4:49 i love this part 😭😍

This hits differently when you have actually experienced the pain :(

“I guess I don’t love myself first” So relatable 💔

This is my first time hearing the extended audio and I started crying because I know exactly how she felt because it's how i feel right now.

Who listening to this after hearing “lose you to love me” just to see how much she’s healed?😭

"I picked someone who was going to break my heart.." *damn I felt that...*

I love it when artists make themselves emotionally vulnerable, it's so beautiful.

They missed the "He made me feel crazy, he made me feel like it's my fault. I was in pain."

2014: I guess I don't love myself first... 2019: I needed to lose you to love me.

A year ago I didn’t understand her pain.. and now that I’ve gone through the same pain I understand.

"I picked someone who was gonna break my heart..." You never really understand why she stayed and why she was in so much pain until you experience it yourself.

Its been YEARS and this song STILL plays on my heart strings

Who’s revisiting this gem right after listening to “lose you to love me?”

The worst sound ever is the crack in the voice of a person who is about to cry

This is the definition of true pain.

"Everybody goes through, I guess, something like this but... I didn't really understand it and, I have no other option but to laugh at it this point because everybody asks why do you still stay, and I'm like... I guess I don't love myself first. That's it. It's not really... that's it. When I was on stage and I was thinking of... I felt like I know him though and I know that I know his heart and I know what he wouldn't do to hurt me. But I didn't realize that I was feeling so confident and feeling so great about myself and then it just be completely shattered... by one thing. By something so stupid. He doesn't know who I am anymore... And it doesn't matter because I guess I picked someone I knew was gonna break my heart."

When she said:" He doesn't know who I am anymore..." that shit hurts...

2021 and it still feels...

No woman should feel like this, like, NEVER. For all those men that play around with a girl’s heart, remember that karma is a bitch and you’ll pay for what you’ve done someday. Sending love to all the people in the comments and to Selena too.

There’s so many girls who can relate to her story

*2014: “Everyone asks, “Why do you still stay?” and I’m like, “I guess I don’t love myself first.”* *2019: “I needed to lose you to love me.”* I’m so happy she’s found her peace😕

"...Everybody goes through,I guess something like this,but I,I didn't really understand it and,I have no other option but to laugh at it at this point cause everyones asks "why do you still stay?" and I'm like " I guess, I dont love myself first" thats it,its not really.. thats it When I was on, when I was on stage And I was thinking of.. I felt like I know I know him though And I know that, and I know his heart And I know what he wouldn't do to hurt me But I didn't realize that I-I-I Feeling so confident, feeling so great about myself And then it just be completely shattered By one thing, by something so stupid He doesnt know who I am anymore And it doesnt matter because.. I guess I picked someone that was gonna break my heart..."

He may be married, but these songs will never be deleted. And their love too.

Never get 2 attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, Bcuz one sided Expectations can mentally destroy you💔💯💯💯

Can’t believe I judged Selena’s relationship when I was in middle school until in 2017 i fell inlove with the wrong person and despite knowing that still came back ..countless times and used me for two years. It’s such a strange thing to see the red flags from the outside but when it’s you it’s impossible to see

Selena has honestly been through a lot , and who wouldn’t admire her strength ? She’s probably the most strongest female singer I’ve ever heard , idc what anyone says , she’s just so strong and amazing 💗

"You still love them, even if they no longer love you. There is bravery in letting go of a love you thought you knew. There is no shame in wanting someone who doesn't want you back. But darling, you deserve someone who wants to love you just as much." - Courtner Peppernell, Pillow Thoughts II

Been listening to this ever since it came out and never felt her pain because I never went through what she did. Today I sit here listening to this and crying like a maniac because I finally understand each and every word down to every single emotion she felt in that moment. A person who loves you would never let you sit alone to cry the way I cried. Get yourself together and fight that sadness.

Uggg I feel soo bad for her and I know that there’s still a part of her that wants him still.. I know the feeling ! I wish I could just hug her like omg

My poor baby...this hurts so damn much :( She came back like a queen.

This song always made me cry.

"He doesn't know who I am anymore" that hit me hard when she started crying when she said that:(

From “I guess I don’t love myself first” to “Why don’t you recognize that I’m so rare” 🦋✨

The ending was from her singing it live and I swear it’s the most genuine heartfelt performance she’s ever done ❤️😭

It’s not just the song it’s the WHOLE thing that she says every single word describes what I have been feeling lately. It’s my fault for thinking he was the one

“He doesn’t know who I am anymore😭” bruh that shit hit me😭😭💔.

