I would think that what we call "depresion" is state where you start to recognize "distortion of reality" that already exists. People with "depression" start to recognize "doable tolk" and discover double meaning of many things around them.

@JustChizzin r/iam14andthisisdeep

JustChizzin I get you and I understand you. I have suffered from severe depression and anxiety all my life. Early childhood molestation and an eventual rape as a young adult (by two different people, both relatives) helped nothing. I have been on a cocktail of different meds since age 26 and I am still on them 16 years and three kids later. The thing with depression is you fully understand why it is (fundamentally brain chemistry exacerbated by early trauma) and you know how you ought to be, yet you cannot get there. Folks who say “cheer up” or “don’t be anxious” help no one. In fact, those cliche responses only serve to aggravate the sufferer, as they either feel guilty for being the way they are or they feel patronized by folks who don’t know what the hell they are talking about. When I am deep in the depression (ebbs and flows like anything) all of life seems ludicrous. Pointless. It’s not that the sufferers feels “superior” to the folks they are witnessing day to day, but, at least in my case, a lot of envy is involved. How I wish I could take pleasure in a sunset or going for ice cream or whatever. What pisses me off are folks that think mental illness is a “choice.” Just, no. When people tell me that, I just walk away. I must protect my own health if I am to remain on this mortal coil, you know?

Conditioning distorts reality.

Depression is hell.😥😥😥

True! I’d get one

Lmao that really would

Funny because it's untrue.

I'm pretty sure I'd get one. 😉

Yes!!!!

Yes, very true, it’s all his parents fault, some people are just too sensitive to get over childhood neglect

@@227Love Yes, very true. People are different, some are get over it more easily while some other suffer deeply. Kurt was sensitive and he suffered a lot. Really sad.

Why did his parents give him away. I’ve never heard this.

This would also explain why he was so mediocre with the guitar and never really cared about his solos, even though he was even really talented for making solos...

Nah my guy, it’s more than just childhood. Depression is a brain disease that people are born with. It’s a chemical imbalance. You just hear about it more with people with depression because they focus on it more. People who don’t have depression you never hear about this shit, because they don’t focus on it. This is also why people with depression use drugs. It’s the worst fucking disease it just torments you for years and years.

Its a demon.

Bipolar depression is even worse...

You're telling me it has no forgiveness

No joke, depression or anxiety 😣

@@cheothegeo2742 no, there is no mental illness thats better or worse than another, it's unfair to those suffering with them and how devastating it can be is on a case by case basis

I'm so grateful you d got out of that deep black pit. The consequences for families are devastating and kids of parents who suicide are at high risk of taking the same path. How did you get out of the depression?

You are so right. Divorce can be very traumatic for children, for some more than others. But back in that generation, it was kind of a new thing to have such high divorce rates.

Yes we have some better programs now but it’s still very hard for children of divorce. It literally tears families apart. It is confusing for children who are now expected to cope with the fact that mom and dad split but now live with new partners or have replacements for mom or dad. Or they are married into new families with new siblings and little children are expected to adapt to the environment and pretend like it’s okay; but also normal. Divorce is harder on children then on parents. The parents make a natural choice to have a sexual relationship with someone, but they children cannot divorce a father or mother; nor can they replace them. Except surrogates

i have exactly the opposite experience....my parents stayed together and i was always proud of them and felt fortunate cos they stuck it out... but i was wrong....i didnt begin to understand WHY till i began to study psychology. My Mom was a covert narc and my Dad was in the Navy overseas 6 months out of every year. and even though TWO psychiatrists told me to 'pretend she was DEAD' and go no contact, i couldnt....and i suffered tremendously all my life for it....even up to 60 years old. I dont trust the court system, i believe THEY cause as many problems as they claim to solve,but i know we DO have a better understanding of the issues these days. I cant really say if id been better off any other way, except that maybe if id went to college and studied psychology, ( which was my only possible interest in higher education )...but i wasnt financially able. Thank goodness for UKposts and my own curiosity.

