Good luck! I hope everything turns out well :)

Wish you the best of luck, you can do this! ✨🙏🏻❤️

Please know you're not alone. At 27 years old (male), I recently went on a date for the first time in over two years with someone exceptional and am almost certain I sabotaged everything through lack of recent experience and poorly masked longing; everything was picture book pretty and natural ease until the formality of the occasion sunk in. People = experience and no matter who you are and how much you resent it at times, you need it. I wish you well.

Do you still make music? Creative blocks often bring about isolation. I assume you are a creative considering your music degree. Surrounding yourself with creatives can re-light that spark. I've experienced this myself!

You got this! You're not alone! Your people are out there.

Times when I wish we had figured out immortality

So sorry to learn of her passing.

May Allah bless her soul

Sorry to hear this. Sad.

⚘

What do you need?

@@constellationlanebula7172 I guess i need to learn to trust humanity again. Just been burned so many times my defense mode fully activated so now I don't let people get close to me

@@williamkreth remember good people, healthy love and healthy relationships exist. Good people do come our way. You haven't met everyone You are supposed to meet just yet. Therapy can help us in the process of opening up. I hope You have a blessed day

@@williamkreth maybe it will help if you realize that we are here to be used (not abused, belittled or bullied). But just be of service to others.

So, do you have pets and a garden and go out and see nature? Or are you disconnected from nature also?

Some of the greatest artists preferred to be and work alone. Time to create, think, enjoy. Stop depending on others for your happiness, and DO your own thing. Read up on artists like Agnes Martin. One way is not better or worse than the other, only choose what is better for oneself.

I can empathize with that

Yeah, that is so horrible. I'm sorry.

@@fromthepeanutgallery1084 You are wrong, but those who have not experienced solitary confinement can not know what it's like. You are exactly who this video was made for, those who think you can throw a plant in a closet with no light and water and expect it to thrive. Good luck with that, and I hope it never happens to you.

@@fromthepeanutgallery1084 I prefer to be alone most of the time as well. I'm almost always in a better mood in isolation, and I'm definitely more productive and creative.

Dude, your comment deserve to be pinned on top !

This! I'm so sick of the "what do you do for a living?" question. All so the person asking can try to determine your worth based on your job/career.

You are so right

Woah, spot on!

True.

@Adrian R hope leaves out the second step which is critical

My dream is to immigrate from Lebanon, to have a better, safe life... My obstacle is money unfortunately...

Where do you want to immigrate to?

@@salwad.2699 Any place in the world i can live in hope and pursue my dream

@@nightmoose Belief

Yes, I really liked her presentation, too!!

Whats her name? I would like to find her books.

@@Alanis.morresete Barbra sher

Died in 2020...

​@@farzadsharif9297ohh no....😢

Also not true. Unless you have something they want.

@@auggieniopetch3045 - it is actually true. Something magical happens when you are in a fellowship of people who are vulnerable and hurt. You become more humble and more generous. God created us for FELLOWSHIP ✝ He said: "IT IS NOT GOOD FOR MAN TO BE ALONE❗" 🙏 IMAGINE what we could do in fellowship with each other 🙏

@@Vikingshop she didnt even mention a god though?

@@Artist_Dakota But Auggie Niopetch did and it shouldn`t disturbe you! 👍

Oh no! The world is poorer without her.

I had her book and read the print off of it!

@@vanessac2395 what is her book called? I would really love to read it too ❤️

Glad she left us this memory of her.

❤

Really depends. For some people, isolation does wonders.

Please also see all by Johann Hari !!!!

@@jordanferguson2254 yeah everyone needs alone time but unless you have schizoid personality disorder it's extremely debilitating.

@@jordanferguson2254 idk sounds like an excuse to not even try to socialize

@@goblinman3010 Some peoole just have introverted personalities. Not many can help that. Most writers and artists meet this criteria. Socializing is a nessesary trait, but the world mostly panders towards extroversion by default and it's not the only way to live. Too much socalisng and talking can be annoying to a lot as well. All about balance.

Yes Rachel - God created us for FELLOWSHIP ✝ He said: "IT IS NOT GOOD FOR MAN TO BE ALONE❗" 🙏 IMAGINE what we could do in fellowship with each other ❗ IMAGINE all of us lonely people living together on big farms, working together, eating together and helping and comforting each other through joys and sorrows 🙏 We could work MIRACLES in Jesus name 🙏

I don't know, we gotta find these groups she's talking about.

