2022 A.D. , simply a truth...

I KNOW of a case of toxic femininity. The son literally doesn't know how to roll toilet paper off the roll at about age 10. He blocked someone's toilet by wiping his butt with the WHOLE unrolled roll and tried to flush it.

P@@timmiller7338 -Po[ooooop0pp000000000000o09ppoo[

“Comfort is bad” - says the man who doesn’t do physical work for a living (since “graduating”) , well at least he’s speaking from experience. “Idol hands are the devils workplace” - the owners manual

@@OffGridInvestor What does this have to do with 'toxic feminity'??!

Same.. Especially with that close up on his face 4:30

me too

Great quote. Even Dr. Peterson was visibly impressed he thought of that.

Did you cry?

there is no soul

Cuz freaks know to look to personality cults and depressing freaks like Jordan?

Take it from me, kid, that’s adulting. No disrespect meant, it’s just the nature of

@@arisaga822 continue living meaningless life lololololollololololololololololloll

One can always get good at something with practice but it depends on priorities.

i have never been good at anything.

It's a failure of society that anyone doesn't have a range of options for productive activity that suits both their interests and abilities.

@@havenbastion JP seems to be long on personal responsibility (which is a good thing), but short on critiquing the short comings of society. I take what insights he has to offer despite his rather conservative political views.

@@prschuster society owes you nothing. Who are you to demand to "deserve" your true worth? Egotistical if you ask me. Go make something and deserve that. Life owes you nothing. And in the end will demand even your life from you.

@Despize Perform Not to mention that you never asked to be here.

@Despize Perform In reality you have to take arms against a sea of troubles AND suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.

@DsafdfsDsaf Circumcision should be illegal.

Yep. I definitely don't want to unpack my shit onto people anymore. I know I still give my mom an ear full. Not proud of it.

I KNOW of a case of toxic femininity. Only got worse during the pandemic. The son literally doesn't know how to roll toilet paper off the roll at about age 10. He blocked someone's toilet by wiping his butt with the WHOLE unrolled roll and tried to flush it.

@DsafdfsDsaf If you want to get send to hell, go ahead

@@sethw997 As a mom I'd rather my son talk to me about things that are bothering him than bottling it up and having it manifest in other ways like substance abuse and major depression. My son is only just about to turn 13 and I'll be helping him with school work and he will say " I hate for you to have to take up your time with this" and I'll assure him that there isn't anything more important thay I could be doing with my time than helping him with something or having good times with him.

I literally have to force discomforts on myself intentionally in order to fix this shit that is my overstimulated , over pleasurable baby lifestyle . Adults living like babies all hyper sensitive . Gotta force painful experiences on ourselves to save ourselves

@@sandowpiano3826 from what? Lmao. Save yourself from dying

I turn 70 next month. The pursuit of comfort is a trap. My aunt died at 95. My uncle is 94. I can experience and accomplish a lot in 25 more years. And I intend to.

@@richardcollier1912 Old is just a state of mind...

I'm 75, still busy with life. An oldtimer once told me "It's better to wear out than rust out " rock on folks

Anything worth doing is worth struggling with or even failing at first. Im in the process of taking my leap. Find your cliff and jump friend

Look up what Navy seal David Goggins says about being comfortable

How is your adventure going mate

@@roscomcneill9370 Well, first of all - thank you very much for asking. My situation is like this: I'm starting a new project that I really want to put my heart into. It is about Spirit/Mind/Body/Emotions development. I invite people to workshops, trainings with meditation etc... but it's just starting so not bringing much money yet and I have a family of 5 to support, so I still engage in other things that gets me money. And having three kids (and wanting to be a good dad) means that I don't have much time. Last year I was going out of anxiety/panic attacks, so there were days I couldn't focus on anything but just surviving the day. Sorry for the long comment and thank you again for reminding me that indeed I've always enjoyed adventures and challenges, so I'm definitely gonna do one more step towards my new project today! Peace!

@@ukaszgrygiel-extremisadven1795 you are great

“My mother protected me from the world and my father threatened me with it.” - Quentin Crisp

"Are you winning son?"

Lazy adult kids are the worst. My mother has a long time friend. She had an older friend who would do everything for her kids and then she died. So these kids are in their 50s now and ring up my moms friend n her 70s and ask her "we got a phone bill. What do you think we should do?". They're hopeless and clueless

@@OffGridInvestor we do them no favors when they are not forced to figure it out.

