I always like how you're trying to be a positive force in the dating community. Huge respect.

Thank you for this video, Courtney! It's not always easy to know where to begin or what to ask. This definitely helps!

Thank u lady Courtney

Great info.

Literally teaching people how to communicate and have actual conversations. Love it, keep up the great work.

Wow. Spot on, Courtney. Those questions I have been asked by my girlfriend and now my wife on our 1st date. Thank you for sharing.

Great points , even women of intellect get so paranoid when they have no need too

Loved this question. Don't forget to apply this knowledge 😊.

It's so simple, yet we all just complicate things...

Asking questions like these are important if you’re talking to somebody because it makes you looks like you care, helps build a connection and makes you look like you’re interested in her/him. But just like Courtney said, you have to be genuine about it.

On fire!!

Great questions. Seems like these are often questions guys/people want to ask but don't know how to best phrase it. Thanks!

1. What does a typical day look like for you? 2. What are you most passionate about at the moment? 3. What is your favorite thing about where you grew up? 4. Have you traveled much, or do you want to? 5. What is your favorite way to spend your weekends? 6. What is something you want to learn or wish you were better at?

Been coming to you for advice and can genuinely apply it. Have been asking these questions to women and they’re asking me out!? Your magic works. Love you content as a man, advice like this is rare.

These are some good questions thanks

#1 Listen after the question and then listen and look at her as you are listening.

You are wise beyond your years Courtney! I am older and totally agree especially being older as I look for direct and intriguing questions over the more popular “hey”

Courtney's perspective is spot-on. In my work on vulnerability and connection, I often emphasize the importance of approaching interactions with a sense of genuine curiosity and openness. This is especially relevant in the context of a first date, where the goal is to establish a connection that's both authentic and meaningful. The questions Courtney suggests are not just conversation starters. They are windows into the soul of the person you're engaging with. For instance, asking about a typical day in someone's life offers insight into their daily routines and priorities, which can say a lot about who they are and what they value. It's an invitation to share stories and experiences, rather than just facts. Similarly, inquiring about passions or what someone is currently excited about goes beyond the surface. It touches on what makes them feel alive, what drives them, and what brings joy to their life. This is where true connection begins - in understanding and relating to each other's passions and joys. The emphasis on asking about favorite things from childhood, travel aspirations, weekend preferences, and areas for personal growth moves the conversation into deeper territory. It's about understanding their background, dreams, and aspirations. These topics encourage sharing of personal stories and experiences, which fosters a deeper level of intimacy and understanding. In essence, Courtney's approach aligns with the principles of wholehearted living that I advocate. It's about engaging with others from a place of authenticity, empathy, and vulnerability. This not only enriches the dating experience but also lays the groundwork for meaningful, long-lasting relationships. Remember, it's not just about the questions you ask, but also about how you listen and respond. Being genuinely interested in the answers, showing empathy, and sharing your own experiences in return can turn a simple date into the beginning of a beautiful connection.

She so smart

Courtney, this is such helpful content! Great question to figure out if she just matched/swiped out of boredome or real curiosity about the person behind the profil! As you mentioned , this opens up so many key followup question to fugure out really fast if the other person matches your energie or is likely to be compatible with you! keep this kind of helpful and valuable input for us/men going! English is not my mother tongue, so bare with me in regards to grammar or typos!

I become friends with women and then nothing

Great content.. loved every sec.. 🙌🏼

Thanks!

This is a very, very good video. Especially for someone like me was getting back into the dating scene after a 24 year marriage that failed.

Courtney, I found you a week ago & I just love listening to you. You REALLY, understand men! Thank you for offering such good advice, specific examples and not criticizing men for their ignorance & stupid things they do. I feel like you care about men & that you want to help us. Thank you! I ordered my Ice Roller on your first video. I have several things that I will be working on...

Good questions!!!

Super interesting, great video thank you!

This video is perfectly timed. Got myself a dinner date tommorow directly after work and some of these ideas will help break the ice a lot with her I'm hoping.