@@farzadsharif9297 question is where to find them ?

@@mlamulimakhula3189 shall we instead be the people who starts something like that?

Agreed 100 percent

Yes!

me too... me too

We can make it. The world is full with kind people, and many are closer than we think. Let's remind that to ourselves.

Yes!

Not as long as 5yearsvof it, I hope. The world changed ...Shawshank kind

That is probably the only way it would work for me. I have my wish, but I have an obstacle. I only need to get published. I have a cutting-edge work completed. It took a looong time to do. A first rate product.

Or a leader of a big church. Just imagine if @JoelOsteen did this in his church service attended by thousands each week.

@@MAGA-rd7si Or any Christian group for that matter, home groups. Remember she started with a small group and everyone in that group met their goals. The body should be doing this anyway. What a witness it would be.

@General G. Washington What's your obstacle?

I subscribe to this thread.

There are 8 billion people on the planet and they need to help themselves. Helping others is a cop out for you to distract yourself from your own problems, of which it sounds like you have absolutely none. Sounds like you never really had a problem or a care in the world and now you want to pretend to help others some day because you yourself are a waste. The very fact you think a housewife could help another person by simply speaking to them shows how out of touch you are. Deal with your own imaginary problems. You’re not a stay at home mom that’s not a real thing you’re just a chick who makes copies of herself and doesn’t work. I bet you tell people being a mom is a full time job (LOL).

I promise you every person that has read this thinks you should go and say thank you to your husband.😉

You can always use your degree to teach others or work in the NGO field (just two examples). Writing a book sounds like a great plan as well. If you want to start with something that doesn't put as much pressure, you can create a blog/vlog and combine philosophical theories with practical experiences from your own life. That way you would bring a fresh perspective on concepts that we probably take for granted. I used to think philosophy wasn't incredibly useful in the real world, but when I started to deal with ethical dilemmas, social justice issues, and developing skills like resilience and leadership, I turned to philosophy for help. So, studying philosophy is not in vain; you can do a lot of good in the world with it. Best of luck to you! You deserve to pursue your dreams -- don't let anyone tell you otherwise (including yourself).

At least you have support and the opportunity many of us don’t.

@@richiejohnson her husband should also say thank you to her... you sound like an amazing mom!

Re a leboga 🙏🔥🔥

In México we have a similar expression that is 'Al que no habla Dios no lo oye' it means, Who doesn't speak God doesn't hear. Sorry if there is any mistake, I'm still learning English jaja

We too have one in Kerala which is similar. "karayunna kuttike palu kittullu" which translates to only a child who cries will get milk

Not sure if Chinese has any saying like that. I think if I wanted to speak up or cry as a child, my parents would just tell me to stop.

​@aliviawu5618 Asian culture be like. I'm Asian too so I relate. Everyone here just wants you to swallow your problems.

MsUrsula777 oof

MsUrsula777 you saved me 😅😅

already figured that out on my own. about to reach a six-year goal in december

So simple and yet so profound.

As far as dreams taking a long time... I had a dream, once. Wanted to be an animator. The coolest studio ever was a whole state away. Well, I wanted this-really wanted it, having visited during a family vacation and checked the place out. And by about 7 years later, it seemed like daily life was a rut with a job I was too complacent in to ever quit. So I got myself fired, and and a friend where the studio was emailed to say she and her boyfriend were looking for a roommate. Made the move in 3 hours, got into town, and discovered the studio was completely different and less inviting- in fact, it was under new ownership. People sometimes make a hasty move to where they want to be, and don't consider that it's not static and might not be what they expected when they get there. Well, that wasn't enough to kill the enthusiasm! I made a bunch of short animations after living with several different people, and a few years later a former roommate asked if I would be interested in working at his studio as an editor. Had the interview, got the job, and boom: by some stroke of fate or luck, the former owner of the animation studio I had wanted to work at was teaching a class that was very expensive, and the editing job made just enough to pay for it. The class was great- so thrilling in fact, that I completely exhausted all the childhood excitement for animation in those 14 weeks. But during the class, the teacher noticed I was making my own clay for the assignments and a fellow student offered to buy the first pack I ever made anyone else. Our efforts ended up being shown at the Portland Art Museum and the school, with the logo "Make Film", was the very same building I used to walk by, thinking "I wish I could afford to study there". Fast forward a few more years, and even though I never animated again, I now make clay for other animators so that they can feel the same wonder and bright-eyed curiosity that I felt in the animation class and childhood. It took a long time but I had a dream, chased it, caught it, and now I help other animators follow theirs. Your calling in life doesn't have to be just for you, it can be for other people. And in some ways, that has been more rewarding than if I had just been an animator at that studio. The teacher is gone now, but in the last months of his life he requested some clay samples, which he was excited about when he got them, and now they are being used in a documentary about his life. Once you have fulfilled your wildest dreams, don't forget to come up with more- there's no limit to what we can accomplish if we don't give up on it and work hard until it's ours! As for the next dream... Well, I always wanted to be a singer. Started on that 20 years ago, and sing in front of strangers several times a week. Not going to stop until that dream is seen through :-)

