Paris Paloma - Labour (Lyrics)
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For somebody I thought was my saviour
You sure make me do a whole lot of labour
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🎤 Lyrics "Paris Paloma - Labour"
Why are you hanging on
So tight
To the rope that I’m hanging from
Off this island
This was an escape plan
Carefully timed it
So let me go
And dive into the waves below
Who tends the orchards?
Who fixes up the gables
Emotional torture
From the head of your high table
Who fetches the water
From the rocky mountain spring
And walk back down again
To feel you words and their sharp sting
And I’m getting fucking tired
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died, would that be the worst thing?
For somebody I thought was my saviour
You sure make me do a whole lot of labour
The calloused skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ended, would that be a bad thing?
As the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labour
Apologies from my tongue
Never yours
Busy lapping from flowing cup
And stabbing with your fork
I know you’re a smart man
And weaponise
The false incompetence
It’s dominance under guise
If we had a daughter
I’d watch and could not save her
The emotional torture
From the head of your high table
She’d do what you taught her
She’d meet the same cruel fate
So now I’ve gotta run
So I can undo this mistake
At least I’ve gotta try
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died, would that be the worst thing?
For somebody I thought was my saviour
You sure make me do a whole lot of labour
The calloused skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ended, would that be a bad thing?
As the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labour
All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid
Nymph then virgin, nurse and a servant
Just an appendage, live to attend him
So that he never lifts a finger
24/7 baby machine
So he can live out his picket fence dreams
It’s not an act of love if you make her
You make me do too much labour
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@thevibeguide Рік тому
Where are you listening from? 🌎🌍🌏
@vanderschyffveronica2004 Рік тому
South Africa
@ddelixatw Рік тому
italyy
@MahaLakshmi-wn1fy Рік тому
singapore
@ESMagicalChannel Рік тому
_Brazil!_ 🙋♀️🇧🇷
@thedeeprot Рік тому
UK
@Bryna.. Рік тому
The best part of this song it starts so soft but as it goes on, you hear the anger come out. The line about saving the daughter is haunting
@katienielsen7715 Рік тому
I bawled my eyes out while staring at my daughter watching her sleep while listening to that line.
@danigodbout3306 Рік тому
This is going to sound bad but im glad i had a miscarriage when i was with my abusive ex because if it was a girl, i wouldn't want her to go through what i did.
@leahholaway9872 Рік тому
I think it starts soft because we usually try telling the problem before we escalate.
@randomheadful7190 Рік тому
I saved my daughter hopefully before it was too late. He was a monster and didn’t deserve her precious soul in his life.
@itiswhatitis1883 Рік тому
Female rage at its finest
@mahganwilson3543 Рік тому
"false incompetence is dominance under guise" "it's not an act of love if you make her" some of the best written song lyrics I've ever heard. Powerful.
@saladcaesar7716 Рік тому
Sadly, weaponize incompetence is a thing. 😔
@spectre9340 Рік тому
I agree. Lots of women want to be doting housewives that do traditional housewife work. But if it's """expected""" then it's not exactly consensual on their part.
@tauraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Рік тому
I know!!!! This song is so beautifully written with such powerful lyrics
@nothuman3083 Рік тому
Be me incompent man, be also me carrying girlfriend when she got to sick to walk and made her soup. I am dumb but my heart and back are strong. And all the others things around the house so she didn't worry.
@honinakecheta601 11 місяців тому
My dad would always do that: pretend he didn't know how to do something around the house in order to get my mom to do it, or pretend not to understand how his behavior could be perceived as insulting in order to not take accountability for what he did. The best decision my mom made was kicking him out, it was like a heavy shadow left our house and we were happier. We could talk, joke and laugh whiteout having to worry about him ruining our happiness
@randomheadful7190 Рік тому
I’m older and divorced from an abusive man. I’m so appreciative of this generation of women for taking this on. Keep fighting. It’s the fight for your life!
@katienielsen7715 Рік тому
I'm sending you lots of healing, but most of all, love and light. ✨️💛✨️
@Lulu-ju9ye Рік тому
We all fight this fight. We all fight.
@bizarrebunny5579 Рік тому
We fight each other’s fight together hand in hand
@Lulu-ju9ye Рік тому
@@bizarrebunny5579 We are one and we are all.
@sparkyFNaF Рік тому
@@katienielsen7715 ❤
@Lovely_129 Рік тому
The fact that you can hear the children in the background singing with her makes it so much more emotional and sad.
@adit_eeee 7 місяців тому
Yes 🧿💔
@CrankItLikeAZombie Рік тому
For me the most powerful line is “it’s not an act of love if you make her” gives me chills
@KHBogWitch Рік тому
Same here…it sets out the relationship dynamic so perfectly. Image (it’s an act of love) vs. reality (not if you make her).
@catso7236 10 місяців тому
I agree!
@leavemealone853 5 місяців тому
Typically women being allergic to any self responsibility and hard work. The world would fall apart without men. The world would be fine without women!
@GerbestOfNerbs Місяць тому
@@leavemealone853Work as in careers and what not is not what this song or comment is about. It’s about work in a relationship/family. It’s about love, though I’m guessing people like you wouldn’t know much about that. And the world would not be fine without women, because the species would die out. Sometimes you misogynists go so far to hate women you completely forget simple knowledge, it’s hilarious.
@ItsLana-snape Місяць тому
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@nopetheworld977 Рік тому
this is my feminine rage song. i’ve grown up watching my mother carry our family on her back. my dad did work, he did. and im grateful for him. but my mom worked too- and then came home to take care of the house, the kids, the food, the laundry, the cleaning. i dont know how she did it for so long. for years. im so glad im an adult now so she can finally take a break and i can take care of her. the rage in me is against society, and myself who realized later than i should have and was brainwashed to thinking that this was normal, a given. it shouldnt be. ladies, women, girls- *it shouldnt be.*
@kittydream_4717 Рік тому
Exactly!
