Dr. Phil On Mother/Daughter Betrayals | The Best of The Oprah Show | Full Episode

Dr. Phil On Mother/Daughter Betrayals | The Best of The Oprah Show | Full Episode | OWN

Місяць тому

Dr. Phil McGraw discusses ways that disastrous mother-daughter relationships can be healed. (Original Air Date: September 11, 2012) Watch more of The Oprah Winfrey Show on the WatchOWN app: bit.ly/watchownapp
#TheOprahWinfreyShow #OWN #OprahWinfreyNetwork #ownsupersoul
About The Oprah Winfrey Show : The Oprah Winfrey Show was America's No. 1 talk show for 24 seasons. She shares everything from inspiring stories with everyday people to interviews with celebrities and self-help gurus, and never fails to tackle the hard topics of the day.
SUBSCRIBE: bit.ly/1vqD1PN
About OWN:
Oprah Winfrey Network is the first and only network named for, and inspired by, a single iconic leader. Oprah Winfrey's heart and creative instincts inform the brand -- and the magnetism of the channel.
Winfrey provides leadership in programming and attracts superstar talent to join her in primetime, building a global community of like-minded viewers and leading that community to connect on social media and beyond. OWN is a singular destination on cable. Depth with edge. Heart. Star power. Connection. And endless possibilities.
Discover OWN TV:
Find OWN on your TV!: bit.ly/1wJ0ugI
Our Fantastic Lineup: bit.ly/1qMi2jE
Connect with OWN Online:
Visit the OWN WEBSITE: bit.ly/1qMi2jE
Like OWN on FACEBOOK: on. 1AXYujp
Follow OWN on TWITTER: bit.ly/1sJin8Y
Follow OWN on INSTAGRAM: bit.ly/LnqzMz
Follow OWN on PINTEREST: bit.ly/2dvfPeN
Dr. Phil On Mother/Daughter Betrayals | The Best of The Oprah Show | Full Episode | OWN
• Dr. Phil On Mother/Dau...
OWN on UKposts
/ own

КОМЕНТАРІ: 277

@judyholland7236 Місяць тому

Mothers should always put their children first no matter what. I'm sick of excuses.

@warmlantern0000 Місяць тому

Yup. I raised my 2 kids alone. When they grew up I started dating. ❤😊

@PrettyColorsDoe Місяць тому

Mom is totally wrong here. Her daughter has every reason to be livid. I don’t believe she didn’t know. Explains why she willingly allowed this monster back in the home and didn’t want police involved.

@avocadoaficiando Місяць тому

Agreed. Of course the mother knew. The same wall that allowed her to keep defending herself (and even her ex) throughout this interview is the same wall that she put up each night that the ex got out of bed and visited their daughters in their bedroom. The mother was trying so hard to be seen as the victim and to solicit sympathy in writing into the show, but in reality, she was entirely complicit

@winningalways43 Місяць тому

Oprah being a smart as* by ridiculing Dr Phil.

@jennybird4126 17 днів тому

❤

@Cwgrlup 11 днів тому

All “mom” can say is “I know “ or “I don’t know”…. Seriously?

@gloriaevans7238 3 дні тому

I was raped and sodomized by my uncle from2 to 10 …it was only at 10 I nearly bled to death.. my mom thought I started my period but I was intact, he thought if he sodomized me there’d be no proof when my mom found out she took my fathers gun and made a visit to her sisters husband…the rest is not nice…I am now over 60 yrs old…time doesn’t heal all wounds …my life has been hell

@leonacross7 Місяць тому

First mom is a DISGRACE. My mother never remarried or even dated after our father drowned. She always feared something like this would happen, and wanted to protect my sister and me. She sacrificed her life for us. She's now deceased but I love her eternally.

@goldalevin869 Місяць тому

You were blessed if you had that kind of a mother.

@user-jb4tk3mp3l Місяць тому

My husband passed 13 yrs ago I'm aware i had the best noone to hold a candle to him in my eyes never interested in finding anyone else

@lisbethlarsen6427 Місяць тому

I am happy to read about your experience... My father died when I was 17, and I had to protect myself from what she tried to expose me to.

