Is it worth having kids?
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День томуFertility rates are falling across the rich world, as more and more people are weighing up whether to have children. Raising them can be stressful and cost a fortune, but they might bring you a lot of joy. So all things considered, on International Women's Day, is it worth having kids?
#childcare
00:00 - Is it worth having kids?
00:36 - Do kids make parents happy?
03:12 - Why people used to have more children
04:11 - The expense of having kids
05:24 - Parental leave
08:03 - Childcare
09:42 - The “motherhood penalty”
13:45 - The macroeconomics of children
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Why there are so few babies in southern Europe: econ.st/3ZuhCWY
The glory of grandparents: econ.st/3y6xO54
The age of the grandparent has arrived: econ.st/3ZgtThX
In rich countries, working women and more babies go hand in hand: econ.st/41xIx69
Richer societies mean fewer babies. Right?: econ.st/3YfeRI5
A new study finds preschool can be detrimental to children: econ.st/3KPaxfm
How many American children have cut contact with their parents? econ.st/3ZwsNOJ
Which countries have the most generous child-care policies? econ.st/41Bze55
What will Joe Biden’s spending bill do for child care in America? econ.st/3ESBfQK
How America should spend on child care: econ.st/3kHZBFK
Even in lockdown, mothers bear the brunt of child care: econ.st/3y2C99k
The struggle to reduce the “motherhood penalty”: econ.st/3y6DUlY
The roots of the gender pay gap lie in childhood: econ.st/3YbdZnH
Parents now spend twice as much time with their children as 50 years ago: econ.st/41IjH3l
What’s the best age to have a baby? econ.st/41B7FJ8
@thomHD Рік тому
Irony is intelligent people who would make wonderful parents are choosing not to, while less-fit parents continue having loads.
@thecrimsondragon9744 11 місяців тому
Exactly 👌🏽
@Buggu3 11 місяців тому
It depends on one’s perspective. I wonder how ppl with less than me have so many kids but it’s their out look on life….. life must continue it doesn’t matter who do it
@ems4884 11 місяців тому
This has probably always been the case. The only change is that there used to be not social expectations to reproduce in general, plus ... Birth control was invented
@meatmachine449 11 місяців тому
Smart people know that having kids is unnecessary
@dizziemslizzie4091 11 місяців тому
Idiocracy is coming true 😅
@saramatthews7159 Рік тому
It's as simple as this: If you're not financially/mentally/emotionally stable, PLEASE do not bring children into this crazy world. You're not doing them any favors.
@MichelleNovalee Рік тому
This is why people on welfare have lots of kids. They don’t have the stress of having to be financially responsible for them when the government will just take care of them. I say this growing up as a child on welfare with 3 siblings. Middle class people are much more likely to not have kids or have fewer kids.
@celsoable1 Рік тому
Yes, but it is not always that simple; especially on the financial matter
@saramatthews7159 Рік тому
@@celsoable1 in the year 2023 with so many methods of FREE contraception, it really is that easy.
@celsoable1 Рік тому
That’s not what I had in mind.. I was reflecting on the free will and I think it is quite segregative and diminishing if you consider some people are not intitled to make this choice only due to their income or property; I do think that ideally people could wait until eventually they became more mature emotionally and have some financial security.. but that’s not always the case, especially with the money
@mollymo6229 Рік тому
Hard to say that you can STAY financially stable that part is hard in the current world
@TicoM0la 8 місяців тому
Being an uncle.. best thing in the world... Enjoying your nephews while being raised by somebody else .. pure genius ..
@beaulieuc8910 6 місяців тому
not really you may ave to do babysittin
@4_dennyfauzulhakim479 4 місяці тому
@@beaulieuc8910pretty sure babysitting isn't as stressful as having a kid lol
@user-tk4cb1qi8c 4 місяці тому
Yeah i bet is the same thing 😂 like having a girlfriend or talking with your sister same
@AWholeVibe96 4 місяці тому
Yep 😆😆 cool auntie over here
@robynhope219 4 місяці тому
I guess...as an uncle or aunt you're not responsible for nieces/nephews.
@IKP1000 6 місяців тому
I never had children. If ever I feel a sense of regret sneaking up on me, I spend half an hour in a supermarket or McDonalds and I'm absolutely fine again.
@antinatalistwitch111 4 місяці тому
😂😂😂
@MamaandBabyRelax 4 місяці тому
haha, before I had kids, I really didn't feel much for other peoples either. My husband and I used to joke about it - now we have those annoying brats in the supermarket!
@grit1679 4 місяці тому
Yesterday I was walking out of Wal-Mart and some kid that looked like a 7 year old was having an absolute breakdown because they weren't allowed to play the claw machine. Yelling, screaming at the top of their lungs. And they weren't a toddler, they were old enough to know better. My first thought was "Glad I don't have kids!"
@MamaandBabyRelax 3 місяці тому
@@grit1679 Even at 7 would you believe some kids just can't emotionally regulate themselves. We can't expect a 7 year old to be as mature as an adult. Mind you, I know adults who are still lacking this ability.
@Rayis4444 3 місяці тому
@@grit1679Not all kids are like that.
@NerdyChineseBoy Рік тому
Translation: "Please breed, we're running out of minimum wage workers"
@DAWNOFHIM Рік тому
Say it louder.
@timothydevries383 Рік тому
That's the Republican way.
@enjoyenglish1721 Рік тому
No worries, there still are many poor people you could import!
@shad118 Рік тому
Dont worry the robots will do it
@LovingSoul61 Рік тому
@@shad118 that's what I was thinking and it freaks me out
@a.randolph8112 Рік тому
It never ceases to amaze me people figure out the cost of children AFTER they have them and not before
@jeanneeyy2064 Рік тому
right... and these people procreate...
@munequa81 Рік тому
They somehow think they’re exempt from these costs.
@FruityHachi Рік тому
shoot first and think later
@smallfaucet Рік тому
@@munequa81 What does that even mean? Having a family isn't about the cost it's about having a family. There are countless way to provide and care for a family.
@rumplstiltztinkerstein Рік тому
@@smallfaucet Tell that to the people that can't afford a home, decent food, decent schools, have to live in an insecure neighborhood, and work over time just to not get kicked out of the house.
@anttoronto3202 5 місяців тому
The majority having children don’t think about. They just have them. As a result, we have this discussion.
@jacksonbickford6761 5 місяців тому
Honestly they call the US a rich country, but when most people can’t afford education, homes, childcare, groceries, transportation, entertainment… maybe we just aren’t a rich country anymore.
@skinnypete3104 3 місяці тому
We have more billionaires then any other country. Same with millionaires. Our country is rich but it goes to those that have bought out the politicians and even supreme court
@zari5972 3 місяці тому
Perfectly said
@GodSoLoved.Yeshua 3 місяці тому
Doubt it, how much is an iPhone? We are used to luxury and things we don't need.
@leshoda 2 місяці тому
If you american had any brain, you would save some cash and go to africa to invest it.
@dashed0327 2 місяці тому
@GodSoLoved.Yeshua actually theres jobs that now require smart phones unfortunately. I work one.
@oONodokaOo Рік тому
I am a quiet person and I listen to the people around me tell me they feel sorry for me because I don't have children, they don't understand why and how I can live alone... They are compassionate so I tell them "it's ok" with a smile, and I mean it. They don't realise my hapiness comes from leading a calm and simple, underwhelming life. Less problems, more time to appreciate life and know myself. This life suits me well!
@merlion6613 Рік тому
@@bikechan9903They may not say it literally, but many imply. There have been countless accusatory statements along the lines of ‘Women who don’t have children are not real women’ ‘It’s women’s duty to bear children’ and similar. Shocking, but true. Typically made by men, but also by old fashioned or some jealous women. The world is thankfully realising these statements are unacceptable to make.
@sn8602 Рік тому
It is no one's business. Some people are so rude!
@arimusai Рік тому
@@bikechan9903 looks like you don't know people very much
@oONodokaOo Рік тому
@@bikechan9903 You'd be surprised! One colleague even told me "that's not fair, you are so nice you deserve to have children"!
@nicopapaya1791 Рік тому
@@oONodokaOo happiness is a personal thing, if you dont want to do it thats fine. A lot of people associate happiness with kids it's their right, dont get offended so easily, this is cry baby material here. Say you dont want kids cause you are the way you are and that's it.
@User24x 9 місяців тому
"Children are your greatest source of happiness because they get rid of all your other sources of happiness."
@user-fb8ef5tc2r 9 місяців тому
Lol. So true
@zachanikwano 9 місяців тому
Or maybe many people find it fulfilling to be a parent? I feel like your statement is only true for people who had kids and realize AFTER that they regret it
@User24x 9 місяців тому
@@zachanikwano You can look into the research available on your own. If you want more happiness, don't have kids. If you want something else that isn't necessarily happiness, have kids.
@romanjanayev4591 8 місяців тому
what type of happiness for example?
@wiretrap1035 8 місяців тому
I took a screenshot of your quote. That was dead-on target.
@emms4867 9 місяців тому
It angers me when people say they had kids because someones gotta look after them when their old, literally the most selfish thing i can think of, expecting your child to adapt to this crazy world and look after you just because you decided you want that .
@crhayes 7 місяців тому
I think if the child is raised well they would do it out of love and reciprocity. This is more common in cultures that haven’t become as self-centered.
@eastcoastmusicmachine7989 7 місяців тому
I saw a quote that said something like - your children will do for you whatever they’ve seen you do for your ancestors. If a parent doesn’t take care of their OWN aging family in front of the child, the child won’t feel responsible for taking care of the parent someday. And in America, lots of Boomers vanished their aging parents into assisted living, but now Boomers’ kids have no income for that
@ericnewman6523 5 місяців тому
Someone’s child will be taking care of you when your old too..
@steel148 5 місяців тому
@@ericnewman6523duh but people who have chosen to and devoted their lives to patient care. Ever been to a nursing home? Those 4 walls are very lonely. They all say they have children and great relationships with them but they never come to visit. Your kids have their own lives don’t expect them to take care of you in old age because it’s more than likely that they will not.
