Congratulations! Wishing you a happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy and a darling delightful little babe on the other side ❤

Bless you and your family!!!❤❤❤

Awesome ❤

so happy for you

Congratulations and thank you for sharing. I'm 49 without partner and affraid that It is to late for me. It's nice to know that the dream might be still alive. God bless you.

I was just scrolling for this comment. The change in dating culture must have some correlation with the change in birth rates. I know many women who would love to have children, but they have found it impossible to meet a solid partner who also wants the same thing.

amen to that!

Also, I think our standards are higher for men and ourselves. We have more knowledge about mental health and emotional intelligence, how parents' behaviours can affect children. I certainly don't want to pass on the toxic tendancy I inherited from my parents, before most of it is healed.

Also there is no village anymore, you have to solely rely on yourself and your partner and you usually both have to work. Even if the kids are of great health that's challenging, let alone if they have special needs. That seems quite a risk so maybe society should address that instead of shame and push people into bringing children into financially, socially and emotionally deprived circumstances

Absolutely this. This is number 1 reason.

Wishing you all the best. The main thing is you’ve married a good man. You can have peace in your heart knowing that

Congratulations 🥳🥳🥳🥳. Same boat (same boat as you but 5 years younger)- did you conceive naturally??

All the best. Congrats. God bless you

How do you know it's best decision...if you haven't even had your baby yet?

@@mariaizaurralde I’ve seen my women colleagues being sad when they telling stories of how having babies have hindered their career progress or their study. Mostly ended up with “you're lucky, you're still single, no baby yet bla bla” and now I'm expecting, I've shifted my research skills on parenting and newborn care etc, things most average younger women couldn't be bothered about. We wanna provide the ultimate for the sake of the next generation.

Unfortunately they can reproduce all their lives.

Men are not going through pregnancy and nursing all that stuff. It is much more impactful for women’s bodies. But I don’t think it’s good also for men to have kids this late, they cannot be really a participant in the kids life at that point. Can’t run, play soccer, pick up the kid , etc

I hope U have some Knowledge of the biological difference between man and Woman....

I hope you have some knowledge that losing a parent can cause harm to children. A man who fathers children at 80 and dies causes harm through loss of a parent.

Men fathering children at older ages increases the odds of some childhood cancers like leukemia, as well as conditions like autism and schizophrenia.

Don’t forget that once you have the children you will get zero help! If you’re not blessed with family support, you’re on your own.

@@WhitneyMerten-hb3tc yeah my sister had a kid (not planned) and it was amazing seeing her helpful boyfriend that i thought would be such a great proactive dad turn into a father that needs her to say exactly what he has to do otherwise he "won't know" what he needs to do to his own son or the house (the poor fellow!) now my sister has no time for anything and figured out a divorce is better than to live like this, but all the money goes towards the rent bc no one our age actually owns a house and she can't move out. it's like my generation taught the girls we can be anything and to be free but still taught the boys they need a wife to do things for them. i only date men my age and every boyfriend i've had is extremely childish (i'm 28 now), makes me think if i need to wait till im 40 or something so the men are actually grown enough to have an equal relationship, bc they can't fathom this concept now.

💯% That’s why more women are choosing to use donor sperm and do it alone now! Another reason we’re seeing women’s rights being eroded.

Just date older problem solved

You just summed it up. Who can afford a baby when we barely scrape through

That’s not being prepared to raising a child, having a child is simpler than raising a child having one is the easy part. You can’t prepare for raising a child. You can read and talk about it all you want, you’ll see and your partner is going to be apart of this too.

@@mosijahi3096 You could've said congrats and moved on. You also could've kept scrolling. But here you are sounding like a bitter hater.

You did the right thing. It's far healthier for children to grow up in secure environments. That means emotional and environmental stability (directly affected by your financial stability- consistent housing, food security, predictable routines, etc). You are providing your child with a strong foundation. Good job

​@@mosijahi3096wow, it sounds like you really struggled as a financially disadvantaged parent. I hope things get better for you and your family 💕

@@mosijahi3096you can mentally prepare yourself to change diapers and let a kid cry in a separate room etc

Bless you,🤞❤

Praying for you, sister ❤

❤

My prayers with you. All the very best

You will be blessed!

It was meant to be

It's possible. The reproductive health of the mother is far more relevant than the age of the mother. If she's not in menopause, it can happen.

The first reason is bullshit, there are plenty of good caring men out there that would love to start a family with a good partner,, with good incomes, but women believe they need to have a 10/10 in every aspect or they aren’t worth even considering as a life partner. Tired of hearing this excuse.

OP is right, there are fewer good men who would be good husband's so yes it does take longer to find.

​​@@Agtsmirnoff she is right. Finding a good male partner is incredibly hard today. Many of them are game players, narcissists, violent controlling men. So it takes a long time, and it's tiring.

