the real question is.... why is this in my recommended

me: “i’m over him.” recommended:

Old peoples might not know the science behind things, but they have experience. Which is priceless.

Me watching this in quarantine because I’m sad and lonely.

Set speed at 1.25. You'll thank me.

i love how she took such a complicated subject and made it so easy to understand

I’m only 21 but what she’s saying resonates with my experience so far. Out of the girls I’ve dated, I’ve only fallen in love with one, despite some of the others getting really attached after we got physical. We guys don’t fall in love because you sleep with us or even because you make us wait to sleep with you. We fall in love because we enjoy being around you. Because you’re beautiful, interesting, smart, confident, (or whatever traits the particular guy values) and are someone we want to be a part of our lives. When we feel this way about a girl, we commit. At least, this is what I believe based on my experience so far.

watching this because I'm single and sad and lonely.

Men don't fall in love when they commit. Men commint when they fall in love.

So should I inject some of that to my crush

youtube knows that i cried today over the person i fell in love with...

Me: has a crush My science addicted brain: WHY IS THIS HAPPENING, I NEED YO KNOWWW

She did a lot of work researching and she's good in a scientific sense. In addition I LOVE her presentation style. But as she says herself, all we really needed was her grandmother;)

I wonder how this work with cheaters.

Grandma is so right. Never let a guy touch you until he says he loves you and means it. Let the guy develop a genuine interest and an strong emotional attachment and commitment to you before getting physical.

You end up learning, you can sleep with them the first day, or wait 3 months- regardless, if he wants to be with you, he will be with you. I waited 2 months to sleep with someone, I wanted to be committed- we broke up a week later lol

Oxytocin got me f'd up.

Don't know how I got here but, it's Saturday night, I'm a dude, single as F, and I need to shower bad... But the joke is on you society, the joke is on you... One of these days I'm gonna get my act together. Watch out ladies.

UKposts and I need to have a chat abt these recommendations lately...

Who needs love when you can eat an entire bag of shredded cheese. Amirite fellas?

Finally I found a Ted talk really interesting and clear !

It seems like there is no one in the room

the quote "I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once." has been derived by watching this

Falling in love to the right person is the best feeling ever. That's why it is important to find one!

Your grandmother's really brilliant

Take a shot every time she says ‘but there’s a catch’

I love this her talk because she doesn't only explain what happens, she also explained how they got to find the data.... it's important for understanding

I loved him before we met. I felt his energy, I saw him in dreams. The feeling was mutual upon “meeting” in person. Don’t hold back on being physical to gain commitment. Love comes from a much deeper place, with a deeper purpose. Start with Self Love and be true to your calling if you want long lasting relationships (they are just reflections of you). ♥️

Great proof of how today's hook-up culture is influencing relationships. People often forget that falling in love is also a biological process. We go from romance to romance without truly ever committing ourselves to anyone. And then we wonder why so many people are single and lonely...

cortisol levels increasing makes a lot of sense because falling in love made me reach levels of insecurity, jealously, and rumination i had never reached before

No one: UKposts: Here watch this after 4 years it was released

To fall in love you MAKE CHOICES!! You can feel attraction (physical attraction) but then you can decide to nurture it or ignore it. If you nurture the attraction by starting to FLIRT, WRITE MESSAGES, CONFIDE IN THIS PERSON, START TO ATTEND THE OTHER PERSON'S MESSAGES, START TO DREAM ABOUT SPENDING MORE TIME WITH THIS PERSON, WELL ALL THESE CHOICES will make you fall in love. Was it evitable? Yes, it was!! So it is never destiny that made you fall in love. You chased each other because of the CHOICES YOU MADE.

Date and see if you are right for each other. If you sleep with a man too soon, you might end up with the wrong man or stay with the wrong man just because of oxytocin.

According to Shakespeare? Love is a form of temporary madness!

this video was great for my adhd. she got to the point every single time and was clear and concise. Thank you, Dawn.

We are so preoccupied with falling in love, being in love, having a soul mate that we do not question whether that person is really good for us and are we good for them. That is why we have a high divorce rate.

It’s 1am wtf am I doing here and why am I still up? I need to get my life together.