@steel148 5 місяців тому
@@crhayeslol keep dreaming. Many residents in the nursing homes have children and great relationships with them at that. Or so they thought. They get dropped off and the kids never visit. Only when they get “the call” and it’s time to collect what mommy and daddy left them behind 💰💰💰those places are lonely for a reason. Kids move on and create their own families. The nurses will take great care of the parents in old age.
@MinhSen11 8 місяців тому
As soon as I started teaching kids, I realized I did not want them. I love them with all my heart, but don't want their company after 3 and on weekends.
@eletemmorzsaiblog 11 днів тому
So true. I work in childcare. Evenings and weekends are precious and having enough sleep, doing whatever you want without strict schedule.
@ViceCoin Рік тому
Exactly, I meet lots of angry parents, cursing at their kids. As a summer camp counselor, a kid told me, "You treat me better than my parents."
@antib_reader Рік тому
that's so sad, parents take their kids for granted unfortunately
@CoconutSelf Рік тому
Oh give me a break...It's never okay to curse at your kid, but being a counselor and a parent is not the same thing by a long shot. I used to have one full time job and 4 part time ones at the same time teaching a total of 400 kids aged 3 to 16. Never lost my cool. The kids all loved me. Now I have a toddler 24/7 with zero outside help. Guess which job is more exhausting. It's easy to be nice and patient when you have none of the serious responsibilities and can go home after your work to relax.
@ViceCoin Рік тому
@@CoconutSelf It was only a summer teen job to me, but I had to deal with the trauma from poor parenting. Later, one kid recognized me on the street, and dragged is mom over to meet me (not hot). Never saw the point of raising kids on a working class income.
@slimetank394 Рік тому
@@CoconutSelf doesn't change the fact that total stranger was being nicer to those kids than their own fcking parents.
@SteG4Liverpool Рік тому
yes. cause you care for them for a period of time and their parents do for life. which is a huge mountain to climb. some can't handle it cause they have not fully evolved as a human being, partner, and financial backbone of their family. it's your job to care but you only need to polish this one side of the cube of life and caretaking.
@slowzhu Рік тому
The other thing the video didn't mention is the parents' mental health. My mother was always in a bad mood when I grew up, I always felt very intense at home, so I stayed at my friend's home as much as possible. My mother is healthy and most of the time responsible as a parent, but she didn't have the concept of emotional health. I thought a lot about her issues and temperament, measuring how I do when anxious, stressed, or exhausted. I don't do well. I cannot imagine having a kid and not having the energy to be a patient parent, as any kid deserves. To me, that's really irresponsible.
@LemanMamiyeva Рік тому
I relate so much..
@masturawrites Рік тому
Yes. Remind me of my mom too.
@jessicamillan8773 Рік тому
I couldn't agree with you more. 🤓👌Mental health plays such an important role as a parent. My mom struggled a lot with mood swings my whole childhood. The upside is the recent social awareness on mental health and recent generations taking responsibility for their past traumas to improve their lives.
@jaxtargaryen3869 Рік тому
Reminds me of my dad. I was always walking on eggshells at home because of his explosive temper 😢 and that is why I don't want kids
@poshmartine Рік тому
Are we sisters?
@RavensFan634 5 місяців тому
People don't want children because they don't want to be working a second job, waking up in the middle of the night, disciplining them, spending thousands of dollars just for them to go to college, etc
@carlitoxb110 8 місяців тому
I’m childless by choice but I have huge respect for all parents around the world who sacrifice their lives to support them
@haleyhowell7889 8 місяців тому
I strongly want to be a parent from the core of my being and I have huge respect for people who choose to be child free! ❤ I love your stance 🥹
@IrisFlorentinaA 7 місяців тому
"sacrifice"?
@postblitz 7 місяців тому
Thanks but it's not that difficult.
@jamisona.5639 7 місяців тому
You are childfree not childless
@13violalover 7 місяців тому
The word you are looking for is "childfree". Childless implies that you are infertile.
@Bluesclues-here Рік тому
I definitely think more people do regret bringing kids into the world than they’re able to admit to society. Children are absolutely amazing, but the stress, anxiety, the responsibility for their outcome in life, it’s like carrying the world on your shoulders. It’s tough to say the least.
@MichelleNovalee Рік тому
Do you regret having kids?
@priskruger314 Рік тому
True but we can adjust. We can focus on being happy no matter what life throws at us. It's why I talk a lot w my kids. When we get bad news like one of my sons is colourblind but dreams of becoming an engineer, we don't know how and if even possible but we will try and if not allowed we will adjust our plans together. Health and happiness is a main focus. And we roll w the punches.
@enjoyenglish1721 Рік тому
I am more than a hundred percent sure that if I hadn't had children, I would certainly be unhappy, cause for the past 21 and 18 years, My kids have given me joy! worries too, but mostly, an uncontrollable unconditional happiness!
@Maya-sv1pz Рік тому
regret is not a luxury when you have children. you roll with it the same way if you roll with your advantages and disadvantages that you cannot change in life.
@ashleygarden6906 Рік тому
Yes
@sheeba7846 Рік тому
It’s not just about being financially able to do it. Parenthood is like swimming in an ocean of anxiety and stress with tiny islands of happiness scattered here and there.
@forallofme4441 Рік тому
You are a lunatic and I hope you don't have kids.
@ladybug3380 Рік тому
Sounds depressing
@djamburere Рік тому
Well put 😁
@seniorDAS Рік тому
Been a father for a year. I have it backwards: ocean of happiness with scattered islands of fud and anxiety
@Jabgams Рік тому
Is this opinion based on your own experience or on this brainwashing movie
@letigre21 8 місяців тому
I'm married and have two kids. It's not worth having kids and seriously not worth getting married in the first place.
@ss0498 8 місяців тому
Facts.
@alonbinyamin 3 місяці тому
I bet so many people agree with you but lie to themselves and everyone else.
@user-hp3po9mj4z 2 місяці тому
hope your children and family see this ugh
@jamesstevens2444 2 місяці тому
Either you're disgustingly selfish, or picked the wrong woman.
@SaveznaRepublikaJugoslavija 8 днів тому
@@user-hp3po9mj4z what is wrong about being honest?
@wolfu7264 8 місяців тому
I would definitely love to have kids so they can work in a cubicle for big corps for 70% of their life
@Blinky867 7 місяців тому
Lol
@itsme-rt7nz 7 місяців тому
I find it fascinating that your comment is the only one I've seen that considers the child. Does no one, in their decision process, think about the life they are sentencing their children to by bringing them into the world? All of the pros and cons discussed are about how it affects the parents and society. What about the happiness of the individual person who will live about 80 years on this planet?
@user-yx5sj1vm4q 7 місяців тому
I feel that every life can be a disaster after seeing my uncle died of cancer in pain. Is living worth it after all when all of us will extremely perish?
@kevinmott9046 7 місяців тому
Life’s much more than a cubicle my dude. Hope you’re doing well.
@JujuvovoHUH 6 місяців тому
My argument exactly!!!!
@Redflowers9 Рік тому
It’s not even about having the money to go travelling, afford expensive meals and go to rock concerts, it’s about that time and space to enjoy what you have in life, to rest, recover and reflect on what you want in your life and what you don’t want. Having kids is like a mystery box, you really don’t know what you’re going to get and whether it aligns with who you are as a person.
@HaggisMuncher-69-420 Рік тому
Just say you want to be able to sit in your underwear, un-showered for a week and play video games.
@research4lifee Рік тому
Yep, the gambling of parenting. You just never know.
@smsth07 Рік тому
@@research4lifee almost if not all the same with marriage.
@deborahdean8867 Рік тому
Who you are as a person? Like a living human? I wonder if you were worth it? Just think, your parents put forth the effort to cater to your needs growing up, only to have a selfish, lazy person who wants a self indulgent life. I wonder if your grandparents thought your parents were worth it? Since when do you get yo decide what people's lives are worth it. Surely we wouldn't want to entrust s brand new human being with a brand new brain to learn life from you ?
@Redflowers9 Рік тому
@@smsth07 I would argue that it's less of a risk with marriage because divorce is a lot less socially stigmatized than parents abandoning their children and rightfully so.
@alliasn3384 10 місяців тому
Being a parent is hard, no doubt. I hope more people are seeing the weight that comes with decision. Children should be wanted, not regretted.
@ossianns 10 місяців тому
Extremely few parents regret having children
@alliasn3384 10 місяців тому
@@ossianns it’s not common but it happens and that’s my point. According to statistics ~20% of German parents, 8% in the UK, 7% in the US, etc responded that they regret having children 🤷
@user-lq7pt2xn2q 9 місяців тому
Maybe it's a Germanic thing. Where I'm from only seriously dysfunctional people would regret having kids or having love in their lives.
@Rosannasfriend 9 місяців тому
It’s not just dysfunctional people. Lol. Anybody can regret having kids.
@user-lq7pt2xn2q 9 місяців тому
@@Rosannasfriend Yup anyone nuts. Lol. It's natural to have them and to love them.
@morganclarke3394 5 місяців тому
If you're not finding joy and fullness in your life until you have kids, you've obviously never tried anything else.
@shigor 2 місяці тому
what have you tried to find fullness and joy in your life?
@DoriZuza Місяць тому
Sleeping in 😴 😊
@3amDayDreamer Місяць тому
That part!
@irondragonmaiden Місяць тому
@@shigor Do you not have hobbies? Friends? Anything that sparks joy? Because if you have to ask that, it's kind of an issue
@shigor Місяць тому
@@irondragonmaidenI think I have more hobbies than an average person. I am not sure what ur point is
@MarthaDeTa358 Місяць тому
This administration is putting many families in difficult situations. A lot of people are financially struggling to live, put a roof over their head and put food on the table. Things are getting worse these days, if you don't find means of multiplying your money you might wake up a day to realise you didn't plan well for yourself and family.
@Davismiller680 Місяць тому
I agree with you and I believe that Professionals are currently dominating the market since they have access to both the necessary strategy for making money in this industry.