@@Aquagirl-in6wr yes and woman like you are angels.. its always the other sex who is not good enaugh. -.-' grow up

@@Aquagirl-in6wr What do you mean "good" male partner? Let's be honest, you'll list off a bunch of intangible crap but really you mean is: "Finding a good male partner that also has super model looks is incredibly hard today" Otherwise what you are saying is BS.

Amen

❤

Thank you! I'm so stressed about it and scared we might need expensive procedures. At 32, I didn't thought I'd be 'too old'. It took me too long to find a good husband and turn my back on the feminist lies everyone told me. Hopefully we're going to be having our own baby this or next year. 😢

That’s the kindest comment so far. Most comments have been about how they have become mothers at such and such age forgetting that there are many who are childless not by choice and struggling and grieving. Even the ladies in this podcast enthuse about the wonderful feelings of being a mother without a thought to those who are unable to have children.

Amen

Nature is supporting us 🥰 despite the system (capitalism).

I hope so because it can be so negative and debilitating!

Yeah especially since most women have partners older than themselves it is not only a fertility issue of women but also men. Less healthy sperm is just not strong enough to reach the egg or is so deformed that the female body just rejects it, so miscarriages may not only be caused by the age of the woman’s body but also the age of the sperm producer, especially if both factors are combined.

I will conceive my own this year.

That’s a good point!

🥰

Good for her!!! ANY woman who has fertility problems needs to take time off work for her body to reset. I've heard story after story of this. Hillary Clinton didn't conceive until she was on vacation. Not everyone's body handles stress the same. :/

So beautiful. I love a positive outcome like this. Woman often get so much more hostility for not having kids regardless of their personal battles.

@@BearingMySeoul taking time off work isn’t for everyone. Financial pressures on most people don’t allow it.

@@krishnagondhea7428 True. But in America anyway, where there's a will, there's a way! If I wanted to have kids bad enough, I'd move my family to a lower cost of living area to cut back on stress and expenses. There's a lot of families that can only afford to live in the boonies. 🤷‍♀

I still have hope 🙏🏽

​@@vanikaedward1793me too

I had baby 4 (bonus baby we didn’t know was coming) at 43, she is 7 months old…. My eldest daughter just turned 24 🤣

​@@Wavesurfa wow. Congratulations 🎉. My first born sister and I (currently 33) are 17 years apart. I wouldn't change a thing ❤.

That's awesome! Congrats! ❤

I wish more people could be like this. You are making the world a better place by choosing to put off having kids until your mental health got better. I’m in therapy now and am almost 27. I don’t know if I want kids or not but if I have kids, I am following your lead.

God Bless ❤

wow lol are you me but older?? my fiance and i are doing the same thing with the toxic past. we both grew up in domestic violence etc. it was my daughter who unintentionally taught me how bad my childhood was and how the F my mother could allow such cruelty to happen. my father NEEDED mental health help but with his upbringing... never going to happen. our child is 4 and we are already miles better than our parents at being parents. so i can totally relate to you.

it is very selfish. I was a kid of an older parent, and he died when I was at school, and I had to put up with a series of bad boyfriends my mother had. Parents only think of themselves not their kid.

​​@@beaulieuc8910people make choices considering circumstances. Your father could still have died when he was young. Maybe you would have both young toxic parents. You can only prepare for life and hope choices you make is right. Even in older gen people used to have kids in their 40s. My great grandmother and great great grandmother all had kids in their 40s too. Some of them lived to see their marriages, some died soon. Perhaps if your mother died while giving birth, would you have blamed her ? Would you have been happy with abusive toxic 2 parents? It's your mom's mistake for bringing bad bfs not your father's for having child at an older age.

Same here 🥰 May you find a good, strong husband soon and have beautiful, healthy babies!🤗

@@nuranur4093 thank youuuu 🙏🏽. Same to you 🫶🏽

I am 37 soon and want to hve children just like u wishing us all the best

@@tanm9260wishing you the same 🫶🏽😊

🙏🏾

Um, I think women were doing that long before your granny and long before 1961

Women in that time did use to have children late, it's just that their first birth was earlier, but their last birth was late too (my grandma on my dad's side had 12 children, they needed kids to work the farm and also they were religious and there was no protection during sex).

When did she die? Some kids become orphans though very soon😮

@@appletree9974 She died in 1979. My auntie was 18 when she passed.

I guess your granny didn’t have the pressure of doing a professional job and the financial pressures women have today too.

I, personally love reading/hearing about women who've had children after 45 y/o.

Congratulations that’s awesome! I envy you! I think I want a baby and I’m 46😬

@@francinejones2524 Go for it!

@@robynlea6950 Me too. I love reading these stories because I feel like there's still hope for me. I'm 42. I'm yet to find a partner. 🙄

@@DivyaJoan There is STILL hope for you. You never know where/when you can encounter love.

He’s a freshman in college, and I’m guessing you’ll soon be retired? I wish you all the best, sincerely, but it’s also very likely that your son will have to help take care of his elderly mom / parents when he’s barely in his 30s, and he’ll possibly lose you at a rather young age … maybe before he himself gets married or has kids. I feel that older parents often don’t seem to consider those things. As someone who lost both of my parents before I was 35, let me tell you that it made me very lonely in this world to know I’ll live most of my lifetime without them.

