Hey Steven. Thank you for what you have created, thank you so much. Alot of love from Kenya 🇰🇪. Your podcast is a big influence on mine. Quick question, I hope you see this...Do your guests come on at a fee or are they all at no cost? @The Diary Of A CEO

Top Moments- Released 20th August 2021- Watched Saturday 14th May 2022 [ ] = own thoughts 1. MM: Dad’s business really took off 8:40 We were middle class. When I am 9, everything gets upgraded. We have BMW’s we are flying 1st class. That is the time when my family’s marriage unravelled. I learned from such a young age that money does not solve your problems. I was blessed at such a young age to learn this lesson. SB: Wow. 2. We tend to mistake highs for happiness 34:55 making a lot of money, getting an award. But highs are not happiness/fulfilment. 3. MM 39:12 Go live your values and have them fail you. In the case of money [a value] 40:05, you have to buy that Lamborghini and realise it does not fix anything [SB and MM both laugh] SB: I remember buying a 7-bedroom house with a tennis court, out in the countryside, at 21. But I was 1.5 hours from my friends, they cannot see me anyways. I was there for 9 months. Then moved to a 1-bedroom flat in the middle of the city. 41:05 I had to do it and let my value fail me. 4. MM 41:10 Will Smith story: shows his dad all the cars and bikes he owns. Will asks Dad: ‘What do you think?’ Dad: ‘Why do you have so many cars? You only have 1 ass.’ What do you need 4 cars for? 5. MM: why am I doing this 49:50 MM: it is a question u have to earn. To remove a desire from your equation, u have to get some of it first 50:30 and see that it does not work! [Recall SB’s point above: he bought a car, a house, to realise he does not need it] 6. SB: What did u come to learn having got all this success, money? What did u come to learn that u value? 50:42 MM: I was 25. But doing this at 35 would be really weird. I became a therapist for these lads at bars. I should be writing about emotional health. Hence, I pivoted from dating to being an emotional coach. I can be a 50-year-old still talking about this, and hang my hat on this and feel proud. But I never would have got there if I was not a dating coach. 7. SB: What are the values of Mark that allows you to be fulfilled, sustainable? 54:15 Honesty, Generosity- spend money on others- it feels much better and means a lot more, which creates powerful moments that u cherish for the rest of your life. 8. MM: When u start out, u say yes to everything 1:00:00 Then learning to say no gracefully is a skill. Being able to let people down. 1 way I do this is I tell people I have a rule: ‘I only do 4 events a year. Sorry I cannot do your event.’ They really respect your rule. SB: It is your principle that let you down. He wants to do it but the principle!! [funny] 9. SB: Why do people hate personal responsibility? 1:03:30 We tend to mistake responsibility and fault 1:04:35 There is responsibility in every moment because we are always choosing what to focus on. MM says it again here 1:08:08 in every moment u choose what to focus on. 10. MM: In every moment u are choosing how to see things 1:08:45 In this sense u can choose to see things in a way that makes u feel better [very well said] It is not easy [ simple but not easy] In this sense, happiness [fulfilment] is a choice. Will you access fulfilment, will u choose to? [ big question] 11. SB: As life has got more comfortable, we have gotten into trouble 1:14:50 [Recall this is what Anna Lembke also said: we are suffering from all this access] [The more we have, the more miserable we are. Why? Pleasure-pain balance explains this. Our brains are not wired for a hyper-convenient world, we are suffering from all this access. So, Anne is saying: we are suffering because life can be too easy. Wow.] 12. SB: When we are comfortable, we give people an existential crisis! [both MM and SB laugh] 1:18:00 13. MM: You are experiencing the most success of your life, and now u feel aimless [ gold medal syndrome- Olympians also experience this after winning gold, they ask; now what?] 1:21:00 I mentioned this to a unicorn founder, to comedians who get TV specials. They all experience this too. 14. 1:23:00 I have always written books I needed to read.

Thank you Steven!!

I found him rather immature and unlightened

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That’s a very succinct way to put it. 🎉 Love it! Very thought provoking. ❤ Thanks for sharing. I’m saving that.

Screenshot worthy. Thanks! Godspeed on your journey.

Nice

Yes. That makes sense. The illusion of it is all too real though. That’s a good thing to write out and leave where it can be seen as a reminder. 😊

Very good, it helped me, I screen shot it

Right in the point :)

Sadly 😥

You just can't sit on your couch period

@@pvsk10 Hahaha Hahaha 😆

See I don’t believe this cause I think about other people way more than myself. Not judging them but definitely thinking about their behavior, words, how they make me feel etc.

Yeah but people sure will gossip about others. Lol!

