She still loves you Walter. Stay strong. She would want that.

You are the man and that's awesome.

I want to be like you two ❤️❤️❤️ that's awesome, so sorry she's gone 💔

I'm sorry for your loss, Walter.

I know this probably was a serious post, but I did laugh at the "until she passed away" 😑🙄

Disagree. Been in many long term, and many open/swinging relationships. Playing with others is infinitely better

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Absolutely!

We have been together 25+ years

Haha, yeah sure 😂

Sometimes having a frame of reference helps from another married person helps. Sometimes. Depending on the person. But this can’t be done in lieu of talking with your spouse, simply as an adjunct to effective communication.

What if the other is dull? Need wisdom from others.

You couldn't be more right. No more duty and companionship only personal happiness.

Very good point that has much overlap with many areas of functioning in western life. "Why not be happy all of the time (with the purchase of this, that or the other)?"

I have known couples who didn’t get along for 10 years yet fell back in love again. My husband and I are back in love after years of troubles.

Frank Shi same. hahaha

Me too🤣🤣🤣🤣

yup...me too.

LOL

Man, same.

Leon Labuschagne the best comment! The morality is at its lowest ebb in our today's world.

Demo Cordoba you also have a point, the government should stay out of people's marriage lives.

Oh my God leon, you didn't say alot but what you said is more powerful than alot of stuff that is read or whole speeches ( like this one ), I've heard, need people with your thinking, our thinking, talking to people.

Leon Labuschagne Marriage is an out dated an archaic system that doesn’t work… Why should you bring the state into your relationship with a contract? It ruins everything… Marriage does not need to be fixed… needs to be abolished

So right Demo, with you 100% on this.

Which is why there are so many divorced people in the world.

What guarantee does a person have that if they do this, that the other person will also do the same? If the answer is not a overwhelming YES, then relationships have some serious built in flaw.

@@wandererbard8993 There used to be serious societal forces to encourage people to work on their relationships. Those are almost all gone.

This lady's perspective is delusional. You can only succeed in marriage when there is an incentive for it to succeed. Too many people have attractive alternatives when the challenges of marriage come knocking.

Priority should be yourself then your partner. Otherwise if you make them your priority and yourself last they will not have any respect for you, you will end up with no respect for yourself and then because of this they will leave you and you will be pathetic.

T S ugh I hate you, and your picture perfect life

I give you ten years before you come back to the comment section of UKposts to advocate for MGTOW. In the mean time, enjoy the good time while it lasts.

T S 5 years is nothing. Wait till 50. Then talk.

T S dont listen to these people

T S ignore it

Well said

That Is The Best Conceptual Statement For The Self Mental Wellness Journey that I have Been Gaining A Firm Knowledge on Myself as A Man., Husband and Father..! Thank You for Sharing.. M.V.. Hamilton, Ontario

Your thoughts are not your own. Society has pressured you to act and think a certain way long before you were even born. Your words and actions are not your own, they come from everything you read, and heard on TV, Radio, Movies, and Books (When you talk you are sharing information that you already know, it's when you listen thats when you take in new information). Your habits are just that, habits to pass the lonely or sad times, but with loving friends and family those habits don't have to become a problem, instead learn to love those with habits not scorn them with silly sayings like, "your habits will become your character" how sad and unhelpful. If you are so aware of your character and destiny then please tell me the exact date of your death destiny, and the type of illness your character will die from. Oh thats right you can't cause you're just as clueless as the next person, no one knows their destiny silly. It's truly saddening to see how many folks are stuck in their own perception of reality that they can not see the walls they have built around them thru the influences of religion and society. As soon as someone offers anything contrary to your illusion of life we become so quick to retaliate against it. (Quick! My belief system has been questioned bring me my best blankie, some ice cream and leave me alone so I may go back to life as I know it...sounds like you prefer the Matrix instead of seeing what the real world looks like, and if thats the case then yes, take the blue pill the story ends and you believe whatever YOU want to believe). Exactly the point she makes in the beginning, you are forced to think in one way and maybe it's not the correct way. Everything in life has changed, you don't drive horses to work? You no longer need the Pony Express to send an email, so why is it so far fetched that something like marriage created centuries ago can't improve? Perhaps it's all those still living in Medieval times that don't want to embrace change, and thats really the problem. How many people made fun of the first automobile? Tons, because the cars would get stuck in the mud. Mud roads that were designed for horses, but once the roads were paved what happened? Everyone now owns a car and make fun of those that don't have a car. Don't be stuck in the past, it might seem funny now, but down the road you may be the person stuck on the side of the highway by your lonesome wondering, how did life get away from me so quickly? Always keep your mind and soul open to any and all new possibilities, only then will you see your true power to succeed in life and marriage.

