Plot twist: Just because you have kids doesn't mean you're qualified to raise them.

Just because someone has loads of kids doesn't mean that they are experts at parenthood.

Bad and good advice can come from anywhere. Parent or not.

adriennes lipgloss was giving me life

Is anyone else surprised at how quiet and well behaved she was 😩😍❤️ #AriahMeltsMyHeart

Who else just stared at Ariah the entire time?

This segment shouldn't exist. People with children also give unwanted advice about how to raise kids

'She is 9 months old she doesn't know what the song says' GIRL I'M 19 AND I CAN'T EVEN UNDERSTAND A WORD LOL

It really depends on what the advice is. I could never give advice on how to stop a baby from crying on the flight to Bahamas because I have no kids. But, I could give some really sound advice on how to help your kid to get through being bullied because I've been bullied before and I know what I needed from my parents at the time.

I see nothing wrong with giving advice as long as it's in a respectful way!

I really want Ariah's headband lol

Being a mom... I'll take advice from anywhere and from anyone with good intentions... It take a village to raise a child so as long as the advise isn't degrading but meant to be helpful, what could it hurt? Some people believe that their way is the only way but children's are different and you have to go through a lot of trials before you are successful.

Tamar doesn't take anyone's advice anyway so it doesn't matter.

I feel like Loni should be a mum

I think theyre being kinda arrogant. Its not about you, its about your kid. Theyre not even talking about whether the advice is GOOD advice or not...just 'Oh! You can't give me advice cuz you're not a parent!' It sounds like theyre concerned about their egos, not whether or not non-parents can give good advice. All it takes to be a parent is to do 'the do' and pop out a kid. ANYONE can do that. Doesn't automatically make you supermom or superdad. Good advice that helps your kid can come from ANYWHERE. The key is to be humble.

Well...I don't have kids and I was on a plane when the air pressure changed making a little girl extremely uncomfortable. I saw the girl crying and just miserable. I told her parents that if they allow her to chew gum, giving her a piece will lessen the pressure. They gave the girl a piece and it worked....according to this notion I should've had a piping hot mug of stfu ☕ and let the child suffer.

Forget the Non-parents I can't stand those new moms that think they know everything & can advise other moms. I read some articles on it and have seen it too. Like girl you just became a mom, chill.

Hmmm when Tamar was talking all I could think about is her and towanda arguing and Tamar said " I ain't got to be a parent to understand!" Lol

Loni not listening to y'all she in her own world with Ariah. 😀😁😂😃😄😅😆😉😊😋☺🙂😚😍

We need to discuss Adrienne's tan! Stunning!!!

I don't agree. There are plenty people who are not parents that can give great advice. Just don't be forceful with it and only give the advice when asked.

I'm so tired of this notion that all because someone put a ring on your finger or some sperm in your belly, suddenly you have instant superpowers that a mere single, childless mortal does not. It's been proven countless times that becoming a parent or getting married does not bless you with any more wisdom than you had before. There's bad parenting and bad marriages happening all over because people don't want to listen to someone's observations. Unsolicited advice may be annoying as hell, but at the end of the day, good advice is good advice, regardless of who it comes from. Since we quoting Bibles to make lame jokes about twerking, I'll quote Proverbs 12:15: "The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But a wise man is he who listens to counsel." Just like bad advice from a parent/married person doesn't make it any less bad advice, good advice from a non-parent/single person doesn't make it any less good advice. It's the ego that's getting in the way.

I am a pre school teacher of 14 2-year-olds. I don't have any children of my own, but when I step into my classroom my maternal instincts immediately turn on. The parents ALWAYS ask me for parenting advice, and compliment me on how good some things work. Just because you don't have kids don't mean you can't give parenting advice. You have parents out here that can't even parent their child properly. What about Moms who adopt/foster? Most women have very strong maternal instincts by the age of 16.

Single people are just as capable of seeing parenting flaws and patterns of bad behavior in your child as other parents. You don't need a child of your own to see that mommy's negative attitude is rubbing off on her kid or that daddy's doting and lack of discipline is turning his daughter into a selfish brat. Parents don't want to hear it from singles, because "they don't know how hard it is", but that has nothing to do with whether or not the advice is good. People just need to let go of their ego, their pride, and their insecurities that they have a child but can't figure it out. Good advice can come from anyone (and so can bad advice).