And if they mind they don't matter 😊 vice versa

​@@baeconater8I see what you're saying but I'd imagine you're thinking of multiple people rather than one individual. I think the quote is relevant especially in this social media world of the insistence to impress.

In a freshman business communication class, the professor did the thing where you go around and introduce yourself. It was your name and one interesting fact about you. He then offered an A for the class to anyone who could repeat the name and fact for five people (there were maybe 30 people). No takers. Nobody even tried. He then made the point that everyone was thinking about their “interesting fact” too much to take in anyone else’s. In other words, nobody cares what you’re saying so stop panicking. Then, he outlined the presentation we had to do; the major project for the class. Good technique.

Glad you enjoyed it vince 🙌🏽

Well pointed out about manipulation and deciet causing mental illness. (Hamlet)

AHA moment. That was great.

Dam I'm about to be hungry

Or…if you need a home, want to buy a house, want to go back to school, need medical care, need a car to get a better job…

​@@livthedream5885You're being far to micro when he is talking about macro things.

@@ReaveIdono happiness is an individualistic, micro focus. I don’t know what you think he’s talking about.

@@ReaveIdono At a macro level, societies function best with less social and economic inequality, and a more even distribution of resources.

Agreed (from personal experience)!

Also there is nothing more educational than having this experience happen to you

As a mid 30's female, no one but you cares what you think.

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@Gemma Grant I am a 52 y/o female & feel the same ✨ I listen to podcasts on my UKposts to help me concentrate while charting at work & I had to pause to listen after I got home. Surprisingly liked this guest & their interactions. I actually learned from this one. Hope you did as well.😌

I feel the same - especially the fact that these guys are talking in a way which is normally reserved for women... it's quite refreshing.

And alllll that makes him so hot...😍

OMG yes! 😂❤

Stop

When I climbed K2, Denali, and Everest, I didn't have time to stop and read books.

@@VirgilTStone how very proud you must be. Everyone else has to stop to acclimatise when scaling those peaks, which can take days of sitting around doing nothing (ideal time to read a book or two?). Clearly you just went up there like a true hero. Interesting how you can find time now though to put down my own humble experience. Maybe you can plan another made up trip that never happened?

@Virgil T. Stone Reading? Lol I WROTE a book while climbing Mount Doom deep in the heart of Mordor. Git gud, nerd

Oh wow

Yes! Wonderful insight. There is a balance. Glad I clicked on this!

Well said!!😊

I needed this...Thank you for commenting ❤

Thank you! And pickup "artistry" is often just the act of lying and scamming women for sexual gratification instead of stealing money.

🙌🏽 Glad you liked it

@@TheDiaryOfACEO Thank you, Steven. It was most enjoyable.

What if u have high expectations to protect urself?

"So if I remove expectations, I can expect to be happy?" I'm not actually arguing, because Magliozzi's not wrong. It's just that telling yourself, "Ok, no more expectations then. Now we'll finally be happy," is itself an expectation. The Buddha said, "If you want to stop suffering, cut out desire." To which the disciples went away, tried, and came back, saying, "Yes, but now we're desiring not to desire." We're in a trap in which the desire to get out is the thing that keeps us in. It's weird. People have been toying with this for millennia.

@Cecil Charles Official It's essentially laymen's Stoicism. Anyone interested in a more philosophical approach to managing expectations in pursuit of happiness should look in to the ancient Stoics. Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" is probably the best place to start, and it's VERY accessible in a way that a lot of philosophy is not (i.e. it's not overly convoluted or academic).

Yessssssss

This would be amazing

Oh yes 🙌🏾

Great shout!!

This is the 111 episode this comment has 111 likes I'm seeing synchronicities like crazy And the fact that I'm reading his book for the second time right now ! 😂💜✨

Glad you’re enjoying them Laura

👊🏽 thanks grant

That's why I follow him. I think he is awesome and one of the best, if not the best interviewer on UKposts. There is also this aura of compassion and kindness that he possesses.

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Agreed, I've listened to about 20 of these now and he's the best guest, real values, true and honest. Also so wise. I have to read his books

TY for your encouraging comment! I am going to read the book!

This was for sure and eyeopener today!

I've found that the solution for that is to work at a smaller company where you are encouraged to where several hats while the company grows! So exciting building a solid company with a team of people all looking in the same upward direction!

Which book? Giving a f**k??

@@alexmassey4708 yup. That one 🙂

Thank you George 🙏🏽

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Agreed. His podcast is personal and impactful in a way that most podcasts are not. Each of his podcasts leave me with something to really think about and consider on a deeper level. This podcast, more than any other that I've come across, is a sort of "school of life" that has the potential to hone my schema or provide much needed perspective that can make my life better.

thank you ben 🙏🏽

That's a good point.