No one goes unscathed

@@Ohboycommentsection You are wrong - I know several people who RARELY get depressed, and it's not on the same scope.

its often a combination of selfishness and or lack of self awareness. depression is natural especially in the unnaturalness of the modern world

Ask away

On the flip side as someone who's lived with MDD most of my life, I wonder how many today say they have depression and they really don't. Not pointing fingers or anything lol. It just seems "trendy" or "popular" sometimes.

I’ve just heard the phrase “decision fatigue” for the first time recently, and it has resonated in such a way that I reflect and marvel on those words a couple of times each day. It’s like this immense yet invisible daily struggle that suddenly was adequately identified, the words are on this massive billboard that’s lit up with flashing bulbs... I just stop and gaze at the words for a moment, maybe point at it, and am just like, “that’s it.... that’s me”.

I totally missed the decision fatigue part until i read this comment. Had to go back in the video and listen again. This explains so much of how i feel majority of the time. Thank you for sharing. Good luck to you on your journey, we’re in this together

I felt this... She's amazing. How gracious of her to share these pearls 🙏 .

I have always been in denial that I go through depression, but I thought it’s a norm. Like I know logically I should be excited about things, but sometimes I ignore it & just “go with the flow”.

Thank you so much @Dr.Ojie1 for helping me cure my herpes 1&2

People act like personality and intelligence aren't a factor. Why

@@ledomc2007 where in my comment do I suggest that? Anyways, all mental health disorders have symptoms that are widespread and common which suggests they're not subject to a person's individual choice, hence them being disorders.

That's why I only act on impulse, but that may be the bipolar disorder talking.

I'm hoping you feel relief soon... you aren't alone. You got this.

That's why I usually try to avoid to make huge decisions and most of the time just "go with the flow"

What a relief to have the resources now! Hugs - I can totally relate.

Same.

Ditto.

I agree👍

100% relate

Yeah, it's great!

Thank you for saying this, so many people think someone cannot be relatable just because they can buy more cars or a bigger house than you. 👍

@@tangerinemin But confidence is also a skill you can learn.

yeah. very relatable lol.

@@surlespasdondine But they aren't as relatable. When Kristen has a bad day, she has countless resources available to her, like a round-the-clock therapist, or expensive medication, that most people do not have,

Soooooo relatable thanks for putting that in words

i can so relate to this. ❤

I definitely recognize my struggles in what you write

I relate so hard to this comment. Thank you for sharing

Your comment describes me for most of my life. I wore myself out trying to live up to some ideal standard I thought others had achieved. I found a good therapist, who helped me learn to let that harmful thought process go.

I have autism, I was diagnosed with it when I was 15. I tried shrooms and it made me function so much better.

Eek I’m autistic too and might wanna try mushrooms. How do I go about it?

Yeah doc.brenttt is your guide.

On instgrm??

Yes doc.brenttt

She's a Cancerian bruh

@@grievous5243 What's the connection? I'm a Cancer, too!

@@SX-sv6vo Cancers are prone to depression cause they feel everything so deeply not all Cancers but most of the ones I know are intuitive and loving and sometimes people take advantage of that.

@@grievous5243 That makes sense. Thanks!

@@grievous5243 Im not sure that serotonin biochemistry checks the zodiac signs :) I'm a Saggitarius and I battle with depression.

True.

What is support?

It felt weird her mom would tell her that because I thought everyone goes through that.

@@emilienmare1508 It's normal to worry. This is the closest I've seen to my depression ukposts.info/have/v-deo/kqV0m6qGg5d4p58.html . Poor diet makes anxiety worse too. Try less processed food, less sugar.

@@jjakariasman2545 I think I experience more than worry, it's just hard to pinpoint if that's just me or everyone as we keep things to ourselves. Although I do know something's messed up with my serotonin activity as I've been dealing with OCD for over a decade. Do you mean this is the closest description of what you experience? I can identify with many things in this video but it's still the same, how do we know most people don't experience that too? I know! Diet is so key, it regulates everything and I feel so much better when I manage to stick to healthy foods, I have in the past been very consistent but recently I feel I just can't do it.

