!!!! You INVADE your kid's privacy and expect them to trust you with personal stuff? I wouldn't trust her either.

That last story reminds me of something I said to a girlfriend's mom while helping her with guy trouble. I told the mom "You gave her your advice and your opinion but she is the one who has to live with the choice. You have to step back and let her make it." My mother was mortified but don't ask me to play therapist and not expect me to be blunt.

Never, ever read someone's diary. That's the single fastest way to destroy their trust in you. No matter what your relationship is, unless you have express permission from the writer, assume you're not allowed. If you want to help with your kid's problems, work on creating an environment where they can come to you with their problems and not fear getting punished for them.

The first story. The OP should tell his relatives about the situation and hopefully the relatives can put some pressure on OP's parents to make them gradually pay back the money that the OP is owed. Though I'm curious, the narrator says the OP is 18 years old. Can an 18 year have saved up that amount of money ? And also have money to spare to lend to his parents before he was 18 ?

STORY #2: MY BOI GOT HARMFULLY 2-TIMED AND STILL CAME OUT ON TOP!! BIG UPS BRO!!

If OP is unable to sue, then move out ASAP and cut ties with those awful parents.

I’m commenting before I watch this to say, good job 👍

Bro made the right move dodging his ex-girlfriend

I can't believe that you're own parents would be like this, they wanted to have you its not your choice to be born into their family, they chose to raise you its terrible that they think that you owe them

Right or wrong. Good or Bad. Make decisions for yourself because you are the one that is going to have to live with it. And as Cap'n Teague said, "Livin' forever isn't the problem. It's livin' with yourself."

"My parents think I owe them 12,000 dollars because they raised me' If I was that guy "EXCUSE ME.. THATS YOUR JOB-"

The word trauma is thrown around so much anymore that it's lost its meaning.

Yesss my favorite narrator

Mother: "breaks into her daughters room to violate her most basic rights as a human being" and justifies it with "you don't trust me" At the point where she asks if she ain't a good mother, I'd tell her "a good mother knows what privacy is"

The last story I 100% went through I was with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years and his family loved me but when it came to living together they didn't want him to move but wanted me to quit my job and move to where they lived so he can still be close to them, we ended up breaking up a year later cause he always listened to what his mom wanted instead of doing what he wanted smh. I'm all for family but at some point you have to stop interfering with your children's lives especially when they became adults unless they ask for you let them live.

2nd story: "there's no one else" now that's called foreshadowing

For story one, this is why you get a notarized contract that is legally binding.

The parents in the first story remind me of my mom. Guilting me out of/stealing my money then proceeding to call me disrespectful for asking to be paid back Also dude- story 3 is just gut wrenching. It's good that OP has a good dad, but the mom sounds batshit insane and incredibly manipulative and the dad, although he's a good dad, seems to enable the behavior by not doing anything to stop it.

Me being a non-denominational Christian, I really don’t understand the way parents act when it comes to judging their children based on their religion. I feel like that’s a very cultish way to respond to situations. In the end it is up to your God to judge them. You can guide them in the way that you can, but you can’t push them.

Last story it's not his family stopping him. He is the one that doesn't want to make that move

Never give your parents money. Once you do sooner or later they’ll end up taking half your paycheck and won’t even ask just expect it to be in their account on a certain day and scream at you when it’s not.

Take 12k of their stuff away or sue them

The first story basically said the parents only had enough money to live…so OP actually though the parents could repay $12,000? Not blaming OP for this of course, but they should’ve realized the parents would never be able to pay them back. Even with two jobs it would be tough for me to pay that back.

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Story 2 She’s the jerk, not you. Perfect revenge would to bring the mutual friend that kept you in the know about her bs on the trip just to put salt into the wound You deserve better and she was trying to manipulate you to get a vacation. Without a doubt she would have left you again after the vacation with some excuse.

story 1: dude needs to get away from his parents after he finds away to get the money back story 2: dude needs to block that crazy b from his life and move on story 3: the dad needs to divorce the mom seriously if the mom continues to be there i feel like the kid might end up getting themselves in a worse situation story 4: yeah she was a terrible mother OP seriously needs to cut them off story 5: the parents are just idiotic in this situation

Who else has been a fan of am I the jerk for a long time?

story 1: i haven't listened to it yet but i can already foresee what i'm gonna say... yup... i was right... there are two people you want to get now: a lawyer and a police officier, the lawyer to sue and the officier to file a report for grand theft!

She's a horrible mother to invade her privacy like that. I also burned my diaries and stopped keeping one bc of the same thing.

1 story: sue them they stole 12.000 dollars you will win the case

3 minutes in, and all I can think of is how OP's parents sound like mine.