"after this fever I'll survive" It kills me! If you read this comment and your are passing through a hard period, I want you to know that you are strong, beautiful and you deserve to be happy! Just keep going, you are not alone! You will make it! ❤️

Love will make you, break you and then transform you completely.... into someone you never imagined to be....a someone who's the exact opposite of what you used to be. You're staring at the reflection in the mirror and how much it has changed physically, mentally and spiritually. With arms and legs having red streams flowing down you look at yourself....in desperation....but you don't know yourself anymore. You can't look in the mirror and not feel regret these days. You think the pain never ends. You think you're so broken you can't be fixed. You look at yourself and your shattered dreams...and how with each gust of wind the pieces travel away further making it even difficult for you to pick yourself up and fix yourself but the biggest misconception is that love doesn't destroy us but Its absence does.

“I guess it doesn’t matter... I picked someone who was gonna break my heart.”

you know you’ve been through it when you have the whole beginning of the extended cut memorized

Just when i thought the song is already sad enough, i started to read those comments. God bless every one of you, I hope you all will overcome your heartbreaks and smile again. Not many people are going to read this, but even if we all don't know each other, we're all human who experience kind of the same things so, just tell me if you need someone to talk i'm sure a lot of people here are willing to speak about each others problems 💖

selena deserves the world i swear

Nobody should have to go through what she did with her first love. Pure torment. I will always hold a place in my heart for you.

October 2019 and still love this song 💔😓

I think It’s better that they split. They were so toxic, so on and off and now they both seem so much happier. The words In this song explain how badly her mind was manipulated to excuse all of his actions at the cost of her feelings. She’s purely miserable In this song and so deeply codependent that It’s unhealthy. Sometimes what we want Isn’t what’s best for us. I understand all too well what she went though. Nobody deserves to go through this.

SELENA DESERVE THE WHOLE WORLD

I just got out of an abusive relationship...and I’m SO happy !!!! 😁😁😃😃 I didn’t realize how unhappy he made me until I had no other choice but to leave

Ive never been in a serious relationship and this is why. I don’t wanna get my heart shattered into pieces by someone who Is supposed to love me. My family does that enough. 😔

I’m still recovering from being in abusive relationships, and this song is so relatable. You can tell she meant every single word of what she sang. You make up this idea of someone in your head because they put forth an image or only a piece of themselves. Once you see who they really are, it’s hard to leave because the love you have for them convinces you that they’re going to change and go back to the way they were.

Now that I’m older, I understand her pain she went through. I’ve been there and it hurts so much. Selena is so strong ❤️

Never get in a relationship if you don’t love yourself first. That person will control the highs and lows and you’ll lose in the end with such a low blow . Also, wait until you completely love yourself and know what you deserve. Edit: Holy SHit 1. 2 k l likes wtf y'alllll. Edit: 1.5 k likes. 💋💋💋💋💋 Edit: I am not saying that no one will love you. Have you ever considered that I’ve been hurt too? And I’m just saying sometimes you have to be there for yourself. Edit: I never said that it’a easy or an overnight thing. It’s a process and guess what? Sometimes people who have been hurt however small still have wisdom. Edit: 1.7 likes. 💕 💕 💕 Edit: 1.8 k likes ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💟💖💗 Happy Pride Month. Accept yourself and love yourself. It took me awhile and it gets harder each day . I’m not gonna lie but I love myself and it’s a process. No matter what your sexual orientation is. Edit: 2.2 k likes. How???????????? Edit: 3.2 likes. Woah. I wanted to say that it really does depend on the person too. I was in a bad place when I wrote it so some of these comments upset me. Seriously considering deleting this.

Feeling so confident in myself then be completely shattered by one thing...by something so stupid..

My boyfriend lied to me to my face countless times about him cheating then turned around told the truth then told me it was my fault.... But yet im sitting here about to lost my career, lose myself, and lose my sanity over a guy who could care less... God Why Me

Her last words of her interview ,broke me . Same girl same 💔

This makes me cry for the person I never had

“I thought you were the one...” Jesus Christ I’m going through this rn....

