This is what a TEDx Talk is supposed to be like. No propaganda, no indoctrination attempt. Just clear and useful ideas that provide a possible solution to real life challenges. This is a true idea worth sharing. Thanks very much.

Curiosity is not only a great bridge to empathy but the cure for boredom. It is impossible to be bored when you are curious. And there are infinite things to be curious about.

The fact that she's used these techniques in her personal journey adds a level of authenticity that I really appreciate.

Karleen's story of overcoming challenges in her own marriage through curiosity is so inspiring!

Curiosity is a powerful tool in conflict resolution. It allows us to break down barriers and truly listen to the other person's perspective. When we approach conflicts with genuine curiosity, we open the door to resolution and growth

Definitely agree about curiosity and communication making all the difference

Wow, as a fellow conflict resolver, this talk feels like a nod of recognition. It's like peeking behind the curtain of everyday battles and realizing the power of curiosity in bringing resolution. Time to sharpen those questions!

This is one heck of an example about transferable skills

Pierced my heart when she said..."what do you want and how would you like to get there" Boom.

Her transformation from chaos to clarity is inspiring. It makes me believe that change is possible, even in the toughest situations.

This is such good advice. So many people see arguments as something to be "won" regardless of the impact it has on the relationship.

This really opened my eyes to the importance of resolving everyday conflicts instead of letting them just simmer on the backburner..

Such a pleasure to listen to - genuine empathy and a great story without any agenda, politics posturing or arrogance. Thank you! TED please pay attention

Overview/Takeaways: 5 SKILLS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT - Curiosity (Unites the rest of the 5 skills) - Their Attitude - Master Listening - Connection - Reframing Curiosity uses plain language with simple intent--"What do you want and how would you like to get there?" If you want to elevate your relationship, get curious. It's for you and them. INTERNAL QUESTIONS FOR YOU TO INVITE VIA CONFLICTS: 1. Did you allow them to have their own story independent of you own? 2. Were you willing to hear their story without the emotional or verbal backlash? 3. Did you allow their story to become a part of the solution? EXTERNAL QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER FOR THEM: Ask questions before people feel hopeless; No prompt from you (No responsive words, actions, and/or sounds). Let them have their story. Hear it without backlash. Take a breath. Then ask questions without prompted responses. (e.g. What would it take to make things right?)

I never realized how conflict resolution skills can be applied to everyday relationships. It's true, the highest stakes are often in our daily interactions. Curiosity seems like a powerful tool to navigate those situations.

She seems like such a genuine woman. I wish her and her family well.

This came at a time I needed to hear it the most. Not to give up. And I won’t!

Karleen's resilience is amazing and an example of what we can do when faced with adversity.

Simplifying conflict resolution into five skills is brilliant. It's about time we focus on tangible tools instead of vague theories.

I never thought about how curiosity plays a role in conflict resolution. It makes so much sense to be open-minded and genuinely interested in understanding the other person's perspective

You absolutely crushed this talk, Karleen. I love everything about it. ❤

The three questions Karleen shared are a great way to assess our own level of curiosity in conflict. Allowing others to have their own story, listening without backlash, and incorporating their story into the solution can lead to powerful outcomes

This story resonates, I know all too well about how conflicts often hide beneath the surface of our daily lives

I wish I can just hug her! She a great woman.💪❤️

Such a great talk Karleen, it makes a lot of sense why all of these things would work. Hoping I remember them in the heat of the moment!

Her story brought me teary eye. To be that compassionate not to make the conflict about what you want. Takes a level of empathy and understanding that I am working on. Thanks for this message

Well said, this is what many people need to learn to deal with conflicts, including myself.

Using Karleen's five step resolution process is a win win for everyone which is the outcome you want.

I appreciate how Karleen highlights the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution. It's about genuinely wanting to know and understand the other person's story and that mindset shift can lead to more productive and harmonious relationships.

This subject needs to be taught in schools in

This is really helpful but only if you care about saving the relationship with the other person, sometimes they royaly mess you up where it’s not worth it to resolve

Wow, I am so very impressed with my good friend, Karlene. Great topic and conversation, thank you for that! Sonya

I particularly enjoyed the focus on everyday conflicts in this talk... The idea of using curiosity as a resolution tool is intriguing, and the three curiosity questions are like a litmus test for conflict-solving abilities.

Karleen's talk touched my heart. It's a reminder that relationships can face immense challenges. Her advice on being intentional and curious is something we all should consider.

'Them and you'-a simple yet profound approach to understanding the other side. The call for curiosity-based resolutions is something the world needs more of! Good on you Karleen for spreading a message like this.

Wow the whole curiosity thin is pretty interesting! I can see how it would benefit all conflicts, from everyday bickering to the more serious stuff.