A question I REALLY like and has sparked some of the best conversations I’ve had this past year, “If you could travel through time and space, where would you go and what would you want to see?” You can really get to know someone in how they respond to that, but it’s also just a fun conversation, and can often be a great way to find things in common and get to know each other, rather than just listening to someone talk about themselves.

Appreciate you for this

I have always let them talk about themseves endlessly because no woman has ever come from a first date saying they talked too much about themselves

Genuine indeed, these questions arn´t anything less you wouldn´t ask to anyone around. you, not only women ?

I LOVE the question: “What are you most passionate about at the moment?” It will offer deeper insight about what motivates her currently and as you said Courtney, it will lead me to discovering quite quickly if we are compatible. Excellent content!!

Very interesting question. Solid video

Perfect as always , natural !

lol these sound like job interview questions. I've actually been asked the travel question on a recent interview

I love when women ask me if I play Call of duty, at 42 years old, this can start a conversation of over an hour with me

Good questions thanks

Great questions.

Bla bla bla. Guys nothing of this works if the girl is not interested in you, it’s that simple lol.

Courting is what needs to make a comeback. The point of talking and dating is to determine marriage compatibility. Like it or not, hobbies are not what make or break your relationship, principles are. Our grandparents hardly had any hobbies in common because men were men and women were women, theyre just different. At the end of the day, their principles are what kept them together. Obviously couples should do stuff together, but that isnt the make or break.

great open ended questions for everyone, nice way to find common things to connect with.

Best question: cash or card?

Courtney, you're content is crazy good and extremely helpful! I appreciate so much your focus on self improvement and healthy relationships. I learn so much from you! Keep the greatness coming! 👍

One thing to add, don’t just ask questions like an interrogation. Women love to speak let her guide the conversation, throw a follow up question showing her you’re engaged in the conversation and receptive to what she is telling you. Women love to be heard and a man that remembers particular things such as projects at work, home anything.

Great questions!

🌹💐 Thank you for this great advice❗Where were you in 1973? Had I had these perfect questions in my armoury, I would have saved myself a lot of pain and lived a more happy life. Thank you for who you are. 🌈🌹💗

My fav question to ask is "how do you like to be loved, what does love look like to you?"

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.

Thank you for sharing

COURTNEY RYAN , I DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS OF FEMALES , I AM MORE THAN WILLING TO WATCH , LISTEN, AND LEARN HOW SHE INTERACTS WITH OTHER PEOPLE , THAT IS HOW SHE GETS MY ATTENTION AND FASCINATES ME , HER UNIQUE NATURAL BEAUTY CAPTURES MY ATTENTION, TIME DISCOVERS TRUTH, SHE IS NO PICK-NICK , BUT NEITHER AM I , SHE HAS A WAY ABOUT HER THAT IS IRRESISTIBLE , CARING , COMPASSIONATE , SYMPATHY AND UNDERSTANDING , I SOMETIMES WONDER IF ANYONE ELSE REALIZES THAT THEY HAVE JUST BEEN IN THE PRESENTS OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN ON THE PLANET , JUST MY OBSERVATION . I STOPPED ASKING WHY , WHEN SHE IS NOT FEELING WELL , MY DAY GOES TO HELL , WHEN SHE IS FEELING GOOD , LIFE IS JUST A BETTER PLACE TO LIVE IN , SHE DOES NOT KNOW WHAT A TRUE PRESENT SHE IS IN MY LIFE , MAYBE THAT IS JUST THE WAY IT SHOULD BE, SHE HAS PROVEN THAT THERE ARE MORE WAYS THAN ONE TO LOVE ANOTHER !!!!!!!. DO YOU COMPREHEND !!!!!!!.

You are really sane for a Beauty. This is quite refreshing.

These are great questions for improving a conversation! Thanks for the video, Courtney! 😄

Courtney, one of your very best videos and the timing is perfect for me for as I have a first date this evening. Can't thank you enough

Great work Courtney

I will ask for reference once I am done asking the questions.

Asking questions, telling stories, making jokes, key word jumping, association jamming - without a script. Most times it is hours of conversation with a fun girl, 5 minutes of torture with a typical NPC widget. A great girl will connect in moments of silence. For me this has always happened in a foreign language; never in English, never with a Yankee.