Wonderful explanation! I'm shocked that Dr. Grande doesn't know that broken homes and/or single mothers always have been and still are one of the top three causes of poverty and crime. Coming from a broken home usually always messes a kid up good. Divorce definitely wasn't just hard on kids in the 1970's, even though it became more common later When I was 15 in 1994, I thought my parents were get divorced that year, and it was still one of the worst things that could possibly happen to you as a kid. I didn't know anybody whose parents were divorced either. Divorce definitely was and is not normal amongst a better class of people with values. It mostly still something that only degenerates do. It's simply more common because Western Civilization and Western values are in rapid decline.

I agree, divorce can be extremely traumatic for children. One of my classmates tragically took his own life at age 10 or 11 at least in part due to being unable to cope with his parents divorce. The poor kid had been crying in class almost daily since the divorce happened and he just wasn't himself anymore. (This must have been around the year 1997)

L bozo

Yea it’s terrible. The most distressful of all psychic ailments, and likely the most horrible thing one can experience. Been there. No buono.

"you know you're right" also heavily portrays his thoughts that people would be better off without him

@@TheCitedAviator yeah he wrote songs like those and yet we still have morons who still say he was murdered

That song was written sarcastically, Kurt had said it was a joke and not serious! Brush up on your Nirvana.

I agree. I recommend watching Dr, Gabor Mate videos if you haven't seen them already. He's got a great understanding of the relationship between drug addiction and early childhood trauma and or neglect or abuse.

Halleluyah,amein.

What a lovely perspective!

It’s always what people say when successful people take their life.. sadly it doesn’t work that way and all those things won’t make anybody resistent to deep depression.

Depression is horrific as is anxiety, I suffer from it daily and am treatment resistant. Also he reported stomach pain before he used substance I imagine when it wore off it made it way worse and made the depression way worse which becomes a vicious cycle. Depression and fear is a vicious cycle plus his wife was a real piece of work.

Bravo

I hope you are doing well.

Heroin time ❤ :) its underrated

Sorry about the loss of your friend.

Most people that are truly suicidal don't mention the idea to anyone and when they are going to attempt suicide they plan it out in ways as to not be interrupted or interfered with. They have a plan in mind with a clear strategy to succeed. Most will seem happy right before this and speak in paste tense. This is when they ultimately made thier decision to set thier plan in motion in the near future. When someone is depressed and seeking help they often mention suicide because it is a cry for help. These type of people are looking for an alternative to suicide and leave suicide as a last resort. 💔

@@goldshieldinthedark That is a myth. Some people talk about suicide and still kill themselves. Edit: Well, you did say that suicide is a last resort. Some people think people will never do it if they talk about it but that is not true. It could happen.

I'm sorry about your loss, I also had a friend who committed suicide in 2016 when she was 25. I met her in high school and she was both weird and cool and did drugs and struggled with depression at times but I never imagined that she would actually end up killing herself.

@@Jojos25 I'm also sorry for your loss, this is horrible...

so often integrated 🙏

Me too, but i love this new series too

Personality disorders are more interesting for me too. I am shocked by the abnormal pyschology topics we covered in college & it was just sick!! I didnt get to finish the class so it would be interesting to learn about weirdos that like being defecated on or puked on. Dr. Grande, why?? Why does that happen to ppl??

I agree, I found Dr. Grande's channel recently and I have come across some older videos like case studies or general analysis of various disorders and I appreciate those..

That's the problem with our current society. Everyone tries to fit in instead of freely thinking. Juvenile emotional reactions are best left in the cave man era but our country runs on them.

yeah and it sucks

I was 14 when he passed. I was in Paris on a school trip initially having the time of my life, the sheer dreamlike excitement of being out of my homeland (Ireland) for the first time. I remember later on the Friday April 8th, with my circle of friends trying to process what we just heard, and why it happened. At 14, it was impossible to digest and analyse things. I agree with the "Conflict" you mention.👍 Here was a man who, loved/hated the aspects of fame. His conflict of a possible divorce with Courtney in horrid league with the lifelong Blight on his mind via his own parents separation. He must have felt that he was reliving it again via Frances getting parental partition should he and Courtney even split. Imposter Syndrome, Self Sabotage kicking in regarding feeling "not deserving" acclaim and admiration, leading and lending more guilt. It especially hurts when we know who else was thinking of him, looking to reach out to him. Michael Stipe wanted to fly him to Atlanta to chill out, maybe work on music together. Imagine that: Music inthe vein of "Unplugged" and "Automatic for the People". 👍 Neil Young wanted to talk to him, tell him to just get out and away. Kurts dark hue of depression hung over him , cloaking his sight. He couldnt see that elder statepeople of music he liked wanted to work with him, talk to him. Anyway mate, just wanted to say that I liked your words.👍 Since the 30th anniversary of his passing Ive been reading comments like that, listening even more to Nirvana again. 👍

I'm totally jealous cuz I want to be able to do the OCEAN thing! Im still trying to memorize the dang acronym! lol

So close!!

