⚠️ NOTE: when it was written that the A in LGBTQAI+ stands for “ally”, it was meant to reflect what some people have assumed to represent “allies”, while many have corrected to stand for “asexuals”. this was not intended to segregate asexuals away from the LGBTQAI+ community. ORIGINAL POST: come back next week for *I spent a day with AUTISTIC PEOPLE* -- thank you so much for supporting me and this series :) luv, anthony padildo ps: shoutout to everyone who has turned on notifications 🔔 and directly support me in continuing this series.

"Asexuals: unlike the government, we wont screw you" Im dead 😂😂🤣

The fact so many men tried to challenge the girls' consent. Ew.

My favorite quote from another asexual “You do you just don’t do me” - a wise redditor

"When ever we do intimate stuff, it's more like an invasive medical exam." That hits home.

Am I the only asexual who doesn't think of 'kissing' as sexual? I would kiss someone but nothing more.

Asexuality, when you'd rather sleep, than sleep with someone.

I came out to my mom as ace almost a year ago and after I explained what it meant she said "doesn't everyone feel like that?" And I'm like .......

When I was in high school, I was geniunely confused why it was necessary for my sex ed classes to keep preaching abstinence, as I wasn't at all interested in having sex with anyone. Little did I know that the vast majority of people actual did want to have sex, and that I was in fact a weirdo for not wanting to do that.

‘I’m more scared of the pregnancy than the children’ - mood

So many people have said to me, "Oh, you'll like it once you've done it." I don't want to do it! I'd rather have cake.

Aphobic Christians: Don't have sex until marriage. Sex is sinful. Asexuals: Okay Aphobic Christians: WAIT NO NOT LIKE THAT. Edit: can y’all please stop having mini-wars in the replies. There’s a reason why i specifically said “APHOBIC Christians.”

It' so weird how our society is so focused on having sex. My friend asked me if I'm ace because having sex doesn't sound really appealing to me right now I'm 15

"asexuals unlike the government, we wont screw you" the truth has been spoken.

It’s a running inside joke in the ace community that most asexuals love cake and/or garlic bread, for anyone that doesn’t know.

“Asexuals unlike the government won’t screw you” I love that one so much

As an asexual, I agree that you don't need sex to have a good relationship.

"Sex does not make us whole. So how could you ever be broken?" My favourite perspective on asexuality

it's actually laughable how some people don't think that asexuality is real.

Being aroace is like visiting a museum. Sure, some pieces are nice to look at, but I'm not interested in taking any home & mounting them. 😂

Im not even asexual (I am a virgin though) but I feel like this video helped me. This idea in society that you have to have sex and that it’s a necessary part of being a human always makes me feel really bad and cynical about things, and like there’s just something fundamentally wrong with me for not prioritizing or experiencing that. This really just shows how arbitrary all that really is.

asexual is like the atheist of the sexuality

one of my friends is asexual and aromatic. her birthday is on Valentine's day.

I realized I was asexual when I saw a pattern in everyone one I dated . They all complained about me never making the first step to get physical or kissing. And it made them feel like I didn’t love them but that was not true . Just didn’t like being too physical or sexual .

as an aroace person, I've had so many people question if im even human. it sucks

“Scientist have only found asexuality around 120 years ago” Me looking at my girls Artemis, Hestia and Athena.

If you haven't noticed yet, asexuals can be straight/gay/bi/none. Romantic attraction is also a thing.

I have been battling with my asexuality with years. I got a boyfriend in college, and I realized it was exactly as they said: I was kissing a wall. I remember feeling anxious, dreading the moment when we would be intimate during our dates. I broke up with him once I realized it wasn't just dating jitters, and I was simply repulsed by physical intimacy. I've realized I'm asexual this past year, and quite frankly, I hate it. I hate myself for being asexual. I feel as though every person I will ever have a crush on is out of my league, because who would want someone who won't ever be intimate with them? I feel like my life will never be fulfilled, that I'm always going to be left unsatisfied. I worry I'll disappoint my parents, as I'll never have a wedding day, because no one will marry me if they can't have me on the wedding night. Watching videos like these give me some hope and reassurances that maybe my fears will all be proven wrong, and I hope one day I can love and accept myself like they do.

“Children are scary.” 😂😂 As a mom of 3 boys I get you.

Well I just figured out there's nothing wrong with me; I'm asexual.

My biggest asexual pet peeve is when people assume we’re not mature enough and if we grow up then we’ll like/want sex.