This is exactly what I thought about. It's one thing to have the thought, but to continue in the thought leads to this progression.

So what if you watch your destiny?

Amen

I agree

Exactly. And the word "selfish" is the key word. This is what adultery AND 'monogomish' are all about. Monogomish is is only an excuse. INTEGRITY and TRUTH are the most important matters involved where a marriage is concerned.

Marriage is dangerous for man in this part of world

@@michaelbee2165 - selfish is what adultery is usually about. But it’s not at all what “monogamish” is all about. Quite the contrary. The largest issue with adultery is that it is a complete violation of honesty. It’s not (usually) the act itself, but rather the deception, the dishonesty, and the selfishness involved that make that act so damnable. Ethical non-monogamy and this subgroup of “monogamish” couples are a completely different ballgame. The required element to make it work is complete honesty. It also isn’t about selfish needs: it’s about addressing the needs and wants of the couple - TOGETHER. That is in direct conflict with your statement. I’d argue that a MUCH higher percentage of non-monogamous couples vs traditional ones are more honest and conversationally open with one another. Generally speaking, they have a much higher level of trust with each other. It’s not a perfect solution for everybody. Or for most people. But inaccurate comments born out of ignorance isn’t fair to those who make it work every day. FWIW, this isn’t me. I am a traditionalist. That doesn’t mean I look down in others.

What do you think pushed them to try it? Was it being perfectly content and not feeling a pressing need to improve their situation? How do you know they would have been happy if they hadn’t tried it? Why would they have tried it if they were happy?

That isn't being old fashioned, perhaps a little, that's just applying slight common sense and critical thinking. Man is superior to other animals precisely because he is discerning, is able to recognise patterns and extrapolate. Instinct tells us that extrapolating infidelity and adultery leads to or legitimizes more primeval behaviour.

Donna Allgaier - thank you you give me hope!

I tought you are going to say"i dont cheat my husband cuz i dont need others" not that it will hurt your husband

Wish more women were like you Donna

The old fashioned way IS to have an affair (or reject it). The modern way is to talk about the drive behind extramarital lust and build that into the relationship.

Ending marriage today isn't necessarily easier. I almost went through it myself, still costs a lot, and can take a lot of time if one spouse refuses. Perhaps you meant that people make more excuses nowadays? That could be. Or, there are more distractions. But let's be honest, only certain couples are destined to stay together from the outset anyway, no matter how hard both or just one party tries to keep it together.

@Doctor Detroit or when the guy feels "unhappy"

That’s just not true. Monogamous marriage has only really been a thing for the past couple of centuries.

Whose ideal?

Marriage is kind of silly.

My wife and I both think about others sometimes, but it's really helped us because I get excited when I think about her with another guy.

@@kbanghart I'll BET you do

@@lockandloadlikehell yep

The beginning was an ultimate disaster. Nothing against her (the presentation was informative) but all the first three jokes bombed HARD. I had to stop to gather my thoughts lol. Public speaking is fricken HARD. Props to her for not letting it affect her performance.

​@@kbanghartsame here dude

No, no it's not.

This sounds like something I used to say: “just the tip!” Right.....

Monoga-ish is Satan’s Game Mathew 5:28 27. You have heard it said you should not commit Adultery. 28. But I say that anyone that looks at a woman Lustfully has already committed Adultery with her in thier heart. I get it though certainly it’s exciting but nonetheless giant sin!!

@@Captain-Awesome youtube is satans playground too buddy.. it is playing with fire and if you pay attention to her she talks about the burns as well. The mindset is really strong here.

