You are so smart to train your boys with minimalism while they are so young. It's to late for my kids in their twenties. They buy so much cute anime Pokemon and sonic stuff. We always have packages coming to our door. I have tried to ask them if this is stuff they really need or can they live without it. Does this stuff serve an important purpose in their life? I tell them to look at all the money they can save . I have gotten in trouble for getting rid of their stuff (what I see as crap they do not need or have space for). I do not do that anymore. I just focus on the rest of our home and still they will say "hey mom where is this or that and why did you get rid of it". Minimalism should be a DNA trait. Let's not use knife to murder with examples😮

Yes, Marissa is so gracious to those rude boors and her responses are spot on. 💖

Exactly my thoughts! You are an inspiration. Thank you for all your videos and for being genuine 😍

That’s a HUGE benefit that a lot of us have experienced, for sure. 🙏

What a beautiful life you’ve had. Good for you and your kids

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had some positive times together ❤

Thank you so much for your kind comment, people like you are exactly why I do this! 🙏❤️

I laughed at the pop up "PLEASE NOTE: I am NOT a master chef ;)" no mention of serial killer though...😂🤔

@@ren8240 Right? That was too funny 🤣 diannelarose is so spot-on. The haters don't know anything about Marissa. They truly think they're smart and superior while being totally clueless.

i lost my wife 3 weeks before she bought a dog. i thank her every day for leaving me and getting the dog...

I agree, I think it’s a fresh take and nicely presented

Sounds just like my MIL! My hubby had to do almost all the cleanout himself. His uncle and brother hardly did anything. So annoying!!

@@dianasimplifies everything falls on me too my sister is just wanting to come in and take what she wants and not help with the actual work .... she's always been like that so I shouldn't be surprised. I am sorry you and your husband have to be the ones bearing the brunt...it sucks!

@@user-hw9vf4pl9s it's too much for one person to have to deal with and she thought she was going to sell all this stuff too!! Most of it wasn't nice enough to give away! Sad how much we had to toss.

@@dianasimplifies 100% agree with everything you just said.

That sounds so difficult. I'm sorry for your loss. It was a terrible time to be grieving as well. ❤️

A respectful hug for you. I spent a month and a half decluttering my mom's home after her passing last autumn. I honestly couldn't even grieve properly, until I went back home. I took time from working to be able to do it. I have no idea how you managed, so please, if you haven't had a chance to grieve since, take some days off and take all the self care you deserve. Thanks for all your hard work during Covid times. People like you made a huge difference for all of us. Much respect!

@bbonkers Thank you. My condolences to you as well.

Can I borrow your description for myself? I feel like it describes me perfectly: minimalish! 😊

Ha! Love it, I also request the use of this term! 😁

Many people equate their belongings to their self worth. So suggesting to them to live with less stuff feels like a personal attack in their minds.

When you go online you have to understand that there are many people that are in fight or flight mode actively looking for threats and triggers to fight instead of healing. The algorithms do not help this.

Yep. Add Over Pampered...Too much time on her hands. I'm Over it😅

I've seen this before, where women go ballistic and accuse someone of bossing them around and telling them how to live/dress/you name it. I think they're unbalanced. It just isn't a normal reaction - someone making a video hasn't the power of bossing anyone around or forcing anyone to do anything. I just think, "Ooh, someone forgot to take their meds!"

Oof, I feel your pain. I recently deleted Facebook because I would be drawn into discussions then get those reactions. The positives weren't outweighing the negatives anymore.

I know this first hand, my mom left a 4 bedroom 2 bath house full of over 60 years of stuff because she never got rid of anything. She's in a nursing home and expects me to keep most all of it. I cannot do that

incredibly selfish, they are already dealing with grief, trying to sort out financials, and they have a housefull of crap to take care of....went through it with my in-laws and it made my husband crazy, I will NEVER do that to my own children

@@tammyc1812 That’s really tough. It’s especially hard when there’s emotional attachment for the parents but not so for the adult kids. Hang in there!

@@pt8421 TY!

So true. The fact that she sees nothing wrong with dumping that giant burden on her children says a lot about her as a mother. It may even be her version of a last slap at her children from the grave. "Ha! Take that you ungrateful brats! I hope it takes you weeks to sort it all out!" (Yeah, you're nicer than I am lol) I'm 61. I've been decluttering for several years, and I'm finally feeling really happy about the way my home feels. It needs so little cleaning time it's ridiculous, and I love that. And when I move on from this world I want my children and grandchildren to remember me fondly; not feel burdened or hurt or resent me for leaving them a huge mess to sort through.

