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Shoutout to the guy who’s dad left, I don’t know how he held it together like that. I haven’t been through any of that, but I’d have been crying like a five year old girl with a skinned knee.

To the young man that talked about his father and admitting that he thought he was a loser and no one likes him, that was very brave to admit in a large group of people. You really helped me out by talking about this and I'm guessing everyone in the group as well. Thank you for doing this, it's nice to know I'm not the only one that thinks this way. By the way you are far from being a loser, in fact you are the total opposite, in my book you are a winner!

"Healthy Self-Esteem Is Not About Proving Yourself And Others That You Are Worthy Of Unconditional Love, Its About Identifying And Letting Go Of All The Excuses, Beliefs And Traumas That Ever Convinced You Otherwise."❤

“Nothing is worth ever compromising your authenticity.” Love it Julien. That’s so true!

Self-hatred can even come from a person you don't remember. Let me explain. A few months ago i had to go to therapy because I had a huge anxious attachment breakdown after a loved one died; I hated myself to the point where I felt I had no "self." I also was incapable of being alone, incapable of processing loss, incapable of emotional regulation, and begging for validation from others. I came to realize through therapy that the breakdown was caused by the fact that I never in my life grieved my mother who left me when I was a toddler, and by the fact that my mother had bipolar disorder and therefore regularly neglected me (and even isolated me from others) during her depressive episodes. I remember NONE of these life events, i barely remember my mother in any manner and i had no clue i was neglected nor isolated. Yet, my self-hatred was tied to a woman I barely remember. It's completely crazy. I hope more people learn that this sort of thing can happen, that things which you don't remember or don't rven know happened could impact your self-esteem, mental health, and life SIGNIFICANTLY.

Questions from the end for reflection: 1. Why do I hate myself? 2. Why am I not good enough? 3. Why is success not for me? (Or why don't I deserve success?) 4. What am I hiding? (What an I afraid people will see?) 5. When did I first start betraying myself?

Why do I hate myself? Why am I not good enough? Why is success not for me? What am I hiding? What am I afraid People will see? When did I first start betraying myself? Disconnecting from me? Saying yes when I wanted to say no..

This video had me knees to the ground in tears. I didn’t realise it but I had a similar trauma with my father and felt the emotions as if I were there. I called my dad as well and he told me that he has been wanting to hear me open so badly. Thank you so so much Julien, I can’t express how much this helped me❤

“The road to enlightenment is paved with disillusionment.” What a gift this guy is to be saying what he’s saying on UKposts. He’s perfectly on point!

This event was life changing for me. So happy I went to see you live, Julien. Since the event I have been doing the releases on a daily/weekly basis, depending on my needs. Over the past year I've experienced some crazy intense emotional releases through your guided meditations. I've never felt this confident and free in my entire life and I'm killing it socially, financially and professionally right now. Thank you Julien, I love you

I'm glad Julian exists. I am filled with so much hate. Glad people like him exist makes me have a shred of empathy again

Wow! This is intense and very helpful for sure! I used to be that person who hides and pretend everything is okay until I was depressed, didn't want to be with anybody, hated family and friends, hated the world and looking for answers. I found God and pursue Him. I read the Bible cover to cover, no skipping a page and changed my life. I found the love that I didn't know I had, the unconditional love we are all looking for. For me it was my mother who didn't care about me but when I learned, understand and know that I know God was, will and always be with me, I didn't care anymore if my mother couldn't and will not love me. God's love is more than Enough. Thank you for this video! Very helpful indeed! ❤️🙏

This guy is doing great things for ppl and seems like a really cool dude to look up to. How many men struggle with this stuff and society tells them to 'suck it up'. There are a lot of men (and women) that need this.

This is essentially therapy, looking in to find the answers. Not in a bad way, we all need it. You're in your own way wherever you go.

Poor boy, he feels like a loser because "nobody wants him", but he doesn't realize that he can put aside the opinions of others to focus on what he thinks of himself regardless of what others think. I used to feel the same conflict with myself when I was in elementary school because my classmates pushed me aside but I soon realized that I was not the one with the problem but the others, I noticed that bullies need to do less to someone to "feel better with themselves", since then I no longer cared about the opinion of the people because I convinced myself that I should not care about the opinion of someone who is rotten inside.

