Listen to Jordan Peterson

I am in that exact situation right now..........

@@nathanielgirma8265 i do he helps a lot. one of my big inspos

Same here

U need to rise above it

that needs a ted talk of its own

Jesus Loves you, don't give up. He makes all things new.

That's because everyone has different experiences when it comes to depression and a lot of depressed people are too ashamed of admitting to others that they have depression myself included

That's exactly what I was thinking 😅

exactly..

Damn, why is this so relative. I seriously want to push myself to do extraordinary things but it's really a challenge when I have this.

Especially when it's the people who are supposed to understand and be supportive 🙃

I just thought it was laziness that caused me to be like this, but was it not?

I never was lazy. I was just too scared to come out of my room and too afraid to meet people.

I felt that like a *stroke*. @4:25

and they doubt and dont believe it because we're outside seem just like normal people, happy and fun

It’ll be because some people get a little sad and see a sad piece of music that makes them feel sad for a day, and they say they have major depression, they say that they are severely depressed when they aren’t, it silences real depressed peoples voices and makes people who already find it hard to speak out, even harder, like the boy who cries wolf but it was someone else shouting about a false wolf

I agree, even worse than being depressed is being depressed and no one believes or even cares. Depression is such an awful fucking illness I would never wish on my worst enemy.

@@midzynolimit This! My parents think it's a joke. They're like you're laughing and smiling. You're not depressed, just dramatic and ungrateful 😂😂😂

The people around me just start talking about themselves when I try and explain what I'm going through. I don't matter

***** what makes you say that?

***** ah in that manner, but don't forget: he's part of the society that you call bullshit. depressed peoples aren't the ones to jump to the opportunity to go on stage... and he is probably the only one to explain it that well too.

I've never heard depression expressed so eloquently.

You must not read

How about women?

+Yolis Bortin Please help me understand this. I don't understand what he means. I thought happiness and vitality are same?

+abcdefg15720 Vitality is a bit more complex than happiness. SImply being happy is being content with where you currently are. Vitality is, by dictionaries definition, the power to live and grow. Vitality is feeling headstrong and ready for the challenges in life. Atleast this is my interpretation.

+abcdefg15720 I have had several depressions like he describes it. It is like all the desire to live is sucked out of you. Have you read Harry Potter? It feels like being kissed by a dementor. Not anything you want for anyone at all...

+Yolis Bortin Yes. Ironically, you can be depressed while appearing positive and feeling happy, but the problem is more that the part of the brain that effects will is out of action, the transmission of signals throughout the nervous system is out of whack (loss of coordination and phantom shooting pains), memory and concentration are kaput, and there is a mental fatigue which is like being overloaded with too many demands when you are very tired, but in an extreme form to the point where even brushing your teeth is too much to cope with.

+abcdefg15720 No... vitality is not only seeing/knowing the things that make you happy, but having the ability to actually get up and do them. Depression is being devoid of that motivation and energy (among other things) -- which in turn makes you sad *in addition to* being depressed. People often mistake the term depression to mean sadness, but they are not the same thing at all, although they can overlap. In like fashion, happiness and vitality are related but not the same.

And at the worst point you feel you are a terminal ill person. At least that is what I go through when I relapse

Realization.... its sucks.... it feels as if your stuck..... not enough time... and not knowing if ....

Same feeling, I feel pain every day ,

Face Lift

Look up the four noble truths in Buddhism.

True

6:57

It even hits harder than my dad

Amazing..

WOW...you explained it very well in just one sentence

:o that is the exact thing! how did u...??

I- how…?

omg.... how ... Yes that exactly this feeling

+Cody Hosfelt It also sucks when you know you're depressed and when you come out to your parents for support they turn on you and tell you that you're not depressed, you're just lazy.

+Eternal RotMG When I told my mother I wanted to die and I wanted the pain to end, she told me to stop crying for attention. She yelled at me for two hours, screaming that I was lazy and I would accomplish nothing in my life. Somehow that made me so angry, I can still feel the anger. But it was the first thing I felt in months, maybe years, besides the deep, dark depression. And sometimes I think that what my mother said actually helped me, even though no good mother should ever say that. I felt something that was not depression, and any feeling was better than depression. Even the betrayal, dissappointment and anger towards my mother was better than the fear of breathing for one more moment. It was proof that I loved someone, that I still existed and that I was capabele of feeling something other than sadness and fear. I hope you can someday see your horrible experience with your parents from another perspective. I hope you can find closure and maybe you can even forgive them. Perhaps your mind will let it rest once you know you will treat your (future) kids better. Lots of strength to you.

+Eternal RotMG I'm sorry to hear that, from both of you, I hope things work out and everything turns around for all of us.

+Daniel Maas the funniest thing in all of this is that we dont know what its like to be normal .(not depressed)loooool.