You got me sippin' on something I can't compare to nothing I've ever known, I'm hoping That after this fever I'll survive I know I'm acting a bit crazy Strung out, a little bit hazy Hand over heart, I'm praying That I'm gonna make it out alive The bed's getting cold and you're not here The future that we hold is so unclear But I'm not alive until you call And I'll bet the odds against it all Save your advice 'cause I won't hear You might be right, but I don't care There's a million reasons why I should give you up But the heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants You got me scattered in pieces Shining like stars and screaming Lighting me up like Venus But then you disappear and make me wait And every second's like torture Heroin drip, no more so Finding a way to let go Baby, baby, no, I can't escape The bed's getting cold and you're not here The future that we hold is so unclear But I'm not alive until you call And I'll bet the odds against it all Save your advice 'cause I won't hear You might be right, but I don't care There's a million reasons why I should give you up But the heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants This is a modern fairy tale No happy endings No wind in our sails But I can't imagine a life without Breathless moments Breaking me down, down, down, down The bed's getting cold and you're not here The future that we hold is so unclear But I'm not alive until you call And I'll bet the odds against it all Save your advice 'cause I won't hear You might be right, but I don't care There's a million reasons why I should give you up But the heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants, baby It wants what it wants, baby It wants what it wants It wants what it wants The heart wants what it wants, baby It wants what it wants

This song never gets old

This made me cry. Why'd you mess with my heart like that? She was going through so much when she released this song. I can't help but cry because I can literally feel her feelings through the song😢💔. Glad she's happy now and in a good place😊♥

The emotion she poured into this song shows that this was something that was super real for her. Nobody on this Earth deserves Selena. I have so much respect for the woman she has become. She is such a queen!

2019 Selena: "He doesn't know who I am anymore". Me: 💔😔

listen close your eyes dont skip and remember someone loves you

the intro is heartbreaking

October 2019 and still love this song❤️

This song always be my favourite

“I thought u r the one” at this point i just cant hold my tears brooo

"I guess...I didn't love myself first..." Felt that, so true .

I think we’ve all been there... 💕

your first love is Your weakness allows you never forget this and no one change the first love feelings or 2 love or 3 love you always remember your first love in life time 🙂

I think it's one of her best songs ...

"i guess i don't love myself first." holy shit.

When she says" but then u make me feel crazy, you make me feel like it's my fault... I was in pain".. I felt that

Voice Broken, it hurts.

Imagine breaking Selena’s heart.

When she says "I guess I don't love myself first" 0:21 I just feel so happy listening to her new song "lose you to love me" because now I know that she has loved herself and she is full of joy

Feeling very sad about recent moments of Selena's life. LOVE is like this, 99% brings pain at any point of life . Her this song is heart touching & makes me cry.

4:09 you can’t tell me that this isn’t Justin‘s voice

Man, this song hits the same no matter how many times you hear it💯

“He doesn’t know who I am anymore” that part hurt cause it’s so true. “It doesn’t matter anymore because I picked someone who was gonna break my heart” Damn... selena. Girl, that just broke me, why do we do this to ourselves. 😪

Selena Gomez very beautiful song and amazing and your voice and vocals are absolutely and incredibly fantastic always truly enjoy your music love ya

This made me cry!!! I’m going thru this heartbreak and this song just makes me cry😭😭😭 it’s so beautiful and I can feel Selena’s pain!!!! My queen!!!!

My mom listened to this when i didn’t understand the lyrics, Now that i’m 3 years older I understand the lyrics and I can feel her pain.

as a boy, it hurts that so many undeserving guys got beautiful girls but still they treated them like they have no importance

Damn... i’m a guy and just hearing her voice breaks me. I feel you Selena baby 😭💔

Wait.... what???? I’ve never heard this version. Am I even a selenator??? :(

The Future that we hold is so unclear. 💔💭

Omg the part when she was talking in the beginning😩💔🥺🥺

Jelena is one of the most beautiful love story yet the most heartbreaking one, i guess fame, people and pressure ruins their relationship but i know that they both still and frvr holds a place in each other's heart

She will always love him deep in her heart. And he too.

I think we ALLLLLL hated Justin after this Song😂😂😂

"I picked someone who was going to break my heart" "damn I felt that"💔💔💔💔

I love her explanation. I've been through that so I understand. It sucks mire when your famous and people call you names based on your partner. This song is so raw I love it. Good job Selena!

I LOVE HER VOICE SO MUCH

This is what I’ve been through for 7 years! This is really sad when you know that your wasting your time with someone that will never truly appreciate you 💔

I can safely say that I feel her tone of voice, her words and completely relate to her! Not just the lyrics, but her personal voice and can safely say that I am currently hurting from an ex still & him cant shake it off 😢 hearing this song this time around does hit different, Selena has helped me heal in all my years with her music. But this one is tough to heal cause her voice words are honestly my feelings currently 😢

“i thought u were the one”.

I felt that intro.

used to say "wow , shes so dumb , why cant she leave him already? its not that hard" now im like "wow." we love u selena im so happy ur doing amazing baby

im going through this pain rn, it's the most terrible thing I've ever felt. it’s so hard being so vulnerable with somebody , somebody you love , and would do anything for. but aren’t sure if they’d do anything for you .

Wow, that’s a powerful intro