I would say it’s time to start using all your nice stuff!!! ❤️

Use it now. Get rid of your boring stuff.

Omg this is me too, I hear you. Looks like we are looking for a perfect version of ourselves. We need to enjoy our things, tomorrow is not assured❤

Use the stuff you love and give the stuff that no longer work for you for someone else will want and bring them joy❤

I used to have that same issue. I wasted so much money and time shopping for things I never used. I now only buy things I plan on using in the present bc tomorrow isn’t promised.

Haha lol that's me too !!!😅

🤣🤣🤣 Um…no, lol

In all fairness, we are having that issue too.

This is Me! 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

Declutter book Declutter at the Speed of life talks about this and using the container concept

I’ve seen a few of these stories and it’s wild that we do that. It makes me sad to think we can go our whole lives never actually enjoying the moment bc we “save it for later”.

This is me. I use some, but I have a LOT of unused/ muultiple items

Really like the info this speaker is relaying. She doesn't ignore the psychological factor. Many decluttering speakers ive listened to don't address the psychological aspects beyond a tiny amount. It's important to include possible mental blocks we declutterer people often have. And then implement the ways we can effectively and sensitively work through them. I can think of several things right now, which Ive been unable to let go of until now. Successful reworking of outlook thanks to this speaker. I'm very grateful.

This mind set also comes from poverty, never having enough, or thought of it will keep you buying things just to say you can, and never use it 🙏🏾😢❤it was in my family too.

Nowadays you might as well give them away or sell it on eBay cause goodwill charges such ridiculous prices lol.

Love this!!!!

Similarly, when in doubt about a piece of clothing, I think: if I spotted a stain or a tiny hole in this, would I be relieved to have a reason to get rid of the object, or do I love it enough to keep wearing or try to repair it? On a gut level, you know what you really love.

This is fantastic! Thank you!

I remember feeling relief when a dish smashed as I was sorting out the kitchen (getting ready to declutter). That made me realise how much I wanted to let stuff go and made it easier to get rid of things. I still need to make another pass over the contents of my kitchen cupboards, but I'm pleased with how much I've let go and donated to charity already.

I found myself envious of the people who lost their homes in the fire in a nearby town. Now what does that tell you?!

Thank you!!! It’s my life affirmation! 🤗

THIS!! Caused me to IMMEDIATELY subscribe and click on the notifications button!

I ❤that sentiment,too

🥹This is too sweet, thank you so much! Yes, girl- I am grown, grown!!! 😂

Hi, I agree with you! I had a similar reaction to her and her appearance. I thought she MUST be very young. Then she told us her age, and I was astonished! She looks quite young and lovely. Her skin is great and her complexion is flawless. Her teeth are gorgeous, too. (I am quite jealous.)

My first reaction was wow, this woman has it together and how beautiful she is. Look at that smile, it’s perfect. And he skin! What a beautiful soul to get to the essence of a problem and give us a pathway to solve it.

It don't Crack! Lolol I'm 5'1, 116 lbs andmy 13 year old is more developed and taller than me (and I have 4 other children). When I tell them I'm in my 30s they're like, "Oh.." 😂😂 always thinking I'm 12 😭😭

Incredible looking woman, agreed!!

This is SOO good!

Yes!!!

Love this! Definitely don't think that things you still go back to are clutter- especially not hand written notes. Keep those memories!!! I was talking about the stuff that we have no attachment to and don't know why we're holding on to it. 💕

This is my weakness, I can’t get rid of cards, pictures or obituaries 😢

Those are the hardest to get rid of but the photo idea is a good one as paper and ink fade with time.

I wish I'd realized this... what a wonderful way to keep them close.

I totally get your thoughts! I took my grandmother cards and ones given to my mother and aunt by my grandmother cut the important words out and part of picture I liked and glued a collage onto an plain box from Hobby Lobby and gifted it back to them. They were amazed and grateful. Now the cards can be ‘seen’ and have a useful purpose. Cheers!

