My list is written on my bedroom mirror in glass marker. I can see it in bed when I'm missing him morning and night. It's a powerful trick and my list is long. My heart loved somone who my brain knew was not right for me. But I still need to be reminded when I'm feeling lonely and believing I'll never love or feel loved like that again.

I'm hurting right now. I just lost the woman I trusted and loved. I can't see the light at end of the tunnel. The loneliness is killing. I feel less than anyone on this planet.

👸1. let them go in peace ✌️. 2. hold the door 🚪wide open for them to go. 3. lock 🔐the door. 4. forgive them. 5. but never take them back. 6. the hurt, tears & pain can feel unbearable😭, its helping to release toxins & cleanse u. 7. KNOW: trust. God will heal ur brokenheart💔 🙏guaranteed! -Dr. Myles Munroe.

Be careful not to jump into a new relationship out of desperation and pain. Replacing should take place once the level of negative emotions have settled

My heartbreak pertains to the death of my sister. I was supposed to move to Greece, where she lived and had a family business. We had plans, lots of them, to travel and see the wonders of the earth. She and all the beautiful things we would do together died, too. She was a wonderful sister; my best friend and I grieve daily. Not all heartbreak pertains to ex-lovers.

The worst is longing to see him and touch him. I fell in love with the guy who turned out really bad and mentally torturing me ( fitted the description of narcissist). I went no contact about a week ago, he is silent too. I dont know if i can take it anymore, my heart literally hurts. I just know if i make contact first, he will take me for zero and nothing will change. I must hold on.

I'm 2 months into my break up after a 5 year relationship...this video is exactly what I needed to hear...I feel that I am stuck romanticising the relationship and forgettimg completely about how toxic he was...so this video for me is a god send today 🙏💞

I love guy, he is an amazing man. Thank you so much sir for your inspirational talk

Thanks for the support and words of wisdom. Two months ago my 11year relationship ended when my ex stopped talking to me, I was crushed the night I went out dancing and saw him on the dance floor amorously dancing arm in arm with the new woman. I felt like I was stabbed in the heart. We unfortunately talked a few times and he wanted to remain friends . He now blocked me and said “this is our last conversation” I’m now trying to occupy my thoughts by doing the things I like to do and it has helped me . I still have the vision of them dancing . It really feels surreal. But life goes on and I know I’ll find my soulmate when it’s meant to be. Self love is key.

One day after a 3 year relationship, this is what i need

Best advice I've ever heard on this issue. Remember also the negative things about the relationship...

It's so good to hear the physiological side is also something to consider for recovery.

I can't stop crying. I feel like the safest option is to sleep. I dunno, I'm drowning here

Guy Winch , you help joining the dots, understanding the pain better and it's somewhat healing your soothing voice. Thankyou for your valuable study and advice .

Don't miss Dr Winch's TED talk. This video covers different stuff and offers actual practice to implement. Thanks Kwik Brain!

This was super helpful, thank you so much. One key insight for me is that the brain will always bring up good memories as it wants us to remind that it caused pain and we should not repeat it. To balance it out one must list out and remember the negative instances of the relationship.

Amazing interview..thank you for taking time to share.

Best council and advice ever thanks. I need that reboot.

Thank you Jim and Dr. Guy for sharing your insights!

Thank you very much this is very helpful ❤

Thank you so much to both of you

Just what I needed to hear

Very insightful video...thank you for confirmation on some things I thought to myself as well as informing me of some that I hadn't realized- this was like a therapy session (lol).

Thank you for this

Guy, you are amazing.

11:56 - 12:06 has got to be the most significant thing I needed to hear and bring to the surface of my thoughts. Thank you Jim and Guy ⚘⚘⚘

Guy...you are so on point!

Most comforting video I’ve watched ❤

going through it now, Watched this video the last time, cant believe it's been three years.... Truly is an addiction. Hurts even though logically you can look at it and see why things arent working. So annoying and painful. Keeps a man up at night... Tried to avoid these feelings by trying to make a clean break. I truely feel like an addict...

wow this was an excellent conversation yes i had been through such ❤️ break ... yes so many things resonated with me as now i am a different person as i learnt many things

My heart is bleeding with disappointment n anger I feel like am dying 😭😭😭😭 I’m tierd I tried so hard 😭😭

n has been incredibly helpful. So compassionate. When he broke my heart, I couldn't stop shaking like an addict coming off heroin. It was the horrific. Three monyjs on, he has just got in touch to if I am OK'. and he 'thinks of me often'. He sounds lonely and sad, bu adhel I will never return to him. Thank you for this amazing advice and help .

