Paris Paloma - labour [Official Video]

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Paris Paloma

Paris Paloma

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LABOUR (the cacophony) coming 29th March
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Lyrics (click/tap CC to see subtitles):
Why are you hanging on
So tight
To the rope that I’m hanging from
Off this island
This was an escape plan
Carefully timed it
So let me go
And dive into the waves below
Who tends the orchards?
Who fixes up the gables
Emotional torture
From the head of your high table
Who fetches the water
From the rocky mountain spring
And walk back down again
To feel your words and their sharp sting
And I’m getting fucking tired
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died, would that be the worst thing?
For somebody I thought was my saviour
You sure make me do a whole lot of labour
The calloused skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ends, would that be a bad thing?
And the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labour
Apologies from my tongue
Never yours
Busy lapping from flowing cup
And stabbing with your fork
I know you’re a smart man
And weaponise
The false incompetence
It’s dominance under guise
If we had a daughter
I’d watch and could not save her
The emotional torture
From the head of your high table
She’d do what you taught her
She’d meet the same cruel fate
So now I’ve gotta run
So I can undo this mistake
At least I’ve gotta try
The capillaries in my eyes are bursting
If our love died, would that be the worst thing?
For somebody I thought was my saviour
You sure make me do a whole lot of labour
The calloused skin on my hands is cracking
If our love ends, would that be a bad thing?
And the silence haunts our bed chamber
You make me do too much labour
All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid
Nymph then virgin, nurse then a servant
Just an appendage, live to attend him
So that he never lifts a finger
24/7 baby machine
So he can live out his picket fence dreams
It’s not an act of love if you make her
You make me do too much labour
Credits:
Director: Adam Othman
Producer: Giulia Lopes
Director of Photography: Theo Brinch
1st AC: Rafal Rakoczy
Gaffer: Will Jessel
BTS: Jamal Thomas
Art Director: Paris Paloma
Art Assistant: Morgan Bull
Actors
Paris Paloma
Henry Hayward
#parispaloma

КОМЕНТАРІ: 11 000
@ahe1009
@ahe1009 Рік тому
this is absolutely a love letter to women throughout history. as historian rosalind miles points out: part of the reason men were at the forefront of so much innovation throughout history isn’t just because of lack of education for women, but because they were free to do more with their time as women were carrying most domestic and emotional labour in the home.
@aspannas
@aspannas Рік тому
So true. Do not forget that men stole work from women constantly throughout time and wives to "great" men stood in their shadow, just look up Mileva Einstein-Maric who was married to Albert Einstein. Any woman who managed to make a name for themselves had to work 10 times as hard as any man.
@HelgaMoro
@HelgaMoro Рік тому
Women worked the fields too. And held other kinds of low paying jobs. In addition to all the domestic labor. And yes, no education and weren't allowed to be members of scientific clubs or political organizations. Were humiliated for even speaking up in the presence of men. And then men say "but we created everything". Bruh. If yall's egos weren't so fragile and you didn't hold women back, humanity would already be happily living all over the solar system.
@ashleyunderwood8558
@ashleyunderwood8558 Рік тому
EXACTLY! THANK YOU!
@michelletierney3319
@michelletierney3319 Рік тому
Who cooked Adam smiths dinner 📖
@ailimarie
@ailimarie Рік тому
@@michelletierney3319 His mom. he wrote his book while living in his mom's house
@aubryellaotero1064
@aubryellaotero1064 Рік тому
The part about having a daughter and being afraid that she’ll meet the same fate is a true terror that keeps me up at night
@namtellectjoonal7230
@namtellectjoonal7230 11 місяців тому
yup....one of the reasons I don't want children I don't wanna bring a child into this ugly world that will treat them unjustly and then turn around and blame them for not being able to keep up
@maca6630
@maca6630 11 місяців тому
I understand you. I have three daughters and I raise them so that they know how to claim their place in the world, but I will always want to raise a boy in feminism. They need to know that they're born with a privilege we don't have.
@anonaweaver9741
@anonaweaver9741 11 місяців тому
Couldn’t imagine because I was the oldest of 3 girls. Then had 2 boys. Stopped before we did have a girl
@desireeluciano
@desireeluciano 11 місяців тому
I totally understand
@aubryellaotero1064
@aubryellaotero1064 11 місяців тому
The sad part is I have a wonderfully fantastic and amazing man who takes care of me now but…. It took so long. Just to find someone who truly respects me. Been through so much abuse at the hands of men to get me to this point that I really don’t see any woman being able to completely escape the violence her whole life.
@avadakedevra2895
@avadakedevra2895 2 місяці тому
In india, there is this tradition of the wife/mother in the family eating last, they are not allowed to sit with the family and eat together. Instead they are often left with the leftovers of their own cooking while the men and children are served first and take away most of the food without consideration for the mother. I am lucky to be born in a progressive family where this tradition has long since been abandoned. But it still persists in many many families, regardless of economic class.
@gisellmuniz7321
@gisellmuniz7321 2 місяці тому
I am from the north of Mexico Chihuahua, The traditional woman need to be serving the family food into the men and the children finish there food. making hot tortillas in the process. when you are like 8 years old you start helping the mother too. it is so interest see how cultures can be similar in view and traditions, I love India food !!!
@avadakedevra2895
@avadakedevra2895 2 місяці тому
There are so many similarities in mexican and indian culture in general life as well! Its truly astounding. We dont have any common history, our countries located on two sides of the world, opposite to each other meridian wise, and yet!! Lots of love to mexico from india!! ❤@@gisellmuniz7321
@RachelDeRosier010894
@RachelDeRosier010894 2 місяці тому
If I'm the one cooking the food, no one should be allowed to eat until I sit at the other head of the table. Periodt.
@avadakedevra2895
@avadakedevra2895 2 місяці тому
​@@RachelDeRosier010894 exactly how it should be.
@charlottaberg6934
@charlottaberg6934 Місяць тому
😢❤
@user-gb6dz6dh4l
@user-gb6dz6dh4l 7 місяців тому
“It’s not an act of love if you make her” sends chills down my spine 😭
@van_ol1056
@van_ol1056 2 місяці тому
Literally, so many misogynistic men justify giving women all the domestic chores bc it's a "love language". And men's only love language is somehow always physical touch, never service
@Rebekah_withanH
@Rebekah_withanH Місяць тому
​@@van_ol1056 the love languages thing was invented by an Evangelical pastor
@SummerSun-sg3wf
@SummerSun-sg3wf Місяць тому
And yet they never touch you to control you
@schuylergeery-zink1923
@schuylergeery-zink1923 Місяць тому
Touch is about platonic and no sexual affectionate touch. And usually you naturally DO the love language you prefer. So my husband appreciates acts of service (when I cook for us) and he cleans a lot, does his own laundry, does the dishes etc. He also is quick to give praise and is receptive to words of affirmation. I enjoy quality time and touch, so he knows I want conversation and like hugs and massages. We do all the love languages tho. It’s just we know what to ask for clearly of each other.
@rosasuarez1
@rosasuarez1 27 днів тому
​@@SummerSun-sg3wf?
@fozzyspots
@fozzyspots 11 місяців тому
this truly is a love letter to all the hundreds of millions of women who have lived and died, nameless and faceless and unappreciated, terrified and violated and unfulfilled, lonely and clever and murdered. we see you. we're sorry.
@manifest2203
@manifest2203 11 місяців тому
Well said 👏👏
@CityKanin
@CityKanin 11 місяців тому
Louder for the back row!
@rollins5865
@rollins5865 11 місяців тому
😢
@nekonions
@nekonions 11 місяців тому
This made me tear up
@Nandemonaiya00
@Nandemonaiya00 11 місяців тому
LOUDER for those in the back 🎉
@AmbitionMusic
@AmbitionMusic 10 місяців тому
goosebumps
@vedanshiChauhan15
@vedanshiChauhan15 8 місяців тому
Yeah that's the exact word and feeling for this song
@alecule
@alecule 8 місяців тому
Bumps goose
@heavenlydusk
@heavenlydusk 8 місяців тому
Only two replies for a verified channel?
@hollalaland
@hollalaland 6 місяців тому
Ambition!!!! Your presence here is unexpected- yet very welcome ❤
@dreaming_hearts
@dreaming_hearts 3 місяці тому
The fact that the pomegranate is the symbol of Persephone is symbolic. The way she rips it apart. She was trapped in this marriage and now she's destroying it. Edit: 3.9k likes? Are you kidding me? Thanks!
@SnazzyArcade
@SnazzyArcade 3 місяці тому
Pomegranates were also the "forbidden fruit" in the garden of eden, not apples.
@not-so-obvious_autism777
@not-so-obvious_autism777 3 місяці тому
@@SnazzyArcade Oh dang really?! Cool!
@SnazzyArcade
@SnazzyArcade 3 місяці тому
@@not-so-obvious_autism777 Yeah pomegranates are indigenous to the middle east, while apples are from central/east asia.
@LittleHexi
@LittleHexi 3 місяці тому
Hades also loves Pomegranate thats is go to fruit with him.
@LittleHexi
@LittleHexi 3 місяці тому
@@SnazzyArcade No one really knows that cause that story isn't straight forward with that.
@lanternure6122
@lanternure6122 6 місяців тому
I don't usually comment but no one is talking about the plates. The song is literally about her being trapped in a loveless marriage and forced to be nothing but a tool for him, all the while he's eating off of a Blue Willow. The pattern on that dish is supposed to tell the story of a true love that was denied by the bride's father and ended in the couple becoming birds so they could be together. Her plate is a Blue Onion, based on a Chinese design that featured an Aster and a pomegranate. Asters represent many things in different cultures, but most notably love, faith and purity. Pomegranates in China represent fertility and a blessed future among other things. They are literally eating off dishes that show what their marriage should have been. Love, devotion and happiness but that's not what it ended up being. It's such a subtle detail and I love it. (also, although the design didn't originally feature an onion, I think it should also be noted that the word onion comes from the Latin word unio which, if I remember correctly, means unity or to unite.
@barbaragordon_
@barbaragordon_ 6 місяців тому
Such a cool detail, thanks for explaining
@jnannadavid6114
@jnannadavid6114 5 місяців тому
There's such a long long history of women's secret languages used to communicate when they were cut off, isolated, and abused by the patriarchal societies they had to survive under. Flowers and Fans in England were well known, but even using the plate settings in this music video is amazing. I would never have put it together without you pointing it out and I am so grateful that you did! Nushu is another women's language that comes to mind and has such a rich history. I feel like there is a huge movement growing within the universal sisterhood of women on this planet, where we are starting to give voice to the long legacy of warnings our mothers and grandmothers were forced to whisper or desperately symbolize without hope of escape. We live in a world where we can finally speak these things out loud, and join together in the fight to fix them.
@NTLN-N
@NTLN-N 5 місяців тому
Learned something new. Though, this isn't the case just for loveless marriages, even men who genuinely love their wives too often sit back and expect to be served. I'm so tired of everything.
@aiden3627
@aiden3627 5 місяців тому
This is amazing I couldn’t even see the design, good catch. And thanks for explaining!
@cazgreen_
@cazgreen_ 5 місяців тому
​@@NTLN-NThat's not really love if he's sitting back and expecting her to serve him.
@airheadmikito559
@airheadmikito559 11 місяців тому
What struck me about this song is that EVERY woman knows of another woman being treated like this or has gone through it herself. No sister is untouched. And there's a deep, deep fury about that. Even if not personally, throughout history, women know.
@ElizabethUkeh
@ElizabethUkeh 11 місяців тому
Tbh, I don't know a woman who hasn't been through some kind of deep trauma with men. Hating men is pretty easy
@salaahkhayr2398
@salaahkhayr2398 11 місяців тому
Treated like what exactly? Doing housechores while the men provide and pay for you? Lol.
@user-ed7et3pb4o
@user-ed7et3pb4o 11 місяців тому
@@salaahkhayr2398 the more of your comments I read, the more I believe that your IQ is double digits. I feel sorry for your poor mother.
@sloanethefullygrown5086
@sloanethefullygrown5086 11 місяців тому
​@@salaahkhayr2398doing a majority of the housechores while also working a full time job and doing a majority of the childcare and emotional labor that comes with having children. Being exhausted from waking up in the middle of the night to feed a child two people created and being told they're being bitchy that following evening. Being expected to cook after coming home from a full shift of work and maid. And being told to be grateful because the man in the relationship brings home money.
@chloecampbell9821
@chloecampbell9821 11 місяців тому
@@salaahkhayr2398 this me bad vibes 🙄 *edit* Your comment gave me bad vibes 🙄
@AnantyaV
@AnantyaV 9 місяців тому
My grandma gave birth to 17 children, 10 survived WWII, she did all the work, was a wonderful chef, seperated from her husband, an abusive alcoholic who was busy with a prostitute literally whilst she was in labour giving birth. She was shunned by her society, called a whore because she left her husband. This, grandma, is for you ❤
@slavicpower7709
@slavicpower7709 9 місяців тому
Props to your grandma. Praise her strength.
@PicassosCat
@PicassosCat 9 місяців тому
It's crazy that you bear 17 children of a man and gets called a whore for leaving.. Times really changed huh? We may have our problems but I think we should give ourselves a little bit of credit for how far we've gone.