@Florencecoxx Місяць тому
That's awesome to hear. I invested 5k in Robin hood about a year ago and it steadily went down, now my portfolio is down to $800. I don't know what to do and i am in between jobs
@MarthaDeTa358 Місяць тому
@@Florencecoxx Understanding your financial needs and making effective decisions is very essential. If I could advise you, you should seek the help of a financial advisor. For the record, working with one has been the best for my finances.
@Florencecoxx Місяць тому
I’m Glad i stumbled on this. Please, if its not too much of a hassle for you, can you drop the details of the expertise that assisted you and how to get in touch.
@MarthaDeTa358 Місяць тому
@@Florencecoxx I get guidance from *Sarah Alma Martinez* Most likely, the internet should have her basic info..
@14loosecannon Рік тому
One thing that I think is missing from this analysis is the fact that 40-50 years ago, one could comfortably support a family on a single average income in a developed nation. But that's almost unheard of now outside of elite professions, without welfare or some other form of support. The increase in the cost of living, particularly the cost of housing, will probably have a negative impact on birth rates.
@aricarly Рік тому
Yeah, for example, in my mom's family, in the 50s to 70s, only her dad worked, and he could afford a middle class life (a house, car, TV, toys and bicycles for each kid, some money for sports and extracurricular activities) on a truck driver salary. And they were 10 siblings. In my dad's case, his mom also worked part time and she also inherited some businesses, so they had a very comfortable lifestyle for the time.
@ladyeowyn42 Рік тому
South Korea’s govt is wringing its hands after a measly $300/mo didn’t convince people to have more kids. It’s like politicians have no fing clue what daycare alone costs…
@SynchroM3h Рік тому
Appreciate that things change over time. But this one factor that you have mentioned, explains why having children was not a cost factor previously compared to now. Everyone wants their own car, their own laptop, their own fridge. Resources used to be shared more 20+ years ago. Now, you barely hear the word share. Unless it's to do with stock markets.... Even grandparents find it a chore to babysit, so you then pay for child care while working!
@Vienna1902 Рік тому
And not only that, but families were tightly knit and generational solidarity was normal. I was lucky to be born in middle Europe where we still have those close communities, it is still considered only natural and normal to take care of our elders the same way the took the time and effort to take care of us when we were children. On the other side, it is quite normal and self understood that our parents will help us around children.
@aricarly Рік тому
@@Vienna1902 Yeah, the same in my country... meanwhile some people in the US look bad at you if you stay home after age 18, but in my country is normal to live at home at least until one finishes university and finds a job, or if someone decides to marry, so usually people leave home between the ages of 23 to 32 depending on the person, but some stay with their parents forever, and that's also ok as long as the child contributes with the home, whether they work and pay for their part of utilities, or they stay home and take care of parents, nieces and nephews.
@Mike-dd8bd Рік тому
For me it’s basically a cost problem. Supporting kids for 20 or so years is a huge challenge. Most people in this video aren’t even at the half way point yet.
@safuwanfauzi5014 Рік тому
most in modern world today, to having kid in early 20s it not worth, all today expensive. you need to saving for you old days. 2 kid is enough.
@steven8148 Рік тому
cost and TIME
@Leo-gt1bx Рік тому
This is the biggest problem.
@LogicSpeaks Рік тому
You’re awfully cynical. It is true that many people forget about their older parents but that’s more true about the values in the family while growing up. And it’s the values in a given country. The United States it seems to me is one of the worst offenders because of the values placed on services. Just give birth then have someone else raise them, same attitude towards the elderly. Put them in a home. The problem is that no one has time to raise their own kids due to the ridiculous social safety nets in some countries. Working overtime is more important than spending time with family. The irony with your statement is you used to be a kid. Did you stuff your parents away in a home and stopped visiting them? The hatred of children is getting a bit ridiculous. Who is going to take care of you if tons more people don’t have children? Robots with fake emotions I guess. Or no one.
@davidjerson2546 Рік тому
Most people are trash with their finances so your perceived level of affordability is skewed by your bad financial decisions
@aditiverma8222 27 днів тому
Not having children is the best decision ever I've taken in my life. My life is much more satisfied while being single.
@gregoryvanikiotis3214 5 місяців тому
Never had children, never wanted to be a parent but I always have peace of mind! I made the right decision for myself.
@Sammie551 4 місяці тому
Is it because of the cost?
@SaveznaRepublikaJugoslavija 7 днів тому
@@Sammie551 If it is, is that such a bad thing?
@ashtownsakatu4098 2 дні тому
@@Sammie551bcos he just don’t want them 🙄🙄
@Sammie551 День тому
@@ashtownsakatu4098 what if your parents never had you Isn't it selfish to enjoy life alone?
@ashtownsakatu4098 День тому
@@Sammie551 well it was their choice to have me I didn’t ask them!! And oo if they didn’t give birth to me I will have no idea that i existed!
@Lola33g Рік тому
Women won’t be honest about regretting their decision to make children because they’ll be judged harshly.
@gatanegra8815 Рік тому
Yes. In real life they probably wouldn´t. But Internet is full of such confessions.
@glendacastillo6504 Рік тому
Only if it's unplanned pregnancy or you are unable to afford to raise a child.
@leangrypoulet7523 Рік тому
@@glendacastillo6504Nope. Perfectly many perfectly happy and solvent women in stable families think this way too.
@quincyquincy4764 Рік тому
How do you know?
@esportetotal5411 Рік тому
Quite the opposite. Usually women who don't have kids regret not having them later in life.
@caitlinwilson9799 11 місяців тому
As someone who works in childcare - I often hear it said “oh but when you have them, you make it work. You find a way”. And what that can mean is a whole community of people are making it work, too - grandma can’t retire in peace because she’s providing free childcare, the daycare lets your bill slide another few weeks. It does “take a village”, but the village is tired, too. The privilege of other people’s support and empathy is not to be taken lightly.
@knockel18 11 місяців тому
Well said
@milanimorales2645 11 місяців тому
Not all grandmas are in their retirement years; my children's grandmother is 50 years old. I don’t think she will be ready to retire until my children are in college. In that case THEY will be taking care of HER.
@noleary1995 11 місяців тому
And it's all a blessing
@ioang3712 11 місяців тому
''grandma can’t retire in peace because she’s providing free childcare'' wow, this
@jbkawaiiholic 11 місяців тому
I feel this because recently a couple of friends from school (in their 20) had a baby and a baby shower. They live in an apartment and aren’t rich at all, honestly pretty much like me but i’m not having kids for that reason, and i gues they “made it work” with an exemple being the baby shower were there was so many guests and a HUGE list of gifts “ideas” ranging from the big things to some things i would never ask for like pads for the girl after she gives birth. I feel like if you can’t even buy your own pads, maybe don’t have a kid? (And before you come at me, apparently this was a planned kid, so not even an accident). So in this case “making it work” was asking all of us to buy them everything and anything they needed for them… they invited some people they haven’t seen in so long too like people from school they haven’t seen in 10 years. My guess is: more people= more free stuff. They didn’t even provide food they asked us to bring it AND BRING THE PARTY DECORATIONS😂 i drew the line there because it was ridiculous at this point. Having a kid is your decision and it’s not everyone around you (“the village”)who should pay for your decision. I’d also like to have a kid but I’m choosing to wait until i can afford it and not have to make everyone pay. Honestly some people kinda do the same thing with their wedding but let’s not go there hahaha
@JustanotherYoutuber771 6 місяців тому
“Is it worth having kids?” Is a question that can only be answered individually. Some people’s desire to bring a child into this world and raise it is so big, they are absolutely willing to go through all the struggles and the happiness they get from their children will outweigh all of that. For others, such as myself, the desire to have children is so little, that they might not even want to have them if it didn’t involve all these struggles. Both is fine.
@LR-mh8hs Місяць тому
Corporations want you to have MORE kids. They want a larger workforce (more workers for less money is their motto). By all means, have more kids, educate them and send them off to work. Someone has to make the rich richer.
@33Jenesis Рік тому
60 single no kids. I had wanted one but never got my wish. Life isn’t happier or harder being a childless single, it’s just a different way to live a life.
@asideofaioli4630 Рік тому
It's def happier
@promptmuhendisi Рік тому
@@asideofaioli4630 DEFINITELY!
@brothertn708 11 місяців тому
Serious question. What are you going to do with your possessions when you die? Can I have? 😁
@jayemixes3721 11 місяців тому
@@brothertn708bro didn’t hesitate 😭
@brothertn708 11 місяців тому
@@jayemixes3721 I’d hate to see all her possessions go to waste 🤭🤭😆
@pixieq7559 Рік тому
Do you think they were completely honest about not regretting having children? My parents (baby boomers in their 70s now), my Mom especially, would say that they do not regret having children BUT would also often tell me under intense and emotional arguments that her life could have been much more different (somehow she avoided just telling me directly that it could have been better) without us. She always somehow wanted us to understand that she made personal sacrifices in career etc. that she wanted to do badly but did not because of us. Imagine telling that to a kid and the guilt I felt for it. She never said it directly but I knew that was regret. I personally feel that people who urge other people to have children just want them to pull people into a club of parents to validate that their decision to have children was correct -- a way to pacify regret. You know, since "everyone is doing it then it must be right" kind of mentality. There is so much I want to say about this topic. I am a female in my mid-30s and it's something that I had to really dwell on and I am still thinking about.
@alyssawoodman 11 місяців тому
This paragraph is well written. I think you should try writing more about it since you said you have alot you want to say about it. Just a thought...❤
@DamslettesSIMP 11 місяців тому
My Dad told me "I should've gotten the abortion option" ever since that day, I don't consider to connect with my Dad again, I used to be kind to him, but now I'm only being nice to him He began to be careful choosing his words wisely to me once he knew I'm going to Japan after I finished at 10th grade in Philippines He wished to me that before I leave Ph, that he could spend time with me more genuinely, but I've learned my lesson thrice, I'm not gonna get shot at the back again.
@thecrimsondragon9744 11 місяців тому
Some deep and profound reflections and I agree. Thank you for sharing.
