Can I ask you all a favour? If you enjoy this episode, could you please hit the like button 👍🏾 it helps us massively. Appreciate you all! 🙏🏽

Thank you so much for having me on your podcast!

This woman saved my life 5 years ago. No exaggeration.

As a mental health professional and survivor I LOVE this woman. Listening to her is the opposite of being gaslit

I was in a narcissistic relationship for many years. Now that I'm free of it, I can identify the behavior quickly. When you're inside of the relationship, it feels like a prison.

"if the behavior is unacceptable, it's unacceptable, I don't care about the back story" Yes, indeed, Dr Ramani, if only we all saw it that way. Less people would be able to get away with horrendous acts against others.

I just changed a profile picture in my phone for one of my contacts from a handsome face to "never defend, justify, explain or overshare." It will remind me every time the contact calls that I have the option to decline, block or completely remove them from my contact list. Baby steps are slowly giving me my life back.

Divorcing my narc husband in September!! I can’t wait to have my own place with peace after 25 years with this disgusting behavior!!!! I’m officially done!!!! ✅

It's hard when your parents are narcissistic. I tried to talk to people about it, and they said, "Well, you need to honor your parents, you need to respect them. I said, "Well, what if they're abusing you and not respecting you?" I'm supposed to put up with it. Everyone was defending them. I had no support. Thank God for these videos.

After dealing with a narcissist, I decided to prioritize my mental well-being by working remotely. It's helping!!😇

I am a narcissistic survivor, and it wasn't even a family member, but strangely a co-worker. Even if it was for a short term, I was very much so psychologically damaged which took me years to recover from. It's so important that the world is well versed in this world of narcisism. Watching Dr. Ramani's videos during pandemic helped me further heal and come to understand that time of my life. Thank you for inviting her!

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

The hardest thing to explain to people who have not lived with a narcissist is the behavior of the vulnerable or covert narcissist. These people appear "normal" but when you are intimately connected to them they are judgmental, will unfairly target other family members for their hate, will love others only conditionally and if you don't comply with their vision of your life they will reject you, they will emotionally withhold from their children and put unfair expectations onto their children. They are highly damaging to children.

The line about how individuals ''may give up on their path of education'' gave me goosebumps of relatability.

Dr Ramani is a blessing to our generation. I wish her every success in her work.

I fervently believe it would benefit our society to teach our children, in an age appropriate way, about personality disorders including narcissism, antisocial personality disorder and substance abuse disorders. I am grateful that I read a book a few years before I met the malignant narcissist I dated. It didn’t save me from the relationship, but it saved me from being more damaged. I was able to externalize his behaviors. Education is just such an important piece for the survivors. These personality disorders are no joke and can be very dangerous. We need to prepare our children for encountering this kind of individual.

This woman saved my life 5 months ago Now im free and happier than ever !!!

Dr. Ramani's insight always hits different, especially when it's about vulnerability. Strong people have vulnerable moments too.

This woman....is my HERO!!! She put SO many things in perspective for me and my family regarding a Narcissistic family member. YEARS of emotional abuse and drama...and now we know exactly how to deal with this person. Dr Ramani saved us!

Ugh… I wanted to hug her at the end… no matter how strong and capable we are, at the end of the day, we’re human and trauma cuts so deep 😢 kudos to her for continuing with her education and helping others heal

She opened my eyes. I was having cardiac arrests and started developing unexplainable physical medical problems because my narcissistic abuse and being kept in fight or flight mode for 10 years.. I went through hell not understanding the link between my health and the abuse I was enduring, but ended the relationship when I started educating myself about neurodiversity and narcs; and found Dr Ramani's youtube page. I wish I knew how to contact her. She doesn't know how many lives she has saved.

Something that seems to have been missed in the definition of "a narcissist" is that narcissism is a defence against shame. These people lack the skills to be able face those feelings of shame without it completely destroying their sense of self.

Narcissists can seem like the most loving, charming and sweet people one minute with one person and then the next minute with someone else they’re mean, rude, dismissive and cold/callous. Everyone has varying moods, but with narcs it’s like they’ve got varying personalities and you’re always uncertain and afraid which one will appear next. They will never admit wrongdoing 99% of the time and even if they do, they will still blame you and make you think you had it coming.

