Rebuilding Trust in Your Marriage After Infidelity (Part 1) - Mark & Jill Savage

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Mark and Jill Savage share their own personal story of rebuilding trust in their own marriage after infidelity.
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КОМЕНТАРІ: 113
@pipergunderson-swaney4539
@pipergunderson-swaney4539 Рік тому
The struggle as the one cheated on emotionally or physically is regaining trust. I was so trusting- with this man- it eats at my soul because I just cannot seem to get the trust back. I love him- just struggling with trusting again. I want my brain back-
@Newmusicnme
@Newmusicnme 9 місяців тому
Same here! 😢
@momteacherlessons7296
@momteacherlessons7296 7 місяців тому
I always had an ounce of trust. It just fwwls impossible
@lissettealdrete0801
@lissettealdrete0801 7 місяців тому
Exactly with my situation right now. I trusted my husband with everything. Found out he was having an emotional affair. Been struggling also mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
@TheSaintberzerker
@TheSaintberzerker 3 місяці тому
I am in the same boat with my wife. I don't know how to do this.
@jannettegnz
@jannettegnz 2 місяці тому
Same. Caught him talking to one woman. Took him back. Then I found out there were others he talked to. Don't know if there was anything physical because he refuses to be honest and transparent. Love him so much and trusted him blindy and it hurts that he could betray me with such ease.
@prasannanalli1728
@prasannanalli1728 Рік тому
I request you to kindly uphold me in your prayers for my marriage restoration.
@bsayon
@bsayon Рік тому
It happens from the small things.. and then we just destroyed our marriages for “no real reason”. It’s temporary and not really worth it. Prayers for our marriages.
@digitalliquid5159
@digitalliquid5159 3 місяці тому
amen
@memphis3640
@memphis3640 2 роки тому
I am so thankful to see the Church starting to step up in this area of marriage.
@user-jb7gx5ri1k
@user-jb7gx5ri1k 5 місяців тому
Please know that many many woman were and are in Mark's shoes. Thank you Jill and Mark for sharing what so many are experiencing.
@JAyala-se4st
@JAyala-se4st 11 місяців тому
The difference is if the cheater is remorseful and can take responsibility of themselves
@akhonatshiseka
@akhonatshiseka 6 місяців тому
This podcast is healing me.
@kenyaoneal9098
@kenyaoneal9098 3 роки тому
Love is Powerful!!!! Thank You Jesus for Your Love!!! Bless the Savages in Your Name!!!
@hollymaxwellboydell
@hollymaxwellboydell 2 роки тому
This is a powerful testimony. Thank you for this. I have been so grateful to have found the work of The Marriage Foundation and Paul Friedman, who are helping men and women to truly love one another in marriage. We are not taught how to do this incredibly important relationship, which impacts everyone around the marriage, couple and the family, and ultimately society. Thank you so much for this vulnerable and valuable sharing from the heart. 🙏🏼♥️
@camuyana
@camuyana Рік тому
When there is no repentance and change, there is no way to salvage the marriage. I gave him 43 years and he kept being unfaithful. I decided it was time to end this mess and file for The voice this year. The papers are in the court and the end is just around the corner. He is deeply regretting what happened but there is no love or trust anymore. Make sure that when you do the ultimate betrayal you are ready to really really leave because otherwise the most deepest pain is what you're going to experience and the only thing comparable probably is the death of a child. Don't make the mistake of going into an illicit relationship and later regretting.
@prasannanalli1728
@prasannanalli1728 Рік тому
This is a very powerful testimony 🙌 praise Jesus
@hopecreed5502
@hopecreed5502 3 роки тому
THANKS FOR YOUR POST AND I LOVED IT
@hopecreed5502
@hopecreed5502 3 роки тому
THANKS FOR YOUR POST AND I LOVE IT
@hopecreed5502
@hopecreed5502 3 роки тому
JIM DAILY BROADCAST THATS SO GREAT
@jeanferlynsleon3152
@jeanferlynsleon3152 9 місяців тому
May the Lord have mercy on me! 😭😭😭
@mariaedgar5066
@mariaedgar5066 Рік тому
Thank you for sharing your story 😢 It has helped me greatly…🙏🙏
@gb-yn2re
@gb-yn2re Рік тому
I am suspicious my husband has cheated on me twice and the 2nd time is recent and or he still may be cheating on me. I feel as if I have a great deal of evidence but he is not willing to admit to it.