The exercise at 12:00 is CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy). Some psychologists specialise in it. Very useful in getting rid of core beliefs that are false and holding you back in life. Thank you for this video, I was feeling down but it inspired me.

You are a brave man to be open publicly about your struggles. It has already helped me in a huge way!

Wow that was such a visceral experience seeing that man being able to be open and honest about his dad in this seminar. Such a really powerful message about honesty and authenticity which I really needed to hear today. Thanks Julien

Hey I normally never comment but this is the first video that ever truly spoke to me. I’ve never heard anyone understand self hatred the way you do and explain it so perfectly. I feel like I was finally heard and found the catalyst to my improvement. Thank you for guiding me and thousands of others Julien.

11:16 This man made me cry... so much related to his words. Just want to give him big hug 💚 So brave!

Thank you so much for opening up like that. It helped me finally to figure out a piece of my Hurt. Je bent zo veel waard ❤️

"I Am" the concept of self defines everything.

This brought me to tears. It"s so true. Be real with yourself and others and you will feel and be free.

Thank you! Have been trying to fix my outer circle for a while - and given in. Recently started then to work on circle no. 2....and now that I have seen this, for the first time ever, I truly understand why all this won't work. Like, truly. Bowling my eyes out and utterly grateful that I have stumbled accross this video. Every word got to my core. Brave young man that talked about his dad. Not only because of the crowd, but because it takes so much courage to say it out loud to yourself.... Again, thanks Mr. Julien. Kind greetings from Austria

I hope that guy found out, that his dad didnt felt that he deserved to have his familiy because of something from his own background and never fixed it. This guy now got the task and can choose to take action or hide - choose between fear or love

I have NEVER seen such a helpful video - NEVER! Bless you young man - GREAT work / great! Thank you!! Subscribing…..

I always thought that I wasn't good enough. Turns I am, I just want to be better

Your dad leaving you just shows what kind of a person he is. You dont have to blame yourself for such a thing. You even don't have to talk to him if you want to.

I love how Julien's videos go from seminar look like to cinematic drama scenes when people own their shit.

A couple of times in life I told people... all. That IDK, should to be said. Did it help? Not really. Except maybe now I know sometimes the communication we imagine is just impossible. They will not understand you. It's not even their fault. You would not understand them. Communication is overrated. Everyone is in fact perfectly alone inside. We will never truly know each other. But does it really matter? I learned that speaking with action works a little better. It's harder, it doesn't ALWAYS work, but sometimes it does. Talking works hardly ever. Maybe because I'm autistic. Maybe not. I rarely see people fix things with talking. And if you want to do something about it just now, nah, it's not how it works either. But it's almost sure that there will be a time for that. When you would not expect it at all.

Excellent! Thank you for helping others!!!! Blessings to all who are helped by you, and Blessings to you, You have a big heart Julien!

No matter where you go ...there you are! We cannot exape oneself!

-Why do I hate myself: I use to blame myself for all that I wasn't among others. I was and still am not sociable, charming, and when I wanted to date someone, I saved myself trouble by instilling doubt in my mind. It was horrible. -Why am I not good enough: The slightest inauthenticity makes me feel critical and fake. Sometimes I feel fragile in front of others because of it. So I blame myself. Why? Because my father found it better to blame others for his short comings. -Why is success not for me: I didn't deserve it. I have too much shame to feel successful. Even if I have succeeded, it feels all for nothing. Like it was meant for someone else. Someone who champions valuing their life. My malcontent for myself is built on the shame of years of neglect, boredom and addiction to pornography. -What am I hiding: My addiction to pornography. -When did I first start betraying myself: You mean rage fapping? When I realized it was a distraction from what was hard to do. That was... come to terms with my environment. Broken family, inability to express myself to those I care or want to care about.

These are the bravest people ever

Not sure why you popped up in my feed...but perhaps my phone has been listening to my self hatred talk :/ I have been so hard on myself my entire life. And even people around me tell me I am. some very powerful stuff in this video. Lots to chew on. Props to you. You seem very passionate, genuine and knowledgeable

these videos have been helping me get out of depression thank you so much

This helped me realize some things in Life i have never tought of, especially to express how you really feel. Great Video ❤

WOW! This is incredible. So useful! Thanks so much.