If you had though times during childhood they use that as a reason to apply the Antisocial Personality Disorder instead of Clinical Depression and then people start claiming you lack empathy without knowing why and the reason is that the terms psychopaty and sociopathy (there are lots of differences between the two) are guided to never be addressed by the professionals when diagnosing it. If they diagnose as depression, there you have it... the medicines...

I agree Meg, in times when I've been unwell I find this video so helpful. I hope you're feeling OK today and finding some comfort 💜

Remain strengthened Meg. Life is full of ups and downs but all pass!

It was very good, and it is also enlightening to read all of the people's replies. There are so many sad people in the World, mainly from being alone and no one caring if they live or die, why are we not uniting to help each other?

Woah. i didn't know that. I have quite a few ood friends, carin family, and life goals, but I still feel alienated from my classmates for example even in a bustling room. Sometimes I have goosebumps, and feel cold just from nothing, and I don't know why.

Sending the love your way (heart emoji)

Vitality. I wish I had it

Yes 🙌🏻 they try to tell you you aren’t trying hard enough when that’s all you can do TRY

Man it sucks

With all that sorrow, how does bring himself to the stage entrance.

@@robertjennings397In my opinion: He learned the benefits of; moving forward , doing new things , new experiences makes him a bit less depressed - the feeling of success and that courage .... etc - that makes him get up everyday and get on the stage and write about these things.

there is sorrow but there is also calm and wisdom.

@@robertjennings397he enjoys what he does. I’ve slowly learned to do whatever the next thing is that brings me some sense of joy, no matter how small or infinitesimal it may be. And this doesn’t happen every day or even week. But if there is a sliver of a smile on my face for a split second by the end of my day.. then that is some form of progress. It’s like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets. That’s no cure-all but damn has it helped me

Westwood Shadow I know that feeling buddy

Me too. I am sorry this is your reality and I hope one day you can be happy.

xRiss13 Thank you. Honestly, it does make me happy to know how happy i made people like my mom, grandparents, and my dog. It does give me a sense of purpose. But, i am also learning to accept myslef for who i am and to treat myself the way i deserve to be treated, and i feel like that's helping.

I know that feeling well. I was able to find a treatment for myself after ten years of research, without drugs, and with minimal counseling. The key for me was learning to remove people and things that caused me stress. It was hard but given it was either that or killing myself due to the pain, I chose life. I had to want to live and get better each day. I finally learned to accept myself as the introvert that I am, that there is nothing wrong with me but that society in the US is designed for extroverts and forcing myself to live that way was a major factor for my depression. It is inflammation in the Hippocampus, It is chemical, It is quantum, it is psychological, and it is up to you to become your own counselor, find the tools, and find a way to enjoy the experience that is life.

Jeremy Jimenez Thank you for sharing these points.

Aye Bohemian Rhapsody

That line helps me so damn much

Or just the world to just stop !

shadow hedgehog

yes you are

@@RudyLouieTayong no u

uh, no

I'd say having chronic pain 24/7 is like going insane!

:(

Music is my temporary escape.

getting good sleep, working out well and often, nutrition, and a good support group can make depression better! I felt depressed in my senior year of high school and still feel anxious from time to time but I think working out helped me SOOO much! My anxiety is actually one of my biggest tools in working out - if I did not have anxiety I probably would not go as hard in the gym because my anxiety only leaves when I have been working out for a good time and have pushed myself to my limits! I use my anxiety/stress as a fuel to motivate me every single day! And because i grow and get better, I am kind of forced to do a little more than the last time to get rid of the anxiety again. if my anxiety still remains, i know I did not not go hard enough. Whenever I feel anxious, I am reminded to workout! In fact I have gotten so fast at running I went from a 6:18 mile to a 5:18 mile in about 3 years and have gained about 3.5 pounds of muscle in the last 2 months just by consistently training

It is... But there are times that even sleep is not enough to escape. You are just awake, existing and wondering everything and that nothing matters.

Kaushik Donthi i’ve cleared my died, not even a cheat meal. I’ve started lifting the past year and gained 12 kg of lean mass, but my sleep is still bad. I fell asleep just for exaustion and wake up usualli at 5 am laying in bed anxiously until my day start. I’m more insicure of my body now, chasing a perfection i would never achieve, the relationship with family and friends still as empty and vacuous as they were before and i live life like a mechanical thing to do. I remember that prior to working out i felt really great playing videogames while now I don’t even wanna play them anymore, too much work to do and can’t enjoy them like i used to. Exercise and diet are healthy and anyone should do them but if u are fucked in the mind they will only be a useless phase in your useless life. They are not a magic ritual to happiness and fullfilling

I always have bad nightmares so sleep to me isn't good.

Ver rite

Precisely. That’s how I felt too. Dead inside. Thanks God for antidepressants.

You are right: depression is emptiness, not sadness. I explained it in a video.

mine just take turns between feeling fine feeling nothing just empty and feeling a long constant panic attack .. like he said at the beginning id rather slit my wrists than having to go through a month of acute anxiety .. yea its that bad ! there is no worse feeling not even dying .

kevnar actually this is something called anhedonia. I’ve had it since Sep 2018, it did get slightly better, but nothing shbstantial

Good chance that this time we live in will be considered barbaric, like the dark ages.