@blinkeuisaswiftie8397 Рік тому
That brainwashed part was so true, i was so convinced that it was normal but *it shouldn't be*
@livvy.doodle Рік тому
@@blinkeuisaswiftie8397 i feel you I was convinced that housework and cooking was a woman's job but it is equal work
@shotoxx7608 Рік тому
Let's talk about it, please allow me to add my two cents in this conversation. Maybe something to think about. First of all, I'm grateful that your emotional maturity doesn't release in a form of hatred towards your dad, but rather it releases as a form of compassion and sympathy for your mom that she wholeheartedly deserves. But maybe consider this: What if that was the life she wanted? And her reward is simply her children's acknowledgement, which may I assume she got plenty of. That's the ultimate "trophy". She did a little extra, and therefore you love her a little extra. Many people's love language is act of service. Furthermore, what you are describing as "an ideal relationship" is nothing more than co-dependency which on paper seems reasonable but in practice it's sickening & miserable. Love isn't about equality, love has nothing to do with the way chores are divided. and once you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, trust me you don't have time to spend thinking about how many days in a row you had to make dinner. If you are complaining about chores being divided unequally, you are not in love. It doesn't matter who takes the trash out, or does the dishes. All of them could be done by one person. What matters is whether healthy foundations for the relationship is set. Imagine you dad complaining about him doing "100% of the plumbing, 100% of law mawning and most of the driving on family trips" since he moved in with your mother. When was the last time your father received a little gift of appreciation? Such as a bracelet, a mug or even flowers(yeah)? When was the last time he had the whole check covered by your mother(or you, if you are employed) in a restaurant? Did you guys celebrate father's day last year if so what have you planned for this year? The last time you kissed or hugged him? Asked for his advice or listened to what he had to say? In my opinion once you move past the feminine rage, that is based on trivia things you'll be able to love and be loved.
@cielonehellofaservicedog4648 Рік тому
@@shotoxx7608 it wasn't the life she wanted...did u read they said their mother worked just like the father during the day, but when they got home she was EXPECTED to do the housework and rearing, that is a reality bashed into little girls minds since the time they can even pick up a baby doll. It isn't a want when u are brainwashed into thinking it is an expectation, yet it is ruining ur health, rest, and sleep when the other person in the relationship is working in the main market equally, but refuses to do so in the private market of the household. And it is indeed LOVE when ur partner, who is male, in a cis hetero relationship, shows he is responsible for household and children. Some of us have icks, that we hate, so it is also healthy and LOVE to have communication and to be able to divide up chores equitably, equality can be felt when partners have equity in the work that needs to be done to be in such a relationship with kids. You admit service is a love language, then in the same breath claim it isn't love. You are so confused, maybe u are just a child who lacks life experience, but JFC at least notice when u contradict urself. And the final paragraph is just showing ur misogynistic and sexist view of the world. Men get cards, they get father's day, they get father Christmas presents, they have their kids ask what to do (if they as a father are actually emotionally intelligent enough not to be a toxic masc man who cuts his own kids from him cause he shows aggression or oppression of "soft" emotions, like so many do), etc. He gets kisses when he gets home, haven't u ever heard of the line "Honey welcome home! 👩❤️💋👨😘", before? Your questions at the end is clear u don't even understand history nor gender roles pressed onto us all, particularly from Christian trad gender roles. Asking "what about him" is whataboutism and it is just a distraction and pick me behavior. Do better
@melb4250 25 днів тому
Dear dad, this one’s for you. Mom worked her fingers to the bone till death and you never appreciated her. Rest in heaven mom, you deserved the world.
@Laurasophie236 3 дні тому
I‘m sorry for your loss, I hope you’re alright 💕
@christymckeown2650 Рік тому
My divorce from an abusive 15 year marraige was finalized the SAME day this song was released!!! Felt so seen and validated and POWERFUL! My 12 year old daughter listened too. She looked me dead in the eyes and said; "Don't worry momma, I'm gonna be a alright" Sending infinite amounts of love to all the women/mommas breaking free and finding their power.
@Winter_Rose_ Рік тому
And your daughter will be alright. Because the women of this generation will not see the next one end in the same way the last did. We'll make sure this generation is heard and seen. Keep fighting! You are validated and seen. We know of the pain, and we won't see our children raised the same!
@whitneysmith9078 Рік тому
My God I needed this comment. I'm leaving my abusive husband. I'm looking for a divorce lawyer so I can keep my two year old son from my husband's abuse.
@Winter_Rose_ Рік тому
@@whitneysmith9078 I'm barely about to finish high school but I am wishing you the greatest strength. You are beautiful and strong! Your son is lucky to have such a strong woman in his life!
@faristasairuv5143 11 місяців тому
Amen, congratulations. I wish you and your daughter infinite healing from that bastard.
@catso7236 10 місяців тому
Awwww this song is for you, and your daughter!❤
@CosmicHannie Рік тому
This song makes me cry for my mother, grandmother, sisters, myself, and all women who relate to this. For my family, it was my father who was mentally and physically abusive. I thank God that we no longer have him in our life, after so many hard years of fighting and enduring his cruelty. I am also thankful that this powerful song was released
@ladymire 4 місяці тому
I wish this were my case. Unfortunately, my mom is still with my emotionally abusive father. I can’t help but love him, but I hate the way he treats my momma.