@MaryjaneLove 27 днів тому

-&&& she failed her daughter in the worse way and it's sad because mom allowed his creep as back into the home .. that says a lot about the mother . . 😢😢😢😢

@DeannaBrownlee Місяць тому

The first mom was absolutely vile. All she did was make excuses and complain about how she was supposedly the victim. I can't stand people like that.

@tnt01 Місяць тому

I know right. Sick.

@barbarapalmer8224 Місяць тому

I agree

@barbarapalmer8224 Місяць тому

That first mother is a joke..

@darlenebertocci4631 Місяць тому

There's tons of men who will act like they are so in crazy love with u but they are really looking for a vulnerable woman with little children so tbey can molest them. Don't trust any of them. '

@brightblonde3508 Місяць тому

Sadly, many women believe in keeping the family together, despite abuse. And many kids want love & protection from parents that can’t give what they need.

@tnt01 Місяць тому

1st mom should have never allowed that man back into the home.

@angelgirldebbiejo Місяць тому

True

@MaryjaneLove 27 днів тому

&&&& like the other daughter said he was helping out financially with the bills and mom was use to him paying everything .. mom didn't give a damn about her daughter who was r a p e d at all. .😢😢😢

@vanessastagg7846 Місяць тому

I don't see anything in her eyes but a mother that is empty without pity.

@corrinaramos5906 Місяць тому

Omg me too!!!! Her eyes are like lacking something! I wonder if she was conceived from a rape.

@missmew3499 Місяць тому

As well as excuses coming out of her mouth. She just keeps saying "I know", but remaining an empty vessel. She's very very cold. What a horrible excuse for a mother 😠😠

@keywestcatlady Місяць тому

Narc Mom

@jazzy5975 Місяць тому

Mom told on herself when she said "he tickled them in the wrong places" SHE KNEW AND SHE WAS DEPENDING ON HIM AND DIDNT WANT HIM TO GO TO JAIL. Happens all the time

@nancyn891 Місяць тому

money was likely a motive

@phyllis9750 Місяць тому

He was sorry??? Are you stupid?

@tnt01 Місяць тому

100%

@nicoleb4077 Місяць тому

Total Freudian slip she KNEW

@tnt01 Місяць тому

@@nicoleb4077 👍

@babyblue61549 Місяць тому

My mother was a Very sick Narcissist. It’s taken years to feel validated. All children deserve to be loved unconditionally. 💔

@goldalevin869 Місяць тому

My mother was a malignant narcissist and a sexual predator.Surviving that takes constant vigilance.

@TattooedAussieChick Місяць тому

How could that mother sit face to face with her daughter in pain and not cry. I’m crying. And she’s not my daughter. I just want to hug her and say sorry. That’s so strange to me.

@IVY12023 Місяць тому

She probably went through something herself. She's too stoic, and often that is how a person becomes stoic. They have learned to cover up their pain. That's what I see anyway.

@MaryjaneLove 27 днів тому

&&& sitting face to face with my mom who allowed a man to r a p e me is a hard pill to swallow .. it's takes a lot of healing and letting go to do that . . . 😢😢😢

@deragoo3624 25 днів тому

She kept smiling when the girl was crying, I feel she was not sincere

@naijalink5541 Місяць тому

The first mother is cold. She chose her husbands first over her daughters. What a sad place to be.

@tnt01 Місяць тому

She is a narcissist, she has no empathy.

@becbecbecca Місяць тому

Looks like she's avoiding feelings or else you turn into a wreck...she's trying to be strong because there is only one parent it sounds like they want her to breakdown... like how many times can she say she was wrong and she is sorry? Hug? Maybe the daughter wants her to share the pain? But if it's never happened to you you can only sympathize. Any follow up?

@tnt01 Місяць тому

@@becbecbecca the mother is a narcissist and lacks empathy. She does not feel her pain.

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

Probably a narcissist

@ankahbello1327 Місяць тому

Why does it fall on the daughter's to forgive and make amends....these mothers should spend their life apologizing.

@MaryjaneLove 27 днів тому

-&&& that's where I was lost at .. like Dr Phil come on man . . 😂😂

@paulaharlfinger829 Місяць тому

What is wrong with this woman??!!! How can she let that man back into their home and their lives?!! “He was sorry?????” Really??!! This mother has committed the ultimate betrayal. And my heart breaks for her daughter!

