I’m just here for the comments about my new sweater.

"most people don't finish the books that they start" ... why you gotta attack me like that

One of the lines that I've always liked from book 'Atomic Habits' is "You should be far more concentrated with your current trajectory than with your current results"

Summarized points - take action * take 3 most important points from a book and just do it - take better notes * read and takes notes, highlight, underline, or have sticky notes, just annotate - One size fit all will not work * the best books will make you think critically, so it fits for your life

"Slow Growth" soon on bookshelves, written by Matt D'Avella, edited by Mark Manson, foreword by Ryan Holiday, afterword by Tony Robbins, blessed by Dale Carnegie

I feel like a lot of self-help books can be summarized in one sentence: "The secret to happiness is that there is no secret." I've read a few self-help books, but for me, real self-help comes from good stories. Whether fiction or nonfiction, learning about someone else's life and how they overcame obstacles is what really helps me improve my own life.

I've always liked these lines from Thoreau which I keep by my bookcase: "A truly good book teaches me better than to read it. I must soon lay it down, and commence living on its hint. What I began by reading, I must finish by acting."

Thanks for this amazing information !! If you don't find a means of multiplying money, you will wake up one day to realize that the money you thought you had, has finished. Investment is key, I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

"How to win friends and influence people" is the first book I bought by myself! It really got me into reading and made me realize that books are such a cool way to learn new things!

There was a point when I read and listened to ALOT of self help books and podcast . In the years of mid 2000s to early 2015ish … But after a while so much of it became overlap and repeating the same message. “Face your fears, never quit on things you are passionate about, life is short” . A paragraph could summarize most these books … And the advice and “action steps” of many of these books was so vague and esoteric. Also I got tired of self help books from people , who’s only life experience was, self help .

Such an amazing video, kudos! If you want self-improvement and you haven't read - the hidden truths of wealth ebook, stop everything you're doing now and find the book. You'll thank me later

SOME IMPORTANT NOTES: 1) Taking Action, non matter how small, is the Key to making progress 2) A good rule of thumb: pick at least 3 concepts from every (self-help) book and put them into practice immediately. 3) Take notes and put bookmars when you read (probably actual books are better) 4) We often flinch in the face of fear, BUT if we embrace the flinch (instead of suffering it and getting blocked): when we repeatedly expose ourselves at different kind of flinches, both big and smalles, we can start to overcome fear and build the life what we want. 5) Avoid the mistake of blindy follow whatever advice is being shared (in self-help books): find what work for YOU 6) If you ask yourself what will stood in the way of progress, and than you develop targeted strategies to change beahvior, the results will be far better 7) The best self-help book ask you to think critical, the worst ask you to blindly follow a step by step plan: it's your responsability to question everything and ask yourself "how can I adapt this work for my life?". What's important is to be able to go in with an open mind, find 3 things that you can test, and hopefully find one thing that'll stick for the long run. CONCLUSION: Is important to remember that ultimately self-help is about the self, that's YOU: whatever piece of content you consume, consider how you can be an active participant in your own journey, by questioning, implementing and taking action in your own life (see #1): while it's great to take inspiration, you need to become your own "guru".

For all who didn´t finish the books: don´t worry. I started a lot of them, never did the exercises, almost never finished one. But I loved to get into new self helping books and got more of them. And slowley my thinking changed. Maybe it took longer time, but it changed. And also my hole life changed.

My unoriginal yet effective 5 cents for finishing the books you start: 1. Always pick a book that jumps out to you right at that moment (not one you think you should read) 2. Don't be shy to skim through boring sections (don't force yourself to read them word for word) 3. Attach reading to something you're already doing (for me that's drinking tea in the morning & commuting - I now read at least 1 book/week)

I have to agree. Started reading physical books again and I have a greater appreciation for them now compared to my ebooks and audio books. Being able to physically leave notes and mark pages is so much more satisfying.

I can totally relate when you said that books became your mentor. I feel the same way because there aren't too many ambitious enough people in my real life in which I could share ideas and have a edificial conversation.

"And Surprisingly handsome UKpostsrs" with Matt smiling at us, it made me smile even more than him. Every time there is a simple and great joke that makes it worth it. Thank you Matt.

After going through quite a few self-help books/videos, I realised that, mostly, the answers are within us, unless we need help on specific, more technical, topics. Our mind knows already what it wants and what's right for it. Persistence and discipline is where most of us lack.

The way you articulate the experiences with self help books… is just brilliant! Thank you for your thorough work and style of delivery about what we all have been thinking about the self help world 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼

Matt, the storytelling in this video is insane. So good! And concise. Thank you from the all of us.