@davidmusic5883
@davidmusic5883 9 місяців тому
u didnt write this song
@fave525
@fave525 9 місяців тому
and yet the society acts like it's women chasing marriage and men running away from it as if it's not men who benefit from it the most
@user-lc2rn5wt4c
@user-lc2rn5wt4c 9 місяців тому
​@@davidmusic5883Duh
@gabriellakangombe4032
@gabriellakangombe4032 7 місяців тому
"24/7 baby machine" hits hard. I'm a 19 year old Congolese girl who has a large extended family where people tend to marry young and start their family young too. Since I hit 18, most talks about my future have been about motherhood and child-bearing. I took a gap year and got into a good university that I worked hard last year to get into, yet I got hardly any congratulations or tips for how to survive uni. At least, it's very minimal compared to the motherhood tips. I'm tired of being viewed as a baby machine lmfao
@auiak7689
@auiak7689 7 місяців тому
Everyone expects me to get married and have children someday even tho I definitely do not want to. It sounds pretty horrible to me. I’m going to prove them wrong and stay unmarried with no children. It’s so tiring that I’m expected to be a mother before I even hit 18.
@paintmyheartout90
@paintmyheartout90 7 місяців тому
Congratulations on getting into school!! 🎉🎉🎉❤
@gabriellakangombe4032
@gabriellakangombe4032 7 місяців тому
@@paintmyheartout90 Thank you! 💚
@solar0wind
@solar0wind 7 місяців тому
I'm so sorry that you have to go through that. I'm German, and here it's frowned upon to have children before you're 20. It's crazy how different views can be in different cultures. However, we still have pressure on women to have children, but depending on the region and other stuff it just starts in a woman's 20s or 30s. In any way, congrats for getting into the university, and good luck and a lot of strength for your future studies🙏 Words from random strangers aren't as impactful as words from people close to you, but until they start giving you the compliments you deserve, I hope this can act as a small substitute😊
@gabriellakangombe4032
@gabriellakangombe4032 7 місяців тому
@@solar0wind thank you! i appreciate it
@MollyKewl
@MollyKewl 6 місяців тому
Me: unmarried, child free and financially stable. Relating so hard to this song for some reason and glad to my fore-mothers for giving me a chance to escape the drudgery.
@moneypowerglory.
@moneypowerglory. 6 місяців тому
we broke the wheel, our mothers and us.
@aubreyaubrey5193
@aubreyaubrey5193 6 місяців тому
Happiness in slavery then?
@lexa2310
@lexa2310 5 місяців тому
Yeah. If the sufragettes hadnt been so loud and extreme for their time we probably wouldnt have halve the freedom we have now.
@lexa2310
@lexa2310 5 місяців тому
​​@@aubreyaubrey5193No. Thats why womens-liberation was such an Important thing.
@Abby-gx4qi
@Abby-gx4qi 4 місяці тому
@@aubreyaubrey5193 what feels like slavery for you may not feel that way for someone else. I'm a housewife and I love it but I totally understand why people wouldn't choose it. Everyone should have a right to choose how they spend their life.
@hee-hoo5672
@hee-hoo5672 Рік тому
“I know you’re a smart man, and weaponize false incompetence. It’s dominance under a guise” THAT FUCKING LINE AND THE SUBSEQUENT LINES HIT HARD. This whole song is so beautiful and heartbreaking yet at the end so strong
@RiverCrystal
@RiverCrystal Рік тому
This is the first time I've heard of weaponized incompetence in a song and I'm here for it.
@hee-hoo5672
@hee-hoo5672 Рік тому
@@RiverCrystal same, the first time I heard it I felt my brain physically click. There’s finally a phrase for what I’ve been trying to articulate, AND it’s part of a beautiful song???
@harvardpsychic8396
@harvardpsychic8396 Рік тому
I think of myself as a well read, self aware feminist. And this song just made me realized how much I give to men and how I never even saw it! I never saw it because I was conditioned to give men so much of myself. I was groomed to it before I knew how to speak, and know I'm not the only one. It's so sad.
@kenny995
@kenny995 Рік тому
It was a brilliant line. I've started calling out weaponized incompetence from people in my life. I ask them if they are genuinely dumb and can't do it, or if they are playing dumb to make you do it. They go silent real quick and that silence speaks volumes.
@golden0lady1
@golden0lady1 Рік тому
What does it mean by it ? English is not my first language
@BangersOnly
@BangersOnly Рік тому
im so excited for this wow. CONGRATS PARIS
@kuhu50
@kuhu50 13 днів тому
I left my husband yesterday. After a decade of emotional labour. I left. This song is keeping afloat.
@lucia4916
@lucia4916 8 днів тому
Holy shit, I’m so proud of you !! How are you doing now ?
@saturn8630
@saturn8630 7 днів тому
Happy for you!!! ☺️💕
@l.e.tarasova6464
@l.e.tarasova6464 2 дні тому
you got this!!!! happy for you!
@ipsitaonearth5132
@ipsitaonearth5132 2 дні тому
@RP-uu7oq
@RP-uu7oq 11 годин тому
You are so strong!!!
@lectia4091
@lectia4091 6 місяців тому
“For someone who I thought was my savior, you sure make me do a whole lot of labour.” Hits hard when your with somebody who promised to take you out of your misery but ends up traumatizing you just as the same or even worse.
@mary5177
@mary5177 5 місяців тому
much love and healing!!!
@hazelhope5646
@hazelhope5646 5 місяців тому
its just trading one jail for another.
@DarthFurie
@DarthFurie 4 місяці тому
I know exactly what you mean. Wishing you freedom, I'll have mine soon❤
@lectia4091
@lectia4091 3 місяці тому
@@DarthFurie thanks and Dw you will just hold on ❤️❤️
@flawedsanity
@flawedsanity 3 місяці тому
It hits home very hard for me too. All my life I've just traded one horrific situation for another, it seems. Wishing freedom and peace to everyone in the comments - I hope I will get mine soon.
@sinbingaming4419
@sinbingaming4419 11 місяців тому
I don't know if it was an intentional artistic choice or just how it sounded best to her, but the fact she doesn't necessarily get loud throughout the song is interesting to me. You can hear the anger in her voice, yeah, but she doesn't YELL like I've seen some people want her to. The background voices get louder/cry out at one point, but the singer herself keeps her voice relatively level. Makes me think about how women's anger is meant to be quiet. Palatable. If a woman acts out or yells in anger, she's seen as hysterical, crazy, and over-reactive. She's supposed to keep it to herself, or at least keep it quiet enough that people can ignore it or brush it off. Even when she's digging into the food with her hands, she's still covering her mouth at times before seemingly not caring anymore. Her anger is controlled. She gets FIRM, but not loud, and I find I actually like that better than the idea of her going on a yelling rampage.
@anneascott
@anneascott 11 місяців тому
wow, I didn't realize that. you are absolutely right, perfect explanation. thanks for this comment.
@LordOfTheUnderworld
@LordOfTheUnderworld 11 місяців тому
Its like a post i read once going something like this: Its between a human and a werewolf Human: "How can you not be angry?" Werewolf: "I am angry," the werewolf said. "But unlike you, I dont have the luxury of showing it without being called a monster. Without someone taking it as a sign of proof that i needed to be put down like a rabid dog" H: "But everyone gets angry... Thats human." W: "Up until the point when you're not human" Its an amazing metaphor for anyone that is othered by society. When a woman is angry, shes called intolerant. When a dog bites, its called rabid. No one asks why the woman was angry, or why the dog bit. Even though they had all the right to be angry, no one cares.
@Coffee-ve8ub
@Coffee-ve8ub 11 місяців тому
I was thinking of that too how women are expected to stay quieter even when angry or were called sensitive or hysterical. It also made me think of how when people suffer from things like what she talks about in her song and many other things that can cause exhaustion and depression a person can feel something like anger but be too exhausted to really express it or not be able to show it, and to me it sort of sounded like that too with the one tone of voice she uses through the song never changing volume
@chesirecat1000
@chesirecat1000 11 місяців тому
She goes against what is a common portrayal of female rage: a quiet, seething rage that is even more frightening than the loud one. Because when a woman is quiet, you know that she doesn’t have any ounce of care in her body anymore. Quiet women are the scariest, imo.
@hillmidget1326
@hillmidget1326 11 місяців тому
Beautiful take on it
@nikolettperedi560
@nikolettperedi560 Рік тому
The feeling I get from this song is so ancient and so deep, I feel like all the rage from thousands of years of oppression to the women of all history is united into this song and it's incredibly powerful
@jade3855
@jade3855 Рік тому
This comment!! I don’t personally relate but I’m sitting here soaked in tears from just thousands of years of female rage. 💔❤️
@missnikkiparker3112
@missnikkiparker3112 Рік тому
@@jade3855 Truly same.
@julianamae7239
@julianamae7239 Рік тому
exactly what I felt too, well put
@aleksandra...
@aleksandra... Рік тому
Me too, I'm actually in opposite situation as my husband is doing most of the the labor (except emotional) as I'm chronically ill and unemployed. (and we had ~equal share before I started having health issues) But historical and contemporary examples are so heartbreaking, PLUS, all the future daughters (and sons) that are internalizing that as normal, I'm envisioning and this song is bringing all the emotions up... 😢
@husky7281
@husky7281 Рік тому
@@spoonky7243 girls, this dum dumb dude is trying to make a scene in the comments, dont give him attention.
@vaevictis3905
@vaevictis3905 4 місяці тому
Maybe It's strange, but as a man I can relate with this song. Actualy its my favorite. Always reminds me to my mother, who raised me alone, and my father who left us for a new family. My mother is a fucking hero. Mom! This song for you. 🥰
@user-lz8gu1iw8b
@user-lz8gu1iw8b 4 місяці тому
😊❤I also dedicated it to my mother
@solala1312
@solala1312 4 місяці тому
I'm glad you are thankful for your mother's sacrifices and that she was a supportive parents to you. I met many men unfortunately who resented their single mothers because of the lack of male role model. not all parents are perfect but I think single mothers have it way harder than single fathers.
@SaritaSingh-dx8lv
@SaritaSingh-dx8lv 2 місяці тому
❤ yes to loving and strong mothers
@todiewasanart9037
@todiewasanart9037 2 місяці тому
You are a wonderful person 💞💞
@hadsdupe
@hadsdupe 2 місяці тому
@eykyra
@eykyra 7 місяців тому
I can't get over "the false incompetence is dominance under a guise", it's the most perfect line of these overall brilliant lyrics. It perfectly encapsulates this subtle yet infuriating way that the patriarchal society teaches women to voluntarily assume the responsibility of care giving and housework tasks while men grow up used to having things done for them so they abuse this privilege by expecting their partners to take on the job of their mothers or female caretakers and assume these tasks by default because "they are not as good at them", because they never actually put the effort to learn.
@StaceyGray-mj3mj
@StaceyGray-mj3mj 6 місяців тому
Perfectly said 👍🏻
@Llkolii
@Llkolii 6 місяців тому
My ex weaponised incompetence, I didn’t know what he was doing at the time
@lenamichalik1211
@lenamichalik1211 5 місяців тому
@@Evija3000it's so funny and kinda ironic, when I have similar experience as you and I'm the one with ADHD. It definitely makes things more difficult but it's no excuse for doing nothing or not trying.
@veratrindade5883
@veratrindade5883 5 місяців тому
Once I was told I did the doctors appointments for the children because I like it.😂😂😂 who likes making appointments and take care of schedules????
@eykyra
@eykyra 5 місяців тому
@@veratrindade5883 Ah yes nobody talks about the mental workload of organization but that's an entire thing as well. When we have to tell the men what needs to be done when and how and basically carry a schedule on our heads but then they'll go and say they're the ones with the logical thinking and we're too unstable to be in charge.
@tanyadarling6892
@tanyadarling6892 Рік тому
I love that we don't see her face at the start, like how many women have lived and continue to live as faceless, nameless entities, whose work is never acknowledged as theirs - I love this song for so beautifully expressing both power and grief
@angytingz
@angytingz Рік тому
i was thinking this too!!
@moonshine7374
@moonshine7374 11 місяців тому
We don't see the guy's face either, are you psycho?
@silveralpha3630
@silveralpha3630 11 місяців тому
Idk why this reminded me of Rosalind Franklin...
@patternrecon5271
@patternrecon5271 11 місяців тому
Loxist subversion Kalergi plan Minimum replacement birth rate: 2.1 Israel birth rate: 3.00 EU birth rate: 1.53 Canada birth rate: 1.47 USA birth rate: 1.70 Australia birth rate: 1.66 Russia birth rate: 1.50 Ukraine birth rate: 1.23 Moldova: 1.28 Belarus: 1.38 Serbia: 1.48 Bulgaria: 1.56 Romania: 1.60 Albania: 1.58
@Eclipsiscv
@Eclipsiscv 11 місяців тому
It reminds me of a line from “Whatever you want” by Vienna Teng - “she’s just a dress wearing a face in the doorway.”
@kiararodriguez2118
@kiararodriguez2118 Рік тому
The background vocals being children at the end enrages me and breaks my heart. This is a masterpiece. Every little detail is perfect
@em01455
@em01455 Рік тому
I didn’t even realize that my god
@highdeadesigns6424
@highdeadesigns6424 Рік тому
That's my favorite part😭😭
@universal_stupidity
@universal_stupidity Рік тому
she has apparently said they aren't children, but it's still beautiful
@solus8685
@solus8685 Рік тому
I think it's young women, not kids
@aeonia_anassa
@aeonia_anassa 22 дні тому
What even made you think that's children singing, its extremely clear it's not but the fact you "heard" children's voices worries me. Whatever it is, I hope you're taking care of it.