@TheSblore Місяць тому

I wouldn’t let my Mom anywhere near my kid if she did this to me. Awful, put her disgusting husband before her daughters.

@nancyn891 Місяць тому

Why did no one ask if finance was a factor in keeping an evil husband?

@angelgirldebbiejo Місяць тому

one of the daughters did

@debfox 26 днів тому

@@angelgirldebbiejothat doesn’t make it okay.

@shmoonuf2566 Місяць тому

The Narcissistic Mother - is a SHOCKING AND STUNNING thing to behold! I would love to have a show on how people have gone through this and came out better on the other side. My story is Jaw Dropping.

@piedpiper1727 Місяць тому

So is mine!

@BlushingAngels Місяць тому

and mine....

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

Same here

@aydinseyedi825 Місяць тому

1st Mother: “I know I know I know” on repeat

@Rebecca-hc5ju Місяць тому

Yep. Then, "I don't know, I don't know, I don't know." 🙄🙄 But she knows how much the psychiatrist cost. Smh

@tnt01 Місяць тому

that's when her true self came out.@@Rebecca-hc5ju

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Meantime, the truth of the matter is she is clueless.

@MaryjaneLove 27 днів тому

&&&& mom is full of shxt ... 😢😢

@iartjassy2507 Місяць тому

The 1st mom isn't sorry that she did what she did, she sorry she let him get caught. She KNEW.

@MaryjaneLove 27 днів тому

&&&& uu know damn well that mom not sorry with them fake tears .. im with Oprah ii don't feel she is sorry at all. . Dr. Phil trying to force that lady to say she sorry . . . This was to much 😢😢

@iartjassy2507 27 днів тому

@@MaryjaneLove Did you see her eyes when they told her to mean it? 😳 That lady got some demons in her

@babyblue61549 Місяць тому

Why Isnt this Mother crying her eyes out for her daughter and what she went thru!!!!!

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

Because she probably is a narcissist - zero empathy

@fire12731 Місяць тому

The mom acts so cavalier

@mudokonslig9205 Місяць тому

I think the first daughter is still the child that was abused who is still waiting for her mother to save her. Normally, she would'nt want to have a relationship with a monster who gave permission to a devil to abuse her.

@pamnovotny2364 Місяць тому

First mom is ignoring her surroundings. She's as sick as the abuser

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

Probably a narcissist

@user-ul4kz3jb7b Місяць тому

She did pick the man over her kids

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Truth!!!

@user-gv2yc3mj4d Місяць тому

Her mother doesn't love herself well enough to protect her children from something I believe happened to her as a child/teenager and just except the fact to keep her mouth and eyes closed to what is happening and she still shows that now.

@shastac1396 Місяць тому

I really love this version of Dr Phil.

@shastac1396 Місяць тому

I wish he was still like this 🙁

@kristenlange7074 Місяць тому

First mom should be in jail.

@joannephillips4110 24 дні тому

No one could ever prove she knew what was happening. They may not have believed that story she never woke up to pee in eight years but had no way to prove otherwise.

@michelletreon811 Місяць тому

We DO throw away people..that hurt little girls!!

@Violet-du9bk Місяць тому

You throw people away who are abusive duh

@naturalgirldiy Місяць тому

This is aweful. Can't imagine how Pam and her sister must have felt having to look that monster in the eye again. Mom doesn't seem to want to take responsibility for her complacence. This is not something you sweep under the rug and move on..

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Sadly, sweeping things under the rug and moving on is exactly what most dysfunctional families do.

@fire12731 Місяць тому

She doesn’t love her daughters at all

@KydSyster Місяць тому

“I guess they wanted to press charges”……per the 1st mom…..IMO some relationships aren’t worth mending.

@darlenebertocci4631 Місяць тому

I cannot believe that mom said that. He said he was sorry???? U gotta be kidding me. Someone touches my daughters and they are ssooo gone. THeres no sorry in the world that could make me forgive any man. Never ever

@carolynjaynes9094 Місяць тому

That first mother basically prostituted her two daughters for her own financial security. I would bever speak to her again after that kind of betrayal. Go no contact and find peace.