Always remember: “Suffer the pain of self-discipline or suffer the pain of self-regret” -Love from a small UKpostsr

I listen to your videos when I'm working or cleaning my house. Thank you for breaking things down in such a compassionate and real way. No one has ever spoken to 'me' in a way I can relate to. So thank you. Keep doing what you do!

I can always expect no BS from your videos, Matt. Thanks for all of the value you are providing.

I don't know how this happens but everytime I am struggling with something, I try to put it off by watching youtube and everytime I do this, something relevant shows up in the feed. Today I was struggling with taking actions towards my goal and as an avid self help reader, this thumbnail got my attention. Absolutely loved the video, by far the best one on this channel. Thank you Matt !

Self-help books saved me from depression. The best lesson I learned is setting boundaries or just simply saying no to do certain tasks. I noticed more people (especially bosses) have given me respect and completely stopped effing around with me.

‘The four agreements’ is one that changed me as well! ‘Don’t take things personally and don’t make assumptions’

Great Video Matt. and I absolutely agree with this one. I'm lucky that I started highlighting and taking notes after only reading 3 books without doing so because I felt like I was not able to recall any info from them. Now I highlight the key ideas in every chapter, and every Section or so I copy these highlights and try to rewrite them in my own words. It lets me recall the ideas and keep a small summary of the book to refer for later when needed. I'm not doing my best at taking action but I'm definitely trying to.

Lately I’ve found that fiction can be just a good source for inspiration to improve myself: I get inspired to do well at university while reading The Name of The Wind, more focused on paying attention to my conversations when I read Norwegian Wood and so on. Point is, I think fiction is an underrated source of self-help.

Not only is the production is great but also the content is supper helpful thank you so much Matt

My favourite self-help quote I think is from The Minimalists: (paraphrased) Nothing changes if you don't change anything. Basically, don't expect a different result if you keep doing the same thing.

‘Self Help’ is an old fashioned term. We call this personal development these days. I’ve read 1000’s of these type of books and LOVE them. I take what resonates and leave what doesn’t!

I just realized exactly the same what you have explained. I like to read self-development books every morning for 10-20 minutes, but sometimes I forget things, so I'm getting serious about taking notes. What else what I have noticed, that not all the time you should take actions immediately after reading books like these. Maybe, you are already on the right path, but these self-development books will strengthen your belief, that you do the right thing already.

The direction of this video is insane, great production guys! Really a solid work of direction and investigation

Your content is like a therapy. Be the sight, be it the script, be the "you". Presentation ofcourse matters in every sort and aspect. Indeed, you aced it!! Kudos 👍❤️

Matt is the only self-help channel I need

Definitely the reminder I needed to take notes as I read! I always think I'm going to end up lending the books to someone so I always hesitate to write in them, but it really does add to the experience!

Its very rare for me to search for an uplifting and self-develpoment videos, and I'm glad I found yours honestly. I'm actually surprisingly motivated, and hopefully will start reading books again. Thanks.

I've started reading philosophy and honestly it's much better than any self help book I've read. I think it just puts me in a better frame of mind and helps me identity faults in my logic and ultimately helping me understand the world around me.

Really great advice. Taking notes has been the game changer for me. I personally like to keep it simple and I put a pencil like either side of a key thought or lesson from a book. After I finish the book, I’ll type them all up.

Some very true points. I've had to start reading all of my favourite books again just to take notes and fully consume their insights, would have saved a lot of time had I read them that way the first time round.

Nailed it Matt. Another high quality great piece of content. Appreciate all the hard work you put into these videos.

Thanks for everything you do Matt! You’ve been a positive role model for me for a long time!

I had watched your FLINCH video a while back and I actually tried it. Turned out to be the bestest advice I've ever taken

LOVED “How to Win Friends and Influence People". I was expecting it to be corny and cheesy but that book honestly changed my life.

Another great & truthful video Matt. Appreciate you for contributing into helping others out! 🤝

Well that was the most succinct and concise overview, I don't know how the hell you managed to cram all of these gems into 9 minutes?! 🤯 Thank you so much for this video Matt!

Love the videos Matt!! Thanks for all you do sir.

For those E-book enthusiasts. I keep a journal of everybook I read now and note page and paragraph of an idea quote etc. I enjoy. So hopefully by the end of my 20's I will have a journal full of info that essentially is my very own self-authored self-help for dummies.

Very well said, Matt. I used to love highlighting the books I read and I agreed it's efficient when we need to look back. But then it looks unclean, so I started to take notes then I have too many notes. I like best taking notes and start writing and talking about it or simply listening to your vlogs as you have summarized what you have learned.

