For real!!

that’s scary. i have seen and i think it is proven but not 100%. but this form of media addiction from youtube and tiktok mostly, people have symptoms of OCD and ADHD while not actually having it, have artificially given it to themselves.

​@@arhoosier1058at least they can cure it, and don't have all the symptoms. There's yet hope to be gained

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legit same. i’ve always also has ADHD but then everyone started to get distracted like me

It why I refuse to take my phone out at concerts or while hiking and etc. Those memories are for me alone. Not some story on social media no one gives a shit about anyways.

​@bungdilly6333 same here. We need sacred space . For us to have spiritual experiences likea concert. How many people even appreciate a photograph ? A real printed one? Who has all their photos from their phones printed and in photo albums? So many photos end up lost from hardware damage, failure, corruption, loss, etc. What happens to all these "memories " when they d0nt even end up anywhere but multiple folders and platforms. That's what we did when I was little. We'd visit family and other ppl. The highlight was sharing the experience of looking through the physical album and asking questions, hearing stories. I miss it.

@@adammichael9759 See that's interesting because I really do love film photography, something about having 24 shots and make it matter intrinsically makes it art, at least for me. That's when I'm okay with it, I love holding photos and having something physical that captures that moment in time. I'm not against capturing memories but more so against the commodification of our memories for some bullshit likes on a platform that doesn't matter.

​​​​​@@bungdilly6333ON a platform that doesn't matter , doesn't care about you ,and sells your data.

@@bungdilly6333my dad always got mad at me for never taking photos but my thought was that it never felt the same having a photo vs really being there and i most likely would never take another look at the photo for ages. photos are more for other people to look at because any other time i can just remember what it looked like or what happened

True

Yes, it hit me hard as well😢

Porn *never* made me happy. It did make me severely depressed, though - and it invited plenty of self destructive thoughts into me. Simply going away shuts off that faucet of pain. Being Christian (probably stupidly in a lot of ways, by failing what I'm supposed to be doing all over the place,) I prayed to God about it after the last batch of nasty thoughts kept tossing and rolling through my head like a mix of dynamite on a pogo stick rolling and stomping like tumbleweeds all over the land of my mind. The point here is to keep on resolutely praying whenever temptations shall pop up, as they invariably seem to. One has to resolutely say "no" to each and every attempt that the old thoughts "attempt" to come back in... That's what keeps it out. Otherwise, it's gonna try growing in you like a tree in a tiny crack in the pavement. And yes, I see results, like an alcoholic who gave up drinking. A "fix" only makes sure to fix its claws in a person, after all... Or so it would seem, that it has its own mind and game going on that I cannot see.

@@101VoltsI’ve been lucky on my journey. I’ve been dating the greatest woman ever for the past 6 months and she’s been helping me a lot. I told her early on about my struggle, and over the past 6 months I’ve gotten higher out of the hole of porn addiction and I’ve been getting closer to god. She’s Jewish, but she completely supports my journey with Christianity. I come from a Catholic family and have always been very loose about my faith, and now I’m getting more sure that I want to follow this religion.

I wrote this in my diary….

Hey i’m from germany so my english could not be the best but i will try my best to explain my perspective on your problem and suggest you something how you can try to flip your youtube addiction into something positive.This all is kinda ironic cause i’m a drug addict as you also mentioned in your comment currently 3:29 here laying on a couch watching this video.I struggle myself with many addictions I got my first one when I was 4 , I bit my nails everywhere even until they were bleedy but know it’s way better and I’m doing well on this one now.I still struggle tho with weed Idk The first time I got separated from my mother Is when I was 4 (My parents are divorced and my dad lives in turkey I visit him every summer and sometimes in winter but I still wish that I could live together with him tho)Not being was my mother was just scary and i saw my dad biting his nails and i started to do it too and had struggled with this addiction my whole life it lowered my self esteem my nails and hands were looking so bad and damn It followed me my whole fucking glad i’m over it.Sorry for writing so much but I try to explain myself so you can understand that I also struggle with a addiction for a long time even if it is not youtube.I’m doing well better know even If I am still addicted to will.Growing up my mum was never really happy it effected me and I saw that she struggled herself with many things that i think i can’t relate to really but I try my best know to understand her view.I love her so much and she is the reason I believe in Gods Faith because we are born on the same day and without all this struggle it wouldn’t be this important to me I think.I still have problems and i’m stuck sometimes to but all you have to do is just make progress.I know it sounds to simple but let me break it down for you.Firstly after struggling for a long time I reached back to god I knew I haven’t been doing well for I long time but I knew deeply that he god me.If you are atheist just try to think of something deep in you that keeps you going.Secondly by making process I mean just learn something try to slowly change your youtube addiction into watching youtube informational videos to learn and get better in this life.And the first steps to get better i are selflove so you have to accept your whole past and things you did and forgive yourself only then you will truly will be able to live a life as you want without trying to numb your mind with something to distract you.The second thing that helped besides selflove is self discipline coming back to my past summer 2018 I was in turkey by my dad and I couldn’t smoke smoke weed there just couldn’t risk to get it there didn’t know anyone and I really didn’t even smoke cigarettes besides him I never did I just can’t besides my dad.So I was clean… for 6 whole weeks like everysummer but this summer i one Idea came to my mind.I really have the chance to flip my life around and it isn’t just this endless cycle.I created a playlist on dicipline and selfdiscipline watched over 60 videos about this during the last 4 weeks I was there had much free time cause my dad still had to work (Ambulance)I learned so much but don’t forget to try to implied It to your real life.I came across Stoicism also a philosophy that is very important I think for a strong mindset you can watch many videos about that too to improve your general mindset.So everything changed after that summer.I looked from a larger perspective as I learned so much from those videos and tryed to implied small little steps but progressfully and constantly and slowly but stabily changed my life around for the positive and I am truly tankful for that happening as gods plan.I started to think from a materialsim perspective all this was just a bad habit all this bullshit all those addictions.I made slow progress as I said but made it out of that hole.Also keep in mind that your body will still struggle to get away from your youtube addiction maybe because you are coping with it in some typa way.There is something called “Suchtverlagerung” sorry i don’t know the english word you can translate It.PART 1 END