@@davidwalker5274 I am one of the adult children you speak of. I find it especially tough trying to face up to the fact I've let myself be "protected", and I've too often taken the route of comfort rather than independence. When I've recently seen Jordan talking about grown-up infants, or read threads talking about how much of a waste of space people like me are, I do find it very difficult to confront and accept the position I've put myself in. I don't know why I felt the need to write this but I have! I think part of me wants reassurance that I've not been a complete failure up until now/that I can change and past failures shouldn't define my future. But I think at the same time, seeking any reassurance in the first place is part of the problem! I guess it also struck me, reading your comment, that it would be good for you to let your child feel that any successes your child makes, is their own, rather than as a result of you pushing them. I've often felt as if when I'm succeeding, it's because I'm doing it to please my parents or because I've forced myself to do it. Whereas I need to find the right structure and self-discipline to do it for myself, which will hopefully breed self-motivation also. All the best with your child, I'm sure parenting is the most difficult balance to strike.

yea same condition mate, but Dr peterson said here that an overprotective kid still had choice , maybe of 5% , but its still a choice, its our fault for taking bait dude.

My man, I mean no disrespect, but you need to unf**k yourself. Move out, get a job. Do not get married, ever - women are great, but they will rinse you of every dollar you have. Make your own life.

@iNSTAGiB hey man how you holding up so far?

It's been like this for me too,it was a mix of overprotective parents and drug addiction that turned me into a failure of a person. I will finish my nursing degree when I'm 30 years old next year, it's been really fucking hard trying to pull myself out of this hole, but it's really worth it.

Holy shit you are down bad bro, get out and get a life

This was my story. My dad was neglectful and mom was over protective, I wasn't prepared at all for the world. I was raised to be very kind and sensitive but the harshness of life broke me and my anxiety swallowed quite handful of my years.

Your mother did the best she could

Same situation here. How did things work out for you guys?

​@@Brandon_W38 I've come a long way, to the point of the average joe in terms of courage and independence, but I'm continuing to take risks so I can grow beyond that.

It is but most parents are not doing that nowadays.

Yes, but things like toxic femininity occur. I KNOW of a case of toxic femininity. The son literally doesn't know how to roll toilet paper off the roll at about age 10. He blocked someone's toilet by wiping his butt with the WHOLE unrolled roll and tried to flush it.

@@OffGridInvestor give that child a snickers

So true but many parents just want the kid to like him, such as my husband. When mom trains the sons to do chores, dad gradually takes over!!!!!

Some just want to hold them tight- forever

Hard, but necessary. I know what living with anxiety is like. Keep pushing forward, or be doomed to remain stuck.

Look into somatic experiencing/Peter Levine

Thank you to both of you for your comments :)

Hey my man I ain’t no expert but I struggled with public speaking in college. Until, one day it was time for me to talk and I looked up and 99% of the class couldn’t give a fuck. Just like me when I was listening to another student. The light bulb went off. Since that day I can’t wait to speak in front of people and start new jobs and new relationships..why? Because 99% of humans don’t give a shit. Hopefully that helps

@@earlgarcia6106 Thank you for your response :)

I'd be careful with that mentality a bit. It's very easy to end up finger pointing your insecurities toward other people than yourself. When you yourself choose to take responsibility, whatever it may be,bis when you grow. However your parents raised you, ultimately it's your choices that you make that you need to be able to learn from. Fearing things and learning to overcome them is difficult, but is a choice for example. Or starting a business - it's a leap of faith you need to take if you believe in your abilities. But of course there's risk of failure and you need to understand those risks ahead of time and how to mitigate them At the end of the day, if you're more passive with your learning and expect to be taught everything you need to know, you're gonna get crushed. Being able to be self taught and independent on your own is a skill you can and must develop if you want to get ahead. It's tough, it's rough, and you will fail sometimes. But as long as you keep it in your head to acknowledge where you went wrong and where you went right, you'll learn everything faster on your own

I can relate with this. being overly sheltered has dire consequences for the kid involved.

💯 I can attest to this from my own personal anecdotal experience as well. And one day, I'll be able to use it to help millions going through the same or similar circumstances. People who've overcome great struggles, pain and suffering are able to help those who feel and think there is no way out!