Hi Matt, i stopped reading self-help book for years since I knew your channel. Now your videos are my audio self-help books

While I was translating Deep Work into Hungarian, I was mesmerized, started implementing many of its advice, but then it all started to fade away, despite the fact that I literally went through each and every sentence, so totally agree about note taking and relearning. :)

I still have Dale Carnegie's book - read many years ago! The points made are still as valid today as then. Its all about human nature and perception. Brilliant book. Recommend you read it.

Absolutely love your content! Thank you so much for all the time you put into this!!! It’s AWESOME!

Thank you Matt. Keep creating 🙏

I strongly agree! I used to be obsessed with learning as much self-help and personal improvement as possible, especially going from video to video. But eventually realized that I wasn't seeing much benefit because I couldn't recall much of what I had "learned" and didn't put it into practice. Overall, if you aren't first covering the essentials (enough sleep, eating right, exercise, have a planner), then you'll see minimal benefits from other tips like email management techniques. First though, grapple with why and whether you should be pursuing self-help. In what way do you want it to improve your life? To what end does being hyper-efficient matter if it just means you can now do more work? What do we lose by trying to turn our imperfect selves into unreachable perfection?

I use productivity tools like Tammy AI to help me learn anything faster on UKposts. Why spend more time than needed?

I have been experimenting alot with summaries lately and I think they are really worth it . You read more books and then the books you love you read the whole thing

Nice! Great video! I used to have the problem of taking toooooo many notes and couldn’t finish any book and had too many notes of little value. Now I don’t take hardly any notes, only important parts that affected me, and I read a lot more and benefit much more! Love seeing your process!

Good work, brother! God bless you!

Interesting that you mention the thing i found out about self-help books within the first minute - taking action! You can read 100s of these books and become the greatest expert on the topic, but if you never take action it doesn't matter. And most people will read these books and continue to not take action. That is why this industry is so successful. People have all the needed tools in their hands but when it comes to action they rather quit and read the next book hoping for the secret formula that will change their life.

Agreed. If you read all these self-help books without putting it into practice, it doesn't help much. It still put you in the right mindset but action is the most crucial place to start once mindset in in place. I'm the same about not wanting to ruin my books with earing pages and highlights. I am open to taking notes though.

I've been going through a similar experience myself. I just graduated college and been focusing on how to prepare for the working world. Always more insight out there. Cool video!

You're simply awesome, Matt! 🙂I love your content!

I like the new format of your videos! Keep it up!

I started "The Power of your subconscious mind" as my first book, and literally I've completed 8 Chapters in three days and i implemented whatever the author suggested and it really changed my mindset.

Thank you for another one Matt we appreciate you!

This is my most favorite video (as of today) of all of your videoes, Matt. ☺️❤️

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

fantastic video concept, beautifully crafted, and great utility. would love to see you share your list of the 100 SH books on goodreads or something. and/or a follow up video on your top 10 or so and why? great content as usual, matt! ty!

Your production quality is insanely good.

I really like your newsletter. The only helpful one I found, and a short amount of time to read. Thank you so much

I think it’s important to note: Everyone learns differently, so for some audiobooks can be just as good or better than physical books. When I listen to an audiobook I’ll glean most of the information, And I keep notes on my Google Keep when I hear something super important.

1. take action, don't just theorize. 2. pick three concepts from every self help book and put them into practice immediately. 3. act to your flinch and just DO IT. 4. take better notes while reading. 5. don't blindly follow what worked for the author, question and adapt in your own unique way. 6. from every book find 3 things that you can test, and 1 thing that will stick to you in long run. 7. be your own guru.

Quick implementation of the lessons you learn are the key. Like you know it's good advice even if you only take away one thing from the book but, people don't normally even put the effort in to do what they just learned.

Thank you 🙏 you made it so comprehensive and provide a good perspective!

''sure , the tactile feeling of reading a book is nice '' . That's not just nice , it is The beauty of reading .

I'm really interested into the list of self help books you've read. Is it available anywhere? And also...I'm always blown away from the quality of the b-rolls and how much love you put in every single video... I love u man ❤ greetings from germany 🇩🇪

Wow, this is such simple and such powerful advice! I love to read, and now I have tools to make them more intentional. thank you!

*I didn't think I would enjoy reading but I started about 6 months ago and now I cant stop! It is super fun to learn new things especially self help books. My current favs are dont believe everything you think, never split the difference, and atomic habits!*

Man you look awesome with the new sweater!

thank you, mate, this amazing summary is so fruitful, keep going bro, you are awesome

As always, amazing video! "Self-help is about the self" It's also very difficult to give some people recommendations on certain self-help books because not everyone is in that mindset of trying to better themselves.