Almost... 👌🏾

@@gonzojr.8648 I readily memorized the various factors of personality, but I've actually looked into several different models of personality which use different acronyms, so the OCEAN acronym takes me a while sometimes. Researchers had independently converged on the idea of these five broad categories to personality. There are some models with six factors, too, but most seem to agree on these five. Despite it being the most empirical model we have, I do actually feel somewhat ambivalent about it. There are subcategories to the five traits to explain this, but… how many people do you know who are highly intellectual and curious about math and science, yet don't value the arts and humanities, but not vice versa? Those are both measured by Openness - yet, are they really the same thing? That there are subcategories to account for this doesn't fully satisfy me.

@@booradley0x0 I posted ASAP without even thinking much. Kurt was just the perfect embodiment of the anguished musician that it's hard to imagine him not scoring that way; it's just a matter of pegging the granular position along the continuum.

The motive is obvious, money but I agree, a video on her would be interesting

I second this

Remember seeing CL at Goodwood she was extremely laaaaate!! Took to the stage and insulted everyone including the hosts ,...woukd be a good one though

She did.

I would like to see this too.

You need to understand that it is a humane thing. We are stuck in this society and there is no one standing up to resolve this prison. Depression makes you feel very alone and constantly dealing with all these thoughts makes you soooo tired! So yes, it is so difficult to move on. I hope you are still alive, my friend!

Maybe try to get a good posture or something ? I am serious. Many people suffer from the "sack of potatoes depression". Get it in order.

Oh there’s a Michael Hutchins documentary? I’m going to have to find it. My mom was a huge INXS fan when I was really little and she was devastated by his death. As an adult, I’m a fan of INXS when Michael Hutchins was the singer (I think they replaced him at some point if I remember correctly). He had an amazing voice and was very attractive.

Rejane I agree. The songs were brilliant. Very interested

Yes! Mike H. Of Inxs is a fantastic suggestion! Jim Morrison of The Doors would also be very interesting!

Tʀᴀᴠɪꜱᴛʏ - Yes, Jim Morrison too!😃

He was so obviously bumped off. So much heroin was found in his system he wouldn’t have been able to lift the gun let alone pull the trigger!

WHAATT!!??

Whoa!! That is too cool.

I’m jealous

What a cool story, what year was that?

Nirvana who?

I agree. He wasn't a "druggy" who "just did himself in." The evidence strongly points towards murder and not suicide. I'm currently researching this...interesting. 🤔

The doc is dead wrong on this to presume suicide, Courtney is guilty af.

@@kyliejones8827 what a crock. there's not a shred of evidence for any murder conspiracy.

@@califtom ok 👌 Still researching.... 😁

@@kyliejones8827 what's the source of your research? conspiracy theory websites and UKposts videos? there's not a shred of physical evidence for any murder

Right

Same here

Louise Hesse ...SAME!

Why dont u hook up with the doc then ^^ im jokin i feel u

Same! I loove Kurt Cobain, i loove Dr. Grande 🥰

Agreed

Seems they didn't have much time to conceal the doom and gloom. Appears he didn't want the joy of success 🙏

Robert Boyle - I may be wrong, but I think that with depression the person loses all the desires, even the desire for joy and success. The inability to feel pleasure or anhedonia that many times accompanies depression is excruciating too, part of being a human being is being able to experience these emotions. Depression is a very serious condition and unfortunately so many people suffer from this disease. Sad.