I found that quite refreshing too!

Yes, self help is a bit dated bc it's to damn self absorbed

Omg, B O M B observation!!

I wholly agree with you

I absolutely love this video it motivates me so much to keep going whilst staying real at the same time. ☺💖 Dreams AND Obstacles! 🌟🌼🌟💎👏

I totally agree with you! I would love to see a movie of a group like that. If I get the chance in a few years, I will make a serie with a similar plot.

I agree! There probably is a movie like this out there . Still, how unique. Years ago I bought her book “refuse to choose” and I’m going to buy it again

Agree!!

@@chavamartinez3102The show is called Stienfield,

@@solosailorsv8065 I didn't find any show called like that.

Antisocial or asocial? Big difference.

You are taking the opportunities now. That's what matters. You can make new friends when you go back to school while you're still working on those old ones.

@@xnsxxnsx you understood the implication.

@@xnsxxnsx Really. Do you feel smarter now?

If you still have friends and a home, a decade is better than 30 yrs! Please. At 53. I get regret. Do whatever now!

bpy dgy yesssssssssss

bpy dgy Yes, Barbara is a wonderful character. Another Mr Rodgers? Likeable, warm-hearted, unassuming, encouraging.

Call Amy and Tina! Who has their numbers?

YES!

I would do a podcast, on and off for over a year. Whenever I couldn't think of a topic or I felt inadequate to the task, I'd pick up one of the 2 Barbara Sher books I owned, and then everything fell in place.

I wish I knew what to do about it...isolating. I feel like I've fell down a hole

@@heaven7360 awwe I know how you feel at least with social media we can see and hear and feel each other's pain and that is one way I fill my time up so I don't feel so isolated .But ill admit its my own doing .Hope you feel better soon ,as they say ..time to pull up your socks Right ? 🤣💖God Bless ya

this is very relevant to me as well, ever since my core friend group had a falling out, i noticed slowly all grand dreams fizzling out into nothing

@@MrJypsye hon I don't know how old you are but it's unfortunately a normal thing for friends to spread out as we get older but I know I'm still on thier minds as I am theirs but it still sucks . BIG HUGS

Absolutely. When I stopped studying I was isolating myself alot, and all my dreams seemed fizzy and unattainable. I'm glad I kept fighting no matter how much negativity I feel from being so disconnected.

church lol. no way

Yeah- I might try this too. Been doing art and music in small bits with others and could do so much more on my own without their “ help”

I was thinking the same thing. A few years ago I found myself forced to be completely alone. I do have lots of friends all over the world. But many of my best friends moved away from my city to care for parents or for new jobs, leaving me basically friendless except for a large group of friends online and on the phone. (My husband and soul mate of 25 years had died a few years earlier, which had left me deeply in grief for quite a while). At first, I felt bitterly lonely. Then I started to write and make art and do business (I work from home) like never before. I began meditating every day, work out regularly, and stopped going out to eat a lot like I used to with friends. Consequently, I've lost a lot of unwanted weight, turned out thousands of works of art, am having a blast writing two novels and reams of poetry, and like myself more than I ever have in my life. Being alone - even, you might say, isolated - has been a true blessing. I am a very social person. I never thought this would happen to me, but I like it! I feel like finally - I am getting to know myself.

ABSOLUTELY

@@cutzymccall7675 Thank you for sharing your story. I have a feeling I am embarking on a similar journey, but it's a tough start. Your story feels like a message to trust and move forward. I wish you lots of happiness and light

How so ?

Striking a balance

Good point

now there is Govt imposed isolation because of covid

.......You got to have a dream....to make a dream come true. Thanks, government!

