If my spouse sexually abused my child I wouldn’t divorce either. I would be a widow. He wouldn’t survive.

An abusive marriage is already a failed marriage.

I can’t even lie😭 that anti divorce side has such a scary mindset ..

My heart goes out to the older lady that had to sit there and listen to a bunch of idiots belittle the abuse she suffered while also telling her she was wrong for finally leaving. That little boy is truly scary. Saying things like “divorce won’t help your situation, because if a man wants to kill you he’ll do it still. So you might aswell stay” is BATSHIT CLINICAL CRAZY.

I can't believe that people would stay in a marriage with someone that sexual abuses their own children. Disgusting! 🤢

The fact that a woman is older, doesn't mean she's wiser.. this video is a clear example..

Kids growing up in a toxic environment is way more traumatic than growing up in a broken home!

The Alvin guy saying he is gonna prioritize the child’s future meanwhile he isn’t even prioritizing the child’s present state and well being 😭

“He beats me, yet he loves me.” Oh auntie💀

The guy with the American-like accent trying to sound sensible but nonsense comes out of his mouth

The fact that lady in orange said "If you are saying you have passed through beating, maybe you have not passed through the one I’ve passed through" to the lady in green when she said she was abused by her husband. But later blamed her for marrying at 19 when she herself married at 30 and got the same treatment. May God protect any girl with a mother like this.

The woman in orange said she married at 30 which speaks volume why she wouldn't divorce her husband no matter what, because she was desperate and not ready to loose what she taught God answered her prayer for

That woman in orange won’t report that man, she’ll in fact, blame the child he sexually assaulted.

I am so embarrassed at the woman in orange saying the lady in green was abused because she married young. May God save her from this backward mentality

So we tell little girls "if he hits you he likes you" but then ask later on in her life "If he hits you why did you marry him?"

This channel really opened my eyes on how some people have dangerous mindsets, we are so doomed🙆🏽‍♂️

Dear young African girls! Just because a woman is older doesn’t mean they have the wisdom to advise you. Let this video be the example. No wonder she keeps saying Dievorce she really wants to die for her husband 😂🤣

The lawyer is SUCH A BREATH OF FRESH AIR!

The dark woman in glasses was obviously talking from a place of great pain and bad experiences but at the same time she wasn't talking as a victim to invoke pity from the rest, she was speaking as a survivor as a victor, her kids should be so proud of the mother they have, that's a strong woman right there.

When I tell people that I HATE the deep rooted christian patriarchal society in Nigeria, this is EXACTLY what I am talking about. It is MADDENING to see how many women are mistreated but are/feel forced to stay in those relationships because of status, wealth, entrapment, etc.

Dear Alvin's future wife, I pray you watch this video and run

People in the anti-divorce section scared me specifically the woman in orange.

"I don't think divorce is a problem. I think divorce is reather a solution to a problem" No need a discussion, this dude simplified everything.

I got married at the age of 26 to a man 5 years older than me. I was severely abused for 7 years till I chose life over death and left

The fact that they are talking near a woman who has been in a coma from abuse is COLD. They should all be ashamed of themselves. Especially the men…who’s abusing you for real! Shat ap

Cruise TV, please tell the woman in green that we love her. She made the right decision and she should NEVER regret it. Her life is more precious than people’s opinions. Sending love, joy and God’s blessings her way!

“Yes he hits me but he still loves me” is a wild statement to utter out of your mouth 😂😂😂😂

Mama in green. I apologise for this entire experience that you had to go through.

To the woman in green, you have my heart, even after telling your story you were ridiculed and judged….i hope you get all the happiness and joy you deserve you made a beautiful decision and no one should put you down for it ❤

The lady in green is such an inspiration. We stan a woman with self-respect❤

She - " ooh yes he hits me yet he loves me" . Sent me in another dimension. Don't let her fool you if he hits you or abuse you leave IMMEDIATELY ASAP REMEMBER LOVE IS GENTLE AND KIND NOT ABUSIVE IF IT IS ABUSIVE THAN IT AIN'T LOVE BABY GIRL.