Part 2 it’s simply just your body looking for a new activity or addiction to go to when another addiction is being cut off.Keep that in mind and when you lower your youtube Habit you will need something new something positive to fill that void.Think of the person that you want to become and one habit that you need for to become this person and slowly imply it in your everyday life while lowering your consume on youtube.Don’t forget that Humans are habitual so all those addictions are bad habits as we already know but think of the materialism way as I said then you can slowly change.Keep in mind everything you learn new is a progress in some type of way and there will be days we’re you feel like you made no progress or even flew way back with a addiction but see it for the long run.A bad they doesnt have to make your whole day negative(Stoicism related)And try to think positive always !Falls backs are also a part of this journey just believe in god and keep going by making progress.For me the habit that really helped me was sports I am lucky that I really liked doing sports and was athletic so I decided to flip many habits and replace them with running instead to keep my mind cool still and in touch with reality.It helped me really well and really got me fit after a long time also helped my lungs not for only smoking weed still (I also smoked cicagrettes for 5 years but managed to get away from that also.).To sum up just don’t let you down keep your chin up and stay strong.Keep in mind that this all is just my perspective on your problem and there are also many things from your life that I don’t know from so I could only have a wrong take in this.I just thought that I can relate to you in a deep way and explained my view on this from the way how I expierenced life.In part one there are also many things written wrong my % were low and my phone was lagging but you can still manage to understand everything clearly I think.So Simply just keep going and learn something new everyday to make you a better human it can really be anything and try to imply it to your life.Stay calm headed and look try to look from a higher view and believe in yourself.So I really hope this could help you in some way and wish you good luck on your way If you need someone to talk to or anything is not understandable in the text just ask.Looking forward to hear from you this text helped me also to sum up my selfimprovement journey It was a magical moment.Bye

I feel the same way. It's kind of scary. As someone with a background in psychology, I can tell you none of our behavoir is pointless. Even though you feel bad for wasting your time, distracting yourself probably has a function. What is it that you are unable to face? On what days/phases are you watching the most UKposts? Are there days when you don't even think about UKposts/other forms of disctraction? What is different on those days? You don't have to tell me, but think about it. I think finding answers to these questions might help you get rid of your addiction. I wish you all the best xx

Yeah, I've also found when I get off social media, I don't manage to replace it with something "better". It's like there are so many potential hobbies I'm completely cut off from, and no amount of boredom is going to make them more appealing.

Try giving God a chance. I prayed for a long time for help to stop watching TV and He took care of it! I stopped watching tv!

Wow! I would love to go to that prison!

@@Nearlydeads sounds better than the reality of it lol

@@TrTriTrippin yes, you’re right. the reality is we were a group of women with varied trouble pasts. Trauma, addictions of different kinds, homelessness, mental health problems. Some girls made a single bad decision like filling out a government form incorrectly, some systematically defrauded the government. We all were pretty shit out of luck in life, because a lot of people who end up in prison really don’t have their shit together. I wouldn’t ever want to go back, but I’m grateful it happened. It wasn’t fun, but irregardless there were fun moments within.

Your experience is so unexpectedly inspiring to contemplate, thank you for sharing it.@@tacocatseven

Interesting

thank you kind soul, Im struggling with binge ed. I dont know where ill end up i just know i dont want this to be the last thing left for me. thank you for courage

Thank you you too

Your message warmed my heart a little bit, like a little hit of more of the true love of my life: morphine. I had to break several bones on my way to meet my sweetie, and it was at the hospital that we first came together. It was beautiful, when that morphine trickled into my veins. Now is it worth it to break even one more bone to rekindle my one true love? NO. Of course not.

Was Van Halen addicted to guitar? Mamals are an addictive species. For the right thing to be addicted to ad be great at it. Or...be the batd like me. I know aliitle about alot but not alot about a single thing.

You cheered my night and made me a bit stronger, thank you

Still fighting ?

@@KronoReaper For sure! I consume short-form content a lot less and have definitely seen an improvement in my productivity luckily. I actually carry out my study plans instead of just making them and not doing them lol

I'm at that point, too. Put your phone into grayscale mode, helps a lot! Keep it up! :)

@@matsimoto3541 Thank you so much! About grayscale, I've heard about it but it looks super intimidating to commit to. I'll still give it a shot and see if I can adjust or not :D

Why do you then not simply delete this garbage and limit your screen time? It's not rocket science, put the phone down and do something real. Short form content, scrolly social media and pron are the worst things to happen to modern society and should be prohibited (they never will be as they make so much money from the invisible abuse). However I would also argue that Livestreams and podcasts are underestimated in the way they severely worsen loneliness and social anxiety while opening the gate to parasocial relationships so I highly recommend to also quit consuming those It is scary how stupified children are compared to just a decade ago, my sister is a learning teacher and even the handwriting of these 13+ year olds looks like a first or second graders, not to mention that their intelligence levels seem to be ridiculously low. I agree that short form content is responsible to a big degree for this and I find it unbelievable therefore that it is still allowed. TikTok should've been straight up banned 2 years ago but here we are, society simply continues to degrade

hi, older person here -- sadly it's not a myth. there's a reason sitting in the corner for 5 minutes feels like an eternity as a kid. but you're right, we can improve the impact by being more mindful.

I think its a myth most people get 9/5 jobs they do nothing new the routine makes life go fast , last year I went on a 10 days roadtrip with my firends and it the trip felt like it was a month because of the many things we did @@xXluluchanelXx

​@@xXluluchanelXxI agree, I saw somewhere that the reason that happens is that for a ten year old, experiencing one year is 10% of their life. For a 50 year old though, a year of their life is only 2% of their whole time alive if that makes sense.

There's more to it than that, I think. In one year, that ten year old makes a lot of discoveries and undergoes a great deal of development, whereas the fifty year old will be the same person at 51, barring any monumental event in their life. So life goes faster when every year is more or less like the one that has passed.