@ushijimawakatoshi2106
@ushijimawakatoshi2106 7 місяців тому
The way she set the table so beautifully, and he just made a mess of feasting while she ate nothing. Nothing until she tore open the pomegranate and ate like she'd been starving, while he just smiled like her desperation and rage were funny. The way he didn't move when she left because his ego told him she needed him, when really, she's never going back and he will be lost until he can find some helpless maiden to manipulate. And then she'll set the table, wondering why he never looks at her.
@fourleaves6877
@fourleaves6877 7 місяців тому
I personally saw the smile as forced. When he hits his glass and she refuses to start cleaning, he begins to look confused and lost. When she looks up with a grin, looking like she's just chewed a man's throat out, his reflexive return-smile and the way it /fades/ hit me as- "Oh, I'm uh, glad you're having fun, but this isn't funny anymore, I don't understand, what are you doing?" But I think any interpretation of art is valid, and this is absolutely a masterpiece.
@purple66666
@purple66666 5 місяців тому
The pomegranate also has hidden meaning. It was believed in ancient times that the pomegranate was the actual "forbidden apple". It's another jont to patriarchy. She's "sinning " by eating it. But the pomegranate also symbolisms the results of hard work and great wealth. She's finaly eating and enjoying the results of her hard work and she's doing it in a way that shows spite for him.
@KATT2252
@KATT2252 5 місяців тому
@@purple66666 its also an ancient greek symbol for both death and fertility, another great hidden meaning
@I_am_Lauren
@I_am_Lauren 5 місяців тому
@@purple66666 The way she TORE into the pomegranate was such a great detail, coupled with the symbolism of that fruit.
@kellythomas2059
@kellythomas2059 24 дні тому
I was under the impression that she had to wait for him to finish eating before she was allowed to eat. That's the way it was and still is, in some cultures. Disgusting.
@lejlanuhanovic5700
@lejlanuhanovic5700 5 місяців тому
This song is the epitome of female rage. I had a marriage that was identical to this song. It feels amazing to be validated. I feel so related to so many women from all over the world just because of this song. Sending my love to all the girls and women in the comments. You are amazing and you deserve better! Don't let the men convince you otherwise!
@rosasuarez1
@rosasuarez1 26 днів тому
❤❤❤👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@ipsitaonearth5132
@ipsitaonearth5132 2 дні тому
Thank you. As a young girl, I always welcome advice from older women
@audreydahlman4473
@audreydahlman4473 11 місяців тому
I absolutely love the symbolism in her choosing to eat a pomegranate. Pomegranates are used in so many ways in different religions and myths, but in every single one it is a symbol of womanhood, rebirth, or something of the sort. It’s such a powerful choice to use that as she eats in rebellion.
@PILOSOPAUL
@PILOSOPAUL 11 місяців тому
The immediate thing that came to my mind was Persephone who was a captive of Hades, she is usually represented by pomegranates
@mariakara2419
@mariakara2419 11 місяців тому
yaaa also fertility i think ive heard
@andyhu7205
@andyhu7205 11 місяців тому
I like to think of it as her casting herself into hell to escape him! The pomegranate in Greek mythology is what kept Persephone from her mother in the underworld!
@cecilkeith1951
@cecilkeith1951 10 місяців тому
Persephone and Hades vibes
@adiastar9815
@adiastar9815 10 місяців тому
@@Ashni1 interesting. In many other languages, it is literally called a "grenade apple", plus "pomme" in french means just apple...
@Bryna..
@Bryna.. Рік тому
the rage that builds up through the song is devastating but so beautiful. this song invokes so many emotions. the line about the daughter breaks my heart and Im not even a mom
@shellygirl999
@shellygirl999 Рік тому
The message behind this song is exactly why I refuse to have kids. It doesn’t matter how well I teach my son not to be incompetent, or teach my daughter not to be meek and domestic, society expects them to be that way, and kids don’t deserve to suffer through that. I’m ending my generational trauma right here.
@fakename658
@fakename658 Рік тому
I Only wish it was angrier
@gameguy3394
@gameguy3394 Рік тому
@@shellygirl999 🤪💀😂
@thejadegecko
@thejadegecko Рік тому
@@fakename658 It needs a rock / metal remix/cover of it. @SkyDxddy needs to do a cover. It would be perfect.
@charlomand3r
@charlomand3r Рік тому
same and motivates me to break the cycle if i ever decide to have kids
@buggybug09
@buggybug09 4 місяці тому
Im an avid history enthusiast. This song perfectly encapsulates the horrors and cycles experienced by woman throught human history. The part where you can hear the children chant with her showcases rhe repeation of it all. Women STILL face just about the same issues like this even now! This song is literally representing every woman who has faced this kind of abuse. From year one, to now. Every woman in history, this is their anthem.
@matthewbates9629
@matthewbates9629 3 місяці тому
Just because that was your experience doesn’t mean it’s someone else’s not all men treat women like that
@buggybug09
@buggybug09 3 місяці тому
@matthewbates9629 NO where in my comment did I mention "all men" neither did I mention men at all. I was just merely talking about how this song not only applies to women of today, but women thought history.This song isn't about men. It's about empowering women. It's a song about the abuse suffered by women in abusive or toxic relationships. Again, not about men, but women.
@buggybug09
@buggybug09 3 місяці тому
@matthewbates9629 legit had a stroke reading this. Do you know what punctuation is? Anyway, all your points don't make sense- yes women and men have differences but what in the he'll does that have to do with this song or my comment?
@riley_heretic
@riley_heretic 3 місяці тому
@@matthewbates9629found the “not all men” guy. 🙄😒
@noyoudidnot3513
@noyoudidnot3513 3 місяці тому
@@matthewbates9629 Why do you all have to be so defensive, lmao. You can't see anything without making it about you? Grow up.
@everythingisvision
@everythingisvision 4 місяці тому
I’m not a woman. But dear god, I have the utmost and unending respect for all the women that had to suffer through situations such as this. It’s insane what women have had to go through, and I’d be an idiot if I didn’t recognize that. Women deserve respect and you’re either willfully ignorant or immature if you disagree. I am so grateful for all of the women in my family, alive or not, for all of the work and effort they put into the family.
@pinklov4447
@pinklov4447 2 місяці тому
thank u
@nse712
@nse712 2 місяці тому
You are a rarity. Please pass on your mindset to other men! And maybe mentor some boys too. Many of the men who are like the ones this song is talking about only listen to other men, so we women need men like you to help take a stand with us.
@user-ug7sl3ms6b
@user-ug7sl3ms6b 2 місяці тому
You can help them by not looking away from male friends and family who hurt and abuse us xxx
@Seafoamee
@Seafoamee Рік тому
The symbolism of her lighting her candle and watching it burn down while his is unlit and barely touched is perfect
@annikamaa2337
@annikamaa2337 Рік тому
I was just about to comment on that, its really such a cool detail!!
@fallen_star2319
@fallen_star2319 11 місяців тому
Add in that al the ones in his view are perfectly fine, while hers are starting to burn out? The one symbolizing her burns out entirely, the one representing him is never lit. But the surrounding candles, symbolizing work and effort? His are half tall, still easily burning. Hers are almost at their ends - she is completely burnt out in herself and from the excess work that she does for him, while he doesn't need to exert himself in nearly the same fashion. It's a smaller detail, but a really nice one.
@garimabajaj7443
@garimabajaj7443 11 місяців тому
oh my god, wow. this made me think so much.
@paigelarrabee3143
@paigelarrabee3143 11 місяців тому
Her candle seems to symbolize patience. Her fuse must get lit every mealtime. Even if he isn't there and away at work. She toils over everything and so it has been eroded to the point of an escape plan.
@bleepbloop838
@bleepbloop838 11 місяців тому
Like she loved and unloved, but he never learnt to love. Idk.
@percivalchase780
@percivalchase780 Рік тому
Watch how he looks amused as she starts eating before looking angry. He feels like she's a joke before she keeps going, she proves to him she's serious. gods i love this song
@momo-wp5mb
@momo-wp5mb Рік тому
Righttt
@kittypanda10
@kittypanda10 Рік тому
Yup I wonder if they will find us amusing when we all fight back 😡
@merelha5930
@merelha5930 Рік тому
I personally think he looks more uncomfortable? Like he doesn't understand what she is doing and why and actually physically doesn't look at her (looking down, hiding behind his hands). He looks up after a while and is also shocked she is gone.
@honeychild8525
@honeychild8525 5 місяців тому
The "For somebody I thought was my saviour" rings very true to me - a lot of troubled young women think they have found someone to save them but in fact its just another abuser.
@wompusslompus5424
@wompusslompus5424 4 місяці тому
This is what I'm paranoid about. Who's to say the next partner isn't the same? Are we running from one prison into the cage of another? What if we don't really know who they are until it's too late?
@ravenvalentine9823
@ravenvalentine9823 3 місяці тому
​@@wompusslompus5424I just left a physically abusive relationship and this exact thought crossed my mind. I guess the best choice is to never let anyone put us there in the first place. Never give someone an inch. It hurts, for ourselves and for the people we meet moving forward but walls are required for a stable building. Always have a go bag, never have a combined bank account, pick up a hobby around self defense or a weapon, (archery, HEMA, etc.) and live like minimalist. Makes packing much easier to leave.
@elysses
@elysses 2 місяці тому
@@wompusslompus5424I was abused as age 15 by my adult neighbor who was 35, I escaped at 18 only to get wrapped up another abusive relationship when I was 19. I left him at age 21 and a year later I met my current boyfriend. I can just tell he wouldn’t lay a finger on me. You can tell by their actions, if they are rude or mean to other people, then they will be to you eventually. If they are aggressive towards others often, they will be aggressive to you. My current boyfriend insulted me once during a fight, he saw how much that hurt me and never did it again. A good person will know right from wrong and choose right, while someone with deep issues will choose the wrong choice often. I guess what I’m saying is, you get this gut feeling, especially if you’ve been in a bad relationship before. If you haven’t, still listen to your gut, if they make you feel bad, worthless or even not good enough, they will continue to do that because they are a broken person, you are not the issue, they are. If your boyfriend hurts your feelings or makes your uncomfortable, be VOCAL about how he made you feel, if he is a good healthy minded person he won’t do it again, if he fights or continues to do it, he will never change and it’ll only get worse
@Arun71150
@Arun71150 Місяць тому
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@a.s.h.a118
@a.s.h.a118 5 місяців тому
I watched my mother lose decades of her life to this dynamic, after she got divorced she's like a completely different person for the better. I'll never fall into the same trap.
@a.s.h.a118
@a.s.h.a118 5 місяців тому
@@CherishedFox-mc9hs I hope she makes the right choice for herself as well my dad has a new wife and while I don't have contact with her anymore (she's a whole different issue) I watched her seriously decline in physical and mental health after just 2 years of being married to him. These toxic marriages are serious life shorteners
@ThePinkBarbieStore
@ThePinkBarbieStore 5 днів тому
For me, It is the opposite, The moment my Dad lifted his finger, She left and she never looked back. She defied societal standards and has been single my whole lifetime, I learnt from her true commitment lies not in conformity. I am so proud of her❤
@karanhdream
@karanhdream 11 місяців тому
The pomegranate symbolism is powerful. This fruit represent fertility, marriage and desire but it can also represent death and feminine independence.
@ashleyspeirs1100
@ashleyspeirs1100 11 місяців тому
Yes! I see it as her eating her own six seeds. She’s committing to herself which is how she can disappear. She’s committed to her world. English teachers are gonna have a time with this! Haha
@Letstalkforever
@Letstalkforever 9 місяців тому
​@@ashleyspeirs1100oh for sure. " what is the symbolism behind the fruit? How was used it and what can you tell the artist is trying to convey. Write your response in 700-1000 words paper. Must use citations, MLA or APA 7th only." 😂
@amvperson
@amvperson 9 місяців тому
I think it’s also a representation of Persephone and Hades, the Greek story. Persephone was forced to go down to the underworld. She was kidnapped by Hades. She performed a hunger strike to protest the kidnapping, but she found some pomegranate seeds and she was so hungry she ate them - In the video, Paris is very hungry and eats them quickly. That’s how Persephone ate the pomegranate seeds - and she ate about 4 to 6 so I think it’s a representation of being unknowingly forced to be there. It’s like your stuck in “Hades” (The Greek name for Hell). I also love the line: “It’s not an act of love, if you make her.” I think people often overlook the fact that you can be raped by your partner (gender neutral on purpose). In the song “Leave Luanne”, Luanne - a married woman - gets raped by her husband. Being married doesn’t mean that all s3x with your partner is 100 percent consensual.
@izziemoss8262
@izziemoss8262 8 місяців тому
Also thought to actually be the forbidden fruit from 'the garden of eden' instead of the apple.
@phoney2627
@phoney2627 8 місяців тому
​@@amvpersonThere's another version of the Persephone and Hades story where Hades literally forces the seeds down her throat which would fit the theme of this song better imo. Also you left out the part that in greek mythology if you eat anything in the underworld it means you have to stay there, so that was why she had to be there for the half of every year even after being saved.
@jennifervan75
@jennifervan75 11 місяців тому
"So he never lifts a finger" has 3 meanings. 1.That he never does any work. 2.That he won't abuse her. 3.That he won't acuse her. (Pointing)
@4leftclovers
@4leftclovers 11 місяців тому
This is my favourite line from the song actually.