@@Captain-Awesome you're a religious wacko and your message is dangerous and needs to go to the ash heap of history where it belongs

Sounds like she wants a BF on the side and needed to justify it. Not many facts in this though and other TED talks contradict the info presented. No doubt, open works for some people, but not the vast majority. The pitiful stats on marriage are due to human conditions - fear, lust, stress, etc. This is just placing a band-aid on what requires surgery.

Yes the most valuable resource you have is time, and giving that to another person is the ultimate gift. True love

Step one is respect, EVERYTHING else comes together. My suggestion is simple, for men, put your wife/partner first. For Women, put your Husband/Partner 1st. It's really no more complicated than that, if you're in a relationship, you will need to do things and do things at times that you may not really wish too ..... do it anyway!!!!

@KahlosHack - You are a bit confused and with that statement, I am thinking you probably struggle with getting respected by others. It is proper to respect and treat others respectfully unless they prove to be undeserving. Getting respect for varies leadership roles or specific reasons is earned, respect as a fellow human being should be until proven otherwise!!!

When we know we have found someone honest?

Wrong

@@kbanghart OK she's a moron then. Better?

@@prometheus5700 no. Facts are better than insults. But that's just my opinion.

Also, we don’t flirt with other people. If I flirted with someone else it would hurt my husband and make him question if he’s good enough. And vise versa. I don’t want to feel inadequate. And I don’t want my husband to ever feel inadequate either. I am enough for him. He is enough for me. If we lack something then we figure out what we can do differently or something new we can do to make things better. Not look for it somewhere else. I should be the only one to turn my husband on and pleasure him. And he’s the only one that does anything for me. That’s how a marriage works. Being only his. And him being only mine. If someone doesn’t like how this sounds, then maybe marriage isn’t for them.

You have only been together 5 minutes. Wait until it is 30 years.

@@goddessofdragons1996 Good for you guys! Just because everyone else is weak of character, don’t stand by their oaths, and are too selfish and inconsiderate to ever interact with anything with a lifespan greater than a dog, doesn’t mean you have to!

you have many years to realize what you really want speaking too too early

Or maybe, marriage is whatever it means to the two who are in it. 👁👄👁

sounds like monogamy to me...

Some other examples of fake activities : role play, telling a joke, putting on makeup on date night.

That's her job

'spicing up sex' is what she said to do.

no, people just get sick of each other after a while, monogamy for a lifetime is unrealistic. marriage is such an old school move, people are getting smarter. women still want it, so they lower their standards and marry naive guy they never wouldve dated in their prime, left alone marry for life.

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I agree. Once you start to fantasize about someone else. The magic of your partner goes away. Is playing w fire. Someone is bound to get burned

@@megatrong1300 maybe, but its possible to have both at the same time.

yes and people should also beware about thinking about committing crimes, because then they'll act out on it too!

Absolutely 100%!! Check her marriage in another 5-7 years. Let's see where her "soul mate" is then... people please!! And we wonder what's wrong with society😬

A hidden thought, big difference to what the presenter is talking about

linda lamb lol this was posted 6 years ago. There are more than 1 ways to do a relationship.

@@PJ-hi1gz exactly...

Yeah, but total nonsense unfortunately, if you understand anything at all. Vee, you suffer from Dunning Kruger Effect.

Truth is men have control over what will be the new norm

@@susuilu fro

cre8gnr8nrg whoa! Awesome .. that’s beautiful

@Arathae She is a natural at reverse psychology. LOL In other situations, I've been told not to do something and it never crossed my mind until that person mentioned it. So naturally I did what they told me not to do... I sought out the attention when single but in a relationship with permission I'm shocked that I don't act on it. My married friends that cheat think I'm NUTZ. LOL

@@cre8gnr8nrg Why are you friends with a person that cheats, let alone multiple? :/

@bad bad mc bad lol whatevs

@bad bad mc bad Well, I definitely disagree.

Most women are not like that, they care about security and being respected and less about the mickey.

It does exist - you have to believe that - yours just sought it elsewhere.

Good piont

Concur

WELL Stated,Steve !!!!!

Being monogamish works in neutrality, if no love and no feelings exist in a couple....it may allow them to experiment, but it fails at a certain point of time.