🙏🏽😌🌄

i really do need a hug, thank you

A hug right back to you 🤗💕

@@CherryBerryFashion here’s another hug for you, I have plenty to give 🤗❤️

Hugs back! 💜

❤️

Thank you so much @Dr.Ojie1 for helping me cure my herpes 1&2

True ❤️

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Coffee and nicotine help me, I don’t abuse either and both were recommended to me by my doctor surprisingly

Same

It’s so nice to hear that there are people for whom it’s gotten better. I really believe there is hope for all of us so go after everything you want in life you got this:))

Same

I first saw her in "Pootie Tang". She was and still is forkin' adorable!

I agree! And I also love Veronica Mars. I miss that show.

Right?

@@khidaka1978 wow, now that you mention it.. its hard to believe she never hosted SNL before. She’s absolutely made to be in comedy! I hope they finally give her that chance.

Veronica Mars deserved at least 10 seasons.

So true. I only paid attention to it in my late 30's and looking back I've always not been just physically but mentally drained at certain times of my cycle. Even as a teenager.

That is true. My cycle is often a roller coaster ride. I feel great and even euphoric during ovulation and then when premenstrual I tend to become extremely depressed. Part of it could also have to do with a very painful condition I have involving my reproductive organs.

Same x

I have PMDD and I have to take the pill to stop myself collapsing into paralysing depression. Every month for about a week before my period, I’d get extremely depressed and even have suicidal thoughts (which were easier to manage once I knew it was hormonal and not really how I felt). I tried various antidepressants throughout the years, but on the pill I feel fine. The difference is night and day. Managing my hormones was the only thing that really balanced out my mood and allowed me to function.

@@pickleandmayo I wish you well that must be awful ☹️

Right. I wish I could explain my own brand of depression like this!

Kuya Wil!!!!! ilysm po ♥️♥️

Yes Exactly why it was so hepfull 🙏🏻

I love her even more now bc she is so relatable

Obviously, shes Gossip Girl. 😂💕 P.d. I know shes not gossip girl, actually

Exactly the same. I thought 2 months or so it would be gone,now going on three years and I am like how did I get here. Lost my house ,job,car, and old self. I have came a long way but still in the cloud. Prayers for you. Your not alone.

Then I think we might have been triplets.

O my God! Thank God! There's 263 others out there (including Kristen Bell) that understand what I'm going through.

It's called being responsible. grow up!! Stop glorifying depression. stop trying to be special. These are the same people who love telling everyone that they are lactose and gluten intolerant. a bunch of cry babies.

@s1rhcs1vad I'm intolerant to criticism. Please respect my space.

This is such a crippling feeling. At times I have literally asked my family members to make basic daily decisions for me, because I could not make any decisions

I have experienced this and had no idea it was related to my anxiety. I thought I was just lazy or unable to make important decisions on my own. It's so refreshing to see that other people are experiencing the same thing

Basically, your body and brain says Nope, am not doing nothing till you give me Rest and breathing Period. No decisions.

@@user-ht1ft3dy3s me too! I had not made that connection. I am incapable of making decisions and I can’t really make plans either.

I get so panicked and anxious with the simplest of things like what to order for dinner. Things like which place to choose, price and will I not like it all makes me anxious and depressed so I end spending way too much or be sensible then it be boring usually all over a few dollars difference.

Sending you all of the love. I related with your comments so much.

Where’s the one about motherhood? I need to watch it

Words out of my mouth😞 endo transformed my life. I am crying daily. Can't get excited about anything because i can't plan anything. My body plans it for me. MY bowels are also ruined, all of my organs are disfunctional, i am at loss of happiness for everything. And i have a 3 year old that needs me. If it wasn't for her i would kill myself, honestly I don't know how to live like this forever. Nothing makes me happy anymore. And even as I'm writing this, it made me cry.

Hi guys, I’m so very sorry to hear how both of you are suffering. Trust me, I understand. I was in so much pain with my endo and fibroids that I got addicted to my pain meds. I was so ashamed but I finally got off of them and continued to suffer for many years with only Advil to help. I wanted to tell you that I’m not sure where you are in life with respect to having kids, but getting a hysterectomy was the very best thing I ever did. After my surgery I never suffered another day of pelvic pain. I was so afraid to get the surgery and I kept putting it off but now I’m so thrilled to live without pain!