@PercyLanham 2 місяці тому
Why tf do I relate to this comment so much? Still looking for that son of a you-know-what who hurt my mother all those years ago and abused my sister.
@leahchanadycampbell8255 Рік тому
To all the little girls, that watched their mothers, and sisters and self get emotionally physically and verbally beaten. That little girl wants to let you know you are so strong. And you are safe now. Hug your self a little tighter today
@Indomitable_Alykat Рік тому
Needed this 🥺
@catso7236 10 місяців тому
Aww thank you. This comment put me in tears!😢❤
@ihavenoideawhatimdoinghere6285 10 місяців тому
The little girl inside me says thank you
@chuuchuuutrain 10 місяців тому
guys get abused too
@Indomitable_Alykat 10 місяців тому
@@chuuchuuutrain No shit, Sherlock. Water is wet. 💁🏻♀️
@louiset2218 Рік тому
It’s ridiculous the shivers and tears this song brings. I think every woman can feel this song to their bones whether it be for themselves, mothers, sisters, aunts anything
@chuuchuuutrain 10 місяців тому
I don't feel it that way wdym
@leavemealone853 5 місяців тому
🤣🤣🤣 enjoy your house full of 50 cats keep crying you baby!
@siouxzqz1 Місяць тому
I do--I do feel it in my bones. I heard a shortened clip and immediately came here to find the whole song. It echoes so many stories, old and new that you read about women. And I grew up with a kind father who did a lot of the housework and I'm lucky to have a good husband who does more than his fair share (because I've fallen ill) but I also know many women who don't have this and it gives me the chills. So many women are abandoned when they become sick, I consider myself very lucky. This is a song about most women throughout all of time. I sent a link to my daughter because even if she doesn't experience many of the lyrics in this song herself it's important to recognize it's pretty much a universal condition 🥺
@danigodbout3306 Рік тому
Please tell me im not the only one who can close my eyes and start crying because i started realizing that one relationship was so abusive and this song was the thing that brought it to light.
@essimathews9056 Рік тому
It's horrendous how much this kind of abuse is normalized. There are so many posts about how hard women work with the caption "Women are amazing!". We are, but we shouldn't have to be.
@tastelesscourage7296 Рік тому
Yep I stayed 3 years too long I was his slave in basically every way and he would ask his mum " shouldn't the one at home do the cleaning and cooking" we both were with jobs at the time but she agreed and he used that agreement to his advantage would also threaten to leave me constantly but when I tried to leave be pinned me to the wall and said no ( more than that went on but that's the gist of his attitude)
@dannieden5049 Рік тому
I've been healing from an abusive relationship too. I sing and cry every line to the version of myself from the past, as I watch each lyric happening in my mind. It feels like I am sending the building defiance and strength to them.
@majesticdreams240 Рік тому
Mostly emotional abuse, but probably because I’ve never lived with him. The amount I’ve sacrificed though is infinite and catering to all his needs… I relate deeply, and yes, I began to tear up listening with my eyes closed
@steph7d 11 місяців тому
Its definitely a light bulb moment
@zerosashes Рік тому
“24/7 baby machine” … “It’s not an act of love if you make her.” Truly powerful and sad.
@athenaheralaufeyson367 Рік тому
This makes me think of my grandma. She was so beautiful and she caught my grandpas eyes and he gave her no choice that she was “his”. Had her first child at 17 and then 8 other pregnancies afterwards, two of which didn’t make it. Abused and made to fend for herself and children while my grandpa drank and only came home to beat her. She survived and my mom talks about to to this day. About how strong she was and how persevering she was. She never gave up. They lived in a house with no running water on the country side of our community. She survived. She has a hard life. Nothing but serving people and a God that paid her no mind. She had the purest heart and lived a life of suffering. She moved onto the next part of her journey almost 3 years ago now. Wherever she is I hope she’s being the bad ass warrior she is. I take peace knowing she’s free from this hell of a world we live in now.
@Psyche1226 Рік тому
if there is any justice in the hereafter she is in valhalla seated at the head of the table with the mightiest warriors ever born. surviving all of that....
@athenaheralaufeyson367 Рік тому
@@Psyche1226 thank you. You have no idea how much your comforting words help. ❤️
@oliwiastanisawska6545 8 місяців тому
I know what you’re talking about. If I only start to think about how much my grandma went through, it doesn’t end. Or my mom. Women in my family are warriors. I don’t want to and don’t have to repeat the same cycle. Time to break it.
@RawOlympia 8 місяців тому
Knew a lady who's mom escaped horrible abuse, she was Canadian and caught a plane to Hawaii but had no money. Pearl Harbor happened a week after she got there! They needed help and she strapped the baby to her back and tended to soldiers and she ended up becoming a beloved doctor in Honolulu. She lived to almost 100. I met her a few times and she was a hero to me, she just ran away and her life opened in the most awesome way!!! I feel sickened for all suffering abuse.
@kimberlyvaughn6870 Рік тому
I'm here before this becomes an athem for a generation.
@Swiftie_130 Рік тому
Me too
@liztellez5375 Рік тому
Same
@The_Satanic_cat Рік тому
Me too
@mizzy2813 Рік тому
It already is lol 😂
@michellelovesanberli Рік тому
Gen x and YES
@taylaa-leelanigan Рік тому
I pray women worldwide use this to stand their ground and finally show men we are not objects we are human beings
@cielonehellofaservicedog4648 Рік тому
In the USA we needed this song...the attack on women and LGBTQAI+ rights show this fight is not close to over.