@BlushingAngels Місяць тому

Are we the only ones that feel this way! She would have been out of my life the moment I was able to leave the home where she brought that monster back to!

@joannephillips4110 24 дні тому

Yes... there's no way she didn't know he was out of the bed.

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

A narcissist

@nataliemscrzysxycoolharris Місяць тому

I feel for these women. I was never molested but I know how it feels for a Mother to choose a man over her child. Why have children if you’re not going to protect them?

@lorrainelawton8942 Місяць тому

Disgusting mother! You know when your child is bothered by something! Thinking of herself only! Pathetic!

@az1infin268 Місяць тому

Miss Oprah is so emotionally intelligent. 💜✊🏿💜💜💜💜

@karenpollicina8582 Місяць тому

She used to be.

@nancyn891 Місяць тому

… yes, but she too failed to ask if money was one small reason evil mom kept husband.

@brendajerez2235 Місяць тому

WOW! Dr. Phil really has changed..

@franceskavalec350 Місяць тому

Time changes everyone!

@arabesquejacob8176 Місяць тому

My thoughts exactly!

@BraveFox100 Місяць тому

Mother should tell her daughter I love you

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

It wouldn't make any difference if she didn't mean it because the daughter would see right through it.

@dianemorton2222 Місяць тому

That Mother does not love the daughter. She considers the daughter a problem. She does not like like the emotional daughter. So sad.

@avocadoaficiando Місяць тому

She doesn't just consider the daughter a problem - but a burden based on how she griped about the cost of the therapist. The mother wants her daughter to forgive her so she can feel better about herself, not because she wants her daughter to heal

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

That is a narcissistic mother

@yogalyfe Місяць тому

Right away she says he knew I'd get upset if he was tickling them in the wrong way and I'd tell him to stop. Uhhh... so you noticed him being handsy in front of your eyes and still allowed him to sleep in your home with your daughters? But you didn't know.

@AlexWatson-ii7ol Місяць тому

And she swore on her father's grave she didn't absolutely shocking 🙄

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Exactly!!!

@joannephillips4110 24 дні тому

There is no way in those 8 years she didn't wake up in the middle of the night. To pee or to just have a rough night and toss and turn. Everyone has sleepless nights. It's not logical.

@debfox 26 днів тому

Wow! The first mom won’t take accountability and the fact that she doesn’t think she hurt her daughter by choosing their abuser, is INSANE! She abused her too by not protecting her!

@user-jb4tk3mp3l Місяць тому

My heart breaks for the daughter

@janetklumper6048 Місяць тому

Just like my mother, me me me me me

@Daniellehiu Місяць тому

The first mom couldn't say I love you, I'm sorry, I did the wrong thing. Smh. She absolutely would not say out loud, I made a bad choice.

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

She has too much pride to admit what she did was wrong.

@ktpris5754 Місяць тому

Many moms have that wall of fakeness and blocked emotions. Mine included. I refuse to engage with it at all.

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Excellent description . . . wall of fakeness and blocked emotions.

@sparkle6093 Місяць тому

As a mother, I sensed every time my daughter was off, no matter how minor.

@user-qj6wj5kz3x 25 днів тому

Ya same here I have 4 children and even now i know when there is something wrong

@dianemorton2222 Місяць тому

That Mother wanted the man as a partner to live with and to pay the bills. The Mother did not care about the daughters.

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Truth!!!

@meljay5660 Місяць тому

When they did the chair exercise her mother just seemed patronizing. I was happy to see some emotion from her, but I feel like she still doesn't get it.

@tnt01 Місяць тому

100%

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

She absolutely seemed patronizing . . . and she still doesn't get it.

@dramaqueen9299 Місяць тому

2nd momma gave everything the first daughter needed to hear 😔 Oprah was right it wasn’t happening that day

@user-jb4tk3mp3l Місяць тому

Dr Phil nailed it!

@toeachitsown2050 Місяць тому

As a mother myself, if I found out someone was doing that to my kids, that "man" wouldn't even make it to jail.

@maryhorn8531 Місяць тому

Stop making excuses for him. I can't believe he got 6 years probation.

@sarahlinnmaslen Місяць тому

The third mother daughter story is inspirational. Im glad they found healing

@kismet7645 Місяць тому

I would never let that first mother back in mine or my children’s life. She doesn’t really think she’s wrong and can’t be trusted.