Awww, I love this! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a shared bond that none of us really want to have but helps us to understand what each other is going through. Wow!!! Yes, that's a lot. Being the one who feels duty-bound to manage all of the memories is quite a heavy load. So proud that you've made some headway!!!

I moved from size 1x, then 16, 14, now 10-12 These clothes are too good for Goodwill. Looked around at church, assistant yoyth pastor is a vit larger than I, so two shopping bags and handful of things on hangers, she'll save $$$ and I have space.

Congratulations

Congratulations!!! That's so inspiring! Sounds like you are enjoying a whole new life!💜

I’m proud of you! I know your health is better because of what you’ve accomplished (physical and emotional).

I have a similar situation. My garage and storage room are full of all of my grown children's stuff. I like the solution you've come up with and am going to present it to my kids (27-43 yrs old)

@@saundraandrade9019 It will make you unpopular for a little while, but it demonstrates the self-respect essential for respect for others. I can tell you from personal experience, though, that children sometimes don't realize how much we're imposing on our parents. My parents responded in kind by bringing a box of my baby clothes I didn't even know was stashed at their home and giving it to me as a birthday present. My husband was ticked, but it made me happy because I realized that they understood how ridiculous the situation is. I want to enjoy their company, not be a burden.

Yes to this. My mom’s friend left a couple of boxes of stuff at my mom’s house for a decade and I was like if she hasn’t needed it by now then she doesn’t need it and it got trashed when we moved my mom.

I firmly believe that while we help others, you also gotta do what works for you! Can't love others well if you aren't loving yourself- and getting your space functioning for you is a form of self-love.

Sell my things and give me the money 😂😂😂😂😂 somebody went to Costco and bought the audacity in BULK

I lived in St. Louis. Loved it!

Oh my goodness, yes- that is SUCH and eye-opener! Also made me realize I wasn't treating myself the way that I deserved. St. Louis is a fun, undercover gem!

Woohoo!!! Congratulations!!! I imagine it feels SOOO good and freeing!

I sell on all the platforms and it’s taking awhile. I decided not to go back to my bargain stores.

That’s a lot of loss. I lost my mother 10 years ago (I was 35 and her passing was unexpected). I found that it put things in perspective for me. If I can live without my own mother, I can live without mere possessions. It’s been a good reminder as my children get older as well, and the pull of their artwork and baby clothing feels overwhelming.

Thank you and condolences on your loss as well. 💜 The trauma of loss really does a number on our sense of reasoning. I have come to terms with that realization as well that letting their stuff go doesn't equate to letting them go. I think I always knew that mentally, but my heart/healing had to catch up with it. But it has been a weight and it's time to fully heal. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

That's such a good and healthy way to look at it! It's always amazing to me to see how differently we all process grief. 💜

@@katiejon17wow-this is a super powerful way of thinking about things. My mind is kind of blown because I’ve listened to SO many decluttering videos/podcasts/audiobooks etc, and not a single person has ever mentioned this, which is surprising. I’m sorry for your loss, but think it’s amazing that you were able to come to what I consider a pretty profound realization, that I want to thank you for sharing x100000. I’m lucky enough to still have my parents with me, but have been struggling with clutter/overwhelm for as long as I’ve lived on my own. I’m also very ADHD, which certainly doesn’t help things-but I spent SO much time just LOOKING for things….and now I’m thinking about my parents’ ages and how that wasted time looking for things-and honestly, the time spent wasted due to the overwhelm caused by clutter (which makes cleaning much harder and a longer process!). So you’ve kind of lit me up and inspired me to be ruthless in my decluttering-which luckily I’d already planned on doing for half of today! Thanks again for sharing your wisdom!

@@Hmy8799 I’m happy it helped! I shut down my YT channel a few years ago and I’m toying with getting it back up. There’s so much discussion for all of us to have. And certainly when we choose to live minimally, our finances also improve without even trying. ❤

🤣🤣🤣 Yes, it gets messy! That’s part of life.