@ritvikaneesh5980 Рік тому
@@cielonehellofaservicedog4648 facts
@fionawaymire3198 11 місяців тому
@@cielonehellofaservicedog4648 it’s not a right to abort your baby or transition children’s genitals
@chuuchuuutrain 10 місяців тому
@@cielonehellofaservicedog4648women have rights in the USA what r u talking about
@preachingsarcasm2213 10 місяців тому
@@chuuchuuutrain abortion rights were taken away.
@taigaleto890 Рік тому
using this as my personal case study in media for my sociology coursework. this is a masterpiece and I absolutely adore it
@borrow4654 Рік тому
What's your coursework about?
@taigaleto890 Рік тому
@@borrow4654 media's effects on society and it's functions
@MaggieRosethe6ix Рік тому
After 26 years of an abusive marriage I’m free. ❤started drinking at 43 when I left. Didn’t take me long to become an alcoholic. I’m 4 years sober and still single. Ten years now. I’m truly truly free at 52
@JustyMe Рік тому
Similar age to my mother, also single now and so so happy. I'm crying happy tears for you ❤
@sweetlikemilkAMSR Рік тому
Powerwoman ❤
@DarthFurie 11 місяців тому
Congratulations on your sobriety and your freedom! May love and light lead the way for you
@Momma_birb 11 місяців тому
I’m so glad your free
@Cecilpedia 11 місяців тому
I am so proud of you. You deserve so much better than what happened to you. I hope your life continues to improve
@Regrettable-Username Рік тому
"Apologies from my tongue, but never yours" I'd missed that line, but boy is it massive! We're raised to apologize for everything, even things that aren't our fault, and just accept when other people act like them disrespecting us isn't a big deal. We're being dramatic. It's in the past. Etc.
@ShilohSmith 9 місяців тому
“If we had a daughter? I’d watch and could not save her” makes me want to violently vomit. Far TOO relatable.
@essimathews9056 Рік тому
I am so proud of the men in my life for listening to me when I point out that I'm always the one who cleans up after company, the one who makes the tea, and that I have to wrap my whole schedule around baking the bread they finish eating in one day. They've been making a lot of progress, simplifying plans and doing more to help so the division of labor is more even. I have also made progress in realizing that it's not my sole duty to cater to everyone around me. But it takes a lot of conversations and work to subvert the social programming that has been there for hundreds of years. Progress is possible though.
@yeos_angel_ Рік тому
don't be proud. it's the bare minimum
@essimathews9056 Рік тому
@@yeos_angel_ Programming is hard to break. I don't expect them to be perfect, and I don't expect them to read my mind. They care a lot about me and just as often ask if they can help just out of courtesy. I'm just as proud of all my gals who stand up for themselves after being in the role of care for too long. I can be proud of men for putting in the work and growing. Plus I find it more useful to phrase my response to this as "I appreciate your progress" rather than "Finally, the bare minimum."
@blinkeuisaswiftie8397 Рік тому
@@yeos_angel_ their reason to be proud is valid tho, they aren't saying someone like "I'm proud of my husband for being a babysitter for his own baby, for doing his laundry and dishes" but i understand that it really is annoying when some people gets proud of men for doing the normal, unusual thing.
@yeos_angel_ Рік тому
@@essimathews9056 programming to ignore you? You're happy that they finally see you as a person?
@essimathews9056 Рік тому
@@yeos_angel_ Let's put it this way. One can be proud of someone for their progress in becoming physically healthier when they were unhealthy before without disagreeing with the fact that they probably shouldn't have had unhealthy habits in the first place. I feel like it's just the same in this case. I don't think they were outright ignoring me, more like I had been encouraged to take on traditional responsibilities while growing up without question or complaint, and they were encouraged to see that as the norm, and for lack of contradiction, thought my contribution was wholly voluntary, and not simply what I had been taught was my responsibility. When they saw I was overwhelmed they would help even before we decided to focus on these things, but now we are communicating to avoid me getting overwhelmed in the first place. I am proud of them for having perfect intentions, if not perfect understanding. I don't feel abused or like they consider me less than a person in general. In fact I think my guy friends and fiancé have actually encouraged me to speak up for myself more than my family did.
@Just_Steph. Рік тому
There will not be a single woman who hears this song and feels it in their bones
@taylaa-leelanigan Рік тому
It's such a powerful song and is going to touch every woman in such a powerful way x
@sebastiantails1937 Рік тому
No, but we feel it for our mothers.
@queerantine69 Рік тому
The wording you've used is confusing
@enterthefreak3491 Рік тому
@@queerantine69 they mean that the song reminds them of their mother instead of their own experience
@queerantine69 Рік тому
@@enterthefreak3491 oh thank you
@Ruler_of_theUniverse 9 місяців тому
“It’s not an act of love if you make her” is such an incredibly powerful line, especially in a song like this.
@anayaweick7964 10 місяців тому
"Often father and daughter look down on mother (woman) together. They exchange meaningful glances when she misses a point. They agree that she is not bright as they are, cannot reason as they do. This collusion does not save the daughter from the mother’s fate." The artist makes a lot of references to this quote in probably my favorite way. The quote addresses the way the daughter will feel, but her song addresses how the mother is bright enough to realize what is happening and yet she still cannot save her daughter.
@sleepyowl2284 Рік тому
Even as a man, I feel the power of this song, can only imagine how you gals feel about it. Stay strong everyone and find yourselves a lover and a partner, not a slave-owner!
@mammon_is_god Рік тому
If you're a man and you don't love this song, it's probably because it hits too close to home.
@blacksheep9144 11 місяців тому
@TheOncelersTruffulaTree 11 місяців тому
You, sir, are a good man. I applaud you.
@scarlett_dust1829 11 місяців тому
you dropped this 👑
@kimberlee440 11 місяців тому
👏 👏 👏
@chezsrandombs Рік тому
The younger female voices echoing through the background showing the generations dealing with the man's actions was so well done!
