I’m crying inside. I’m thinking back to the young me trying so hard to “be better” at life and “be motivated”. I would have lists and lists of things to do from shopping, household chores to short-term and long-term life goals. I tried so hard and when I failed to stay on track I would hate myself so much and turn everything off to play a video game or read books straight through. I felt like I was such a disgusting, lazy and mentally WEAK person.I just want treatment now. I want to know how normal people feel, think and function!

Is anyone else always late to work & every event because they procrastinate till the last minute?

What's frustrating to me is that I learned a lot of coping mechanisms and how to get things done because I had great parents who held me responsible while also encouraging me to do what I needed to do. School and work were a game to me and I could get away with doing a fraction of the effort with a much higher return. Now that I'm an adult with a lot of the similar experience as others with ADD no one believes that I actually have it. In my graduate counseling program, after taking the test for it my instructor was shocked and questioned if I was honestly answering the questions on it. They said that they were surprised I do so well academically but I explained to them it was all a game to me. I didn't study for exams in one place, I would "study" for hours, 10 minutes outside in a park, 10 minutes in the library, 5 minutes in the student center. I would pace in my room, talking out loud. Type out things as though I was sending it in a message to other people .I would study in a group with one or two people, just listening and trying to come up with some joke or creative approach to catch them off guard. Now here I am, working in academia and seemingly unable to get anything really done. I come up with so many ideas, in meetings I can engage and do things. When my director gives me projects I will have them done in my mind, but can't actually bring myself to write them out. As I type this I have a report with spreadsheets of data, an example of the structure how I want the report formatted, and all I need to do to finish it it move the graph over and type out a narrative. It's not a fun game anymore. No challenge, no grades, no scores. When I went to get help several years ago, as mentioned in other places they wanted to treat me with depression. I've taken depression medicine before, it didn't help me with my intrinsic motivation, it just made me less anxious about it. So much so I stopped caring about numerous other things. All that to say, it's beyond frustrating. This "disorder" is more a cognition in conflict with culture in my opinion. We are pathologizing a powerful approach that people with ADD have by not giving them meaningful work. Non-ADD people (who come off as quite dull) try to force fit others into their systems and structures instead of teaching them how to use it like a skill.

ADHD means adding this to Watch Later instead of watching it now :P

I cannot believe that I find this info while I am 35 years old. That explains so much... I finally have a clue on what's actually different about me. Thank you!

When I finish exercise, I feel VERY ANGRY because I hate it so much that the longer I have to do it in a period, the more time I feel I'm wasting and the less comfortable I am and therefore the more angry I am.

self help: turning on cc and setting the speed to 1,5x 😅

The all-nighter pulled just before the deadline for certain modules is very much a thing I have done throughout my life. Yeah.

Yeah that’s me, leave it til the last min then ace an exam! I also once did a 4000 word essay at uni in a day.

I have unwittingly designed my life on crisis, adrenaline, physical activities, and caffeine to cope, do better, build a life. At 54, this has had other consequences as a result. My son got diagnosed with ADHD four years ago, and I have been researching the disorder to better support him. What has become more apparent as I learn more, and look back at my life experiences, is that I LIKELY have ADHD as well? I need to be accurately evaluated, and should seek some kind of treatment for myself.

I'm just about to finish my PhD with which I struggled enormously, even more with my master thesis. But still I want so much to continue as an Academic, I am a geneticist and doing computational analyses helps me to hyperfocus. Shame that academia is not a very comfortable career for neurodivergent people :( I found out, that martial arts are very good type of sport, because I feel "encouraged" to actually train, though it happend to me in karate class that I was suddenly loosing focus during a fight or when learning new moves. Which ended with bruises. I just can't belive how did I live my 31 years of live without knowing that I had ADHD... I will still probably go through my PhD defence somehow (wish me luck, it is difficult to find an english-speaking psychiatrist here), but I hope to get the treatment to improve my life afterwards.