@saoirsejb
@saoirsejb 11 місяців тому
Astute. Yes.
@rebekahrutledge1633
@rebekahrutledge1633 11 місяців тому
That is an amazing insight! Love it❤
@whatever4350
@whatever4350 10 місяців тому
Abuse sounds more logical
@jennifervan75
@jennifervan75 10 місяців тому
@@whatever4350 all 3 ways can be interpreted
@lemonlooop5262
@lemonlooop5262 2 місяці тому
After having our first child, always having to cook, clean, take care of the baby, expected to get up through every night and the morning, and not having time to properly take care of myself, I was hanging on by a thread thinking that I was supposed to do all of this.. all the while my husband sleeps in, goes golfing every Saturday (all day), barely helped after he got home from work and complained every time I asked for more help. THIS SONG got me angry in the best way. I put my foot down. This song is so powerful. Every time I listen to it I get chills
@schuylergeery-zink1923
@schuylergeery-zink1923 Місяць тому
My sister’s boyfriend leaves to go out of state for car racing and I ask her… do you ever have a few HOURS (not even days) to yourself without your toddler? No. I’m open to having kids, but I’m making it clear with my husband he must be 100% co-parenting. The golfing all day Saturday thing NO. I believe my husband will do well tho bc he took the lead on my cat’s hospice care at 20 years old. He took very good care of her even when it was challenging.
@J_Turi
@J_Turi Місяць тому
Oh heck no, good on you for putting your foot down!!
@ozesa
@ozesa 8 місяців тому
People share in the comments their stories about the “bad husbands” they have seen in their lives, but as an Arab woman I don’t even know what a “good husband” means, I've never seen an example like this in my life, in my country we consider a man who gives his wife permission to go out is an example of A "good husband", this is kinda funny and sad at the same time I wish happiness to all women! It's time for you to live for yourselves only, There's no need to repeat history, no need to continue in a miserable present, You must achieve a better future for yourself!
@avantivasharma4446
@avantivasharma4446 8 місяців тому
I can't explain my rage after reading such comments. Why are my sisters from every corner of the world still suffering?? When will it end??? I m really tired of this struggle.does the nature have made us only for suffering?It would be better if the entire humanity would just end cuz It's a torture to see the half of the human population in this condition.
@shoszannah
@shoszannah 5 місяців тому
Unfortunately Muslim region makes Arab world being in their Middle Age. Christianity was this awful and cruel to women too (and just straight up awful and cruel globally), but we manged to get a bit free from religion in the west and so gain some women's rights (some.. There is still long way ahead and we need to be very careful to not go back 😢) I'm sad that Arab women still have an even longer road in front of them, probably not only decades, but maybe centuries it's devastating. I'm sorry sister ❤
@arandompasserby1725
@arandompasserby1725 3 місяці тому
All these comments from all the sisters are excrucriating to hear; strengthening my decision of staying unmarried and child-free
@schuylergeery-zink1923
@schuylergeery-zink1923 Місяць тому
Men have been afraid of women bc we are Mother Nature incarnate. So they invented a method for men to choose male lineage vs women choosing male lineage which is the natural order. As a woman, you are valuable and deserve powerful. You get to choose whose genetic material gets passed on so be VERY discerning. My husband makes enough that we live on his income (modestly) and invest my income. He works and works overtime when he can AND he does his own laundry, does the dishes, sweeps and mops, takes care of our pets. We are a team. I manage the finances so there’s no secrets between us. He is a gentle and sweet person who sees and treats me as a human being and his teammate as his wife. We tell each other how we feel and comfort one another. That’s a good partnership. Never settle for anything less!
@AbeeraUsmanKhawaja
@AbeeraUsmanKhawaja Місяць тому
​@@shoszannahIts not Islam or Muslim region 🙄. Not all Arabs are Muslims or not all middle Easterns are Arabs.
@shreyachoudhary3378
@shreyachoudhary3378 Рік тому
In my culture, traditionally men are the ones who eat first even though the women in the family are the ones who slaved away at the kitchen to prepare the food for everyone. The way that she has to wait for the guy to eat first reminds me of that. It is also symbolic of how even though women are the ones working so hard, the fruits of labor like say, opportunities are grabbed by men first while women always have barriers stopping them. Women always get the left over. Such a powerful depiction.
@shreyachoudhary3378
@shreyachoudhary3378 Рік тому
@@jooniesbonsai4064 i'm not from India but I understand what you mean
@sarcasticallyrearranged
@sarcasticallyrearranged Рік тому
Men haven’t been out hunting for a very long time and don’t need to be served first for any reason unless their arms are broken!
@axolotlisopod
@axolotlisopod Рік тому
Which country are you from?
@cloydxx
@cloydxx 11 місяців тому
What culture is that
@liliesandroses6323
@liliesandroses6323 11 місяців тому
In my country there is a saying that the cooker would eat the smoke( the one it's produced during the cooking process). Generally in the past that was the rule first person that was eating was a husband, then children and last things that were left were left for mother
@amber61pop
@amber61pop Рік тому
"Apologies from my tongue, and never yours." "If our love died would that be the worst thing? For somebody that I thought was my saviour, you sure make me do a whole lot of labour." I cried, these lyrics hurt so much. Thank you.
@harvardpsychic8396
@harvardpsychic8396 Рік тому
That line made me realize so much. I've had relationships with men of influence. I was drawn in under some idea that they would make my life easier and love me. But they almost always drain more from me then they give, and I do mean DRAIN. Looking back, if I had just given them the finger and invested that energy in myself then I would have been better off. Damn, the patriarchial PR system is so huge and insiidious.
@user-ki6dt9bf1s
@user-ki6dt9bf1s 11 місяців тому
😊😊
@aPeachWhoLovesYeshua
@aPeachWhoLovesYeshua 10 місяців тому
@@harvardpsychic8396 Patriarchy isn’t the problem, selfish and inconsiderate men are the problem. I’m currently learning to love myself and God because I put too much energy into selfish men in the past💯
@charliemackin9620
@charliemackin9620 10 місяців тому
It's all propaganda and ponting out the worst of possibilities to destroy the west and its traditionally rich culture. Now we see no culture and broken families due to propaganda like this filth. Could have make a better song for the human soul. Life requires work to survive 💪
@AbeeraUsmanKhawaja
@AbeeraUsmanKhawaja Місяць тому
​@@aPeachWhoLovesYeshuaPatriarchy & men both are problem.
@LouisaHermione
@LouisaHermione 7 місяців тому
You know what? Screw the guy who has been putting me under pressure to "serve my purpose" and give him kids if we get engaged. Not happening. I walk.
@jencr8019
@jencr8019 7 місяців тому
RUN! Run and don't dare you to look back. RUN GIRL! BE FREE!.
@LouisaHermione
@LouisaHermione 7 місяців тому
@@jencr8019 I left!
@jellyrainstorm650
@jellyrainstorm650 7 місяців тому
​@@LouisaHermioneyou are amazing and brave. I hope you have a wonderful life❤
@jcl6100
@jcl6100 7 місяців тому
Rip family that could of been...
@amitabhbardhan7173
@amitabhbardhan7173 6 місяців тому
​@@LouisaHermioneI'm so happy for you! Wishing the best of luck🤞!
@MiseryLvst_08
@MiseryLvst_08 4 місяці тому
"24/7 Baby Machine" Hits hard for me. I have never really been fond of the idea of having children, due to mental disorders and health issues the thought of having kids is put to the bottom of my list. I understand that I am only 15 but since the age of 11 my mother has talked about my motherhood, and how I had "perfect baby carrying hips." She would always compare to it as well, "Just wait till you have kids and you have to cook every night" or "At least you aren't raisining six kids." I was 11 mom, I shouldn't know what that is like. I have been raising my siblings since i was 7. I have more mother instincts than she does. I'm so happy that my grandparents haven't put the same pressure everyone else has on me. Thank you, God, for my amazing grandparents!
@chanutamari2120
@chanutamari2120 4 місяці тому
I still can't believe in the 21st century, people still believe in this shit. Dw. U will get out of that toxic household and ur toxic mom.❤❤
@The_Great_Lionheart_2000
@The_Great_Lionheart_2000 Місяць тому
I'm 23 and don't want children. I also have 2 handicaps
@MiseryLvst_08
@MiseryLvst_08 Місяць тому
@@The_Great_Lionheart_2000 I’m so sorry that’s happened to you.
@simsgirlgem
@simsgirlgem 22 дні тому
I also have mental and physical health problems combined with trauma as a child I don’t want to subject a child to that hence why I’m fine being fun aunt
@ipsitaonearth5132
@ipsitaonearth5132 2 дні тому
❤️ even having a few people supporting you can make a difference. Them believing in you more than you believe in yourself, that's a blessing. Let's focus on the positive 🤍
@soullessnstereo
@soullessnstereo 9 місяців тому
The fact the marriage candle beside him has NEVER been lit and her's has burnt down. Every little detail is feminine perfection.
@bubbleslotp2561
@bubbleslotp2561 7 місяців тому
What's a marriage candle? I missed the symbolism on that one
@gessicakaylanedasilva6932
@gessicakaylanedasilva6932 7 місяців тому
@@bubbleslotp2561 i think it represents love, he never really loved her, and with time and abuse her love dies/fades.
@bubbleslotp2561
@bubbleslotp2561 7 місяців тому
@@gessicakaylanedasilva6932 ah, that makes sense
@Cryoniiic
@Cryoniiic 7 місяців тому
God I didn’t even notice that
@solar0wind
@solar0wind 7 місяців тому
Are marriage candles a part of a certain culture? I don't think we have/had them in German culture, but maybe I'm just too uneducated😅
@GemBob123
@GemBob123 Рік тому
This song just epitomises how women's roles are consistently delegitimised. Even the stereotypical housewife is not seen as real 'labour'. Cooking, cleaning, managing the home, taking care of the children is a job. Just because it's not paid, it's seen as somehow 'worth less'. Stunning.
@hassanalkhalaf1115
@hassanalkhalaf1115 Рік тому
But who does stigmatise it? It's not men, it's feminists. They shit on women who are haply to be housewives because how dare they to live happily under a man?! During that conservative men don't expect their wives to work a job and at home because everyone has their assigned roles. Want to quit that? That's cool but many are happy with that as long as they got the choice
@lw9515
@lw9515 Рік тому
​@@hassanalkhalaf1115 "Under a man" is a telling choice of words and sounds miserable by any metric. The women I know were/are housewives and mothers see it as more of a partnership if he's earning.
@hassanalkhalaf1115
@hassanalkhalaf1115 Рік тому
@@lw9515 these aren't my words. It's used by (extreme) feminists to shit on housewives and mothers
@lw9515
@lw9515 Рік тому
​@@hassanalkhalaf1115 I think most people argue that because its a risk. If I had a daughter, I would want her to ensure she still had work history, experience and references to fall back on if her marriage didn't work out. And that she wasn't financially dependent etc.
@hassanalkhalaf1115
@hassanalkhalaf1115 Рік тому
@@lw9515 that's a valid point.
@l33ki-atsuki83
@l33ki-atsuki83 5 місяців тому
I like it when he laughs at first when she crams the pomegranate in her mouth, before losing his smile immediately when he realizes she's serious. 'Humor my silly wife, let her have fun, while she tries to make something of herself, but the second she actually starts to slips from my control...'
@tomydismay
@tomydismay 4 місяці тому
Yessss that's one of my favorite scenes. He captures so much verbal aggression there without saying a word, including an earlier scene where he's eating while staring her down as if to challenge her to say something, to "forget her place" so he can remind her of it... and then she tears into that pomegranate indicating "challenge accepted". It's both astonishing and alarming how well Henry Hayward captured this type of toxic behavior from his subtle expressions to his overt disdain towards her resentment and ultimate rejection of the roles she's been fulfilling for him. Enough is enough.
@giuliapaglialunga6589
@giuliapaglialunga6589 7 місяців тому
“apologies from my tongue never yours” is so real because us women we are always trained to say sorry because “men know better”
@The_Great_Lionheart_2000
@The_Great_Lionheart_2000 Місяць тому
True. But if a woman comes along and tells the truth, then men will immediately be like "women just want to be right"...
@anaionescu8913
@anaionescu8913 Рік тому
The pomegranate is a symbol of renewal and rebirth in some cultures. The fact that that's the food she reaches for as she rebels against her 'master', and devours it hungrily, tells such a powerful story of aggressive protest against oppressors.
@marthadumptruck5102
@marthadumptruck5102 11 місяців тому
The pomegranate is also an established symbol of womanhood- to the Greeks, Gauls, Roma, and in Judaism. It’s been called “the fruit of the womb”. It’s not just renewal/rebirth- she’s claiming her womanhood fully, wholly for herself.
@All-ze9cl
@All-ze9cl 11 місяців тому
Also, idk if this has any relevance to what she is saying, but in the greek myth, Persephone gets trapped in the underworld because she eats hades pomegranate. She has to stay with him during the winter which is why the trees lose their leaves. SO it could be her reclaiming her womanhood and eating the pomegranate in spite of the man.
@horselover40
@horselover40 11 місяців тому
Its also a very difficult fruit to eat and stay relatively clean even when trying. If you just say screw it and go to town it could be seen as a symbol of everything "unladylike" messy, ungraceful, even savage if you go about it right, but true womanhood can easily include all of these things. Even though we often hide them
@rowanfrost8489
@rowanfrost8489 11 місяців тому
Stephen King actually uses the pomegranate symbolism in his book Rose Madder.