26:40 i love how someone finally told Alvin to reference the "data" that he has been basing his argument on😭😭😭

Alvin is so ignorant about life it's shocking. His accent makes things worse because people in Nigeria like to think people who have such accents are more exposed and likely more intelligent. I don't think this debate inspired me in any way, I left utterly disgusted by the thinking of the anti-divorce crew. May God help them.

The woman wearing green should be a marriage counsellor, she is intelligent and outspoken.

The lawyer is the voice of reason.... such a balanced perspective

Lady in green. I am so sorry for how they invalidated what you experienced. You are truly a strong woman for leaving. I cannot fathom how the "anti-divorce" individuals developed such warped views. But God bless you for remaining strong!

These anti divorce people made me SICK!!! Putting your child's "financial future" (or so they say) over their SAFTEY! Worrying about getting help for the partner that abused your child??? I am disgusted! Another reason why I am SOOOO grateful to have the mother I have in my life because how could ya'll not protect your children??!

Beautiful mother in green they’re saying her marrying at 19 is the reason she got abused , but the one who married at 30 sat up there and said he beats her but loves her. This is too much

That poor women in green. Going thru divorce and the whole village against her. I'm happy she still went thru it

the man and the woman in the green, and the lawyer ABSOLUTELY CARRIED THIS😭

Staying in a marriage after your child is sexually abused is the most disgusting and stupid thing to say🚮

Mama in the orange… She is the type who would not believe her child would as abused all for the sake of remaining married. That is very scary. Just to claim being a married woman.. she would accept any and every form of bad treatment and abuse

8:20 the most traumatic thing you can do to your child who was sexually abused by her father is have them both in the same household and force her to relive the trauma by seeing his face each day. He did it once he will most certainly do it again. He already crossed that boundary.

The one with the cap you’ve been married for only 3 years and you’ve separated a lot🤦🏻‍♀️ that says a lot

That American guy needs to know that being the loudest in the room doesn’t make you the most intelligent

Then blaming her for getting married at 19 instead of blaming the man for abuse baffled me😢

Many are mad...few are roaming. We need more more conversations like this to expose how deficient people can be in their thinking. Mummy Green, Guy in Green and the Lawyer...God bless and keep you all.

The man wearing the hat in the anti-divorce group is honestly very sick for saying people who get divorced should be stigmatized. Most people who get divorced honestly try to work things out before calling it off. You can never know what some people have been through in abusive marriages unless u live it yourself!!

I am so happy they included a Lawyer in this panel. Simply because he is calling out Alvin's bullshit 😂

My problem is if I came on this show I’ll insult somebody 😭

They are lying to push their own narrative. Some children beg their parents to divorce because they’re tired of seeing the fights.

I love the way the woman in green stood on business despite the silly opinions of people!!!! She really deserved to be free from her abusive relationship

Notice how Alvin is the youngest, least experienced, and never been a husband… yet he’s the loudest & most passionate…. Some men need to learn to listen😂

To witness with my own eyes that some human beings still have such backwards views on divorce is an embarrassment.

"Lack of communication is worse than abuse" okayy

“He hits me, but he loves me” That woman needs a lot of therapy for her trauma.

“ If I’m the child, I will arrest you and my father”😂😂😂

A mother that got pregnant with her child, 9 months or more. Your child comes to you and tells you that her father, your husband has been assaulting her and the first thing you’ll ask her is ‘is it true?’ That woman wearing orange… wherever her children are, I hope they are healing.

Alvin is the one that's raising a traumatized generation 😭😂 I really love this lawyer and the lady in green❤

Trying to save face about a failed marriage by just separating just so you don’t get divorce is crazy.

