sometimes I scroll through comments and read all those horrible stories from people who had the same problem and it gives somehow comfort to know that I m not alone. Free yourself from those toxic persons, they will never change

NO remorse. Apologies are rare and given very begrudgingly

Honestly the silent treatment/withdrawal is such a relief because then you can just pretend you don't notice which they don't like and eventually they get over it. At least when they're silent you don't have to deal with the dialogue.

Disconnected, so true. They are hollow shells. Not interested in your life past enticing you in their lives . Giant babies. But turn into overt narc when confronted without possibility of escape...They blame, blame n blame. Its like living with air.

Keeping their distance from you, being aloof, cynical, always felt tense with them. Difficult to talk to about anything as if hiding something, being resentful, guilting you, holding grudges, don't have much in common with others, disruptive, interruptive, talks over you, and talks down to others.

I was so frustrated my entire 23 year marriage. I had no idea what it was I was actually experiencing. It's painful to look back and see these things

Apologies!??! I think the best from my narc was " I'm sorry that you're so sensitive."

The reason you have to drop any expectation of a sense of intimacy is because they lack empathy. Intimacy is based upon vulnerability and being vulnerable with one-another. What for you is an an effort to enter into intimacy, is for them, an opportunity to harm you.

I still have these dark depressed PTSD episodes once in a while after a covert narcissistic abuse.. I am 4 years no contact .. its crazy how much these monsters suck the life out of us empathic ones.

I feel afraid to get emotionally involved with any other human being before I have a strong hold on how to spot these people right away.

brooding silences....waiting for an apology you don't owe to them...??

My heart is pounding. For some time, I have thought my mom could be a covert narcissist. I'm at a point in my life where I am figuring some things out about the relationship I have with my mother. (I am 65 and she is 86) I had to stop the video to comment... at number 11, because so far I can think of countless examples of each point you've made. Now, she has dementia, and wouldn't you know it, I'm her caregiver, as well as my dad's. Her narcissism has only gotten worse over the years and sometimes I wonder why I'm the only one who sees it. I have to say this: Back when my mom was employed, she made arrangements to take off from work early one afternoon, so she could take her aunt to her church Christmas party. At the last minute, the boss needed her due to an emergency and didn't let her off. This happened 40 years ago, and she still holds a bitter grudge. Just the other day, she for some reason confessed to me that she kept a notebook after that incident and wrote down every single thing that her boss said or did that she didn't like. She actually made a hate book. I got shivers. I wonder if she has a hate book for me too. Thank you for the down to earth and easy to comprehend information you share in your videos. I have watched many, but I have to tell you that this is the one that has hit home with me and cleared up some doubts I was having. Now to finish watching. ........

This is so very sad to live this way😢 its like living in hell inside 😢 You miss out on so much love and fun.

It took me 50 years to realize the damage my mother had done to me. When you find out, it's crushing.

Covert narcissists are the worst! Thank you so much for doing these videos! I need the validation and positive affirmation, reminding me that I am not crazy.

My only comment about holding a grudge-there is a difference between a narcissist holding a grudge and someone protecting their heart from continuous abuse. A person who is the recipient of the narcissist has no obligation to open their arms and accept their behavior. It's not a grudge it's just being smart and wise to not allow your soul to be fragmented and destroyed by an abuser. A merciful and forgiving person can end up torn up inside because they feel a need to not hold a grudge. Grudge's no, protection yes. Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

Amazingly, my husband has all 18 of these traits. It took me awhile to realize how hopeless this is.

Indeed. "They love to see you wiggle." What a perfect description of how the covert narcissist thinks. Beware that they will get smug satisfaction out of every twist or turn, every ounce of control or provocation, each positive or negative reaction you afford to their much-needed narcissistic supply. We are merely tools and objects for their use..nothing more. We are simply narcissistic supply. Move on from them. They have never been what you believed them to be.