Amen!

Well put! :))

That is well stated. It reminds me of Sylvia Plath's description of depression as being inside a bell jar.

You just described the cave allegory pretty much. Something they teach is psychology classes early on. It's very real. It's all about lifting the bucket little by little or taking that step outside the cave. It may be scary but it will help you on your way to save your life and see the world again. I am thankfully a survivor of MDD. Thought you might appreciate looking into that if you haven't.

I felt same way exactly ! It's because he knows how we feel inside . You are not alone in that feeling .I miss the feeling of family & love so bad that it hurts constantly .

He gives language to your emotions

HE SHOULD WORK FOR AUDIBLE❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Totally!!!

Yes it kinda is, but we are all weird so in some way it’s normal

dont ask the comments, find professional help :)

Please seek help from a professional. All I can say is that you are not alone. Hold on.

I still have not found the right therapist...keep looking...I'm still looking...but you can make it...my meds are what has been helping me although I still have low days.

i feel the same i have a therapist but i still feel this way always. you’re not alone

This is my own personal opinion. I think that most people don't really want to die... I think we all want to live. Living is in our nature. But logic aside, there is always something that makes us feel good even for an instant. Even if it is for a very tiny instant. When I think of those things I realise I want to live to play that videogame again, to feel that cold breeze in the summer, to hear the leaves and the birds, to feel the winter sun gently warming my skin and breaking through the clouds... Those are some of my moments. And I imagine never experiencing those things again, and that instant I imagine myself dead I have that certainty that I don't want to lose those tiny moments....I imagine myself in a dark barren land begging for a second chance to feel those tiny instants; like craving for a drop of water in the middle of the desert.... The thing is that we don't find the tools/opportunities to experience MORE of those moments. For example, I loved a friend of mine and she was, during my darkest days, the only reason to go to school; I wanted to see her... I still felt that life sucked, that this unbearable pain would not go, that nobody cared, that it was too cold outside and that it was too hard to move... but just seeing her moved something inside of me: it moved me to do something. Therefore, it's my opinion that we don't want to die, we want to live, but we don't know how to do it. And the ironic part of it is that NOBODY KNOWS HOW TO LIVE... but we are, as a society, afraid to acknowledge that. Imagine if in school they would teach us to appreciate ourselves and the things in life along with Language and Mathematics? I think we want to live. PS I'm writing this while unable to sleep because of all the things in my mind, heart and soul, this is one of those darkest moments.

That goes through my mind everytime.

I look back over the past 20 years and now instead of grief I feel anger. I gladly and willingly accept this anger because I finally feel like I have a voice. The depress med me mute, it folded me in on myself, collapsed my sense of self-worth. I despised who I was while depressed. The anger instead is my speaking up for myself, defending myself. It tells myself of my worthiness of existing. I will not be controlled by my triggers. I will create a new narrative, one that values compassion first and foremost for myself.

How are you doing now?

I am sorry to hear that you had to go through your struggles with depression on your own, and I'm glad to hear that the video was helpful in explaining your experiences. I could not even imagine the challenges you had, especially during the pandemic. It is unfortunate that mental health still faces stigmas and seen as an inconvenience or a burden by some individuals in our community, especially from families, which can make it difficult for those struggling with these conditions to reach out for help. It takes a lot of courage to open up about your struggles with mental health, and it's understandable that you didn't want to be a burden to your family. However, it is also important to remember that seeking help and support for mental health issues is not a burden, but a courageous and necessary step towards healing and recovery. I encourage you to continue seeking out resources and support that can help you navigate your mental health journey. There are many professionals and organizations dedicated to helping individuals with mental health issues, and you don't have to go through this alone. Thank you for sharing your story and I admire you for being brave enough to reach out for help.

Yeah, it hurts sometime that you can’t speak out like this to explain who ask about something we’re feeling vulnerable to talk.

I cried in the first three minutes. “You KNOW it’s ridiculous”

So true

I've watched it so many times and it still moves me.

Same!

I know what you mean 😞

big mood

about 80% of world's population, and people like me who think about suicide 5 times a day

Notice that "truly living" and "just surviving" are value judgements. Value is a relative concept... so the question becomes: "relative to what?" Play around with that, look at the many permutations, the many relationships that you can conceive of... and see what you find. You just might surprise yourself.

@@bromazepam781 bruh it will get better! Work on rejecting negative thoughts. I've got your back!

Something similar happened with me. I got told to do meditation and exercise and think positive. How can I explain that it's not that I don't want to meditate but I can't. I can't get myself off the bed in morning cause I don't feel like there is any reason to do it. I just wanna sleep forever. But it's sad that nobody gets it😔

@@btsismylifeuindianarmy4909 I understand...