She says 1 in 6 people are narcissist-IC, not actual narcissists. It's a major point of difference. NPD is a full on disorder, but narcissistic behaviors aren't necessarily. Teenagers are naturally narcissistic, for example, because their brains aren't yet fully developed. Dr. Ramani is a godsend and is brilliant - please don't misquote her. 💛

She saved me. I'm working on getting out of my marriage now. My mental health is so much better. Thank you, Dr. Romani. ❤

Thank you, thank you, thank you, Dr. Ramani for making the distinction that all Domestic Abusers are indeed, Narcissists. I never knew what Narcissism really was, until I started listening to you. My abuser went into a treatment program for Domestic Abuse...and learned to abuse me in ways in which he couldn't get caught, or arrested. The abuse never stopped, because he was a Narcissist.

Thank you. I am desperately trying to survive having just left and gone no contact from a parental narcissist while first fighting for my life and listening to Dr. Ramani hours daily because her work is the only thing that may be saving my life. Dr. Ramani‘s description at the beginning of this interview is bone, chilling for it is apt, direct, accurate. it is only a scratch at the surface and she is 100% accurate.

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

1 in 6 and I won the jackpot 😅 Parents, ex-mother-in-law and ex-husband are narcissists. Watched Dr.Ramani through my journey to break free. Won in court and saved my child’s life. She’s a blessing for all survivors!

When she explained the gaslighting thing, I got goosebumps. Happens to me in my current relationship a lot and I never understood why I felt this way. Thank you for this episode!

Omg imagine if Dr Ramani had given up her education because of her terrible experience at uni! Because of this one narcissist we wouldn’t have this wealth of knowledge that has changed my life and by the looks of the comments section many, many others! Well done to her! She really is amazing! I’m so glad she never gave up on herself with such odds against her!! Thank you so much Dr Ramani! To anyone reading this you never know the impact your life will have or is having, so please stay true to your authentic self and keep going no matter what! 🎉❤

This lady is brilliant. I’ve personally noticed an increase in narcissistic behaviour in the last decade, particularly in young adults - a generation who grew up in an age of social media, and it’s actually understandable why it is so prevalent today. People are no longer just ‘Joe Bloggs’ they’re ‘@joebloggs’, they’re profiles and pages with an inflated sense of self / ego, addicted to the dopamine hit of a like on a post. This is where I believe modern narcissism develops so rapidly. Growing up in a world led by social media grooms narcissistic behaviour IMO. The sad thing is I don’t see a way of stopping it.

Dealing with these types of people is so draining😢.

OMG thank you. I feel like crying. I am a 54 year old man. I have spent my whole life attracting The Narcissist. Thank you.

1 in 6 equals about 17%, rounded up. Always knew that there is a higher percentage of narcissists than used to be acknowledged. It was a solid 37.5% in my family. Plus a borderline. So fully 50% of my family of origin was cluster B. My whole family life when I was young was unpredictable and unsafe. Have been no contact going on 12 years. Best thing I ever did for myself.

After hearing this, it seems like my mother has traits from all those types of narcissism. The cherry on top, and what really opened my eyes to how narcissistic she is, was when she was upset about something I didn't want on my birthday that she wanted. She told me that my birthday should be HER birthday because she's the one that birthed me so she should get what she wanted that day. People say you should cut the ties to those relationships, but I'm so terrified to do that. Shes threatened harm to herself over lesser things, so I keep her in my life because I feel like I have to. It's so incredibly difficult.

This lady changed my life around a few years ago and honestly I've been living my better life since

I’ve been following her for over 7 years, she’s the best of the best!

She speaks so fluently and is so lovely to listen to

After I found out about many things with my partner, I did seek counselling on my own and was told by this one counsellor that she didn’t put labels on anyone with that characterization of the narcissist. Her words were, I don’t believe in labelling people and for me she suggested to set goals to work on a way to find myself and to live as though he didn’t exist. I was a mess and needed help and thought she would help me but I was left with more questions than answers. The Mental Health in Ontario needs to look beyond depression and navigate further to helping those struggling with a narcissist. I have never returned to her and found so much more help with watching YT videos like this that have been a blessing to me and for that I am grateful and I want to thank you.

I was so thrilled to see Dr Ramani on your show. She's amazing and has helped me understand a lot of the behaviour in past relationships I've encountered and helped me be more aware of how I treat other people in my life too. Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

Dr. Ramani saved my life 4 years ago. I thank God I bumped into your channel that time.

I've watched HUNDREDS of Dr Ramani videos on her personal channel, and yet I still learn something or hear something in a different way in EVERY video she puts out and interview she does with other people. LOVE HER!