@buttercup9133 Рік тому
Raising a daughter and a son right now. They are young, and I’m so glad they both are growing up In a generation where their mother Isn’t brainwashed like mine was
@samanthajordan7745 Рік тому
I do have a daughter which is why I ran. This song hits soooo hard. Thank u ❤😊
@randomheadful7190 Рік тому
Same, girl, same. All the love to you and your daughter.
@italias861 Рік тому
This song makes me angry for all the women I never knew.
@ettaetta439 Рік тому
If you get to know me and my mom, you could be angry for us lol. And for my brothers too, they were harmed in different ways.
@italias861 Рік тому
@@ettaetta439 I’m so sorry you and your family went through harm. My family and myself did as well. I’m so tired man. But this song makes me angry and gives me hope.
@ettaetta439 Рік тому
@@italias861 it's such a contradicting feeling to be helpless but at the same time feel empowered.
@willowwilliams498 Рік тому
Good you need to be, everybody has to or nothing will change.
@chloemayne6865 Рік тому
You don’t know them, but the generations of women who came before you are still a part of you. Your mitochondrial DNA can only be passed down from the mother, so you’ll always carry a piece of those women with you
@melissaCgreenwood Рік тому
My mother, at the age of five, taught me that I can't cry or show weakness because men will take everything from you and leave with less than NOTHING.
@melissaCgreenwood Рік тому
I learned from her mistakes and I am free today. Rest in peace mother... your sacrifice will never be forgotten
@catso7236 10 місяців тому
@@melissaCgreenwood 🙏✝️
@chuuchuuutrain 10 місяців тому
men don't do that at least not al of them, there's nothing wrong with showing your feelings
@coffeekat5066 9 місяців тому
Jeez, sorry your mother was so toxic.
@matthewbates9629 2 місяці тому
Sorry to say this but men are not allowed to show their emotions ever and it’s why women live longer
@alecrunner7914 10 місяців тому
The evolution of the lyrics are super interesting. She goes from saying “if our love dies, would that be the WORST thing?” to asking “If our love dies, would a bad thing?” She goes from questioning ‘if I leave this relationship, would it kill me?’ to basically stating ‘if I stay in this relationship, he will kill me’ and that realization of the abuse and sexism is so powerful. Stay strong, all or my AFABs and MtFs out there!
@ravenqueer5295 7 місяців тому
hey i know this was not your intention but saying “afabs and mtfs” when you mean women is super dysphoria inducing for both trans men and trans women
@solarchaotica 5 місяців тому
I feel like it does depend on the person. But as someone who is afab, it's easy to pick up fears relating to your sex growing up. I absolutely feel the hell out of this song. Because I saw the situations depicted in this song. The contexts of my feelings changed over the years. But growing up I absolutely felt fear of ending up in these situations. It eventually switched to feeling the fear of being the toxic guy in relationships that I saw so much of growing up once I realized that I don't have to be a woman just because I'm afab (this just wasn't a common concept I even started hearing about fully until my later teen years) But regardless of gender, many afabs do grow up being taught to be responsible for households (this doesn't start as an adult). . And socially this is an experience closely linked to your sex, because this is something that commonly starts being taught well before we have full knowledge of gender as a concept. Like, it being uneven with having girls do housework and help with cooking and looking after younger family members, when this expectation isn't pushed on boys of the same age. I can't and won't try to speak for people at the other end of this, because it's not my place and I don't have their experiences But I feel like this kind of socialization negatively effects everyone involved
@blacktigerpaw1 2 місяці тому
Love how despite all this BS about women's oppression, you still have to include males. Transwomen DO NOT GO THROUGH THIS. They can't even clean their own bedrooms. Do you really think a husband beats them for not sweeping the floors?
@blacktigerpaw1 2 місяці тому
@@ravenqueer5295Transwomen are male. Transmen are men, right? Well then they're part of the patriarchy.
@blacktigerpaw1 2 місяці тому
@@solarchaoticaInteresting you say this and transwoman aren't expected to keep house despite them being 'real women.' Almost as if they just want to be f.ucked as a woman.
@thevibeguide Рік тому
Her voice is otherwordly ❤️
@michellewingard4757 Рік тому
Its hypnotic
@justagalwhocomments Рік тому
@@michellewingard4757 yep
@AceGT117 8 місяців тому
Agreed
@chelseahurd7373 Місяць тому
It has a haunting quality, it delivers the message so beautifully.
@mikeyjoshua1846 Рік тому
An hour after the premiere. You really went out there and put your entire soul into this huh. Amazing.
@L-pq3ki Рік тому
This song is my life! Hope it reaches women everywhere. Cautionary tale and anthem that we’re worth more!
@celticwolf8123 Рік тому
Went viral already on tiktok before full release
@christinapape4817 Рік тому
As a mother of two kids with a man who only works and does nothing when he comes home this hits way too hard..
@s0lstic3 Рік тому
Girlie... He may not be the one for you. Talke to him about trying to help him around the house. If he doesn't change or becomes WORST... LEAVE HIM!
@trusttheprocess5618 Рік тому
If he didn’t work you wouldn’t have shit🤣 bet if he never married you he would be soooo much better off
@JustyMe Рік тому
@@trusttheprocess5618 look who statistically lives longer, married men or single men - spoiler, it's the married men. For women it's the exact opposite.
@epicaunleashed8764 Рік тому
Is he supposed to do anything after working all day? What are you for?
@oanaion4899 Рік тому
@@epicaunleashed8764 do you realize most women work too, right?
