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Great quote! ....and a great summary for this whole TEDx talk/youtube video.

duh!!!

God doesn't even take full responsibility.

Boo.

Lol, she def laid it out better! Not everything needs to be n a nutshell!!

Sorry, she needs to take 10 minutes to to give us 1 minute worth of information. She is womansplaining.

This is what parents should teach their children but unfortunately many of them are Narcissists. We have to learn this by experience. It would be great if it were all that simple but it's not.

@@invisigrl good day, l propose to lean together ) to share life experiences

@@pebonifield I would agree, but If she would tell you that in one minute and it was something new to you, you most probably won't give yourself enough time to thing about it.

Jesus taught us this.

"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." James Baldwin

Thank you, you spoke to my heart!

Mrs Scardino to make it easier for yourself. What i say is reality is not moral, and what i think is brutal is just my imagination or creation.

You know.. I'm 42 and just now got to the point of... "That's just what it is.." It's FREEDOM!!!

Sounds like depression to me

Very well said

Well, maybe "hunger" for fulfillment.

Umm... ok... that is hardly a "pearl of wisdom" spoken by this woman. People have been saying that for like 100 years. Here's one for you, which I think is better: "it's not about what you are eating, but what is eating you." - taken directly from a British version of My 600lb Life.

Nonsense! It’s just coincidental that donut and my dangerously low blood sugar levels bisect on the time- space continuum.

shelagh mcgee She's mentioned a whole host of narcissistic traits, including projecting her faults onto everyone "everybody lies". Still, it is very rare for someone narcissistic to admit fault. So I wish her well.

***** You're probably right, however regardless, her making up her own category "Honest Liars" and saying "everybody lies" is redirecting responsibility and utter nonsense.

***** There is a big difference between white lies and lying not to hurt people and lying that is detrimental to other people. As you said she may have BPD and her actions in terms of lying would not be lying to save someone elses feelings, quite the opposite it would be selfish and hurtful to others! Stop generalizing and saying everybody lies. That's not the point. It's why they are lying, the extent to which they are lying and whether it is detrimental to themselves and more importantly to others.

its just plain hard after a certain point as well. Theres a reason animals only have a certain level of self awareness, it takes a lot of thought, and because of that brain power.

I’m learning growing and self work is VERY hard but also some of the most rewarding work you will ever do.

you too? oh well then...

Me too, im not sure if the content is the most important but shes the best speaker ive ever seen

agreed!

Wow

What did you used to do for work? What is your life's purpose ? Are you still working in this field? How did it work out? Fill us in on the story

Mura Listy Yes. It's as though this talk itself was threatening. We hold on to our lies very tightly.

+Mura Listy Amen. I get so sick of humans flinging feces in the comments section so they can feel better about themselves (boring individuals with nothing constructive to contribute). Talk about self-deceived.

Lol Ikr

Benjamin Holck I agree! These comments are truly appalling. Maybe one does feel a little more significant as they tear down the messenger. In regards to good therapists. They can only be as gifted as their clients are vulnerable and open to change.

Don’t be deceived , they are opinions

And also the hardest

how to comment using bold letters???

@@casseyannemacawili3214 Yes Please!! Would love to know.

@@casseyannemacawili3214 *sup* * something * (without spaces)

Tearing up ego **

CodysFavorites me either

CodysFavorites ...What insults?

Yeah I don't get it either

If you haven't figured it out yet, human beings detest the truth as much as they love their gargantuan egos.

same. it is a difficult topic to speak about. so i don't understand these other comments

would help if the rest of us had the courage to call someone a liar. call a spade a spade and i bet more people were willing to tell the truth.