What Dr. Ramani has put into perspective for me is incalculable. A million thankyous for helping us heal.

Dr Ramani ❤ "whatever you did for the least of these, you did it for me". Thank you for everything 🙏🏻

I was in a relationship with a narcissist and was gaslit to the point that I didn’t know who I was anymore. The best decision I made was to get out. Thank you Dr Ramani.

The question for the next guest when you asked Dr. Ramani was deep. I felt the dept of her answer. It made me tear. DR. RAMANI, I DONT FEEL SO ALONE WHEN I HEAR YOU! THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR WORK.

After my last narcissistic relationship I found myself questioning everything. Not only my partner’s behaviors, but my own personality traits and what I considered to be reality (which was actively being distorted ). Some soul searching and internet research led me to Dr. Ramani’s books and videos, which brought about some very much needed clarification and insight. That kick started my journey of self improvement and self confidence. Amazingly enough the suggested video algorithm eventually led me to DOAC. To now see two of the most inspiring people that have helped me immeasurably, come together like this is amazing. Thank you both for everything you do.

1:36:16 YES Dr Ramani! It's such a relief when she talked about how disappointing and painful it is for women who have been sexually assaulted because often times nothing meaningful gets done, while the woman continues hurting and dealing with the implications of that abuse. It's even more painful when the woman is blamed or gaslighted, and is falsely accused of lying about her experience. It's a hypocritical society that we live in really, because women will be asked "why didn't speak up about it?" or "why didn't you report it?" but once they do, it doesn't always lead to a positive outcome, and sometimes the victim ends up being blamed. So evil, it's happened to many women I know, and often times we just gather the strength to carry on with life while hurting, it's unfair

It’s so nice reading the comments, knowing I’m not the only one benefiting from Dr. Ramani’s work. I’m so grateful for her persistence. 💝

I cannot say enough how much I appreciate your interview skills and the authenticity and compassion and genuine human - ness you bring to the table, not to mention the fantastic questions that go beyond the typical book sales promo circuit stereotypical ones. And when you bring on such guests with important and impactful work👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽... Thank you!

At 1:38:01... I felt it so deeply. It's her eyes, compressed lips, body posture, trembling... You know it when you see it, if you've ever been there. She is soldiering through it courageously. And I just want to hug her tightly and say "You are safe now".❤

After my "situation-ship" with a narcissistic man ended in 2019 I was inexplicably on the verge of unaliving myself, I was in a deeeeep deep depression for months and months, I didnt know why THIS particular situation-ship made me feel this way as I'd had relationships end in the past, took a couple weeks to myself to reflect and then it was business as usual, this one was different. I then discovered Dr. Ramani's videos on UKposts and it all clicked, I realised I wasn't the problem, and she legit saved me, Thank you Dr. Ramani 🙏🏽💜

I absolutely love seeing all the comments from people whose lives have been changed for the better thanks to Dr. Ramani - mine included! ❤

Dr Ramani, I feel compelled to add my admiration and infinite appreciation for your ability to have mastered this subject and suggest actionable ways to navigate a path away from, out of, and ultimately avoid narcs when we encounter them. In response to the question posed by the previous guest, I admire your bravery, your resilience, your authenticity, and offer as well a warm, compassionate, humane, hug for what you courageously shared with the audience. Those fortunate enough to see this interview will be enriched by the valuable and priceless road map you offer survivors of narc abuse. Thank you.

one of the best choices for your show to bring Dr Ramani! She's truly a one of a kind person to listen to for mental health awareness and advice! great episode!

Part of my healing and recovery. Thank you for info on how to spot the difference: Non-Narcissistic is able to 1) Take accountability; 2) Make Amends & own their Behavior; 3) True Change of behavior and action. Every.Single.Time I listen, I learn. Thank you

Being in a relationship with an addict who is also a narcissist or has borderline personality disorder or both - you're a survivor when you're living through it, you're a warrior once you get out

I know someone who is a narcissist. She knows it, and she's proud of it. She thinks it makes her better than others, almost like a super power. She thinks it doesn't make her a bad person, it makes her a smart person.

I have been following Dr. Ramani for years..... clearly the best in the field. No one even comes close.... no one!

Dr R-saved my life 3 years ago. She’s amazing! I adore her, I often think how many people she’s saved and doesn’t even know the impact she’s had on people’s lives. Still healing, but I’m awake and free !!

