Do you ever suffer from a lack of confidence? Why? Or do you have any advice for others in here?

whenever i feel less confident i remember this quote by Bruce Lee, "I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine".

Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.

My mum always used to say “do you really think people care? Nobody’s looking at you, they’re all worried about themselves”. People that truly see you, love you.

They say: The deeper the V-neck, the higher the confidence.

I think Russel is slowing becoming an Ancient Greek Philosopher

Confidence, at least for me, has been largely down to accepting my own "flaws". Accepting that it's okay to look stupid sometimes, to get things wrong, to have awkward and weird moments. It's all okay.

I often refer to Stoic thoughts when I'm feeling insecure. Primarily understanding that I can't control what other people think of me and that most of my anxiety is coming from my own imagination. Gaslighting myself so to speak.

This guy is one of the most authentic people out there, he truly wears his heart on his sleeve, you get what you see with him.

"If you want to feel confident, stop judging yourself but do work on yourself." -Russell Brand

1. Don't compare yourself to others 2. Find something you're passionate about and get good at it 3. Investigate your problems

When you said a lack of self confidence is like paralysis.. I felt that. “Oh the things I would do if only I looked like this or had that…” It’s hindered my human experience and I hate that. I don’t need to see myself as flawless.. I just want to accept them enough that they can’t hold me back anymore.

Eating healthy, exercising, and no alcohol. Those were the three things that gave me confidence, I surprised myself with how confident I became

You gotta be confident just to wear those shirts..

1. Don’t compare 2. Commit in one passion 3. Look at your weaknesses and work on improving them

I feel like my lack of confidence comes from comparing to what I hope to grow into and judging myself for not being that already! I’m too hard on myself!

He's such a sweet man. His struggles with drug abuse and mental health I believe have helped him become such a nice guy.

Hey Russell, I am 20 and I really think your videos have high values especially in times like these. thank you

I love how he updates everyday with something positive

I lived my whole life feeling like everyone was better than me and feeling worthless. I depended on achievements and praise to feel confident I became a perfectionist, had high standards and so obsessively competitive. Then I started working and wasn’t getting that praise and things quickly escalated. I was depressed. I hated work and everyone in it. Things were awful. My biggest help was understanding myself and the way I think and realizing I was not different and everyone thought like me and I was not a weirdo. And then I realized confidence should come from within!! Not from outside praises and acceptance! Things changed ever since. Even at work I started to shine and I even stopped hating it and everyone in it. My life is so much better now.

Nailed it. If your focus is external you can't help but compare yourself to others. Look inside. Learn about your own genius. Learn what others see in you that you may be taking for granted. That's where your confidence is hiding.

Funny as it sounds, the thing that has given me the most confidence is saying others around me are good people, even only in my mind. That includes you, reading this, a good person.

"True confidences is when someone accepts and embraces who they are."

I once read: what is one thought about yourself that if you hadn’t had, it would’ve made your life easier?… And I think most of us have one or two consistent judgments nagging in our heads constantly. If only my belly looked like X or I had Y… And life escapes us while we try to achieve this goal that we have auto imposed and that makes us ignore life’s important things. I agree with you, we need to work on ourselves but not to the point of obsessing over the results

"Don't live your life constantly thinking about how you'd get on in an imaginary fight" made me chuckle

*You cannot be comfortable without your own approval.*

I've been bullied all my life and suffer anxiety and depression. It's hard to get through the day. Thank you for this. God bless.

I’ve played piano for 9 years and am working up to my first concert. Thank you for posting 🙏

I have always been shy and had very low confidence but I worked very hard throughout the years to the point where I feel confident and I wouldn't call myself shy anymore. Yet people still often say things like 'aww your shy' 'aren't you too shy to do that?' And 'the quiet one'. They say it to my face as if they are telling me what they think is my weakness. It still hurts me every time!

