This whole story is so goddamn weird.

“Ex friend” 💀💀

Girl rules: You come together, you leave together. Period. No exceptions

Her : I wanna leave Her friend : okay let's go Her : I'mma stay okay?

“When you see the world with rose colored glasses, you miss all the red flags.” It often takes a traumatic experience to prove to us why we can’t trust people and forces us to believe there are people who really can and will hurt us. All my love to this woman for living through something so horrible. I’m so sorry you learned that lesson this way.

Moral of the story: LISTEN TO YOUR GUT

“I was kidnapped, But I had to message my kidnapper “hey I just wanna be friends” Then was weirded out when he blocked me”

Even the damn tarot cards were like “don’t do it, sis”

Trust your gut. Seriously that feeling is there for a reason. We used to use it to sense dangerous predators who meant us harm, and the sense of the word predator has changed but it’s still our warning system for dangerous things and people.

The downplay of taking pills drives me insane.

I couldn’t even follow this story, it feels like a fever dream

I’ve literally never seen someone make so many bad decisions in my life.

PSA: Don’t EVER leave your friend alone at a party EVER. It is absolutely not okay.

Why are there people blaming this girl instead of the person who did this to her? Sure she was naive, but experienced something horrible and there are commenters focusing on what she did as a victim and not what the actual culprit put her through.

"So yeah I felt really weird and kinda scared. Everything was super sketchy..." "So anyway, I kept following them. I also took whatever they gave me, ya know, just because-"

This was so hard to watch because she kept downplaying all of her mistakes and for some reason made her friend seem like the vilian and she barely took any responsibility for taking drugs I don't get

The amount of red flags. It sucks. I'm sorry you had to go through this.

Her to her friend: you dont owe this guy anything Her to herself: I just dont like saying no

This story doesn’t fully sound true it’s seems like there’s more to it

The most complicated “sorry I was late” story ever

That “ex friend” sounds like she’s been raped before. That switching is a sign that she’s trying to cope with the stress she’s feeling. Ewey. Jusy ickey. Everything about this story is horrible. I understand the feeling of “Oh, it’s not as bad as I think it is, my anxiety is just messing with me, I’m overacting.” But that anxiety, and that uneasiness, it’s there for a reason. It’s called fight or flight. Your instinct knows when to get the hell outta there.

There's a tv show called I Survived that has lots of people sharing stories of situations they lived to talk about like this. It's horrifying, but the end result is they survived. This story reminded me of that

This whole story has so many missing pieces that I find suspect to. Gotta say there’s a reason that other college girl Molly didn’t like this girl.

"Did you get kidnapped?" Her: well yes, but actually no.

Not everyone is lucky. But she is.

“He offers me some pills” *exhales* “I took them”

Maybe she should re-examine the definition of "kidnapping?"

I’m crying 😭😭😭 “so I take the drugs that he offers me” you done kidnapped yourself

“If I get on a double decker British bus, I’m going to vomit.” I was like, why was that your biggest concern when you just took some drugs and you’re in a place you don’t want to be in? I wouldn’t care if if I might throw up on a bus I’d leave.

When she says her friend “just switches” her demeanour “to perform” after previously indicating she was scared tells me that she (the friend) has been in a similar (i.e., abusive) situation before. It’s a survival tactic, as ironic as that may seem. Edit: it seems my comment has stirred up some (unintended) controversy. My comment is from both a professional and personal perspective. I.e., from knowledge from my own life and diagnosis as well as from my post-secondary education and professional experience in clinical settings. I am not qualified to diagnose anyone and can not confirm that what I speculate true for the woman referenced in this story. I was just stating how I would interpret that behaviour, and decided it was worth commenting on it in hopes I could educate viewers or give a different perspective to people who may be confused or even appalled by how the friend reacted. Thank you to those who have shared their experience. I would also like to remind everyone that PTSD is a complex illness and that we should try to avoid invalidating each other’s feelings and experiences and instead remind ourselves that we will never know what the individual we are discussing from the video was thinking or feeling in that moment.