I think its still true though. Our experiences are less vivid and begin to blur as we allow our curiosity to dissolve, and as we allow ourselves to become more automated over time. These psychological factors that change as we age make time seem to pass faster. but it doesnt have to be that way. Or at least, not to that extent. and in truth its a lot more complicated - our perception of the passing of time. if youre suffering immensely for instance, time slows to a crawl. you could theoretically feel as if you lived 10X longer if you felt the sensation of being on fire constantly. And the more eventful and varied your life is, the more it will appear you have lived more time when analyzing in retrospect. so i dunno, its an interesting conversation.@@xXluluchanelXx​

I feel like that man, people will call you (or me more specifically) cynical for wanting better in a way, and hating the present, but i want this normality as much as you

Wow. Perfect way to put it. I'm 39, I feel the exact same way. It's like we all make up some fantasy of what "used" to be, but in fact, was never good to begin with, we just don't like the present. Our brains really trick us

​@@chayarubin799139 too. Which means my childhood mostly consisted of 4 TV channels, two weely comics, one "new" movie or videogame a week (rented), and one new (bought) videogame or movie every 2-3 months. We had to make our own fun a lot. And our grandparents' generation said we had too much, they grew up with two radio stations and, well, those same two weekly comics. No wonder they thought chasing a hoop down the road was entertaining.

I'm 25 and I've been feeling this for the past few years. With time it just becomes more and more obvious to me that we live in an artificial world riddled with pointless tasks and goals to strife and die to, usually set for us by someone else.

@@AlexMercer1110 I feel the same existential dread.

Maybe you're not finding the book fun?

@@ashrunzeda4099 agreed, the trick for me was to find a book that I thought would be fun and ignored if it was considered "good" or "intelligent" and it allowed me to build a habit of reading. Also physical books are really something special that kindles cant replace

Don't pay ur phone bill. Simple. Library has computers to check ur email and there are payphones. Give ur neighbours number to loved ones for an emergency.

​@@samdobie6748you're part of the problem

Find a book with a topic you enjoy.. Easy fix

but of course there is a satisfaction! Not permament, but it is! Just like the finish of the sex, forgot the correct name for it. Damn.

​@@ZdzichuRaczka orgasm?

Euphoria?

Can absolutely relate

take me withhhhh youuuuuu

damn, this is like reading about myself, especially the part about consuming content just for the sake of it and not actually experiencing it. I watch a couple yt videos a day and the next day if you asked me what i'd watched, i wouldn't remember shit. I just do it to pass the time, cause not doing anything, or even doing something productive, kinda became impossible to me

That's really nice put

Give everyone addicted to phones a tramadol pill and I promise you it's game over!

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@@SOLIDSNAKE. I don't know about that. Tramadol is not that strong, and tolerance builds quickly. And, even if they do not have the focus to use their complicated phones.

It's easy to have this perspective when you weren't alive during a time Without Phones or Internet-- People have ALWAYS made a claim of Something Hampering down our humanity and making it so we "Don't connect the same way anymore". It used to be TV, then before that it was Radio, and then before that it was Books. While obviously it is different, overall the fear of "Our humanity is slipping away, we're all addicted to (Insert Medium Here)!" Has existed for eons, it's not a new worry or philosophy, it's not really as staggering a thing as you may feel. Should we work on stuff? Of Course! But technology isn't the problem, it's just the next boogyman to take redirected fears, anger and Confusion to-- The scariest thing to accept is this is just Human, and it'll take Human Change to fix those issues, Technological surroundings or otherwise be damned.

I'm glad I'm not addicted. I do use it on a daily basis but I like my quiet time to much to be on it all the time and I avoid social media like the plague.

Be careful with that, "productivity" is a trap too heh. Be careful what *you* consider "productive" - make sure you know it's for you, and not what someone else considers "productive"

@@3nertia Great point. Productivity isn't necessary, in order to learn to sit quietly and look inward. Productivity is just another way we enslave ourselves to the approval of others.

​@@3nertiawow, you hit the nail on the head with this one

It's much easier said than done. You posted this comment 4 days ago. Have you changed your habits? Be honest.

@@maxmonas7131 4 days isn't nearly long enough to change a habit lol

I have bad news for you... it's become already.

yeah, we been there. we in the US have been normalized to some pretty horrible stuff. our prison system is, if you take it out of context, a system of concentration camps, run by the towns surrounding them, and the victims of this system are plucked from their communities in the same way the Nazis took folks from the ghettos they created in the 1930's. the rest of us work endlessly, under the belief system that work will set us free... "arbeit macht frei" being the literal slogan above the gates of Auschwitz. you can't drive anywhere without your "papers" and if a cop stops you, driving or otherwise, and you can't prove you are who you say you are, you can be detained for a period of time inversely proportional to your wealth (aka your ability to pay bail or a citation). we're prisoners with the illusion of freedom. the US is an open air work camp.

Gotta throw a scintillating coruscant into that otherwise dull boring paragraph of yours.

Exactly. Especially phones are making us completely unware of our surrondings. It's like things outside it almost don't exist.

I try to walk out in nature without my phone often. It's always a relaxing experience.

I guess now it´s rather good than annoying, that I still have a quite old smartphone where not every app works and also a slow internet connection because of small data volume...my smartphone is only for the very neccessary things...I never wanted to give out so much money for a new smartphone, just because they can break so easily or bein stolen etc. I think now it was a good choice xD So I cannot be so much distracted by my phone when I´m walking outside!

I rarely see the word aback being spoken or written, so thanks for given it its rare appearance!

the ex-alcoholic analogy is so profound, i relate to that so much. it's really difficult to kick this habit when so many people i know are deep in it, and there's so many opportunities for distraction at every turn. i deleted all social media but youtube off my phone and i've found that i'm still shackled to this app. the next step is to try and keep this app deleted for a good while so i can reset my baseline. the more i do that, the more i've found that things like reading books have been enough to entertain me. we are fighting a monumental but incredibly important battle, and a life well lived awaits us on the other side. ❤️

Some might say Karmic Justice has been served. By the same token those took the pass out of the comic book nerds now love Marvel because it's popular. Baaaaa! ( D) Karma. 😊

i dont wanna be conspiranoique

this is how to beat addiction.