I'm so excited to listen to this. I love Dr. Ramani. My assistant manager is a narcissist, and trying to instill doubt in my manager. Now my manager doesn't trust me or my assistant manager, instead of just the person who's actually lying. So wild how narcissists can twist stories to benefit them.

I finally subscribed because the quality of the content has gotten higher, these latest guests are highly educated and credible. Good job.

Learnt so much from this women a couple years ago. Helped me understand and accept a horrible relationship I had with a narc. I was able to get closure from learning what a narcissist is. Knowledge is power

Dr. Ramani is a treasure , a remarkable leader & teacher to millions of us. I feel protective of her upon hearing her darkest day. I hope the person who terrorized her years ago has by now met his comeuppance & some serious judgement. I'm sure I'm not alone in this wish. Rock on, Dr. Ramani, we love you!💖

Im a survivor of having to deal with narcissism from a young age and when it comes to finding people who are not toxic in order to balance out having to deal with narcissism in our society is really hard to find those people is my experience. Thats why Im a happy loner. When alone I experience so much Peace! Thank you dr. Ramani and big hug because I notice you were having a bit of a hard time going back to your darkest days! Love you!

She is such a special person and I've been following her for many years. She has been so instrumental in helping me setting healthier boundaries and becoming a master observer. Excellent interview ❤

Thank you for always asking the best questions and making the interview a worthwhile expenditure of time.

Would love to hear more about covert narcissism, thats the toughest form out there is my experience. These type of narcissists do the "apologies" etc. but its just tactic to control you and keep you stuck in the relationship! This subject needs more attention because its super damaging!

Just left the company with the narcissistic boss. Everything was exactly like Dr Ramani says. So grateful for her work ❤️

Covert Narcisist women are the hardest thing to identify . I wish professionals would talk more about this type of narcissism .

Was more than 5 years ago that my 18 year old daughter at that time told me for the first time that her father was narcissist and recommended me Dr. Ramani's videos. I couldn't believe, my daughter was so right! Our live was a nightmare and still a nightmare because I thought that I could help him. Now that I realised how wrong I was and starting cutting as much as I can, I found my life in dangerous. I can't ask for help because I don't have any proves, I'm at the moment in a country were racism it's high and women are not protected as in UK. We lived in Uk for 10 year where I had help but my father blein me and told me to open the door again, what I did going against the protection service advice. I have been building a beautiful life for my children in the nature I'm feeding and caring 40 little 🐾 and my 2 children, so calling to my brother when things become dangerous have been my salvation.

Love the fact that more and more people are becoming aware and supporting each other in the comments sections of these videos.

Doctor Ramani is a rock star on this topic. She delivers such a concise and digestible verbal portrait on the matter and it's been of tremendous help for me. Thanks so much for having her on.

Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for sharing such brilliant insights on what narcissism is! Being narcissistically abused by my parents, later bullied in school, work, I now find my sense of self being alone and being educated. ❤

This was an amazing show. So much better and informative than I expected. The hoste did a perfect job of presenting the best questions that led to the next best question. Thank you

I was drugged and attacked in college in 1970. I literally had PTSD and nightmares after that. The university was no help, and I blamed myself. I was not the same after that, but it originally led me into social work, because I didn’t want anyone else to go through something like that alone. I wish I could say that things have gotten better, and they have to a certain degree but not enough.

Dr. Ramani is knocking it out of the park! I so enjoy seeing her success and wish her more!🙏

Thank you Doctor Ramani. I need this awareness about me, failures, struggles and hope. I am sure this helps a lot of people too. I hope everyone can take this wisely for a better world.

Hugs to Dr.Ramani ❤she's such a fountain of knowledge and has gone through so much in her life...the information she shares is just GOLD..thanks for bringing her on the podcast !!🙏

I have listened to Dr Ramani for a couple years & this interview is one of her best. Power packed with information from your fantastic questions. She has literally helped save my life & I so appreciate her. She is a walking encyclopedia on this topic.

Doctor Ramani is such an excellent communicator of her field. I've enjoyed her content for years, and was really excited to click on this. The examples she used and the ways she talks about this subject is so fresh, and even though I've followed her work for a long time, I'm so impressed with how engaging she can still make it.