@hopecreed5502
@hopecreed5502 3 роки тому
THATS SO AWESOME AWESOME THAT 80 PERCENT OF THE MARRIAGE WAS STILL GOING
@mikerelyea2988
@mikerelyea2988 2 місяці тому
My wife recently cheated on me and I'm trying to figure out how to rebuild and if I can actually do so any advice woukd help and places to go for classes or what not thanks
@linak7155
@linak7155 3 роки тому
I'm glad this couple has reconciled and perhaps this is helpful to others who are going through this pain *BUT* rehashing it over and over again cannot be healthy...😔🥀
@deejay7759
@deejay7759 3 роки тому
Getting it out there in the open is important in the healing process. And, once you recover from it and can help others it shrinks the issue somewhat and makes it easier to let it go. You won’t heal from something unless you acknowledge it and work through the pain of it. I’ve been there so I understand them taking about it and trying to help others.
@linak7155
@linak7155 3 роки тому
@@deejay7759 yes! I hear you! Although acknowledging and getting it out there are two different things; We all hv our way of seeking healing and coping mechanisms. I hope this couple and many others in their situation are able to forgive and restore trust again.
@madeyoufeel4216
@madeyoufeel4216 2 роки тому
Telling the story can be empowering if you have grieved and grown, what you described an anecdotal case.
@kevarist
@kevarist 2 роки тому
This is nice. Can we have similar stories where men are also victims? We need to hear the other side as well.
@focusonthefamily
@focusonthefamily 2 роки тому
Thanks for your question, Evarist. We agree that it's important to have both men's and women's perspectives represented when discussing difficult topics such as infidelity. That being said, we would encourage you to check out our broadcast with Bob and Audrey Meisner - bit.ly/3Npt149. In this conversation, Bob and Audrey describe how God's grace led them along the hard road to reconciliation and restored their marriage after Audrey's infidelity. We hope this helps. May God bless you!
@MikeSmith-kt5mj
@MikeSmith-kt5mj Місяць тому
​@focusonthefamil When men are the victims, Focus on the Family blames the husband for the wives infidelity.. and Focus on the Family makes the cheating wife a hero
@cal3751
@cal3751 19 днів тому
Also check out: Josh & Katie Walters, David & Terri Sumlin, Rusty & Heather Bryant, Rick & Tiffany Bulman, Harrison Scott Key and Lauren.
@lucyharris6118
@lucyharris6118 3 роки тому
I feel her pain. I found out while my husband was sleeping and instead of phoning a friend I reacted in a very ungodly way.
@deejay7759
@deejay7759 3 роки тому
Hard to be godly when you discover this. I’ve been there too.
@susanklinefelter6487
@susanklinefelter6487 Рік тому
I feel the pain tooooo
@patriciarowland8230
@patriciarowland8230 Рік тому
Me too.
@michelegautier157
@michelegautier157 Рік тому
Very natural reaction to feel this way. I’m sorry he hurt you 😢
@omoyemenarinze
@omoyemenarinze 4 місяці тому
Oh Lord I need your love to be able to love unconditionally. Its so hard
@digitalliquid5159
@digitalliquid5159 3 місяці тому
very hard amen
@albertguillen9353
@albertguillen9353 Рік тому
It's one word Sin.... know excuses
@mangao4334
@mangao4334 20 днів тому
My kids dad always says we are from different worlds and he should not be married while he has other relationships outside the marriage
@linak7155
@linak7155 3 роки тому
Many years ago Mr Dobson's cohost committed adultery and left his wife and children for another woman. I remember being in shock and profoundly saddened. I hope they hv since rebuilt their marriage or at the very least he has repented and re established a relationship with his children. I'd love to hear about them... 💔 ❣️
@deejay7759
@deejay7759 3 роки тому
I remember that too. I don’t think they did. I believe they went their separate ways.
@suegreengranite2002
@suegreengranite2002 2 роки тому
I don't remember that??
@pleadfive658
@pleadfive658 2 роки тому
Yup, I wondered what had happened.
@taiwokwakye60
@taiwokwakye60 2 роки тому
Why are you creating such negative posts?
@janvannewkirk4446
@janvannewkirk4446 Рік тому
It was Mike Trout. I hope they reconciled.
@tarashoemaker154
@tarashoemaker154 Рік тому
What about those couples who have a spouse who year after year has emotional affairs on social media and keeps using the excuse they are a work in progress but keep betraying their spouse by doing this over and over 😮
@ruthmuma8693
@ruthmuma8693 Рік тому
That's what am going through. Still not sure of what I should do 😢
@digitalliquid5159
@digitalliquid5159 3 місяці тому
we gotta give the sheep the room they are desiring distance from the shepard.