I really like asking the question "what was the best compliment somebody ever gave you?" It shows what they value in themselves and how they see themselves. Also it helps predict future actions and may give insight on why they do the things they do.

Dating a girl from Argentina and im from the USA, so thank you so much

these questions feels like a job interview for me

As a guy who opens up easy one question I would like to get to connect more with a partner is... "What is your relationship with your mom?" Even though is a bit of sadness for me in that question and answer too, the bottom line is that once I talk about this deeply personal subject I can connect much easier with my girl (and vice-versa: if she agrees to open up about her relationship with her father...that would be great - but patience is necessary, for both of us).

Thanks Courtney, I believe those are the most easiest questions to ask someone but as we go through situations in life, we lose forget about the simplest things in life like interacting with people.

This is a great video Thank you ,for it

Very helpful video.

I really like this! Thank you for the video. If I were asked most of these, I'd be very happy to answer particularly because it is something "I" as an individual am deliberately involved in and not something that is sociologically imposed on me. I especially like the 'What is something you wish you were good at?" because it allows for a person to say something and be humble about it so no fragile toes are stepped on

I tend to be more social depending on what my setting is. If this were to be a date, my mind usually overflows with similar questions to ask. When I first met someone I matched with on Facebook dating this year, I already knew what I wanted to talk about. Best of all, we were able to hold different conversations the entire time we saw each other.

Excellent thanks 😊

Oh thanks for pointing out the obvious

Thanks Courtney 😊I'm 33 and feel like i'm clueless about women still. This channel really helps. I'm constantly trying to learn and be better at this stuff 😊

1. What is your body count 2. Are you responsible with your finances 3. What was your upbringing like 4. Do you have a good relationship with your father 5. Why did your last relationships fail 6. What are your expectations for a healthy LTR Bonus Questions: Do you think for yourself, or just parrot leftist talking points Does your social media look like an ad for girls gone wild

Ying and Yang on this presentation

Not bad. Good points

Nice one, Courtney! All of these are straight up bangers of questions (the best). For me, one thing I'd like to be asked is "How did you become so passionate about game design?". The reason for this is because it really does define me as a person, as a content creator, and as a hard worker in general.

Chad : get over here now Her : is there in a blink of an eye You : ask questions, takes her out, opens doors.. Her : you are boring

The World is Yours, Courtney Ryan.

Hi❤

☀ 1. 0:57 What does a typical day look like for you? 2. 1:37 What are you most passionate about at the moment? 3. 2:57 What is your favourite thing about where you grew up? 4. 3:22 Have you travelled much - or do you want to? 5. 3:50 What is your favourite way to spend your weekends? 6. 5:10 What is something you want to learn, or wish you were good at? ✨

Those are good questions. I would HIGHLY recommend covering these areas in chat or on a call PRIOR to a first date. In addition, I normally ask about their relationship status and how previous relationships ended. Emotionally mature women don't mind discussing this. But sometimes you can sense the anger here. Spirituality and/or religion is a good area. Women who lack spirituality generally struggle with values like honesty, monogamy, and independence. My favorite question is "What is your idea of a good sex life?" In my opinion this is THE most important compatibility question, as what is the purpose of a man/woman relationship if ideas/frequency about sex vastly differ. Again, emotionally mature women don't mind discussing this. Exercise habits and diet is a good area too because women who don't exercise and eat crap food are terrible in bed. It's important to learn about each other as much as possible before the first date because why waste each other's time? This one girl interrogated me for an hour in chat (LOL) before we even talked, and we talked for hours before we met in person. Our first date was spectacular! And that was a year and half ago. We're still together. But I rejected a boatload of women through chat and talking because I just felt we wouldn't be compatible, especially sexually. So, talk to them first before you date them, and both people will have a much better time.

Happy New Year gorgeous ❤️

Good ideas. Thanks!

I remember being on a date a few months ago and the chick I was with asked me the first question on this list. Great question. The rest of the conversation we had that night pretty much piggy backed off that question and we ended up going on multiple dates afterwards. Courtney dropping bangers, AGAIN

Listen guys, let's forget all the bullshit. The Fat Bat 🦇 is going to give it to you straight! Either you got the magic, or you ain't got the magic. And if you have a long streak of failed attempts, you can pretty much assume you ain't got it. Just try to get as much enjoyment out of life as you can, but things aren't ever going to change for you no matter how many videos of Courtney Ryan (or anyone else) you watch on UKposts.