Depends on personality. People high on "agreeableness" on the Big 5 agree with other people so much, to make other people happy, that they don't know what they want themselves. So it could be true for them. Maybe not so much for other people.

I was using an online platform where you connect with strangers to have a work or study friend over the Internet for an hour. The idea is good but I noticed I felt uncomfortable with the Americans as I could tell they were always faking happiness when they felt bad underneath. I'm English and we are more honest with our feelings here and don't go around pretending to be upbeat all the time, although still not as honest about our feelings as some other cultures.

@@katec9893 I thought Brits repress their feelings.

@@cheetobandido546 Well it's true that people here don't like to be overly dramatic. But if things are a bit rubbish we're comfortable admitting it. But I found a lot of Americans only felt comfortable around positive feelings.

We gotta find these groups that she's talking about.

Wrong. Individualism isn't the same as isolation.

Great vision for a great world. For the most part. What about those who have dreams of world domination? : O

@@suzannenorton3807 good point.

Aparently not

So true!

@@JohnMiller-hg7ty hey hope all is well She is so good

It’s all dependent upon which types and characters in the group , some just push you down the drains

@@georgeikinya2779 great observation so true

Then suffer your whole life

I do not know the reason for your isolation but Covid lockdowns in OZ have isolated so many people and I wonder if those in power realize the damage caused by such mandates?

@@noiamspartacus8965 Oh, it's done no harm here and it's also been over ages. If you check the "Coronovirus on the worldometer" The Australia list went up from 126 to 16. So we're doing really rotten. In fact I think, on the world list, it looks about the worlds worst and I can't understand why.

I'm isolated by COVID myself! I'm disabled physically from cancer treatments & therefore live with my elderly folks. My Dad's 85yo now and has heart failure - COVID-19 could easily kill him. So, I'm in total isolation except for dentist & doctors appointments. Heartfelt commiserations. 💔

@@noiamspartacus8965 they do, it’s all planned

I’m right there with you...

I 'm also there...

wow darling i saw your hand reaching out and I just wanted to say bless u babylove

Well well. More quarantine periods to come if we cannot overcome this pandemic.

Everyone in the world is with you. She is absolutely correct and this is exactly why these elites have demanded we all isolate ourselves so they can be in charge. These months of isolation has in turn has caused massive depression. If you pay attention they aren't following their own rules while this is going on. My only advise is work on yourself. Continue to learn, continue to watch these, get some sunshine and anything else you can to improve this will be over soon. Come out better than ever before! Much Love Everyone should be working on themselves while this is going on. Everything is on the internet (except what they don't want..parler anyone?) educate yourself, learn. Be Brave. SMILE

What a wonderful way to say it! Yes!

Tim Haig yes! I agree ☝️

Hey I have one. Who's gonna help me with my dream of not being isolated?

Kevin Mathewson me too.

Hey, Kevin! Start a meetup group, or just a random group where you ask people you think might be 'interesting,' or whatever your criteria is, and get together and do something. A guy started a "Let's do something fun!" meetup group, which has over 3000 members, plus a core gang that he can always count on! I had to pay close attention, because his events filled up, usually, within an hour and a half after he posted. He had movies at his house, went to dinner at new places, and his swan song was a thing at the art museum, with lunch before. That filled up 3 months ahead of the event!! He did it for 4 or 5 years, and now he is taking a hiatus because he needed a break from all that group fun!! If you build it, they will come!! Elsa Grace, you try it too!!

Best of luck @Stephen Bassette 💫

@@wangumunene-christelle2023 Thank you!

31 is not that old . Try to start at 60 and get back to me

@@Treize132 Dang, you're 60? I imagine that's tough. Hope you get people to help you out! 🙏

31! Its so young

Yes, that´s a big thing. That´s why these "new age" guys Abraham Hicks, that Barbara doesn´t like ;) call it "the art of allowing".

I refer to that as "don't block my blessing".

People find it hard to receive... especially if they sre natural givers... and some people think they are not worthy ... 💫

its a psychological thing - people cannot take what they didn't earn. so the way to have them accept your help is to make them feel like they earned the help. that could take many forms - like "please can you help me" and trade off.

They must get rid of the belief that their life must be hard to succeed. Because society often pushes a narrative that you have to work so hard to succeed when that's not the case for everything

Me too 💞 I have the hardest time asking for anything. Sending you strength!