As the adult child of an overt and a covert narcissist pair, I see that many of these 18 characteristics (lack of interest in others, disdain for groups, superiority, lack of empathy, etc.) were modeled as “normal” behavior in my family. As kids, we were not taught how to socialize in groups or show genuine interest in others. When I brought relationship problems home, my dad would say, “You’re better than they are,” or “They’re just jealous,” rather than helping me gain insight about aspects of my behavior that might have been problematic. My parents openly gossiped and criticized the neighbors, yet pretended to be friendly in social settings. On rare occasions when we did socialize, they modeled how to be “charming,” “entertaining”, “impress others,” and not ask too many questions (as that would be “rude”). My father would actually say, “Don’t talk too much, or you’ll bore people senseless.” Now, as an adult, I’ve struggled to learn social skills, and my discomfort with small talk has caused more than one person to see me as “smug” or “superior,” which is anything but how I feel inside. I have often wondered if I’m mildly Aspergers, trying to memorize a huge expert system rule base on how to read and respond to social cues. I would enjoy hearing you speak about some narcissistic traits being learned, and how narcissistic parents can trigger neurotic children. The only way to get along in our family was to walk on eggshells and do lots of a** kissing! No wonder I’ve attracted so many narcissistic partners and friends. When they meet me, they think I’m wonderful because I mastered the drill decades ago. As soon as the mask slips and reveals my humanity (i.e., I get exhausted playing the game) I’ve somehow betrayed them! Your channel is so helpful. The puzzle pieces are finally coming together.

Thank you! My mother is a covert narcissist and it took me years of therapy to find out that I'm not an worthless and mean spirited person.

Absolutely spot on. Unfortunately, it’s often late in the game when one recognizes they’ve been dealing with a manipulator and a lot of damage has been done. The most important thing I’ve learned through this painful journey is that it was exactly what I needed to really find myself. I don’t discount the pain, but accepting life on its terms (both good and bad) instead of my own has brought me so much more peace.

You are amazing! They have NO interest in the other person but can degrade and belittle in a heartbeat. They make presumptions and assumptions that have nothing to do with reality. Trying over and over to explain to them, and get them to hear me is a task that never ends. So, why try? It is NOT about me, and realizing this sure helps me to understand why there is so much drama and chaos!! I need healthier people in my life.

Covert Narcissist: 1. Low attempts to connect [1:28] 2. Hyper-sensitive in emotional responses [2:02] 3. Low sensitivity toward your emotions [2:45] 4. Over-interpret your emotions [3:07] 5. Bored or disinterested [3:49] 6. Chronic sense of judgement [4:21] 7. Uncomfortable in groups [4:59] 8. Quietly blame other people for their flaws [5:37] 9. Apologies feel shallow [6:19] 10. Punishment with silence or withdrawal [6:58] 11. Easy feelings of victimization [7:37] 12. Appearing humble-yet feeling egotistical [8:18] 13. Often feel jealous [8:58] 14. Difficulty saying 'thanks'; expressing gratitude [9:33] 15. Shyness may be a cover for smugness [10:02] 16. Hold grudges-for a long time [10:39] 17. Identifying as a misunderstood unique person [11:03] 18. A lack of curiosity [11:40] . . . Coverts prefer their isolation [12:14] Your pleas drive them deeper into the pattern [12:37] Drop any expectation for intimacy [13:02] Seek personal fulfillment elsewhere [13:17]

100% spot on. They also like to teach people a lesson- eg if they are overtaken while driving and that driver is not fast enough for their liking they will overtake the "offender" and then deliberately slow down in front of them to "teach them a lesson"

When ever I have one of those days when I start to doubt, and it happens... I watch one of your videos. Always upfront validation... thank you...

Dr Carter, your videos have delivered me from an abusive and destructive marriage. I thank my Father in heaven for sending people like you and giving you the knowledge to speak on these things in order to free people from bondage. Is there anyway that I can give to your platform without purchasing anything? Just as an offering of thanks?

35 years of being married to a covert narc have ruined ma life. Am finally gathering courage to break free from this cycle of abuse and manipulation

When I saw the pattern, when I identified the covert narcissist, the abuse had a 60- year history, including alienating my only son from me over 30 years ago. The covert narcissist is my younger sister. I have loved her like a daughter. (Our mother died when she was 13.)The shock was a 10 out of 10.

NOT CURIOUS ABOUT ANYTHING. Not my body or my mind or interests. 😢💔 I'm a deep person....I can't believe I was with him for 13 years. Luckily I had God and myself in my mind to talk to!

Thankyou. So very helpful. Your work has made such a difference to me. As a highly sensitive empath I find I have attracted several narcissists into my life. I think of myself as an empowered empath now. I actually enjoy healthy boundaries now. I have such sincere gratitude for your help. Sending positive vibes from Scotland. Thankyou 🙏❤️💜💚

By the end of a circular argument where they've been proven irrefutably in the wrong and an apology is due, they will say "I already apologized ( when they have not)... I apologized. What else do you want from me?"