@@bethhc how did hysterectomy affect other organs? I have bowel issues, did it became better for you. Trust me I wanted hysterectomy but endo showed only on inflamed fallopian tube that they took out. I can't take any pain meds because I take corticosteroids for low cortisol, so I am in misery. I am waiting for another mri resulsts after that, if endo had spread again, I will try pregnancy and when c section would come, since I already had one, I asked them if they would take out my whole reproductive organs, they said they would but endo would attack again since I would be on hormones for the rest of my life. How is it on that side? I mean not living with chronic pelvic pain.. I dream of it

@@emem7788 Sending you big hugs. I couldn't have kids. I wish I had but I go endometriosis inside the uterus too. (Adenomyosis). There's a term for feeling numb. I recently lost my fur baby and I went numb to cope with the loss. Im waiting for counseling. I suggest you take a look at Nancys nook website for any questions you want to find answers to. Unfortunately its not a support group, but there must be one in your area or on the net? Talking and having a witness to your life is important. Maybe some counseling for you to? Be kind to yourself. Don't compare yourself with others and tell yourself how brave you are, on a daily basis. Hugs, Jo.

I had awful crippling endometriosis and cured it by taking animal products and oil (yes, including olive oil) out of my diet! Now I can actually have a job... and kind of a life again. Highly recommend the McDougall diet people you can find it on the internet!!!

Same girl same

Me too, but the tears came later. Her video was encouraging, I’m glad I watched it and thank you for sharing ❤️

sending you so much love 🥺🙏🏽

Oh yeah I was literally crying and I was looking through my phone and saw this.

You and me both ❤

So sorry to hear you are experiencing it. You're so right, it is really tough and society interacts with it in such a variety of ways: some supportive and some denying of your experience. I had a break down and would not have been able to correctly empathise with that experience before I went through it myself and even now I have, my breakdown could be quite different to how someone else experiences it. Now my approach is to treat any suffering I encounter with compassion and kindness, and to ditch any kind of attempts at comparison. I hope you have enough support around you and that you feel better soon. Look after yourself, you matter.

@@tottart56 thank you for your comment but it's not a competition. I also said I realised what I was feeling, I didn't say the suffering had only just started...

@@petafoster5084 and some diminishing your experience by saying others have suffered their whole lives. 😅 I think speaking about it is a good first step to take, whether it's with friends or strangers online. Just feels good to shed that weight off. 🙏

@@petafoster5084 and I agree, being kind to everyone around you is the best way to be, you don't know what they might be going through themselves.

@@tottart56 its not about 1 upping breh

It's because of you have suffered that you will make a good wife and mother, because suffering cultivates compassion for others. You know what suffering feels like so you can extend deep compassion for anyone else who suffers, or just for being human and imperfect. There is help for you, and you will feel better. Please reach out to a therapist if you haven't--talking during the "the worst time" is when you need to the most. Sending you love and light.

You can overcome depression and anxiety when you finally realize that there is something missing within you, what that is and how to find it.

I think I know what you mean. This December I experienced depression and anxiety as I have never done before. I had also had some anxiety and depression before that, but was nothing like this. It cannot be explained properly. Feeling so broken you cannot think of a future without being like that, being scared those around you will see you depressed and not like what they see, obsessing with the depressive thoughts and not finding a healthy way to break that chain of thoughts. For me it was meditation, light exercise (swimming every day, even for just 5 min) and practicing a routine(Spanish) that helped me get out of it and I still keep those routines as anchors in my day and . Meditation was the toughest thing to start with as my mind had so much resistance against it but when I had done it for a few day it was my go-to place (and still is) when I started struggling. You don't know who you will be in the future, you don't have to know, you can become an amazing mom because of what you have/are experiencing. If this is still something you struggle with, try to be systematic and find actions you believe will be good for your mental health and focus on it. small actions, baby steps. I would recommend Headspace, simply because it has changed my life and given me the mindspace to process, think, feel and be. And be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself.

@@Venton85 Meditation has changed my life too. It's hard to establish a practice (and often to continue the practice even once well established), but it's well worth the effort.

@@Venton85 this is such an amazing comment 💞

How did you come out the other side I am currently going thru this and at times I feel hopeless

@@gabrielacolumna1830 Well it was a combo thing for me lol - you need to get exercising, eat properly (gut health is very important imo), talk to someone about how you feel (very important) and I know it seems counter intuitive but get out and socialise as best you can. I was on medication but again (imo) this only accounts for probably 25% of your recovery. I'm a great believer of all the other stuff above and remember be patient and allow yourself time to heal :)

@@Jackal72 thank you so much 🙏🏽 I hope that within time I can overcome all this. Its been hard not being excited anymore about things but we have to keep in the hope that this too shall pass

@@Jackal72 the medication didn’t help you feel joy/pleasure/excitement?