Those men in anti divorce should be closely monitored. The amount of times I was shocked at the nonsense coming out of their mouth

Not that woman in orange saying “he hits me yet he loves me” LOL 💀

Mama in green, you’re a star. I love you, your children are lucky to have you. You prioritised your children’s mental health and overall well-being. Mr Fisayo, your reasoning is amazing, you know what you’re talking about. Olatubosun, you’re a man and I commend your honesty and bravery in speaking the truth. Alvin must just be a real life chipmunk, because he’s spewing venom.

If the world was a square shape, and the woman in orange told the woman in green that she got abused because she married at 19, we can also make the assumption that she refuses to divorce because she married at 30. But the world isn't square

If a man hits you, you feel pain. If a man loves you, he will never want to see you hurt.

I will always respect my mum for the day she told me that the day my father said he'll kill her, that was the day she left and never looked back.

Notice how they raised there hands up to say people change after marriage but they were also saying that marriage fails because you’re too young and you didn’t see the signs of a bad partner…..

Well, you hear stories about parents who stay with spouses that abuse their children all the time. It's not like we didn't know such ppl exist, it's just wild to hear them say it out loud

Young women please avoid that young boy in the blue sleeveless jumper. His views are scary! Also the man in the blue shirt invalidating the lady in Greens lived experiences! A woman that has been married for 25 years is explaining to you the reason she couldn’t continue with her marriage and you who has only been married for 3 but in your own words “separated multiple times” is saying you need to correct her becasue she’s wrong! Absolute madness

What a disturbing episode. For people to make excuses for pedophiles is absurd.

"Think about the good times, there might be a loophole" is crazy😂

These anti divorce people are scaring me !! I mean what’s wrong with them ??? Staying with a man( or a woman) that sexually abused your child?! Are you mad ???

The fact that people can hear stories of abuse and still say they should not divorce but stay is insanity to me. I hope Nigerians can be freed of this mentality one day.

Alvin isn't making any sense , "prioritising" your child's future by keeping them in the same traumatising environment where they should have felt the safest at the expense of their mental health and wellness? Please crack another joke. This isn't so funny. 🙄

Lord Jesus, if someone like Alvin or that mad man with the cap decides to look in my general direction physically remove me from their line of sight

The woman in green is strong

as a child that was sexually abused by a "parent", I have a large resentment for the parent who knew and stayed. i would've rather been homeless and had that person out of our lives then grow up feeling like my abuse wasn't "important" enough to do anything about edit: thank you for the love and concern. Yes i was abused as a child by "parent" and although this statement is angry, I do want it known that there is another side to that anger. I am in a position where I am not overcome by that anger and sadness of being betrayed by not only a parent who abused me but also a parent who found out and chose to stay and act like it never happened. That choice was made after enduring 5 years of abuse at the age of 9 and I continued to be abused until I was 16, and once more at 19 before I chose to put myself first and leave. As a child who endured this life, I cannot understand why a parent who said they loved me and wanted me to live a good life would do that. Please listen to your kids and remember that they are your responsibility. No one who has endured this abuse is responsible for it, the abuser is. They took advantage of a child and your willingness to overlook their crime. Please hold them responsible because the second you decide to give them another chance, you are now responsible for the abuse your child has endured and you have altered that child's life forever. to all those who have met a similar fate of abuse; I am so sorry you ever had to and my heart aches for you because I know and understand a lot of that pain and betrayal. i wish nothing but healing and love your way because that should've never happened.

So glad there was an actual legal practitioner to quell the rubbish.

I hope Alvin gets to watch this when he gets home and come to the realization that he's not the intriguing scholar he thinks he sounds like coz Wtfff

Some people don't deserve to have children, May God protect us all

that woman is sharing her traumatic experiences and being vulnerable and this two people , Alvin and Lady in orange were heavily invalidating her experiences. my heart broke every time her voice broke. I would have defended her if I was there.

The woman who said she won't divorce her husband, especially after hearing that, the situation is sexual molestation of her children is EVIL.