@infernogamers168 11 місяців тому
Just be glad you’re here and stop having a thought hold you back. Such a victim way of thinking. Get on with life
@pixieq7559 11 місяців тому
@@infernogamers168 Thanks for this comment. It amazingly solved all of my life problems and removed all the obstacles 🤗 You're a gift to mankind.
@0newokewoman 5 місяців тому
No it isn’t worth it. Inflation is getting worse and half of Americans live paycheck to paycheck.
@audreyorgnon7112 4 місяці тому
I'm single, 36,and I mainly don't want to be a single mother. Simple as that
@Qwahchees Рік тому
You know what's worse than not being to have children due to money? Being the child born into poverty.
@MsChitterchat Рік тому
Wow. There are millions of happy poor kids.
@kerrijansson2919 Рік тому
@@MsChitterchat That's until they become poor adults.
@m00se40 Рік тому
@@MsChitterchat How does that justify the risk? There are millions of poor kids who experience an unfathomable amount of suffering every day. It is neither moral nor productive to take a risk this big on somebody else's behalf who can't even provide consent.
@Demopans5990 Рік тому
@@MsChitterchat Happy poor children are exactly the sort of people you can entice into the army at age 18, which you can then spend in foreign adventures, and get them killed so you won't need to pay as much salary.
@janisjersovs2441 Рік тому
There's people who never have children and they end up being poor old age people with no one to help them. More kids give chance that some of them succeed. Many children born in poverty become more successful than those born in wealth
@folliesofmen2628 Рік тому
Being alive is tiring (I don't have depression and am doing well overall). I just can't imagine making another human being go through all this when they don't even get to choose if they wanna be born
@whitneyw.7919 Рік тому
You're thinking about this because you're not as selfish as most are. It is actually incredibly selfish to have a child when you think about it.
@hmok7641 Рік тому
I went through many difficulties in pregnancy and my baby resisted them all properly. I always say she was interested seeing this world.I truely believe It was mostly her choice to be here not me!!
@mariagreen275 Рік тому
Totally agree with you , some people choose to have children to fix their life.
@Winnas Рік тому
@@whitneyw.7919 It's also incredibly selfish not to have one as well. See how that logic is silly?
@ChickpeatheTortie Рік тому
You would like to read the works of David Benatar. Being alive is hard work
@melissasaint3283 3 місяці тому
We longed for children and couldn't seem to have them . That went on for seven years. We had plenty of time to travel, work on hobbies, enjoy our relationship and friendships, focus on ourselves, consume entertainment, all of that. And then we were surprised by twins. Little can compare with the joy we have had as parents, and I say that as someone who parented twins who both experienced a couple months of colic. The joy has only grown. They're almost ten now, and they're great, great kids. But, I had a loving, affectionate extended family as a child, had a sibling born when I was a teen that I helped raise, and then worked with kids for years. One of the issues clearly is that most people have no preparation for parenthood, and take no opportunity to build those skills beforehand. Small kids throwing huge tantrums in stores? Almost always very hungry, very bored, overwhelmed or very tired. A little foresight and interaction can prevent 90% of those meltdowns for you, people just don't know it.
@tushardoshi9777 9 місяців тому
People can say anything but the truth is having kids is the most stressful thing ever.
@ss0498 8 місяців тому
Facts .
@chessdad182 Рік тому
I grew up in a family with nine children. LOL. Hard to even grasp that nowadays. And it wasn't easy. When I finally scraped together the resources to go to college, I remember sitting in the local diner with an attractive classmate and thinking to myself "What happens in a restaurant?" I had never been to a restaurant in my life.
@veronicarock1005 Рік тому
exactly! same thing in my first restaurant…pizza. My friend went up for. second slice and I was floored!
@Mira-gu6we Рік тому
What does attractiveness have to do with anything?? Weird.
@sweet2sourr Рік тому
@@Mira-gu6we I imagine that he brought up he was attracted to them because strong emotions came with never being in a restaurant before.
@zr8393 Рік тому
@@Mira-gu6we he felt embarrassed
@JeffCaplan313 Рік тому
@@Mira-gu6we Because "what happens in a restaurant" is that men spend money to feed attractive women.
@rocsib9551 Рік тому
We have 2 children. We never wanted more than 2 children. We aren’t rich, but money was not our main deterrent. Children require a lot of physical, emotional and mental support. Your entire life has to be planned around your children. How much or little you work, where you go, hobbies, vacations etc. It’s physically demanding to raise children (especially in those early years of sleep deprivation). As they get older, the demands do not go away, they just change. We simply can only balance 2 children and we are able to adequately provide for our kids.
@abiola33 Рік тому
One of the most sensible replies I’ve read on this topic in a while.
@krishvids608 Рік тому
especially nowadays where lots of education is prioritised- it's hard to give more than 2 children enough support to develop mentally unless you have a lot of support from external people (e.g. grandparents)
@BORAT_211 Рік тому
Adopt me plz!
@waynechoi5027 Рік тому
I have two kids, I completely agree with you. I don’t think I want a 3rd one, the physicality, financials, time, freedom and care will be further squeezed if there are more. I always describe this is a case of diminishing returns 😅
@rocsib9551 Рік тому
@@waynechoi5027 LOL @ diminishing returns
@ohwell9887 4 місяці тому
I tell my kids don't have kids. Things aren't as simple and wholesome as they once were. It's harder to be a home owner than bring another human into this world who needs that home. No one likes living pay check to pay check.
@frantstorpmadsen3279 4 місяці тому
how cruel of you.
@raquelmote1057 7 місяців тому
Having a child made me so so so happy, but having both parents working full time and one of us watching our daughter is so hard. I wish we lived in a society where we only one of us needed to work so one of us could always dedicate our full attention to our daughter and have time for ourselves. My property taxes just skyrocketed and now cost as much as my mortgage does every single month. A single bell pepper at the grocery store costs $1.50. It's so financially unreasonable for one of us to stop working. Having a child was one of the best decisions I made, living in modern society is just a very very unfortunate truth.
@Inayah-jy8qb Рік тому
One of the things that bothers me most is that parents convincing people who choose to be childfree to have kids 😤
@Fanboy1222 Рік тому
On the other hand, there are childfree eco activists tryna convince people not to have kids
@mikesamovarov4054 Рік тому
If you're defective, we definitely don't want you to reproduce.
@michellewall6748 Рік тому
They want you to suffer too…..
@tiffanyp639 11 місяців тому
We need to spread the suffering around 🥲
@benpholmes 11 місяців тому
You mean TRYING to convince them.
@josiemystery Рік тому
I'm not having any because I would not want them to go through the pain of life, especially today. I'm 30 and already over it.
@LuciTerra666 Рік тому
Ditto.
@catharsis8692 Рік тому
yeah i'm 100% with you, 2 years younger at 28 and i've been checked out for years now.
@snoozyq9576 Рік тому
Yea if they're like me they'll just be sad.
@OlgaKors Рік тому
Same, 40.
@Di4tox Рік тому
What pain are you referring to exactly?
@Sgp654 6 місяців тому
I always tell my kids that having kids comes with a great responsibility. You have to be emotionally, psychologically and financially prepared. For now my oldest one says she doesn’t want any because she wants to do many things in life and I respect her opinion.
@WoodyJ98 7 місяців тому
Id love to have a child, but I love my child too much to have him. The world is very unaffordable, and is getting worse by the day. The elites don’t care. So I’m not going to give them a serf to make them more money
@txlyons2937 7 місяців тому
You are wiser than most.
@AA-wc3tw 11 місяців тому
My bank account, my mental health, my quiet home: says it is absolutely worth it to be childfree. And I am also not passing on the abuse my parents bestowed upon me. Win-win-win. You couldn't pay me enough to agree to have kids. Parenthood sounds like a horrible existence--my parents have definitely exhibited that to me. I've observed parents, strangers and friends: they are miserable and full of complaints and hidden regrets at being a parent. Who wants to live a life like that? I thank them for the examples they are exhibiting, because it only solidifies my choice to be childfree.
@adammoratti7567 10 місяців тому
AMEN!
@elenap-ot4gh 10 місяців тому
dont ask for a lighter load, ask for stronger shoulders
@AA-wc3tw 10 місяців тому
@@elenap-ot4gh My shoulders are fking strong as h3ll. I'm fiercely independent and highly capable. I've shouldered the immense load my parents gave me and continue to give me. You can't go through what I've gone through and come out weak. So I'm not sure what your platitude means in my case.
@sarajoanna1618 10 місяців тому
Well i'm a patent and It makes me so Happy and you dont want to be one becsuse your parents werent Happy for having you
@Xaviergonzalez85 10 місяців тому
Long live mgtow
@Burlesqueteers Рік тому
I would have liked to hear about the immense strain on couples after having children. The huge drop in relationship satisfaction that occurs so often.
@oldtimer7779 Рік тому
Interesting point, I wanted to add to this that I know several couples who are older without kids and they are miserable, it's all in perception, the company and commitment. If you're a miserable person, it doesnt matter if you have kids or not, your relationship will suffer either way. Fyi I have two kids,love them, and happily married.
@kimnolan4084 Рік тому
Kids or no kids, if you do not make your relationship a priority, it will suffer. It needs constant work, commitment , overhauling, and attention.
@anarki777 Рік тому
My wife recently gave birth, and our relationship is completely different now. It's unfortunate.
@erinh9267 Рік тому
I'm sorry. That has to be lonely for both of you. Also, are you aware of whether you do half the childcare and half the financial support? That freedom to discuss as a couple and readjust your plans can help you
@joseph-the-seventh Рік тому
@@anarki777 How so?
@kyoujinko 8 місяців тому
As a father of three in the UK, I can say it is not worth it. It's expensive, very stressful and I really cannot see the benefits after ten years. Just don't do it.
@ss0498 8 місяців тому
Thank you for telling the truth.
@smsth07 8 місяців тому
Money wise maybe not. Intangible benefits mostly. Even when they're grown up, there might still be mismatch in perceived benefits. Hope all fathers cherish time with their kids. They grow up fast.
@TNFVLOGS 5 місяців тому
Why didn’t you stop at 2 kids🤔
@ladylaurenia 3 місяці тому
Dang, your poor children. Why didn't you and your partner stop after number 1?