You must be living in my life right now! The last couple of your sentences finished it off for me as its exactly what's so. Thank you for popping up today into my conscious world and being the only human in it that gets it but most importantly expresses it so that you know your not going crazy and it's not you or your fault...Blessings🙏🤗🌱

She saved my life!!! I have a narcissist sister and I had no idea what I was dealing with. I cried for help so long but no one listened to me as she said "you are so lucky to have such a sister"... I now cut all my communication with her and I never felt so happy and free in my life! I pray with Dr.Ramani for opening the doors for me day and night! 🙏 Please continue what you do, we all need you. ❤️

This was so informative. I was in a relationship with a narcissist, it was for half a year, but it absolutely broke me and even damaged my family a bit. I hope as many people as possible will see this and learn from it.

Dr. Ramani is one of the most articulate people I’ve ever witnessed. She even has command of the colloquial ways people say things (she uses words from current language that is almost slang. So expressive! Fast talkers intrigue me too, not a dull moment, I learned quite a bit about a topic I thought I was pretty well versed in.

Dr Ramani is one of the best to learn about this subject from. Good to see her here.

I had to paused this sooo many times. I looked up Narcissist online 2yrs ago coming out of an intense relationship I ended and came across Dr. Ramani. She has been such a help to keep me from going back to a relationship I craved and also despised.

The best interview with Dr. Ramani Durvasula that I have seen. Kudos to you. And thank you!

I live in a small country FULL of them. Its gotten to the point that its actually - boring. People asking me "why don't you speak" and when I answer "you haven't asked me anything" they are the silent one.

Thank you, Dr Ramani. You’re such a shining light for people who are in the worst situation and then on top of it, unseen, not believed and isolated. You were one of the first people I found when I found out the name for what was happening. And it’s so helpful and accessible that you have the content, online presence, your workshops and your books. You are helping so many people. And this video was one of your best. The level of your knowledge and the so accurate descriptions are amazing. For all I’ve learned, I still struggle to find words to describe this. I thank you for yet another level of clarity in this seemingly endless confusion. I too am noticing better content and more awareness on this topic even as recently as this year. And what I’ve noticed is more content on what to do about it, solutions, and more about healing. Another reason I liked this video, is you gave us clear tools and hope. I’ve been stuck for 35 years and haven’t gotten free yet and now trying to help my kids not repeat the pattern if I can. All of them paid a price to be part of this toxic marriage that I felt I couldn’t leave. So we all have to learn and how heal with where we’re at now. And I’m so thankful more is spoken about this now so they may not have to waste many years like I did. I’m so sorry for the pain you’ve been through. I appreciate how vulnerable and honest you are. I wish you healing and love. You are a shining light, really helping our generation to evolve and do better. And I know you work with all your heart on this. And I appreciate you with all my heart. And thanks Steven. You are the best host of the best podcast. You ask such good questions and dive deep. Thanks for bringing Dr Ramani for this super important topic

I cannot wait to read your book, you have made me look back at my life and take control over what has happened to me, I see things clearly now!!! Thank you Dr Ramani!!!!!!❤❤❤

Seriously so good, I am really glad you got to interview her and I have been listening to her for over 2 years now, really opened my eyes to many many things! 🙏🏼

Dr. Ramani is an angel. I feel so seen in her words. Much gratitude for her ability to speak this truth on this earth.

Steven, both yourself and Dr Ramani are truly amazing! There must be a brilliant team lining those curtains! IMO, as we are all living in this World of Today, ripened from a world of yesterday, I feel this will hit home in a magnitude of households across this beautiful world. I know it does for me. Thank you both for your time.

Wow, what a great conversation. Been following Dr Ramani for years ! Thank you for all you do and for especially telling that story at the end . You’re so inspiring and loved 🙏🏼

Thank you for this episode - I'm a psychologist myself so the topic isn't all that new to me; however I'm absolutely astonished by how informative it was (though easy to process at the same time) and by the captivating manner of presenting it that Dr. Durvasula has. Great stuff!

Excellent Interview, one of the bests ever - Thanks Steven for including this topic to your podcast's series

She is absolutely the best!! She brings so much awareness and hope at the same time!!! ❤ thank you for this interview!!! 🙏

I'm a fan of Doctor Ramani's work and love watching her here on youtube. I had never heard Doctor Ramani speak about her own bad experience with assault and a stalker on a university. I'm so sorry she had to go through that. Her vulnerability and strength is to be admired - and she's a force to be reckoned with. I hope narcissists dream about Doctor Ramani in their nightmares.