I completely agree shame is your only weapon. Talk to grandparents, uncles aunts ect see if your relatives can shame your parents into paying back some of the 12,000 they stole from you

As the mother of a 20 year old. Yes teens need some privacy but their are certain times when too much privacy can lead to neglecting issues that could be nipped in the bud quickly and can spin out of control quickly. My son knows I have my opinions and I will always make them known that’s my job but I will listen understanding and try to give the best advice I can. I made a point to not “lose it” over things even if they upset me. I might even tell him I need a night and we will talk about this tomorrow so that I could even if angry or hurt by what he had done could at least approach it with a calm head.

Have not finished the story yet but, she asks "Am I a terrible mother" my answer is yes lady you are.

People in my life: why did you never get married Story three:

Religion is NOT a PARENT. DO NOT FORCE YOUR CHILDREN TO FOLLOW YOUR RELIGION.

storys like the last one make me sad the bf likely wants to get away form his family but also doesn't want to ruin their relationship but he doesn't know what he needs to do yet

If you ever loan money more than $25, always write up a contract with a minimum monthly payment amount and a fair but firm deadline to have it all paid back, also documenting that they can't miss more than 2 payments. Then make copies, one for them and one as a backup, a digital one on secure storage and keep the original for yourself in a safe location. If they refuse to sign, then refuse the loan. If they don't pay, a court will make them pay. You don't have to charge interest since you're not a bank, but doing this will guarantee that they can't back out of paying it back or claim it was a gift. It's completely OK to say no to family and if someone is really in need, then they shouldn't borrow more than they can pay back within 2 years. $12,000 is definitely an amount that can be paid back in 2 years by 2 people. That's $500 a month or $250 between them. Completely doable.

First story take all of his parents to a pawn shop and get paid. And they ask what happen just tell it's at the same place that 12 grand is at.

In the first story, I would call the cops or bank administration and tell them of what the family did. if I have no phone or bank account though, I would just ask a neighbor if I can make a call.

First story. OP lends parents $12,000 dollars two months ago. They all just moved to another state. Needing the money to pay for house, bond, and rent. They have no debts or mortgages. Dad does work, but mom gets money from government (probably disability, I'm on that myself and it ain't a whole lot). OP says themselves that their parents only have enough money for living and not enough to improve the house. OP says they had wanted to buy a car for their dream job. Yet later OP states they are living at home and has said they just moved to another state. While Narrator states OP is 18. What dream job is this? OP says their parents won't pay him back. And won't discuss a payment plan. Pay the OP back with what? OP them self said their parents only have enough money to live. There is a lot of this story that makes no sense. As such I think we are hearing a lot of made up stuff that OP thinks improves their case. Like OP saying they have no mortgage or debts. Ok maybe they don't, but what was the Bond and Rent for then? They just moved according to OP and OP gave them the money 2 months ago and OP says they only make enough to live. What person believes the parents have $12,000 just sitting there after all that and that short of a time? And a payment plan? With what again? If the OP is telling the truth then the parents have little to no money to give them, so how can they do a payment plan? It sounds to me that this is a kid that just became an adult and since his parents always paid him back (a struggling family sign) before, the OP thinks it is just that easy to do it now. Not realizing that the parents may never be able to pay that back and at least not for years.

For story 3 I'm on the fence 💀 kids get hurt and have to learn how to be careful , how to be safe and know that sometimes things happen and you get boo-boos BUT she definitely should have gotten up and checked on her child comforted him a bit and cleaned his wounds , not get up and pay the guy for being kind and helping with the bike 🤦🏽‍♀️ Story 4: uuhhh I would not have trusted her at all once she suggested keeping a dairy like she knew how her mother is and actually went through with it , or instead of keeping a dairy on her phone/laptop where she could have it locked away without any prying eyes.

1st one you can file a lawsuit and sue ur parents for them not giving money back as a loan

Story 4: like closed/locked doors not allows in my house... dairies and journals. They are because people can lock away their thoughts. Thoughts are private. Yes I wanna know if my child is in trouble. But them coming to you is better than. Snooping.

i know this is probably way too far, but i really think the first OP should sue their parents. call me crazy. i dont care.

3rd story is just annoying," I can't believe you couldn't wait till marriage you know that's wrong right?" I don't recall a commandment about wedlock but I do recall one about stealing, I love the holier than thou attitude while confronting your child about their sin of making love out of wedlock when you literally stole their private diary and read through their most personal secrets the hypocrisy is laughable.

Whenever you loan money to family, you need to have a contract with them to make sure they pay back

Dang 12,000$ dang and they still not paying u dang

I asked a friend of mine, who is much older; years ago about lending money to others. Only lend money you can do without and do not lend more money until they paid you back. If they did not pay you back then if they ask you for money, you may do so with the same lending rules.

I’m not a lawyer but I think you can go to claims court for 12,000$ if you are desperate, but you need to do it within a short period because of statue of limitations

first op should sue them

I feel so BAD for the first OP. he literally lent $12k and didn't get it back. he really needed that for a Phone, Laptop and a car. I wish I could Gift him a Brand New iPhone SE at least.

First person is LIVING with his parents. Are they charging him rent? And what does an18 year d do to make $17 an hour? And not pay rent.