The questions posed by the speaker are worth their weight in Gold! Fantastic speaker.

Karleen's personal experience with conflict and her commitment to learning and applying conflict resolution skills is inspiring. It shows that with curiosity and a willingness to understand, we can transform even the most challenging situations.

Incredible talk, Karleen! Thanks for sharing your message and personal journey. Your delivery was powerful.

Karleen's talk made me reflect on my own journey. I normally try to avoid conflict but I think reframing it as curiosity could improve my relationships significantly. Thank you Karleen!

I wish I had heard this information when I was ten it would have changed my life, thanks Karleen.

I couldn't help but chuckle at the Die Hard reference, but this talk drives home an essential point: conflicts lurk in our daily lives. The five skills introduced sound like the ingredients for a real-life superhero. Can't wait to try out curiosity in my next 'high-stakes' conversation!

I'm intrigued by the way this talk brings 'everyday' high-stakes conflicts into focus. Curiosity emerges as the hero in a world full of relationship villains, fancy that!

I love her message that conflict resolution is not just about high-stakes situations but also about everyday relationships. Curiosity is the key to building stronger connections and finding resolutions that benefit everyone involved

Amazingly and heartfelt explained. Thank you

Conflict is intense, all this shows the emotional toll it can take. Will try to remember the curiosity thing because I'm always willing to try a new approach.

This talk is like a crash course in saving relationships from the edge. The five skills presented are like a 'relationship toolkit' that anyone should have. It's time to swap 'die-hard' mentalities for curiosity-led resolutions!

The struggles of marriage and family dynamics hit close to home. Your approach seems practical, and I appreciate the realness.

As someone who's always wondered about the dynamics behind conflicts, this talk is a treasure trove of insights. The idea of using curiosity as a solution is piquing my interest-time to explore this new avenue!

As someone who often navigates interpersonal challenges, this talk is a goldmine. The three questions for curiosity assessment are like a reality check for my conflict resolution skills. Time to rev up the curiosity engine and make some positive changes!

I appreciated this talk because it made me curious about the conflict I have with my mother and how I can use that [curiosity] to find a solution.

I'm not entirely convinced about the universal applicability of curiosity, but I'm willing to give it a shot and see how it plays out.

I really enjoyed the points she made around the 6 minute mark, about if you let the other person have a story/allow their story to become part of the solution.

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Well worth listening to, no matter how great you think your communicating skills are. I am glad I listened.

I love the idea of being intentional about learning where the other person is coming from in a conflict. It's a shift from focusing solely on our own position. Curiosity opens the door to understanding and resolution!

Loving the idea of personal growth through conflict resolution. It makes a lot of sense that it would help you figure some stuff out about yourself

Another powerful talk filled with useful information that just makes sense.

Your story touched my heart. It's amazing how empathy can transform a relationship.

So many awesome points to think about in this one!

Incredible! So accurate!

This talk is awesome - so many great practical tips for navigating conflict, thanks Karleen.

I thought my conflict resolution skills were only needed for deciding where to eat with friends. Turns out, curiosity is the new action hero in my quest for drama-free dinners and movie nights!

This is great, I feel genuinely motivated to be more curious in my relationships.

This was pretty eye-opening as I've never thought about conflict resolution in this way. The personal stories add so much depth to the advice as well.

This is transformational... thank you!

I really appreciate having conflict resolution broken down into practical skills like this! I hope I don't need them too often haha but I'm excited to try out the three questions in my next argument.