I relate a lot with you! I have to believe too, because some of the people around me reassure me that they really do want to help me, and that there really is nothing wrong with asking for help. Asking for anything should be a normal thing to do, with no guilt whatsoever :)

May all your dream come true December 2021 ❤️ Best wishes to every one

When you ask for something, and always received a no, that's what made me isolate myself, I always help, my classmates, the people around me, everyone, but I ask something once, nope, they always forget it. And they will try to talk with me when they have no one else to be with.... But surely all people can't be like this can they? That's what also makes me think, it's me, something is wrong with me.

I learnt many years ago never to ask anyone for help...too many horrid people either want to see you suffer or they exploit your need for help

She has so many videos online. She was on PBS for years. Lots of books too. She was the greatest. Good luck to you and the rest of us too.

Well said. Closed mouths don't get fed.

U are right u don't ask u don't connect u do t find help idea or confort, I'm bipolar a very difficult things for me to do but I'm full of energy and will

ok thanks. saved me the time

I remember New Year's Eve 1986 into 1987. It was a difficult time for me as I was about to tell my boyfriend that this was the last time I would break up with him. We didn't have that discussion until the next day. For the time being, we went to a party in Kalamazoo. I made up my mind, enterprising 23 year old that I was, that I would do that networking thing everyone was talking about. So I told several people that I was looking for a job in publishing on the East Coast. I could use some, you know, connections. Everyone that very politely, but in the end there were no connections to, you know, job offers. Oh well. I broke up with the boyfriend, encouraged him to go out with someone else, and left that whole scene at the train station as I headed home. A few days later, I got a call from one of the people at the party, a college professor who had been a good friend of my boyfriend. He asked me if I had met the hippie looking guy who had been sitting in the corner all night. Was that the one with the long beard, with the wife with the hair parted straight down the middle, kind of scraggly? I almost literally ask it that way, but probably not. These were the only two people I chose not to meet that evening, because obviously they had nothing to offer. It turned out that, according to this friend, the man was the son of the publisher of a major magazine out of Washington DC. He gave me his phone number, I called him, and he offered to talk to his father. His father had no jobs or further connections to offer, but he did relay some good advice. It taught me a lesson I will never forget. Never underestimate people and the value they can have for you if you simply ask. And don't be a snob, even if it's 1987 and you think everyone should dress for success.

why would you want this summarized, it was beautiful and inspiring watching the whole way through.

And you literally have no idea what you could bring to another person. :)

Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

@@creativemindplay I think this oftentimes

the power of just talking to strangers when they mention something you know you could help them with. literally makes you feel so alive and it’s one of the best things you can do, connection is so important

you're too nice because you're weak and this clip give you reasons for it. people like you get crushed by life.

We gotta find these groups.

Beautiful thought, and true🤍 She ignited something very powerful.

Your Soooooooo Beautiful!!!!!!!!!!

😭😭😭 I know right?!! And she's such a beautiful soul ❤️

Yes Barbara Sher’s legacy lives on! 🥰🙏🏽✨

Has she passed away?

+Brayden zArteest - Oops. I thought I was posting as myself... I am actually Brayden's mom, Marty. Those many years ago that I first contacted Barbara, he was just a baby. And now - his art has blossomed and he's living a life that so many would like to. Me as well. Being help-seekers and help-givers has been life-altering for each of us.

Marty Wilson love you both... :)

that's awesome! with the advice of a friend, I also bought her book (this was in 2004), and I believe it was called "Wishcraft"? I never did have an "idea party", because I was too embarrassed. However, with the help of her advice, and getting out of my comfort zone, I ended up owning my own company. She's amazing! I recently was thinking about her, but couldn't remember her name, and I just clicked on this TED talk, and here she is! There is something special about her :)

Great comment. Thank you.

I've heard of that book. Hmmm, I see a connection here. Hello Amazon, or maybe Audible. Thank you for mentioning that. : )

This statement might help those people who get stuck in some form of way whether it be career development choice or relationship choice. Sometimes people get stuck. They forget to either press YES or NO. Thats the issue she was talking about. Just do it.

I still remember saying that same thing to myself, many years ago.

You have a point. Still, we NEED each other.

Haha! That is SO true!!

Well she did say she hated new age positive thinking so I think you summed it up well.

🙋🏽‍♀️ I would LOVE to know WHERE to find this group!!