@spiffyvanspot
@spiffyvanspot 11 місяців тому
Just adding that it's also theorized the fruit Eve eats in Eden is a pomegranate, not an apple. There's a lot of layers to that choice in the video.
@oliviasonell960
@oliviasonell960 Рік тому
I love how this isn't about a physically abusive relationship but about how the labour demanded of women by patriarchs kills us.
@hassanalkhalaf1115
@hassanalkhalaf1115 Рік тому
And men don't do labour at all? They're all day up to work and get you the money for your house. Both do equal work yet men don't complain about it. Unless there isn't a physical abusive relationship no need to cry
@hassanalkhalaf1115
@hassanalkhalaf1115 Рік тому
@@tiana3416 okay how about you calm down a little bit? I'm pro feminism, which is why I enjoyed this song and the message. It's just so lazy and privileged to cry about having to do housework regardless of gender. I call men out who expect their wife to do everything as well. It's just normal once you set up who's going to be the stay at home parent that it's expected from this person to do labour at home while their partner does labour outside. Also cut me that reversed "men don't cry" bullshit
@user-ed7et3pb4o
@user-ed7et3pb4o Рік тому
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 it’s not equal work. There are many, many studies on how it’s not equal work. If it was equal work, it wouldn’t be so common to have men sitting enjoying themselves at every family gathering while the women are slaving in the kitchen. If it was equal work, my mother wouldn’t have to spend her whole Ramadan cooking while fasting to serve the iftar that the men expect, while they waltz in at the last minute after a whole day of doing nothing just to devour the fruits of a whole day’s labour in mere minutes without so much as a thank you. When you say things like that, you are disrespecting your mother.
@teaganmerriman8395
@teaganmerriman8395 Рік тому
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 Notice how no one agrees with you? Embarrassing.
@northernroyal814
@northernroyal814 Рік тому
@@hassanalkhalaf1115 awww sounds like you’ve never experienced what a woman goes thru 😂
@atraxrobustus4452
@atraxrobustus4452 2 місяці тому
i love the symbolism of the pomegranate, for those who don’t know, pomegranates are a symbol of the ancient greek deity persephone, she was tricked by hades using a pomegranate seed, forever tying her to him and the underworld. they were also adopted as a symbol of the virgin mary representing fertility and femininity. the ancient persians saw pomegranates as a symbol of love and sanctity. beautiful
@erinlayke5452
@erinlayke5452 2 місяці тому
It was also the symbol that Katherine of Aragon used on her coat of arms
@atraxrobustus4452
@atraxrobustus4452 Місяць тому
@@erinlayke5452oh interesting! i wonder if it was a reference to the virgin mary? i love botanic symbolism, it’s fascinating, the things people think about when they see the world around them.
@samaraschachter3612
@samaraschachter3612 4 місяці тому
Here in Brazil, there is a general test, like an entrance exam, to enter any university. The writing is what weighs the most, and this year it was: 'the invisibility of the care work carried out by women', and I mentioned this song.
@xmanu_
@xmanu_ Місяць тому
Wow 👏👏 I was glad when I heard this was theme, it’s a topic that needs to be discussed in our country.
@gi.o.h
@gi.o.h Місяць тому
For ENEM I mentioned the film "Que horas ela volta?" which tells the story of a mother who needs to work as a maid to give her daughter a dignified life. I recommend watching.
@Rye_Toast
@Rye_Toast Місяць тому
I bet you nailed it, I hope you go on to great things and lead your life by your own terms.
@AppreciativeViewer
@AppreciativeViewer Рік тому
These lyrics dig to every woman's core. Therapist, mother, maid, nymph, virgin, nurse, servant, baby machine, an appendage or accessory to someone else's life and dreams. Women are expected to be selfless and do so much "labor" without it even being regarded as such. Why do you suppose self-indulgence and independence are so sought after? Why is it a high bar to want a partner, but not want to become their mother?
@jooniesbonsai4064
@jooniesbonsai4064 Рік тому
And the worse thing is that they even get praised for being selfless when they should have never given up those things in the first place, which even encourages this kind of behaviour, idk if i should say this but it's better to be selfish in this case
@untitledgaming9081
@untitledgaming9081 Рік тому
@@jooniesbonsai4064 to an extent because we don’t want people stealing from their lover just to buy stuff for themselves. So maybe a little selfish but not full on narcissistic
@sarcasticallyrearranged
@sarcasticallyrearranged Рік тому
untitled gaming What in the hell are you on about? Stay on topic because you’re babbling about someone stealing from their lover?
@Sadtoday
@Sadtoday Рік тому
Correct
@Firsona
@Firsona 11 місяців тому
@@untitledgaming9081 I think you missed the point. It's not as much about materiel things, though that's a part of it. No one is saying you should use someone. What we're saying is culturally we were taught that we should not even want to have time or space or things for ourselves. We should be happy to support someone else our entire life.
@samevans1289
@samevans1289 11 місяців тому
"It's not an act of love if you make her." Sex, pregnancy, being a stay-at-home parent, housework, being submissive, and so much more that can apply for that lyric - things and acts that come naturally to many people and/or are done willingly by many and can result from love, that turn into a freaking nightmare when it's imposed on people.
@lesbihonestart9888
@lesbihonestart9888 11 місяців тому
"People". There's only one type of person this is imposed on. It's women.
@LilFrg
@LilFrg 11 місяців тому
It can also apply to forcing a woman to have a career when she wants to be a stay at home mom. Forcing a woman to do anything, but don’t down play societies new hatred of stay at home mothers 🙄
@samevans1289
@samevans1289 11 місяців тому
@@LilFrg Don't turn my comment into a debate by making a skewed and straight-up intentionally wrong reading of the lyric. "It's not an act of love if you make her" - where is the act of love (and towards whom?) in a woman choosing her career as opposed to becoming a homemaker? That's the whole premise of my comment - that doing all those things can be acts of love IF they are not imposed to begin with. I think I was quite clear in my comment.
@lesbihonestart9888
@lesbihonestart9888 11 місяців тому
@@LilFrg domestic labour by women is supremely undervalued for sure. The desire to stay at home with little education and pop out kids doesn't exist in a vacuum tho. You gotta look at how many of these women are raised with strict, traditional misogynistic values that tie their worth to reproduction, how much their education has been limited, and also just the world around them that actually does value women staying in the home at large. Some feminists critiquing the pitfalls of being a stay at home mother - aka the lack of finacial independence should their husband leave/die/get sick/abuse them and also the detriment to little girls being raised with the same misogynistic expectations to follow their mother, as well as the damage to the environment of popping out a bunch of kids, doesn't mean stay at home mothers are societally hated. Look at home many countries in the world do not allow women comprehensive control of when/if they get pregnant. How many deny access to employment or full independence without marriage to a man. How many allow child bride marriage (this includes the USA btw). Society doesn't hate stay at home mums. It hates WOMEN. Whatever role we occupy is unequal and unfair because of this.
@iamsatan8961
@iamsatan8961 11 місяців тому
​@@LilFrg did they say it couldn't? Oh wait.. They didn't you're just creating an argument because you're bored
@NR-ou3hr
@NR-ou3hr 3 місяці тому
This song makes me think of my grandmother in India who was a very strong woman with a high level career - the first woman in her area to ride a motorcycle as well. Through the curse that is arranged marriage she was married off to a man who was jealous of her career position and would do everything he could to put her down and save his fragile ego. She only experienced the full brunt of it after she retired and is now suffering from dementia and haunted by memories of the past, all because she would be shun by society and her own family if she divorced him. Her condition is pathetic and it hurts to see such a fall from a high level career woman to a poor old lady suffering from dementia and depression, still stuck with him until the day she dies. My sisters from all over the world, marriage is NOT the most important thing for a woman in her life. Focus on yourself, your passions, your career, and do NOT let society and family tell you what to do with YOUR life. If you do that, you will be the one suffering in the end. Edit: I freaking love how this comment section is like a big, free therapy session/support group for girls and women all over the world. It’s so wholesome and the definition of sisterhood! 👩 ❤️👩🏼‍🦳 ❤️🧕🏽 ❤️👩🏾 ❤️👵🏾
@Todaysreminder918
@Todaysreminder918 3 місяці тому
❤❤❤
@clearly_a_human
@clearly_a_human 3 місяці тому
Another Indian here! My own grandmother was an award winning sanskrit lecturer. One the most educated women in the family and was about to achieve great heights in germany before they forced her into a marriage. I still remember she told me about her parents slapping her to tell her that she was getting too old and needed to marry for the honour of the family, and the smile on her face when she told that story. Me and my cousins and sisters will do anything to save each other from that fate now, and do our best to fly on our own wings. You have one life and it belongs to no one but you. Do not let anyone steal that from you.
@larafranke1802
@larafranke1802 3 місяці тому
@@clearly_a_human I am so sorry, your grandmother went through this 🫂 I don't know the options back than but as far as I know there are now adresses you can contact if you or any of your family members might be forced into a marriage in Germany. I hope your grandmother got lucky and had a good man, but it is so sad that being the most successful isn't bringing as much if any honor to a family as marrying someone 🤯🤬😭 Love greetings from a German ♥️
@NR-ou3hr
@NR-ou3hr 3 місяці тому
@@clearly_a_human My mother has a friend who is a Chemist and was nominated for the Nobel Prize. It’s funny, she was also in Germany recently! People back home are still harassing her family on why she hasn’t married yet. Direct quote: “Ah what’s the point of her getting Nobel Prize nomination and all? She’s still not married yet.” 😒 Luckily she said that she’s married to the Chemistry lab and now that she’s in her thirties people have started to leave her alone. When will people learn that women are also humans with aspirations???
@clearly_a_human
@clearly_a_human 3 місяці тому
@@NR-ou3hr Nominated for The Noble prize! Such an amazing achievement, so much larger than the marriage that they put importance on! I wonder how many such amazing and talented people we have lost to the curse of family expectations for something as ruining as matrimony. Glad to hear that your mothers friend stayed loyal to her passion and i hope that one day they'll leave me and my sisters alone too lol
@Ghost-zb1gz
@Ghost-zb1gz 6 місяців тому
A reminder to people like me, this song is not only for lovers. It is a father, a brother or a son. It is my father and I am a tired child.
@jessiemayfield6749
@jessiemayfield6749 10 місяців тому
I love the line ‘it’s not an act of love if you make her’ referring to marital/relationship sexual assault blending perfectly into her complaint of being forced to do and be too many things. It’s subtle but important
@kadenceblack8927
@kadenceblack8927 9 місяців тому
It’s truly horrifying that so many people believe rape can’t happen in a marriage. That is a disgusting view to have and is entirely untrue. Consent is always needed, regardless of relationship
@kaosooll
@kaosooll 8 місяців тому
I hope and pray that all of us women never experience this kind of pain. ❤️‍🩹
@BadActingWYIM
@BadActingWYIM 8 місяців тому
@@kadenceblack8927 its disgusting how brain washed we all are. i remember onw time I was sexually assaulted by my boss and girls were telling me not to tell his wife or blaming me. Saying the wife wont believe me anyway or ill just cause the child to grow up with a single parent. wtf? he gave me a raise suddenly the next day but i left. gross
@matthewbates9629
@matthewbates9629 7 місяців тому
I mean it sucks that happened but what do you expect and if you told the higher ups they would make you sign an affidavit legally binding you to not say anything leaving was the best choice you made in my opinion
@BrittanytheHealthyLady
@BrittanytheHealthyLady 7 місяців тому
And now that you wrote this it makes sense even more 😢
@taylorbalon6488
@taylorbalon6488 Рік тому
This song unleashed something very scary and emotional inside me. It’s like suddenly I’m feeling all the grief, suffering and anger of every women since the dawn of time.
@miriamschmitz394
@miriamschmitz394 Рік тому
Exactly and it connects you to your female ancestors
@jessicam.3438
@jessicam.3438 Рік тому
i love this comment paired with your icon
@taylorbalon6488
@taylorbalon6488 Рік тому
@@jessicam.3438 LMAOOO thank u :))
@Farbklex94
@Farbklex94 11 місяців тому
This is how I felt, but I couldn't put it into words.
@user-gv2mc3db8v
@user-gv2mc3db8v 11 місяців тому
Literally, just wow.
@TheMetalButcher
@TheMetalButcher 4 місяці тому
I'm a single guy, so not your typical listener, but this song is a masterpiece on many levels.
@atomicpbj5649
@atomicpbj5649 4 місяці тому
Same.
@chanutamari2120
@chanutamari2120 4 місяці тому
And I am glad that even guys feel that this song is a masterpiece! ❤❤
@skycub
@skycub 4 місяці тому
Real, got recommended this on Spotify. The world play is nuts
@famine3141
@famine3141 4 місяці тому
same
@Userinterfaceexperience
@Userinterfaceexperience 3 місяці тому
Thanks gents ❤
@Kwa_OwenZ
@Kwa_OwenZ 5 місяців тому
“So he never lifts a finger” as an African woman I need that line a bit louder sis
@annabelle6770
@annabelle6770 11 місяців тому
1:55 "if we had a daughter i'd watch and could not save her" this part brings tears to my eyes every time i listen
@cutiepienico5600
@cutiepienico5600 11 місяців тому
Same cried when first heared that line hit me hard😢
@wordwoman9900
@wordwoman9900 10 місяців тому
I am that daughter. I saved myself. But my mom still cried when I pointed it out in adulthood and she realized what growing up under my father's thumb was actually like.