​​@@mistym0rningwait, my grandmom had my mum in hear early 20s. When my mum was in her early 60s she had to be taking care of my grandmom. She wanted to enjoy her retirement and couldn't so, what's your point?

🥰🤗

@@mistym0rningsuch a negative outlook. I’ve had friends who lost parents who were only 28 at the time of death. The reality is ppl who take care of themselves can live to well over 100.

❤ Do you, honey

Do not do it early. It’s a trap and most men you meet around that age will be the ‘wrong one’. Wait at least until 27/28+. You will be more wiser.

@@gailainsley6939 Don't misguide her jeez... It is absolutely right time for her. There is no point of waiting until 27/28. It will only get harder for her to find a husband and to give birth for biological reasons.

@@bugra320 You are the one misguiding her. Most of the early relationships DO NOT last and the earlier a woman has them, the less likely she is to escape poverty. Have you seen the projects? Or council estates? Or ghettos? Yes. They do not move up. Why do you want her to have a hard life when she can avoid it?

@@gailainsley6939 The early relationships that you mentioned is not a relationship. It's only the modern women chasing the top 10% of men and they are being pumped and dumped. But non delusional women can easily find herself a suitable long lasting relationship. Men value purity and youth.

This kind of sounds arrogant. I passed it by my partner to see if I was overreacting and they said, “they kind of sound full of themselves.” Firstly, I have friends who are Engineers in the Bay Area and they have very good positions, they could not even pay off their 2.7 million dollar home, they had a plan to sell in the future and retire in a different state. My husband made 600k and I was a stay at home mother, we couldn’t even pay off our mortgage. Now that we’ve sold our home, this is more possible, but we don’t run around telling people we have this and this paid off, especially with how many people are struggling these days. Good for you, but most of the world does not have a paid off mortgage at 40.. even hard working people who make money, unless the homes are very very inexpensive. “We got mortgage, college loans, two mortgage free homes paid off, cars paid off, look how amazing we are!” That’s what it sounds like. If anything, explaining to people that maybe you made money on a sale of a home and decided to purchase something else cheaper with cash, and that it took years to save, etc. you just go, look at how great we are, basically.

Op can't explain all that in this comment section. 🙄 Why are you so bitter? I'm broke, and not debt free but I saw her post as inspiring, maybe it's just your own POV .​@@Shayne_T

@@Shayne_T I am sorry you think my post is arrogant. However, my point is that as a woman we are brainwashed to believe we have to get married and have kids as soon as we can to be validated. Nope, we don't. We can wait to get a higher education, build a career, especially in a male dominant field to get higher pay, pay off debt, and maybe marry. I was 32 when I married. By then I was a third time homeowner before marriage. Listen, I was raised by a single immigrant mother who worked two jobs to compensate for the absence of one parent. Somehow she managed to send her two daughters to college. My mother's hard work has inspired me to make good choices, including holding off having children until I was in a financial comfort zone. This is a choice most women don't think to do. It seems like everyone is struggling because mainstream media says so. That's not true. I'm not. And I hope a young woman reading this will see that she has a choice in becoming a mother when the time is right for her and not what society dictates.

@@Shayne_T Also, my sister is expecting her first child at 44!She married at 39. And I'm proud to say she is more successful than me.

​@@Shayne_TShe doesn't sound arrogant. To me she seems sincere.

It does not just increase the chance of twins,sadly. We do have a biological clock. Hope it works for you. Check your tubes

No one talks about this and it's a major reason. It's very difficult to find a good partner to start a family with.

@@marianemashkalo4182 I know. I was just trying to focus more on the positives.

@@aspiring... It's sad that it's not spoken of more often. It's not just women struggling to find good partners, it's everyone. Many still think that all they have to provide is money and a roof, because that's all that was required of them for the past few generations or they were taught that. Generational trauma has been passed down for a centuries and few are doing what they need to in order to heal from it so they can be decent people, much less loving and responsible parents. It's a major issue that's getting in the way of many individuals starting a family...

Hi there, I am 40 too and I am in my round cycle of medicated cycles, that is to say, fertility medicine. I had my first child at 34. My advice, please don't wait around for nature. Nature isn't that kind to the healthiest of us. Find a fertility clinic that can run hormone tests, sperm checks etc and set you on a path towards success. Also with doctor's approval you can start with prenatal vitamins, ubiquinol, Alpha Luponic acid. These can help improve egg quality. I wish you all the best.

I’m a 31 yo single woman and this gives me so much hope

​@@SA-lz1vxyou are still very young ❤

The truth in this… whew 😥

You will do great 🤗

My grandma at 19 and my mom at 15. I had my baby at 32. It provides healing and relief, yes ❤

True, Mothers of that generation had kids at that age, no one complained. Good luck with your pregnancy, you are lucky you will get all help from young and strong grandmothers, ;). 😸

35 is considered and "elderly" or "geriatric" pregnancy, with much higher risk involved. What your mother and grandmother did was much safer and natural.