@-N-Y-M-P-H-O-L-O-G-Y- Рік тому
This song reminds me of my mom, My mom(B) got married to a guy who I will call R. He was manipulative, he made her think he was a good guy. But he was an Evil and Abusive man. My mother didn't know till I was born. He started showing his true colors, getting angry at the tiniest things. When my brother was born premie that's when it started. My mom was on bed rest throughout my brother's pregnancy. He didn't care he didn't want to deal with her so he forced her into the car and drove her to my grandma's house. I was a quiet but happy child until one day he started yelling at me in my highchair. I wanted to be cleaned I was 3. My mom was feeding my brother. She rushed in front of him and he threw her into a wall and destroyed her shoulder, my grandfather got us out. My mom is my hero!
@kimdelrossi2902 Місяць тому
The “capillaries bursting” is also a double meaning- like she’s so enraged they burst, but also that happens when someone literally strangled someone. How many men have strangled their partners to death?
@HelloAwesome94 Рік тому
I will cheer any woman who escapes this type of relationship. No one should be forced or convicted to have a child. To be a mother to a man and her children. I love this song.
@pilarerika3196 Рік тому
I have no words. You are portraying me with your beautiful voice and words. Beautiful and so terribly true! Thank you for fighting for the rights of women, Paris Paloma :)
@katrinaasmrr 10 місяців тому
Almost married a man who would have expected this from me. He went to work, but was so lazy otherwise. Now I’m with a new man and having his little baby girl - he doesn’t demand me to work if I don’t want to. And understands labour is a partnership, not an expectation from a female. I get chills thinking about the life I could have had if I didn’t walk a few years ago…my intuition knew something wasn’t right. Listen to yourselves. I’m happier, blessed and I feel safe ❤
@thevibeguide Рік тому
One of the best tracks this year!
@justagalwhocomments Рік тому
Yes! And the message is deep too
@catso7236 10 місяців тому
By far!
@novamarrie6397 Рік тому
I absolutely bawled to this song I cried for all the woman before me who had to yo through this. The generational rage thus song gives me is astronomical
@zenith7958 11 місяців тому
The lyrics resonate with women since the dawn of human civilization for centuries
@lollipoplexey650 Рік тому
This hit me harder then I realized, till today. I was thinking of the lyrics and my last relationship. This song is just… spot on
@shadowm2k7 Рік тому
My favourite cop out guys use to get out of household labour is "oh but i work so therefore i don't need to help around the house since im paying all the bills" Okay, but if i wasn't here you would literally still be doing that. You haven't sacrificed ANYTHING. I gave up my body to have your child. I gave up my free time and my love of drawing, acting, dancing, playing videogames, my entire social life and so much more to look after YOUR CHILD and YOUR home. Yeah you work but again YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN DOING THAT ANYWAY!!!! YOU WERE ALREADY DOING THAT BEFORE YOU MET ME. YOU HAVEN'T SACRIFICED AT ALL, THE LEAST YOU COULD DO IS WASH A DISH
@clownetto981 Рік тому
And you're also working
@science1644 5 місяців тому
It always got to me to see my male coworkers getting served and not having to do chores (their wives did everything). I think it's unfair to a woman and her career (and interests) to have to balance both. I feel like you get farther if you have the time. Compared to my male coworkers, they always had way more time because of it.
@wifey09 Рік тому
I always thought it said "less than a servant" and both lyrics means so much when you look back and realize that until now there are still many people who think they own you once you tied the knot
@katienielsen7715 Рік тому
Been waiting for this. The amount of souls she's speaking into, can you feel the fire rising within ladies? 🔥
@roelinkabek9286 Рік тому
The fire is getting huge in all women
@chuuchuuutrain 10 місяців тому
no
@chuuchuuutrain 10 місяців тому
@@roelinkabek9286no
@korok0_086 7 місяців тому
@@chuuchuuutrainwhy are you such a hater bro, get a life.
@Squiggums799 22 дні тому
I am a man who escaped an abusive relationship with a woman. The parallels found in this song are heartbreaking. My heart goes out to everyone escaping an abusive relationship, no matter who they are. Keep on fighting, no matter what.
@sweetdee2957 Рік тому
For me this is the exact conversation we’ve been having on TikTok and I could never find the right words for the frustration I felt before that. This song sums it all up so beautifully
@mikespidle9770 10 місяців тому
This song enrages me in the best way. Spectacular verses combined with that slow, heart pounding build up and a message that rings so terribly true. Absolute chills.
@lunar_wolf6699 6 місяців тому
I was in a 9 month relationship with my abuser. He sexually abused me and he made me do a whole lot of shit and he even wanted me to get pregnant and the line about the daughter really broke me because what if I had a daughter? What would he have done to her? I was 15-16 at the time and I stood my ground towards the end. I’m now 19 going on 20 and I’m a hell of a lot better knowing I don’t have to worry about that anymore. To all of the women out there, you are strong no matter what and I am proud of y’all ❤
@ENIXXTTIME Рік тому
This song just makes me think of my older sisters... their husbands never do anything for them and expect so much from them anyways. One sister never wanted children. Because of her husband she now has 3. She loves her daughters but she never wanted to be a mother. My other sister works full time, takes care of their son all the time whether her husband is home or not. He sits on his phone while she works day in and day out for them. He's cheated on her twice but she stays for her son. This song is amazing and hopefully they'll hear it and realize they deserve better
@birb7353 10 місяців тому
To all the women show have lived through this, you are so damn brave. Fighting back and escaping from an abusive relationship is so, so much harder than people make it out to be. Know if you're still trapped, there are so many women sending you love and strength. You are worth so much more than what you can do for other people. You deserve to be happy, too.