@alexwhyley2786
@alexwhyley2786 10 місяців тому
@@wordwoman9900Sammmmmme. That part made me sob instantly soon as I heard it. So sad and cruel that it’s such a universal experience so many wives and daughters can relate to.
@kanaksikarwar223
@kanaksikarwar223 10 місяців тому
Actually they can save bit they choose not to! That's how times are changing. The more you support your daughter the more you are saving her from all of this.
@PerfectlyDeranged
@PerfectlyDeranged 10 місяців тому
This hit me hard too. I left. I wasn’t going to watch my daughter grow up thinking how I was being treated was anywhere near okay. That the example for her would to be bullied, beaten down, insulted, gaslit, manipulated, tricked and deceived while I worked my ass off to look after a man child. It wasn’t happening. I cut my losses for her sake and I thank god every day that I did.
@lachlainegordon806
@lachlainegordon806 Рік тому
When she grabbed the pomegranate to signify her enjoying the fruits of her own labour was just YASSSSSSS and pomegranates have long been a symbol of womanhood bc they represent periods. I LOVE THIS SO MUCH
@chembabe8264
@chembabe8264 Рік тому
And blood... it signifies blood
@quizyjest1616
@quizyjest1616 Рік тому
Plus in Greek Mythology pomegranates are seen as a fruit of fertility, hence their signifying of blood but more specifically menstration. Additionally, in other faiths pomegrantes are seen as a fruit of gods, so her eating it is a symbol of defiance, not unlike Eve in Abrahamic faiths.
@iamV10010
@iamV10010 Рік тому
​@@chembabe8264 can't tell if you're adding to the original comment by saying the pomegranate also signifies blood or if you're making fun of it in an"it ain't that deep" way. Please clarify so I may respond accordingly.
@ponypony2905
@ponypony2905 Рік тому
AND it's also present as the fruit that sentenced Persephone for life with Hades in the underworld, despite her protests I MEAN ITS SO BADASS
@AgentLane13
@AgentLane13 Рік тому
@@chembabe8264 boy have I got news for you about the connection between menstruation and blood
@jodirook71
@jodirook71 2 місяці тому
A man may work from sun to sun, but a woman's work is never done.
@Bell_plejdo568p
@Bell_plejdo568p 11 днів тому
How is it never done?
@wasifabul2545
@wasifabul2545 9 днів тому
@@Bell_plejdo568p basically they mean to say that motherhood and taking care of the house is work that is never truly complete
@empuwm
@empuwm 3 місяці тому
Left a toxic relationship with a 43 year old man who groomed me since i was 17 after i had just gotten out of a break up and he took advantage of my vulnerable state. I never knew i was being groomed. Still hurts. But im free
@highlandangel-885
@highlandangel-885 3 місяці тому
Good for you, Merry Christmas! ✨🎅🏻🎄☃️✨
@ekbutterflyink
@ekbutterflyink 2 місяці тому
Good for you! I’m sure it’s got to be incredibly hard to go through! ❤️
@punpkinpi2015
@punpkinpi2015 Рік тому
I just noticed a very incredible little detail in the candle she lights for herself in the beginning. Throughout the song you can see it burning lower and lower, and by the end when she's disappeared, its at the bottom and the wick is the only one blown out. Both her and the candle were burnt out, and so she left. I love the attention to little things like this in music videos, makes the story all that much stronger and shows how much love was put into making it. EDIT: I just noticed the man's candle is not only longer but is never lit. He's never having to burn himself out on any domestic labor whatsoever.
@alexwulf9150
@alexwulf9150 Рік тому
Also the pitch of her voice seems to follow this pattern as well, the high, timid childlike beginning slowly sliding into low, strong, mature end.
@irenequarena2064
@irenequarena2064 Рік тому
and can we also point out the fact that she ripped apart a pomegranate, and started eating exactly that fruit? the remind to Greek mythology and the myth of Persephone, trapped and tricked by Hades with 4 pomegranate seeds to stay with him in "Hell" for 4 months a year? what always represented oppression in symbolism now is the key to freedom and also the fact that all she eats reminds of a blood-ish color might also represent the fact that she got so tired of hanging on that she quite literally eat her heart out, such a beautiful song and meaning also through images
@Gabi24492
@Gabi24492 Рік тому
​@@irenequarena2064 curious enough, Hades was probably the best olympian husband by far
@ugetsuapologist5310
@ugetsuapologist5310 Рік тому
@@Gabi24492 very low standards in greek mythologies but their relationship was the definition of grooming and should not be glorified.
@jhunt5578
@jhunt5578 Рік тому
"On any labour whatsoever" Yes because men don't do any work do they. Smh
@lucreziabenelli4521
@lucreziabenelli4521 Рік тому
This song is like 1000 times better than I could’ve ever imagined. It really captures the feeling of being a woman during all History. It has such feminine rage that we can all feel it through the screen
@ilsedevries2529
@ilsedevries2529 Рік тому
Have you heard her song 'fruits' ? It is also a lot of femine rage combined with witch vibes
@lucreziabenelli4521
@lucreziabenelli4521 Рік тому
@@ilsedevries2529 I actually did. Thanks to TikTok I did a tour of all her music, and I’m utterly in love with “fruits”. But thank you anyway for the suggestion ☺️
@aceonmaces_dolphins
@aceonmaces_dolphins Рік тому
I totally agree and I also want to point out to support your statement that when she's eating the pomegranate, it splatters and it stains her fingers and chin. It resembles blood and the eaten pomegranate bears a scary resemblance to organs. I think that part really exemplifies the female rage that the video is projecting where she's so angry from the mistreatment that her husband shows her and that's a murder stare if I've ever seen one.
@lucreziabenelli4521
@lucreziabenelli4521 Рік тому
@@aceonmaces_dolphins Yes, I totally see what you’re saying. I also loved that she seemed to enjoy eating the pomegranate, and with that regain the power she lost while with him, and “freaking him out”
@damepasty9203
@damepasty9203 11 місяців тому
​@@lucreziabenelli4521 I have heard that the fruit that Eve actually ate that got her and Adam kicked out of the garden of Eden was mistranslated as an apple. They say it was more likely a pomegranate.
@TinyLittleRabbit
@TinyLittleRabbit 5 місяців тому
This song hits me so hard. My ex was exactly like this. Expected me to wait on him hand and foot and said that we WERE going to have children and adoption and surrogacy were not options, despite knowing I never want children. I was just an incubator to him. Just one month after I left him, I had my tubes taken out so no man can EVER try to take that decision from me again. Best choice I've ever made.
@magickalmundane
@magickalmundane 6 місяців тому
Knowing this generation of girls will be raised up on this song, taught to save themselves instead of looking for a savior, helps to heal my heart with every replay.
@DK-gc8od
@DK-gc8od 11 місяців тому
Can we just talk about how clever the line, “Nymph then a virgin” is like it just ties in the impossible standards that men have for women so perfectly. They are expected to have the bedroom experience of a nymph and be sexually arousing or seductive without ever actually having had sex before so they can still fulfil their sick fantasies of an untried virgin. Like, its all just so frustrating and impossible
@antidote351
@antidote351 11 місяців тому
Really on point. Nothing really has changed since medieval times, but now we got also entitled polygamists and pornculture and many pick me's enabling this depravity, saying it'd be empowering..
@LovesGaming37
@LovesGaming37 10 місяців тому
Males want virgins but then pressure women to ha e sex with them and when the woman does, she's called easy and a slut. We women can't ever win. We are damned if we do and damned if we don't
@bmoe4609
@bmoe4609 10 місяців тому
Yup
@bmoe4609
@bmoe4609 10 місяців тому
​@@antidote351 nothing wrong with porn n im a woman. U gotta find the ones geared for us women on our pleasure
@empress.bijira
@empress.bijira 10 місяців тому
​@Radfem Tahlia i certainly hope when you mean all misogyny you mean *all* misogyny, which includes the misogyny that targets our trans sisters
@brandiswingley521
@brandiswingley521 11 місяців тому
I burst a capillary in my eye giving birth to my first daughter 12 years ago, and then pumped milk for her in a supply closet while she was under the lights for jaundice. It was so painful I bled, while her father told me my eye disgusted him and mooed at me for feeding her. When I made him food he didn't like, he'd spit it out into my hand. I'll probably never pay off the loans I took out to help support us both. It's been a decade, but the rage this song stirred in me is overwhelming.
@justasadgirl
@justasadgirl 11 місяців тому
I am so sorry you had go trough that
@brandiswingley521
@brandiswingley521 11 місяців тому
@@justasadgirl I'm okay! I made it through, and all that life gave me and took from him almost makes me believe in a benevolent god lol. Everything he was ever proud of is gone and he's alone. I married the love of my life and couldn't physically be happier. Women can survive and grow in the worst conditions. ♥️
@sthecoolbro4357
@sthecoolbro4357 11 місяців тому
you are so incredibly strong, your daughter will grow with an amazing roll model
@brandiswingley521
@brandiswingley521 11 місяців тому
@@sthecoolbro4357 thanks friend ♥️
@eltheducc5576
@eltheducc5576 11 місяців тому
this is a heartbreaking story, I’m so glad you made it out. Some women have never escaped this type of situation and it breaks my heart. I’m so glad you’re doing better ❤
@bridgetmadden5716
@bridgetmadden5716 5 місяців тому
"Someone who I thought was my saviour." So many young girls would marry to get away from their parents, only to realise it was out of the frying pan and into the fire...
@itsmejulia1
@itsmejulia1 3 місяці тому
Growing up I hated my mother, because she was always one small mistake away from a full-on rage she'd let out on me. Nowadays I start to understand why things were this way. She worked full-time, she took care of me, she cleaned the house every weekend and she cooked a warm meal for us every day. She was working 24/7 , of course she'd feel frustrated. And when my dad would come home from work, his work would be done for the day. I know my dad, and I know that if she'd asked for help he'd have refused. I understand her a bit better now, even though none of that excuses letting your frustration out on the child. My fiancé and I know better now not to let things get this way.
@emiliakaakyo
@emiliakaakyo 18 днів тому
Thank you for sharing your experience for making the invisible toll on children visible and for looking back with empathy and compassion. Your mom was constantly in survive mode and when in survive mode you are always one wave short of a shipwreck.
@awk-wordwriter7179
@awk-wordwriter7179 Рік тому
The ending of this gives me chills. I remember my mother and her bf locking up the pantry and being the only sibling who had a key. My mother was never home or when she was she'd lock herself in her room. Her bf was no help. So I had to cook for a household of five. Always serving myself last. My brothers yelling at me and throwing tantrums because they wanted snack food as opposed to the meal I had just slaved over. I remember having it drilled into me that it was my job to watch my younger brothers. That girls mature slower. That men have needs, so I shouldn't be so harsh. I remember staying home from events to make sure my brothers ate. Being told it was my fault if the family was ripped apart. My mother to this day will claim that I was never a problem child, but when I tell her I was suffering silently she plays the victim. I remember my church wanting me at their private school, but not my brothers. Because I was a meek obedient young "woman" and they were "rowdy boys" When this character served herself, not caring for manners, just for her hunger, I felt that. She saw the fruits of her labour as her own and decided to reap the benefits, to take care of herself first. Before fleeing this one sided, one way, relationship that did nothing but take and take. This song captures the pain of being viewed as nothing more than someone's mother, wife, daughter etc... As well as the release you feel when you realize you are so much more than that.
@Tiana.1.12
@Tiana.1.12 Рік тому
I am so sorry you had to go through that. You're so unbelieveable strong and brave I really hope you're doing okay and got the help you needed! Please take care of yourself and stay safe!
@deanndrakidd
@deanndrakidd Рік тому
Girls mature faster than boys (biologically and mentally- science backs this up)...... oof I'm so sorry that you grew up dealing with that load of rot
@christyanarose
@christyanarose Рік тому
I am sorry u had to go through that... Wow... Love to you. ❤❤❤ ❤️❤️❤️ and I think the artist has succeeded ...
@YourMindinBloom
@YourMindinBloom Рік тому
hugs for you
@-N-Y-M-P-H-O-L-O-G-Y-
@-N-Y-M-P-H-O-L-O-G-Y- Рік тому
Hugs!
@OKHolly
@OKHolly 11 місяців тому
I can't get over the line "You weaponize incompetence...it's dominance under guise." I never thought of it that way before, but men feigning incompetence truly is just another way to control women. It's so insidious and blows my mind.
@tima7814
@tima7814 11 місяців тому
it's very calculated but at the same time it's so obvious, it makes you think of something a toddler would come up with. speaks to the amount of emotional maturity men are accepted to have vs. what women are beholden too.
@paigelarrabee3143
@paigelarrabee3143 11 місяців тому
It can also be interpreted as him weaponizing her perceived incompetence to do things so only he can do it and so she has to rely on him.
@Irisicaaa
@Irisicaaa 11 місяців тому
I've seen it in my father a million times
@amandavlam9656
@amandavlam9656 11 місяців тому
I think it's important to note it's "you weaponize false incompetence" too because everyone involved knows it's an act and is just supposed to go along with it
@salaahkhayr2398
@salaahkhayr2398 11 місяців тому
Military, blue collar jobs are saying hello. Oh damn women have it so sooo bad lol.