I had a bunch of Nigerian women as roommates when I was in university. We used to have this same debate and I was in complete shock then, as I am now. However now, reading these comments I am validated in my rage and disgust. I will never choose to, nor want to understand this anti-divorce mindset. Btw, It’s not limited to Nigerians of course, just speaking on my experience.

As a British Nigerian - some of the mentalities that are still held today is quite sad. God help us ...Lady in Green Epele ma 🙏🏾🤍

Alvin is so loud and wrong it’s insane.

The anti-divorce side is vexing me

I have never been so annoyed before….the anti-divorce crew are extremely shallow….love is not abuse….sometimes there are no signs…you dated an actor…marriage is not a death sentence

I actually enjoyed this video so much. Personally I see so much sense from the lawyer’s perspective and the woman on blue dress as well. Abusive marriages is an absolute no for me. Mental,emotional,physical abuse in a marriage doesn’t only affect the couple but also the children. Being separated to sort things out is not a bad idea but if it isn’t working you shouldn’t hurt yourself even more by staying in that marriage. In Nigeria I feel our culture and traditions has affected how we think. Why stigmatize a divorcee especially when you have no idea what exactly warranted the divorce. It’s crazy really. No one prays for a bad marriage but sometimes people actually find out the bitterness of this and can’t live their lives in pain all because of societal stigma. People will always talk anyway so make the best decision for yourself and children as the case might be. Also sexually molestation/ abuse, either a minor or adult is a very big crime. I’ve seen situations where women stay with their rapist husbands all because of where will they go,how will they start afresh,why did the girl dress like that. Hmm, even when this involves a minor o. It’s really a stupid act,that woman shouldn’t be a mother and they are both supposed to be jailed if she conceals it. The sad fact is women conceal these things sometimes all to protect the criminal who is their husband all because of the Union. Staying with a criminal after knowing what exactly they are capable of is a choice really. But that woman on orange doesn’t even seem like who will report such. She initially said she’ll ask the daughter if it’s true😒why would she lie on her own father as a kid,it’s crazy ooo but that’s aside sha. Though I feel that woman just totally hates the concept of divorce and can explain why she keeps hitting on being separated instead of divorced.

My god. None of the anti-divorce people should have children. How foul.

Not them gaslighting the mama on green … that she married too young… ridiculous… as if it wasn’t a norm then ….

16:35 children are indeed the beginning of empires, and that is why we should protect them from an abusive parent and bad role models😤

The woman in orange is against herself, she’s already in a broken home but just managing it.

The guy with the accent just likes hearing himself talk

You put your hands on me or my children. You won't need a divorce. You're going to need funeral arrangements.

Children from broken home are definitely not happy, but children that lives in an abusive environment are depressed!!!! Children that live to see how their mother is maltreated everyday are broken, they are the ones that are abused indirectly Divorce is not a solution You divorce to survive.

As a Christian it broke my heart when the anti divorce woman said she would not divorce her husband if he allegedly SA’ed a hypothetical child… according to the Bible there are certain circumstances that allow divorce… Adultery (in Deuteronomy 24:1, affirmed by Jesus in Matthew 19) Emotional and physical neglect (in Exodus 21:10-11, affirmed by Paul in 1 Corinthians 7)… I have a beautiful son and a great husband but if he ever harmed my child in a sexual manner… my then ex husband would not be on this earth after I heard the truth. There is a difference between fighting for your marriage if the passion dies or something that can be slowly worked on, but a evil act like domestic abuse and sexual violence against ANYONE is enough evidence in Gods eyes to protect his children who were failed by a man that converses with the devil in his actions…

Who’s this guy on green that is pro divorce - Your parents should be proud of you! Oga Lawyer- your wife should be proud of you. Mummy green - you’re brave and strong and thank you for standing your ground!!! God bless you all

Alvin's parents got divorced, he's pouring his anger on everyone

I hope Auntie in green, her days are filled with love and blessings. As for the one in orange..I pray for her kids

Abuse can be psychological ,sexual, verbally and financially