@DudeDude491 3 місяці тому
Dude you are an ABSOLUTE Legend for speaking the Truth
@MamaandBabyRelax 4 місяці тому
Parenting is the hardest, yet most rewarding job in the world. I am scared about the world turning against having children. Its a beautiful, primal experience. The love I have for my daughters is something I never experienced in my life for anything else. Nothing compares. Yes some people aren't fit for it or can't afford it. Not being able to afford having kids is awful for those who really want it.
@morganmccroskey6636 3 місяці тому
Couldn’t agree more ❤
@sweetchillies3162 2 місяці тому
Parenting is tough but not the hardest job lol. If u feel the need to push out a baby to experience love then I have a bad news for u! Only lifeless people who are boring and got nothing else to do with their lives have children.
@MamaandBabyRelax 2 місяці тому
@@sweetchillies3162 It really sounds like you were triggered by my comment. My life couldn't be more opposite than what you described. I can only imagine how hurt you have been in your life, I am so sorry for you. I think you didn't find love from your parents that you needed. Do you need a hug my dear?
@kamalverma4641 20 днів тому
can you stop them from watching tv, can you live with them all the time and not send them to school, all theze means are made in order for you to get respite from the kids. There is no village now, so tv and mobile raise kids, how do you stop it, you are on it yourself
@jimmyliu4614 Рік тому
When “is having children affordable” becomes a real question, there must be something wrong with this world.
@lostinthesupermarket Рік тому
It's funny cause the ones asking that question is mostly first worlders. The question they are actually asking is "can I keep going on holidays to a 5 star hotel in the bahamas every summer, buy expensive jewelry and cars and afford my every morning's pumpkin spice latte at my favourite artisanal coffee shop while I work on my 1000 euro laptop if I have a kid?"
@kjkj4725 Рік тому
@@lostinthesupermarketI am not doing any of the stuff you wrote. I am 26yo… Do you want to know where most of my salary goes? FOR A FCKNG RENT… 50% of my salary… Let’s not forget that I still have to pay bills, insurance, medical costs and fuel… FK OFF ALREADY… Fckng boomers. What will you tell me? To rent 10m2 place? To eat less? Yeah - sounds like amazing conditions to get a child lol.
@umbomb Рік тому
There's a lot that could be said to be wrong with this world. Fewer people would be a step in the right direction.
@lostinthesupermarket Рік тому
@@kjkj4725 Move to a less expensive city. Do you really need to be living in a big important city?. The only places where I've paid 50% of my salary on rent were world capitals, in any other city is around 20-30% and if you are a couple you'd be dividing the cost. And btw, I'm not a boomer and I'm well aware that the cost of living is high in some places, but I'm also well aware that there are many places where life is affordable.
@reneemichael1574 Рік тому
@@lostinthesupermarket that's a valid question. Why have a child if your lifestyle is going to diminish. Having children that you can't keep up with financially is irresponsible. If you can keep the same lifestyle it benefits the child. It's a great experience for children to travel. Nobody wants to be in poverty or tight on finds just getting by right above the poverty line with children. Who wants that?
@LIVdaBrand Рік тому
We need to get more dads interviewed on these for their perspectives, and not just the moms. Just a little feedback because dads love their kids too.
@MauroRincon Рік тому
Agree 100%
@thevintagekitty Рік тому
👍
@MsEagle20 Рік тому
Or not...
@Bobbylopezcreative Рік тому
This was a very lopsided piece. Men were barely an after thought and only mentioned to say they weren’t doing enough. Completely overlooking the fact that men are expected to work longer hours at increasingly unhealthy working conditions to pay for all of this.
@nishadas1935 Рік тому
I agree!
@bcfortenberry 7 місяців тому
Not for me. I’ve decided I’d rather keep retirement an actual possibility.
@dee8714 7 місяців тому
I was a single mother to three children and while of course it was very tough at times, they brought so much joy into my life. They are grown up now and have their own families and I love visiting them and my grandchildren. I certainly don’t expect them to look after me in my old age. I thoroughly enjoy being alone now and have a very rich life but I couldn’t imagine them not being part of my life. I do agree that parenting isn’t for everyone and it’s much better not to have children if you feel it’s not for you.
@bbmcgee33 6 місяців тому
You are amazing 😊
@Sammie551 4 місяці тому
Well it's why we have Obama care
@elizabeths.470 4 місяці тому
Can you expand how they bring joy? I mean maybe some happinesss but not joy from cleaning up poopy diapers and whining
@xianjingleonora 3 місяці тому
@@elizabeths.470 might not be the most appropriate answer but, it's like taking drugs. What does happiness / joy mean? It's nothing more than chemicals causing different electrical pathways in your brain. So happiness really is just oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin. For some reason that's not completely solved yet by science, the pregnancy, birthing, breastfeeding process and taking care of babies makes the body constantly generate these happy hormones, causing spikes of euphoria. So having children really is like taking drugs, but in a sustainable / healthier way.
@Mister_Worldwide1 3 місяці тому
@@elizabeths.470 father of four, here to expand more from a different angle. We are stimulated by different things. Respectfully, when you ask how children bring joy, I'm guessing you might not consider them a great source of joy. I do not like spicy food. So I'd ask 'What does a burning tongue do for you', I also have seen people eat hot pepper as a snack, so I know it must bring them something enjoyable. My two cents here is that raising a child is a long-term commitment of dedication, sacrifice, and learning. It's as serious a decision as marriage, if not more. Whether it brings you joy or not is a question you need to answer yourself.
@Shyndree 11 місяців тому
Let me correct the closing argument: Few who have children dare to admit regretting it, both for fear of being judged by society and their families, and to avoid feeling like they missed out on their chances in life. But even if they never say it, their kids will realize.
@marie-evepoirier9392 10 місяців тому
studies have shown that 18% of parents regret having children.
@oneperson5760 10 місяців тому
Im the opposite. I was a tomboy, never had a maternal feeling, wanted to be a Marine Biologist. Now that im a mom, i know i would have regretted not having this rowdy house full of boys. I would have missed out on this sense of love and belonging and i would have been lonely and sad if i was solely devoted to a career and on a boat at sea much of the time. I know i would have deeply regretted not having children, but by then it would have been too late to change my decision. At 49, i can always go back to school and career. But at 49, i could not have began as a new mom.
@EyeLean5280 9 місяців тому
Usually anonymous surveys are used to measure these things so I'm not sure your "correction" is correct.
@hanalala3164 9 місяців тому
@@oneperson5760 lol youre probably an 1ncel pretending to be a woman. Nice tryyy
@hanalala3164 9 місяців тому
@@oneperson5760 theres so many regretful parent that theres a forum for them everywhere. Facebo0k, r3ddit, youtube, tiktok
@boochi7087 Рік тому
Another thing I realized the other day about being childfree is that you don't have to stress about "generational wealth". You can truly enjoy what you've worked hard for and disperse it to the world however you deem fit without worrying about the financial stability of your generation to come. It's bizarre.
@KKISCRAZYFUL Рік тому
I agree! Also, I get to use my money and free time to help out my community which really brings a meaning into my life.
@munequa81 Рік тому
Excellent point!
@Hkt1kTurnie Рік тому
Your mom's bizarre
@zuzanazuscinova5209 Рік тому
It's not bizarre. It's one of the main reasons i don't want kids. You have to save up for their college and then help them buy a house. Who can realistically afford that?
@kimnolan4084 Рік тому
I'm am not being snarky at all, but I am genuinely curious why you have to help your child buy a house?
@francesx5752 3 місяці тому
I don’t enjoy working 120-hour week, and definitely don’t want to bring another human being into existence to experience this pain and suffering. One thing I have doubts about is the statement that “those who choose to have babies rarely regretted.” When you interview people like this and put it out in the public domain, what do you expect them to say? What if their children see this a few years later? My very close friend repeatedly and secretively told me how much she regretted having a kid. She eventually divorced and left her child with her ex and paid a handsome child support give her top income. She would not be comfortable sharing that view with people she meets at a party and definitely not on a UKposts video. I wonder how many mothers secretly feel something else but can’t voice it…
@KailuaChick Рік тому
I’m childfree by choice for a great many reasons. The main one being that I don’t like kids. I find them extremely overwhelming. I literally turn around and go in the opposite direction if I see children coming towards me. Yet I’m still told that I’d be a great mother or “it’s different when it’s your own.” My grandmother never wanted her kids and she didn’t like them, she’s admitted it openly. My mother and my aunt both have struggled with their mental health and grappled with knowing their mother never really wanted them. Why would you wish that on someone else? Don’t have kids if you’re on the fence about it, only if it’s something you feel you truly can’t live without.
@Julia-nl3gq 11 місяців тому
So true. I am also childfree by choice. I've known all my life that having a child would horrify me. I can't stand kids. Which reminds me of another problem - the idea that everyone has to like kids. No, we don't. We don't have to like kids, we don't have to want to hold your stinky-diapered baby, and we should not have to sit next to your screaming three-year-old on a plane, or in a restaurant, or anywhere else.
@djuhaHR 10 місяців тому
@@Julia-nl3gqyou are error in Matrix …
@michellewall6748 8 місяців тому
Well said…. Can’t stand kids either … just a huge drain on you!
@michellewall6748 8 місяців тому
@@Julia-nl3gqcouldn’t agree more….
@vsand9798 8 місяців тому
I’m a mom and it’s the most important thing in the world to me. What I appreciate about your comment is you didn’t disparage kids, or make condescending remarks about how unhappy you see people with kids. I’ve seen so much of that in comments. It’s just not for you and you were very honest about the reasons. And as a mom who raised 2 men and is working in my 3rd, I can honestly say it’s not for everyone and that’s ok. I’m not wild about other people’s kids either. Mostly because a lot of parents thing the world revolves around their kids anymore and we should too.
@abstract5249 10 місяців тому
I have a ten year old daughter. As much as it pains me to say it, it's not worth it. She's a brat, rude, unappreciative, and costs me time and money I could have spent elsewhere. I love her and would give my life for her, but if I could go back in time, I never would have had her.