Anything under 20 quid is a gift, if they pay it back, great, if they don't, fine, just never lending to them again, Anything more than 20 and I'm not lending it, ever,I haven't got enough myself

When she says it's "not you" you know she's sleeping with another man

Thats dirty and disgusting! None of us had a choice to be born or raised. We didn't have a button in our moms that said Push This Button To Be Born and raised.

Can't have it both ways. Still at home? Yeah...you got the shaft. Oh, well. Deal with it. The only way it would change is to move out.

Story 3 imagine how many kids could have been saved from. Self deletion if parents Would have cared enough to read their diaries

For the one where your mom read you journal I had something like that happened to me too but get one with a lock

She cheated on you first and you're supposed to apologize to her I don't think so I think that's the reason she broke up with her because she was cheating on on him with somebody else and now she everyone expects him to apologize I don't think so

In the second story, the girl definitely cheated on OP with that dude and then that dude cheated on her.

Imagine being a grown adult and steal from a 18 y/o.

Its payin' or the pain kicks in

If I didn't know better, I would say they're offering those two options to hope that either you go bankrupt or you break up because they don't like you. It's only a wild guess based on my own experiences in life.

15:37 "am i not a good mother?" No. You're not first off, anyone who forces their religion onto their kid is a terrible parent. Ontop of constantly invading your kids privacy behind their back? Yes, you're a terrible parent

Parents just think they own everything of their kids. Including their privacy…. Can’t parents just get the hint???🥺

First set up a mic in your shirt and say hey were is that 12’000 that you owe me and then when they say I will give it to you when you bla bla bla go to the cops and show them the mic recording and get your money back

Story #1: Perfect example of why you need contracts when lending big amounts of money! Would they be acting like this if it was a loan from the bank? I mean they could! But then they'd get whatever they put of as collateral taken away! Story #2: It sounds like dude at least WAS your typical, blue pill, Captain Save A 304, nice guy. Who she THOUGHT would be ready and willing to come running back, whenever she called! Remember, women don't respect weakness. And if they don't respect you, how are they ever gonna love you?

I wholeheartedly agree I mean she needs to be put in her place and basically I see a divorce in her future

I know it’s a bit late but when loaning out that much should’ve had it in writing that they would pay you back, even if it is in instalments

That 12k? All it takes is 22LR using 9mm would be too much and costly to remind them just 22LR is enough

The last story. The girl needs to drop her bf this is a red flag his parents will always intervene because her boyfriend won’t stand up for himself she needs to let him go.

First story did you have a contract signed up if not you have receipt for things that you spent for them do you have proof that it was dropped off at their house if you're not living at their house you can take them to small claims court

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First story if he gave you $12,000, your pay him back or I would sue you

The first story is missing some important info, how long ago was this loan made?

My mom pulled that crap with me back in 1974 had $500.of my money and would not give it back took her to court and got my money got my new bike

Well sue them

Life lesson 1st story.

Take it to court show when qnd where the money came out and where it went in the house calculate the total and take them to court bc u won't win, if they crossed that line I'd be done, u need to set hard boundaries

With the journal I'd start writing about how I can't trust mum anymore if can't have a relationship with some who doesn't understand boundaries and just be a dick about her in it but I'm an ahole 😂

Bro maybe they shouldn’t of had children if they didn’t want to make a commitment. Once you’re a parent ya can’t just go back, say goodbye to thousands of dollars in total.

You owe them for raising you last I knew that's not how parenting work but okay some people are weird. 12K for raising someone though I'd like to know in what year that was supposed to be from???

sue the mom and dad it simple

Something isn't adding up with the first story. Why would they pay you back before but not now? Even if it was smaller amounts, it still matters. I think probably the parents are hiding something from the OP about this

keep posting plz

Lawsuit it is

i have a feeling that some of the stories are modified or cut down to favor the OP the topic is not black and white and can be easily distorted by missing just a small detail

For the second story I was first rhinking the mom had autism as the way she was acting was the same way my cousin with autism acts in situations like that but when he brought up how she payed him and then she started arguing with the dad I threw that idea out as people with autism doesn't do that. Ie they don't argue with people as they don't speak a lot and thy don't have much emotions to express

That mother who spied on their kid and read their diary is also an awful Catholic. The girl could have used that in Confession. It's a meeting between her and a priest where in the end she is forgiven of her sins. That guilt would be gone. But she needs to go based on her own decision with the intent that she does want to grow closer to God. It's really personal and it's never used as ammunition against her. As a matter of fact, that ammunition is taken away. So yes, she is a terrible mother and a horrible representation of the Roman Catholic faith.

Okay that mom needs to learn personal space but going thoughts your things is heartless 🤦🏼‍♂️

Last story: We’re not hearing the BF’s opinion. What does HE want? His parents shouldn’t have any say, so what’s going on with him allowing them to have a say?

Wait 2 months ago AND recently? Isn't recently supposed to be a vary-able word. Either my English is bad or good enough to point out mistakes