@@KeesRomkes wouldn't this become another addiction? If dopamine is released right before we expect something, and now we expect to beat addiction, then we would release dopamine chasing our goal to beat addiction, an so beating addiction become a new addiction

@@marco12535 We live a life full of addictions, i guess the battle is having socially acceptable/mentally constructive ones.

@@marco12535 dopamine is released before the expectation of a good thing (like food)

​@@KeesRomkes the way to beat addiction is not to tell yourself "try again tomorrow love, we almost got there :)". The way to beat an addiction is to scould yourself harshly every time you are even on the brink of failing. Weakness is not something you accept and give in to, that's how you're gonna get stuck doing baby steps and giving up for the rest of your life. Punish yourself for being weak and make sure it doesn't happen again. This is how I stopped watching pron and wanking like a degenerated monkey, how I opened the door to becoming an actual person instead of an NPC programmed to get as many dopamine kicks in as possible.

my experience with deleting social media was similar to yours; it was hard in the beginning and often seemed pointless, but still slowly but surely my brain seemed to rewire itself to actually become more "productive" naturally(though i also started to focus more on physical health as i had more freetime now, which definitely helped the process). I could never go back now

That's why I stopped social media in 2012 I only watch UKposts if TV is shit

One of my most cathartic Internet experiences was deleting Facebook. It almost felt as good as dumping my ex.

You will all relapse but that's OK. Also UKposts and even texting are forms of social media. Reddit, all of it. You're not free of social media if I can see your comment.

You ever try just plain reading books? You people can't do anything that's not blaring sound into your brain through your ears.

Actually when you take care f your heart it will illuminate another heart (tolstoy quote) your calmness spread, only happened to me once, a man thanked me because of my calming aura, i've said nothing, and i don't even intend to heal, but maybe that through me, once in people's day or week found a bit of peace. But of course bad heart affect others negatively too. I do this more often , i feel really sorry because i can't handle myself either, it is a very chaotic heart.till my sister said " you make people around you stress and crazy, we us become crazy, not only you" So i wonder, that importance of taking care of our own self, actually enough for others to thank us. Mental talk, my last point is to pray. Our heart can pray even if it hapoened inside. Sincere genuine voice will be answered by our creator, without even open our mouth and lips. So pray is never in vain. Oh yeah, i found channeld or @her86 forget the name, but she is very calming youtube. She herself is calming. I was inspired by her. Her video is about homemaker but i found her own self esteem more attractive, very good quality, very calming, i thanked her in my heart but after stop watching her to keep me from envy, Maybe woman moreover has this capability.

I've never made more money making art than I have the past two years. AI has not and literally never will kill artists careers. Stop repeating the bullshit you hear fearmongers screaming about.

​@@jeffbrownstain I’d be more willing to agree if there weren’t thousands of Hollywood actors and writers on strike right now partially because of AI, AI as it currently exists has only been a mainstream thing for a little over a year and I think some things will be a bit of a mess until workers and corporations can come to an agreement. But of course, we can have differing opinions on the subject.

@@katleido Right, so that thing they're scared of can't happen. The AI debate is such a small part of the sag-afta strike that it may as well be irrelevant. This strike was three decades in the making. Machine life invented itself.

@@katleido This is just another artificially induced panic, AI has not even settled in and we are already jumping to conclusions. Let it cook first, and then take a stance!

@@katleido ​ They're not on strike about AI, they're on strike about unlivable wages and unfair working conditions. An ai can't stand in front of a camera and act; it also can't write a screenplay without an at least marginally well thought through input.

Yes, I quite liked that too. That he just asks questions, instead of giving a final answer that ultimately won't solve it

Black hole sun Won't you come And wash away the rain?

Beautiful!

love your comment

para social

We're not interacting socially right now, as you read this, vulpesinculta9578, so this means YT is not a social medium. If you are a bot, then I am not socializing right now. Or, if you're human, you could type: "I have only one social medium--UKposts--but am still struggling...".

same man, i watch long form contents, quality contents, often educational and informative content. but content regardless, not study materials. these are made by talented individual and informative sure. they dont feel lije waste of time, but still ruins my plans, routines, productivity. it still feels like i have a curiosity that is insatiable, so i just keep diving into rabbitholes one after other losing track of time destroying my productivity and feeding my procastination... it took me a long while to accept that i was indeed addicted to youtube, i may call it insatiable curiosity and whatnot fancy term and sure i do learn a lot from these so they are not mindless timek^ller , and even if these are true doesnt change the fact that i am literally ruining my academic/social life via it. fml

this is exactly how I feel too. I had to delete all social media, and I am trying hard to limit my youtube consumption, but it is hard. It is pre installed on my phone, but I am trying to not use it on computer and just use it for short periods of time on my phone. Once I accomplish this, however, I end up watching shows or something and still just consume content. I would really like to just do productive things, but I need to unwind sometimes. I don't know what to do, honestly. But I am trying.

@@REY3727 When I think about the past when I've quit some addiction, specifically video games, the change was first triggered by my environment not allowing me to engage in the unwanted behavior. Then it required an effort from me that made it impossible to engage in it, or at least as hard as possible, and spend enough time like that and you sort of forget the high that the unwanted behavior used to bring you. And now you just steer clear of things you know can trigger you back into the behavior, which is honestly relatively easy when you realize what it does to your life and where your life would be headed if you were to continue engaging in the unwanted habit. At least that was my experience for that specific habit at that specific time in my life.

Others commenting on your socially ingested message, vulpesinculta9578, are in denial. They are not clicking on the appropriate thumb, but are instead clicking on the thumbs ups of others who are also in denial. I can't read long books like I used to. Twelve years of an addiction to this thing THAT IS ONE OF THE SOCIAL MEDIA has ruined my attention span.

Word that moment I realize I’m scrolling thru UKposts too much I have to pry my eyes from screen.

@@matthewosterman9030I do too! And it’s hard cause my brains thinking “you know you can learn something w/ this next short” and I have to tell myself no and turnoff the phone.

I find it really easy. I have zero actual phones, just a flip phone I occasionally gawk at for usage of taking photos. It's really easy, but there's nothing else after doing nothing, just occasionally playing one specific videogame and watching interesting UKposts videos which to me feels like the worst tradeoff because I don't do anything.