Blessings

😊❤❤❤❤

Yes! I noticed that sometimes people who have kids in their late-30s and early-40s also have parents who had them around that age. I always say whatever works for you is the right answer.

I like what you said. People assume that we don’t want to be pregnant earlier but some of us just had miscarriages, fertility treatments that started years, male factor. It is so unfair that it is like we just decided to get pregnant in our late 30s

All the best for you, I also had my son at 42 years old and I am now 54.

Exactly! There are a lot of men who won't commit until they are in their 40s which means their partners are also older.

I know. Everyone seems to overlook this *essential* factor. Isn't it obvious? I would have already had children years ago if I'd been lucky enough to meet a suitable guy. I've only ever attracted flighty, immature, unavailable and lascivious men (the complete opposite of what I am). I'm slim (not curvy) and I dress conservatively, so I don't know why this happens. Where are all the mature (not old), committed men who have worked on themselves and who are interested in creating a family? Do they exist anymore?

​@@ciarakristos111Unfortunately i had the same luck as you.I have one daughter,i gave birth when i was 30,now i am 34 .My partner was really immature, alcoholic, narcissistic and insulted me that i got weight and also he had mental problems.I broke up of course!You can't find these days a good man, because porn, social media have ruined them .

@@ciarakristos111 They do! Unfortunately, many of them choose not to be on social media. Maybe you find them (like myself, second husband) by chance, on a dating platform. 😉

This. Is not a joke.

Hi @jenniferhorovitz2879 I am producing a programme for BBC Radio 4 and wondered if I might be able to speak with you regarding your experience?

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉

I don’t think they’re talking about 32 year olds having a baby 😂 you’re the perfect average for the UK. They’re talking more about women who are beyond the fertility drop, I.e 35+ and far beyond. 32 is now considered on the younger end of the spectrum believe it or not

32 isn’t that old to have a child… fertility doesn’t start to significantly decline until around 35

You were still a young woman.Good that you thought things through before becoming a mother

I get what she wrote though. I’m in the US and they consider 30 to be old. Theirs a lot of pressure on getting married young and having kids in your early 20’s. Even when I dated it’s rare for men to think I’m 31 with no children. They think I’m a man lol or something is wrong with me. Only because I believe in marriage first and I value sexual discipline. It’s crazy I’m shamed because I’m waiting (I’m not a virgin, but if I’m not in a committed relationship no). And I’m still learning about myself. So congratulations to you on making that decision. I have many family members crying to me in their early 20’s because of how expensive it is or they don’t have a life. The guys they choice aren’t around. So I’m following gods plan and not my own.. Also some older men (who are divorced now) . People that married young are getting or are divorced by their 30’s so unfortunately those are the majority of men available. Most men have kids by now. But, many weren’t mature or knew themselves to get married. So men also pray on your biological clock. Making you feel behind. Thinking that I’m desperate to have kids. Sir lol I’m not desperate. I love kids and I volunteer to help with them. Lastly, I own a business and many wealthy people have their kids in their 30s and early 40s. Chose what life you desire and give it to god life your life.

32 is still quite young! You aren't an older mom:).

There you go. And bet she was a good mother when you were growing up. It’s like you were meant to be born to her at that time. We are we to argue what nature Wills?

As an older mom, I'm interested in the child's perspective in having older parents. How was the experience?

@@ChooseU4ever Not the person you're replying to, or relevant to me personally, but one of my best friends is incredibly close with her mum, who gave birth to her (I think) at 41. She's the youngest of four, but they have the strongest mother/daughter relationship I know of. They're able to talk about anything and everything together.

@@nelsannie thank you for sharing.

This story is similar to mine. Had my child at 28 right after graduating college; her father abandoned us before she was even born despite previously ranting about how much he wanted kids. He pays child support but has provided literally nothing else other than blaming me for the circumstances being what they are. I lived with my abusive mother for 10 years while working full time and trying to save enough to move out, but covid and inflation made all of my efforts futile. I finally got married to a wonderful man last summer who has taken on the father roll, and I am currently a stay at home mom, and we homeschool, but that hasn't made things easier. I had to give up my career, my retirement, and my dreams. I keep hoping that someday, I can find the balance between my roll as mother and just generally preserving my energy and sanity for other life endeavors. I will say that I do sometimes wish that I had waited even longer to have a kid. When I got pregnant, the situation wasn't ideal, but I also felt like I might not get another opportunity to have kids, and looking back, I think that mindset was my downfall. If I had waited, I might have had a completely different experience as a mother, and many of the struggles that I faced as a result of not waiting would have resolved themselves. I would have been older, yes, but I also would have had a different mentality and probably more opportunities to find that balance that I crave now but cannot seem to find.