My gosh...I am not going crazy, that you so much for doing this video. I have been in a relationship with "this man" for 23 years. I am at a loss for words... :-(

You are making the world a better place. Thanks Doc C!

Your videos nail it EVERY TIME. Much gratitude to you, Dr. Carter.

Drop any expectation of intimacy.😢 It took me so long to figure that one out.

This was so eye opening. After 6 years of going crazy trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong and what I can do better to help him be happy and capable of loving me the way I need in the process of losing myself, I now finally understand there’s absolutely nothing I can do. Thanks for this

Thank you. I would also add a number 19 which is that they are pathologically cheap.

This is one of the best descriptions of various negative behaviors you will see when interacting with a narcissistic individual.

Bonjour. My husband is a covert narc. For years I thought I was the problem. I wish I would have known these things 25 years ago. Such good work you're doing for so many, Dr. Be blessed.

I consider it an invaluable part of healing and recovery .... that I simply cannot listen to one more minute of this stuff. It stirs the pot, rips off the scabs and refreshes the terrible wrenching hurts, disappointments and memories. No longer comforted, I leave the end of these videos angry and upset, like it was all just yesterday. That said, you've played an enormous role in my comprehension of exactly what evilness and emptiness lurked in that meat-suit of a man. For that I thank you for your wisdom and devotion of sharing it.

Bingo! I knew my ex boyfriend was a narcissist, but there were so many covert traits it was hard to define until now. Coming off as a strong silent type, super sensitive to things say that were not intended the way they were taken, etc. Wow. You hit the mark every time, Dr. Carter!

Healthy boundaries are so great to have, I now use these strategies and I feel healthy for it. You really hit every nail on the head, you've got these people down pat, completely. I wished that I had come across your videos decades ago. These videos need to be in schools for young people so they don't get roped into being manipulated down the wrong path in life. Your easy to listen to. Thanks

I love it when the narcissist goes silent! Mine never shuts his mouth, so the silence is so welcome.

Just realized that my mom gives me the silent treatment since I was like 6 years old or less. God damn, some people really shouldn't be allowed to have kids. I struggle with crippling depression and maladaptive daydreaming and I suspect I have PTSD. I am also scapegoated. This is frustrating, gosh.

Thank you for this video! I know someone like this. The person is beyond frustrasting and I realize keeping my distance is the best thing. It's like talking to a robot. You never get a real response about any subject.

Now Dr. C., you must have been hiding in my closet to know "my" narcissists so accurately. *To the Tee!!* Wish I had known all that *before* I was anywhere near or - alas!! - getting involved with them. Thank you for putting in the time and effort to make these incredibly helpful videos and all the best to you!!

You have described my father in law. If I don't act excited to see him every time he comes over, he gets offended. Then he claims that I don't like him or I don't want him to come over. No matter what anybody says, you must mean something negative.

Your comments on the covert is so spot on. It really helps me realize I am not crazy.

Thank you so much for this. It makes me sad to think about all the narcissists in my life: my mom, my husband, my daughter. It almost sounds like I have a victim complex, but it’s taken me decades to realize that I live among narcissists. I always thought there was something wrong with me.

As a divorce lawyer I wish every person applying for a marriage license were required to watch this video! I would have far fewer divorce clients, but that is okay. I can always pivot and practice in another area of the law. Keep up the great work Dr. C.

It took me 40 years to figure out what was happening. Thank goodness for the internet and you tube videos like yours. I sometimes feel so alone because no one except myself and our sons get to see the side of him that has done so much damage to me. Therapy is helping me in so many ways, mainly to forgive myself and realize I am not the bad person in this marriage I was made to believe for so many years.

Thank you! That's him, a legend in his own mind. He pretends to care until he has all the information to control or destroy you. God bless you!

So true. Wish I would have known about this earlier. I wasted so many years trying to understand my husband to no avail. It's all too clear now. Thank you

“It’s not about you, drop any sense that you’ll have any intimacy in this relationship. The more you plead, the more you beg, the more they like it because they love to see you wiggle. “ I probably need to tattoo this on my arm. Time to make some changes. Thanks Doc. I’ve given all kinds of requests on having an intimate conversation and why it’s important . I didn’t realize that someone else would get pleasure out of my begging. No more begging! No more catering to the silent treatment. Time I took myself more seriously.