... I forgot... what it feels like for someone to say to me "what do you want?", even if worded differently, I can't remember the last time someone even bothered to ask me that. Let alone how I want to get it. ...just hearing her say it made me fall to pieces..... I've had countless fights with my own family for all kinds of reasons, it eventually got to the point that each time I tried to put in the effort to get closer to them they were determined to push me further away, it didn't matter how much I swallowed my own voice so I could try to understand them because they just didn't seem to care about anything more than using and abusing me. I was ready to disown my family 7 years ago, and each month that has gone by since then has only made that feeling even stronger. I've never had someone tell me that I'm a bad person, but it really makes me wonder sometimes where the monster is coming from, if not from me, and not from my family, then where? So, while I absolutely support this video and everything she said, I also must say that it greatly moved me, but I believe that a resolution of conflict must require at least some amount of effort on both sides. When one person just keeps pushing and pushing and pushing while also admitting they have no clear reason to stand behind what they are pushing, you can certainly ask questions, listen to them, and try to understand them but they will never be satisfied, even if they get what they asked for. As much as I believe in harmony, cooperation, and understanding; that does not mean the other person does or is even willing to listen or that their idea of resolution is safe or fair. And I say that even if they get what they wanted they may still not be satisfied, because what they say they want is not always what they really want or choose to act towards. What they want may actually be exactly the opposite of what they ask for. But I can't speak for everyone, just from my own experience, I suppose not everyone is as bad as the people I have come to know. In fact, more often than not, instead of facing the need for a resolution for anything, I have known people who actually choose to run away more than they ever try to push back. The second I start speaking plainly, frankly, and such they try to change the subject, run off, or starting getting emotional about it before we can even discuss anything. All I do is ask about something or bring up something and everything just seems to go haywire. I don't know if I appear cold or if it's something else, but it certainly makes it difficult to resolve anything if the other person never wants to stick around and even mention the subject. Whether their scared of me or I'm doing something wrong, I can't figure it out when the only people I have conflicts with are either drama queens or the queen of heart's. 🤷‍♂️ .....I love win-win stuff, i get the greatest joy out of solving problems and taking on the challenges that come with them and I'll even go extremely out of my way to turn it into a win-win-win-win-win situation, but not everyone wants that apparently 🤨🤔🤷‍♂️ When a person wants a resolution, they don't actually want a literal "resolution", they just want to get exactly what they want, when they want to get it, exactly as they want to get it and any resistance at all to that is unforgiveable even after they get what they want. Then, even if they do get what they want, it probably won't be the end of it, they'll keep asking for more, and each time you give into that you are consenting to their control over you. That's abuse and manipulation. Which is why I say that true conflict resolution requires BOTH parties to be willing to achieve a true resolution, not a dictatorship.

Karleen's emphasis on curiosity in conflict resolution is a game-changer. Instead of digging into our own positions, we should strive to understand the other person's perspective. It's a powerful way to foster connection and resolve conflicts.

Her emphasis on personal growth through conflict resolution makes me think about how I've handled disagreements in my own life...

Sharing this, I have family who needs to watch it

Very inspiring!! Thank you so much for sharing!!❤

I promise to be a genuine listener and be genuinely curious about my future husband's situation and perspective whenever a conflict happens. I am a solution-orientated person and I was always interested in this topic- how conflicts between people or entities (spouses, siblings, parents, two corporations, two nations fighting, etc.) are resolved. Thanks for sharing your own story, and your genuine love for your husband that you developed over time by being genuinely curious about his perspective of things. I am sure he must have reciprocated the same because good communication goes both ways. Thanks for giving us this golden gift of good communication and granular steps of solving a conflict. This lesson has been etched permanently in my heart now. I pray to God that I meet my loving husband soon, I promise to cherish him for my life. Sending you my utmost regards from Seattle, Washington 🇺🇲 and Jaipur, India.🇮🇳

Powerful advice ❤

Yeah absolutely, curiosity is important for so many facets of a relationship, makes sense conflict would be one of them

Our everyday relationships can all benefit from resolving the differences that keep us at odds with each other.

Thank you!You are talking so stirring and story that are every day about us!❤Congratulation😍🌏

Love me some Bruce Willis!!❤️❤️ LEGENDARY!!!

Im excited to try being more curious in this way, thank you.

She raises some really interesting points, wish she had elaborated on some of them a bit more though!

Great topic and super interesting, valuable listen.

This was actually very good to hear... well done.

This is such an interesting talk and I'm curious to see how these skills can transform everyday disagreements into opportunities for growth and understanding.

i like the asking questions stuff, that makes sense.

I found this so interesting! Not sure I could keep my tone neutral and sounding genuinely curious when my emotions are running high though...

Such insightful information. Much appreciated! 🙂

Wow!! Thank you!

I like , if you want to elevate your relationship get curious about what others see and feel!

5 skills: Curiosity, gratitude, master listening, connection and reframing

Haha, your joke about "Die Hard" scenarios made me chuckle! But seriously, I'm keen to see how I can apply these skills to everyday disagreements.

It certainly makes a difference when you come to the table amicably with a positive intention. All to often that's not the case.

Yay Karleen! This is awesome. We miss your live videos on MyHomeschoolVillage!

As I'm pondering this talk, I can't help but wonder if curiosity is the missing link in my conflict-solving toolkit. Could simply asking questions really be the key to resolving disagreements? I'm intrigued to find out!

Thank you.

Very useful and insightful - thank you

Beautiful and intelligent, bless her 🥰

Take home message for me " What would it take to make things right? Short, sweet and powerful.

In my mind asking so many questions makes you come across as being unsure of your own beliefs. I guess it's helpful for seeing the other persons perspective though.

The story about her husbands brain injury hits kinda close to home. It's really difficult when your dynamic with someone changes

Less judgements, more questions. Seems easy enough until I'm all wound up and trying to prove a point hahaha