Basically she found out it was a sex dungeon willingly stayed watched her friend have sex, willingly took pills, willingly made out with a man, willingly got in his car and willingly went to see him again. Honestly just don't get me started. U knew what u were doing the whole time and idk about u but i wudnt stay in a strangers house because im exhausted

I can empathise with the college friend who hated her.

when she says “she was crying and saying it hurt and i asked her if she was fine” literally the video “ask the child if he or she is choking”

"You go together, you leave together." I never understand women who leave their friends anywhere, let alone in another country. No one deserves to be treated this way for sure but they definitely should have been more mindful of one another.

“it’s london not many people own cars” have you seen london traffic

She wasn’t kidding about saying “yes” to everything

It's a shame she never reported this to authorities... who knows who else he did this to...

"so i broke out my tarot card deck"

People like these exist and it discredits the actual victims of kidnappings. Just change the title of the video please.

“He gave me random drugs” instead of admitting SHE chose to take the random drugs offered to her. She had the option to not take what was offered but chose to take them.

Girl code rule #1- NEVER LEAVE A MAN BEHIND

Omg that's terrifying but I can relate as a young girl its hard to say no and assert yourself. Now I would never but 10 years ago it could've been me. I hope she can move on from this

this whole story has so many holes and doesn’t make any sense at all. there are so many times she could’ve left, but she CHOSE to stay.

Madders this is in my city, also, what kind of person takes random arse drugs and goes to a crackhead’s house for a sleepover

The fact that there are young girls that end up in these situations because they just don’t know any better... Sad. I feel bad for this girl and this entire story had red flags EVERYWHERE.

“Everyone is in full on BDSM fetish, all the sub-fetishes that go on, ya know?” No, I do not know.

“See you in 30 minutes luv” OKAY WATTPAD FANFIC

This video/story is an insult and incredibly insensitive to people who have actually been kidnapped against their will, drugged against their will, and sexually assaulted against their will. None of these things happened to her. What happened was she was ignoring all of the red flags and putting herself in dangerous situations. She’s actually very lucky that this was all that happened to her and it didn’t escalate into anything further because of her lack of alertness. And that’s if this story is every real anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️

People in this comment section: "Listen to your gut" My gut: *INTENSE GROWLING*

Sorry but she's clearly withholding parts of the story. I got weird vibes off her.

so she's really trying to blame someone else for her poor choice making

The fact that she chose to consult a tarot card deck - or any deck of cards for that matter - rather than simply get the hell out of there told me all I needed to know. The Magic 8 Ball NEVER lies . . . .

Yes, she made awful decisions, and walked into an unsafe situation. However that doesn’t mean that she deserved what happened when she got there. Maybe she could have avoided it, maybe she couldn’t, we don’t know what crazy man’s next steps would have been.

I’m glad she got to live and tell the tale.

I am screaming " Don't take the drugs " to my phone screen

“He offers me some pills... I take it..” girl what are you doing!? Lol

Thank God she survived, moral of the story, don't be afraid to say no, go home, or turn someone down

This video should be titled "That Time I Met a Guy at an Orgy and He Turns Out to be A Psycho"

This is good story for parents, a warning not to let your immature child study abroad.

I’m sorry this should be re-named “how to get kidnapped”

As in adult I hear this story and internally scream "No!" at every twist, turn, and bad decision. Then I pause to think about teenage me who used to hitchhike and accept party invites to far out places from guys I knew nothing about, and I honestly have to wonder how I got lucky enough to avoid something so horrible.

Don't take drugs of strangers kids.

When she said “so I broke out my Tarot card deck” I was like okay I’m all in.

“I wake up and... he’s making eggs” * *sad music* 🎻 *

I just wanna know why this girl would keep taking random drugs people give her......????? Sis?????

The red flags/bad decisions; -not telling your friend that meeting random guys is a bad idea -not telling anyone else where you are going -not looking up the address/seeing if it’s sketchy before going -telling the guy you were backpacking across Europe so he knows you’re more vulnerable -not leaving when you saw he was lying about the carnival rave -the price of entrance for the party -the guy kissing her as soon as he saw her -not having a plan for leaving discussed before you went -taking drugs multiple times from strangers -having them drop you back at your address so they know where you live -leaving your friend so you are alone at a party in a area you don’t know -getting in a strangers car -going to a strangers apartment -going knowing you weren’t fit/healthy because you were doing drugs/ sleep deprived from the days previously -falling asleep at a strangers apartment -not telling people where you were or who you were with -not telling your school/friends/police ect about the guy or sketchy behavior before meeting him again -going to the party/doing drugs the night before a school trip -going places knowing you didn’t have easy contact with people -sending him a Facebook message saying you wanted to be ‘friends’ -not having your keys to get back into your accommodation -going places you aren’t sure where they are at night/alone/on drugs in a country you don’t know -sitting on his lap in his car with someone driving who’s probably intoxicated probably without a seatbelt -meeting him again after the party -seeing he had a gun and still staying in bed with him -giving him your social media, so he has your full name, possibly address or work address, phone number, and you can easily be tracked , and will have access to all the people you are friends with on there including family and friends ect -going to a party with no plan of how to get home in rave outfits, under the influence in central london -basically being scared to say no and not following your gut