This was a wonderfully validating, simple, but insightful video/talk. Thank you. I call that "list" of negative traits "Romantic Inversions". (I made it up!) They are absolutely helpful as reminders of what wasn't right and what can be better next time. The one thing I would add is that everyone is on a different timeline. So, yeah, it may be five months later and talking about it for the hundredth time, but everyone's experience is different.

Really appreciate thank you

Great minds together makes for amazing lessons ;)

This Guy knows his stuff 👍🏼

Excellent video, I really value your point on not ignoring the "negative" points or issues, but rather use the for balance.

I just had fantasy breakup. Flew 1000 km to meet this person for a date. Turns out, this person just got in a relationship. It’s fucking hard. It broke me. It’s not just the pain. It’s hopelessness. Hugs to everyone encountering the same. It fucking HURTS.

♡ thank you

My ex had a doing all of these steps to move on and I’m still stuck… I regret so many things.

I want to hear about grief I can't get over the pain of my only son only child marrying a woman who severely dislikes me for no reason and after a year broke all contact with me and told me to go home and stop mothering me and trying to micromanage my life get out of here! I try to not think about this evey hour of the day and wake up with pain from grief. I have no other family and my friends are few.

I need this

My father had abandonment issues. He came unglued when my mother left him...he hid me with friends of the family so she could never find me, he stalked her, took a pistol to the hospital where she worked...she took the Foreign Service exam and was selected for training by the US State Dept...she went for the training came back to try to find me to take me with her, but I was too well hidden in a tiny town 130 miles from our home city with my grandmothers former hairdresser and her engineer husband...I was boarded with them, my grandparents paying, they didnt want to lose me. My father remarried immediately "to give me a mother" , that too was a disaster eventually after about a decade. She was a golddigger. After about 7 yrs she found a wealthier man and broke up HIS marriage. My father fell apart, stalked HER, became very dangerous and came up with a plot to KILL her, It was horrible. He didnt, but came VERY close:had the altered weapon he showed me, had a detailed plot etc. I became DETERMINED NEVER to get to that point in any relationship. I learned how to control my emotions , negative ones. I also learned to be very rational. That made me very successful in life and eventually very successful in a 40 yr relationship happy and mutually satisfying. I have led a calm yet adventurousness life, no emotional drama. It certainly taught what I didnt want to be. Late in my mothers life we reconnected...she was always on the other side of the world....Paris first when I was little, then Japan for many years, then Hong Kong remarried to a BRIT and Australia in early retirement and finally England when I had finished grad school and was a psychologist. We built a lovely relationship. I was always very careful to avoid emotionally volatile men.

I guess I have learned not to blindly trust and jump into relationship

Thank uou thank

Wow.

Hart break is like grief it is. But if yu walk and stsy around yur fsmily Think more off yur self iv hot teo now even for I’m broken❤

Good day

I am holding my tears back as best as I can. I am barely able to make it to work because my ex is one of my 3 bosses.

AKA the rebound

My hart is broken I feel horrible

Ive lost my voice due to crying so much into a pillow

Hi Jim im curious are you married now? if not.. have you ever experience hearthbreak..and how you dealt with it. sorry if too personal..

I will like to ask if it is possible to relive the whole process of heart break again after a decade of break up when you meet the person again? Because something like that is happening to me and I don’t understand it 😢

How i deal my ex work in same office

Love from pakisran

Heart break is brutal. Fuckin' awful.

The solution is similar to the Demartini Method. I heard many people got the healing by going through the process with someone who is trained by John Demartini.