Yeah, if you saw the whole video, she said that in failing relationships, nothing will magically keep it together.

Plen122 lol...talk about a safety net.

@Alejandro Moreno right on the spot dear sir.

Alejandro Moreno what do u mean?

@Alejandro Moreno maybe he is not talking about the leash in particular, he's referencing it to the elasticity the female in the video talked about.

So you show up at work in year 20 with the exact same enthusiasm as you did on day 1? Sounds nice on paper. Seems unrealistic in practice... I'm not suggesting the feelings in the relationship should change. There should be no doubt about the love part. But that said if you're doing the SAME thing forever, someone is bound to get bored. And that was sort of the point of this talk... You can add a little spice by incorporating a little mental fantasy as long as you establish the rules and boundaries of the playing field and the game, then both parties are interested in it. And you close it afterwards by remembering that it only lives in your heads, not in life. It's not for everyone, but she was pitching it as a tool for some people's toolbox to keep the play fresh and novel for those feeling things may be getting a bit stale or repetitive. But just because someone handed you a hammer doesn't mean you HAVE to use it...

@@mhuntprofessional I can understand and respect what you’re saying- and on certain days I’m on board 100%. My opinion as a 52 yr old, divorced, single, red neck - and we are talking about ‘marriage’ here: I’ve been in love with a woman- I’ve had women be in love with me-and no matter what we said to each other, how much we liked each other- I’ve never been in love simultaneously. I think that’s what makes a marriage. I think if you find yourself in that situation, things could never get boring. And I think if you’re not 100% in that situation, there’s no need to be even talking about marriage. It takes total honesty- which I feel is one of the 3 basic building blocks- to know if marriage is a potiential avenue and I don’t think there’s a a lot of honesty out there anymore. Or when the truth DOES finally surface, you find you’re married, and bored, and unhappy. Then- yes- pull all cards - I guess… but if the basic blocks were solid- you wouldn’t need crutches to hold it all together. But he’ll, idk- maybe I’m wrong to think this way , but I haven’t seen anything else work

Great comments! I love the “repression leads to obsession” line.

That is very good advice. If you add don't act on those thoughts and share them only with church/psychiatrist/partner whichever you prefer. Friends are not acceptable to be bearers of such thoughts and will ill advise you. Church and psychiatrists / psychologists are taught how to advise in such scenarios and your partner will listen to you and try to solve the problem in your relationship. Friends will tell you you'd be still saint if you dump the men. By the way guys it applies to you with reversed gender too. TLDR anyone that tells you to dump someone instead of work out issues is not you ally in this case.

Great comment. Very practical and also helpful. Well played miss; well played

Yes, she mentioned that in the video.

noël nuevo wise words

Do what works for the both of you! There are all kinds of relationships and marriages. I do what's best for my marriage and I don't judge who makes it work differently than I do

a lot of people here are WAY missing that the foundation of her talk is based on consent with your partner

Word of warning: be very careful in talking to your partner about this this, because I tried to talk to my SO about an attraction I had to another woman. Turns out she falls into the "Strictly Monogamous" section and I now am single. So much for trying to get it out into the open to save the relationship. Careful, y'all. Don't torpedo yourselves like I did...

@@williammosley5634 then good, now you know it won't work later anyway if that's what you really think.

Never cheated in real life? What does that even mean? You cheated over the internet/text but not in person?

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It's a big problem when a couple can't talk about this kind of thing with each-other and can only talk about what they're supposed to, if anything.

Yes. It is your/our business. Whenever movements like this start to severely change the dating landscape and social stability and devotees of monogamy are left to live a life alone, it is unquestionably everyone's business.

@@robertfeight1205 What people do in the bedroom is nobody's business except the people involved. Not the government's and especially not yours.

@@barry5767 I couldn't agree more. My wifes parents said this to us before our wedding and they are devoutly religious!

When the whole premise is bs then I will say something

this is not outside of the box thinking, this is just giving in to the animal part that is luring in the back of our minds, evolving past all of that is another option.

No. This is not a decent talk.

She had a lot of people thinking outside of her box.

Especially when the most radical suggestion, she made was to admit when you find someone else attractive, maybe talk to them, and then go home with your partner.