I glad you appeared on my feed. I am one of millions who struggle to identify emotions and intelligently act on them especially those which society looks down upon - Jealousy, hatred, affection, lust. I was in 6th standard when an angry person very close to me called me a jinx. He said that the time since when he has not been achieving anything was the time when I was born. All at once I was blamed for his business losses and misfortunes. All I felt that day was nothing but a mix of victim and evil. I feel the effect to this day. I feel uncomfortable looking at him or he looking at me. I stumble at my words with under confidence when I talk to him and try to conceal my emotions with a fake smile. Since then I have only been trying to act unaffected. When he asks me something I suppress my judgements and reiterate someone else’s opinions fearing of not offending him ever again. I have been giving my best pleasing him since then. Sorry, I couldn’t muster courage to forgive him. And I am also aware that not forgiving someone just becomes a cause of your own bitterness. You must shed your past miseries to grow. But it’s truly hard to forget about a punishment you never deserved.

Why would I need to be good enough? Aren't I enough? How am I enough is what I need to be asking...Good enough is just other people's standards that I've adopted for approval..

Your messages, tips and explanations are so powerful! I can totally feel it. Thank you! Something that also helps me from time to time is to encourage myself to start a sentence with 'honestly,...' It helps me to sort of poke more easily under some resistance layers. Honestly, I feel hesitant about posting this. Honestly, I feel like what helps me doesnt matter, and shouldnt be heared or expressed. Honestly, I feel doomed to be ignorant, and my offerings less valuable than anyone else's. Honestly, my intentions are caring and loving, but honestly it doesnt matter if there is at least one person in the world who knows better. Honestly, I hate feeling so small and self repressed.

Wow! That was deep! Great video mate!

The 'theory' is very well communicated here, however, I am concerned about the method of therapy. There is a risk that a participant may, e.g., be over-compliant (with the teacher here, and also with their father). This could later feel re-traumatising. Therapy needs to be conducted in a very safe setting. I also don't think he should have called his father until much more work had been done on their relationship so that he had reflected deeply on how the relationship functions, and has prepared himself well for any potential fall-out.

Powerful moment with the participant. Loved it! Especially when you grabbed his face... you care, really care

Now I finally know why I'm obsessed about personal development - because it feels shitty to be me. DAMN

“Until you make the conscious conscious it will guide your life and you will call it fate” - a quote by Carl Jung

wow the way you can tap in and lock in to your audience, by taking them down the mental journey, amazing !

What a beautiful young man, the one who bared his soul.

Sublime! This should be known by everyone, to have a healthy society! However, with what do they feed us in this society? With crap limiting beliefs and false needs, to keep us weak and dependent. Let's each one of us be responsible for chosing the influences we feed our minds with. With responsibility comes the Power.

Love you all; just always speak up for yourself. I thought it would be easy but this took me months: catch yourself when you call yourself stupid, ugly, evil, flawed because someone who felt bad about themselves told you that 🙂. Best of luck

Wow. I didnt expect this to make me cry. A whole room of men that think no one loves or likes them...be still heart.

Being able to self sooth is imperative and a missing factor in my healing for many years , I still have to consciously make sure I do it , I was never shown , I tend to think to seek support or sooth myself means I'm weak , which keeps me from getting well.

One of the best video I've ever seen on self esteem❤️

Great job Julien!

I could listen to this guy all day, well spoken.

Go tru the pain And accepting it Give it a place "healthy" And Carry on Smile to yourself in the mirrior

Thank you for this!

Thanks dude❤

Amazing, i love your concept and core values about authenticity.

Awesome Video, thank you!💪🏻

Man, the speech to the guy whose father left him, hit very hard.

Very well explained, l really enjoyed your delivery. Just being yourself. It is refreshing.