How about those suffering from anxiety/depression?? Can they ever love 100%...can they commit? How is love like for those suffering from either

This is a wonderful survey of so many people from different cultures, all ages over a long period of time which has made it fascinating and stimulating. What makes it even better is when people return weeks months or even years later updating their experiences and getting support for their growth or disappointment.

From my experience and what I heard from a lot of people throughout my life, the grandmas advice is 100% spot on.

I am afraid of falling in love because I can't think properly. I always do the effort for the relationship to work even if I didn't get the love I deserved. Why do we always neglect all the bad signs but rather only see the good in him ? I'm still glad it happened to me because it gaves me the greatest lesson in life.

Did the study account for age? Testosterone levels drop with age too, and I can't imagine the average age of single men to be the same as the average age of married.

it takes two people to sleep with someone so if women are too quick to get to bed with someone that also means men are quick also.

So you mean...I could stop myself from falling in love by blocking these chemicals??????????? Sign me upp

THE T IS CROOKED, I CAN'T HANDLE THIS

"Explenation point"

Each person is not blessed to have a wise person in his/her life but as a workaround they have the oppurtunity to hear this wonderful and wise Ted talk.I wish I had known this much before.

My boyfriend always says “ I just knew when I saw you smiling and when my heart skipped a beat“ ...

It's amazing how we undermine the wisdom of our foreparents. Education today is all about getting a job where traditionally education meant the understanding of life and the acquisitional life-skills

Long live her grandmother, her facts contributed to unravel the science of love!!

Falling in love is easy and natural. We need a way to come out of this chemical state when love doesn't work. If there were a pill or hundred for that, a lot of pain could be saved.

It’s a complementary spiritual energy vibration between two souls

Thats really interesting. But it also reflects my experience. If you go have sex with a girl to early it can lead to a drop of interest, while her increases fast. Sometimes in a speed where you feel that you can´t follow and get afraid by the plans she is already doing. But I learned from this mistakes. As said in the video take your time. Just keep dating for a while until you know that you love her. It´s an inherent advice not only for girls but man too if they want to stay happy with the girl. It gives you time to find out more about her and let the freshness of the first impressions sink in and really evaluate her character.

This scientific study proves that the rule in the Bible of only having sex after marriage, which is commitment, makes a lot of sense with our biological tendencies.

Science can't defeat 95 yrs of experience, maybe grandmother didn't know about all those terminologies but she knew the facts behind it

This seems true. I dated a guy a few months ago and in the beginning he was completely in love with me and he was very enthusiastic. He really seemed to be in love. But then because I was so in love I couldn´t resist to sleep with him after a very short time. And after like a month he told me he is very sorry but he just didn´t fall in love even though he was so enthusiastic in the beginning and he really thought he was in love. He seemed very confused with himself. He was super honest with me. While I wasn´t so sure about my feelings until we slept together it seemed that he started not being sure after we slept together. It seems like I just slept too early with him we should have built a deeper emotional connection. I will never do that again when I´m really interested in a guy. I will always wait from now on. But it´s so hard to wait at least for me when I´m strongly attracted to a guy I can´t contain myself.

This is one of the most beautiful Ted Talks I’ve ever seen! Thank you so much!

Wow I am completely mind blown, this has solved all of my questions , great ted talk!

9 days to valentine’s and you see this in your recommended, interesting right? 😂

Broke up yesterday and found this in recommendations today.

Ur grandmother is truly brilliant. I wish I had come across this talk of urs long back.

Wait I'm so sad they ruined the relationship between those little rodents 🥺

She nailed it and bravo grandma . We needed this .

This is entirely true! I have never seen anyone explain it so perfectly. Well done!

Wonderful video. Such an intelligent & well spoken individual ❤️ Great message.. your grandmother is simply a genius!

Such an interesting video. So the testosterone drop when men commit explains why you typically see that the population of commited men look less fit and older, less attractive in general. Yes it may be they have less time, less incentive to attract. But it is also a hormonal fight essentially

This is why I love science, give's me facts of every detail🤗🤗

I don't even know why this recommend to me but it was the best explanation since I heard alot of stories and sciences here! And also her granny is genius without even studying science lol😁i loved the presentation thank you ❤

Yes,when a man give you promise it means he falls in love with u.but nowadays man always lies about what they say

I'm more ready to receive this information, than the first time I listened to this video. She's wise.