You have to be about the best I have ever listened to on this subject! Your probably helping many individuals! Wish there were therapists like you more often!

One thing about narcissists - they're the best fast-track teachers. They force us, quickly, to decide to cower under their power or to HAVE SELF ESTEEM! I thank that part...then stay away!

Thanks so much for your insights and helpful videos! Currently dealing with all of this. It's an endless cycle, like a snake biting it's tail. Working on the exit!!

Just wonderful. I have a confession to make. One time when I was dealing with the family narcissist who has made me her "project" for years, I just lost it. Only instead of yelling (or choosing a healthier way to deal with the situation, like the alternatives Dr. C is suggesting here) I went DEEPLY into the Land of Sarcasm. I said: "So what you're saying is -- that your wisdom is just light years beyond anything I could imagine. That I'm down here on the ground like a little worm or an insect, while your perspective is more cosmic, even godlike. In short you see things pretty much the way God does." I still have to laugh when I remember that her response was: "Yes. You finally got it." She was dead serious. She had no idea that I was using extreme hyperbole to try to jar her out of her relentless sense of superiority. Now it seems pretty funny. At the time though...? Not so much. I've since given up on sarcasm. Not good for my soul and -- besides -- they never get it anyhow. Thanks again, Dr. C.

At the risk of sounding dramatic, I want to tattoo this list on my body so I never forget it. I keep watching it and every time it hits me harder. Does anyone else here struggle with wondering how we love someone who is like this? It is a constant dichotomy of love and disrespect... going both ways

It’s really hard to see how these covert narcissists are consciously manipulating us. Mine was amazing for nearly a year and then the devaluing started. I would point out how his behavior changed. How he was spending less time with me and on our Relationship, but he wouldn’t listen. Couldn’t listen. We’ve only been split up for three weeks but I can’t imagine ever loving again after this much deception. So if a person is unconsciously able to cause so much havoc, I’m done with Relationships

You've described my mother to a t. She's been holding a grudge for over 30 years but denies she holds grudges.

#5: I can actually see myself there; my behaviour when hanging with the narc - trying not to engage, or defend myself, when they are having their monologues about themselves, or my shortcomings. I guess it's a bit passive agressive? 😃 But when you hear the same story for the 10th time it is hard to be engaged.

I feel like some good folk have a few of these traits, but they don't have the lack of empathy the person with NPD has. The ultimate test, even with coverts, is when you set boundaries and they turn things around and make you feel shameful or guilty.

I could literally repeat something tht my dad said right back to him and he’d still disagree just because I said it

That pattern. Wow. I will never forget the moment I saw it and recognised it and called it. She had literally just goaded me into an argument with her, pressed all the right buttons, and there I was about to go off, and I turned around and looked at her. She was literally, settling into her favourite position at the table, standing, leaning on her elbows, she had a grin spreading across her face and was literally in the middle of an ecstatic hip shake as she settled in to watch me react. That was eye opening. It shocked me to a different kind of anger, one that came with a cold flash that she truly didn't care about me, all she wanted was to feel she had the power to make me act at her will. She was enjoying upsetting me. That was it. I walked away. Never again to be sucked in. It took months to get out of her environment, and her behaviour helped me to do so every step of the way. Her hostility and desire to hurt me now full pelt and seeking to slander and destroy me with anyone and everyone who would listen. For her, living with someone who the veil on her narcissism had fallen for, was a fate worse than anything she could imagine. It was awful getting out of there. But I am out six months. Thinking of it still sends chills at how heartless she was and has been. But now I fully understand, she is damaged and somehow unable to come up and care. Safest place to be is knowing she won't change and moving on. Wherever I go from here. I am better off knowing how to spot and avoid anyone like this.

OMGGG I am separated from my husband of 30 years and 3 sons later. He is a Covert Narcissist! You are BANG ON! I seriously thought you were describing him. I have never had anyone describe what he was before you! I knew he was narcissist but he didn’t fall under Grandiose and I was sometimes more confused because I knew he was NOT right! (Of course not until I had counselling could I name what he was). Thank you so much for all of your information it is so insightful 🙏💜

I remember coming home from work and he was watching TV and said what do you have to bitch about this time? He use to say he would talk to women and only BS came out of their mouth now i know better, He was never really happy for me about something good for me. he begrudgingly said thank you, this is s a great video i missed! No intimacy of any kind this is great!!