I go to the therapist for the first, “I need help” “Medication?” No, I want answers to my questions not meds” “ OK medication it is”

I think you should try other therapists bc they all have a method you just need to see what works for you. The one you are talking about must have been cognitive behavioral therapy. for example my therapists does a combination cus I often need to talk about my past experiences and analyze the impact they had but also live in the present and do things such as having better habits. Please don't give up. I swear therapy works

@@leafsautumn659 i have been to 14 different specialists scross italy

I do feel depressed, but I like it somehow.

@@DCBfanboy sadness is addictive

@@kenjamingarnett9595 Indeed!

Gollum crying somehow feels good. Lately it feels like it’s my only friend

@@arrietty1619 it's kind of how it is :/

linda linacre that's probably anxiety mixed with depression. Anxiety tends to makes a person who suffers from it think or overthink things in a pessimistic way.

I understand completely what you're saying. Sending blessings your way from a sister in Rhode Island.. Sincerely, Mary Ann

Take care Linda 🙋

Yes, thinking adds so much. The anxiety to depression is fuel to a flame. So many people don't understand how bad depression is. I find it hard to explain it, but one think I have said is "when you wake up, your nightmare ends, but when I wake up, mind begins"

That's not depression...that's anxiety. I've suffered with both for 20+ years.

I agree with you. I've watched this video so many times when I'm feeling hopeless or nothing at all. Everytime (for me anyway) it helps. It might sometimes help only a little bit but it helps me.

not accurate, my family secret is herpes, keeps us movin, why am i the only one who seees through this charade. what a whiny exhausting man.

@@fastawake870 interesting, do you all have herpes?

@@fastawake870 my family's secret is alcoholism

i hope you're doing well

Hi I have a question does the doctor really helps I know it sounds ridiculous but I hope you answer my question

@@lojisnailsi9751 you should try it if it's available to you. it works for a lot of people, medication, for other people no medication has ever worked but therapy did. it's entirely personal but like i said if you have the ability, do it. i love you, stay strong

@@charlottestewart1851 you're so sweet thank you I think I'll go

I'm turning 26 in a month. I've lost several years to depression. I hope things have improved for you, I hope you're well. Be strong.

I wish you all the best too! God bless you💜

Thank you, the same to you should you ever read this. If one person answers a few other people, perhaps we can bring a bit of cheer to each other. You made me feel better, and connected to someone, just for these few moments. Every day seems dreary, but I am always curious if tomorrow might bring something new.

What a bunch of BULLSHIT

Woah. Yes, James.

I feel both, I live every day desperately wanting to die but I also live everyday desperately wanting to live. It feels like im dying and I cant live, I feel I am in a purgatory where I can watch everyone live and experience life and im floating along watching them unable to live with them.

Chelsea R this is so exactly how I feel wow

You're damn right. It's not like you have cancer, true. But you may want to get cancer because then you would know it will soon end. After all that's the only thing you want. Wishing cancer upon yourself truly says something about how bad depression actually is.

James Atlas I feel you, dont we all have to flight.

I have that same thing going on right now. But let's hang in there and keep on looking for solutions to our problems!

Christian Vallejo One more thing. When spider, bee.. bites you, you have physical and mental discomfort , same like after bad salad in a restaurant are also symptoms of mental mood. When you have groggy body, lack of necessary ingredients, after junk food, alcohol, cigarettes you have big chance to develop stress and depression ... you're very vulnerable to mental collapse. Give yourself just two weeks to honestly prove that I'm wrong. I do not have the benefits from this, just simply I need to give back. If you manage to do this, it'll save a lot of people.

I'm not sure exactly what point you're trying to make. Are you refuting my urge to be optimistic about the situation? If that's the case, then let me remind you that in the video, he said that he was fascinated by the fact that those who seemed to have the worst depression were also the most persistent in finding a solution and took every chance they had to cling to vitality. If someone has a mental illness, then it's understandable why they can't function normally, but they need to still be willing to solve the problem.

ponyphonic _"why didn't I realize before how pointless life is?"_ THIS. This is exactly one of the components of depression.

***** No doctor necessary. Let me start by saying that feeling depressed at times is normal and no cause for alarm or treatment. Unless you're somehow magically insulated from life, losses, failures, disappointments, all have their effect. When it becomes a problem is when a state of depression goes on long enough to where it changes your brain chemistry. Your brain chemistry can also predispose you to depression due to past habits and lifestyles (alcohol and other recreational drugs). Even the way you think can create chemical changes. So, the only real cure is to reverse the processes that got you there. You reverse the unhealthy lifestyle (poor diet, lack of sleep, lack of exercise, lack of sunshine, etc), the unhealthy thoughts (frustration, anger, self pity, as opposed to training the mind to an attitude of gratitude), and you adopt a sense of purpose or mission in life (in other words, you're more than some accidental collision of space dust that simply lives for the sake of self-indulgence until it expires). I can't do the subject justice here. I do know, however, from personal experience, that there is real light at the end of the tunnel, and there's no quick cure or pill that'll take the place of a real recovery. Get the book I mentioned ("Depression, the way out" by Neil Nedley) and start reading. And if you need something to get you over the hump (the total lack of motivation), find a friend who'll support you in dragging you out to get some exercise. That alone can do wonders for brain chemistry.