Kurt had become the voice of an entire generation who were depressed and apathetic when they saw the way the world worked, both economically and socially. Gen X was and still is consistently overlooked, their concerns marginalized. Because the boomers outnumbered them, they had no power to create change. Forced to adapt or be homeless, many chose the latter. Kurt was one of those many. He hated being the voice of an entire generation. Central to his message was a rejection of what he saw as the crude, commercial motive of labelling an age group. Once he had gained everything you were supposed to want, he was still unhappy, still hated himself, still hated the world, still felt like a fraud. A whole generation felt that, that’s why we loved him so. His message resonated. Around 1993-ish Nirvana went from the underground alternative music scene into pop culture, many of his original core fans believed he had become the worst thing you could be as a young person in the early 90’s, a sellout, part of the machine. I think deep down he believed it too. We all became that eventually. We had no choice. “I’d rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.”- Kurt Cobain.

@@juliasugarbaker9032 You got it exactly right. I remember.

Now imagine having autism with normal or above average IQ.

I love John Green

I'm down for seeing that.

🙌🙌

Mee TOO

Yes, please consider doing an analysis of Amy Winehouse!

Please

What made you lose the spark? Curious because I have my bachelors in psych and going into it initially I was excited, but as I progressed through the coursework i found myself less interested. For me it was the lack of emphasis on studying personality/behavior, and a ton of emphasis on research methods (which I know is very important in justifying psychology as a scientific pursuit). But still I wish there was more focus on personality and behavior. Which is why I love Dr Grande’s videos. This channel def sparks my interest back for psych.

Mike Wassef For me it’s a combination of things. Firstly, just so much “dry” content. It’s theories, surnames, and facts that you have to know. Not many subjects looked beyond the text into real life application. I see people from other degrees participating in clinical settings (even brief) but me? 3 years of reading, reading, and memorising. Not much about what interests me either. Lastly, it’s the pressure to do well to continue. My uni doesn’t have many supervisors (for thesis and further studies) so they take the top people. Very stressful 😩 Hope it gets better for us! Probably just have to survive the boring fundamental areas to progress to the interesting content 🤞🏻

I am studying psychology as well and because it is so broad there are lots of areas that we need to study that aren't going to interest us. There is a lot more to psychology than just clinical psychology. But keep going and eventually you will be able to specialise in your area of interest.

My brother was a college radio DJ in the late 1980s, and a few years later, I asked him if he ever played anything by Nirvana. He said he did, and that if a time traveler had come to him and said that in the fall of 1991, that band would release an album that would hit #1 in almost every country in the world that keeps a music chart, and totally turn popular music on its ear, he'd have said they were nuts. Oh, and who would have thought that the band's drummer (Dave Grohl) was really the heart and soul of that band?

@@sarah2.017 Grohl sucks and had barely any influence on Nirvana.

I was 17 when I first heard Nirvana and I hated it. But eventually it grew on me and I ended up liking them.

And suddenly grunge was chic - making it quick and easy to get dressed in the mornings

You just didn’t hear about the bands Kurt was influenced by…There were already a couple of major bands in the scene making loud distorted music

Cobain had I think 3 suicides in his recent family history. He talked about it. He also tried Prozac which made him sick. I think that was the only antidepressant back then.

I experienced depression twice in my life, for days only. I never judge someone who can't take it anymore.

I’m so sorry. Both my Dad and his younger brother died the same way. After my Dad died I realized how many of the risk factors he had.

I am so sorry for the loss of two of your family members.

So very sorry about the loss of your family members. Depression is truly a horrible disease.

Smells like teen spirit..his best !

@@dannyperfect9270 For anyone reading the baseless, shallow comment above and who may be leaning towards it, just remember that it's an easy out to imagine Kurt wouldn't do what he did and it's an easy out to blame it on something/someone else, especially to blame it on Courtney. To be objective, we can't take easy outs just because they may make us feel better...the evidence supports that he did it (the hereditary factors, his art, his notebooks, his depression, his substance abuse, his previous suicide attempt in Rome, and what was extrapolated from the scene of his death). Not to mention the fact that Courtney revived him after the 1993 heroin overdose and rushed him to the hospital after the 1994 Rohypnol overdose. If she wanted him dead, she could have left him in a coma in one of the hotel rooms until he actually died, then called 911 acting shocked and devastated..instead of going through the risky attempt to have him shot. Don't give into emotional thinking, you're better than that. I'm sad about Kurt too, but am so grateful we have his music and his memory. Let's see your homework, Danny... And do you think that Kurt's mom, sister, daughter, Aunt Mary, bandmates Krist, Dave, Pat, and his best friend Dylan are all dishonoring him because they all accept he committed suicide? How do you explain his previous suicide attempt in Rome? Just a coincidence? How do you explain his depression and substance abuse? It's such an ignorant and unscholarly thing to do...to claim he was murdered, provide no evidence, and scoff at someone telling them to do homework.