@@Abby-zr2ev Yes it did, in a way that makes you look more positive on life - looking forward to stuff again

I am sorry to hear that! Good luck for the next 40 years!

What specific help did you get?

OMG !! Thank you for you're comment I'm in the same boat RN I can't make myself just get in the shower 🥺I keep thinking I need to but I can't!

To add onto that idea, I often find my happiness in making the people I love happy. Small surprises, thoughtful gifts, little notes, things like that. Seeing that surprise and happiness in their faces can pull my head out of a really dark place! Self care by caring for others exists in so many forms 🥰

Same here. Other people acknowledging their struggles, that you are not alone in this everyday battle with yourself, provides incredible support. It is ok

Toned, but I wouldn’t say sharp. I’ve seen better definition...

they are killing/hurting more than anything The normalization of psychoactive drugs disgusting

Hi Donna how are you doing Do you know me ?

lol, lmao even the motive is clear as day get people hooked on drugs 😅 there is no such thing as anxiety/depression

drug addicts

@@jonniefast You can just say you’ve never experienced anxiety and depression and move on. No need to comment that.

@@heidigarza136 dont be dismissive the medical industrial complex preys upon the dimwitted

She looks like a 30 something still very hot

@@arturocastroverde3349 Remove the "still" and that sentence is perfect and non-ageist. It's a shame that when a woman talks about an important topic, people feel the need to focus on her age. Because deep down, as a society, we hate women aging and we can't let it go without mention, even if it's in a "positive" way that says they "still" look good. Yes, it happens to guys, but not nearly as much as it does to women.

@@EliasJWhite yess

@Just Some Guy Without a Mustang didn't you know women are old and decrepit once they're a day over 25 😬😑

@@EliasJWhite Yes. And also, why is there this common misconception that women suddenly fall off a cliff and look old in their 30s and 40s, or that there is a certain identifiable oldness of appearance in that time frame? It's hilarious to me. Most of the women I know in their 30s and 40s look the same as they did in the decade prior. You don't just suddenly age overnight. It's a gradual shift.

Depression and anxiety is your responsibility. You have made it unconsciously. If you want, you can break through it and change it to joyful, playful feelings. Nobody else is going to do it for you. Accept it and you will have the ability, actually you always had it.

@@sai62789Yeah sure, you can just decide and be happy. That's how it works. The same goes for illnesses like cancer, it's your responsibility and you can just decide not to have it

@@mc23243 are you being sarcastic?

@@javeriaabbasi5957 obviously

I feel the same.

physically, emotionally gassed out most of the time. i always wonder why would God give someone these feelings battling for years now and its still debilitating

No, you’re not a loser. Don’t let yourself believe that even one bit. In your own time, maybe you’ll eventually feel comfortable enough to talk about what you’ve been through. It’s ok to not feel ready to do that right now. Everything in its own time. We do not get a beautiful butterfly by forcibly prying open a cocoon. Be patient with yourself. Your time will come, Mrs Strong. Keep your eyes on the horizon for that crack of dawn. Hugs. 💕 Here’s a little gift of encouragement for you: ukposts.info/have/v-deo/bapzjYl_gaeFyKM.html May you gather strength, grit, momentum, and inspiration to rise again and overcome. 💕💙

I wonder why we have such a preoccupation with women aging. I guess it's because we're taught that it's somehow shameful. I'm more interested in her words than how she is or isn't aging. And's she's beautiful inside and out. :)

she has aged very gracefully

That's the thing.... you never know with anyone. They can seem very happy and then boom. You wonder why things can go wrong. Look at people both in the public eye or if you've known anyone in your life where it just didn't go so well. Help is everywhere, it's at times hard to just ask for it or seek it out.

Just accept if there is and then it will be cured,

Much love to you too 🤗 ❤

Yes 👏🏻

I hope you are doing okay. You're not alone.

@@giancarlopia1404 is that a slow clap?

ha ha ha its called an algorithm

I can relate, I struggle w an ED I eat and eat,especially when anxious. You’re not alone. This just a season

I’m sorry for your loss and so sorry you’re dealing with such anxiety. It’s definitely hard to hold onto a full time job while having these struggles. I truly hope things get better for you. Sending you love and hope 🤍🤍🤍