I have only realised in the last few weeks that I have struggled with adhd throughout my life. I’m now 57 . Daydreamed my way through primary school. Apathetic to learning was written on my secondary report. Often got removed from classes for talking through teacher demo’s. Sport was what got me through. I have butted into peoples conversations for as long as I care to remember, to the point they stop talking to me. I hyper focus on hobbies before I lose interest and move to the next one. I feel like a rabbit in headlights when I’m given forms to fill in (doctors or dentist etc). I procrastinate badly and then feel terrible because I’ve achieved so little. I find it so hard to listen to people and lose focus so quickly. Suffer with mood changes and low self esteem. If only it had been recognised when I was young. Bit late for me.

I am so glad my therapist gave me the choice between taking medicine for adhd or bipolar because she wasn’t entirely sure which one it was but knew it was one of them. She said that I would know the first day whether or not I’d need to stop stimulants. I knew on day one it was adhd. The difference I felt was astronomical.

only discovered this , down the rabbit hole i go , explained very well!

this a really-well explaining video. Thank you so much

"some people respond to tiny doses" thank you for this bit of info. It seems 5mg of Elvanse, though it doesn't last very long, works really well for me, but I only tried it once so idk. I took 5mg and then about 2,5h later took another 5mg. I was on a roll just doing one task after the other and it was much easier for me to divert my focus when I needed to and then put it back where I wanted it to be. Usually that's irritating and tiring to do.

Another way to help is to hire a personal assistant. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣 No really, I run marathons. Helps tremendously!

It's good to know I'm not alone.

I cured my procrastination in studying by rewriting my notes, but writing term paper still needs organization..wish I had provigil way back in school.

i feel the need to mention that this guy sounds so similar to alan rickman (specifically snape)

A medical professional saying that coffee can be toxic for people with ADHD, but nicotine is fine; is what I needed to hear. Even tiny amounts of caffeine give me terrible brain fog, & I have been very cautious about the possibility of taking stimulants for that reason, but to hear that I'm not the weird strange one is nice to hear.

Who else is here in the comments while watching?

Hi, thank you for the video, it really helps me to know what’s going on. Can you please make a video on people who consider having an ADHD diagnose (it’s me, I’m 23), and have a psychosis diagnose? Thank you.

It is so difficult to get any help regarding adhd,

hell no.. Caffeine is the worst... it doesn't help my ADHD but in turn it triggers my OCD (which I've with great difficulty controlled)

What do you think of the combination of Elvanse and Risperidon for a 12 year old with ASD + ADHD?

Coffee is the soothing drink I never knew I needed 😂

Yea they thought I had no adhd because I was never physical hyper active, no wonder if you always outside... Good info, clears a lot up

I'd be interested in hearing about how the thyroid and hormones can affect how traits of ADHD present themselves. If you have any links to research or talks on this subject; I'd appreciate them. Thank you.

I feel so incredibly called out, and have no idea what to even do about it

I don’t resonate with the physical exercise part at all personally. Even when I took it really far and I was the best shape in my life, exercising was a second job, a tenuous chore. I just felt spent and damaged afterwards.

I'm really pissed because it seems my symptoms and specifically whatever is wrong with my dopamine disregulation has gotten worse (it can happen to non-ADHDers so ofc to ADHDers too) and I used to have enough in me to exercise and do stuff that helped and now I don't anymore. Why? Because of society! My parents put the breaks on my needlessly silly actions, not understanding how important they were. I think my ADHD is mild or moderate but got worse due to my phone/internet usage that started around 10 years ago. I think if I started treatment earlier I would've perhaps never needed physical treatment. But nowadays I want physical treatment _in order to_ get into habits such as exercising regularly and other things that help. I'm so ticked off that I actually had this going for me about 3 years sgo. 3 years! And now what, it's gonna take 1 or 2 to really get into those habits again AND ween off the stimulant. If I even get a stimulant, or a diagnosis! My evaluation got resceduled because I executive dysfunctioned on the questionaires so badly and then the night before the evaluation an emergency happened. I barely slept let alone did them. I have two more weeks. I'll be writing a lot of things down. But yeah I'm angry because I had no idea about the syndrom that is ADHD and no suspicion I had anything (just lots of shame! And thought I was a defect) but was doing all the right things to treat it. I was actually being so smart about it, so spot on. And why did it not work? SOCIETY. Bcs I "shouldn't need" this and that. And when I explain with sound logic and heavy arguments why it's the best thing to do - without even knowing about ADHD! - I was shut down because I was "making it more complicated than it is". Sighé.