@@dannyperfect9270 @Danny Perfect Well, that's presumptuous of you to think I'm a "Courtney sympathizer". So, you think Kurt's mom, sister, daughter, Aunt Mary, Dave, Krist, Pat, and Dylan are all Courtney sympathizers too? It's so easy and shallow to say you have done 25 years of studying the case yet offer no results whatsoever. If you care about people knowing the "truth," then you'd list your evidence. Please do this, I would love to take the time to rebut it all. "Money beats soul" lol, well that's not evidence, that's emotional thinking desperate to make sense of the conspiracy theory. You should just remember, evidence beats wishful thinking.

I'm really curious what your evidence is, and if your 25 years of research is in fact just beliefs from the movie, Soaked in Bleach. I dare you to respond.

@@rebelo2156 This demand accidently hit me lol There is an interesting little fight under my comment going on... 🙂

Yes please! And Lena Zavaroni

I second that. Karen Carpenter's life was truly tragic.

That was a sad end, Karen Carpenter. We had her Christmas album that we listened to every year.

@@keldonmcfarland2969 Yeah, she was an amazing singer.

He did one on Karen. It was the video I saw before this one. It's sad.

There is no intervention when there is a Courtney Love> Just Murder

You sound heartless. You can't just get over depression, SO YOU GET OVER IT.

Sorry , i just reread what you wrote and it didn't say what I thought it said

I was looking for this exact comment. Thanks.

I second that.

That would be good

Finally got the comment i was looking for

dia sedih sekali kehilangan sahabatnya Chris Cornell. mungkin dalam artian mereka masing masing punya misi yang sudah diselesaikan. suara perlawanan, perjuangan hidupnya,keluarga mereka sudah lalui. kini mereka telah beristirahat dengan damai.

And you believe everything you read in the Washington Post

@@willduke32 Ooo, Courtney shade. Smells like teen spirit.

@@willduke32 and you believe every loony conspiracy theory

@@califtom these days 9 0ut 0f ten Conspiracy's are true unless you are ignorant

@@willduke32 oh really? name them for me then. are alien abduction conspiracy theories true also?

LOL

😂

Sorry for your loss

Thank you

I remember I read that book many years ago... I think it was in the year 2017 and I read one third of the book or 150 pages approximately... His luck was so unfortunately.

That book is a bunch of bs! Any true Cobain fan knows it!

@@erikastoncius6560 and what makes you an authority on the subject?

We tend to separate the physical health from the mental health but really they’re both important to each other and part of the same system that is a human being. If you want to feel better mentally take care of your physical body and vice-versa

One of many biographies paid to be written by Courtney Love.

💚

That is spot on. Depression makes one withdraw, since one feels s/he is a "downer" who would only bring others down.

Jeff Pincin I 2nd Chris and Chester. Such tragic losses

​@@colintorrey1442 Open your eyes and see the world how it really is

@@willduke32 you mean start believing in all the conspiracy theory bullshit you do?

Yeah that would be a great topic

Sounds like celebrity 101 syndrome. As lucrative as this channel may be for Dr. Grande as a growing side biz, I hope he doesn’t veer into pulp analysis of weekly celebrities as his main source of videos.

I read OJ's book, If I did It , after it became the property of the Goldman family who was able to receive the profits because they never saw a dime from OJ despite winning a civil wrongful death case and... uh, yeah, I mean, he did it. He murdered Nicole and Ron because he's a jealous, controlling dick. I was relieved when he finally went to jail for unrelated issues because if he got away with murder twice, imagine his ego to get away with it again...

She died??

@@teresahowick5197 Yes, she did. Apparently she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer (don't know what type) very recently.

She died from colon cancer.

@@sarah2.017 I think she died from colon cancer.