I feel his manner of speaking is one of a depressed person who's every breath is physically and emotionally straining.

Seems like he is a poet

He reminds me of T.S. Elliot

His rhythm is very similar to the late great David Rakoff

I disagree. I couldn't get through the first 3 minutes. The way he speaks is just so, so gloomy.

incredibly so, I love his smile in a special way

what a really nice comment

He has a beautiful smile and I pray he is doing well through the pandemic. This period is especially difficult for people with depression and anxiety.

Brother. I know right? I just started shoving a waterfall down my eyes, as I had explained my experience???

Robin Williams

25:48

@@L4wr3nc3810 touché

Cognitive Behavior Therapy?

Agree... it's like you finally see the truth and you just watch everybody else "play their game"...

It's almost like coming out of a psychedelic trip.

yeah not over dramatic at all.

Emily Dickinson

@@pavanmutyala695 ask your mom about Dickinson.

OP I knew her by Apple TV plus series Dickinson, thanks for your concern

Hey baby!

I thought I was the only one. I don't have depression, although I have had *a* depression. I just dont want to brush my teeth. It's weird, It is only two minutes but I still just dont have the energy. I do hope you can find a way to get better, maybe try making tiny things out of yarn?

This is completely relatable. Wonderful description. Reach out to a doctor. There are life changing therapies. Don’t wait. Eventually you may give up brushing your teetn, stop showering regularly, and you may no longer be able to show up to work reliably. You could use the motivation you found to write this UKposts comment - a phone call / a message / an email / talking in person is all it takes to start change. Life will be better. All the best

But you get up in the morning, you take a shower, you go to work, you still get stuff paid. Try not to think about all the stuff you don’t do and think about the stuff you do manage to do because that is what makes you powerful!

Word for word letter for letter this is me

I was a very organized person to the point O.C.D type. I have lt has been 5 years that I can't get my clothes organized as for papers there was a time I avoided going to the mailbox. Now I'm paying the price. But I'm still not giving up. One day at a time. The best accomplishment is I'm no longer depending on alcohol and I'm helping others with their alcohol addiction.

You want a medal for being so deep?

@@thefonzkiss What you are doing is being mean-spirited. Say something encouraging instead of humiliating to the person. We are literally watching a video about depression, please be more considerate about the strangers that we know nothing about. Don't worry @Tracy I'm the same as you are and those words made me remember how my mother tries to hammer the idea of religion into my brain to become more disciplined and how I disliked religion because of that and came to accept that this is how people come to find why they love their own gods/s.

@@thefonzkiss you want a medal for being a 13 year old cringe lord on UKposts?

You don’t have to believe (in anything) to believe (in something).

Don't worry,Angels are not church materials, it's symbolical like love.

He sounds like poetry

Especially the part where he reads poetry

Just loop the video. (I know I'm not being helpful)

He needs to be the voice for an audiobook for poetry

Yes but we have to change our our lives. Make decisions and act them out. Try things. Not be scared of failure. And feel connected. That deep loss of connection to other people, hobbies and most importantly to me and my feelings. Stop numbing or ignoring the pain and fight back. All these things are impossible to do for me at the moment.

Depression makes a person isolate from the real world because the brain network has some disconnections in some regions. I explained it in a video.

Nature and happiness please stop spamming your own content here. We aren’t here for that.

That was the moment I said "wow", because I'd never heard anyone say that before. But it's true. For me, at least.

That statement crushed me. I broke down, because it is my truth. I feel like nothing matters anyway, and everyone else is ignorant of reality, going about their lives happy. It is truly deep despair. You are drowning.

Very true.

It's impossible for people to understand without experiencing it. It's as if your own mind is against you, and the emotions are often so intense that you do actually just want to die to be rid of it. If something terrible happens and you're sad for a few months, but recover, it's different than feeling that sadness intensely for the next ten years as I have.

+Shmandalf Yes i visualized and fantasized about dying peacefully.

Truest thing I've ever read.

Shmandalf I hear u. I keep waiting for my life to begin. I'm 44

+AugustAdvice Everything is scary with anxiety, especially the signs that you are about to have another panic attack.

+AugustAdvice so strange that whenever i slip or trip at work and am really on the verge of some dramatic or catastrophic event i feel the rush of adrenaline and then there is absolutely no depression. it almost feels sometimes like being a kid again. then it's over and my "failed, miserable life" creeps back in again.

+primusayso that is when i'm not preoccupying my mind and the minds of my fellow co-workers with funny tv and stand up quips and kwerks. we all keep each other going at Frisby Tire, 1377 Clyde Ave. Ottawa, ON!!!!!!!!!!!!