Keep searching for your group. We all walk our own path. I love Barbara's videos. And I love Dave Goggins. Who reaches you and what you do with that inspiration is up to you. Help others. We usually relate to people like us. There are people out there for you. I love all of them for sharing their ideas. Not every one can pick me off the floor when I'm down. Dave is great for that.

She was a global treasure even

Did she pass away?

I was about to ask the same question

@@lindamon5101 yeah unfortunately :(

A.A.

@@LisaMaryification why would you suggest that!.,

Become the torch carrier for the one next Generation

YAS!✨👐🏼✨🦋

You have the experience! Come up with it! But also we can do it as well.

It's depressing, sick and psychopathic. I don't know if people who say those things to others actually live in those self-destructive and self-negating ways themselves. Always chasing/pursuing things while neglecting yourself is like chasing drugs and excitement so you can numb yourself and ignore your needs and problems. It's not depressing to people who have those values but it is depressing to those who don't share those values.

Btw, I destroyed myself by living in those unhealthy ways. I didn't know how to stop and tend to my needs. I just kept pushing myself. I have no life worth living because of it.

@@SirenVosa I've been at the bottom too, it sounds like you are a survivor and have learned a lot of coping skills and tools for living, good for you! You've also learned what NOT to do, so use all that strength and be proud of still being here, understand you still have many choices. Every day just make one better choice and stay open to people. Life can be tough but just keep going. If you didn't care about yourself you wouldn't still be here. A wise therapist told me the same thing. 😉❤️

Feeling a need for being part of a society, part of a group, does not go well with the fundamentalistic religion of worldwide neoliberal capitalism, which does best as long as everybody stays put in a state of "individual predatory cannibal", calling what they took from their fellow humans to swagger and brag with it themselves "succcess". Depression is an individual reaction towards a wider societal problem.

Awesome I get so sick of this manifesting BS no it's what cards your delt and which lottery ya win ( talking about where your born etc not money ) ,a woman or man or child dosnt manifest being murdered or robbed etc .Yes there is a grain of truth to everything , but it's not the be all and end all .This humanity is still very young ,we have alot to learn but we'll get there we have too !! For our children and our children's children 💙

BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE ❗🙏🏼 🎈🕊

It's true, I've seen it many times. It just takes time.

I'd be more than happy to have a talk with you. I have an odd friend who I helped (pushed, dragged, inspired) out of his slump. He's been my friend since 5th grade and is doing much better now!

thank you for the kind offers... im not sure how dming works on youtube but i will try to.

You are me. I hope we both get stoked and finally crush it soon like we knew we would. We will. You will. Go do it and then omgawd tell me so I can be stoked for you and believe it's all true n possible for us 😬😁 good vibes forever. Erupt anyway do what you feel like you were always just DESTined to dude.

@@ritika2563 I'm here for you kid

@@beckatase9266 does it function in a similar way as these groups? If so, I’d really like to join.

Wow! That’s so great. Bless you. 💕

Have you gone yet? I too want to help the Ukrainian crisis some way. I am a primary care provider…I have a passport but no connections..,,help!,

@@susiemartin6497 yes! I don’t know why it won’t save any of my replies to you. Look up Type of Wood, they’re a group i worked with there that can get you connected.

Thank you so much for your kind heart! With live from Ukraine! 🤍

YOUR FORGOT TO TELL YOU THAT YOU HAVE WING'S.....LOVE & HUG'S TO YOU SWEETIE...I THINK YOU ARE MARVELOUS..... DISCOVER YOUR WORTH... 🙏💞🤗😇

*YOUR FAMILY

I realized our families don't know How, one must widen the circle...I'm learning! ;)

Sounds familiar. They cut me out of will because I wasn't Catholic or a doctor

@@fredfischer4418 DON'T FRET MY DARLING....🙏😇💖🤗

Blame the great reset and the globalist elite. "I want to vaccinate the world," Billy Gates.

Yes! My 20yr old daughter on her own moved outta state to Montana to get away from the state of isolation she was in.

I’m dealing with the same thing. Best thing I can say is find what you are passionate about and do that. You’ll attract like minded people who share the same interests

You wouldn't happen to be living in south east Jamaica would you? I want to make friends too.

Same situation. We can at least make a chat group or video chatting

Fear is the biggest prison..and most of what we fear is bigger in our mind than in reality. We let fear have the reigns of our life...instead of taking the reigns from fear and owning our choices. Me included...