For the longest I was just so confused with myself Bc I had sexual attraction but the actual having sex with ppl scared the shit outta me and so seeing someone in the interviews who wasn’t “fully asexual” but still identified with it made me feel a million times better

I used to think I was asexual, and when I did it felt so validating to know there was a sexuality that really felt right. That personally changed for me, I discovered I was just demisexual (when you're only sexuality attracted to people you have an emotional connection with) for me I could find someone appealing but I simply cannot actually want to have sex unless I love AND really like the person. And I'm very repulsed by people I don't like, no matter how conventionally attractive they might be. The fact that people have the ability to feel sexual attraction to people without liking them as a person seems extremely strange to me. Thanks for shedding a light on this!

"Its like kissing a wall" Me : *kisses the wall to see what it's like*

Fun little reminder: Asexual people don't need to "look" asexual. People can dress however they want. Edit: This also goes for aromantic people!

Whenever I feel bad about my asexuality and feel like im broken, I come back to this video and it makes me feel slightly better

Asexuality is a constant battle of feeling broken, the missing out on what’s being constantly put on the pedestal as the best thing in the entire world and vital to the human experience and looking for answers where there are none. It’s good to know that there’s other people in the same boat and at least I’m finally in the one percent

Calling it a “debut” and not “coming out” is the new move

I’m straight but I literally don’t understand why its so hard for some people to accept other people just because of their sexuality or gender smh

As an aroace born a day after Valentine’s, videos like this honestly just make me feel validated, especially since I’ve been put down just for my sexuality. Also, fun fact, we asexuals tend to like garlic bread and dragons.

Being demisexual, I can relate! I felt broken for most of my life. From feeling violated by girls advances to being unsure about my sexual orientation... it's been a rollercoaster. "Am I gay, bisexual, straight... what the hell am I? I don't fit any moulds!" And then a year ago, at the young age of 42 :) , I discovered demisexuality and it was an eureka type moment and everything made a lot more sense. That helped a lot but having CPTSD, I still struggle to believe I'm worthy of being in a relationship and fight everyday to counteract my inner thoughts that say I'm just broken and weird and deserve to be alone.

Heterosexual: door swings one way Homosexual: the door swings the other way Bisexual: door swings both ways Pansexual: it’s a revolving door Demisexual: the door is locked and only one person has the key Asexual: the door is actually a wall Edit: I’m aware I didn’t make this analogy up you can’t post pics on UKposts comments and it’s fitting so I wrote it down in the comments because it’s a good easy and funny way to explain it. I’m not trying to take credit lol

“Don’t have sex till marriage.” Me: What, like it’s hard??

I kept getting recommended this video but was worried it would be about "Debunking" Asexuality so I was pleasantly surprised by the amazing video that you created.

I am happy that I can live without someone who might do stuff to me. I have no feelings for that. To me I really enjoy life rn. And it’s sad Society is making little kids believe that you HAVE to love someone.

Most annoying phrases to hear from non-asexuals, I’ll start: “If you’re not having sex with your SO, it’s not a relationship. You’re just friends.” Glad you get to decide the validity of my relationships.

This always starts like “Are these freaks!?” And all the time it ends like “These are lovely people”

As an asexual, I seriously thought people were just exaggerating how much they liked things before I realized I was different. When I realized I was ace, everything suddenly made a lot more sense.

While I grew up, I didn’t understand why people felt like abstinence was such a hard thing to do lol

just a note: you can be asexual and still like people... i dont feel like enough people realize this

I’m not asexual but I’m a baker and I’d be happy to provide you all with cake, garlic bread and unconditional support

Is that shubble? This aged interestingly

Watching this 4 years later only for shelby ❤

"if your having sex and you'd rather be eating cake, you may be asexual" for such a goofy sentence this was surprisingly helpful.

Me: I'm asexual My friend: No, you just can't get a girlfriend

If someone doesn't feel like having sex is totally fine. You don't have to agree understand it, just respect it.

I'm not asexual but one thing I've learned from the asexual community is the importance of platonic intimacy. Obviously this is important whether you're ace or not, but with romantic relationships being societally placed as the most important relationship in your life and your deepest source of intimacy, it's easy to mistake a deep friendship as a romantic relationship, or to feel that certain levels of significance and intimacy to that relationship mean that your feelings must be romantic. And I've met a lot of ace/aro people whose intimate friendships change the way I think about what a friendship has to look like.