+AugustAdvice you have heard a better methapor and i wil tell you where: at the start of the video.

Same

Same

same,, why is that??

This is a situation that obviously needs counselling. It's a huge responsibility having someone else in your life but there is a saying, "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

@@heythere2480 fear of being hurt? I haven't dated anyone for 8 years because my last relationship ripped my heart out. Prior to that relationship was with someone who stalked me to the point that I had to get a PFA. Prior to that was my ex-husband who died. I just can't deal with the pain anymore.

dude-

Ok, maybe not the time or the place but it IS a funny joke and we have to laugh when we can!

Toxic world it is..

Keep in mind Rodney dangerfield is well known for making self disparaging jokes

AYO

Let's keep going okay? :)

I love your comment. I am still 19, and determined to keep going through the fight. :')

I'm 21, I've had clinical depression since I was 10 and anxiety for the last five. Even now my hands are numbing as I type... You're not alone in this!

Good for you! Keep it up :)

Update us on a regular base on your status, I'm a young fellow of your experiencing it, maybe nor severely as yours or maybe more severe. A thing that we may never know, but we can mutually assure that, standing up for one another, without the need of gain or profit is to share the heavy weights that our emotions puts on our shoulders.

Chloe Iversen j`

You don't simply get over it, I doubt it will ever go away, you just slowly learn to live with it. But in my experience, it is something that the voice in your head does to you, the voice that we identify ourselves with, the narrator that's constantly being negative and horrible about everything, and we listen to it because we think we are that voice and we have no escape from it. I became alot less depressed when I learned not to take that voice too serious, because you are not that voice, you are the awareness that is listening to this voice. When you realize this, suddenly the choice appears to ignore this voice so it won't draw you in and take over again. The mind is a powerful tool, but it can also drive you insane if it has too much power.

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@TJ I don't think he was claiming that one was better or worse. Not a competition. It sounded like he wanted to be sure to show that they are both a medical issue of the malfunctioning brain. Like how a nickel and a dime are both money. The nickel and the dime are both money no matter the value.

Me too.

Recognition maybe?

I was looking for this comment because I knew I couldn't be the only one

same

Now i understand why i can't feel cold since i got depression

yet another person trying to be poetic

Cold Winters are great though

@@muh88 dude , same here. And people around me thinks I have some kind of thermoregulation issue

@@Markovnikov90 lol , i swear yesterday i hanged out with my family and they disturbed me to wear more clothes😂😂

I feel the same way, I started college this year and it’s been so tough I can barely get my work done I sleep all the time.

Depression makes everything seem so sad..i don't know why.

@@sallykante5432 life is so beautiful yet we watch it like we are from another planet. I wish i had the answer..bed is my heaven- sleep is my happy place. i do know that you can think you are at the end and you keep going. We are so very much more resiliant than we realize- our bodies actually do want to live- its our freaking heads that don't.

For me it started before developing such hobbies. I was 12.. I don't know what to do.. sometimes it makes me feel awful knowing that others had experiences at these ages.. I feel excluded by experience.

I miss the past when I was excited about something. Now I am always in fear or tired to do anything. My life is full of opportunities. But it seems to me too much work to do anything. I hope to overcome this one day.

Christopher Akridge

agreed.

may I please know how this speech could be therapeutic? I couldn't realize that but knowing an explanation would help me. I need to know, in fact. thank you!

When you are depressed, your view on life is obstructed, if not like just watching the inner of your eye and not really connecting, getting stuck in your thoughts. As he says "the truth lies". His clear description of his own experiences as well as other experiences - this over a long time to spread - are intense and offer moments to everybody who has suffered from comparable states of mind to identify with. Maybe his talk somehow triggers you to feel part of "us", "us" who suffer from depression but of whom many fight to get out of it. I dunno. This talk is damn helpful, that's for sure.

agree

true

I have severe hits of depression every once in a while, it happens very rarely but when it does I don’t feel anything, just really really hollow

I know the feeling man. Had depression for 5 years (just got better these last months though). I do want to tell you that sleeping 16 hours has the same effects as sleeping like 4 hours. You will feel tired, so I recommend you don't sleep so much. I don't know what you find enjoyment in (probably nothing at this point), but try to do anything instead of sleeping, it doesn't matter if you don't enjoy it too much, just as long as you don't hate it. Being awake during the day hours and getting sunlight is essential for feeling better too. I wish you the best of luck

I'm some what okay

... what do you do about this feeling when you don't want to do anything?.. in general

That was me a few months ago, what I did was find the source, for me it was the overwhelming amount of homework I had to do because I was in advanced high school classes called the IB programme. I absolutely hated waking up and remembered wanting to die almost every day. I had always done well in school and usually top of my class, but in the programme, I was one of the worst students grade-wise. This caused me to hate myself more which caused worse marks and as you probably know, depression is a feedback loop. I talked to my friend about it and he truly understood because he has suffered from it. This may not work for you but the biggest impact of getting out of my depression was getting out of the IB programme, I was extremely grateful that I could go back to regular school and that I could talk to my friends.