I may be wrong but I feel like people without kids can give a different perspective on certain things because once you're a parent you only think about your child's comfort + the child's needs and both of those things sometimes don't go together. So I think people should listen to any kind of advice and not block them out just because they don't have kids themselves. People need to realize that there are tons of people that would be great parents but just made the conscious decision not to have any and thousands of people who don't even deserve to be parents but have children.

Tamar is doing the most. She had the most to say about every one of her sisters family on BFV before she had Logan. But she got that amnesia now.

that's not true you can give parental advice if you don't have kids , women have a maternal instinct , that's like saying , a single teacher can't teach your child only teachers that have children can teach your child. I will say also just because you produce children it doesn't necessarily make you parent. In closing advice unsolicited or not you can either take it or leave nothing to get offended about.

I respectfully disagree with this. I have an aunt who is super cool and she has two sons. I am only a couple of years older than my cousins but I used to babysit them all the time. My mom was very strict with me, but always reassured that she would be there for me when I needed her. She would literally whoop my ass if I say anything disrespectful to anyone elder than I am. My aunt used to spoil her kids a lot when they were younger and one day my cousin brother literally abused our grandmother once and threw food at her. I stepped in and scolded him very badly. He threw a tantrum and he threw my things off the third floor that day. I tried so hard not to loose my patience with him and later I just had a talk with him and asked him what was bothering him. He opened up to me and he said some of the things that was bothering him in school and how his mother was never around for him. Ever since then, we have been having some great talks whenever we meet (Which is almost every weekend). Somehow, I feel like all teenagers need is validation for what they are feeling. You can't help the way you feel. All you need to do is tell them it is alright, they just need to make the right choices at the end of the day. To this day, he calls me up if he is in trouble, if he needs anything at all. I never gave my aunt any advice, and I also feel a little bad about saying this, but I did parent my younger brother, a little more than she did. I just wish I had spoken to her about it, because I know that my aunt is a nice person with very little time for her family. I feel bad every time he talks badly about her. You don't have to be a parent or even be of certain age to give advice. I think, those who know you and your kid well can give you some insight, as to why your kid is behaving a certain way.

completely disagree. every parent doesn't have common sense.

They were contradicting themselves in this clip. They don't want advice from kidless but complimented Loni's advice. So which is it? Also, if parents don't want advice from those without kids, here's an idea guys: STOP COMPLAINING TO US ABOUT YOUR KIDS! We are not mute. If you don't want to hear what we gotta say, Get out our ear. Emkay?

the idea that having kids makes you somehow above accepting advice from people without kids is insane. being real for a second, popping a baby out does not instantly bestow this divine ability to raise a child. some people are good at it, and some people are bad at it. most of the time it's trial and error, but sometimes people just get something right first try. anyone, parent or not, can get lucky with a strategy/technique. good advice is good advice regardless of who it comes from. good parents would show the wisdom to recognize what is good and bad advice, regardless of the source, and make their decisions based on that. bad parents would turn down advice right off the bat based on some belief that you have to be a veteran to win a battle

As a person with no children, I don't run around advising people how to care for their children. I do hold a masters degree in which I am educated about child development. I had a situation where one of my siblings made a smart ass comment asking me, "how many kids have you raised?" The subject was child development & I simply stated what my nephew was doing was normal. Well, after that smart ass comment, I politely reminded my sibling not to call me when they need someone to watch their kids. I suggest, considering the source & the advice that is being given because there are people who have had kids but, they may be horrible parents, not have custody of their kids or don't see their children to parent them.

But didn't Tamar blatantly ignore Tamera's advice about Logan? Hmm.

I agree with the unsolicited advice part because I feel like Tamar & Tamera are moreso talking about people on instagram vs real life situations. Just because you don't have kids does not mean you don't know a thing or two about them. I'm 18 & I've been around kids my entire life. My friend is 24 and just had a daughter who seemed to have developmental delays. Because I've been around kids and she showed all the symptoms I advised her to go to a doctor and see if her daughter has autism. Turned out that she did. You don't have to be a mom to know it all about children SMH. I agree w/ Adrienne, If you're close to them they're more likely to hear you out.

4:23 My husband had one the BIGGEST arguments with HIS mother on something we were doing to discipline our children. Point. Blank. Period. He told her he respected her opinion but he didn't ask for her ADVICE!!!! Yas honey. She was lit. oh well. He went and got the dictionary (mom and sister were teachers) and read her the definition of ADVICE. He told her that hers was UNSOLICITED. #boom #myHusbanddidit

If you don't want unsolicited advice from non-parents, then do your job and teach them how to act in front of people. That way, nobody will have to tell you anything or discipline them for you. Being a parent doesn't mean you know it all. Most of the time, people mean well.