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Love this!

This. The hardest thing for me to get rid of has been my son's stuff from when he was a kid. This is going to help me break through today. Thank You! 🙏🏽💙💙💙💙💜🌎🕊️

Also take before and after photo of each area as you are working on declutter.

I need to do this too!!!

Me too, what a relief!!!!🤗

Oh, I love that! Thanks so much for sharing! 🫶🏽

Great idea! The university in my community has a program that supports young adults moving out of the foster care system and into an apartment or a dorm. They accept gently used small appliances, bedding, and furniture. I'm sure there are similar programs in other communities.

Wish they had that in the UK.

@@VeeBee81 when my mum moved back to the uk in her 80s..she was helped by a charity that helps the wives of ww2 veterans.maybe search there..or w charities that help the elderly.I found the IRIS charity after extensivenonline search..they werent easy to find.also try churches charity or salvation army.

I attended a talk at our local library, on refugees in our area. They had a list of needed items. Even though I’ve been a minimalist for a number of years, I still had items and pieces of clothing that I could donate. The coordinator of the group (this is through the state) mentioned that the Afghan women we’re welcoming are excellent seamstresses. I happened to see that Joann’s had a sale on Brother sewing machines (50% off). I just wish I could have bought more than one.

So true. I really love this component of donating to places that mean something to you- makes it a lot easier 💜

Scout troop or small private preschool would be so happy with craft supplies.

Actually, it’s not crazy at all! I actually have another few videos talking about exactly that! Best wishes as you work to get rid of the clutter!

Not crazy at all!

Not crazy at all. I'm currently feeling the same way.

Same!! It can feel suffocating and causes me anxiety which is my motivation to go through the tough process.

It’s too early in the morning for that much math 😂😂

Oooh, I love this!!! Really puts it in perspective...and, ouch!

😂😅

OMG I’m thinking you must be an engineer! LOL

@sharondalynnewton7562 Ha Ha! You caught me!

I hear you on the craft supplies! I’m a serious crafter! Have an entire room dedicated to the hobby. Nope not gonna do it! Lol

Lol, we can never have enough craft supplies...that we never use🫣😂😂

I, too, have a weakness for office supplies/stationary/crafts. 😂

Same! The main improvement I've made is to stop looking at stationary and crafting supplies, even when there's a sale :)

Love this! It sometimes takes a while to figure out what is most valuable to us.

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That is a really brilliant strategy! Thank you so much for breaking it down. Glad you found the channel! 😉

Very true!!!! Thanks for that reminder. I think that could fit in happy memories (layer 2). Hmmm…thoughts?

Agreed! BTW…we need to get rid of some cards!!!!! And some doggone tshirts!!!!! Grrrr. Round 4 of decluttering in the Patterson household! Kristi let’s do some things!

I have a t-shirt that was bought on holiday 44 years ago. I could just about squeeze into it, but I would never wear it and haven't since I was a teenager. I think it's time it went to the great rag pile in the sky!

Hi? Are you still alive?

Yes, we all want to know how you made it out?!?!😂 What a brilliant way to divide up your space and start getting it in order.

Clean is so peaceful!

Get it, girl!!! Love this!

I REALLY like this idea!!! Thanks so much for sharing! Good luck on your move 😊

@@kristidoingthings Thanks! Hope you get settled in soon to your new place.🙂

I absolutely love this idea! Thank you so much for sharing it. ❤️😊

Woohoo!!! You got this!!

Aww, you're so welcome!

Bring the family to go through maybe? I know that I don’t need my mom to keep all my grandmothers things for me for the future- I can look through right now, and choose the heirlooms that call to me specifically. That way I have things hers that holds meaning for me as a person…and nothing more 💜

🤣🤣🤣 Thank you!!!! Moving is UGLY!

Aww, thank you so much! I haven’t, but I’m loving the idea!