@@josephlouwerse2105 I haven't had to worry about homework for more than thirty years now.

yeah its even hard to sit up straight on the bed because its meaningless ..feels like there is no point in breathing , depression is a fuckin monster man

@@xtensionxward3659 What has helped me in those moments is to just keep breathing. Wen I'm breathing I'm still alive.

Painfully, I agree.

he has a book on depression.. the noonsday demon.. quite well written..read it..

me too, but I'm only one person:(

Technically nothing is stopping you

Stand on the top of your building count 1,2,3 then jump

@@MohibKhanmc on the trampoline and have fun!

Maya Sirine you use drugs?

lol that's exactly how it feels I felt it too

True

@@Raventooth then you don't have it. And just because you don't have it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Stop belittling people's illnesses, and playing doctor

@@Raventooth I'm not going to argue with you if you can't see it then oh well.

*Skyrim battle music plays*

*resident evil music plays*

Ahhh thw satisfaction i feel cause it maches what i feel

"You cannot sleep, when enemies are nearby"

*Minecraft cave sounds*

Sleep is The only cure

Wanna sleep for ever

@@tedstruijk7688 I slept a lot too, when I was depressed. But it's also good to ask for help. Just don't give up on hope.

This hit me hard. This was my mentality at 19. I'm now 24 and nothing has changed. I've made no meaningful progress in anything. I do the same thing, day in day out. I have for the past 5+ years. It's comfortably destructive.

@@fuzzcaster Im 24 too. And 19 was the year it went from dysthymia to major depression and major depression to dissociation, catatonia, and eating issues. I'll never be 20 again. I'll never turn 21 again. I'll never be excited to go to college again (I didn't finish). What gives me hope, though I vehemently deny my belief in it, is that nothing I do will ever be the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with again. There's no physical pain or emotional abuse that could ever be as bad as depression. Nobody can hurt me like I hurt myself. You're right, it's very comforting in a way. I'll never get those years back, but looking back I don't want them. In a way I always knew it would have to be like this and I would never risk having to do it all over again. So it's only forward from here, even if it's a waiting game to maybe someday feel better.

No

@@-_deploy_- ?

@@-_deploy_- Yes

Not everyone has depression

@@-_deploy_- that's not what he's saying. Many people suffer from depression. You probably have people close to you, in your family even, that are heavily affected by mental illness. Even if you dont personally see it. Hope that helps clear your confusion

I have been were you were. In 2nd grade my mom told me she thought I will win the noble prize and in 5th grade I failed a math test. Instead of giving it to her to sign it I hid in my closet and timed how long I could strangle myself. This became a habit to mild my anxiety. One day she walked in on me strangling myself and she yelled at me for failing and hiding the test. The way I stayed alive was I just ignored my mom and I found a friend that I could trust with everything. They then directed me to therapy. Its going to be hard to ignore your family and finding that friend, but you will come out a better person than your parents and your previous self. I believe in you.

Brandon Barber it’s like I’m waiting for something to come and make it better. I’m waiting for the solution to just appear in my mind. But I don’t know what it is. And I don’t know if I ever will.

@@victoriacharlie9017 the thing is at some point of your life , you will realize that that magical thing will never come and make you feel better suddently, the solution will never come to you like that.. For me.. i stopped waiting and waiting for the solution, for the person that might save me from this pain.. and i just stopped waiting cauz i got sick of it. When you stop waiting you stop living in those delusional thoughts, you stop living in the past and in the futur. You just stop everything and look at what you have right now.. "i watched this video and it made me feel better, and realized a lot of things" , " the caissière lady was really nice to me, that was very cute".. im not saying that i found the solution, but im just saying that i stopped hurting myself with my thoughts ( they still hurt tho) anyways idk why m writing this it's 3am but it made me feel better to read the comments

I agree , before experiencing depression I’ve never realized how freeing not thinking can be.

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@@anjadesmarais7808 is it possible to not think

@Essam Mahmood Consider yourself lucky you’re not depressed. Hopefully you’ll never experience it. Chronic severe depression is one of, if not the most, painful experiences a human being can ever go through. Unless you experienced it yourself, there’s no way you could possibly comprehend what it’s like.