@danyalraza4388 10 місяців тому
Oof, feel bad for your ten year old...
@moistorphan 10 місяців тому
there a high chance you or the guy you chose to have a child with were like that as a young kid (and might still be as an adult). Why do people act surprised when their kids turn out like them?
@abstract5249 10 місяців тому
@@danyalraza4388 Why? I'll never tell her so she'll never know. All I can do now is love and take care of her which I fully intend on doing.
@abstract5249 10 місяців тому
@@moistorphan I don't want to get into it but my childhood was relatively normal. I'm convinced my life would have been far more fulfilling if I had held off on having kids until a more mature stage in my life, after pursuing my goals and experiencing the things I've always dreamt of doing. But that takes time and money, and I thought having kids could substitute for that. If I could go back, I would pursue my dreams before deciding to have kids.
@rhythmandblues_alibi 9 місяців тому
That's brave of you to admit. I think society would really benefit from hearing more from people in your situation, and listening without judgement. Wishing you all the best ❤
@CheekyLove 3 місяці тому
Hmmm, why would anyone want to subject a human being to pain? Disease, pain, suffering, lack of love, lack of attention, poverty, costs going up. According to UNICEF, there are 153 million orphans worldwide. Adoption should be taken into consideration.
@jp_jas 7 місяців тому
The interesting part which is rarely mentioned nowadays, is that actually this gap now between amount of old people and young ones to maintain economy actually happened not because we have not enough children, but because we have… too much old people. Prior to 2nd WW it was actually quite normal not to have many kids (at least in more educated / financially more stable classes). This whole birth boom was encouraged after WW2 (that’s why big part of those generations are called boomers). So it is not that much that new generations are causing problems,they are rather coming back to those old numbers which would stabilize when boomer generation dies.
@xpirate16 Рік тому
It really makes me happy that the conversation of NOT having kids is becoming more culturally accepted
@EyeLean5280 9 місяців тому
Agreed! I love being a parent but it's not for everybody. Heck, my own parents struggled with it and I saw the toll it took on them as I grew up. For me, motherhood is wonderful but nobody should be pressured into it. Anyone who doesn't want to be a parent shouldn't be!
@jenmdawg 8 місяців тому
Me too. I
@Joao-id4dn 8 місяців тому
only in the so called developed 1st world countries this conversation has become culturally accepted. Thats a tiny part of the world actually
@pac1fic055 8 місяців тому
It’s a free country and that’s a very personal choice.
@igors1234 8 місяців тому
It makes me worry about the future of our society, that degeneracy and movements towards extinction are becoming more culturally accepted.
@fengjunchen6438 6 місяців тому
It's a mercy not bringing them to the world.
@wiseyoutube2078 4 місяці тому
I have a friend who was in a career in Filmmaking who was switching around to teaching English. She wants to have kids. I asked her one question: _would having a child be your primary career?_ She didn't understand fully. I rephrase by asking a hypothetical: "if, for whatever reason, you needed a lot of money to pay for your child (school, healthcare, food, etc), would you work anything to make that money ... even if it wasn't a passion?" She said, "That's a bad scenario, why can't I do my passion and have a kid?" I said, "You're not getting it. In a worst case scenario, would you put aside the passion for your kid?" She couldn't answer it, continuing to claim that that scenario could never happen. But these are the blinders people put up. Not only could that happen, but many others could. Wife leaves you, either parent gets illness and drains savings, kid's private tuition too high, you lose your job, your industry goes down, etc. If you want to TRULY be a parent, your answer to my question would be a resounding YES. That signifies that your ACTUAL career is raising a child and everything else is in service to that. It is those who understand that who make the best parents
@raykim6426 11 місяців тому
What I noticed with my neighbors and friends is that parents with a strong support network seem to enjoy being parents substantially more than those without. By support network, I mean having grandparents and siblings at close driving range. When my kids were young, I used to have grandparent envy when I saw parents with both set of parents nearby. Parenting could be hard but more so with no family support network.
@chrisholzhauer3698 11 місяців тому
Thank you for bringing up such an important point that so many overlook that aren't in that situation! Definitely feeling that grandparent envy myself from time to time.
@Mr.Anders0n_ 11 місяців тому
Or you could just say "it takes a village" 🙂
@afreen5058 11 місяців тому
I took an anthropolgy class a long time ago but I think it's something similar to allocated parenting. I don't remember the exact term. But it truly does take a village to raise a child. The west has shamed people for not having children, so everybody felt it's their duty to have kids, and each family raised the kids solo. Now the kids are angry mentally ill and don't want kids of their own. No, you need a village/strong social network where not everyone has kids. Think of all the people who can't or won't have children, and how beneficial they can be as "second" or "third" sets of parents to other children. Even other kids and help raise other kids.
@DanaKot336 11 місяців тому
True, I was practically raised by my grandparents while my single mom was finishing her degrees
@scoobz4177 11 місяців тому
This is very true. As a parent I was much happier living nearby my own family. I had my parents and my husband's father nearby for support. We moved recently in a bigger apartment because it had more space and included utilities, but we are very far away from our support system and often I'm left lonely and overwhelmed at home trying to maintain the housework and keep a child healthy and entertained. I get homesick often... but as an adult you have to weigh out the sacrifices you are willing to make. Having your own apartment has it's pros and cons but if we ever get a chance to move nearby our families in the future, because rent isn't cheap there, I would take it back in a heartbeat. My child needs his family nearby and I always feel like I'm failing him in one way or another. We are doing our best I guesss
@JakubRosman 11 місяців тому
A lot of parents I see rush into having kids and to fill in some void because they're bored or need something to keep themselves occupied. In my area, this ends up resulting in a lot of failed relationships, a lot of kids born out of wedlock and single parents.
@user-wm7ny1qb2i 5 місяців тому
Because a kid wants to eat candy and pizza all day everyday.
@glidkomer 2 місяці тому
@@user-wm7ny1qb2i Don't forget the soda 🧃
@Clovis_Rose 8 місяців тому
The US is making it easier to say no to have children. No paid family leave, no affordable child care, rediculously high education costs, ect. All were factors on why myself and many of my friends wont procreate, plus the direction the US is going politically, and the state of the world.
@kizzykiz 7 місяців тому
There seems to be some who like the idea of having kids and all the heart-warming fun experiences you can have with them, but get a huge slap in the face when faced with the reality of what child-rearing is actually like. It can be very exhausting and extremely involved. And you lose a lot of your personal time the first 5+ years especially. I do think that there are more parents on social media who share these feelings nowadays, which hopefully will give more people pause before making this type of life-changing decision.
@aegisofhonor Рік тому
I beleive we live in a world of a Middle Class paradox where only the very rich and the very poor will ever be able to have kids. If you're already very poor, having kids does not effect your standard of living all that much. And if you are rich, you can afford to have kids as you have the means to provide for them at a high level. Middle class doesn't have that luxury, a child will be a burden in almost every metric of success and financial security.
@user-lt5no1xt1z Рік тому
If your middle class you have to live like poor then you can have many kids
@kanishkchaturvedi1745 Рік тому
Why bring a child into poverty to suffer like yourself. Why then put the pressure on them to get out of poverty
@himetilsits1936 Рік тому
@@user-lt5no1xt1z 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭🤦🏾♀️
@himetilsits1936 Рік тому
@@kanishkchaturvedi1745 thanks!🥹😘
@Ha-nz2vy Рік тому
@@kanishkchaturvedi1745 that sentiment comes with the dangerous implication that only rich people should have children imo
@stephanief.6224 Рік тому
I used to think that having a kid would be the end of my life and when I became a mom it turned out to be easier than I thought. However, I know that a lot of parents who live in constant stress and don’t seem to be very happy. I think that everyone should evaluate their situation and only go for it if is something that they really want. I was happy before being a mom and I am happy now. Having a child doesn’t make you happy.
@User2OO7 11 місяців тому
With enough money and proper parenting skills, children are a massive joy. Otherwise you're doomed.
@sophiethelk9557 11 місяців тому
I love this comment. I am happy now with no kids, but believe I could be happy with kids as well if I was financially stable and had the proper skills and resources to raise a child. Nobody should have kids if they have unresolved trauma or aren’t already happy. It should be an add on to someone’s life
@J.E.C. 11 місяців тому
@@User2OO7it is not about the money, it is about organizing skills and love in a family.
@olumbafamilyfaith9396 11 місяців тому
exactly!❤
@nauxsi 11 місяців тому
@@sophiethelk9557 That's most of the planet.
@TheNoerdy 3 місяці тому
I would love to have kids, but it’s great that there is less social pressure to have kids. There have been a lot of bad parents over the years, and I imagine a lot of that was caused by parents who didn’t want or shouldn’t be having kids. So glad that self-selection is becoming more normalized and accepted. You do not need children to be a complete person! But if both you and your partner want children, I full heartedly support it.
@jessicaf.2087 9 місяців тому
We should be talking about "parenthood penalty " make equality work for fathers as primary caregivers as well. I appreciate this segment. Thank you
@labuerostuhl 11 місяців тому
Why don't they ever ask WHY people WANT kids but when you don't want them everyone wants to know your reasons?
@herluka 11 місяців тому
So true! It's like you have to justify your life choices to the society in that scenario 🤦♀️ x
@GodSoLoved.Yeshua 3 місяці тому
Well people don't ask because children are a natural stage of life.
@labuerostuhl 3 місяці тому
@@GodSoLoved.Yeshua It's not. Maybe back in the day when there was no birth control, but not anymore. It's so important that people think cleary about if they want kids or not. Many parents who thought like that "its a natural part of life" deeply regret their decision. No other decision will change your life so drastically. And it is your life and you only have one. So might as well live it as you want and not what "a natural stage" might be.
@karenhardie1132 11 місяців тому
The world is so different now. Years ago, one parent stayed home, and houses were cheaper. Today, both parents are working to pay the bills. Daycare is a grand a month for one kid. Parents are exhausted, and kids are really expensive.
@user-pq3um6ue5p 7 місяців тому
Easier to steal from parents with a dead kid.