@Maz-zb9uf Місяць тому

Spot on

@joannephillips4110 24 дні тому

Her mother is a flashback to what she endured! I agree. Banish her from your life. I am shocked a therapist hasn't told her that after she tells them about her Mom.

@carolpeterson6148 Місяць тому

There is no coming back from putting your child in a situation KNOWINGLY placing them in the hands of their abuser. There is NO excuse, and there is no forgiveness.

@lindahampton676 Місяць тому

She knows she just didn't want to lose that man

@magdalenechristie6453 Місяць тому

Mothers can just be terrible

@LesleyLamb-xq8op Місяць тому

How in Any world could a mother Never wake up in EIGHT years and notice that her husband happened to NOT be in her bed??. I am incredulous!!! The facts aren’t right here

@joannephillips4110 24 дні тому

Not believable! She knows what she did but knows we will think she's evil if she admits she knew.

@iiiMUNiiiQUE Місяць тому

Finally a good episode

@brightblonde3508 Місяць тому

Was the 1st mom still married when this aired?

@SusanGrabelsky-kx3ry Місяць тому

Dr. Phil,this Vile person is Not Capable of Understanding or Giving the Love that her Daughters are looking for

@BlushingAngels Місяць тому

My mother was a narcissistic. She verbally and physically abused me until I could take no more and I banned her from my life, at 44 years old, in 2004. She would come home every day and beat me and verbally abuse me. After I banned her from my life, and every year, I'd ask her to go to therapy with me, which was free through the company I worked for, and she would not go and she would also deny that she ever did anything wrong. She left us, when I was 10 years old, and she left me and my father, to raise her 4 year old son, that had severe ADHD. She had already kicked my eldest brother out of the house, when he was 15 years old, prior to leaving us, w/her moving to Texas to live w/one of her boyfriends; probably the best thing that ever happened to me. My father was a wonderful Dad and took care of us the best he could; he passed in 2008, and I miss him so much, each and every day.

@user-bx8nx5gk4z Місяць тому

If he was a murderer would you have let him back,to me it's the same thing!!!!!😢

@Chichi.S Місяць тому

So helpful,. Thank you Dr Phil, beautiful Oprah😘💕💕💕

@elizabethbrantley6416 Місяць тому

Oprah has so much more insight than Phil

@itzme.Lala.83 Місяць тому

The mother is only saying what she thinks they want to hear. Shame on her.

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Exactly!!!

@kaygnp Місяць тому

The Mother is very selfish ... If it was me ... I would be superrrr supeeerrr angryyyy

@user-jb4tk3mp3l Місяць тому

I don't care how sorry he was he did it! That would be it for me he'd be gone the creep I don't know how the mother could stomache to be around him! A poor decision? A horrifying choice

@cocosaccount3880 Місяць тому

Ya. If you want to , say, " I accept your apology and forgive you. But you must leave our family FOREVER!!!. AND, as a bonus, you can feel sorry for him all your life AND keep your kids safe.

@lisbethlarsen6427 Місяць тому

"I'm a deep sleeper!" How NOT convincing.

@laughingallthetime50 Місяць тому

The two daughters in the first clip are absolutely stunning. Not what the clip is about but I just wanted to say that.

@shirleymason2422 Місяць тому

Her mother knew.

@joannephillips4110 24 дні тому

Of course she did...

@suebabe100 Місяць тому

She let him come back? Some people don't deserve children period.

@Eswyfe 28 днів тому

This mother sickens me, I would have him out that door and called the police myself and insisted on prosecution and jail time-mom’s behavior is inexcusable and she should be criminally charged for not protecting her children

@hankala0824 Місяць тому

This was totally my mother!!

@marywrenn5262 Місяць тому

😢

@judyisapunk7928 Місяць тому

This is my mother as well. Cold cold cold. The ultimate ice Queen.

@Spooky_pookie Місяць тому

Mine too. Mine knew all about the abuse and allowed it and she threatened me that if I told anyone she would make me pay for it. She was dependent on him for paying all of the bills and for just everything….. she even stayed after he shot her and then refused medical attention. She was also afraid of him but she still showed all of her support after she found out that he was SA me

@Maz-zb9uf Місяць тому

Same here

@zohraimam Місяць тому

Parents should be taught the boundaries they have towards their Children .