@@fairywingsonroses I feel everything about your experience, all your hard work, and the disappointments after sacrificing so much. I understand the feeling of wishing you would have delayed longer. But, at that time and given the circumstances you describe, most women would have felt like having a child was a great decision. I think that stories like ours demonstrate that no matter how much a woman prepares herself for being a mother, we are not in control what our partner does and the implications for their misteps can be an enormous burden on us. Adding on the challenges that come along with the unique issues women face in their older age would seem to compound this burden......but, may you reach your every goal and may you be able to rest comfortably in your sucess. 💜

Us older moms are much more easily capable of doing things ourselves and often we prefer it that way. I'm a self made woman, completely independent. I have my safety net should something happen to my health or life.

I hear you girl! Conserve your energy❤

Yes, we all should follow the natural law rather than setting the natural law by individuals intelligence

Last baby in your 40s is fine. But if society follows a pattern like Italy where the next generation also waits until late to have children, then one does not become a grandparent until 75-80 and is never really part of the grandchild's life. No more "Nonna", she'll be dead by the time the grandchild hits puberty. It's just sad, that's all.

​​@@melroc8566 but in the west with nuclear families kids also don't have solid relationships with extended family. Prior to birth control women regularly gave birth up to menopause at cca 50 plus life expectancy was much lower than today so many kids back then probably didn't have long relationships with meemaws either

Mine too :D

THE 70 YEAR OLD LADY THAT GAVE BIRTH TO TWINS IS IN UGANDA 🇺🇬 EAST AFRICA.

What’s your diet like? Omg share your routine because I want to be that fertile

Very fertile ❤😂

5?????? Ffs 🤦🏼‍♀️

Congratulations. Wishing you all the best.

Ever heard of Overpopulation? So selfish smh

They say Chinese herbs make a big difference in women over 40. Traditional Chinese medicines. Need to take for around 3-6 months.

can you elaborate on the psychological part ? I am 35 I don't feel ready I was never in a relationship I have anxiety that might be the reason and people around me keep saying you need to hurry up and have children or you will die alone

@@suppernova1184 1. I was afraid of commitment so I thought of being a single mum. At the same time, I was afraid of raising a kid all by myself. 2. I wanted a kid of my own but I was afraid of labour pain, delivery complications and death during birth delivery. 3. I was not a happy person so I doubted if I could raise my kid to be a happy person. 4. I had not achieved the career goals I set in my 20s so I was reluctant to give up everything to be a mom. 5. I found myself awkward around young kids, like I did not know how to interact with them, so I doubt if I was really destined to be a mother or not.

@@suppernova1184 my grandparents had 5 kids and they died alone. have kids when you think you are ready to sacrifice everything for them only.

my best wishes for you!

This gives me hope. I'm turning 49 this year.

Congratulations

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I find that amazing having a child when one is 49 years old!

There’s many more rules and laws protecting children! It’s not as easy as before. Having four children in the 80s was so different than now. That life is a dream now.

EXACTLY!!! 💯 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

That's a really ignorant take on it. It impacts on other people so it is their business. It's not a bad thing to think of the impact of your choices on others.

@@GregSoleit only impacts incels and no one cares 😂

​@@GregSoleits none of your business went a woman decides to use her reproductive organ!

rubbish. it is the kid's business. as the child of an older parent I do not recommend having an older parent, it is no fun having your dad die just before xmas while being a kid. parents are very very selfish, and onl y think about them. I don't get on with my mother.

Me too…had my first baby when I was 39… conceived naturally..I had given up the hope of getting pregnant by then… I hope this gives some hope to women who are trying to get pregnant at a later age

🥰😃

Preach 🗣

Yes!

Congratulations 🎉wishing you a healthy and safe pregnancy!❤

@@3questo699 Did she say it was? You seem to be projecting your own issues,

@@3questo699Quite so. Especially since life spans are predicted to jump 30 extra years due to AI solving diseases at a faster rate.

why

@@3questo699 it’s not a flex, it’s her real life 😂

How are the nights for you? Im scared to bear a child because at age 40 you need to be sleeping well already. I feel old

Smart!

THIS! Exactly! Experience life before giving birth to another life.

agreed! Having a child later in life makes me feel like I'm not missing anything and I can focus on her 100%

ukposts.info I hope you're well. I wondered if I might be able to speak with you regarding a programme we are currently working on? Thank you.

Smart!!!

Adopting ppl that want to be adopted is a good idea for many that are content with the responsibility and doesn’t require pregnancy

I’m happy for you enjoy ❤ I’m 44 and my youngest is 17 😂 I enjoyed them when they were toddlers such a fun time ❤

@@le3336then do it! But it’s not meant for everyone

Don't you feel tired caring for the baby

Bravo Katharina you give me hope

That a bit harsh I had my first one at 23, 24, and 27 and have been married now for 24 years and have dedicated my life to my children to say that parents in their 20’s are irresponsible is wrong. People have children when they are ready weather it be in their 20’s or later each to their own

@@daus6035 it's not wrong and it's more likely that a parent in their 20s is more immature than a parent in their 30s. This is not debatable. You can't even rent a care until you are 25 in the U.S... You aren't thinking critically.