"That which you most need will be found where you least want to look." - Carl Jung

I like before I even watch the video... I’m that confident 😉🤭

“Stop judging yourself, but do work on yourself” wow that hit different

I love seeing his transition into guru. His beard, clothes, words all slowly becoming wiser :D

Finally someone doing something dope with their platform. Keep helping others shine brother🔥

How the hell did he know i was sitting here on my phone with the little ear buds? 🤔

This video is timeless and well thought out. Helped me see through some difficult times of self analysis. The danger is overconfidence. Success brings that and what we see as faliure the opposite. The creative overactive mind often suffers this and that is me. Balance is what i am striving for. Good luck to all and be happy with self.

I love this because we see how charismatic Russell usually is and him being authentic and telling us even he is insecure at times feels so relatable and he feels more human and reassuring because we can achieve that confidence too if we believe in ourselves.

"People think that I'm confident because I'm a professional show-off" .....lol

I'm coming up on 13 clean and sober from heroin and crack cocaine. Russell, I can relate so much to your videos. You ,Sir..are a beautiful human being. Rock on.

For the longest I can remember I’ve always hated myself even thinking back to when I was about 5 years old but not for the the way I act or the way I look, I don’t compare myself to others and I understand that I(we are) am not In control of everything that happens except our own situation. That being said I work out, listen to music, do things that make me feel good yet I still feel this way. I don’t like to think negatively but I feel like this feeling will never go away, it went away for a year back in jr year of high school but for the past 3 years it’s been back to this way. I’m not over weight and I’m not that bad looking but I absolutely hate myself and can’t seem to figure out why. Even after all the therapy, seeing a psychologist, going to impatient programs. I still see everything in the worst light when it comes to my self yet I can be so bright in other situations regarding others. You don’t have to read this or even like this comment but I hope who ever feels my pain overcomes this hardship and learns that no one is perfect and we all have purpose. Thank you for listening and stay safe💯

I suffered (pass tense) big time. I had parents who used to beat me and put me down at every opportunity while under their roof. An evil little voice continued the work for them after they passed nearly 30 years ago, the main one being how 'useless' I was as my relationships, friendships and dreams broke down for reasons beyond my limited perception. After many years of restlessly searching/researching WHY? Two answers I deducted was: 1. Stop listening to those dead voices; and 2. increase my perception through reading reading reading, Fiction first solely to increase my vocabulary without overloading my brain with too much technical information before eventually moving fairly recently on to non-fiction for technical data as my ability at retention increased. Now I've become a gibbering idiot. Much better than the shrinking violet that was constantly taken advantage off or kowtowing to manipulation or hiding in plain sight.

"Stop Judging yourself. Do go to work on yourself", that's the most concise self help I can ever think of seeing, love you man!

I actually love your content...it's really helped me in a positive way.

I've learned confidence comes and goes at different points in our lives and he explains so well why that is and what to do about it. I've never been afraid to work on myself but I'm finally starting to learn how to let go of self judgment and replace it with self empathy

Thus man is one of a kind. And has such a unique perspective on life.

"Everyone wants to be something they're not" -Bill Bernard "Never compare your insides to someone else's outsides" -Carl Allen Brown

Russell: “Just try and be who you are, don’t try and imagine yourself in an imaginary fight” My brain cell: He knows :0

You have changed so much, I love you man. Love and light to all of you there.

His confidence and charisma are the best I’ve ever seen !! He should write a book about the subject. He is completely hypnotizing ! Gorgeous intense eyes!

"Stop judging yourself, but do go to work on yourself." Excellent advice. Thanks Russell.

Lack of self confidence is merely one arguing on behalf of ones imaginary limitations ✌️

This is so interesting to hear you say this as I see you as someone who has such a great ability to communicate. It makes me feel good that you hate dinner parties too.

Russel, it's increadibly nice to see a celebrity like you has enough humility to be amongst "the people"- and making standard "How-to" vidoes on UKposts, regarding those topics we all deal with, yet don't want to admit openly. Truely inspiring to see :)

Confidence is the most important key that can only be developed through practice.