You know what in the moment of solitude, invest in yourself take yourself on self care dates, get some new clothes, go to spas. Post it up more on social media and you’ll see how people start being attracted to you. The thing is sometime we want a social circle but we don’t just want any social circle we want a social circle that will naturally attract themselves to you. Start posting up quotes about how you feel and who you are people will take to you. And don’t fear I’m saying this because I was going through the same thing as you but I realised connection with yourself first will bring the right crowd around you. And don’t fear to put yourself out there!!!

Me too!

I recommend an interesting book about the English language called ‘the mother tongue’ by bill Bryson. After I read your comment I feel your grasp of English is much better than you realize! God bless you and your humility!

@@brenx9048 thank you for taking the time to comment and the recommendation, I have a smile on my face now!

@@joannedavey3445 Your goal sounds great, I hope its going well. When I was learning French and Italian I found schemes at the local universities where I matched up with a buddy and we did a language exchange ie they'd practice English with me and vice versa. So have a look for something like that near you.

Hi Joanne! I pray that God gives you everything you need to fulfill the plans he has for your life, including helping addicts. May God give you the strength, love, compassion, courage and wisdom you need, always in Jesus name amen 🙏 For English classes, I highly recommend Cambly. You can take online classes with native speaking teachers on there. God bless you!

Thank you, blendedbananas. :-)

Barbara Sher Jo

If something makes you feel bad then why would you think that doing that to someone else would have good results?

Yes.... positive thinking is a powerful tool and important, but many people abuse the idea of it and completely discount or even deny and shame those desiring community, relationships, solutions.

@Dela Flowers why is shaming worse when a person is young?

This comment!!! Thank you for sharing this.... I’m going through a divorce and starting over at 44 with absolutely nothing to my name and no education to boot and on top of that I’ve got multiple autoimmune illnesses and I’m TERRIFIED 🥺like so much so I’m paralyzed from it. I stumbled upon this video by no accident. I didn’t know who she was but I immediately fell in love with her. Is there any particular books of hers you’d recommend for me? Your story is amazing and Id love to know more and I want to be the next one to be able to come back here and write exactly what you did 🥰 Thank you for your comment...it helps me tremendously, to see some light in a dark world today

@@lah-tee5412 Book is Wishcraft.

@@clarareger3955 thnx.👍

Nice!!! Good for you 👏

@@lah-tee5412 Hi, you can get the Sher books in the libraries (her first one, I guess all of them are good). And there should be plenty of talks online. Wish you the best. - I am just experimenting with breathing through the nose (also TEDx talk) - maybe that could help with the symptoms of your diseases ?

Also Sher wrote another award-winning book: "Live the Life You Love" with some cool exercises in it. On her membership site called "Hanging Out with Barbara Sher" I learned about her book club that goes through the exercises with others and one of Sher's mentored coaches.

TheJaybezo I just watched this talk and scrolled down to the comments and was really pleasantly surprised to see that she's the author of refuse to choose! I've seen that book at my local library and I loved the bits I'd seen, and I was thinking about picking it up because it seems really appropriate for me. I saw your comment and immediately was like "Wait, that's also Barbara Sher? I knew I liked her." Lol

Thank you for this info. She is one of the few inspirational speaker that penetrate through me, now I would surely buy her books.

OHH! I have to read Refuse to Choose, then, if that is one of her books. Thanks!

Thank you so much for the informative comments on Barbara's works .I'll have to get these books and find out more about her inspirational thoughts. Start living my dreams.

I think you're confusing isolation with solitude. Solitude is neutral, and isolation is negative (at least when it's about social isolation) and often implied that it's forced on someone rather than chosen.

Your right I never got anything done with a crew I always get things done bymyself and I have the best dreams when I'm alone

@@kaworunagisa4009 You are right. 'Solitude' would be the 'more' correct term to use, as opposed to 'isolation'.

@@philuntaysterling3094 How do you do that? Would you be able to share? I tend to believe we need each other to fully thrive in life. That's my opinion based on my experience. I"m open to learning.

@@magdamadsen2135 Dreams are internal, rarely are they obvious and most of the time they have to be found. To find what is personally fulfilling I had to study different things, read different books and work on developing myself: the journey of self-discovery requires learning. Deep learning takes undivided attention and focus, something available only when you are alone. I agree with you that humans are social beings, we do need other people, but not for everything and not at all times. Like many things, we need a balance :)

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Except for recommending ritalin for children who have concentration problems.