@saikur0n Рік тому
'It's not an act of love if you make her ' , that hit hard
@LunaMarss-ke4mj Рік тому
This was absolutely worth the wait, I heard the teasers and counted down the days 😍 there's so much rage I feel singing this song and In the best way possible
@Chirpy-eo8jq 3 місяці тому
I love the repetition of “if our love died, would that be the worst thing?” “If our love ends, would that be a bad thing?” She may not realize it, but she’s already searching for a way out. She’s fighting against the notion that love is forever and that fantasy of marriage. As the song goes along, it gets worse. She starts to picture her daughter and what she would have to go through, and then after that, the realization that she has to leave. “At least I have to try” I feel like the repetition of the chorus gets more disturbing as the song goes along because the reality and the unfairness of it sets in, and then the bridge happens, where she yells about the injustice of it all And it builds and builds, with more voices joining her, maybe it’s all of her evidence building up, maybe she actually gets outside help to leave, but she can’t ignore it anymore
@SL-fd5fp Рік тому
I feel this song in such a visceral way. My gut wants to scream this song out. I lost years, years to a man like this. RUN AWAY and run screaming from this kimd of life.
@nuriaiglesiastoribio7159 7 місяців тому
My favorite lyrics are "so that he never lifts a finger" bc of this double meaning...
@fatimzahra_q 9 місяців тому
“ITS NOT AN ACT OF LOVE IF U MAKE HER”‼️‼️
@lidijam.5331 Рік тому
this is an absolute art; the lyrics, the music, the message it sends... it made me sad, heartbroken, angry, crying and then screaming and throwing things... ahhhh LOVE IT, LOVE IT, LOVE IT!!!
@thevibeguide Рік тому
It doesn't get better than this.
@catso7236 10 місяців тому
Exactly my thoughts! Best song ever. It’s all you could want in a song!😅
@leavemealone853 5 місяців тому
Lmao yall are so lost in the sauce its amazing you found your way here 🤣 keep living in clown world 🤡
@TheOne_6 2 місяці тому
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@reiayanami6290 Рік тому
I feel like all us women can relate this song to ourselves or our mothers, aunts, grandmothers, sisters, daughters and female friends.
@angelaclark9226 Рік тому
Dammit this hurts. My US History class “teaches” about women as an after thought, if you can even call it that. I needed to get this out. We are erased in history, and our stories are ignored now. I am only in high school and I’m tired of this.
@cielonehellofaservicedog4648 Рік тому
I encourage you to read about the great women of the tribes that were here and still are...what those warrior women did and how our cultures' are gynocentric in nature. Take the Iroquoian Participatory Consistutional Republic, The Great Law of Peace. Our Consistution is where the USA "founding" fathers got their ideas about equal branches of government and others...they left out the feminist parts though.
@rebeccalacroix4629 Рік тому
Right, it sucks that women aren't talked about as much. If you're interested in learning about women in history, I recommend rejected princesses.
@katrinepedersen9660 Рік тому
This song is so powerful, because it rings true in so many people. Not only from abusive homes, but simply from the cultural misalignment of workload. Its about one partner not even thinking about the tasks they always rely on the other to do. My parents were never abusive as I could tell, my father is a decent man. They both worked, yet at home my mother did 70% of the cleaning, 90% of the cooking, 100% of the shopping, laundry, helping me and my brother with homework and dealing with our after school activities. In the last few years my father came home from work, went to watch TV, ate dinner when mother called for him, then went to watch TV the rest of the evening. They divorced after 20 years, and it wasn't a surprise
@ArtsiProductions Рік тому
Balling my eyes out dont mind me
@katienielsen7715 Рік тому
Same ❤❤💔💔
@aubreesdrawings1020 8 місяців тому
See, I was the outcome of a abusive marriage.. my mom left and made sure I knew what my dad did was wrong. As I got older, he started to do the same to me as he did to my mom. At 14, I finally fought back and ended his abuse for good. This song is something I'm gonna introduce to my daughter and teach her what a man is supposed to do and what he shouldn't. I never want my daughter to go through what I did. I do thank my mom for saving herself and myself. She deserves everything in this world.
@agayclownnamedjack 7 місяців тому
We living the same life??
@DylansPen Рік тому
Amazing how a song can carry meaning and a message far better than just saying something out loud.
@HadesAddams-qs1wd 10 місяців тому
As someone who’s escaping from a very abusive household with horrible parents. I relate to this song so much it makes me feel so much emotion.
@Miraculoushero Рік тому
I've been waiting for this to come now that it is out I'm like yay!!!!! My favorite line would have to be, " It's not am act of love if you make her. You make me do too much labor." ❤❤
@jaywitwer7003 Рік тому
I love this line bc it can be interpreted so many different ways. You can see it as in “making love” or how I hear it as in like little “acts of love” like making dinner for your partner. It’s not an act of love if you force her to cook is it? I love this song.
@thevibeguide Рік тому
Finally full version! ❤️
@olive5366 Рік тому
This could not have come at a better time. I broke up with my ex a week ago and this is exactly how I felt
@emilybadman660 Рік тому
This is SO powerful it feels like everything all at once. It makes ME feel powerful
@jinxxgames9885 Рік тому
This is blaring in my house non stop now I love this song
@_Ash_98 Рік тому
I watched the premiere… such a beautiful song.
@AtiredHumanBeing Рік тому
Waited so long for this masterpiece ❤ Was absolutely worth it
@theataylor936 27 днів тому
I have been out of abusive relationship for a few months now and I love this song as it is one of them to the point
@braltimore3995 Рік тому
Once a little old lady told me she was proud of my for going to school because women didn't have the chance when she was my age. She was just a passing stranger. But now I have to make something of myself because it's not about me. It's about all the women before me who have wasted away.