*Wanders into a room of asexuals* "I'm here for the cake"

*Start having sex before marriage* Society: that's a sin. You're not supposed to have sex *don't have sex at all* Society: that's a sin. You're supposed to be having sex

It’s absolutely wild there was an anti trans documentary ad before this video

Personally i was like this ever since i hit puberty. If i think about having sex my brain just goes "No".

Oh oh oh here's my favorite "how would you know you're ace if you're a virgin?" I think this is just one of those things you innately know about yourself.

“Asexual” no likey sexy “Gray Asexual” sorta likey sexy

Even watching this years later as a person who recently found out to myself as a demisexual pansexual. I just love watching these because they help me learn more about the community and such.

I'm ace and around two years ago I got out of a very very toxic relationship in which my partner tried to literally force me to have sexual activities with him. It was hell of a ride and extremely mentally draining because I tried to explain to him, week after week, that I am ace and that I am just absolutely terrified about... The thing. Yk. I am shit loaded scared of pregnancy and accidents which might occur during the act and my mental health just wouldn't deal with it. I would become paranoid and absolutely delusional about suddenly having to raise a child, even tho I might not even be pregnant. I am not taking the pill and my ex begged and explained to me, dozens of times, that a condome is enough and I literally snapped at him at some point. After crying and standing up for myself for months at this point I reached a point in which I couldn't take anything anymore. He could have said the tiniest thing about this topic and it would trigger me so hard, I would just break down. SA happened and two days afterwards he broke up with me, bc, I quote: "If you're not breaking up then I will. If you don't wanna have Sex then I don't see the use in this relationship because Sex is extremely important to me and I need it." It was new years eve, January, 2021. Even weeks after I still felt the urge to throw up and beat myself up for not being normal. It left scars and nowadays I am super... Like... Super scared of getting into a relationship because of the exact same reason this idiot left me years ago. I am scared of the concept of not being able to receive love without doing the thing. And it breaks my heart. I am 20, almost 21, and I feel like something is wrong with me...

“Don’t have sex before marriage!!” “Ok, I won’t have sex at all” “NO THATS A SINNNNNNNNN”

NOTE: Asexuals lack sexual attraction or sex drive! Aromantics lack romantic attraction! There are differences!

Just to show some support for this demonetized serious. I love when Anthony pointed out the fact that the society tend to tell people what's normal to feel and if people don't feel that way, there's something wrong. I mean, I always believe that human diversity is an art created by god (or whatever entity designed human being), and social norm is a collective ideology of the contemporary society, which can be limited. Feelings are the most genuine human experiences that we should always appreciate as arts, instead of judging them.

As an asexual guy, I felt like I was just a weirdo with a broken brain before I knew fully what asexual meant, since I have always still felt romantic attraction.

MY MİND: Two asexuals sıttıng ın a tree S-I-T-T-I-N-G . Plase call the fire department. We are stuck. lol

My sister: I’m an asexual (has been for 30 years) My family: you just haven’t found the right man yet! My sister: ummmm.... no.

Great video, as always! Just a one thing I wanted to point out. Sex-positive ≠ sex-favorable. You can be sex-repulsed and still be sex-positive. Sex-favorable refers to your enjoyment of sex. Sex-favorable asexuals enjoy having sex but don't experience sexual attraction. Sex-indifferent people don't care about sex. Sex-repulsed people don't want to have sex. In contrast, sex-positive refers to your opinion on sex as a whole. People who are sex-positive view sex as an overall positive or beneficial experience and are generally open about talking about it. People who are sex-negative view sex as inherently immoral or wrong, though exceptions are usually made for sex after marriage. ~~~ "The cake." Naw, it's GARLIC BREAD. (It's both.) "Have societal pressures ever made you question your own sexual desires or lack thereof?" Oh _absolutely._ I initially felt like I didn't belong in the a-spec community because I felt like _maybe_ in the future, I'll find the right person or _maybe_ that's not my orientation, that's just my values. Then, after I'd accepted the a-spec umbrella label, I initially thought that I was cupiosexual _and_ cupioromantic. Now, I realize that I'm actually not cupiosexual, that that was just parental and societal pressures telling me that I _should_ desire a relationship, one that is both romantic and sexual in nature.

When Anthony was talking about the demonetization problem, I started to cry because I was queer asexual and needed more insight on the matter; this video helped me understand myself more. I'm glad I was able to watch this. thank you, Anthony for bringing insight into all matters of the psyche

It means a lot that he interviewed someone who is grey asexual. People think I'm making stuff up when I try to explain that that is who I am. It means a lot to be seen.