I had mine at 16 ,you are very rude.

​@@gillianmillington7735 My mom had a child at 17 and 35. Guess which child had the much better life and outcome? take a wild guess.

This is an important point. My parents had me at 23, they were still just babies themselves and made some serious mistakes as they just didn't have the emotional maturity to handle child rearing. They had my sibling when they were in their 30s and did much better as they'd grown up a lot. Our brains don't even fully develop until around age 25 so it seems sensible to hold off until 30 or so (for most people).

I can’t relate, however I wanted to wish you continued growth in your personal life. Glad you see right vs wrong

❤ So sorry to hear about what you suffered with your family.

Sums it up pretty well

Good luck. It will happen ❤

@@diopfifi4937 Thank you so much ☺️

All the best dear

It's doctors who use this term to describe the mothers. Negative isn't it?

My mother had 4 kids in her 40s and my grandmother had her last at 52 and is 96 today. If you stay healthy you’ll have no issues with pregnancy.

@@queenprincess4life - yes, staying healthy and having a good chance (genetic record) of longevity means that having children in your 40’s or even 50’s is fine. Parenting is a risky business at any age, it’s just that the risks are different. Having them young means there is a higher chance of making serious emotional developmental mistakes in raising them because the parents are still immature. Having them later increases the likelihood of leaving them through death or burdening them with your own health issues before the child reaches maturity. If you feel you still have a good 30+ healthy and vital years left to devote to a child - go for it!

Women have been having children in their 30s & 40s for generations. In a lot of cultures it’s not taboo to have kids that age it’s considered a blessing.

I was called a geriatric Mother when I had my first and only baby at 30.

True. My great grandfather had a baby, (my grand aunt), when his (son), my grandfather had his first born, (my dad.)

All healthy.

Before the pill, most women gave birth until menopause so having children at older age was not a new thing. What is new is that people become first-time mothers in their 40s near the end of their natural fertility and some use IVF to conceive after menopause.

😂 welcome to social media and new age where everyone have opinion and at the same time forgets history. It irks people that women are making choice to have children young. So obviously it angers some people and have to criticize women.

@@zal5989 Don’t think so (that they’re angered) necessarily. To me, it’s evident that nowadays there’s a very unnecessary urgency to be original and come up with something new, as if a look at the past is ignorance. So much renaming and/or “rebranding” popular knowledge, and wanting praise for common practices. Also, related to this topic, it’s so obvious the conversation is made to support a lifestyle that prevents women to embrace maternity as an aspiration early on.

My sister had her first child at 38, and the second at 41, both are healthy and intelligent.

Sounds amazing! I would love this as well. Plus, I would like to add my fourth and last baby at 36. I am turning 30, have a house and a good relationship, finished university plus all the other courses and studies, wrote some books, traveled the world, and did everything I wanted to do before getting pregnant. The only big problem we are having is renovations. We live in Spain and everything takes such a long time.. Plus, we have been scammed by ´builders´ a few times already. Initially we wanted to wait until all renovations were done, but I just don´t think this is duable. My guess is at this pace it will still take 5 years or so.. I can´t wait for that.. My eggs neither..

Congratulations! But fertility is still good in that age bracket.

Congratulations! Can I ask what your diet is like and if you took any vitamins during pregnancy? I want to prepare as much as possible 💛

Please dear, don't worry yourself sick, focus on yourself first especially in terms of HEALTH, afterall it's the uptmost WEALTH! Also, while that should be at the top, try and look for the right partner, this ultimately determines how your future will be, look for the core values in a man , trust me, no matter what, with the right one, future battles will be half won. I sincerely pray for Strength, Healing, Wisdom and Peace. Come back in few years time with ypur testimonies.❤

I wish you well and a lot of health 💪🏻 take care

May I suggest you to start charting your cycles. With the Creighton Model System. Love it!

Your body is incredibly smart and resilient! Give it a time, it will heal itself and let your dearest wishes come true! (Same here, biological clock thing scares shit out of me, have panic attacks time-to-time, but this is a socially-conditioned brain which is panicking).

If your illness could be passed on to children then don’t have them. It’s selfish and you’d be forcing suffering on your children. Foster or adopt instead.

My mom had me at 32 and she had issues with getting pregnant so I was the surprise of a life time for her. My mother is the same age as your mom so its ok for a mom to be older. There are things in this world that are not perfect but I love my mom to death as well. In all honesty you mom was still pretty young in my opinion but I don't have kids and I am in my 40's and I would like a child but not sure that will happen for me though. So I have to be ok with that.