I used fear for motivating myself to prepare for exam as I had issues in learning. So two days before exam I was doing things in a slow pace and lagging the timelines but the night before exam my anxiety and fear reaches at its height and I hardly finish revising the stuff just before sitting the exam. Though I got good grades but the pain I endured was awful as my fear make this whole process a matter of life and death for me. My slow learning was due to obsession for perfectionism, low self confidence and attention deficiency. I still suffer in similar manner in professional life and this puts me so low emotionally and gets depression and anxiety attacks. Can anyone please help me.I used fear for motivating myself to prepare for exam as I had issues in learning. So two days before exam I was doing things in a slow pace and lagging the timelines but the night before exam my anxiety and fear reaches at its height and I hardly finish revising the stuff just before sitting the exam. Though I got good grades but the pain I endured was awful as my fear make this whole process a matter of life and death for me. My slow learning was due to obsession for perfectionism, low self confidence and attention deficiency. I still suffer in similar manner in professional life and this puts me so low emotionally and gets depression and anxiety attacks. Any help.

Do you think undiagnosed ADHD in children, can lead to constant high cortisol levels and or adrenal fatigue can be the root cause for autoimmune disease/disorders later into adulthood? (Such as Hashimoto's thyroiditis) Or do you think an undiagnosed or undiscovered autoimmune disease / disorder just exacerbates ADHD?

Well. I'd say: dissertation in 48 hrs is manageable.... I say that, while procrastinating writing on my thesis...

Thank goodness for these British videos, it's ironic that it's really hard to concentrate on the frequently irritating and distracting American ones.

My guy read me like a book.

I've done the Ph.D. equivalent. The good doctor jokes about cramming the dissertation like its cramming for an exam, but I'm sorry to say I can specify more precisely what a procrastinatory Ph.D. timeframe actually entails (a three-four months long adrenaline rush due to a fear of support running out and not being employable otherwise). Not to say that's how long I was a Ph.D. candidate, but effectively little of value toward the dissertation was accomplished in the years prior to that. I could sincerely intend to start anything in good time (and I often did), but I could never focus properly if there wasn't the fear and adrenaline rush.

How do I go about getting treatment for this? I am seriously desperate, I procrastinate everything, getting ready for work, unpacking boxes and I moved a year ago! I am late everywhere I go!l I fight sleep knowing I'll be miserable the next morning!! Help!!

Would anti-depressant treatment have a higher success rates, if ADHD were diagnosed first and not co-morbid depressive illness? ie. a patient with undiagnosed ADHD presents as depressed and is treated for depression might skew data for anti-depressant treatment. Or is the data already adjusted for this? I ask as I have a later in life ADHD diagnosis but have received anti-depressant prescriptions in the past. I report that they may not have made me feel 'well' but it was enough at the time to feel different, which provided some respite until I got bored and stopped taking them.

Is the efficacy of the drugs reduced through age?

I keep lists about lists and don’t follow it too😂😂😂

I have Severe ADHD and I’ve been in medicated for over 15 years now finally after doing my own research I am going to go back on them. I hope they help me out I’ve been using weed and nicotine as a self medication and I would love to stop

Omg I honestly can’t believe that I’m only just discovering this about myself. Do NHS doctors take this seriously?

I saw Stephen at.the beginning of the year after many years of diognosed. I.e Cyclothymia, OCD, ASPD and undiagnosed for ten years taurettes. It was an awkward encounter on my behalf as I have shy bladder and at the time I was stunning and tics and pacing the room after a agonising year.or with g unmedicated or even being seen while having to work. He seems.anoyed at first and justified.becauss I come across hostile but that was just bad timing and I get nervous waiting so needed to pee but couldn't lol he handled himself in a professional way and told me straight alas he didn't know me well. I got sent back to my original place because I was to unwell with bipolar apparently well these all run co morbid with Autism..so it seems I will be seeing Stephen again and I apologise about last time and look forward to dealing with someone who has 40 years.experience..hopefully.time.i am.more regulated and can get the job done.

Is it not for children?

why is it so expensive to be evaluated for adhd?