Amazing words. Thank you)

Everything he said was insanely relatable

To experince is to be enlightened.

genuine question. how are you not depressed

jon jenkins Why do you stop taking the meds then? It's like wearing glasses, I don't see your problem.

what meds? what ?

jon jenkins Life can seem like a rollercoaster of the stimulating and depressive experiences and insights but maintaining the balance of healthy long-term stimulation may be as simple as exploring and embracing more daily habits with the more lively people, places, and things - not such more the quick fix drugs or stimulations. The small but consistent habits, the exploration and furthering of the true self to stimulate a less depressive mind and body - to physically restructure the physical mind to grow closer to a true self - or to also propose and design what we feel our more true stimulated "on" self should more obviously be. Exercise, reading, learning, etc for me seems to balance out the depressive uncertainties or losses for myself. I don't have as much trust in the medicated path, but rather see the medications for desperate temporary solutions to life threatening situations - an extreme for an extreme perhaps. From my own experience with depression, I found the worst of it came about in an overly stagnant life - too little engagement of my talents, skills, goals, dreams - sitting and wondering. The tricky part is how depression exacerbates the stagnation - makes it feel impossible to get up and go...but there's a great deal of blind leap of faith (doesn't have to be religious) that we must trust ourself in... to get up anyways...to do anyways... to take the new endeavor plunge to persevere a new life perhaps. And if someone's life is absolutely so terrible that they have no choice but to die for years? Change the identity... run away... cut out the extremely toxic present... and "live." People will think you're crazy, but you'll be alive and living. That's the alternative to the long-term suicidal situation. Could always come back the new you when you're ready... or maybe never come back to what hurt you so bad... it's your life :). Ignoring depression can also make it worse, but rather...engaging depression away...studying and learning greater truth behind it - behind the risks - will reveal more of the "new controls" to change it. Like the thoughts of the brain, our physical structuring of the brain is also in motion and changes based on our habits - just enough habits, experiences, changes of our life with "more" of the right people, places, and things can indeed provide a profound longterm change of our fundamental wellbeing in a serious sense. It takes weeks and months of dedication to being more of who you deep down discover who you are and to reduce the toxic people, places, and things that kind of obviously take it down and hold it back....but when it happens... you will feel more alive and sleep more restful.

jon jenkins Of all the comments ive read on this video this is the one i can relate to the most...For me its like I become so motivated and commited to life for a while then relapse completely thanks to the tiniest of things that trigger it and i become so angry,frustrated and depresssed within myself...then theres a period of just horrible depression,worthlessness and i just feel so flat until i manage to get myself back on track again only to find it happens all over again and again...Its a vicious cycle

Those "get up and change the game" facilities are exactly what I do NOT have when I'm depressed. I can barely reach for a glass of water when I'm thirsty. What I am leery of is people with various "you can pull yourself out of it by just doing THIS" approaches. They just make a person feel worse.

I felt the same way

I felt the same way.

DanandPhil Edits he's gone through it so it's more relatable

well sir maybe your not depressed

The truth as it relates to conscious life has been revealed and it turned out to be better than anything we could have imagined. This is truth you can and should check for yourself. Search *_Truth Contest_* and read the top entry called, the Present. The truth will set you free.

ikr, he just smiles like :D

I love his smile

I wud like ur comment u ur on 420 so I think if shid be left that way

well clearly he has embalmed himself with formaldehyde and had the mortician touch him up. he mst be late for his own funeral. gang gang

Yes, beautifully said :)

Yes. Depression lacks vitality. Depression is not sadness, but emptiness. Depression makes a person disconnect from a real world. The opposite of depression is to go back to the real world.

Nature and happiness you described it perfectly. Exactly how I felt it back then

@@luisterrust Are you feeling better now?

me too man, me too

+Bulla McBullakins :c

your right of feel the same !

You should read his book! Within 25 pages I was hooked to it, crying, sometimes it filled my head with words to describe what I was/am feeling, other times it took my breath away so I couldn't speak and only feel the words I read. The book is very sad and relatable, but it has something hopeful inside too. And it is beautifully written, with loads of detail but without being slow paced or boring (I read the translated version and it was still very, very beautiful.)

What is the name of his book?

Well done...you are a hero!!!! You will grow into the strongest and most empathetic being. Depression is like a bully...face it and it will respect you ... smile when you feel sad and laugh OUT LOUD at yourself, but course you know that already...so young but so wise. Sending you love x

Sending you hugs of support

I always wanted to go to a therapist but I don't have enough money and I'm too afraid to ask my parents to go there.

❤️

That was the only part of the talk I detested! I NEVER want to "love my depression". I think that statement was a bunch of crap and actually a copout if you ask me. That's like saying "I've learned to love my heart disease or my kidney failure. Our brains are organs, the same as hearts and kidneys and livers! We should NOT learn to "love" our disease!

Me too,i felt like 80years old,dying inside

I'm 27 years old, and I've been depressed for 27 years. My younger brother was depressed just like me. He committed suicide a month ago today. He was 26 years old. He never sought help. And help never reached out to him. I feel your pain. I hope you find the help you need. But I'm just a stranger on the internet, and don't know you personally. I hope you can keep fighting and know hope is there... even if you can't see it.

May God cure us all

@Diego Barnhill I’m so sorry. :(

@@ryanc2660 I’m so sorry for your brother and for you that you lost someone so dear to depression. Depression is something that can’t really be explained to people who aren’t going through depression themselves. You only understand if you have depression yourself. There is comfort in knowing there are people just like you who do understand what it’s like to carry this pain. You’re not alone.