@@robertsandlin366 That's sounds like your problem tho. Go outside, touch some grass, meet new people, do new things, discover life, be in the moment. That's the hard part I guess

It is easier said than done. But I will fkin start doing it seriously! My mind is so used to the overload of stimuli I often can‘t even make time to talk to my parents and my gf didn‘t even cross my mind most of the time because I am just so caught up with getting all those shitty stimuli from everything that is available online. Shit, I even preferred watching boring videos where I actively realize that they are a waste of time and don‘t even give me positive feelings over interacting with her 99% of times. I swear I will get away from wasting my days away and also find happiness within myself, not seeking it from the outside as in dopamine hunting by seeking validation or mindlessly scrolling. I swear to myself that I will make myself proud from today on and will not let this drug take over my life anymore

I'm tempted to stop making youtube shorts. It is annoying seeing how many views these get, and my better/ high quality/ sometimes edited longer content gets nil. Or at least the shorts that don't have a message. It is disgusting to think people can be tricked to spend Hours and Hours on youtube from it, and definitely making their ADHD worse

What happens then, if you sit alone in a room with no reading? In my case the silents eats away at me. Ever since I was a kid I was always called squirrel due to lack of attention span, I never could sit still, and I still can't unless I'm being subdued by a computer.

Consider trying a book by Lenin. He was an amazing writer for decades before the 1917 coup. Just saw your username, you might be interested

I thought that I lost my ability to read for a long time, but I think I've just been picking too heavy books. At one point I decided to try Chesterton (Orthodoxy and The Everlasting Man to be exact) and I breezed through them like I used to breeze through adventure novels in my early teens. Even though the topics may seem boring (principles and the history of Christianity), he looks at them from such an unusual perspective and writes with such a beautiful, witty style, that it was a joy to read and every page left me either amazed, laughing out loud, or both. So I 100% recommend the funny, chubby, cigar-smoking British Catholic, but my main point is that sometimes the key to regaining the joy of reading is starting with the right book. And to answer ​@@-Discount-John, it can be uncomfortable, but in situations like that I like to remember the quote from Blaise Pascal: "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone", and say "challenge accepted". Sometimes it makes the silence more bearable.

@@repentandbelieveinJesusChrist1 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. (1 Timothy 2:12 NIV) How is that for love one another.

The “just one page” method is useful to kickstart reading again, if you’ve fallen out of the habit. Pick one book that you want to read, or reread (to keep handy), and set your mission to read just one page, sometime each day. One page only takes a minute or so, so you can do it while you’re “in between” something, or any old time. If you stop at one page, cool seeya tomorrow, Book (and so on and so on). The funny thing is, almost everytime, you will read past the page. It doesn’t mean you then have to sit down and devour the whole book, you just mark your spot, acknowledge that you exceeded today’s goal… and cool, seeya tomorrow, Book! Hope that helps someone out there 👍🏼

gnn

Your goodnight was so sweet to read while scrolling through the comments. Good night.

Yes, true. When living well I don't need or want digital entertainment. Currently spending about 10 hours a day on UKposts, lol.

This is the heart of it, very concise; kudos!

Just imagine if everyone could go on a random trip to another country ...

no wonder I'm so addicted to all this (ultimately unsatisfactory) social media content rn

Very wise

This. Entertainment the safe option to not be bored, but it takes away the possibility of anything actually happening, like connecting to people

I've tried the no music option more than a handful of times, and it doesn't ever strike up even a friendly hi at the bare minimum. I don't really see the point in bothering to be honest :/

If that were actually true though, then machines would do all the work and people would have nothing but leisure time for social activities. That was why we [humans] invented machines in the first place ... Capitalism cannot allow that. The predators in charge cannot allow that heh

I’m kind of glad to have lived through severe addiction to clown world stuff because it reminded me of how much time I’ve wasted. I could’ve became a millionaire but no, here I am, for hours upon hours a day, participating in this. Partially because my mom thought it was acceptable for little kid me to waste his time on UKposts.

My best friend was raised working hard for his grandpa and learning real life skills. And he got paid for it. And he’s making a lot of money now. I’m 20 he’s 18.

lol. Nah. Technology allowed us to do more work for less pay... physical and spiritual exhaustion.

The beginning sounds like me but I try my absolute best to keep a positive mental state and to be mindful of the fact that yes, I am mostly alone in my days. But with a good plan, I'll be able to make friends and do the things I want. Not saying I have depression, but I can't say I feel motivated (except for studying, which is helping), and I'll have really really bad months where my mental changes completely, I smoke too much and the positivity changes to negativity, and then it's self served hell. I do have ADHD that really is the icing on the cake of the self pitied thoughts I'm compelled to think "Everyone else can do x, but me" HORRIBLE thinking, and it isn't even true. Being in the moment and not in my head had a huge impact on the small/almost nonexistant social life I have. That gave me hope that I'm not broken or awkward if I'm just honest to my emotions and can express it OK, but it's hard not to break out of that when I think I've done something wrong and freeze and panic mid convo, then forget why I was panicking, blaming myself, and even now sometimes it'll happen sorta irrationally. I have a small handful of friends, none in any particular group and I cherish all of them and talking to them aswell (it can be extremely draining most times, recently now more than ever and is the reason I won't try a relationship because of the apathetic feel I get from talking, can't have that in a healthy relationship) No money to spend on a therapist so... I do with what I have and make the best of it, what else am I supposed to do, beat myself up more? nah i'll just smoke/chill and study until I get a job from studying that I can actually afford a therapist from.