Last point: they love to stalk you (either by sound or anything) and play more mind games with you

I barely comment on videos but 4 real this man actually knows his stuff..reason why i love his channel

The passive aggressive really hits home. How many times I’ve made the error of attempting to appeal to the empathy that is nowhere to be found. It’s akin to a hole in a bucket. It doesn’t matter how much water you put in, it’s always going to remain empty.

Thank you! I decided there are just too many things that could pop up and cause a lot grief. It's exhausting and since I've gone NO CONTACT, It's a huge load off!! Always go by how you're feeling. Gently fade away and be good yourself! 😉

After several years of marriage counselling and summercamps where you can learn how to be married with somebody.. and no connection, no development. Sad, so sad. But I love these videos, thank you from Finland Dr C. for your help!

How in the world do you know these covert narcissist so 100 percent all 19 you described is what I have been dealing with for 30 years. He is pathetic and I know that he has the devil inside of him Thank you for this great video, when you are dealing with these kind of people there is no one you can share these horrible things with because no one never believe you they just think you are CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dr. Carter you've helped me tremendously in terms of understanding the relationship dynamic w my narcissistic family members. I always felt as if I couldn't do anything right, my feelings never mattered and I've always felt inadequate. Thank you for all you do for us!

This video made me aware that the reason I have had so many narcissistic relationships is that my father is an overt narcissist. Very emotionally and verbally abusive for my entire life. My current husband is an overt narcissist. I initially thought him very different from my father but have discovered that they are really very much the same. Thank you for your very informative videos. I am learning a lot.

Thank you for this - I feel so empowered now and can finally stop explaining my feelings or asking why he acts that way

Wish I knew this 65 years ago. I would have had a MUCH BETTER LIFE! Better late than never.

I feel like I do a lot of these traits now TOWARDS the ex boyfriend who was a very dangerous narcissist. He took me for the crazy emotional rollercoaster of my life. I’m still trying to heal and he’s still trying to creep BACK. But I don’t trust him at all. So now I act very cold to him. My heart is closed. Which I don’t like feeling like this. That common? I have kids worth him so it can’t be no contact unfortunately 😩

This has made me realize my ex was a covert narcissist all along. A giant weight has been lifted off my chest. I understand the gaslighting and crazy-making now, she can move on with life without regret, knowing I’m truly better off and there’s not much I could have done better. Thank you so much!

Oh Jeez Louise - so spot on that this is almost frightening! Instead, I choose to view this as enlightenment. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't nake it drink. Time to move on! Bless you Dr. C.

Its so true that not having that longed for deep connection is so hard After losing my connection to my family friends ..i ended up isolated ..watch was the most painful part of it all The sad thing was i had lost trust . For me that the scariest part of it all. In that sense iam i bit like the nars ..that i have my hands out in front of me ..so far and no further But saying that ive built a story around my pain .. So the thing i need to do Is collapse that hard wired structure ...which to be tottaly honest ties in to my own childhood... I was already broken before i got married ..

My older sister used to drive me to high school on her way to her office. One morning while waiting in her car for her to finish her elaborate makeup and hair ritual, I thought, oh boy we're going to be late - and we were by about 20 minutes. That night she told me that she'd been chewed out by her boss, and if I ever made her late again like that, I'd have to start taking the bus to school. This really happened! She's gotten worse over the years, and I unfortunately don't feel like I can deal with her any more. Logic never enters into her mind.

Eye opening. I have felt something was so wrong with me. After listening to your video I feel immensely relieved to hear that I'm not a horrible person who deserves this awful treatment. I have been going thru hell. Thank you for your videos!

I am married to a covert narc for the past 18 years now. The most frustrating part in my soul crushing experience is the fact that everyone except me and my teenage son think of him as the most courteous and kind gentleman! Oh it hurts! Thank you, Dr. C , as always🌟💛

My mother fits this description. She was often described as “independent”. But aloof and uncaring are closer to the mark. When you think of all the terms usually associated with ‘mother’ you can see that there is very little overlap with covert narcissist. It’s like not having a mother. Also, if I may add a trait-if you show compassion to another person, they simply cannot understand your motives. They assume you’re going through some kind of mental breakdown. It’s funny now that I understand (thanks, Doc!) but it was hurtful and confounding at the time.