This video feels quite useful for me

Wow, those are lots of good questions!

Anything that gets someone to talk about themselves is always a great start. I think it helps to be relaxed and sincere when posing these questions and taking a genuine interest in everything the lady says. That means paying attention, maintaining eye contact and gently interacting. Hopefully, at the end of the date she will think you are a great conversationalist, when you have actually been an attentive listener. Fingers crossed that she is one too!

Hey it is not a job interview!

Good stuff. 👍

Vacations are good to ask about where they like to go or do when on vacation.

2 things should be happening on a first dating basis, you should ask generalized questions to measure compatibility( intimate questions come later) , next make your boundaries of what you want from a relationship crystal clear to one another so there is zero confusion moving forward

Love your content Courtney, I've been hurting because I asked someone and was told they only see me as a friend. I know the "normal" advice is to move on and I've done that before, but I'm struggling here because I've never met someone in my whole life I can relate to so much (guy or girl). We have crazy similarities in personalities, behaviours, thoughts etc I can second guess her most times. Sadly this isn't important to her it seems, she's usually been compassionate but ever since I asked her she's acting indifferent, as if I did some crime. I'm trying to learn from your videos, it's been hard so far.

I found the best question is to ask: what do you do when you are really upset, or angry? If she can't answer right away it means that she doesn't want you to know how bad things can get, and in the other hand it can also tells you if she can get angry and at the same time control her emotions. This is important as there will be lots of discussions (or fights) in a relationship. If she is inmature and can't handle herself, is better to know ahead of time.

Your the best thank you.....❤

This one is definitely more of a me-thing, but I do find this to be important for my overall ability to engage with a relationship long term: As a geek turned actor & writer, a big part of my love language is showing each other our favourite (and sometimes not so favourite) TV Shows & Movies, so I think discussing our tastes/overall interest & engagement in media is really important to me. I'm open-minded to basically any story or genre, so long as it's well-written, so finding someone similar is pretty important to me. I don't need someone with identical tastes, mind you (how boring!), as I love that magical experience of either showing someone or being shown a movie for the first time (or having them show me), but if it's clear they just wouldn't have any interest in watching Star Trek, for example, that'd probably be a no-go for me as far as long term prospects are concerned.

lol Ask her? No impress her with knowledge and humor

Homebody with my dogs and coffee. 👋🏻

#4) I like spending time reading with my dog. I'm revisiting some chapters from J.D. Jackson's "Classical Electrodynamics" and she started on my copy of "Modern Physics" by Paul Tipler.

This is a VERY good video idea, not just for talking to women, but for developing any relationships. I myself made a list of “genuine” questions to ask friends and women I meet bc I am SO against small talk, and I actually arrived at some of the exact same questions you did! What are you most passionate about, how do you spend your free time, what’s a skill you wish you had are my favorites. This doesn’t just make conversations interesting, it also indicates you actually care about who someone is and that YOU are genuine/authentic. Meeting women and hearing what they’re passionate about is very fulfilling to me bc I actually love people in general, and if you can’t ask good questions to women you’re missing 50% of the excitement that is sharing human passion and interest (yes women have passions too). I also have some friends that I am not around as much anymore and don’t have much to share with them as I did before, so I tried asking them what skills they wish they had and it reignited the conversation and revealed things I never knew about very long time friends. Edit: I’ll add that people who have trouble giving proper/honest answers to any of these questions are not worth staying around or continuing to talk to. They may be unsure or need to think more about it, but it’s easy to tell when their answers are inauthentic.

Courtney is right. Take it from someone who knows. I had a girl ask me these same questions at a bar. And it kept us engaged for at least an hour and half, before she had to go. But they were interesting questions that allowed me to tell her about where I was going in life.

Thanks for sharing Very nice informative video 🙏

Remember to make them quickfire questions guys so you can get back to talking about yourself.