So... She said that her phone was taken by him. And then she looked at the phone and saw it was like 7 am or something. Who's phone? His?

I think she took a line just before this interview

*"I learned that self esteem is really important"* After all that, THAT'S what you learned?!? 🤦‍♀️ Girl bye

3 minutes in and i have no clue why they decided to stay after that guy, after all those bdsm outfits, and the cost being 200 dollars

‘You don’t owe him anything’ , “I just don’t like saying no”

There were so many situations where she could have just made a different decision (like not going to this place, not taking the pills or not seeing the guy the next day again). Playing with fire can be intriguing but also dangerous.

This really should’ve been reported especially if he had a gun in London...

Literally all of this could have been avoided like 12 different times

She’s not telling the full story

She does happen to be an actor, and this video happens to be on her backstage page, I didn’t believe this before I saw that, but now I really have no way to believe it

She definitely could’ve made better decisions, but she didn’t expect the situation to escalate that much. She was a scared teenage girl with low self esteem and she made some bad decisions but she didn’t deserve what happened to her

I’m not even listening to the story, I’m too busy reading the comments 😭🙃

i really hope she learned a lot from this situation bc she could have avoided almost every part of this story and seen every red flag

Intuition is the biggest thing I teach my clients. And it’s listening to what your body and alarms are telling you. I am so glad she ended up safe and was able to tell this story!

I don’t mean to judge you, but I seriously would never do not even 5% of what you did from the beginning .

It’s a really serious story but I couldn’t help but laugh when she said she took out her tarot cards

Literally willingly did everything and yet blame her friend for everything.

I relate to her story soooo much!!!! I low-key teared up.

“Stop it, get some help.” -Michael Jordan 1987

Love how it says kidnapped , googled her name just comes up she’s an actress. Her story might be true and if so my heart goes out to her but buzzfeed always be click baiting

This is my wife when I ask how her day went

So proud of her honesty. So hard to tell the truth like this.

Sexual assault is never your fault, but you also need to do all you can to protect yourself. Don’t take drugs from random people 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I know this is deep and sad but it makes me feel like im high because the things she's saying dont make sense to me

Such a strange story, soooo many red flags lol I'm glad she's ok though

This is such an incredible story. I feel so bad that this happened to her but I’m so glad she survived. I’m a similar age to her at that time and could see myself being in that vulnerable position from a series of circumstances trying to please others or seek out exciting experiences. I’ll take the lessons she said to heart

“He gave me random drugs...” you TOOOK THEM LIKE IT WAS WHATEVER. Omg this girl

"So I broke out my tarot card set" okay sorry but lost me there lmao

You didn’t owe anyone anything , be as brave as you was then as that younger woman and keep pushing her forward.. god bless you ..

Thank you for your openness and honesty about your experience. Your ex friend also seems to have had things happen without consent or was dealing with trauma, guilt and/or shame. These kinds of stories show that usually the pressure is more subtle and less like what the media shows.

Wow. They literally walked repearedly into dangerous situations. I am so so glad she survivied and is ok. But this situation was HIGHLY avoidable and I hope any young girls stuggling with self esteem or saying no see this.

I wonder what actually happened to her friend.

five and a half thousand people can see right through her!

It was courageous of her to tell this story, knowing she’d likely be viewed as an idiot. It’s great that she examined what it was about herself that caused her to make bad decision, after bad decision. Its value - and why she told it - is to help other young women who might resemble her in low self-esteem, always wanting to please others, thinking they can handle anything that comes their way and not trusting their instincts. It’s incumbent upon parents to teach their children that the gut doesn’t lie.