I wish what he said here about addiction/misuse and tolerance was more widely known. I find it really disheartening that my medication is a controlled substance. There are so many challenges surrounding the fact that it's controlled, that fall to the neuro- divergent person to solve. Excuse my not so politically correct example, but it's like a person who uses a wheelchair having to carry thier own ramp.

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We need other people's undivided attention although we are unable to give it back.

Lists about lists.

How are you describing my life?

Are people with ADHD more prone to PTSD?

I wasn't diagnosed until I was 20 something. Only recently, in the past year or two, have I seriously been trying out ADHD medication like Adderall and Vyvanse. Now that I have the right dose, after being taken off of Adderall (because of my insurance thinking I needed to try something else) and put on Vyvanse, I can say it helps a ton. At the same time, being assigned female at birth, I think people assumed it was anything but. I was diagnosed with a mood disorder, and I honestly believe that if it is true, than it is mainly because of my ADHD. I believe I'm probably on the spectrum somewhere as well, but getting that diagnoses has been even harder. Now I'm stuck on an atypical anti-psychotic that I cannot sleep without. I'm on the lowest dose I've ever been, and still it is something I'm working on one day getting rid of completely. It is a drug that has many negative side effects, as is, and is no joke. I really wish that the doctor, who first prescribed this shit to me, at 14 (I'm 30 now), can go...kick rocks. I get not every doctor gets it right, but it's really fucked with my health. I'm in such a better place, at the lowest dose, too. Before they had me on the high end, at like 1200 mg a night. It was nuts.

as an adhd i find this talk very slow to have to speed it up

I make lists because im procrastinating on the things i have to do. Making a list gives me extra procrastination time. That goes something like this : When im making my list i dont like the font. I try all 300 fonts in my computer but there all so ugly. So ill just go online ' for a sec ' to download a font. But they're all ugly or not free. So im now searching for a way to hack the program / site / font. And find more interesting software i also gonna try to hack or get illegally. Because thats just way more fun. 13 hours later, its 6 in de morning, i have 5000 fonts in my computer which i will never use because i will forget about them when i leave my computer. And i havent even made the list yet. And im not gonna because i dont want to deal with those stupid boring fonts again. So i write it down IF i can find a pen. If not ill use a kohl pencil or something. When i made the list i will never look at it again, because: - i immediately lose the list. - or i forget about it. - or i can not decipher mu own handwriting. Hahaha And YES , I am making this long ass boring comment because IM PROCRASTINATING 😂 I don't want to clean my house! Ugh.. Greetings from the Netherlands everyone 👋🏻👋🏻🇳🇱🇳🇱🇳🇱😄

Coffee putz me to sleep and shaky

15mg pseudoephidrine plus coffee fruit exercise basketball 10min snaks alone building. Some. Exercise is bad. Or too much. Snuff works. Toix me. Weed helps microdose. Never tried speed. Ritalin sounds nice. I can't do anything

SSRI DRUG CAN KILL. Nervous system Very common: Concentration impaired Common: somnolence, insomnia, dizziness, tremor, headache, nervousness, anxiety, paraesthesia, decreased libido, agitation, drugged feeling, myoclonus, CNS stimulation, confusion, impaired concentration, depression, emotional lability, vertigo, abnormal dreams (including nightmares)#, hyperthesia+. Uncommon: abnormal thinking+, akinesia, alcohol abuse, amnesia+, ataxia, convulsion, depersonalisation+, hallucinations, hyperkinesia+, hypertonia+, incoordination, lack of emotion, manic reaction, paranoid reaction. Rare: abnormal electroencephalograph, abnormal gait, antisocial reaction, choreoathetosis, circumoral paraesthesia, delirium, delusions, diplopia, drug dependence, dysarthria, dyskinesia, dystonia, euphoria, fasciculations, grand mal convulsions, hostility+, hyperalgesia, hypokinesia, hysteria, increased libido, manic depressive reaction, meningitis, myelitis, neuralgia, neuropathy, nystagmus, psychosis, psychotic depression, increased reflexes, restless legs syndrome (RLS), stupor, withdrawal syndrome.

this video is triggering you talk to slow