@@bboymunchkin I actually agree with what you are saying. In many cases I expected someone else to do things for me and felt very offended when others pointed out flaws or critized my. Step by step I start to realize that from the moment your alarm goes of, it is me that is responsible for me.

@@bertramvanhouten9916 feels good though. Can have conversations with people who are much older, and there's an exchange of knowledge/wisdom

I'm currently struggling with the same thing. I'm trying to continue to humble myself but it isn't easy. Thank you for sharing

I was the same. I’m now 31 and outside of 6 months at 28 and 6 months at 29, I’ve always lived at home. I have severe anxiety and working has been difficult for me. I have difficulty with interviews and keeping jobs. The only thing that’s kept me semi-sane was my artistic pursuits-performing music (one of the only ways I can overcome my anxiety) and writing and self-publishing books of my poetry. I was able to finish a bachelors degree in psychology a few months ago due to it being available mostly online through my college. I’m now working to get a basic job that I can handle (maybe overnights at a hotel or stocking shelves). It’s difficult to explain gaps of employment. All in all, I grew up with the loving and devouring mother and the resentful tyrannical father, but I’m trying to find healthy ground to move away from it, to have a little life to myself. It’s tough, man. Little at a time.

I’ve become majorly depressed by this similar situation, I have a hyper protective mother and a passive father. She had total control over everything , raised and schooled at home, belief system, everything growing up. now I’m 26 and it feels like nothing has changed for me in terms of being independent in society. I don’t know what the answer is to fix this. I’ll blank out for hours and just sit alone and ruminate about dumb shit until my day is gone. Seriously depressed right now. I don’t know how much longer I can do this or what the solution is.. It’s to expensive to live on my own and it’s hard to find decent roommates . I might just live in a van or the woods at this point. Things I’m thankful for : loving parents (regardless if it’s conditional or not), having a car to drive, a place to sleep at night, no major drug issues. A good friend. Shit like that

Atm I'm hoping that one of 4 interviews where I've been at calls back so I can finally have money to move out, I feel so worthless and stagnant otherwise

I'm pretty much the same

What did you do afterwards tho?

@@mahkneebro-incelandmisogyn4311 I took a job in another country they didnt want me to go to. I am truly living the aventure of my life. Things are not always easy but neither are they always hard. The point is i am stronger and more courageous. I am always struggling to stay on the line between order and chaos. A man is truly equal to the highest amount of bearable responsibility.

@@ernesttakor2374 lol straight out of petrrsen’s textbook. That’s good tho. I wanna get a job and make money too. Any tips?

@@mahkneebro-incelandmisogyn4311 first are you good at a skill which can be monetized?

@@ernesttakor2374 what kind of skills for example? Like an electrician?

Let it go Marge

SO TRUE 👍🌍❤️❤️❤️!!!!!!

AMEN. Hallelujah!!

Amen to that!

Rubbish 🗑.

yeah... Imagine the intelligence of all the talking heads making him out to "be" one of their own smallminded mental categories. Luckily, they are talking themselves out of existence.

I remember the most difficult thing I had to do was hand my newly licensed daughter the keys to her car and say, “I’ll see you this afternoon.” I cried that entire day, but it got easier every day. I got to watch her grow more and more independent and pay for car repairs, pump her own gas, check and change her oil and keep herself “safe enough”, at least. Don’t get me wrong, there are times a horrible scene will come into my mind and I await the horrible call that every parent fears. Thankfully, for me that call has never come. But I am so grateful both of my girls are adventurous enough to live their life.

@@onetimeiateanindonesianguy6183 What? My guess is they had no father or a neglectful or abusive father.

@@stellabella6839... XX ;)

Yes, Gibran: 💖 Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself...

Children need good fathers. Some fathers are definitely better off not around.

Very nice

I would have lost my soul staying home, absolutely! Couldn't stand my dad. Joined the Army. Now I walk into fire and thrive!

Of course, the child might go out into the world and lose their body, thus causing the relevant parties to re-evaluate what is the greater error. If a child ends up experimenting with drugs and dies of an overdose, would anyone have said, "Well, at least they won't have attachment problems"?

Jordan has zero wisdom. Jordan is still looking for mental health. Wisdom produces tranquility and Jordan is filled with the opposite.