I had a comparatively older mother when I was at school too (compared to other kids' mothers), and I was self-conscious about it because she could have passed as my grandmother too. We also don't look alike. But I'm very grateful she's my mother and I'm grateful to have a mother, God bless her. ❤My mother married at 29 and struggled to conceive for about 7 years, until my eldest sister arrived. Then another sister until, lastly, she gave birth to me at age 44. 🎇

My mum had me at 35, now I'm 34, no kids and she's 69. I love my mum so much too.

My mom had me at 38. We had the same experience when we were kids, but like you said, It was just a phase. I love my mom so much, as she raised me without my father. She's now 70 and I'm 33. I only pray that she has a longer life so I can be with her more.

Amazing! Congratulations to you! I truly believe it’s meant to be. You & your spouse made the decision wanted the same thing and it happened!

Your brain wasn’t even fully developed when you got married…

That is back in the day …

Good for you. Why you thought that we needed to know this here. I don’t know. 🙄

Lmfao

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Yes, but theirs was a case of infertility. They wanted to have children but couldn't.

Amen.

❤ yes but dont relax coz time waits for no one. Pray & act on it. God will surely bless u.

Me too.

Not really. Y’all just picky and overthink everything today. Our parents married young and turned out just fine

No they didn't. High domestic violence rates, high infidelity rates, high divorce rates, high child abuse rates, high sexual abuse rates, etc. ​@@simba8665

@@simba8665many didn’t! Mine didn’t.

@@simba8665 incel spotted

@@simba8665 Well.. if you made this type of comment..

I’m so sorry you went through that

This is so very deep but I understand 🫂

So sorry you had to live through the abuse from your parents, good luck!

Sad to hear that. I’m glad things are better now. Wishing you the best 💗

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🌼🌻🌹

solid stable partner is goal number 1 for this issue.

The social economic pressures placed on people have been a menace to society and have brought a lot of fear, especially to our newly young challenged generation.

People will blame women for not marrying young and having kids at young age. But suppose a women married young, had kids young but husband was bad partner who abandoned them. These same people will blame women for choosing bad partner.

@@zal5989 because a lot of times the dude is long gone and no where to be found. You can never know, but you can vet them big time before. Being the kind of person you would want is also a first step. Are you unstable? Then, that will be magnified x 10 in a parenthood.

I had my first pregnancy at 23 and now my 9th pregnancy at 40. 2 of those have been miscarriages. My mom did t go through menopause until her 50s. So I’m seeing the natural pattern of having children goes into a woman’s 40s much of the time. Let’s normalize the natural fertility of women!

This is my normal as well. All the women I grew up with had babies in their 20's and kept having them into their 40's. Without birth control this is just the NATURAL way. I don't condemn women for being on birth control, mind you I see it as harmful in my personal opinion, but maybe we should stop making it sound like it's ABNORMAL to have babies at any of these ages. Because it totally is.

I conceived naturally at 42 years old, we both are healthy.

It is very selfish to have a kid late, i was the child of an old parent who died while I was a kid a few days before xmas . then I had to put up with years of terrible boyfriends my mother had. Parents never think about the kid, they think they will love having an older parent but they will feel always anxious, and should they suruve will have to look after them while they are young. older parents have less energy

​​@@beaulieuc8910 I'm really sorry you went through what you did. As a teacher for over 24 years, I've taught and interacted with over 2400 children and I've seen children lose young parents while still in school and before they hit other major milestones. I've also seen older moms raise fine young adults and live to see their grandchildren. Life expectancy is also increasing. These days, older women desirous of having a child, prepare themselves differently for pregnancy, childbirth and for the long haul. Aside from accidents which can happen to anyone, I think it's important to avoid many of the toxins around us, which accumulate in our bodies, predispose us to disease and affect our egg quality as we age. It would increase the likelihood of a longer life. That being said, I hope that your dad has left you with memories which you can treasure.

@@beaulieuc8910 but it’s natures will. Energy? Start doing some proper yoga. Eat good food. Vitamins. All will be well.

Me too have the same hope now at 47, pray for both of us and all women to make it true 🤲

What a wonderful story 😊.

If you don't choose to carry these little embryos, adoption is always a beautiful choice. National Embryo Donation Center has placed over 1300 of these little ones in adoptive families with both open and closed adoptions.

@@suzyterry7820 thank you! We will definitely look consider and look into this. 🙏🏼

How you gonna be 60+ at your kids high school graduation.

it is all about you. It is not about the kid who may have the parents die early

Oh wow similar to me I had mine at 23,24 and 27 I am 44 married 24 years and two boys in college and my daughter in high school nice to meet you ❤😊 I don’t regret one bit that I dedicated my life to bringing up my children I have done things on the side and completed my college. Best of luck 😊

@@daus6035 Thank you! I feel the same way about prioritizing my family- no regrets!