Sounds like you've made SOOO much progress! Congrats! 🤗

Yes!!! A little bit at a time works wonders!

😂😂😂😂 He's always ready for the moment! Lol!!!

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​@@kristidoingthingsI have a storage unit also..with a piano from 1930s my great grandmother gave me and I used to play flawlessly. I haven't had a house yet to put it in and I'm almost 50. I love my piano..sadly it costs me $80 a month to keep it. I really don't want to let go of it. This is my hardest decision.

Thank you so much!!! I appreciate your kind words. So sorry for your loss. It can be so hard to know exactly what to do with those belongings but it's good you're finding what you want and coming to terms with what you're willing to let go. 💛

Same, I love the truth shot. ❤ and you’re such a cute couple.

When my mother passed away at 91, my brother and I gave away her furniture and clothing to neighbors and charity. She had a 45 year old plant that my brother replanted in 4 pots and gave to siblings and cousins. Her knitted throws and some articles of clothing I made small throw pillows for my brother and grandchildren.

What a sweet video, so practical, too. Beautiful attitude. Well done.

The MAIL!!!! Lol! Glad to know I'm not alone. So glad you found it helpful!!! 💛

So glad it’s been helpful!!! You are not alone ❤️

You’re so welcome!!! ☺️❤️ Really glad you’re enjoying!!!

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Proud of you!!!! Starting is the hardest part.

Aww, thank you so much!!! 🤗 Happy to hear that you enjoyed!

Welcome!!!! 💜💜💜 Thank you so much for your kind words! I'll always miss them, but I am finally in a good space, and know that taking care of that storage will help toward completing that healing process.

Love this so much!!! Great idea!

Welcome!!! ❤️❤️❤️ So good you’re here and enjoying the content!

Aww, thank you so much!!! I’m so glad it’s helping. I’m no expert, really just sharing my experiences and what has helped me 😊

you can do this!!! 💜💜💜

thank you so much!!! So happy you enjoyed it! 🤗

Ooh, great advice!!!

Aww, thanks so much!!! Glad you enjoyed. We have fun around here 🤗

He might be...💜

I KNOW God is telling me something and now it’s time to be obedient 😅

Same here🥴

You too huh‼️🤣🫶🏽🙏🏽

Ooh, that’s a really good question!

Thank you! I’m still working on mine too! 😉

So glad you enjoyed!!! 💛💛💛

Hear you!! I’m literally watching these coz I need to start removing my beloved Mum’s things, lost her 2020, and it’s freaking me out and ripping me up!!! How is it not cruel to pull apart what she spent 45 years collecting 🥺😭😭

@@krystalTiger I hear ya!!! My mom’s purse still in my closet. I can’t bring myself to throw it away….i feel like I’m throwing her away😩😩😩

@@positivechic1463 yes!!!!!!! Same. I haven’t even touched her underwear drawers, clothes, have her handbag, office and art. Nearly everything where she left it. And now my Dad is very ill and I need to move home and I can’t fit unless I start sorting her things and I’m freaking out!! 🥺😭😭😭😭😭. Everything has its place and her colour coordination and setup - but it doesn’t fit my needs or suit my taste, but it feels like a hug from her when I’m around it. It’s sooooooooo hard!!!

Aww...yeah, it is SOOO hard. 💜 But we do have to eventually determine what to keep and what to realize doesn't actually move us in the direction we want to go. But that doesn't make it easy.

Awww, I definitely feel you! Your loss is still so fresh. I'm sorry for your loss and for the pain you're feeling. Sending you so much love! 💜💜💜

Thank you so much! Girl, I couldn't record the WHOLE video in front of my packing mess 😂😂

Aww, thank you so much- I’m not perfect, and I really believe we can only help ourselves and others by being transparent. I’m very happy that you found it helpful!