"that shoulda been mine" exactly!

I was raised by a overt narcissist father and a covert narcissist stepmother and an enabling mother, all in the same freaking household. I’m going to write a book one day about my experiences but wow, it took me 33 years to get out and draw strong boundaries of no contact.

I'm just getting out of a physically, emotionally, psychologically abusive relationship. One I ended when my children started experiencing my wife at her worst. Out of everything, my wife destroyed me, starting from almost the beginning, always calling me self-centered, a narcissist, etc. This has made me feel like the bad guy from day one! Even the week I had her removed with a restraining order for myself and the kids, I was at a local church begging God to forgive me from taking a mother from her children. I was always called selfish, and that really sticks with someone. Whenever I found something I enjoyed, it was egotistical to actually enjoy it. I wonder if this is a tactic with other narcissists? I'm seeing two counselors, and I can't stop feeling like I'm the bad guy. She sent me to the doctors and one of my kids to the hospital. The situation was out of control, and I think I lost a big portion of myself because of it.

#12, 13, 14, ...wow, just...ALL of them. And I have noticed #18! No curiosity about me WHATSOEVER! so helpful!

What a fantastic video Dr. C - thank you so very much for this! My experience with Covert Narcissists is that they never reveal anything negative about themselves (their flaws, mistakes, etc...) nor do they talk much about themselves or your relationship with them. They are not concerned with how others feel at all - just themselves. You are so very right - intimacy is pretty much an impossibility with them! They just talk about the NEWS, the weather or other people like co-workers, neighbors, friends etc... They lie about things you caught them doing or that other people told you they did, no matter how obvious the lies are. They will literally take these lies to their graves - you will most likely never get the truth out of them! Their apologies are absolutely meaningless. If and when they actually do apologize, it has been immediately followed with justifying excuses as to why they did what they did, thus right fighting their wrong actions. They are 100% wolves in sheep's clothing. One Covert Narcissist I know is EXTREMELY covert and VERY good at hiding things, for the most part. Thanks again and have a beautiful holiday season! :)

I listen and relisten to your vids to remind self that I'm the normal one, and to re-learn your advice on ways to handle. You've help me lower my former heightened frustration and anxiety. Married nearly 60 yrs! But my N didn't bloom fully until my serious heart and untreatable chronic illness sparked his anger & resentment 10 years ago. Never occurred to me that he was the main problem. Saw psychiatrist for 10+ yrs before we pinpointed the source of my emotional pain: my calm, quiet, PhD covert. Although I've decided it's unwise for me to split at this late stage, it's not too late to stop feeling crazy (!) and to not be hog-tied by his opinions and mandates while I carve out a new life for myself within the marriage. Thanks for all u do.

When a narc walks in the door I think it might be a good idea to do what Elvis did and that is, "leave the building".

Thank you so much for this. I had to deal with one of these for a long time and it almost completely destroyed me. I think I finally have a grasp of what was going on the whole time and why I felt so constantly awful. They basically lived and breathed all 18 of these traits and it made me feel so small, worthless and unloved it felt like my life was over, trapped with a person I loved deeply that never gave an inch of affection back. It was literally like hitting my head against a wall constantly and no matter how hard I tried, they never seemed to care. They never cared about me, just how I would affect them. The real danger with these is even after its done, you'll still yearn to break through because you care for them deeply and don't want them to suffer, and for many, that can tip them over the edge when they just become more distant over time. BEWARE!

So incredibly enlightening. I have been dealing with someone for most of my life, who has caused such grief to so many. This gives great understanding in the underlying motivations for the behavior.

It took me 35 years to find out what was wrong with my late husband because I had never heard about narcissism. I am thankful for videos like Dr. Carter's that finally showed me who my husband was and who I was.

Dr. Carter, you have such a pleasant way to present your videos. I live listening to you. Thank you.

Thank you for validating my experience and feelings

They are not curious. If they ask it's to use against you.

The more I educate myself about them, the more I feel sorry for them. I didn't realize how dark their inner world was nor how deeply unhappy they are. I am very grateful for this channel which has opened my eyes and answered a lot of decades-long questions I had! Thank you!

A couple years ago, my narcissistic wife told her friends that her mum died when she didn’t. Just to get sympathy from others. She even went mad at the ones who didn’t send her cards of condolences.I have only started to understand what is happening to me a week ago.