@timwhistine9997
@timwhistine9997 4 дні тому
It is still a spirit and condition of unfaithfulness. Marriage needs rules and boundaries that protect what we value. Be consistent with the rules and boundaries! ♥️🙏🏻
@kathryngracey7993
@kathryngracey7993 Рік тому
No type of counseling works to restore the marriage if one of the couple is a narcissist.
@norabongiorno6197
@norabongiorno6197 Рік тому
You just d described my life
@Aunty254
@Aunty254 11 місяців тому
So right
@YESHUAISKINGFOREVER
@YESHUAISKINGFOREVER 6 місяців тому
But your forgetting one very important aspect Jesus Christ can do anything ❤
@jessicaaguilar9405
@jessicaaguilar9405 Рік тому
I'm in there life right now how can I get help
@luciyoung777
@luciyoung777 3 роки тому
HUGS
@luciyoung777
@luciyoung777 3 роки тому
I STILL WITH MY EX. MARK. NOT A JOKE. HUS NAME IS,,,, MARK. BUT HE IS NOT CHANGING. I AM STILL HERE 43 OVER YEARS. I AM WIFE NUMBER( TWO AND . EX WIFE FOUR). ONE IS GONE AND THREE IS LIVING ACROSS THE STREET FROM US. I HAVE SERVED MARK'S FAMILY OVER FOURTY THREE YEARS. .43.... THERE US WAY MORE TO THIS. BYE
@suegreengranite2002
@suegreengranite2002 2 роки тому
@@luciyoung777 my prayers are with you🙏♥️
@AverageAufa
@AverageAufa 9 днів тому
i still feel like throwing up and am physically ill occasionally
@VictorianMetalGirl
@VictorianMetalGirl 3 роки тому
Why would a man make sacred vows to you if he is just going to break them? Too often, women are told to just deal with infidelity especially if "he only did it once" and to submit to abuse yet if a woman did anything wrong she would be in big trouble. I'm sorry but we as a society and as a church need to teach that adultery is wrong, not "Oh, it's OK. She'll stay with you, where's she gonna go. It was just a mistake."
@Remy4489
@Remy4489 2 роки тому
Well technically... (whether it's the husband or wife) that is cheated on, the offended party has biblical permission for divorce in this scenerio (and only in this scenario); but I'm not saying that the offended party SHOULD take this route, but that it's allowed in this one case. But whether it was the man or woman in the marriage, Christians should be consistent with this either way; adultery is equally sinful whether it's a husband or wife that commits it.
@toiletseatscholar78
@toiletseatscholar78 2 роки тому
I've seen it work the other way. Its wrong on a number of levels and should be called out equally. Its a form of theft and no-one will convince me otherwise.
@toiletseatscholar78
@toiletseatscholar78 2 роки тому
@@Remy4489 i would add that I think even under conditions of adultery the offended party had better think long and hard about divorce if they have children....especially small ones.
@suegreengranite2002
@suegreengranite2002 2 роки тому
@@Remy4489 Me personally I have been married 30yrs & have been through deep hurt from my husband that destroyed me as a woman I sought counseling he came to most of them but things didn't change I tried many times more than I can count & I told him there will come a day I don't cry anymore I always prayed for him to change in a area that caused major emotional damage that led to us finally separating & we've been separated for a few years he's never tried to get me back even though I've not heard of a ‘other woman ‘ I wrapped my life & love up in my grandchildren to find love & they love me so much but my life to move on & divorce him has never happened I don't know why I can't make that step.. I don't know why it's not because being in love with him.., I just don't have a answer..,💔
@suegreengranite2002
@suegreengranite2002 2 роки тому
Thank the Lord my 2 sons are married with babys🙏
@itsafantakis
@itsafantakis Рік тому
We were married 30 years and now divorced for 10 years…. I’m standing in the gap…. I trusted telling him the truth and he lied to me and divorced me afterwards. I gave him the just reason to divorce:
@IniaVidovi-cz5fq
@IniaVidovi-cz5fq 4 місяці тому
I faced this issue in my family last week and I davasted broken,
@sarahsearle1142
@sarahsearle1142 6 місяців тому
It's great that they've been able to reconcile & works things through. However, I found this hard to watch. Whenever Mark (husband) would try to explain & talk through how he was feeling, Jill (wife) would constantly talk over him & shut him down. It makes me wonder if her lack of manners & willingness to not hear what her husband truly had to say was part of his "list". Perhaps what made him frustrated & to seek another relationship??
