There is nothing worse than someone who criticizes because they lack empathy and compassion. They don’t care if the information will drive someone into depression or squash their dreams. It is as if they make themselves like a god and people don’t have time for that.

If they lie….even once, leave. Cheating begins with a lie. If they lie to you, they have lied before..and if you accept it they will again.

For men in the corporate world, you must be aggressive, assertive, always admit your mistakes without hesitation, be ruthless to incompetence and infinitely loyal to those who put in the work and get results, but most importantly, carry yourself like you belong there. Emulate it, and so it will be.

Two of my favorite humans 𓂀𓋹𓂀

I loved this. As the cheater and idiot who blew up our world and home, I only pray that she will watch this with an open mind someday

I agree with being honest, but I think this video is mis titled. Point-blank asking someone if they can “handle” my feelings would absolutely scare a lot of people away. Men have run from me for a lot less and I haven’t developed enough self-trust to accept that. If you’re going to be that assertive, I think you need to be ready for that before taking that approach. I get it - if they run away it’s an indicator that that person is not right for you. But that perspective is not enough to make me feel safe yet.

Important straight talking, once again. And your optics game is on point!

We can learn how to build extraordinary relationships by developing ourselves.

We can change our vocabulary & self talk to be more positive.

Learnings and actionable steps.. love it

HAHAHAHAH. Brilliant Treva. SSSSSS SMADLY Love you ok

Trevor is so much more than a comedian. The wisdom that comes from his brain, passing through curated decisions to speak to the topic literally and/or with an edge of comedy. Oftentimes, both. Love him!

I enjoyed this exchange very much. Lots of insight into the human condition here. Thank you.

A feminist and a traditionalist. Go figure…

Brilliantly kind! 💖

My dad is an emotionally immature man. I know he cares about us and even mom but it didn’t stop him ruining our family. Now they’re getting divorced and it happened too fast. Last month we were one united family, now we fell apart. And feels like my life fell apart. I’m trying to imagine my family separated and every morning i feel like I forgot about it and I have to remember again that my dad didn’t go for a work and he’s not gonna come back. It’s like he’s dead. I feel like we will never have normal relationships ever again. We will always be distant. And I will only feel some kind of a compassion and love just because he’s my father, not for the person he is. And it confusing me because he’s not a bad person at all. I don’t know how to feel. I don’t know how to act around him that’s why I don’t want to talk to him or see him much. I don’t know how am I gonna trust a man and not keep thinking he’s gonna leave me one day. I will have to keep reminding myself that I am not my mum and none of these guys is my dad. It’s crazy even when you’re adult your parents effect your life deeply. But because we’re adults we can actually heal from this and take control of our lives. We can’t let our traumas to rule our lifes. Don’t worry people everything is gonna be okay. Even it’s not you have the strength to deal with this 🤗💪🏼

There is a saying in the german language: "Er/sie spricht mir aus der Seele". Meaning: Someone else is speaking "out of my own soul" (It's nothing religious, btw!). Very rarely in life (if at all!) you are lucky enough to ever meet a person who is framing views and formulating opinions EXACTELY the way you do in all your thinking and emotions. I have a very close, very educated, very intellectual long time friend, who is "speaking out of my soul". Strangely enough: The other one is a person I never once met in my life: Trevor Noah ...

There is no certainty evah

I’ve been married for seven years and lately all we do is fight even for small things. We are both good people and love each other. Double income, no kids, we should enjoy life, right? Sometimes it feels like love is not enough. Two strong, opinionated, stubborn people ughh! Hope you all find partners who get you, listen to you, and are willing to be your ally and best friend. Watch those first fights in the beginning of the relationship. That will be all you argue about for the rest of your life. Also, dive into your past traumas and check if your partner is an antidote or throws more fire on them. I love you Esther, you speak truths. I wish you gave us couples therapy :( so needed right now. Best!

Excellent perspective. I also think we're in an upward revolution to figure out how to live happier lives. New generations evolving to feel safe, secure and happy without hard labor in excess, a bazillion daily tasks to fit in, essential tasks to just survive and feel a safe road ahead of you. I yearn for the progress. Creative minds are locked up until they are safe to explore without risk to their freedom. I look forward to learning from your wisdom❤

It all sounds great but I could never forgive, no matter what. That’s my choice.

Esther, bring your wisdom to Barcelona!

My advice .Stay single.

This is our go to video with my partner whenever we feel like we are in a loop or at an impasse. It's a reminder to look inward for both of us and in 6 minutes, I feel the emotional flooding reducing. With practice we'll become better communicators and resolve our conflicts better.

True

U said it all wow!

over and over I can watch this 5minutes. MY God, how many fuckin simple words are important and effective and i was always negative to herrrr .and i was thinking she doesnt want to have fun with me or ,......thanks Miz ESther Perel 😍😍😍😍😍

Once a cheater, always a cheater. No second chance

One of few conversations I listen with normal speed.❤

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I met a man and he introduce me to Esther. So I am dating and doing couple therapy at the same time. I have been awaken but I feel this patience but that's from God. Esther has taught me to be easy on a man, willingly, to be more playful, more foreplay and most of expectations. Esther if he decides to marry me I want you to marry us. ❤ His the most wonderful being I have ever met.

This is sheer crp....

Great tip. I was always anxious about her perception about me. Now I will stop overthinking and just do it

men have sexual trauma too. don’t be afraid to talk to someone trusted/professional because you deserve healing too.

Shared reality of the record. 🤩😍

Yes. I wish someone would prove me wrong.

Picking your battles and "not making a big deal" about stuff all sounds really great,wonderful,cute,and adorable until you start giving inches and somebody starts taking miles.Giving inches and allowing other people to take miles nah not today don't think so.If you want to come at me and you think that I'm going to give inches and allow somebody to take miles then guess what news flash youv'e got to be much smarter then that you brain dead fucktard.

I absolutely adore this woman's wisdom and eloquence. Incredibly helpful. I wish everyone in the world could listen and learn from her. Even on the level of countries, political leaders should learn from her in dealing with geopolitical relationships.

Perfecto!🎈💯❤

Girl owned a business had 400 thousand in the bank was extremely attracted to my looks but once she found at ( I truthfully told her I'm rebuilding from a last fianceship a year ago I invested 20 grand in a car a house and we split up its a year later I have two jobs got 2 grand saved so far , she just totally stopped talking lol. This was on POF. didn't feel good. But nice to know I attract beautiful women.

You want to be right or married

Love both of them❤

Once you can understand to free yourself and your Cheating partner from the Sin and Forgive in the real way to remember NO more. Possibly you partner reforms but if that Boundary is crossed again …Forgive as before and move on in new freedom without hate…they will realize that someone else is Loving The Gem They Fumbled. Bless you all and always pray for strength and wisdom…Thank God always for Good and Bad…there is valuable lessons hidden in Pain…

Biologically, men are polygamous, and women are monogamous

Sometimes a poor choice??

Wow Esther ❤you are so insightful. Thank you 🙏🏻

This was so good ❤

Two of my favorite people on the planet, oh my gosh, I couldn’t pass this one up

Yay for Gestalt Therapy leading the way for other modalities that explore parts of self!

Wow her words are just amazing