1. Dont keep comparing yourself to everyone else. Be grateful for things you have. 2. Have goals and Become more skillful.

Russel I've noticed years ago that you have a much deeper mind than what I first thought when I first seen you on TV. I can't put into words really the way you can, how much I appreciate your existence in this world. You have a way of putting thoughts into speech that is just inspiring. Its a gentle and humble, open minded nature you have that is truly unique. I am now a true fan. I just discovered this channel now but you know ill be watching, listening thinking and understanding. We all want to better ourselves and your words help me to personally understand what's going on without forcing an idea on me. I take things with a pinch of salt these days but I do consider other peoples thoughts. Massive respect to you for taking this road in life. You are helping people.

What a great message from someone I always thought felt differently. How could anyone give this a thumbs down?

*_Confront the weak parts of yourself and work to banish them with experiences. Your willingness to confront your demons will cause a change within yourself_*

We often find ourselves either under playing or over playing. Do not pretend to be what you are not and don't refuse to be what you are. Nisargadatta Maharaj

“Don’t stress out, poke your chest out” helped me a lot

Russel thank you this was a really helpful video - I’m going through this now as someone single in their 20s and it feels so easy to get into an insecure way of thinking coming out of the pandemic but you’re right about being true to your self

You’re wise beyond your years, thank you for using your platform the way you do,

this video helped me out so much today. truely happy you make these mate, great choice of words

"stop judging yourself, but do go to work on yourself" very wise. more people need to hear this message instead of receiving pity and fake reassurance

Russell, you're like a friend [who helps me out with good advice] I never have to meet or talk to, but still a friend. Thanks for that mate.

Been waiting for a video with this title. Thank you. 💜

Excellent advice! I agree with much of it. Bravo Russell Brand

Russell... I have been watching quite a few of your UKposts vids and like what you have to say... you speak the truth not in answers but in critical thinking. This video on self confidence is good and shows us the sensitivity you have which is admirable. Now I would say if we want to get to the bottom of this issue we need to go way back to how our society is structured beginning with school, tv, advertising... a lot of it points out how "not good enough" and how we need to strive to become better. I say bullshit to this approach because it supports neurosis.. It is really apparent now a days because of social media and people opening about their struggles but it has always been around. Gossip also plays a part in this which aims to shame people. I so appreciate what you are doing by exposing how we have been manipulated all through our lives...

Looking better absolutely makes me feel better. The mirror is a testament to my effort and prof that I can set a goal, stick to it and transform my life. Women like me more. Men give me respect me. Energy and mood are improved. All of this has given me much higher self confidence.

Who else just looks at him and thinks what a legend

spot on, fella. sometimes overly negative talk feels like my oldest friend.

The authentic and valuable advice this guy gives is invaluable. The only thing worth watching on youtube really.

Brilliant, just what I needed to hear at this point in time.

Russel Brand, I love how you engage with the world. Your energy is amazingly unique. Such a gem.

Love this one, really reached my heart. Thank you

Russell, thanks for being so authentic and for sharing the wisdom you have. I think your words ring true for me and so many others because it's so clear that you are speaking from a place of true transparency and that you are honestly willing to consider that your opinions are just that and that you aren't trying to push an agenda. I know I'm just so tired of words, just useless words that people have no shortage of these days. I'm sick of the noise of chaos and fear and anger that has become the new normal, at least in my country. Your words are lovely words that are being put out there in an effort to make things better. It's awesome that so many people are listening. It feels as if you are making a difference for the good. You are giving people hope that maybe it can be fixed, maybe there is a way to bring some sort of order and calm into this swirling, chaotic mess. So thank you. Truly. You are making this world a better place.

Amazing how I have seen my current self in your words. I was quite confident about two years ago. It was before I decided to pursue improvement in all aspects of my life, because my life was literally going into deep shit. This decision had an unbelievable postive impact on my life, but everything has a price I guess. Because I was in this mode of pursuing my goals, I started to compare myself to those, who have already achieved it. It made me insecure and unconfident, whenever I am in a social group, which involves this subject. I think your words are the cure to this insecurity. I should be confident by comparing myself to who I was yesterday, not to other people fantasies and expectationw. Wise words Russell! I appreciate your guidance.