Much love to the guy that opened up❤️✨️❤️✨️

So I had had to deal with parental breakup n still haunts me .. N yeah they got their life’s figured with different partners ! Me left with no belonging ! So many of my insecurities are due to them .. lack of love.. being afraid of being worthy of love.. being afraid of being accepted.. I have started to acknowledge I have been putting up a mask all my life.. people pleasing.. always helping others for their needs.. putting everyone else before myself.. not letting others hurt due to any of me.. It’s been Hard ! Hell kinda Hard for me to Actually Accept What I have Become ! Everyday, unfolding new layers beneath me- to Feel me ! To Be The Authentic Me ! Love to all who’s going thru any sort of difficulties !

Wow the trust and intensity here drives the point home!

I just want to hug that beautiful young man😭

That man brought up my unresolved issue of my father dying so young via diabetes. And now I'm doing the exact same thing. I'm letting the diabetes go because I stopped caring. I even went back to smoking cigs again, even though it's hard for me to breathe while smoking, because I could really care less.

Wow thank you for your honesty

I been watching your videos Julien and helped me with my social skills and confidence

I hope you are feeling better soon Julien.

love the work you do❤️🙏🏻

My father was a good one and he loved me more than he loved my brother..i new that I and I enjoyed it.. however he was an alcoholic and verbally abusive to my mom. We lived in a very small apartment and you could hear him yelling at her for no reason and we would stay quite till he finally stopped and when to sleep. That messed with me big time. I was so angry with my mom for not leaving him. When I was 14 he got a cancer and dyed 11 months later. Then the rollercoaster started. I was so angry with him for choosing that kind of life instead of him being the father I needed him to be. I felt unworthy for so many years as he did. I was desperate seeking attention from everyone in my life..

Wow. This really hits, subbed.

I can’t stop crying I love the guy he is so sweet and so cute it broke my heart so much . I cannot stand that he has suffered and felt this way I never thought anyone felt like I feel and it’s awful I pray he is feeling better 💔😭

RSD Julien, gone were the days, 6 years and counting. Keep it up my dude

This was powerful. Is there a second part to this video? 🙏

This video is AMAZING

Julien, your approach is direct and effective. The wat you guided that gentleman is inspiring! Thank you for sharing your gift with us.

Best coache I have ever seen 🎉

Man you rock. You are real!

Amazing. I need this!

POWERFUL!

This sounds like it relates to San Pedro experience, people say I felt extremely me. Grounded in true self. Recognising all the crap that’s just ego. Step out of the ego traps and bring them off lightly.

That dialog hit me like a brick, such an universe inside each one of us.

["Money don't buy happiness but it just so happens that money buy drugs" - Cal Scrubby]. Had to throw this one in here just for shites n giggles. Jokes aside, this is an important video, and it takes an effort to integrate this info into one's life. Good on you, mate.

He’s right, nobody is good enough if they are striving to be good enough. But also to say you ARE good enough just doesn’t seem right, it implies you have no where else to improve. But there’s a distinction which is, you are good enough and have value as a person. But do i? Yes because you are made in the image of God. Which makes us all equally valuable as humans. And also gives us the opportunity to be secure in who we are even if life is terrible. That is not say we can improve our lives which is where Julian comes in so helpfully. But this self help practice seems to be taken as it’s own religion when it’s really a part of a puzzle. Wish you all the best in your self help journeys!!

Deep Love Brother. This is so helpful and your Words are so easy to understand.

The Ex PUA or still PUA, social dynamic or real social dynamic. This bring back to memories 7-10 years ago. I was single and lonely. Now I am in LTR nearly 6 years and counting. Thanx for planting the growth mindset and self accountability mind set of continuous improvement.

my humble opinion is : you are already worthy you don't have to prove nothing, you already have self esteem you don't have to raise it was never low, but what's there is there are so much negative thoughts about yourself that we make up about ourselves or society does that we start to THINK that we are unworthy or unwanted or undeserving of love and respect then you start to feel shitty about yourself and you go search for how to raise self esteem as a reaction to negative thoughts and judgments about yourself, let me assure you this you don't have to raise your self esteem because you already have it and you don't have to prove nothing to the world because you are already worthy,but there's only one problem how to deal with your negative thoughts that's keeping your true self hidden like gold in the dirt, i would recommend that you practice living in the now and you can learn that by listening to Eckhart Tolle, live in the now don't try to eradicate the negative thought just be aware of them, breath calmly don't try raise you're self esteem, it will happen naturally after you minimize the effect of your negative thoughts about yourself your true self will start to shine and you won't even be aware of it, you'll see that you have become more wise, more patient, more cool and all that by just living in the now.