You're so welcome! 💕

LOL!!! I'm loving this stage you've added! Once you start and are serious about it, it really changes your whole mindset.

thank you so much!!! I am really excited to see it moving and know that people are finding the content helpful!

So glad they’re helpful!

So glad that it’s helpful!!!🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

The best thing ever!!! Thank you much. 😊

Thank you. I realized that for me there was an emotional component to it and I needed to figure out "why" I was feeling so attached to things.

Awww, I’m so glad you’re here!!! You’ve got this!!!

awww, I love that!!! Welcome- I'm so so happy that you're enjoying it and it's resonating with you!! 😊

So glad it’s helpful!!! It’s definitely helped me!

🤗 Yay! I am so, so glad that you found it helpful!

Thank you so much!!! I'm really glad that you found it helpful!

Thank you for this! ❤

Thank you so much, this is great advice!!! 💜

Thank you so much!!! And thanks for the video idea!!!

So glad that it helped bring some clarity!!!

You're so welcome! And yes, we have to give ourselves grace and then get to moving- or else we'll be stuck in an inability to progress.

This is sooo true! Thanks for sharing from your expertise!!! I know your clients find it so helpful. 🤗❤️

So glad to hear that you’re coming to terms with how to best hold on to her memory in a way that doesn’t overcrowd your home 🫶🏽

Woohoo!!! You got this!

Hahaha!!! It was such a mess! And you are so right. We don't miss the things, but get so scared to let it go. My new saying to myself is "I don't need this!" (I mean unless, of course, I do. 😂 But I usually don't.)

Thank you so much!! 😊

So glad it’s helpful!!!

You are so welcome! It was difficult ❤️

Were you able to get to it?!

@@kristidoingthings You are Totally Sweet for checking in on me ♥️…For me God has been Calling me to Much Prayer for our Nation - so again this is my Need to manage less stuff…I have reset areas and Have Much Ideal Peace when I enter those spaces ( but those Hubs of Foolishness are still trying to stare at me). We are Entering a New Season so I am Hopeful to discard, discard when I get to it - but I have to Share one Thing that I think has A Lot to do with the Problem. As I was considering my projects…I asked the Lord, What’s the Big Deal on this why Such a Block - You will be Wowed by what He said, He brought to remembrance a shirt I was given when my Father passed ( it was sort of like an Outdoor Concert Shirt with signatures etc. - the concert was held on my Grandfathers old farm that’s why my Dad went.) Anyway God led me straight to the shirt amongst the stuff…it was almost as if I put my hand in and pulled it out easily). On it was Poseidon ( a False God), I had overlooked it when I received it…Gone went the False Idol - God is Honored! I Feel now that I will be able to get to that Space - It is Absolutely ridiculous that that was even part of the artwork. Thank you for the Accountability…It’s Helping ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Thank you so much!!! I’m so glad you’re here! ❤️❤️❤️ Storage has eaten up thousands of my dollars 🤦🏽‍♀️ Sounds like you are working your way through things! It’s a process but so worth it. (I am also a firm believer of throwing things away. I love donating but if it’s gonna stay in my home too long, I’d rather just get rid of it by any means necessary.)

Aww, thank you so much!!! And you are very welcome!

You’re so welcome! Glad to know I’m not the only one!

So glad you enjoyed!!! ❤️

aww, this makes me really happy to hear! For most things in life we have to figure out what works/doesn't work for us.

Awww, I really appreciate this! Thank you so much!!!

You're so welcome!!! So glad it helped and made sense!

Hey hey!!!! Yes, there’s so much to do. And no, not loving the bipolar weather- please make a choice!!! 🤣

Love STL! Hopefully getting up there soon to see my Cards ❤ and always going Spaghetti factory among other places!

I have been there!!! At one point I had BOXES of it. My husband rolled his eyes at me so many times as he helped me shred it. 😂😂😂

Awww, you can do this!!! We’ll push each other! ❤️

I appreciate you so much, thank you!!! 💛💜

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️

Amen to all of that!!!