So what? There are other positives that far outweigh the negatives. Older mothers are smart, wise and have loads more patience. Research shows that kids born to older mothers are more intelligent and the mothers too tend to have later menopause with better hormonal profile and live longer. Funny how people who don’t have the experience of being an older mother are quick to congratulate themselves on their life decisions on a post about “late” motherhood 😂

Older mothers have had their share of unadulterated fun for decades 😂 they’ve also had the time to build solid relationships with their partner, families and sisterhood and time to dedicate to that and themselves in a lot of important ways. They have likely travelled, built a career and have a good sense of themselves. My mother did all that before she had me at 42 and I’m grateful for that. Point is fun means different things for different people, my mother derived her happiness from raising us, after she had her youthful fun and all that it entails. Good for her I say.

@@rpaafourever7908 That’s great- your mother had her fun first and I will have my fun afterwards. We are both happy with our choices and having fun!

Congratulations. That’s amazing! Any complications? Very inspiring. Thank you 🙏💜🥰

very selfish

Congratulations!!! Best wishes for many years of wonderful adventures and memories 🎉🎉🎉

@PandaA-cv3mm no complications thank God, textbook pregnancy, scheduled c-section delivery. Baby boy is healthy and 💪 strong . I feel very blessed. He is the best thing to ever happen in my life.

Own egg?

If the abruption was due to your age, then every 41 year old pregnant woman would experience placental abruption. Yet, they don't. Food for thought.

@@LisaCultonwow research and statistics show higher risk and possibility for older moms!! Humans age do you get that?!

@@aminaa7909 No, I don't get it. I'm not into deterioration like you apparently are. 👍

Magnesium,Iodine and Vitamin D deficiencies play a huge part in this and female fertility in general. After years of infertility I learned about this. Finally fell pregnant naturally and gave birth easily and no medical interventions at 42. Doctors told me last month that if I do not get on birth control, I WILL fall pregnant again. I am 45 now .

@@Nana-uo2th Exactly!!

Nobody say we should either

Sometimes the people just want to prove that they can, and that’s off.

if a person wants it, who are you to sAY THEM THEY ARE WRONG? it's their bodies! they don't rape, kill or beat anyone!

Its' not, when we live to 100. We used to have babies at 15 when we lived to 30-40.

My friend had a surprise baby naturally at 57 last year! She's in great shape but was shocked. She's truly a freak anomaly.

You realize that women are born with all our ova? There isn’t any “fix” to egg quality with diet or lifestyle choices. Unlike men who manufacture sperm throughout their adult lives. I’m so tired of reading these one-sided screeds that tend to put the onus of self health onto women. It takes two to make and rear a healthy human.

What are some of the foods that are good?

Coenzyme Q10 is a good one to look into for egg quality

Considering many women don’t understand the difference between vagina and vulva, I agree… so many women have no idea about fertility, their reproductive organs and how to ensure good egg quality.

Nonsense. There is no science to back this up

i lost my parents early. Your comment is so true and to the point. I have suffered in all the stages of my life and still suffering.

What is GBV short for

Well said👏 exactly

@@sharinaross1865 GBV = gender- based violence... anything from exploitation & trafficking, rape, domestic violence, emotional or financial control, murder etc. I think the global stats are about 1 in 3 girls / women will experience some form of abuse / violence / death. Men can also experience such things, but women & girls bear the brunt of a violence world.

@@saminjoon3409 i'm sorry to hear about your circumstances. I lost my dad in my 20s. There are no guarantees in life unfortunately (one of my school friends lost her husband in a car accident when she was 25; she had 2 young kids). I hope you have a good support structure... we can still make our own families later in life via friends & relatives. My main point was that when considering starting a family is to think past raising babies & small children because that's over very quickly. Raising young adults & standing by your kids as adults is for the rest of your life. Parenting doesn't end when the kid is 21...

Congratulations it was meant to be. A double gift!

34 and same

Turning 35 this year and feel the same.

But, you are all so young yet. Still have so many years ahead to have children, if you choose.

I totally agree with you!!

No, the older life experience is got from the involvement of grandparents.

If what you saying is true.. Why do so many mothers ignore their sons? Give too little love, affection, touch, both physically and emotionally, embarrass and shame you at the slightest trifle, expose you, or if the boy wants to move forward in life, you don't allow him to do it and hold him back or manipulate him and don't allow him to develop and so he loses the need to make something of himself. And will be exactly what you women are crying about. Where's all the good men go..

All women have more maturity when they're older so give me a break.

@@soydansogukcesme470 I did not say anything regarding what you are talking - any age women could be cold mother dor that matter. My main point for example I am mich wiser being 32 than I was 22. If I would have a child at that age. Not sure what person that child would be. Of course some women already very mature from very young age. But for me it makes sense why a women would want to do it later

You're complaining about a generalization, generalizing the behaviour of men you've dated. Doesn't make any sense.

💯 this. People assume all women who have children late or don’t have children planned it that way. Which is judgmental and plain wrong, given all the things which need to align to get pregnant with the right partner within the fertility window. I’m sorry for your griefs.

Because this is an issue where everyone lacks common sense and applies their own lived experience to the subject. The emotions cloud their judgement where they should realise we are all different and have varying timelines.

It's never too late. Just keep manifesting what you want!

Nobody attacking you ,chill!