Dr Karen Gurney is a Clinical Psychologist, Psychosexologist and Couples Therapist, she has been helping couples tackle sex problems for over 20 years. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Mind The Gap: The truth about desire and how to future proof your sex life’.
0:00 Intro
02:43 What Do You Do and Why Do You Do It?
04:32 Our Attention Is Being Hijacked Which Is Affecting Our Sex Lives
10:33 Why Does Sex Get Harder the More We Think About It
12:26 Why Expectations and Pressure Make Sex Worse
16:32 Our Society Has Created a "Sexual Script" That's Wrong
17:46 How to Talk About Sex with Your Partner
23:45 How to Tell Your Partner You're Not Attracted to Them Anymore
26:32 How to Not Let Kids Ruin Your Sex Life
28:01 The Demographic That Comes to You More Than Any Other
28:52 Why Desire Goes in a Relationship
34:49 How to Trigger Desire in Your Relationship
39:10 The "Initiation" Problem
40:57 Should We Schedule Sex?
43:41 What Should We Be Doing to Keep Desire High in Our Relationships
46:31 How to Talk About Your Fetish with Your Partner
51:30 What Women Really Want During Sex
53:21 Does It Matter Who Initiates Sex?
56:40 If Our Idea of What We Want From Sex Isn't Happening What Should We Do?
59:07 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do?
01:00:32 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do?
01:01:51 Should We Have Sex Before or After We Eat?
01:03:58 The Optimal Amount of Times to Have Sex
01:05:52 Sexual Dissatisfaction Between Men and Women
01:08:30 How to Deal with a Sex Life as a Parent
01:12:30 What You Can Do as a Parent to Ensure Your Sex Life Doesn't Go Off Track
01:14:02 The Relationship Between Poor Sleep and Sex
01:17:15 At What Point Should People Reach Out to You?
01:17:57 Have You Ever Seen Relationships That Are Unrecoverable?
01:19:21 The Top 3 Most Common Sexual Problems
01:21:22 The Impact of Pets on Our Sex Lives
01:23:19 Are You Hopeful for the Future of Sex?
01:24:40 How Menopause Affects Our Sex Lives
01:25:57 Our Bodies Changing Over Time and How That Impacts Our Sex Lives
01:27:03 Are We Meant to Be Monogamous?
01:32:27 The Last Guest’s Question
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