One of the best comments I’ve read here 👏

@John Brooke, such a motivating comment. Thank you.

This should be top comment.

@Frikkiwitz do you mean PTSD? Is what why they have it?

Brilliant words, thank you!!!

Who says commitment and thrills are mutually exclusive?

@Frikkiwitz Ah, yes.. because murder, death and destruction has always been metaphorically equivelant to love, and the inevitable stress that comes from regular daily life throughout that commitment.

What's wrong with doing it?

What kinda impact in particular?

Did you watch the video?

Only fools would be into this with kids in the house.

So do unhealthy monogamous relationships. Lol your comment is pretty polyphobic and provides no context. Edit: if couples actually communicate with their kids instead of trying to hide their non-conformist lifestyle, or god forbid actually provide a healthy climate of criticism of an incredibly inflexible "till death do us part" lifestyle, then there's hope.

@@msp2965 Polyphobic? Give me a break...

The opposite of what?

I hope your marriage is getting better. God has a plan for all of us and whether or not you two feel like it was meant to be, it is. Marriage isn't something you should take back, its what you will continuously change to repair and make stronger with new challenges.

Nedaaril1.....it has been a year, how is the marriage now?

I know what you mean. Good job on doing what you feel is the right way to repair your wounded marriage.

rutgers university

And viceversa

Great man! A true alpha and not this weak beta nonsense floating around these days

Boorrring

@@atmosrepair hmm, usually when people try to talk about alphas and betos and all of that nonsense, means they are weak, insecure people.

Unfortunately, it doesn't take any kind of weird behavior, if you want to call it that, to end a monogamous relationship. History has shown us that monogamy just isn't really successful.

But, on average, it has 50% chance of failure. Lol

Good point. Most people won’t understand what you wrote.

She didn't say it would for everyone.

@@neldanie I get that. But I have an opinion anyway.

My girlfriend does that she constantly sees how far she can push me. It's very irritating and I'm probably going to leave her soon.

@@nathanaelmarler8874 too much “just be yourself” and “the right person will love you for who you are” going on out there. So many people are putting each other though the ringer instead of actually trying to make things easier for their significant other. You’re either loyal or you’re not. You either have integrity or you don’t. I’ve learned that actions may speak louder than words, but character is the only constant. I want you to know that you may be resilient , but that doesn’t mean you deserve the beating. Life throws us enough punches. I hope she truly knows how you feel and you set some boundaries. If she abuses those boundaries then she has no respect for you. I wish you well

Your friend should divorce his wife and set her free. She doesn't need that

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Everything you say disappears when you get married. I would love to talk to your husband/partner and hear what he really feels :)

@@dr.c196 I've been married for over 10 years, and none of that has gone away from my married. We've had unquestionable rough patches, but my wife and I are great friends. We have children so things like romance and doing things for one another often comes down to cleaning the dishes when its her night, getting her some flowers for no reason...giving her footrub or getting a babysitter so we can sneak out to dinner and movie. Big displays of romance are difficult both in terms of time and/or resources (but I still make the effort for special events or big milestones). Everyone's experience is different of course, but I would say that it doesn't disappear; it changes. And you have to find value in what it becomes.

@@Silvertip_M This on all levels.

Love isn't the problem either it's lack of communication and respect. All successful relationships require communication and respect in order to be successful. Romantic or otherwise, monogamous or otherwise

Matthew Morycinski people who love truly, do not express jealousy? When their s.o. is cheating on them??

@Matthew Morycinski That kind of deeper love is for mother’s with their children: letting go and accepting. They are supposed to fly free and leave home. I do not have motherly feelings for my husband. Jealousy is not the reason for monogamy.

What if I WANT to exercise my options? IF my wife doesn't keep me fully satisfied, I'll find someone who can. The fact that she knows that, is why she keeps me satisfied.

Yes she could have worded that better. unfortunately for us, jealousy is a negative emotion, which is of no help when trying to keep a relationship together.