@ForgottenMan2009
@ForgottenMan2009 4 місяці тому
On a lighter note, anybody who can get 'capillaries' into a song ought to get a special award! !
@rlorendean
@rlorendean 3 місяці тому
I am literally scared to go to your next song. 5 days, I heard you 5 days ago, I have engaged in 4 arguments with males in my family, warned my 3 unmarried young adult sons living with me that I am no longer silent. They are going to learn that patriarchal characteristics that are no longer allowed in this house and how their future spouses, male or female, will not be living with the weaponized incompetence I have been subjected to. My husband is now has been forced to listen to the song and hear the parallels of how it has trickled down to now. In my household, (at least) things are going to change or get nasty. I'm 61. Never to late to teach a lesson. Ms. Paloma, you have changed people. I just needed someone to shove it in my face. May I suggest updated lyrics more modern, hitting home to a new generation with the same hypnotic melody?. All I know is every time I see someone in the massage chair watching football while I clean, they should feel very, very uneasy. In your next song, I am wary. What ghosts are you going to resurrect that need to be addressed? I am almost giddy with the possible power.
@Userinterfaceexperience
@Userinterfaceexperience 3 місяці тому
Exactly ❤
@jrmetmoi
@jrmetmoi 3 місяці тому
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@rubinfeuerherz3799
@rubinfeuerherz3799 3 місяці тому
bless u❤
@pinklov4447
@pinklov4447 2 місяці тому
beautifully written. i am so sorry ur going through this.
@Promance2300
@Promance2300 2 місяці тому
If you have three unmarried adult sons living with you who don't know how to do the basics to take care of themselves well... It was probably you who failed them right along with your husband - who you picked.
@linbbzz8855
@linbbzz8855 8 місяців тому
I love how he refuses to listen to her chanting in the end. But when he does, and that’s also when the chanting stops, she is gone. What a powerful double meaning. Not only does he finally start to pay her attention ones it’s over and not during her words, but also: it’s too late now.
@kutter721
@kutter721 8 місяців тому
rather reminds me of the "walkaway wife" syndrome - when women have asked and asked and begged and ultimately get ignored, then they're surprised when she leaves, like she did it with no warning.
@scorchedroseproductions3266
@scorchedroseproductions3266 7 місяців тому
@@kutter721 this almost happened to my husband and I, but he got the wake up call and has improved substantially. There's still work to do on his part, but he's making great strides and I had begged and begged and begged. But it did take me almost leaving for it to happen
@williamsstephens
@williamsstephens 6 місяців тому
​@@kutter721 I warned him. And yes, he was surprised anyway.
@mightykaytor
@mightykaytor 6 місяців тому
There's a fairly well-known essay online by a divorced writer called "She left me because I left the dishes by the sink" or something very like that wherein the gist (kindly broken down for men by a man) is that it was NEVER about the dishes but his lack of consideration and sense of entitlement that destroyed the relationship. Should be eecommended reading before cohabitating with someone.
@Evija3000
@Evija3000 6 місяців тому
​@@kutter721 I work in a court, including divorce cases, and indeed it's always the men who don't understand why she filed for a divorce. The weirdest case was when two elderly people had married. She wanted a divorce not long after because he treated her like a full on nurse and caregiver. He seemed unable to grasp the issue, said he still loved her, etc. Seemed like a romantic type, completely oblivious to the practical burden he was putting on his wife.
@luxluther436
@luxluther436 Рік тому
“So he never lifts a finger” can have two meanings. One, he never does work. Two, so he doesn’t hit.
@glengamble526
@glengamble526 Рік тому
No, here it seems to have only one meaning, in context of the song-it’s called ‘labour’ and he ‘never lifts a finger’ to help. Period.
@glengamble526
@glengamble526 11 місяців тому
@@AutumnRose.. nope. Words have meaning. And context.
@yashny
@yashny 11 місяців тому
The first one for sure
@queenofbooks9526
@queenofbooks9526 11 місяців тому
or three, so he never points a finger and accuses, aka emotional labour
@namtellectjoonal7230
@namtellectjoonal7230 11 місяців тому
I didn't make that connection before I read your comment, thank you for the insight
@carloslanda8256
@carloslanda8256 7 місяців тому
Masterpiece. Shoutout to all the hardworking Moms and housewives, grandmas etc. y’all deserve to be treated like queens
@kaosooll
@kaosooll 7 місяців тому
Men are so stupid and hypocritical. You're all acting like one
@csecrecy
@csecrecy 7 місяців тому
​@@kaosooll wtf is your problem, *your* comment is hypocritical.
@KnockingONwood1111
@KnockingONwood1111 5 місяців тому
👊
@813greeneyedgirl
@813greeneyedgirl 3 місяці тому
As a woman married to a supportive and respectful partner, I still feel this in my bones for my ancestors, my mother, my sisters. So powerful!
@imhere9034
@imhere9034 Рік тому
I’m so glad it’s 4 minutes long. Most people create tiktok hype for just 2 minute songs but this was just beautiful.
@redmasquerade13
@redmasquerade13 Рік тому
Came here to say this!!
@drendraleigh4722
@drendraleigh4722 Рік тому
It's 4 minutes and somehow I still think it's too short so I listen on repeat
@oliverxhmll
@oliverxhmll Рік тому
listen to her other songs. I had no doubt it'd be good cause she's actually a talented musician
@Sarah-vi8px
@Sarah-vi8px Рік тому
It's so refreshing seeing a song that's even better whole than just its viral tiktok hook
@soulmana1010
@soulmana1010 Рік тому
the people who make the song arent the same that "create" tiktok hype, a single person doesnt have control on how popular something they post will be. i'm glad y'all arent dissapointed, but i hope you dont give other indenpendant artists a hard time when their song preview doesnt live up to the hype they have no control over
@itswhatever5043
@itswhatever5043 10 місяців тому
I love the line “Apologies for my tongue, but never yours” because women are expected to be quiet and submissive, not loud and outspoken like men. But the line also sounds like it could be “Apologies from my tongue” as women feel like they have to apologize for every little thing while men get a free pass. Simply amazing lyrics.
@amyr9909
@amyr9909 9 місяців тому
This song has so many lines that hit you like a sack of bricks that it's easy to miss some of them like this one here. Thank you for pointing it out.
@iicriss5648
@iicriss5648 9 місяців тому
!!!
@Schizofre
@Schizofre 9 місяців тому
Too bad it's completely disconnected from reality
@girlgamer6678
@girlgamer6678 9 місяців тому
​@shizotericar4524 dude, it's absolutely a thing. By all means my dad isn't abusive, at least not to me and it's not like he yells at or beats my mom but my dad's always asking for the littlest things and when he doesn't get that he sorta makes a fuss, my mom apologises for the smallest shit and can't talk back to him without being silenced, demeaned or ignored. It's not like he's the worker and she just takes care if the house, neither. She works more hours than him and makes more money, and he does pretty much nothing either than work a couple hours, does manual labor and does the taxes sometimes. Like I appreciate him and love him, he's a good guy, does what he can and is a caring father but women are absolutely silenced and have to apologize for speaking.
@mishidesu
@mishidesu 9 місяців тому
@@Schizofre Probably from yours but your reality is not everyone's reality.
@eliza6876
@eliza6876 7 місяців тому
This song is how I've felt my entire life. Women aren't toys for you to play with, we're human too.
@Plathologist
@Plathologist 2 місяці тому
I think it is also significant how the term labour can also refer to how women have been looked at from a "child bearing machine" perspective. Specially the fact that the song not only talks about how there is a "silence in the bed chamber" but also how "its not an act of love of you make her" referring to sex without consent or warmth of emotional intimacy. Marital rape has always been trivialised and sadly it's no different even now.
@selma7452
@selma7452 2 місяці тому
That’s a great interpretation, I didn’t think of that!
@egghead_felix
@egghead_felix 11 місяців тому
This song is the most perfect representation of female rage I've ever seen. I have chills.
@lovemycats2009
@lovemycats2009 11 місяців тому
agreed! especially when the little girls are screaming along to the song in the background. gives literal chills
@MushroomCloudOfDoom
@MushroomCloudOfDoom 11 місяців тому
Ditto. Had this on repeat for two days now and I’m ready to start a riot. Feminine rage is such a powerful thing
@salaahkhayr2398
@salaahkhayr2398 11 місяців тому
Imagine men make one because of military, blue collar jobs, war!!! But hey, men have it so easy damn lol.
@l.r.4006
@l.r.4006 11 місяців тому
​@salaah khayr those are seperate issues. this song is specifically about abusive relationships that women get trapped in. How about instead of complaining here, you make your own music?
@salaahkhayr2398
@salaahkhayr2398 11 місяців тому
@@l.r.4006 I’m pretty sure it’s more about things women are socially associated with more than abuse. Tc
@yashny
@yashny 11 місяців тому
Let's raise our children differently so our daughters don't have to go through this
@yl508
@yl508 11 місяців тому
Sons too, so that they don't feel entitled to such servitude and get used to being treated like little babies by their wives who are not their maids
@yashny
@yashny 11 місяців тому
@@yl508 yes definitely.. I think if we raise children of both genders with domestic skills then neither will feel entitled to be taken care of especially boys
@yl508
@yl508 11 місяців тому
@@yashny as a mom of a baby boy, I couldn't agree more. I'll definitely show my son how to cook and do chores
@yashny
@yashny 11 місяців тому
​@@yl508 I'm so glad to hear that from a mother! Your son will grow up to be a wonderful man. I wish you well :)
@yl508
@yl508 11 місяців тому
@@yashny thank you, I wish you well too ✨️
@zebraskin
@zebraskin 5 місяців тому
This song makes me cry, mainly at the "if we had a daughter" part as I feel I failed my daughter (a tween). Her father projected himself to be the type of man I would want, after I gave birth that changed. I worked till the day I gave birth, saved every penny to try to start my own (home) business after my daughter was born. He never helped at all. I asked him to watch her for 1 hour after work a day, so I could work on my business and it was too much for him, even after I went back to work. I can't even tell you how many charts I made of my time vs his time. Then he put his hands around my neck for the first and only time and I left that night. I left the house I bought before I ever met him, and moved back with my dad. I let him live there rent free for months. I'm still battiling him to this day. He treats my daughter like shit calling her a "stupid girl" (from a self proclamied feminist) and shoves her against walls threating to hit her. I can't do anything legally till he does something to her. The courts even recently gave him 50/50 custody, something he didn't try for until he got married, to pass off to his new wife as he works from the time she gets off of school till after her bed time. Almost everytime I pick her up from his house she is crying. My partner now is amazing, he's a great step dad, what I wish had been her father. He has been my partner for 10+ years and she loves him to death. I just wish I hadn't failed her, but they often trick you. He is emotionally torturing her as he does me now, and she is learning thats normal from him.
@hungry_girl211
@hungry_girl211 5 місяців тому
Don't know who you are but I'm Hella proud. My mother has a similar story and it was hell to go through. I'm glad you were brave and I admire your strength. Best of luck for the rest of your future ❤
@pamelacrosby281
@pamelacrosby281 2 місяці тому
Maybe your daughter could record him calling her names?
@yashny
@yashny 26 днів тому
Please try to get some kind of evidence. Maybe text messages or a small camera on herself or her bag so it records abusive events. I also suggest to please send her to therapy or counselling. There could be free ones in learning centres. Women tend to choose people like their fathers later on after child abuse because it feels familiar and they don't even realize it at first. I hope your daughter doesn't go through that 😢
@zebraskin
@zebraskin 3 дні тому
I feel like I should update. I have documented all of things mentioned in this post and more via email or written correspondence. Unfortunately, in my state, unless he is leaving marks, he's in the ok.... but things changed in that matter a couple of months ago. I have talked to my cousin who worked for CPS and have taken the best routes for our situation. Things are looking much better, and in a year will hopefully bet better. Sorry for being so vague, but I don't want to mess with anything right now. I appreciate all the replies made to me.
@zebraskin
@zebraskin 3 дні тому
@yashny Thank you for your reply. I have had her in therapy for years and will continue to do so. I hope my husband helps with her influence on how men should treat women, though so far she has mainly had girlfriends. While I haven't told her the exact reasons why me and her father split I have always told her "I believe what you tell me cause he did similar to me" and try to give her advice. We had a grown up family meeting recently, between my partner, ex and his wife, feel it's important his wife is from an evangelical religion (as is my mother), virgin until they married (which was something he told me back when we dated he wanted, which I'm far from) with little dating experience. I brought up his multiple times threatening her physically before he did, and she tried to act snotty towards me (they like to use my nuerodivergence against me, which also will help me in court as our kid is ND) and I was able to throw his own words to it.
@kmladwig2666
@kmladwig2666 5 місяців тому
The way that, in the chorus, you can hear children singing as well shows that these roles are esstablished at a young age.
@realvikingqueen7967
@realvikingqueen7967 5 місяців тому
Women choir, no children...✌
@kmladwig2666
@kmladwig2666 5 місяців тому
@@realvikingqueen7967 My bad. My statement still stands that it's taught from a young age.