This is so true! I nearly cried while reading it. It reminded me of when i was 18 and went to therapy. At first i went to a fancy new clinic, where i had a full schedule with many different therapy forms but it didnt help at all. One patient there reccomended me another place and i went there. It was in the middle of nowhere, but beautiful and surrounded by nature and the part were i was (18 to 30 year olds) was a little bit apart from the big main house in a seperate, smaller building. We were 30 people and i was so surprised when i learned that i would see my therapist only 2 times a week for an hour. The rest was group therapy, sport, group activities and a looot of free time. We were bored so often but everytime you would go to the table in front of the house, someone would be sitting there and be happy to talk (because they were bored too), when you wanted to play a board game you would easily find 2 or 3 people. If you wanted to go to the gas station (only shop in the small town) someone would be happy to accompany you. We talked so much about everything (after a while of group therapy we werent shy anymore to even talk about deep and personal stuff) we laughed and cried together, comforted each other, challenged each other. Someone was always there. We often joked that we actually did the real therapy outside of the official therapy sessions (and the night shift nurses who would always make tea and listen at night when someone couldnt sleep). Now, looking back i realize that that is true but it was meant that way! Everything there was organized that way. We had very strict rules about leaving the clinic, we were obligated to be present at all 3 meals and would eat together at a big table and then clean the kitchen together. We could go out friday night but only if we planned it ahead in a group together. The most healing moments were when we had conflicts. The therapists would come and help resolving them and many of us learned for the first time that conflicts are normal, resolvable and friendships can even grow with them. It was one of the best expiriences i ever had and i didnt joke at all when i said i wished i could live there forever. I still cry when i think about that time with that group of people that felt like a family, all the nature around in late summer. I made coffee for everyone, someone brought cards to play. We did so many things in these 6 weeks just because we were bored and there was always someone to do it with you. We cooked marmellade, rented bikes and went one hour to the next town where the swimming pool was or half an hour to the other where the supermarket was, went bare feet into the woods (which was a bad idea because pine needles hurt a lot 😅), invented storys, i practiced to make milk foam and then made latte macchiato for everyone, i learned to hug peoole without fearing to be rejected and dancing without fearing to be laughed at, we organized a karaoke evening. And so many walks, bike tours, deep conversations, board and card games. Most i miss these moments when i was so full of all my complicated thoughts and anxious worries, when today i would turn to my phone, but then i would just go right in front of the house, there was a table and a few plastic seats and benches and there would always be at least one person sitting there. A real community with genuine deep authentic connections is what we need and miss so much nowadays. (and nature and being bored together)

it’s the illusion that your boredom needs to be cured, and the internet was like that. but boredom is how we achieve greater things, as humans we need to feel bored to push our selves.

My low attention span won’t let me read that

@@sunnymoon3771 that sounds like such a wonderful time ^.^ it's a similar philosophy to how people used to sit out on their front porches and chat with any neighbor who came by. We need time to sit and be bored, and also to check in with people who we wouldn't otherwise talk to

I have to read aloud. My mind goes in ten different directions

may I ask what book it is? I'd love to read it..

Book name?

@@charliegooops908might be “Slow News” by Peter Laufer.

I go to my family cabin 30 miles from Civilization, the cabin is on a lake. All I can hear is the wind blow over the tree tops, or a animal walking over branches and sticks walking down to the lake for water. If it isn't windy out, you hear absolutely nothing.

It’s FAR too late for the younger generation. Attention spans and sheer narcissistic entitlement is a massive problem now.

@@jayboy2kay7 I'm curious where you get this idea, do you spend a lot of time with the younger generation or is someone telling you this?

@@jayboy2kay7I dont think its ever too late. Humans are an adaptive species and I think it’s possible that once the new generation matures, they could look back on technology with even more distain than we do. I think it’s fair to believe the generation before us thought the same. But here we are, striving and hoping for the day we can be away from our phones without feeling anxiety or some urge to start scrolling

A true virtue of life is realizing there is beauty to be found in almost every thing on this earth. A city is filled with swarms of people, all in their own world with their own perpesctive, but nonetheless coexisting on the same earth, let alone in the same 5 mile radius. It’s beautiful how everyone can view the world in a completely different way, almost as if we are living on seperate planets, but still be able to enjoy a cup of coffee or a sunrise.

The relieving thing is that the second you *do* leave your phone at home (at least for some people) and go on the walk, you stop caring about what's on the stupid shiny rectangle and start paying attention to what's real.

you're very wise for a 16 year old and well ahead of your peers and even many of your elders, well done! Keep it up, you're future is limitless...

It is very good advice. I ofter forget that some generation did grew with technologies from de biginning. This week I try to emulate my life when I was 16. Playing video games, reading and biking. All this, way before I had my first flipphone. I had much more imagination at this time, consuming content kind of kills my imagination I find.

Congrats! Sounds like basic meditation, mindfulness one. Respect for discovering it that early. Not an easy thing to do with all those blinking screens and notifications around.

​@@hubertvachon8723I must agree that imagination and wonder have suffered from this change to our lives

@@alborzajeli768 When did basic cognitive function become 'very wise'? What has this world come to

>"where i can just get up and listen to the rain or observe how the sun hits the trees and just take those first moments" Serious but off-topic question, what is your branch of work? Because whenever I wake up, all I feel is the overwhelming dread, anxiety and depression about having to leave the house and go to work. And seeing rain would make me think "oh shit now I'll be drenched at work" and sun.. I never see sun when I get up cause apparently it's normal here to go to work when it's still dark out and it feels super unnatural. Nothing I see or do can bring me joy if I know I'm about to have to go through something I hate.

@@slaveNo-4028have you considered changing your job?

that sounds more like depression than anything else.

Don't do that to yourself. Anybody that comes to you with a cause that they need you to care about has another hidden agenda. Like your money, or your vote, or your clicks. If someone is really passionate about something they will give their own life to that cause. Followers are an effect of their passion, not a prerequisite.

I'm normalizing telling people I just care about other things.

I don't care about much, and I've never felt guilty 😂

Blackpill doesn't go down easy, but it _is_ liberating, in a sense.

i use to have guilt about not caring about everything but overtime i've realized that no one really actually cares about something unless it actually affects their lives in the current moment so many people give lip service to different causes but they don't actually do anything for them and i think that's what got me to realize that

I used to be such a big reader. But I find it so difficult to read now. I usually get into bed, try to pick up the book I'm reading, get distracted by my phone and end up on youtube or something. It's been over a year and I still haven't finished this damn book. The worst part is that the book is actually very good, well written, entertaining, and reflective.