As someone who spent some time working with death, the key are 1.) Take your basic prescription medications (it's normal to take cholesterol and high blood pressure meds by a certain age), 2.) Minimize smoking and don't overindulge in alcohol, 3.) Keep active (retiring early seems to age people extremely quick and the ones who fair better are ones who part-take in some form of economic activity that keeps the brain young and active), and most importantly, 5.) Surround yourself with family and friends. Even if it means going into a retirement home where you'll be surrounded by peers and where someone tends to be keeping track of you (of course, this depends on socioeconomic status, but the most unfortunate deaths happen when someone lives alone in their residence, in a deteriorating home where no one is looking out for them. So they pass until some neighbor picks up on their absence, and you learn that they don't have family anywhere near them and that the estate that they've hold onto on behalf of their dead family is going to nobody and is no longer worth saving).

@@stevennguyen4993 Thanks for the tips; I'm doing all of that and more. At age 60 I started the keto diet, got rid of the inflammation and the 100% body pain that went with it, and now I actually feel good! I don't think I'll ever have to take cholesterol or blood pressure medications. Since I'm post-menopausal, my health care professional has found I need hormone replacement therapy, and I'm in the first six months of getting that settled; same with balancing the thyroid. And exercise! With my desk job I just don't get enough exercise. I watched a video on the village in Japan where they *all* live to be over 100, and basically what you said is correct. The way they stay in community and get exercise is by walking to visit their friends daily and drinking tea and chit-chatting with them. The key for them is to keep moving forward. This isn't body-building or being a professional athlete; just keep moving daily. So...I bought a pedometer and I'm learning how little exercise I get, and I'm working on that now too, now that my dog passed a couple of years ago and I don't *have to* get out and get him walked every day. Having a pet is awesome. My GoldenDoodle was all the workout I needed every day. I regularly purge my home; going to be doing some more of that in a couple of hours. As far as my kids inheriting my stuff: my son kind of randomly dropped the hint that with his tax return he'd like to buy a dog trailer cart to pull behind his bike. Well!!! I just happened to have one of those taking up space in my basement. I bought it twelve years ago for my second dog, used it a few times, and he died; my GoldenDoodle was too big for it. So I just cleaned up ten years' worth of basement dust off it and it's now his, along with a new dog bed I bought just for his dog. My grandson wanted my 44" TV, and I was glad to give that to them. He loves his video games. My cleaning ladies came last Sunday and took my 32" TV, the Apple TV box, the subwoofer, the HDMI cords, antenna and surge protector -- and now that whole corner of my "office" is empty. It's wonderful. For the most part, your kids & grandkids do NOT want your junk. Anytime one of my kids says they DO want my stuff, I get it to them NOW. Now, when they want it; now, when they can use it; now, when it isn't ruined beyond use, by disuse.

I think the comment meant that the person was currently 65 at the time of writing, not that they're planning to die at 65 years old. Although, I'm currently 66 and have lost MANY friends who passed in their 50s and 60s. An old age is never promised to any of us.

I disagree with the meds, before going on Cholestral medicine I read a lot of books and watched a lot of documentaries ( Forks over Knives, Chris beats Cancer and several more) I decided ( heart doctor approved) to go on a Whole Foods Plant based diet and all my numbers were perfect within 3 months! With holidays and life I stopped eatting that way and feel miserable so trying to get back on track…. My husband is on so many meds, it’s crazy…we are both 72 , the only med I’ve been prescribed is cholesterol, which I started back up until I get this WFPB diet 100 percent again……

Best comment right here! ❤

Absolutely 💯

Oh my goodness 😂. Thanks so much for watching and sharing!

Keep up the great work!! 💪🏼

This. 90% sounds big and scary to many people, but most people don't realize just how much crap they have, and how much of that crap they don't even use or see.

Thank you so much for sharing your journey and story with us, congratulations on this HUGE accomplishment… and for breaking free of the generational cycle of clutter. 👏👏👏

Love that and congratulations on becoming a homeowner! We are riding the struggle bus 🚌 on that right now.

@@AtoZenLife sending positive vibes your way. It’s a battlefield out there at the moment!

It sounds like you've had a difficult time. I hope things are going ok for you now.

@@MyFocusVaries So much better ❤️

@@extrememinimalism I'm so glad to hear that.

@@MyFocusVaries I was making a point... you can be poor af and still have a lot of possessions... I've known people who switch taking naps in McD in bad weather yet own a full storage container at £2-400pm full of stuff for a 3 bedroom house.

Jealously is a horrible thing.

🐙 Thanks so much for watching! 😂

The loss of a baby must be so difficult. I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. ❤️

Thank you, I wish that too!

Food and books!😊

yes because that is a stereotype and not something that is actually in our nature. Heck, shoping is a social construct and not nature either. People who think that women naturally have urges as such don't think for themselves for one second

With hoarders, it's the urge to collect stuff. Spending money is a side effect. You can be a hoarder by going to garage sales and second hand stores, even picking stuff up by the side of the road.