@@unclekerr4369 who are the most wise individuals you can suggest today?

Seeking truth does not necessarily lead to comfort.

@@cnote3598 of course. If it’s inconvenient to those who’d rather live with the lie. The truth sometimes hurts, but it is that which will set you free.

seeking truth can and will be a dangerous undertaking. coming to terms with having your beliefs shattered isn't exactly comfortable and many people got lost on that path. i don't disagree with the sentiment but that hasn't been my experience at all.

That's beautiful.

Did the person you once were come back after you got clean?

@@mikedouglas9863 a think I realised that person was always there and apart of me. Instead of punishing myself I took joy in understanding myself better than I every had. I know I'll always have an addictive personality but I protect myself better

@@leearchibald7064 thanks for replying! Glad you are doing well now!

Proverbs has a ton of good stuff in it.

1 Peter 2:18 “Slaves, submit yourselves to your masters with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the cruel.”

@@zenon3021 From 1 Peter. Not from Proverbs.

Beautifully put

You raise them to let them go 😊

I wish you all the luck in the world and nothing but health for your child, bless all three of you

i think you should kick him out of the nest age 7, according to Peterson that would give him a great advantage in life. FFS.

@@StrangeAttractor which of his lectures or podcasts or interviews did he say those exact words in? 😊 I'd love to listen in full, as most of his clips are just minutes out of hour long pieces. He doesn't appreciate misrepresented quotes, most people don't, of course 😉

@@minadady9950 Sigh. He didn't say those exact words, in the same way that Priti Patel doesn't say 'I'm a rabid xenophobe in neurotic denial of my own heritage who fantasises about licking Margaret Thatcher's boots.' Anyway. So, at 03:16 'adventure to excellence is a far better antidote to suffering than the mere absence of suffering.' This is errant nonsense. The best antidote to suffering is indulgent parents who do everything short of wipe your ass until you're 25. How do I know? I'm an Oxbridge graduate. 03:40 'the good mother necessarily fails'. The most successful guys I know in the City of London have doting mothers who even still do their laundry age 40.... you get the idea. Peterson is just waffling heavily theoretical bulldung, as usual.

💯

@Andrea Gramckow I think the biggest thing is let them feel the consequences of their choices, as a mom you will always be needed, just in a different way as kids get older, nothing wrong with love and support but you can't be their main support for money ECT.. Let them handle what they can, which is much more then we realize, anyway my 2 cents🤷‍♀️

I think what is meant by comfort is being content with what you have and not wanting any change, meaning that another person in your position may be comfortable and not wanting better for themselves, so you not being comfortable in your situation has made you drive to better yourself (hopefully) compared to those who have let themselves rot in the situation

Very true…I’ve found there’s two types of people on earth. Those fighting to keep their same lifestyle and those fighting to drastically change it.

that's exactly why all the sports stadiums and movie theaters were open during the virus hysteria.

@@bm1006 and gyms closed

@@bm1006 What? What country in do you live at? Cause in America, the only places that were open during the peak of the lockout were supermarkets and other essential convivence stores.

@@aytuz Yeah because there was a pandemic, who wants to go to an pack establishment full with sweaty people touching the equipment with their bare hands in middle of a outbreak? No thank you, but I would rather use the old free weights at my house lol

yes

Curiosity, death, anger at yourself or a problem in the world. You just have to find the biggest fuel to start the fire and keep it lit.

Banksy summed this feeling up perfectly by stating: “I originally set out to try and save the world but now I’m not sure I like it enough”

Yeah youthful idealism is the misapplication of globalist, universal ideals to a localized, partisan species. We only want to save the world because evolution has conditioned our brain to expect the world to be a community of 150 people. We're not even supposed to know about the world, we're supposed to think that the stars are 200 feet above us, and there's maybe three other tribes out there in the world, tops. We have to give up on the idea that a human is born for all of humanity. We're born only for those in our community. And in the modern world, none of us have any idea who our community even is

Me too. I have no meaning, no purpose.

@@pixieheart9303 When we don’t feel we have anything to offer is when prayer is the single greatest thing we can do.

@@gailcarey3597 praying hasn't worked for me.

Nice, where does the bible speak about luck?

What business did you open man?

Keep grinding.