That's what I did I ate all the foods that he didn't like anymore I like mushrooms onions I cooked with that cooked all the good meals that I love that he wouldn't let me cook cuz he didn't like them wouldn't seen all the movies that he didn't want to go see everything that he didn't want me to do or didn't allow me to do once he was gone that's exactly what I did to make myself feel better and I drove a bicycle on the beach and let the wind to go through my hair and and licked it all the different people and and riding a bike I could slow down if I wanted to slow down or hurry up and speed up and get the hell out of there if I didn't you know so that was nice made me feel better

Good talk. Awkward sitting.

I'm not okay. My therapist is on holiday and I'm spiraling

2 months into my break up after 6 and a half years. getting worse every day then is getting better the bad again... tired af tbh🤕

What do I do when my best friend is my ex's sister in law and he lives with them. He moved out of our apartment and went there. So the apartment is a reminder of a failed relationship and seeing my best friend, I see him.

I never wanted to really get involved at work and definitely not with a boss. I’m so depressed. He acts like he is happy and moved on. He broke up with me. He wants nothing to do with me.

Many women desire inner beauty, humility, and connection....holding his hand A man may not be the most attractive but every man has attractively looking hands that she likes to hold. I thought men's hands are attractive because it shows his personality gently holding a puppy, or gently holding a baby watching him cook etc Even some model here in Europe, ordinary but nice looking lady, her mom is an actress. She said too to her boyfriend on a tv cooking show, I like men´s hands, I find their hands most attractive because I like to watch him cooking or doing something. and that when she has sex with guy, she stays with him and can not understand women who dont. Television and media created standards about how men and women should look like, and what is attractive about men, but it doesn't mean women agree with the tv standards. Television makes more money from broken people therefore they say nonsense and happy people buy less stuff. So they will say men have to have a beautiful face and women also have to have very attractive face but everybody sees attraction in something else, it may be something that is not visible with eyes but with the energy and vibration. If he or she is a good violin player or piano or tennis player, the face is not so important in the moment. Nice women may like his personality, humility charisma, and passion for hobbies. Television may say women love muscles etc, yet ordinary women may love his hands, not just his arms because she sees him holding a puppy with his hands, not his arms she sees his gentle side and sees his gentle fingers holding something, or playing guitar. The muscles the television is talking about every day when they sell some products are hidden under his T-shirt anyway. but his hands show his personality and his gentle approach. yet everybody focuses on his face because some tv presenter said that all people should do it this way.

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You you broken heart you you no good

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U can't

This guys advice is bs! My mother gave better advice than he gives. He’s a fraud!😝

I have instructed courses in Stalking and letting go of the past. However, I went through this struggle myself this year. And it was real, when a man that was a family friend that was older than me by seventeen years. He told me after our five-month affair that it was not going to work out. I felt I was dying inside and keep texting him and tried to show up at his local breakfast place, then I took myself to a park to think about my shameful behavior. I love him and always will love him more than my two ex-husbands the father of my children. I then started writing a list of the positive and negative with him, then I wrote why I love him so much. I wrote a love letter to him and buried it under a tree with an item I crafted for him. Next, I talked to some of my single lady friends that have been through obsessions of a man. I showed them his picture they told me he was the ugliest man I ever dated. I said I agree, and he was the worst in bed. I told them my theory is my love for him was the first man I had a crush on, his character, he had many talents in carpentry and music. He made a lot of things in my home and wrote poems and songs for me. He was my also my best friend I was able to talk to him about everything. And it hurt me the most when he told him I was grieving over him, and he could not help me and wanted nothing to do with me. I created a Facebook dating profile seeking men with a lot of his qualities and his features. I was honest about my grieving if they wanted to be a friend to me. I am currently in a relationship with a widow. that is still in love with his wife that past looks a lot like me. We are working through our past together to create a healthy further together. I also, blocked my ex's Facebook and contact numbers. I even was on a dinner date with my new boyfriend. and my ex walked in the restaurant. with a date or girlfriend. He, looked towards me and said, "hello, I just said hello and started talking to my new boyfriend, he played it cool with my ex and I was quiet. And, then he sat down with us and his new date, I was so uncomfortable. I ate my food and remained quite looking on my phone. The night ended and he hugged me and wished me well. Yes, I was hurt, but I blanked it out as if he was just a random person.

i hope to email you dr. winch but i dont know how to get in touch w you