Just deleted TikTok after being on it since I was 12 (I’m 15 now) and any time I just didn’t feel like playing video games i watched TikTok. All of my day was spent on a screen. I’ve found myself replacing it with UKposts shorts which is honestly more embarrassing. I read a full book for the first time in years and after watching this video I want to read and color in silence for a change

My goal for this year 🫶🫶

How do you start

⁠@@biomecha1933There’s some videos on UKposts lol but Find a quiet area. Sit in a chair or get a mat/pillow and sit down legs crossed🧘‍♀️. You can sit on your bed if you want to. You can also lay on your back but you might fall asleep on accident. Whatever position you find comfortable close your eyes inhale then exhale deeply 5-10times. While the eyes are closed try to keep your focus between your eyebrows so you’re kind of looking up in a way but don’t strain your eyes while they’re closed lol. As you continue focusing and controlling your breathing any thoughts you encounter admire it then let it pass. You’ll naturally know when your thoughts become stillness. Sooner or later you’ll be in zone for real even to the point where you don’t feel your hands sometimes lol. MIND AWAKE BODY RELAXED💯. Confirmation you’re doing it correctly is experiencing colors like a lava lamp which is normal deep into it. Try meditating 15min then work your way up to 45min or more. Hope this helped.

@@biomecha1933 You just need a quiet place to do this, sit with your legs crossed, close your eyes and focus on your breath. You can count it if you want. And if you are just starting meditation, its important to not over strain yourself with it. Sitting even 10 mins in silence can be highly taxing if you do not have the habit of it. So I would recommend meditating for only 2 mins in the starting and slowly increasing the number over time. Remember, you have to make a habit of sitting in silence and in the beginning you would want to focus more on consistency rather than the productivity part. Also, dont get frustrated when your focus shifts from breath to thoughts during meditation. Acknowledge the thought and calmly focus back on your breath. This is also a part of meditation. Good Luck :)

the irony that you didn't really watch the video until the end? :D

😐 we're screwed. WTF, maybe you're trolling. Ik you're not 🫠

I struggle with the same.

@@ashtangaxashtangapranayama8526?? You disagree?

Isn't it mad that for most people even watching a youtube video isn't enough, we need to be scrolling while watching it

didnt even wait for the video to end. Bye! 🚪

This is an excellent comment. I also realized im addicted to YT, like if im doing something or on vacation (i just came home from a 10 day beach/surfing vacation) and barely watched a couple of videos, so didnt miss it but sometimes i watch a video and 5 HOURS have gone by watching YT, no joke. I havent watched TV in years, except for sports, all my news, everything, i watch YT. And even though i have learn A LOT of cool things since now there are TONS of cool content creators, sometimes i watch shit that doesnt add anything, any value to my life. Ive wasted a LOT of hours day in day out on YT. Im going to start doing what you recommended. Thank you for writing this.

And thank you for your reply, I honestly wasn't expecting to reach anyone with it, let alone affecting them in this way. Best wishes to you, and good luck in whatever ventures in life you wish to pursue.@@fungus_am0nguz644

this is one of the best comments i've ever read, thank you so much for giving your insight

@@TULLIS-sl9tj Thanks! Hope it helps you out, best wishes in all your endeavors

Thanks for the advice, I recognize so much of myself in this comment and I've been kind of trying to do what you do but I haven't figured it out. You put in a very clear way and I'll try to remember this.

If I can do it you can too, make an effort to not go on your phone when you wake up, I do this and my phone sits next to my bed

Fuck that I'm not yielding to my disorder

I was in the "diagnoses by elimination aren't scientific" camp for a long time, but I'm starting to rethink that. I almost always have at least 5 UKposts tabs open to 'choose from' and have at least one going all day. I still make time to just be, or do creative projects that are just for me, but anything I'm doing all the time like that, especially when it becomes a thoughtless habit, should be examined carefully.

@@matturner6890 you're definitely doing way better than me. I have NOT been taking the time to be and creative projects have really gone by the wayside lately

It's not the short form of content, or sensory overstimulation, or social media. Those only showed how vulnerable and flawed we are. Both reading books and watching tiktoks are supposed to stimulate you, it's just TikToks are doing it much more efficiently, showing how pointless is seeking any kind of satisfaction.

@bruhrrito8669 Thank you for this comment. It actually helped me a lot more than I thought it would

I straight up think back to when smoking on airplanes are legal. That's what I think anytime I see people using smart phones in public.

It can definitely be information overload. But if we can practice some self control it can still be a net positive. But it requires not giving into the addiction, which can be very, very hard.

I feel this deeply. The notion that "technology is progress" and therefore automatically something good, is an absolute myth. Progress does not automatically mean good. New technological inventions have become about luxury and comfort, not about making our lives easier in a meaningful way. The more technology advances, the more lazy, disconnected and passive we become. It's like technology is replacing every activity that makes us human and turning us into the people from Wall-E. I'm skeptical about every new device that is released, and I know it's just not stopping. There must be a limit eventually.

Great quote for sure. Like skipping to the end of a story, you skip all the difficult/trying parts but in turn miss all the enjoyable moments too. You don’t have to endure struggle as much but at what cost. Depending on your life and circumstances this may be worth it but as people we have a tendency to exaggerate our problems even if they are legitimate. Life can always get worse and anyone who has struggled knows this. We often and easily forget life can always get better.

Many dont even answer the call to their personal heros journey(joseph campbell

​@@echo7188I realized this when I was playing Skyrim , then there was mods (cheats) you can get how much gold you want , whatever weapon you want and don't have to work for it for hours.. and I realized that took the joy out of things and I don't play with mods.. I enjoy the process of looting, finding stuff earning it. The same goes for real life

Technology didn't make us void of anything. Too many people need to start taking accountability for their own actions if they feel like they need to vilify technology instead of blaming themselves.

⁠@@yepyepyep863I definitely agree with this, but technology has made us all run away from our problems. It’s made us void of having accountability for our actions. We don’t accept or even acknowledge failure anymore. Instead, we push stuff onto others instead of realizing we’re the problem. Some do something about it, others don’t. If we mess up and get sad, then we can just watch any content for hours on end, or take any drug that’s available in a small pen form.