I don't know if you will be positive or negative about self help books because I haven't watched the video yet, but the best self help book about recovering from mental ilness is 'You are not a rock' by Mark Freeman. It's not a book to read and feel good about yourself, it actually provides really practical steps to fully recover from mental illness. (I sound like I am paid to say this but it just saved my life so I want to share about it)

I love that point where you said not everything in self help books is true. I realized that some of the things said in some books didn’t feel right with my spirit. If it doesn’t feel right for you leave it alone. Authors are not perfect. They also still have a lot to learn and grow from.

Excellent video, explanation, footage. Brilliant as always, Matt!

I have been reading/listening some self-help books and you are right, they offer valuable knowledge on how to improve yourself and your life. what I have understood from those books is that " inaction kills dreams" For different reasons some people stop trying or stop dreaming and stay in their comfort zone for many years as a result when they get older they get ever more miserable in their life. One of the best pieces of advice that I received was " every 2 years do something significant in your life: change house, change job, study something, move somewhere else etc , this will be a major aspect to sharper your skills and to get out of the comfortable zone.

I changed my life drastically by reading and implementing Atomic Habits. If anyone is new to Self Help I would absolutely start with that book as it will lay a foundation for you with everything in life.

Great video, as always, my man! I also am too careful about annotating my books and I also fall into the category of those that only read the first chapter, or two, of probably the same 100 self-help books you’ve read all the way through. However, that changes today. From the vid I watched right before yours and then Seinfeld yours now, I’ll get back to the full read and notes, because I learn way better that way myself! Anywho, GOD bless and keep it pushin’ man!✊🏾🦉💯

Matt always finds a way to motivate me!

Love all these videos you produce. Really appreciate your efforts 💯 👍. Keep it up

1) Taking Action is the key to making progress. It's essential to take even the smallest steps. a) Embrace the flinch so we can overcome the fear and build the life we want! F**k the excuses just do it! b) Pick 3 concepts from each book that you read. Track the information. Take notes, highlight the best ideas, underline quotes, use post it notes. c)

Analogy of the transition to adulthood (my perspective) All your life as a kid you're nurtured and taken care of, hidden from a lot of the struggles that you may face when older. The transition of being a kid and becoming an adult is so quick and rough, you’re taught a few things here and there to help the transition but it’s not enough. One day you’re on top of the mountain, the next you're pushed off the cliff into adulthood and you try to stop yourself from hitting the bottom with the tools you have. You pull out your umbrella to slow the fall but it breaks and you keep plummeting and hit the bottom. You then have to pick yourself up and figure out how you can get back up the mountain and develop the tools needed to rise back up, you come across many problems along the way but you have to show adversity to get over these problems you get help along the way but at the end of the day you mostly face these problems by yourself. Many people spend all their life climbing this mountain to find no peak, some make it to the top, some are so badly hurt from the fall they don’t begin the climb.

these shots are amazing. always so inspiring, Matt 🥳🙏🏽

I suffered in college until I came up with the underlining, highlighting, and post-it tricks you highlighted here. Whatever I did that for is what I studied for before the test. It worked like a charm.

100.00% percent bullseye. I’ve read almost every one of the books shown in this video. And I was introduced to many of those authors via Matt’s previous UKposts work: The Ground Up Show. If you haven’t gone through those interviews, I highly recommend them. But even there, you have to take action ;-)

- 2:17 flinch - 2:33 restrain - 4:01 brim with - 4:20 glean - 4:33 diligently - 4:34 stand out - 5:26 tactile : xúc giác - 7:24 hardball: bóng chày

Your video editing is great. Very inspiring to see the ideas you have and creativity when it comes to content creation.

Simply fantastic video Matt!

1000% Agree to either practice some of what they are saying as you are reading it or annotate your books. The self help book that really "opened my eyes" was How to UnF*ck Yourself. There is a line in there that really stuck with me about him bashing self help books (in a sense people are not putting them into practice) stating something along the lines of: What are you going to do? Buy a new self help book, read it, feel productive for a week and then spiral back into your old habits and buy a new one and restart the cycle. You know what you need to do so start acting and stop "pretending" you are fixing it. At the time I had read 15 or so books back to back no applying or practicing anything. I read less of the books now but do so with more intention to practice what I'm doing to actually help myself instead of putting a bandaid over it

from cringe to binge 😄 very true & great video, thank you matt!