@huntertofilau9195 2 місяці тому
"For somebody i thought was my savoir, you sure make me so a whole lot of labor" i LOVE THAT
@angimercury4531 Рік тому
This song will make history.
@crazy8286 Рік тому
I’m blasting this at all hours now
@osielone1 Рік тому
The final chorus is so catchy, fantastic song 😎👌
@SkyGodHQ 10 місяців тому
Alot of men are pissed off whenever they see women praise this song. These boys never knew what its like being groomed and being told by their parents/society that you are a second class citizen, you have to pretty youself up, the social pressures, the expectations of being everything (pretty, talented, smart, kind and/or sociable) only to have your whole life reduce to being a wife and a mother.
@my_little_crush_on_life5430 Рік тому
It's so sad. I'm only 22 years old but I can relate to this song so hard. This society is fucked up. I can understand my mother a bit more now. Also I am so happy to be not with my ex anymore. I did so much emotional labour and spend money and time with him so so much just to get barley anything in return. ❤ Love goes out to my sisters!
@mamahanjiishere8501 Рік тому
I saw that it got uploaded to Spotify. I hoped on here hoping. Thank you! I'm gonna binge this!
@thirdeyek5155 2 місяці тому
My lovely soul mate, my husband best friend was a true rare breed. He knew my physical and mental ailments were so hard that he did all the house work, so happily, he also blowed dried my hair, cut my toe nails, ingrowns, helped me color my hair, cleaned my car, did my breaks, fixed anything I needed. He was so amazing, kind, caring, soooo selfless, I love him and loved him like I never could think possible I was so in love. Unfortunately he passed away unexpectedly at 46 9.22.23 I’m 31, been together almost 11 years. My whole World shattered when he passed. I was in a relationship twice before him. 14-19 so badly physically and verbally abusive, pulled guns on me etc, then 19-20 he was psychological warfare & mind games. He went to jail & I met the love of my life who deserves life, he saved me. He taught me love unconditionally. I miss him so badly. No one will ever compare. That’s a once in a lifetime I am so blessed to have had the decade together we did. He set the bar so high. I say all that to say this, there are good men out there ❤
@jennsname Місяць тому
To many of us are suffering in this patriarchy!!! I cant breathe anymore!
@nooneinparticular1685 Місяць тому
They've made this world hell for everyone including themselves and so many of them can't comprehend that fact. We need to start working on some kind of female only underground city or like figure out a different planet to go to some shit. Enough is enough
@Iffondrel 9 місяців тому
I love this song to bits. It's so powerful and compelling! ...But it's also the kind of song that I hope my mother never discovers. She'll probably say that she resonates with it, despite being an absolute narcissistic that didn't care for her children past the baby stage. It was a relief when my parents finally divorced because then she wasn't around to scream obscenities at my dad. I chose my dad in the divorce because he raised me. He did everything and never complained. He built my mom gardens and bookshelves and a walk-in closet at her request, despite working long weeks, and tried his best to spend quality time with his family. My mom still thinks to this day that I went with him because he manipulated me. She has no sense of wrongness.
@fathishah996 9 місяців тому
This is for the youngsters, please don't get old this masterpiece... İt's an emotion.
@missy3941 11 місяців тому
“It’s not an act of love if you make her” goosebumps
@catso7236 10 місяців тому
Absolutely!! That part of the song played as I read this comment.
@alexisshaw1949 Рік тому
Yes! This is our song now!! Thank you for this masterpiece 🥰☺️
@elii448zz4 Рік тому
this will be forever the womens anthem ✊🏻
@isbammoi3358 2 місяці тому
This makes me so grateful for my father and grandfather. My mom and grandma were never people to take any shit from anyone, and they also found good people who go far beyond the minimum. My dad did so much to take care of my sis and I, the pets, and the house as we grew up. He got a job that let him be at home so he could look after us while my mom's job had her out long hours. He still does housework now. And helps her witj other things since she hurt her hip, helping with whatever she asks. My grandpa is the same for my grandma, always cooking for her. And he does a lot in his community. I hear so many awful stories from my friends and strangers alike. My best wishes to anyone in a scary/horrible situation, I hope you can get out. And to anyone who has, you've done so much, I hope you can breath easy now ♡
@samiew Рік тому
3:28 gives me goosebumps like chills down my spine
@tonjiarolan677 Рік тому
Sent to everyone. We need to request the radio stations to play this
@spookystarlet3743 Рік тому
The daughter part... Generational trauma 😢
@dellaniewilliams9115 Рік тому
I definitely needed to find this song since I’m freshly out of my trauma bond
@timberwolf7105 Місяць тому
"The capillaries in my eyes are bursting", it clearly expresses how I feel after witnessing how women are treated
@nooneinparticular1685 Місяць тому
Girl I just cry myself sick over it every so often. You're all my sisters and I will look out for you as such until the day I die.
@lucia4916 Місяць тому
@@nooneinparticular1685idk if I’m just really high but I really needed to read this and this made me tear up. Thank you
@chaotic-goodartistry3903 10 місяців тому
Love this song! Especially that last bit where it’s like a madrigal with the verse and chorus working well when sung at the same time…i’m sad that there’s not a video of just that last verse for like 3 minutes, I’d listen to that for hours, makes brain go brr
@thevibeguide 10 місяців тому
Glad you like it!
@arturialivre3826 Рік тому
Am I the only one who's getting Florence and the machine vibe at the beginning?
@ruthwellington4454 Рік тому
I hate how accurate this song is. I am burned out from being married to a man that has had 10 years of a happy marriage, when I have just been surviving it day by day.
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