She's not saying to cheat, she's saying it's ludicrous to treat thoughts as cheating and that honesty with ourselves leads to more honesty within the marriage

@@minagica exactly

jealousy is a byproduct of another issue. It could stem from fear of abandonment, self-esteem issues, trust issues, etc. Those issues need to be addressed and dissected and most likely jealousy will fade. And if you start feeling it again, guess what you do? you talk about it again. There's always a reason behind jealousy and the reasons are present in all forms of relationships - monogamous or not

@@MsZenabel Not today. They were issues a long time ago, today is just facts, almost everyone cheats

But more people fail at monogamous relationships, I think simply because monogamous relationships are more common.

Toxins.

... beware the words that follow.... beware the words that follow.... beware the words that follow....

'...and it's airborne' apparently.

Louis Rossmann Y.

Bryan Charles Usually a monogamous &/or open marriage effects both parties. So no, not just women here, are effected.

People are often selfish idiots pretending to be intelligent haha 😂 we’re just monkeys with cars and cellphones

@@ALLENNEWLIN1979 hahaha. Preach

@@DanishCamp I loved your comment. How could a person be so self involved that they think it’s okay to go flirting around to boost their own self esteem or for whatever reason. I’m sure we are all guilty of some foolish behavior but that sounds so selfish and mean to me. But hey, at least we know that this is a possibility and we can build the wall around ourselves a little taller and harder to penetrate.

+HebaruSan well said, a slam dunk, in my opinion. ;-)

+HebaruSan This is typical though, in today's "everybody with a degree is some sort of an authority" mentality. People who haven't lived 30 years are "experts" now. If you read a book, you "know" stuff, and can talk for an hour on the subject.

+HebaruSan common sense seems to be a luxury in the modern world. A society swimming in the other rather than the self. Extrospection vs Introspection. Inner-work demands much discernment than any outer-work. My question is who are the unconscious folks who even approved of this talk.

Well spake, +HebaruSan!

HebaruSan Right on!!!! I feel sorry for her "clients." Go back to your sketchy MTV swinger house and stay there. Or.... MAYBE....maybe go to church and with the knowledge you learn there... you might be able to bring your success charts up with you....(or at least mention them) instead of your cellphone to take a selfie. Yes. Take a selfie because you will NEVER be on another ted talk. 🙄 ohhh this world.

RearAdmiralTootToot monogamish means smelling, cooking, and talking about food that breaks your rigid diet... Not putting it in your mouth.

Kyle Johnson to me that sounds like torture.

Soldiers do it. Stranded/lost people do it. Hmmm

Okage Kyle and all of those people come home with the healthiest state of mind...

RearAdmiralTootToot thanks bro

That's how the news networks do their reporting! 🤣

Yet you can’t even type 2 sentences without making an error. LOL.

@@jamesoconnor9452 Let’s say that true what does that have to do with the conversation at hand? That does not invalidate my point

every salesmans tactic

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Exactly, you got to have a very happy wife then!

Carlos Herminio Caceres That's not correct. If every thought would be followed by emediate action, then your life (and all lifes) would be a big mess. I think, what you mean, is, you personally find it immoral to feel attraction to another person, if you are in a partnership, and maybe(!) try to suppress this thought/attraction. But it is not possible to suppress a thouhgt. The good thing is, you can decide, which thought you will follow, and that is it. Everybody does it, 1000-fold a day.

Moli Moli you are right having sex is like having food, no woman would like to eat the same food everyday just like she doesn't like to gave sex with the same man everyday or every time rest of her life. Same food/ same man is boring. You are so right.

So, you get nacked and offer yourself completely to food, I might understand food has an important role in your life to the point you could get an orgasm just by eating it... The religious topic was brought up by you guys, not the main comment. Is a matter of Love and care, loving and caring for our spouse phisical, psicological health and wellbeing, it's about not wanting to hurt the feelings of the ones we love and others.. I want to have sex with my husband for the rest of my life, and we are really excited about this, because we know there are always new things to discover and practice, and if you lack imagination, there are ways to help out with that. Just the way you fall in love with a person you can fall in love with that person's sexual organ! People ARE NOT a piece of flesh, it's not that you are rubbbing two steaks, SEX means a lot for the human being.... and if it doesn't mean a lot for you it is because you thought you were a piece of flesh and not a complex human being... you can get help anyway to recover the deep meaning of sex.