@eleni00
@eleni00 Рік тому
LYRICS: Why are you hanging on So tight To the rope that I’m hanging from Off this island This was an escape plan Carefully timed it So let me go And dive into the waves below Who tends the orchards? Who fixes up the gables Emotional torture From the head of your high table Who fetches the water From the rocky mountain spring And walk back down again To feel you words and their sharp sting And I’m getting fucking tired The capillaries in my eyes are bursting If our love died, would that be the worst thing? For somebody I thought was my saviour You sure make me do a whole lot of labour The calloused skin on my hands is cracking If our love ended, would that be a bad thing? As the silence haunts our bed chamber You make me do too much labour Apologies from my tongue Never yours Busy lapping from flowing cup And stabbing with your fork I know you’re a smart man And weaponise The false incompetence It’s dominance under guise If we had a daughter I’d watch and could not save her The emotional torture From the head of your high table She’d do what you taught her She’d meet the same cruel fate So now I’ve gotta run So I can undo this mistake At least I’ve gotta try The capillaries in my eyes are bursting If our love died, would that be the worst thing? For somebody I thought was my saviour You sure make me do a whole lot of labour The calloused skin on my hands is cracking If our love ended, would that be a bad thing? As the silence haunts our bed chamber You make me do too much labour All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid Nymph then virgin, nurse and a servant Just an appendage, live to attend him So that he never lifts a finger 24/7 baby machine So he can live out his picket fence dreams It’s not an act of love if you make her You make me do too much labour
@VickiLovesDoctorWho
@VickiLovesDoctorWho Рік тому
It sounds like "to the rope that I'm hanging from" to me
@marionapina
@marionapina Рік тому
Thanks homie
@call_me_ace_
@call_me_ace_ Рік тому
Thanks bro
@i_draw_whatever1677
@i_draw_whatever1677 Рік тому
Thanks so much
@jennivamp5
@jennivamp5 Рік тому
Thank you thank you 😁❤️
@Kacierepellla
@Kacierepellla 10 місяців тому
My mom just left my abusive dad after 37 years of emotional torture, and I am beyond proud of her. I just sent this to her, if you see this mom, I love you!
@dont_harsh_my_mellow
@dont_harsh_my_mellow 10 місяців тому
Congratulations! I’m sure your mother is deserving of better. 🎉
@Country--teen
@Country--teen 10 місяців тому
You GO girl :D happy your out of thay
@majasteinchen
@majasteinchen 10 місяців тому
Hey, Kacies Mom! You are not alone! You can be proud of yourself. I wish you a lot of strength and love ❤
@pcplumx4367
@pcplumx4367 10 місяців тому
I'm currently trying to find the strength your mother had
@lovematilda
@lovematilda 10 місяців тому
@@pcplumx4367 i have faith in you!!!
@bumbleB1
@bumbleB1 5 місяців тому
This song always makes me think about my grandmother who gave up her dream of being an architect because that "wasn't a job women did".
@everlastingpika1454
@everlastingpika1454 5 місяців тому
I love how even after all that labor she cant even enjoy the fruits of her labor. And I like how she didn't just show a normal meal. She showed an excessive amount of food showing that it's not the normal amount of work that kills us, but the overwhelming burden of giving our husband's (whether or not we want them) our all and even more.
@gaillinruiters
@gaillinruiters 11 місяців тому
I'm not even a wife yet, not even a girlfriend, but this song took a chainsaw to my soul. Sitting here silently while my rage is simmering for every women going through this.
@Michael-st9ky
@Michael-st9ky 11 місяців тому
No one dares mention what the men go through
@cabitsuchild9700
@cabitsuchild9700 11 місяців тому
@@Michael-st9ky women aren’t in positions of power to change things for men. But everyone women I know agree things are bad for men too hence this song about Labour I for one would be more than happy to split chores and work full time the main problem being have the choice to do this I’ve met many men who have these picket fence dreams who don’t want their women to have equality- feminism helps men and women
@cutmehtwice
@cutmehtwice 11 місяців тому
@@Michael-st9ky Bro, why should women sing a song for us lmfao 💀. It’s our own fault anyways, since we were the one who created the goofy ahh standards anyway. Stop crying and go make a song if you’re so mad.
@drea7421
@drea7421 10 місяців тому
​@@Michael-st9ky bet u never actually mention mens issues unless its to undermine womens😂
@strawberrysangria1474
@strawberrysangria1474 10 місяців тому
@@Michael-st9ky So, when's your song coming out, or did you want Paris Paloma to do that for you? You make her do too much labour!
@xPrincessGarnetXVI
@xPrincessGarnetXVI 11 місяців тому
I love how the song is introduced with this eloquent and poetic tongue and then right before the chorus she breaks out of it and goes "and I'm getting fucking tired." The shift is so perfect, so spicy and beautiful. It's just another aspect placed on women she is breaking away from - that swearing and speaking aggressively or speaking out in general is not seen as "lady-like." This woman is an absolute genius.
@sophialakota
@sophialakota 10 місяців тому
🙌
@Anastasi.R
@Anastasi.R 9 місяців тому
Wow, such a nice observation ❤
@FishieFishFosh
@FishieFishFosh 9 місяців тому
English teachers having a feast on this song oml
@xPrincessGarnetXVI
@xPrincessGarnetXVI 9 місяців тому
@@FishieFishFosh my thoughts exactly lol
@briar2603
@briar2603 8 місяців тому
also at the end she breaks out of it too!! honestly it was kinda funny to hear at first because of all this amazing poetry and metaphors and stuff and then suddenly "24/7 baby machine" but it really makes sense if you analyze it. she seems so done at the end.
@BeccaFaye1314
@BeccaFaye1314 3 місяці тому
This was my most listened to song on Spotify of 2023.
@SlightlyDisturbed123
@SlightlyDisturbed123 2 місяці тому
"It's not an act of love if you make her." Fucking hits home.
@aesthetic_writer
@aesthetic_writer 11 місяців тому
A message to future generations: Don't let this song die
@snortsalineoflavender
@snortsalineoflavender 11 місяців тому
@@donavenbruce9939 why is this important rn?
@captainfiri7619
@captainfiri7619 10 місяців тому
​@@donavenbruce9939 how about no
@This_is_weird
@This_is_weird 10 місяців тому
@@donavenbruce9939 okay Bruce of course of course, now let’s get u to bed
@donavenbruce9939
@donavenbruce9939 10 місяців тому
@@This_is_weird of course of course, you cannot talk to a horse 🐴
@strawberrysangria1474
@strawberrysangria1474 10 місяців тому
@@donavenbruce9939 What exactly is your value? Big man go make money? Little ladies can do it too, and they can fold their own laundry. If that's all, then you aren't needed.
@Catseye189
@Catseye189 8 місяців тому
My marriage fitted to song! I worked, he refused to work. He had an "oops" and I got pregnant. I raised the children, cleaned the home, payed back his debts when he stole from people. I treated the infections when he cheated on me. He was always so snide, so condesending, mean. Free (divorced) 13 years this July!!!!
@moonlitSapphire3691
@moonlitSapphire3691 8 місяців тому
So proud of you! Wish you all the best!❤
@RevyT-js7ui
@RevyT-js7ui 8 місяців тому
The fact that I haven't had an infection since I kicked out my ex and reading this is MINDBLOWING (2 and a half years)
@Catseye189
@Catseye189 8 місяців тому
@@moonlitSapphire3691 Thank you so much!
@Catseye189
@Catseye189 8 місяців тому
@@RevyT-js7ui Right! Good for you
@A_Latte-CoffeCup
@A_Latte-CoffeCup 7 місяців тому
Good job ❤ Wish you the best for you and your children
@ashleycatron3330
@ashleycatron3330 Місяць тому
Ultimately, women need to learn to save themselves. This song is epic. Every lyric hits
@summerschultz
@summerschultz 6 місяців тому
I had a son 4 months ago. I was doing everything his other parent wasnt helping at all. I finally snapped and left. I couldnt do it. I took MY son and left. He will be raised in a house hold where he will know what needs to be done and how to do it. And so much more.
@jenniferlynne3314
@jenniferlynne3314 6 місяців тому
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
@zebraskin
@zebraskin 5 місяців тому
I feel this in my bones, same (except he also finally put his hands around my neck), I'm 10 years post and a bit of unsolicited advice, get a good lawyer and document everything. Even if you feel you don't need to do it.
@summerschultz
@summerschultz 5 місяців тому
@@zebraskin Everything was documented. I have the first court date today.
@zebraskin
@zebraskin 5 місяців тому
@@summerschultz good! Wishing you luck!
@TheCrimsonPope
@TheCrimsonPope Рік тому
The line "For somebody I thought was my saviour / You sure make me do a whole lot of labour" sits with me the most, because as women (mostly before Gen Z) we are sold this myth, this "promise" that marriage is the best dream ever, to meet "a prince" plan a wedding, and when you "catch" a husband this is the ultimate win for a woman... but then the reality is a wall of weaponised incompetence and the "dream" is serving and just being a second mother and servant for the man who does not understand any of that OR us as women and they mostly don't even care to try.
@aspannas
@aspannas Рік тому
I realized this very early on as a child seeing how my dad treated my mom like a slave. Most men truly don't view women as people and as their equal which is why they're so fine with letting a woman alone take care of the emotional and domestic load, we're below them according to them.
@za685
@za685 Рік тому
So well put! Women were seriously tricked into thinking that marriage was going to be their biggest accomplishment, they just got trapped honestly
@EmilyTotallynotbees
@EmilyTotallynotbees Рік тому
When I realized I was a lesbian at around 12 I thought that I would never be happy because I would never have a husband, which is so extremely fucked up looking back.
@saturnreturn272
@saturnreturn272 Рік тому
Men think we were born this way and it comes easier to us to cook, clean, and be the primary/sole parent and organiser of all aspects of domestic life. That’s why they have no guilt leaving all these tasks to us. And once we do have children with them they think we will never leave them because single mothers are valued so low by most men. So men and husbands eventually become lazy and women are forced to pick up the extra work at home whilst often working outside the home too. This song is amazing at calling that out.
@SuperbFairy
@SuperbFairy Рік тому
@@saturnreturn272 it's important to bear in mind that as much as you dislike people making assumptions about women as a whole, it looks hypocritical when you generalise an entire gender in response, the opposite of what you were praising
@drendraleigh4722
@drendraleigh4722 Рік тому
I love the imagery of her tearing down the food and gave him a teethy smile, it's all the things woman are not suppose to do. I love the way she acted through the MV, iIt looks just like how many women act when they are so exhausted they couldn't keep on. Silent, questions, and just gone. I love the way the last chorus sounds like the echoing from the woman generations ago and generations to come while you asked him over and over again in the background 'If our love dies would it be the worst thing?' and he sits there looking flustered, angry, and defeated, yet did nothing to comfort the women he supposedly love. I love the use of the table because it reminds me of the things guys like to say ; 'what do you bring to the table?' It's almost like we screams with you that 'All of this are mine. My affaction, my emotions, MY LABOUR. MY FOOD, MY TABLE' so you gauge yourself with the love that you decided to take for yourself for the last time before you go.
@lilac.2858
@lilac.2858 Рік тому
Beautiful analysis, this comment was really interesting to read!
@luizaferreiradacosta95
@luizaferreiradacosta95 Рік тому
I love the symbolism of her eating a pomegranate, a symbol for fertility and death in Hades and Persephone's myth
@drendraleigh4722
@drendraleigh4722 Рік тому
​​@@luizaferreiradacosta95 Yeah, just hammering down how much had been 'taken' from her and her mother(so like, generations of women). Also in the myth what Hades did was not considered 'wrong' at the time since Persephone's father(Zeus) already gave her up, because the women has no say in the matter of marriage. The verse about how a daughter would suffer in the same cycle fits real well here too. Also in the original myth Demeter also was able to save her daughter from an eternity in hades by basically neglecting her 'labour' and stop 'giving' as her role as a goddess should be therefore forced the men's hand to give her back her daughter.
@stephenmaro7219
@stephenmaro7219 7 місяців тому
I grew up with too much hate towards the world because I was very aware of how bad the world treated my mom. Forced to marry at 16, gave birth in the first year, father slapped her in their first day together, "You will obey me now", cleaning the house so well, taking care of us, teaching us, meal making, in her wedding day in her wedding dress they made her clean the dishes, old muslim societies, I was lucky to be hers, because she made sure I never feel what she felt, but I feel her hurt, I FEEL IT SO MUCH IN HER EYES AND HER KINDNESS AND HER VOICE that is weeping and asking for love and care yet not really able to show it for our own sake, MOM... THIS IS FOR YOU, I am sorry,,, I spend every day working hard studying hard to give you what they didn't give you, I know it may not be enough, you grew old, your flowers weakened, and I am still young and with no money, but I swear all I wanted since I was a child with thoughts is I wanted to give you a better life, sorrry my english is bad... but I fu**ing hate the muslim society how a lot of women go through what she went through but the mother in them stays in denial and when they reach 50 it is like so obvious THEY FEEL THEY HAVEN'T LIVED LIFE AT ALL AND THEY ARE BEYOND SAVING AT THAT TIME
@pinsandneedles3
@pinsandneedles3 7 місяців тому
😔😔 I'm sending love to you and your mom
@kelseygetz2123
@kelseygetz2123 5 місяців тому
This made me cry and I’m sending so much love to your mom and you. Keep working hard so you can do nice things for her the best you can under the circumstances. Express your love often on the phone or in letters. You are lucky to have each other ❤
@Todaysreminder918
@Todaysreminder918 3 місяці тому
❤❤❤
@rlorendean
@rlorendean 3 місяці тому
Entire women's history in a song. Thank you.
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