I love yall but i can't with this topic, because there are a lot of immature parents out here that need more than advice to raise their kids rather or not they are non parents. I have a mouthful to say about this topic smh

its funny because tamar used to give unsolicited advice to her sisters all the time about their kids and their marriages.

Tamar, I really wanted to hear Adrienne finish her thought, not YOUR unsolicited advice. Sheesh!

Single people seem to always get the short end of the stick! And so many folks who are engaged/married with kids seem to forget when they were single themselves. It's always this "you just can't understand" type of thing every time they discuss some aspect of their lives. And they are notorious for dropping single "friends" from their inner circle, just like that. So I just avoid having these type of people in my personal space unless it's certain family members who are quite unique in this regard.

Same ppl who don't want advice are those same "It takes a village " ass ppl when they need help 🙄 but ok

I'm the oldest of a family of 6. I've basically helped raised my siblings as if they were my own. I don't necessarily think just because I don't have kids of my own, doesn't mean my parenting advice won't be as consistent as advice from someone who does. Only difference is, they didn't come out of my body.

I think that it's all about knowledge and experience. Anyone can have children. I've seen some of the most unfit people give birth to children and they don't know what the heck they're doing. As well as I've seen people who don't have children give good parenting advice. Lets be real, if those who have children know what they're doing opposed to those who don't have children, then we wouldn't have so many children raised in foster care and/or abused at home. Just because someone doesn't have children doesn't mean they know or don't know what they're talking about. It really depends on the person.

I was a teacher for awhile of all ages and I may not have children but I can tell you this that most parents are not even doing there job as a parent. The reason why I quite teaching is because Now and days they just take away their phone and that's it, no discipline or anything. The problem with parents is that they think their child is so perfect and doesn't do anything. I feel like people forget what they did and what other friends did when they were young so they don't even parent at all. the only things that change when you finally have a kid is 1) now you and / or your lover are no longer important, your child is important, they come first. 2) you have something to care about/ love more than yourself 3) no more parties and spending money on useless things.

Ariah is the real star. If it wasn't for the camera panning on the other girls, my eyes would be on her the whole time. Lol.

I think it's because not everyone has been a parent but everyone has been a child so they've experienced that bond one way or another and they're just putting their two cents in probably from a perspective of when they were a children

I don't have kids, but I sure do deal with a child everyday. You don't have to be a parent to give parental advice. If you have brother and sister you deal with them every single day just like the parent does. So you know what to do most of the time because you're around your siblbings everyday. I ain't tryna hear that.

Once I was in a park and these (I'm guessing childless) people came up to me to tell me my kids over there were acting up and giving me advice on how to raise them. I don't have any kids. They definitely weren't mine. That's when I figured out that a lot of people give advice because they have a superiority complex, not because they're trying to "help."

Tamera and Tamar act like they are the perfect parents....You should be willing to accept advice from people if it is constructive... I dont have kids but ive seen some people close to me dealing with their kids in a poor manor and the child becomes spoilt and rebelious. So are you suppose to just sit and watch parents make a mistake ??

Tamar's attitude is coming from the things ppl have said about her in regards to Logan on instagram or other social media probably. Same w. Tamera. Even though their advice is unsolicited, how do you know those ppl are not parents?

What most people forget is that we were all children and we can have an opinion on what would be ideal. In addition, many people were born into caregiving for their siblings. So those of us who have had that experience can offer great advice when asked.

Tamera: “I didn’t ask for your advice” 🤣🤣

Ariah is so cute there with her toys. 😍😍😍

I don't have any children, but I have 4 nieces and 3 nephews and I worked in daycare for over a decade and now I work as a special education TA. I'm not ever one to judge, but if someone posts to Facebook or something and they seem frustrated or they're asking for advice, I will share the knowledge I have. I've learned a LOT about kids being around them for so long. And I always preface anything I say with "I'm not a parent and I know that kids often behave different for mom and dad then they do for aunties, teachers, etc but these are a few tricks I've learned over the years. Maybe it'll help?"