I feel you. I think that’s where the “when does this do more harm than good?” Is a good question to really evaluate for myself. Like, when I am alone, working from home, and taking a break, is it helpful to go straight to UKposts? Usually yes. It’s not really a time when I can call a friend since they’re all working too. But at night, or when I have the opportunity to sleep with someone, should I be so strung up on falling asleep to a UKposts video that I neglect to fall asleep in the peace and comfort of someone else’s loving presence? ….probably not.

You need to find a woman. Better late than never. While it is very difficult, it’s not impossible. A man isn’t complete without a woman.

@@derrickrr5516, are you talking to me?

Women come and go better to learn to just be content with the person you are and do the things and be the way that you would normally have been denied from that life.

@@derrickrr5516 being able to love someone else starts with loving yourself. Just "find a woman" leads you to journeys that are no different than your average tiktok consumption.

I'm in my mid 20s and I agree with you. Thing is, I've used the internet since I was 10 but never really got "addicted" until I got my first smartphone at 18 (I had an instinctive distrust towards them and waited out on getting one until not having one became impossible). Smartphones and the rise of Reddit, Instagram, Twitter, etc killed the internet being anything but mindless garbage.

Once you learn that everything and I really do mean everything is fake, you can and will put it all to the side and never be swayed again. Yes, it is really to that extent. Be well, dude.

That's good awareness

well, you probably have a naturally aggressive disposition. I know at times when I get really bored, I sometimes want to stir up a little trouble. The trickster, jester comes out of me. It's normal. You also were in your teens learning how to adapt to the raging testosterone in your body. That is a bit of a learning process and possibly there was something stressful in your environment causing this for you. Possibly even issues with your father as I know a lot of men when they are younger act out aggression because of resentments to their parents and particularly, their fathers.

Exceptional realisation

Do you engage in debates online? I was really stressed at one point but life was good. I just felt such rage like the world was wrong. Then I realised it's because I was sucked into twitter arguments. I blocked twitter and now life is truly good.

Good luck with your gender transition! Stunning and brave

Meditation is legit.

@@ZeroPhilosopherdid you reply to the right comment? 😂

I get all drained if I don't walk in the forest for a couple days, and then I can't study... nature is my meditation you could say

And you can easily make every day and every moment a meditation. While walking feel the floor/earth below you. How is the temperature were you are and is the wind blowing? Does it smell like something? what does the smell remind you of? Just be aware of your thoughts but don´t let them take over you. Make the journey more than the reward. Don´t crave for what you get when you eat or get to some place specific. but enjoy making food and walking slowly. Stop having every action just being a end to a means.

Great idea! Thank you for sharing. If will be hard to implement but I'll definitely try it.

I did it just yesterday, I was so tempted to watch porn but I started to do some random things to distract myself and forget about it I ended up tidying the entire house until I slept

@@ahmedyassinenajjar1516 I'm happy to hear that! The temptation to use porn has to do with hormones, and that energy can also be used for productivity. I wish you success in the following days!

@@RainzorBlade thanks bro

I would never go back to devices in that case. I've had three different one to two week trips into the rain forest away from it all and immediately fall back into the trap upon returning

Agreeeeedddd🙌

And then we wonder why the 1% has the most resources

247k views Ackshully

Our communities have been ripped apart. We were told the nuclear family was enough community and developed a society in which everyone is constantly moving and shuffling around. We live in neighborhoods of strangers.

The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety, it’s connection. Your comment reminds me of another quote “All of our best memories and happiest moments involved other people”

Thank you! That is all! Drop the net grab a human! 🥰🥹🥹🥹

That is a very "easy solution" and "rose colored glasses" and "everyone works exactly the same as me" opinion.

no its not. theres other shit at play. we are disconnected cuz we are being attacked. confused. mind controlled. gaslit. we are being attacked so we need to force ourselves out of the trance everybodys in because of the grids of the internet imposed over our pineal glands and solar plexus.

Thats so truue, i see the same thing in music, most people now listen to the part they heard on Tiktok and not the whole song for its creativity and beauty. It is really sad to see this is happening to us

@@basseldahdouh8736 Okay that is crazy, its like fast forwarding a movie to the fight scene only. Anyway, every cloud has a silver lining. Find a way to be above this mediocrity especially in business and professionally, you'll beat nearly everyone in your field

My little brother is addicted to yt shorts. He doesn't have weight on any values other than the stuffs that are thrown to him in the shorts. He believes anything shown in the shorts. Every I see kid born after 2010 are like this. At least we had our digital-less experiences in our past but these young people are exposed to them since birth. It really saddens me thinking about their future.

Definitely this!! When I'm alone doing things I have to turn on music or I just start talking to myself about what I'm doing like I'm on the phone with someone.. I was styling a cosplay wig a few hours ago and literally was detailing what I was doing to myself despite me knowing full well what was happening..

I have Actually been practicing meditating. Getting really comfy not to fall asleep but to stop for a bit. Focus on my breathing and silencing my brain for a while. I feel so much better and regarded after! But it was hard to do at first. Just practicing enjoying silence again is a good thing!

@@thelovelyredbones6364 Meditation is the cure to this, well that and a new attitude

Oh my. I do this. Feel like I always have though. Even before smart phones. In fact its always weirded me out others don’t do this. Yet those others are people far more screen addicted than I am. But reading this makes me wonder if my habit for walking around the house talking to myself and blurting out random things that I think is me just making myself laugh is actually my anxiety toward silence. Interesting

videogames are just books, systems for transferring information through them, but written by many authors ... a modern version of the same system, but updated for the age of screens and music.

I live in Greece, can I come with you? XD

@@chulkon sure !

That sounds like a dream! I've been wanting to visit Georgia for a long time. Hopefully I can visit it next year, It'd be once in a life time experience to visit your farm :)

where in georgia are you located? i live in milton!

@@connorperkins6013 Watkinsville ga

Yeah, been thinking about this concept a lot lately.

I've made the same distinction! Of course, happiness is great. But it isn't sustainable from a biological level. "Hedonic adjustment" is a term worth looking up. Our brains adapt to the level of dopamine we receive, so that what once caused happiness is now a baseline. This plays a huge role in addiction and is especially salient in a society where we're constantly flooded with dopamine.

(Also I haven't watched the video yet so sorry if this is right in there lol)