Exactly. In to out. While most people thought its out to in.

Wow. Think I just coincidentally did systematic constellation with this video. What a work. Damn I'm relief. And greatful. And now I'm taking myself on a date to eat my favourite pancakes. Thanks!!

I was sad for 4 years. The moment i let go of this one toxic friend i spent about 90% of my free time with and only smoked weed with it all changed. It was a dead weight holding me down.

I teared up listening to that young man in the dark blue shirt; I felt his pain 😢

Man that part hit home for me found myself crying about an enemy that was my friend at one point. I had so much built up and all of it came out as he kept asking him why. I could feel the tears running down my face.

The first of your videos that made me cry

The death of my family has put in circles grief I can’t escape from. The anxiety is sharp and daily. I’m a professional musician who can’t concentrate on my work. I’ve tried meditating, many drugs, many therapists. I’m trapped. I watched your meditation video and it was great. I’ve avoided my anxiety all my life and it’s an enemy to fear. I created this. How, how do I tear it all down?

someone finally on youtube able to understand what I'm going through

I usually feel about a 5. I have crippling self esteem issues because of the fact that I’m short…I’m 5’2”. I don’t hate myself, in fact I think I’m pretty awesome. But it’s my looks that I hate. And it creates my social anxiety. I feel like everyone is judging me and looking at me, thinking “wow this guy is short” or something. And the things that people have told me throughout my life confirm this. People have been very nasty to me. I started feeling low self esteem probably in 4th grade, over 20 years ago now. My teacher was nasty and always put me down. I believe that she created the beginning of my low self esteem. Before that I have no memories of insecurity. Middle school was bad. I had really bad anxiety and made very little friends. No girlfriends. That continued in high school. No girlfriends. Also, a girl told me that I remind her of someone “who is like 8 years old”. My parents got divorced at 14 and it’s been a roller coaster since then at home. My family has a lot of toxic people in it. They’re not toxic to each other but to themselves. Zero discipline in my family. I’ve lived with drunks most of my life. I’m 31 now. Been in the military, became a Muay Thai fighter, stoicism, etc…not nothing has changed. I feel better AT THOSE THINGS, but it still hasn’t made me feel better about my looks. Still no girlfriend. I got my teeth fixed, I dress well, I do all these things to feel better, and I do look better, but it doesn’t make me FEEL better. I still don’t feel worthy. I got picked on in the military too because of my height so it was the same thing that happened back in high school. And even today people point out how short I am. How can I feel good about myself when women think “eww” because of my height? Your look IS YOUR BRAND. People look at me as low value because of how short I am. I’m still terrified of talking to women…I mean I can talk, I work in sales and know how to have a conversation, but I get extremely self conscious when talking to a woman I like. I’m thinking how am I standing, what do I do with my hands, what do I say next, etc…I make myself into a nervous wreck and she can feel the awkward energy. I don’t know how to change this. I know it comes from a place of not feeling worthy enough to go out with her, and that if she likes me it means I “got lucky”, but I don’t know how to change this. And I watch these videos about self improvement and Adonis and all that…but Adonis is tall. Being as short as I am is NOT masculine to a woman, and there’s nothing I can do about it. I feel like anything I do is just cope. I’m 31 and I still get called “kid” by people. Even people younger than me that don’t know my age. A girl who was like 20 said “hey kid”. Like I’m 10 years older than her! And I have a beard! I take care of myself! Why do people talk to me like I’m a kid? Julien, i think you need to understand that my self esteem issues come from actual feeedback from the outside world. It comes from experiences that I have, the way people treat me and talk to me. I never feel like I’m being treated as an equal. No matter what I’ve done in my life, people always treat me different, like I’m not on their level.

External things can do it but establishing a soild internal foundation will set u up for life. What ive experienced is you have to conquer your internal self, after that its nothing that can hurt you. When you lose your focus is when it gets confusing