I disagree. I don't have children but if my friend or sister's kid was a spoiled brat I would give them my two cents. I'm not going to sit back and shut up if your child was acting a fool. I'm going to tell the parent to discipline their child. It's just like when I see parents give their children iPads and iPhones, I criticize it because I believe technology at that age is detrimental to their development. But hey, I wouldn't force any parent to take my advice, I'm just speaking on my opinion. It's also ignorant to reject anyone's parenting advice especially if it is beneficial. In fact, studies have shown that people with lower IQ's tend to be the ones who have children while the educated ones don't have children. **"I'M NOT SAYING ONLY STUPID AND UNFIT PEOPLE HAVE KIDS! I'm just saying people who shouldn't have kids are having kids and majority of them get defensive whenever a childless friend or family member tries giving them advice. What Jeannie mentioned is quite true. When you aren't a parent yet, you can learn a lot how others raise their children. It's almost like being on the outside looking in. All in all, I don't think it's right to rule out everyone's advice whether they have kids or not.

Good advice can come from anywhere and bad advice can come from anywhere. It doesn't hurt to keep your ears open and take some things as a light suggestion. Nobody's holding a gun to your head.

"I don't have to have kids to understand" - Tamar vs Towanda 😂😂😂

Lmao I'm so fascinated by Ariah. My eyes are glued to her xD

Tamar and Tamera really get on my nerves when they say non parents can't give them advice about their kids etc... I do recall Tia offering Tam Tam parental advice when it came to Aden and Tamera completely dismissed her... So trust, it's more of an EGO thing as opposed to a "you're not a parent, so you wouldn't understand" issue....

She is such a calm baby. every time I see her, she is so calm and joyful. beautiful baby

I hate when they quote bible verses and make fun of the actual meaning ..... 😑

Adrienne looks truly beautiful, as always.

I rarely comment on videos, but I gotta call out Tamar, who just recently became a mom, giving her sisters (who have all been moms longer) her opinion on motherhood. It's 100% possible that she's learned better now that she has a kid, but she definitely was childless and giving advice/making comments.

Tamera is aging so beautifully!! Just wow

Adrienne looked red carpet BAWM! I loved the hair.

I love that when Ariah grows up she'll watch this video and see 1) that she was a co-host on such an amazingggg show ❤ haha and 2) she'll see what a hard working and inspiring mother she has. 💛 3) that she's the cutest baby that ever existed 😩

I've been a preschool teacher for over 12 years and it was not until maybe the last 5 Years that I have been in a place of "sharing ideas" with parents of my students. Then, it turned around and parents would often ask me for advice. Now, I still teach here and there but most of my time is spent working with families and "sharing ideas" that are specific to their family and the needs of their children. A big part of that is the fact that the parents came to ME in the first place. Then I know that I am not overstepping or out of bounds. But sometimes I see things and I have experience with what could really help that child and the family but if the parent does not want any advice they're not going to implement the ideas anyway so there's no need to share it.

I raised my much younger sister when our mom died and I didn’t even look at myself as a parent figure , was just doing things that seemed like common sense. Now I can not name a person that I know who I respect and admire more than her because of what an incredible person she is. And can’t even describe how it felt when she set me down , thanked me and said that she is grateful that I raised her. I don’t ever want children and I don’t care much about them , so I won’t go around giving advice , especially if nobody asked me , but when I see some of those brats that don’t know how to behave , I am sorry , but I’m silently judging their parents 🤷‍♀️.

1:12-1:14.....Ariah's toy keys must have been *seasoned to perfection!* lmao

I agree that people should not give unsolicited advice to people they don't know, especially when the child is not in danger or being hurt. But I disagree that you can't advice people if you don't have children. People CAN have knowledge and experience with somethings without having a child. They're many pediatric doctors who give sound advice and don't have children.

I think this segment should have been called "Unsolicited advice". Because I believe most of the problems come when a stranger and in their cases fans and followers make assumptions about their lives and comment and give advice about their children and lives! Like seriously in real life would you really go up to a stranger and tell them about their kid?? And guess what nobody asked you!!

I think people shouldn't give advice to moms period unless they ask for it

Its so hard to pay attention to what the ladies are saying with all that cuteness in the middle lol. But i did pick up on when Tamera talked about people critiquing her parenting skills all because Rihanna's song Work was playing while Ariya danced. Lol, she's just a baby and she doesn't even understand. Hell, I didn't even understand what Rih was saying in the song. lol i had to google the lyrics.

Why is Tamar so mean? This was really uncomfortable to watch.

Now that I have my own child, I am truly in the stage of guiding/raising my child and after having a conversation with a couple who doesn't have children, I truly understand what they are talking about now!