@andrewdoran4572 8 місяців тому
I look at other parents ( I have one daughter) and most of the issues arise from different parenting skills or attitudes towards their children. My brother struggled with his wife when their son was a few years old as they had almost polar expectations of how to raise and discipline their son, they were constantly arguing over the most basic of issues. I'm sure financial constraints are the biggest obstacle to overcome as childcare costs force mothers into work. The vast amount of time you need to invest robs you of any free time and precious sleep. The rewards for me come later on in life as they mould into the life you have given them. But there also must be the parents who look back and despite their efforts the child drops in with the wrong crowd into a life of crime or violence, that must be incredibly hard to observe.
@flippinmentalproductions9990 3 місяці тому
I can't imagine why anyone would want to bring a child into this increasingly unstable world where suffering is immense.
@AlexA-ux2ue 3 місяці тому
You have a bad case of presentism. At what point in human history was there no suffering?
@leonardoleo5740 Місяць тому
When was it better to have them then? The world wars? Cold war? Black plague? XVII century? Fall of Rome?
@KKISCRAZYFUL Рік тому
Having kids just so someone will take care of you when you get old is as selfish as it gets
@entropicpedro7494 Рік тому
YO, this is basically the premise supporting ALL civilization since the beginning of civilization. From the smallest village to the largest empire.
@mogulmade Рік тому
We can't take care of our parents so there is no chance our kids will be able to take care of us. There's no time and no money.
@OriginalBritishBabe Рік тому
and not guaranteed
@Jen-Inspired Рік тому
There's no selfless reason for having a child. Know this and know peace 😂
@anotherj4896 Рік тому
It’s not selfish. It’s literally what humans have been doing for thousands of years.
@Izanuela22 Рік тому
When I was thinking about whether I do want a child or not I was glad that my friends were honest with me. They told me how hard and stressful it is and that they can neither tell me to do it nor not to do it. In the end we decided to give it a go. And they were all right. It is the most stressful work we have ever had. The society we live in is not very family friendly and we are really exhausted. Sometimes I wonder if I actually regret the decision, but so far every regret vanishes when I see my daughter. Yes my life is completely different, much more exhausting and stressful and some of our dreams might never come true because of her. But at the same time she is the person I love the most in this world and I would do absolutely everything for her. So I do understand every couple who decide not to have a child. At the same time I understand those who give it a go…
@wildmaven21 Рік тому
Thank you for the honesty! I am a pet parent and i can relate, but with a pet the stress is wayyyy lesser than a kid.
@videos-intercultural1677 Рік тому
one day they will say.."It is pitty...you are alone..." The problem is that the society is absolute contradictory
@rebelroad401 Рік тому
@@wildmaven21there’s no such thing as a pet parent. You own a pet.
@hspurr5922 Рік тому
I also went back and forth so much, but myself and partner REALLY thought about what a child would mean to us and fit in our life and we wanted that family. I'm glad I DIDN'T listen to all the whinging and stress stories etc because I wouldn't have done it. My dream of a happy family came true - so if you have a dream of family - do it! The bad stories don't come true if you are sure it is what you want and you plan and work things out. Everyone has their own troubles, everything can have hard patches, even amazing hobbies or dream careers - if you really want something in life, don't let naysayers put you off.
@hspurr5922 Рік тому
@@wildmaven21 haha I get much more stressed when my dog is ill! My daughter naps through illness and is (luckily) very robust. My dog is a constant stress because he acts so pathetic!
@iamgemz4739 7 місяців тому
Basically it’s just volunteering to raise a human that may or may not be a gift or curse to society. You’re sacrificing you’re happiness and your life to nature something that may not even do it for u or May end up in jail, on drugs or a murderer. It’s rare that kids grow up to be great
@anzhelikademchenko906 14 днів тому
excellent point, it just exactly how i also think often...
@mikethemechanic7395 9 місяців тому
As someone who met my wife at 25. We purchased a house and married by 32. Kids by 36. We traveled the world and did everything. It got pretty boring after sometime. It took a little longer then we thought trying for kids. It’s well worth having kids. I take them everywhere and the joy is showing your kids new things and spending time with them. I been with my wife 23 years and married 17. My kids are 10. Long term marriages like mine are because of having kids later in life. I only know one couple who had kids early 20s who are still together. Most of the parents in my kids school. All are late 30s to mostly mid 40s. Any parent in their late 20s get weird looks anymore. Almost everyone I have known who had kids early 20s. All single moms with different daddies.
@zippagraphics 9 місяців тому
If you can afford to travel the world and buy a house I’m sure it is wonderful. Most people who are child bearing age can’t, they’re probably looking for a sixth roommate.
@connorgray2896 8 місяців тому
My wife and i have two kids, first one at 24. We are now 27 with two and happy as larry. We do feel very young these days to have kids, especially around upper class couples. We kinda like it though, being young parents obviously does have positive and negatives. Always trade offs.
@FactsCountdown 8 місяців тому
You didn't have kids , you created a new person so stop talking in passive voice.
@redleeks6253 8 місяців тому
The fact that you traveled the world and did everything with your wife before having kids helped creating a strong bond and not experiencing FOMO. I know many people who want to do everything while they are single (travel de world etc) but the couples who did that everything as a couple are the happiest ones, with or without kidsml.
@crhayes 7 місяців тому
Similar story. 35 y/o, been with my wife for 14 years, married for 2, and having our first child next month. We have built our careers, purchased a home, travelled etc. The last couple of years have felt boring and less satisfying. I’m looking forward to this next chapter.
@SageJack87 Рік тому
And later in life your husband looks at you and ask… what have your contributed to the house after all these years??? And you have no choice but to depend on him because you’ve been out of the workforce for so many years. Not worth it.
@mdlmomma9167 Рік тому
Yes! So many women are trapped because all their years of exhausting work building up the family has been unpaid, and now they are trapped in a disrespectful or abusive situation due to financial dependency,
@SageJack87 Рік тому
@@mdlmomma9167 exactly! For marriages that turn sour decades and decades later, there is absolutely no appreciation. Sacrificing your income is a dangerous game for women.
@indranilbanik3424 Рік тому
This could be a downside in scenarios where husbands exploit their better financial position. Though I would say relationships always involve some amount of depending on each other. As a guy, I would say that men have no choice but to depend on their wife quite a lot of the time to look after their child(ren). This too can be a little bit concerning. But people just have to learn to trust each other. I have rarely heard men say things like women force them into staying at home more to help look after the children by saying they have had enough or something. In general, it seems men would trust women in this way. Perhaps it is because the child belongs to both. What you are saying in this comment though is that afterwards men might not feel like they should unconditionally support their wife. I would suggest pointing out the difficulties of contributing to the house after all these years, difficulties which are not apparent to men that may have had a very different experience of life despite living in the same house as a woman.
@toddroberts3716 Рік тому
@@SageJack87 Yeah take the safe road and... work for your entire life instead of not doing so?
@saras6588 Рік тому
Having kids is too expensive, especially in the USA. I didn't have any and it was the right decision for me. I know a few people who do regret having had their children. Some may think that's callous, but these are things potential parents need to hear and understand. You shouldn't assume it's going to be a magical experience and everything will be fine. These people still love their kids, but if they had a time machine they'd go back and undo it.
@mysterioanonymous3206 Рік тому
yeap, people have no idea how tough parenting is. raising kids is hard work, and raising them right is even harder. if people knew they'd have even fewer kids, for sure. the constant demands, the stress and drama, i find finances to be the least of my worries as a parent tbh.
@eri_noemi1462 Рік тому
So that means they hate their child.
@MishkataPingvin Рік тому
Yet, the US is at an all-time high in single parenthood (27%)...
@Redflowers9 Рік тому
@Mysterio Anonymous would you say it is like having a full time job?
@mysterioanonymous3206 Рік тому
@@Redflowers9 Worse. You get off work but you never get off being a parent, esp. when they're young. It's from when you get up to whenever they go to bed, which may be a lot later than you would hope for. And then they may not even sleep through the night so you won't either. And then it's most likely back to work for you to perform there. It's no joke man. By now im convinced it's better to be a young parent than not - at least if you're financially secure aka. in a decent career (don't have to be nearly as rich as most people think, just secure) and reasonably responsible. It takes a lot of energy. And time. Try dressing a 2 year old. You would be surprised how strong they are and they will fight you, trust me. Some uncalled for advice: make sure you have a support system so you can get some weekend days and evenings off for hobbies or to take wifey out or something. Otherwise YOU WILL WEAR OUT.
@herochildhere 6 місяців тому
Your content is an invaluable resource for parents on the journey of raising children. As someone deeply committed to nurturing young minds, I'm truly inspired by your insights. Raising children is an incredible responsibility, and it's our duty to help them grow into compassionate, honest, and patient individuals. In the words of Fred Rogers, 'The greatest gift you ever give is your honest self.' Our children learn by example, and it's our actions that mold their character. 'Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while you're waiting,' says Joyce Meyer. Instilling this virtue in our children is a gift that keeps on giving. Teaching honesty is equally vital. 'Honesty is a very expensive gift; don't expect it from cheap people,' warns Warren Buffett. Our role as parents is to show our children the worth of integrity. Keep sharing your invaluable wisdom, as it resonates with all of us striving to raise responsible, respectful, and kind-hearted kids.
@grandelondres 7 місяців тому
The outcome of this video simply reflects what this paternalistic society compels us to swallow whole: "having a child is hard work but worth it!" I found the ending to be regrettable, and mind you, I have two children, both desired, YES, but I had no real idea of what it meant to be a TRUE MOTHER. If I had known, I wouldn't have had them... because I wouldn't have had the courage to face what I faced and still face to this day. Is it worth it? Is it about being worth it or about taking RESPONSIBILITY for your actions? To me, motherhood is about RESPONSIBILITY.
@89Salma89 Рік тому
Back in the day (and some Eastern societies today) it was a lot easier having kids where the entire village stepped in to help, you had aunts and uncles around to babysit, and cousins where the kids could spend the entire day. Now in the Western Individualistic model the entire load is on the parents.
@tuele4302 Рік тому
Not really. It depends on the family. Some grandparents and other relatives help out sometimes. Don't stereotype people.