Parents: no dating!! no sex!1! no physical contact until 20

This video helped me shatter personal assumptions about those who identify as asexual! Strangely enough, I enjoy having my bias morphed! Great video Anthony, thanks for keeping life real!

I had a few asexual friends and they all told me they wish someone told them about asexuality growing up. When my nephew was old enough to understand, I told him about all the identities and stuff. And he perked right up and said "That's what I am!" About asexuality. He seemed really happy he wasn't the only one. Now he could change later in life, which is fine, but I guess I'm really glad I told him.

This series went from being a joke where you talk to flat earthers and alien believes to just straight up bringing light to topics that aren't usually discussed. I'm actually like proud.

So glad Anthony has decided to go this way with his solo career as a sort of internet journalist

If I'm broken I really don't want to be fixed.

As a sis straight girl I'm really invested to know about lgbtq+ society, asexuality is really hard for me to comprehend and by no means, I'm not judging it, I just have a lot of questions. Like what clarifies the line between friendship and a relationship for them. I have a lot of questions of trans people too but I'm always afraid that my questions bother them. I really wanna know enough so I can support yall. Yall should talk more about the harassments and obstacles. You should inform people. Knowledge is power.

bruh they need asexual dating sites

I remember coming out as Ace to my mom and she told me, “That’s not a thing, you’ll feel that kind of attraction when you’re older, you’re just too young.” 🥲

"Sex doesn't make us complete, so how could you be broken without it?" ~ Jean Milburn, Sex Education (2019)

As an ace I can feel so much love and happiness hugging and cuddling but not sexually… basically it doesn’t turn me on

I'm a bi-romantic asexual and I'm a pastry chef 👀 I got cake for y'all:))

"Whenever I do intimate stuff its more like an invasive medical exam" I FELT THAT ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL

As a pansexual, its still pretty crazy to me that theres a group of people whos sexuality it completely different to mine (not crazy in a bad way, but crazy as in like, knowing that there are people whos minds are basically in another universe) They prob think the same about pansexuals like me though lol

A reminder that aces can ENJOY sex and can have a high libido, but simply do not DESIRE sexual activity with another person.

l am an asexual woman I live in India. I am tired of explaining what is asexuality to my friends and family. my mom understands me. The rest of them think it's just a phase. it's pretty annoying. I don't like sex, I don't enjoy sex or want to have kids. I think due to societal pressure and stereotypical gender roles, asexual women feel a lot of judgement

I love how Anthony is respectful, he’s not making fun of them he’s hearing them out. I really love that and I think that’s why so many people like his channel, it’s all very genuine

Really appreciate this video. I'm a sex-repulsed ace (I don't even like kissing tbh...) but I still want companionship, and even to have kids some day, but dating is so daunting because I'm scared I'll be pressured into doing things I don't want to do :/

learning about the way an asexual person responds to certain things like affection and such is so baffling but amazing. almost all of my lgbtqia+ friends are asexual or ace, and listening to them talk is genuinely interesting. they don’t downplay affection or think bad of it, as well as other things, and it is so cool to hear their stories. i love it. more people need to listen to their stories because you can truly learn a lot, and it’s the easiest way to show you care without being rude or insensitive

PSA : we do not all hate jokes or talking about sex, it’s not like you need to walk on eggshells we just don’t want to partake or find it very interesting and like something we would want to try !!

i remember when i came out to my mom as ace at first she cried to me about how sad she was that i'd never find love. i remember when i came out to my friends, none of them understood and just laughed instead of supporting me. i remember a boy on my bus overheard my conversation with a friend and turned around to tell me he could "f*ck me until i liked it." i remember another boy telling me i was mentally ill because i identified as asexual. seeing this video, especially from someone i've watched for years and looked up to, makes me finally feel seen and valid. anthony, these videos are a series i think everyone needs to see. thank you for exploring all of these communities and letting each of us feel seen and heard. you approach each topic with such a open mind that's hard to find in our society anymore.

I had one guy ask if being asexual meant i could walk around naked … he legit thought it meant i didn’t have genitalia…

For this being an asexual video, the shop name gave me a jumpscare 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I was like.. THE *WHAT* SHOP???

People: So... you're asexual? Me, a Demisexual: Yes... But also no.

i’m tired of people downplaying asexuals and saying "i’m asexual" when they don’t catch feelings for anyone in a month

who is here after wilbur's allegations ? who knew he was such a creep