Thank you Russell. Many of us feel broken from understanding the pain of others and how widespread it is. Sending you a hug. You're making me cry.

Inner dialogue is major key!

sending warm love and hugs Brother. YOu are such a blessing to all who listen to you.

I was really having lack of confidence after performing poorly in my exam but After watching this video Russell really Helped me alot, This was a Really Great Video after searching for like 30mins on yt

The strength of confidence comes from the building up a ritual that reflects with your passion.

Don't recall how I found your channel but love these videos and love listening to your thoughts. Top fella.

damn russell gets this, basically shared the insights and things ive been noticing in my own experience. really great point about the trying to fix ourselves and deciding were gunna be healthy and this and that and thinking were really going to gain something from it

Well done indeed!!! I am a teacher and motivational speaker! I have never been able to explain where my confidence come from. It’s all about acceptance! I know it’s always had something to do with ACCEPTING who “you” are and knowing who you are! Wow thanks for that missing puzzle mate!

Accept yourself for where you are now ya know - that works for me. I’ve stopped trying to play to the world and I’ve a lot more peace ya know - much love! Great vid!!!

Thank you for being so transparent and real here

Love this stuff Russel, thank you. Still resonates as much as it did when this first came out; before all the chaos

Beautifully put Russell. Can’t wait to see you in Bristol next year👍

Happy birthday Russell !!! 44!!! Woo woop it just keeps getting better baby

Dude great vid , I appreciate the fact that you are so honest in your videos it’s really helpful.

Another great video. You seem to have moved to a new level . More grounded . Love listening to you

I say to myself when I feel hopeless and lacking confidence that, no-one can be me, better than me. It helps me to feel unique and that it's good to be different.

Always been a fan of yours Russell just wanted to say, these videos are amazing and relatable on so many levels. Thank you for sharing

Thankyou Russell ❤️ nobody helps me like you help me. Love from Newcastle

How lovely is to see RB develop through years :)

You know what, when someone is being pure and honest, and shares vunerability in something we relate to, it really resonates with us. We *like* to be wholesome, it fills our inner lines with salvation, hope and some joy. Joy that even at our weakest and darkest, it's a place where others have fallen, and that life is ok. I really like this video, i wasn't expecting to, but i had to stop and replay certain sentences over and over. Because despite being things i know, acknoledge as my own experience, sometimes the way it is phrased can really ring your bells upstairs and sink in so well. It is a therapy. To hear it the right way and let it sink in. Makes me feel stronger to re-engage with these thoughts, and chalk up where i am in life right now. I'm doing ok. I have a bit of work to do, but i'm ok :) This purity and honesty, discussing vunerabilities and how to cope with them, it makes you like the person. I like you Russell, you're alright mate ! And if you ever was out with me, we'd take care of those mindless yobs no problem lol. I have always felt naturally defensive of people who i see as being true to self and have something to offer to life, rather than mindless neanderthal behaviour. I didn't like seeing people bullied at school, and 99% of the time i wanted to stop them, and i did many times, just often it was complicated. If we were all like them, society would go down faster than it is now. The old adage that the bullys ended up with broken lives and the 'nerds' with success, proved to be true in my environments. But these days we know better now than to simply point the finger at the 'bad' people, there is sometimes a reason why they end up like that.

Thankx brutha.. friggin love your words. Your amazing. This helps immensely

This guy seems like a real good man. Well rounded, intelligent, and quite a bit of experience. I dig it.

Great message. Thanks for taking the time to explain it in a way that makes sense. Too often do we get bombarded with self-help slogans without any sort of reasonable explanation or meaning behind the phrases. This is great advice for those who lack confidence, and for those who are constantly comparing themselves to others which always seems to lead to self-destruction. Better to completely focus on what would truly benefit ourselves individually through deep self-introspection.