What a wonderful woman you are! I thoroughly enjoyed your talk here Barbara. Best wishes...

I appreciate you so, so, so very much Barbara!!! What a blessing you are to this Earth. Thank you for being you. This talk and your message really touched me and made me cry. Thank you for the hope.

Barbara Sher Beautiful! Thank you so much for giving us hope and inspiring us🙏🏻❤️

My wish is to make a living writing song lyrics for international singers (luckylyrics.com). My obstacle is that despite the fact that people in the music industry tell me my songs are very creative and catchy, I just can't seem to find the right people and land that perfect collaboration contract I've been looking for. And also....I'm 34. Decided I wanted to be a songwriter 11 years ago already. Feels like an impossible dream now, but I still have a tiny ounce of hope. :) Regardless, I really enjoyed this Tedx Talk. It's amazing how many people you've helped. :)

Hi, Barbara. This is awesome, thank you for sharing your light! Big hugs!

Really? I didn't think it was that good. I found it lacking and not that believable

@@palestar828 yet I’ve watched it over a half dozen times

Same here

Same. It's trauma that made me not trust people enough to ask for help or depend on them.

I love myself. I think it's self loathing people who just have this thing about finding groups.

Eric Me it's gonna be hard for you to change if you're in love with you current self

@@anonkiddo good.

How does a person learn to hate themselves?

Rene Williams lol so simple - but it's hard to explain in words. there are so many people who face the worst parts of life - it's so simple for these people to find themselves looking at their own life in a negative light

Monika M. They are all like this. They all want to tell everyone as much as they can just like she is. They always re tell the same things to mass amounts so if your dragged around with them, you soon learn they story tell the same things a million times and they Gossip about everyone they know with everyone they know, about whats new lol

Monika M. .

Adopt a grandmother, there is probably a lonely elder in your community who would love some company.

M. M. So true abt that last line.

M. M. Bingo!

Thank you for putting into words what thoughts I couldn't in this moment🧡

I have the same dream! And I really relate to your comment.

Great accomplishment! My best of luck, you can do this! ✨🙏🏻❤️

Dustin Petersen hi! I graduate this coming May at the age of 46! So I understand, I’ve become a little nervous about finding a job. Do you have any tips on the best way to start looking for a job in the technical age? I mean it’s so different now, you don’t just walk in and fill out an application. FYI....Im hoping to find a job counseling people with substance abuse disorders. Good Luck!!

@Dustin Petersen - In this time where we are now living longer lives than ever, that means we work longer too, it makes sense to find a career path that makes you happy. I couldn't afford college or university as a teen & after 25+yrs working in finance, just imagining that being all there was for the rest of my working life was soul-destroying. When I started studying in my 40s, I thought I'd be the oldest person there, but I was surrounded by people of the same age, all looking forward to changed futures. Best of luck with yours.

Awesome man, keep it up!

@@tammyanderson2372 Hey, it's doable if you persist. As a 30 years old techie who switched careers to web development in the last couple years with minimal academic study (but a lot of internet study and practice), I would recommend you to learn to think like the young generation do (I already have to with my teenage brother and his peers) - if there's a problem, look for an app to fix it, learn to google (it's an adjective, btw), use digital resources and innovate. I'm 100% sure it will work in counseling as well!

Thank you. I was confused what the point was.

@@maximomanabat8382 haha Wow. Really?

Like social welfare only that a training among those helping you is optional.

@Chuck Norris i believe its super important to deliberately choose community among positive people who are willing to grow and learn on an ongoing basis....these types of people hold each other accountable and inderstand why.

​@Chuck Norris Then you find people who do. Finding groups of people who are more aligned to what you want to accomplish helps. For instance, my professor is a 3D artist, (modeling, AR, etc). He kept telling us how the secret to his career was specifically going to gaming conventions, video game conferences, and tech.developer nights at local bars. If he just went to any old party or event, he probably wouldn't find many people interested in hiring someone to make 3D characters for them. So he went to places that *specifically* was for or catered to people who *would* hire a guy like him. This also goes for friends groups. If your friends just keep abandoning you when you need them most, or are generally toxic and shutting you down...find new friends. Dating someone who doesn't support you and actively prevents you from achieving your dreams? Find someone else to date. etc. etc. etc.

Andrew me too. First time that see this lovely lady