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Boundaries aren't going to make any difference with a child molester.

@joannephillips4110 24 дні тому

There's no way a man/ dad or step-dad doesn't know it's wrong to be touching their child in private areas or sneaking out of the marital bed during the night knowing his wife is not going to do anything. They are both evil. I am assuming he left her anyway... no one said he was still there.

@zohraimam 24 дні тому

@@jeanag3279 for awareness at least 🤔

@jeanag3279 24 дні тому

@@zohraimam They know what they're doing is wrong. If they didn't know any better, they would do it in the open . . . which NEVER happens.

@zohraimam 24 дні тому

@@jeanag3279 lack of awareness is Main reasons.

@valoriebeeckman7092 Місяць тому

She’s too defensive. She doesn’t get it.

@user-gv2yc3mj4d Місяць тому

There mom is blinded for the truth of what her husband done to her. Her daughter will not heal for the pain and abandonment of what her mother did. Why did the mother let that discussing man back in her house to harm them more and more. It don't make since.

@debh5780 Місяць тому

Very good program ! Valuable I would think to a lot of people. 😊😊😊

@MsKiekies 29 днів тому

I think Oprah chipping in to try and end the segment drives Dr Phil up the wall...

@debh5780 Місяць тому

The mother is not very emotionally available to her daughter. Why is she shaking her head no to making the wrong decision. Apologize to your daughter.

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

I noticed the head shaking too . . . which totally negates her feeble attempt at apologizing.

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

A narcissistic mother

@Seejaykaygee Місяць тому

She knew her mom felt him leave the bed I'm not buying what she is selling

@darlenebertocci4631 Місяць тому

Lol lol omg dr phil is so young here lol. I have always loved him hes a great man.

@mudokonslig9205 Місяць тому

@19:00 the mother said that she made them suffer more '' than they should have". Isn't that ambiguous ? It sounds like she wanted this to happen, which would explain why she ''attracted'' that type of man.

@alisayoung Місяць тому

Mom needs some therapy to emote

@j1947m Місяць тому

Alright......the first mother can't do it.....she can't get real with herself

@BBBGGG9647 Місяць тому

Mum was and is wrong...still detached...the daughter wants really feedings and the mother wont deliver. Somewhere inside she still justifies what she did. To get him back into the home is maddness itself..just madness...what kind of mother would do that...crazy

@jeanag3279 Місяць тому

Exactly!!!

@irenebyrne7809 23 дні тому

Id love to hear an update on these families now.

@virginiasanchis1717 3 дні тому

Narcissists love no one except themselves

@peaches60100 Місяць тому

Passing the potatoes may have been a figure of speech but I get it I wouldn't have passed him nothing her mother was nothing she wasn't about nothing she just wanted that man

@whisperingpines2469 22 дні тому

OMgosh, this is my and my siblings story. So sad.

@teresacox2511 21 день тому

I’m so sorry that happened to you. You did not deserve that. You deserved to be loved and protected and cherished. You deserved the absolute best in life. So if no one else has ever told you this…I’m sorry for what happened to you and you did not deserve it. God bless you and take care. Gentle hugs 🤗

@grazynkatodisco4916 Місяць тому

This woman doesn’t know what love is !!!!

@user-fs3ji1sj4j Місяць тому

Shes discarding her daughters- and saying it to her mother won't matter that's the point

@carolynstewart8465 Місяць тому

How was he allowed to be around children after 6 months?

@bevfrench3496 Місяць тому

easy, that is the system

@Seejaykaygee Місяць тому

Exactly

@stephaniepiazzese2602 25 днів тому

How we wish, all Mothers were what a Mother should be. But they’re not. Anyone can have BABIES. not every woman CAN BE A “ mother “. 😢sometimes we have to walk away,, forgive, but WALK AWay, even from a parent. Toxic parents.

@KathleenBeasom 17 годин тому

In the first mother-daughter case, the mother said that social services told her that she could fix this by allowing the father back home. That was not addressed by Phil or Oprah, but I find it disturbing that the social workers gave her that advice.