Hey girl I think all five of you guys are so great keeps on being funny and making everyone dream come true keep on living your dreams when I was little I watch all the tv show with my sister just keep it up

Some people have that experience though. I have no children but I have lived with/helped raise my nephew since he was born 5 years ago. Though I only give insight when people ask for it but there is still some people out there that know the struggles.

When it comes to UNSOLICITED advice, It doesn't really matter if you have kids or not. No one asked for your opinion on another person's parenting.

It's also good to receive information from the outside looking in. Especially, from people who have dealt with children before, wether they've had kids of their own or not. Plus there are so many people who are NOT good parents, even if they've had multiple children. There's a difference between telling someone what to do, and giving advice about someone else's kids. Advice is a take it or leave it.

I'm a soon to be mom but I grew up watching my brothers & sister. I understand now the changes I'm feeling mentally but I've always had a say when it comes to family's kids because of how we were raised

Tamar used to be the type on BFV to give parenting advice before she had Logan 😂😂😂 I'm glad she grew up. I love her

Can Ariah always be on this show?! lol i love her and shes adorable

I have no kids ,yet I have been a aunt mommy for years . I'm so involved in their world from school , activities, social life . And in my family we all are one of the same ❤️

I'm a nanny so a part of my job is advising parents on what to do in certain situations. However, I only offer advice when their parenting style doesn't work. I'll try their method first, but if it doesn't work I'm not going to continue escalating a situation when a problem could have been solved by doing something else. Just because I'm not a parent doesn't mean I can't relate with other parents and help them when they need it.

It’s been over a year and a half and... I still miss Tamar so much on The Real... I just miss all 5 of them together.

I think it depends on the culture. People from Western Emesphere are so self centered and do not have the sens of community.

I respect advice! my son was throwing a temper tantrum in the mall, I was at my Wit's End and didn't know what to do. An older man came up and said ma'am may ..? he said ...boy you get your butt off the floor and listen to your mother and guess what he did! There's so many tricks that mothers can learn from advice from other mothers that makes our lives a lot easier and lets them actually enjoy their children!

Tamera and especially ADRIENNE looked so *popping* here!!!!! 😍🙌🏾👌🏾👏🏾🔥

I completely disagree. A stranger telling Tamera what music her children should listen to is ridiculous. But if your kid is running around in public acting up/interfering with other people trying to do their business, it is absolutely appropriate for someone to say something to you. Also, just because someone doesn't have children doesn't mean they haven't spent a lot of time with kids. Tons of people without kids work with kids all the time - teachers, pediatricians, babysitters, nannies. People without kids judging you is wrong, but refusing to try someone's advice just because they don't have kids themselves is silly.

This is so ignorant. I know parents who have no business raising children. A lot of young people who are dismissed can have degrees in child development that can give advice to you and your child. That is exactly what is wrong with a lot of adults, especially mothers. Women that have children automatically assume they are born to know how to be a mother and know what is best; that is far from the truth. I am 22 years old, I have a bachelor degree in sociology and child development. I am going to get my masters. I have no children, but I can give advice on how to effectively deal with children of all age groups. Come one now, age has nothing to do with knowledge.

Hi edagdwg thanks for sharing being a friend and giving advice on what to do with your child giving them what they want is not being a good parent because your teaching them I don't have to do anything just ask they do this to everyone in the family and why

Loni !! Your hair is soooo beautiful 😘 good job girl

Whether or not you have kids, we have all been children and have been on the receiving end of parenting. It does give you some perspective.

Ariah is the cutest little thing ever !

You Guys Rick show Rick and God bless make me smile 😊

I don’t have children. I don’t like how some parents will go on and on to you complaining about their kids then when you offer advice they are like shut up what do you know. Well why do I have to listen to you gripe if you don’t value my opinion? Actually sometimes not being part of a situation can make you more objective and give better insight. A lot of people get really defensive if anyone says anything negative about their kids’ bad behavior even when it’s true. One of my friends has a daughter who acts a fool often when she is around but not when it’s just us or her dad. She can’t play us like she plays her mom. I told her mom her problem is she is a pushover but what do I know.

When my child was a toddler. ...I did the whole mirroring cry thing....it works...it teaches them empathy/sympathy. ...and it's easy...funny.

I wished Ariah baby talked threw the hold conversation. So so so cute!

I’ll never understand why celebrities try to handle their own public accounts. Hire someone to make public posts and have a completely private account for your friends and family. This just seems like such unnecessary stress.

Ariah is so chill. No laughing and no crying. She's just content to be shaking that toy