@patriciarowland8230
@patriciarowland8230 Рік тому
Didn't know my husband's love language I'm acts of service found out years later after divorce realized his is words of affirmation. Which I never had this growing up.i didn't know how to do b this.
@31Sunshine
@31Sunshine 11 місяців тому
Lol love language is ridiculous....
@angloaust1575
@angloaust1575 7 місяців тому
Its in the movies also An affair to remember From here to eternity And many more!
@vernaharris4700
@vernaharris4700 Рік тому
Satan is truly the author of confusion.
@awomansstory.2019
@awomansstory.2019 Рік тому
My husband cheated on me with his married coworker. I foundnout 3.5 yrs ago.
@jilly8372
@jilly8372 3 роки тому
Love must be Tough is a much better book option. It promotes a person preserving their dignity and letting people choose for themselves. I am glad they found healing, but this is cringey and unhelpful.
@toiletseatscholar78
@toiletseatscholar78 2 роки тому
I think they try to clean it up for the broadcast.
@marywarner4816
@marywarner4816 Рік тому
P
@deejay7759
@deejay7759 3 роки тому
Her voice is still shaky. She is still affected.
@hopecreed5502
@hopecreed5502 3 роки тому
Does sound like it
@hopecreed5502
@hopecreed5502 3 роки тому
It takes time t heal
@jeanhoffman5676
@jeanhoffman5676 5 місяців тому
It takes a lifetime to get over betrayal.
@steroble127
@steroble127 20 днів тому
When she talks about it she is reliving it in the moment. It is hard, but you know they are in a better place
@Bstnrose4444
@Bstnrose4444 2 місяці тому
Do learn about aspergers autism nd… and see what you may be dealing with. Cassandra groups
@NB-nh2sf
@NB-nh2sf Рік тому
Men really are ....whew. I dont get it just stay single.
@John_811KJV
@John_811KJV 5 місяців тому
*Biblical Marriage: 1 man + 1 woman = One Flesh til Death do you Part* Mark 10:2-12; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 1 Corinthians 7:39; Romans 7:2-3
@rteegar78
@rteegar78 Рік тому
Sorry, once a cheater-always a cheater. It’s a tick they have. I’ve taught my kids that since they were young. I’m glad for those that seem to get through it, but coming from a home that infidelity was a thing, I will never change my mind on this.
@brandonmorrison3041
@brandonmorrison3041 4 місяці тому
If you don’t believe people can change then you don’t believe the Gospel message.
@rteegar78
@rteegar78 4 місяці тому
@@brandonmorrison3041 you must’ve cheated lol
@user-xr1li9su1j
@user-xr1li9su1j 26 днів тому
You can’t rebuild trust after infidelity. Move on.
@vincentgan81able
@vincentgan81able 2 роки тому
Why do guys who look so fugly get all the action?
@nugeman7779
@nugeman7779 10 місяців тому
A man cannot get certain images out of his mind from being betrayed by a cheater wife. How in the world can a man even kiss his wife again on the lips after where they and her tongue were? A wife's adultery is more wicked and disgusting than a mans. And how could he have relations with her wondering how he "measures up" with her stud lover? Adultery is a marriage destroyer. Im not saying miracles cant happen but it literally takes a miracle.
@billyeaton5328
@billyeaton5328 10 місяців тому
May I ask... ¿?WHY¿? You have this thought? Like, Seriously you think it's oooo so different for women?? Why are women always the one thats"Supposed to be STRONGER,N HANDLE IT" IT GOES BOTH WAYS PERIOD!! NO DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THEN IT IS A MALE!! INFIDELITY IS INFIDELITY ITS NOT MAN VS WOMAN OR VICE VERSE!! Either way Cheating on your spouse is JUST AS HURTFUL being a male or female it has no gender! Betrayal is Betrayal , Lieing is Lieing, Cheating is Cheating! There is no different definition based upon your Gender... There is also no different instructions for healing based upon gender!
@prasannanalli1728
@prasannanalli1728 Рік тому
Hi I'm from india watching your program. I want to get in touch with you and discuss a biblical solution about my restoration. However I'm unable to get in touch with you through the number that scrolls on your screen. Kindly help provide a different number to reach.out to you to seek a goodly counseling. Thank you
@danharms4237
@danharms4237 3 місяці тому
Lucy, quit making excuses for cheaters..a cheating wife is the lowest form of life, quit making excuses for them. No such thing as a trustworthy woman any more
@hopecreed5502
@hopecreed5502 3 роки тому
JIM DAILY BROADCAST THATS SO GREAT
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