@JankaFitvlogs Рік тому
This is like in Philippines now. Parents helps aloooot❤
@dalidzucheredi2495 Рік тому
I live in Kenya and we are still a people driven so society. But we are fast becoming a lack of enough money for relaxing driven society.
@pendafen7405 Рік тому
Without all my uncles & aunts and my late grandmother on the farm, I don't think I'd have survived.
@sarahrobertson634 Рік тому
You hit the mail on the head! Nuclear families don't work at all. It takes a village to raise a child.
@cassandrabriggs9133 Рік тому
Watching this, I thought of all my friends and family who have children with some level of disability. There isn’t enough support for families of non-disabled children, it’s honestly surprising that our birth rates are as high as they are, considering how we structure our society. It’s even harder, exponentially harder, if you are raising and advocating for a child with a disability. If our governments want us to have more children, we need high level policy change and a total reordering of societal priorities.
@murkywaters5502 Рік тому
May I ask what disabilities you're referring to? Of your friends and family that have children, is it multiple children in one family that has the same or similar disability? I'd like to get a sense of what exact parenting challenges are being unresolved (or barely resolved due to lack of infrastructure).
@dextro2090 Рік тому
Don't you know that the biggest problem for the free market and a """better""" quality of life is government? :V
@lanelle.delina Рік тому
Grew up with a brother mentally disabled from a medical mistake… he is 53 and my mom still cares for him… MD state (pg county)has kept him out of the day program since covid in 2020 due to staff loss (they prefer the easier self sufficient kids). Giving her the runaround to get him back in. My father died 2020 too. No answers from the county. This is why I never wanted to have kids. SMH
@bimates2690 Рік тому
@@lanelle.delina Has she thought of being him in a support home? Better for him. The people there would know how to care for him.
@Demopans5990 Рік тому
@@dextro2090 Child labor laws going away would help a lot with the finances of parenthood
@misaandcoart 2 місяці тому
I am childfree by choice. I don't feel guilt for it. I feel better knowing that they wouldn't have to worry about their world collapsing around them, economies and threat of climate change, etc. If the world was different I'm sure I'd be more willing and open to it, but I simply think it's best for all if I choose not to. I'd rather regret not having them, than regret having them.
@robynhope219 6 місяців тому
I deeply regret having had children...bc for me it was a profoundly bad experience. Long story short: bad epigenes and bad parenting. If you had trauma in your life, pls dont have children, bc the trauma will be passed down...see Mark Wolynn's work. My sons are estranged and disinherited.😢
@luluandmeow 11 місяців тому
I was a nanny in my early 20s and although I adored the children in my care, I realised that I did not want that lifestyle and I've never regretted it. I think more people should experience what it's like to care for children full-time before they have their own. I'm 57, my women friends with children are still supporting them financially, psychologically, with child/pet-minding, etc. while receiving no support from their grown-up children, many of whom have moved to other cities/countries, so they won't be looking after my friends in their old age.
@Elemblue2 11 місяців тому
I did the same thing except without the laze-fare attitude and got completely different results. Of course once youve placed your bets youve gotta stand by them no matter what happens as is tradition, so I may not be being totally fair here. Such is the way of survivorship bias. "This ship is totally safe because I myself survived while using it". Its important to never forget that, lest you blind yourself.
@MBergyman 11 місяців тому
You didn't have children, but unless you are 100% living off of your own savings, you will eventually be living off the earnings of other people's children through various government social systems, and as you have not provided any input into that system for future success (tomorrow's children will be paying for our social system spending today), you have not done your fair share to ensure the successful operation of those social systems. Personally, I am not for social safety nets and welfare systems; unfortunately, I do not get a choice to opt out - therefore I think it is our social responsibility to raise responsible children who will continue to make the most of the systems we've put in place.
@_gonna_renew_my_sinew 11 місяців тому
@@MBergyman🙄
@chiruzza 11 місяців тому
That follows a capitalist logic of continuous growth, but we know it is a flawed logic. We live in a world with limited resources, and we are just too many people for sustaining this life style. We can’t continue growing the world’s population, there’s just not enough resources.
@msb120 11 місяців тому
I am a woman aged 56. In my 20s I fell pregnant. I did not plan to have children, but ended up having 3. I became a single parent and the first 10 years of parenthood was pure struggle. Despite all the difficulties, I can only say that my children are the love of my life. I feel great joy that I have I parented my children and that they are now productive adults. Being a parent has given me a purpose and given me a totally different understanding of life. I am a more giving, generous and forgiving person. One of my children is disabled. I feel I value human life more as a result of this. I am also a grandparent now. This has brought me even greater joy. I do not feel that I have missed out on anything. Family mean everything to me.
@aemia6153 Рік тому
No, I'm already taking care of my parents. I don't want to be chained to another living being. I just want peace and silence.
@SC-mf1gc Рік тому
Do you not get the irony there? Your parents have someone to take care of them because they had kids. They dont have to spend the last decades of their life alone, and die alone. IF you dont have kids, you'll get plenty of silence for decades when you're all alone. Unable to move. Unable to feed yourself. Then you'll die alone.
@liamsbest9 Рік тому
I empathise with your situation but be careful what you wish for
@Rachael91 Рік тому
@@liamsbest9 no need for threats
@anna_gal Рік тому
Send you hugs. This is super unrewarding and frustrating
@cynthia-jo1zz Рік тому
@@liamsbest9 my dear some people have gone through trauma,,that the only wish for them is peace and silence...be kind you never know why someone ends up that way
@ElleKelsheimer Місяць тому
The desire to have children isn't rational. I say this as a new mom totally in love with her baby. The drive is emotional and primal and I wouldn't recommend people have children without it, because it's essential to draw on during the stressful parts of parenthood.
@MantasAlisauskas Місяць тому
A very thought-provoking video. It makes me really sad to see that having children is an economic question. It feels like it is a wrong way of looking at it. Life is priceless, especially when it is your child, but maybe it is easy for me to say when I work remotely... which makes me wonder if countries that moved towards more remote hours after the pandemic will see an increase to birthrate compared to the countries that returned to the normal?
@Trax777 Рік тому
Is having children affordable is the real question!?
@XOPOIIIO Рік тому
Yes
@CordeliaWagner Рік тому
I could, be I like my intact body and fancy holidays better.
@nicholaschip5820 Рік тому
Mine were free!
@e5m956 Рік тому
I've been working for 29 years and still can't afford a house and property so I would say that I cannot afford a kid.
@ssuwandi3240 Рік тому
Definitely not that one in thumbnail. That scary baldy is free to anyone available
@endorphinrider1633 Рік тому
My wife and I decided not to have kids when we got married, thirty years ago, and it was the best decision we ever made. We're still happily married thirty years later where all of my friends, that decided to have kids, are divorced. I'm not saying it's because of the kids they got divorced, but I always thought, "If they could do it again, they wouldn't procreate." There's just too much money and time involved. If you want something to raise and love, get a pet.
@MsEagle20 Рік тому
I'm thankful for the dummies who have kids though. Someone has to pay for my social security!
@douglasgriffiths3534 Рік тому
I like the way you think, Endorphin Rider. I'm a widow who never had kids, and my husband and I were very happy until he passed away last year. I have pets myself. They're my kids. (Jan Griffiths).
@paperknit Рік тому
Precisely why I have a dog and 2 cats and intend to get more!
@GlobalMechanix Рік тому
Woof woof, bow wow.
@2ndchancehypnotherapy Рік тому
Totally agree ❤
@diedrawittenberg4657 3 місяці тому
We had a child "we couldn't afford." Best choice I ever made! My Husband passed when my kiddo entered high school after which I was a single parent. I live about 20 minutes from my child and their partner. I see them about once a week and we call and text often. I can't imagine a world without them!
@sixtea.60 3 місяці тому
Ofc you'll say this now you have had one and can't change it lol. You sound real sad woman
@SirShashanksonusahu 5 місяців тому
right now world don't need new children, we are already 8 billion, how much more we need
@RexJustus 3 місяці тому
Another 8 billion - there's your answer! Go eat dirt, liberal loser...
@BunnyBun82 10 місяців тому
kids shouldn't be a retirement plan.
@tomspencer04 8 місяців тому
Careful youll offend the kld narcissistic old weirdos
@Jenniechan7788 4 місяці тому
They're 100% retirement plan in most of the Asian countries 😂
@stephanieh5478 3 місяці тому
@@Jenniechan7788same with Latino countries
@fahey5719 3 місяці тому
Do you know any other? Even with abundant savings, what will you do with "assets" when everybody becomes old and crippled?
@mp32298 3 місяці тому
Sadly it's how nature works it why most of us will suffer for not having any
@omarsuave6148 11 місяців тому
I do parent intakes for behavior problems at schools. I’ve had a plethora of parents state that if they had known their parenting experience would be like this they would have never have had any. I’ve heard woman regret it many times. And men seem to really regret it because these dads are almost never in the picture! So yes people do indeed regret having kids. I’ve worked in the school system 12 years and I don’t have any kids right now. This is from different parents confessing to me.
@JV-pn4tc 11 місяців тому
I guess it all boils down on being well informed on making the decision and being 100% sure about it. If you know what and committed to what you’re getting into, no matter how hard it gets later on, you would be more than willing to do it a hundred times over again,wouldn’t you?
@npineapple3077 10 місяців тому
@@JV-pn4tc Right, but it's impossible to know. One kid could be really easy and you might connect with them really well and an other kid could be a real handful and they might just not click with you the same way. So in a way it's greatly about luck too.
@JV-pn4tc 10 місяців тому
@@npineapple3077 yes, knowing and accepting that it could go extreme either way
@shantyclips6358 10 місяців тому
U're a biological degenerate. An evolutionary failure.
@melindasmith3713 4 місяці тому
I'm married my husband wasn't in my kids life , he punched a time clock . Drank that's it . I was home kids grew ok , successful not gloating , but I see my daughter is more like him , uses others rather than doing for others . Son I guess he's ok , but I'm not behind closed doors . I was at hers . She is a shame to me . Lazy and husbands job to do all . Well she gets what she wants .
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