Carlos you're beautiful! Nice to hear the thoughts of a good man!

Facts

I agree

Nah no one's wired for monogamy, like our brain systems are literally wired for novelty, however if you want to end up old and alone, I highly encourage polygamy as an option

​@@zephyrjmilnes Marriage doesn't guarantee you'll end up growing old together or that you'll never be alone.

If all people started being honest and truthful there wouldn't be many marriages left.

No.

i agree. A thought leads to action leads to anything else. leads to divorce

"monogomish" doesn't a marriage make, but please feel free to call it anything else.

@@armandomartinez4152 Just because you date someone or marry them doesn't not change your perception of how other people look. If you say you've never had a thought at all then you're lying to yourself. If it leads to something else then you're not a faithful person.

No. All she is doing is TALKING about something. Do you think the true and fictional murder mystery stories many of us love so much has done its part, ever so slightly, to increase the murder rate? Good lord.

Maybe you didn't watch the whole video. What do you mean play her games? the whole point of her talk was to describe how to keep couples together.

Buttcheeks Mcgee yes. Indeed.

@@sidmichael1158 but it's wrong

100% agree with you Ms. Buttcheeks

My parents have been happily married now for 20 years, even when I was young they talked about celebrity crushes and attractive individuals. They never get mad at each other for bringing this up. In all of my relationships I talked about attractive people with my partner and had long discussions about this sort of thing. As she said every marriage is different, so I implore you to not go around acting as though your words are gospel.

Yeah this is a symptom of a demoralized culture

You mean lack of commitment and willingness to work through problems? I might agree.

Society is breaking down because of trump supporters. They bring a myriad of problems to society.

Yep

Society isn’t dissolving. It is continually evolving. And perhaps your comfort with what other people may do, holding onto outdated norms. Not promoting monogomish, but not judging people and thinking culture is breaking down. This has gone on forever, but now it is being discussed and so what?

So instead of admitting there are problems, just accept it?

Someone who gets it.

"delivery of information" I like that That's what I'm gonna start calling it, too

Yea...without ever actually stating what the statistics are of WHO files for divorce....women. Women file for divorce overwhelmingly. This is a problem with women wanting to get married yet not be married. And disrespecting your partner by fantasizing and flirting openly with other men or women is NOT the answer.

This is not a 'problem', its evolution. Men need to better themselves to attract the women they desire.

Maybe the problem is that men like to many woman?

@@charliefarkas7312 like do plastic surgery of face 😈

yes she has no brain

Exactly what I expect from the mind of Marxist female.

you might be able to practice self control and discipline, but you can't control if your partner does the same thing. A little freedom can be refreshing i guess

Benjamin Shabu you’re a conscientious personality type in the big 5 test. Not all of us prioritize the same and have the same needs

Wendypretty1 I dated a woman like this (had to find out the hard way), it's very traumatic to watch these kind of flirtations

Exactly. What if another partner who is not your husband or wife tells you to divorce your significant other and be with them or get pregnant by this other side partner. How do you deal with that? Is it okay to be "monogamish" now?

Wendypretty1 h

Wendypretty1 agree

Even if it doesn't lead to more the feelings of insecurity and disloyalty are the kind of thing that don't go away, even if you're in a new relationship, former relationships affect your interpretations of future relationships.

how's that working 8 months later?

Yes, how is that working 8 months later?

It's rude to not respond to comments with such a concern for your well being?

I'd also like to know, how is that working 9 months later?

Some people aren't marriage material. They exist to give birth to the fuckups working as janitors and laborers for other men (or causing crimes for people who report the news). Nietzsche: "The mother of excess is not joy - but joylessness." "Woman is unjust to everything she does not love." Alex Kierkegaard: "It is by foregoing all other women and focusing on one, that a relationship acquires the highest degree of meaningfulness." "Once you have realized that there cannot exist equal things, order of rank follows immediately."

Lol too funny. The comment section is on fire and all she did was what you said, merely suggest a pretty mild change. Even a sexologist wouldn't dare to suggest monogamish in the way the comment section is taking it, the reaction professionally and among anyone watching this would ruin their career. Challenging tradition and embedded ways of thinking is hard, regardless of whether it is good or bad.