I think I've probably been selective about being truthful with or about myself. However, @45 I'm very aware of my strengths & weaknesses, and owning them. I can be quite hard on myself but I truly believe that my extremely strict, conservative childhood inflicted a sort of default denial mechanism that I really, really noticed around 30 years old. At first it was terribly shameful & all consuming once I was finally able, ready to reflect & accept responsibility for the way I interpreted things, perceived my own behavior or how easily I justified certain things. After I came to terms with what I was doing & why I was doing it (I went on a journey of liberating, raw truths). It felt so good! No, I'm wrong. No no, seriously, it was my fault. Since then I've worked on balancing the art of taking accountability while knowing my self worth. (Now I'm perfect). Lol. Jk. That was a lie. Life is a long lesson. Sometimes you have to reflect & figure out if you're shooting straight or allowing yourself to buffer a curve out of convenience. I've noticed it's not real tough finding critics or on the contrary- favorable opinions. It's being true to yourself without stacking the facts in your favor that'll help you to find true perspective from an outside, unbiased source. I might have a completely different mindset in 10 years but for now, I think I get it.

My thoughts EXACTLY! And I do mean EXACTLY. 💯 I just can't allow myself to lie to myself about anything.

When I worked in management, interestingly, one of the surest ways I could tell a manager's customer service was going to start to slip was when, during customer service trainings, they would be dismissive of the material because, in their words, "I'm already great at customer service." Telling themselves they were great at customer service became a great way for them to deceive themselves in situations where it might seem their customer service had been inadequate.

Same! I've heard from multiple people that I'm very self-aware. It helps with self-improvement, and making decisions I don't regret. But it's difficult for me to forge deep relationships with people because, in my own experience anyway, most people aren't very self aware and that's important for me in anyone I let into my life.

I am so happy to read your message, Becky. I wrote a short book that is a long version of the talk called; Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception. You might find it useful also. www.amazon.com/Lies-Tell-Ourselves-Psychology-Self-Deception/dp/0615997716%3FSubscriptionId%3DAKIAIRKJRCRZW3TANMSA%26tag%3Dpsychologytod-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3D0615997716 Best of luck on your continued journey!

Sell that book baby

Daniel Campbell People tend to ignore the fact that simply by virtue of writing something online, you are promoting a point of view (whether you have something to "sell" or not). Your words imply that somehow the effort to sell a book diminishes the virtue of writing it. And to be sure, there are plenty of people who are only in it for the money, but you should show some respect by giving her the benefit of the doubt until she has earned otherwise.

Dear viewers and dear Reiko Bovee(Thank you for your great talk show), i want to explain how self deception works in a funny and easy way. We know human's memories can be affected or deleted by stroke of for example some thing hard to their head. People who deceives themselves, hits for their heads a hard stick to delete their bad memories to get rid of suffering, but how ever they also makes themselves blind by this act! By making themselves blind they couldn't be able to see reality any more and this causes to failure and even suffering more.

Becky SaumierHood I relate to you! I do the same thing and I’m 41! She really hit a spot in my heart.

Thank you SummersRay10! Best of luck on your journey.

SummersRay10 it's been 5 years. Update?

Really is!!

No it isn´t .

😐

Thanks Nietzsche

Perceptive observation Jill. Put her in a booth with a script; animators will have plenty to work from

Snoopy W you are not a failure to urself, you just need to be self aware, take responsibility and courage to see yourself as it’s and be true to yourself no matter what & most importantly don’t play the victim game

Young Dreamer I’m no victim. But I’m not sure why people are playing games with me. If I were a victim I wouldn’t see or try to improve myself. I’m sorry I’m not currently able to do much but I will

This is the truest shit I've heard in a long while

and she is beautiful like you

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Her body language is full of manipulators (pointing finger and precision pointing - thumb+index togetherr) but also of openness: palms of the hands up but also discomfort in both the feet on the ground. I feel more as if the insecurity issues about being loved that she admitted too made her create a version of herself where she is comfortable and it necessarily needs to be contrived for the reason that it's created. It fees to me that she was believing dearly in what she was saying, in spite of a very carefully crafted image, i do believe that craft was out of adaptational skills. Who knows!

I definitely didn't , I'm curious on why you thought that

TheSoulS Colours I had the very same feeling. Like if she was a pretty little liar

"About"! "I'm Curious About Why You Thought That". But That Sentence Isn't Grammatically Correct In The 1st Place. A Better Sentence Would Have Been. "I Was Curious As To Why You Thought That."