@@Shauntomac mortgage brokerage! I was a loan officer in a mortgage company before. It's a good business if you're looking to open one. You just need to have good people skills, conscientiousness and discipline

@@lessforloans will do. It's actually working now which is great. It's harder to be on your own completely than I anticipated. Never realized how much I relied on support from different institutions and people to hold me accountable

@@joenichols3901 yup. I struggle with that as well. I’m fortunate on the money front for my business but I’ve also developed a bad drug and alcohol problem which I just got out of a treatment center for and working steps. That accountability has meant the world to me and will keep me sober

Turn your phone off for 23 hours a day and see how creative you become the problem is in peoples hands . One year after I got my smart phone i realised it’s cancer I cannot get a job without a phone . Boredom breeds creativity !

@@Bart-Did-it that’s a great idea, thank you

Jordan is a depressed freak and you wallow in it!

If it’s unnatural it’s not right. We have followed parental advice that didn’t feel right in every generation and it turned out to create a problem.

So his depression rubs off on you, Freak?

@@martinkent333 you need to widen your vocabulary beyond the word freak, freak!

@@scottmcdowell27 Bottomfeeders like you love the slime!!!!!!!! Wallow, wallow, wallow!

@Balint Ujvari Did you think that it's ok for teens to drink the "personality cult Kool-Aid" and frolic in fantasyland with the "intellectually constipated," who are seeking a human enema? UKposts and Podcasts are sensationalism and you know it Bottomfeeder. Defending any personality cult by not having a clue makes you a danger to teens and Jordan encourages teen suicides by introducing philosophy to reality. It's just plain mumbo jumbo. Kids need brilliance - not shabby depressed freaks like Jordan who don't know how to eat and so look like shit and depress the teens who worship him, with his "low-level cheesy mumbo jumbo," Cupcake.

He is a depressed freak who trashed his health, Rube.

blowjob-jitsu. lol joking

All the best man

@@Purwapada i knew that comment was coming 😂

@@samgaspodcast lol. It's good system. Especially the name 😁

Its been 8 days since your comment. You did find at the new job i bet. We all knew you would!

Everything in moderation.

Cuz freaks know?

@@james81693 Cuz delusional freaks know?

@@martinkent333 get out of here

@@Larry321ness I use Holy Water enemas for Spiritual Constipation. Jordan is a human enema. Personality cults are totally groovy! Do you spew? He does!!! You must be very, very proud!

Directly tied to how many people think of work as solely something negative

I would say retire as early as possible and you can work on what you want after that.

@@jaykay5142 what

@@jaykay5142 you want to wait until you're retired at 40, and then start to think about what to do with your life? I think you're doing it wrong. Think on what to do with your life now.

@@sorenkierkegaard8860 I'm already older than that and what I've found is that you'll never find that perfect life or activity that will 'make it all better'. People will always be pursuing the next thing, retired or not. But if you can retire at 40 or even sooner, at least you won't have to bother with the job anymore.

It’s so difficult when a child’s or teen’s parent is taken from them unwillingly, and before their brains have developed

There’s a balance to it. Discomfort regularly comes from work, obligations, accidents disputes, etc. It is necessary to get away from that to a source of comfort for healthy living. Issues arise when life is 100% comfort and 100% discomfort. Finding a healthy balance is necessary

@@noidsuper I think the problem is whether it's someone else's choice that you're in it.

Rules*

I hope for you a bright futur,dont give up my friend

Seek therapy

If you are a young adult you can get into technical school.

It's never to late right now there is a worker shortage and a lot of companies are willing to train or pay for training/schooling etc no better time in history to get free education.

Thats me. Modern life is so good. I suppose less incentive to risk uncomfortable

And this is exactly why we are seeing a growing number of people okay with the idea of depending on the government and socialist values

@@Josh-fz9rh there is also diminishing returns after you make a certain amount

@@didafm huh

Most people fall into this mindset. Myself included. There just exceptional individuals who are either very adventurous or driven who want or need more than a simple or slow life. There’s nothing wrong with either. It just depends on the person

I understand this. It takes a toll on the mind - knowing what kind of evil exists in the world keeps us in the survival and fight mode. We are always low-key stressed out waiting for the next big issue. Be careful, it can cost us in a big way. I try meditation. Good luck