There's a reason why teenagers seem so madly in love.

"Falling in LOVE" is a deceptive expression, which makes the understanding difficult of what "love" really is. This video is if fact all about ATTACHMENT or creating a BOND between individuals. True love, on the other hand, is the thoughts and deeds of benevolence in different forms. Love is healing, constructive and creative energy, coming from one source and directed to another. So you can add true love in varying amounts to a relationship, or not at all. It all depends on the both partners' will and capacity to give or show benevolence - and to receive it as well. If you've grown up being neglected of care, attention and acceptance, you'll probably have difficulties in showing love, or even to understand what love actually means. That's when you'll have to learn to love yourself to begin with, to appreciate the wonderful being you are born to be. To understand and to accept - to really feel - that you are as special and important as anyone else born to this planet. This is the way you learn to appreciate other people, too. I've written this on other videos on the tube, as well, but as it is so important I really want to bring forth and to emphasize this information.

YOU GO GRANDMA, MY GRANDMOTHER SAID THE SAME THING TO ME IN MY 20'S . I ALWAYS TAKE MY TIME IN RELATIONSHIPS.

I knew it! therefore i will never be friends with benefits or having sex again before the guy commits - the problem is - HOW DO I KNOW HE COMITTED? without him saying it out loud???

Now I think love is even more complicated then I used to think 😌.

"Love is the state in which man sees things most of all as they are 'not'. The illusion-creating force is there at its height, likewise the sweetening and 'transforming' force. One endures more when in love than one otherwise would, one tolerates everything..." - FWN

There are so many correlations happening in my mind throughout the talk between what she is saying and feelings I have in various life experiences. I'm happy I found this. Sad that I have to lose my test levels if I want to successfully raise kids tho...

I need the how to “unfailing” in love 🙃

To all the lovely ladies, do not stay with a man who does not commit. Was with someone for 9 years who not once said I love you or wanted any commitment but lied about it. To the men who are deciding, do not drag a woman you care about into that either. She will possibly resent you.

This is really a lesson. And I also always think of what my gynecologist said, “abstain” (because I’m still young and should be focusing on self and study). Please take care of your sacred heart. It’s hard when you fall on love with a man after sleeping with him because it feel like you are not allowed to feel heart broken because he’s not you boyfriend.

Woow mind blown, great talk everyone needs to watch this

Judging from my experiences with men and love, I’d say this is pretty accurate in the real world

I love the way you explained this xx

This really opened my mind to the science behind love

I've apparently been abiding by your granny's advice without realizing it! Also, the prairie voles are ADORABLE!!!

This is how, in my 16 years of live, I learnt a lot by listening my grandmother and her stories.

Love is scary isn't it? You never know when it happens and when you fall in love, that person better catch you or else you'll break.

This is some eye opening crucial research that is useful in making wise relationship decisions. Applaudable.. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Its a feeling like nothing you ever felt before, it’s beautiful ❤️

Wonder why I got recommended to this on Valentine’s Day

Bless your beautiful and wise grandmother! Happy thanksgiving!

He: I love you dear Me : That's your brain again having chemical reactions... He: what ????? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

super video i love the way she talked and the way she had done the research

amazing video. i am fascinated with the neural activity in our brain and how this is the main source to impact, and control our behaviors. interesting enough is the fact that we possess more than 100 chemicals in our brain that impact our behavior but only three neurotransmitters are responsible for the state of being in love. Congrats to the speaker for this research.

Love is not understood, but felt. Interesting video!

I was married for 6 years. I’m 29 now. I thought I was IN love. Maybe with the abuse it was clouded I don’t know. But with my now boyfriend, I feel like I’m making love, we stare in each other’s eyes, in each other’s souls, I don’t want to be far from him when he’s around me …. I feel so so so in love. I’m experiencing being in love for this first time. My ex was my first and I’m loyal and I thought ok this is the next step. Now that I know what it’s like to be in love I will never go back !

🙋🏿I need to ask granny more questions

How coll and funny! Loved! This now is my favory ted talk!

BRILLIANT AMAZING I FOUND THE BEST EXPERINCE FROM YOUR EXPLANATONS ... FOR MY LIFE... THANK YOU DAWN MASLER🥰💞🙏

Great presentation but I didn't expect it to finish in such an abrupt way.