This should b the title of the video!

Yes, I totally agree about why people are searching for a video of how to start over... Losing hope, suicidal. You are fortunate to still have your family, I never would have imagined losing my family, ever, but even that happened.

Also it's not pronounced Nizher.

Respect Daryl bro

Much more inspiring that this talk!!! You should have talked my friend!!!

It's honestly just easy to give up lie down and just rot into the earth

I wish you well 🙏

hows it going

Hi I'm afraid to ask 2 years later how are you doing now

@@s.c5714 my life has been an absolute downward disaster I'm so curious if this gentle made it also

I gained more from your few words than this talk by far!

Thank you. You gave me a bit of hope

neillattz thank you for your insightful and valuable reaction. You are absolutely right: "losing everything" is as relative as anything. My "everything" left me with food, a home and numerous other things that many others lack, and deserve nonetheless. Therefore it is absolutely incomparable to the amount of loss that millions of others suffer. In the context of this talk, however, I did not mean to emphasize how much I lost or suffered. That is irrelevant. What I meant to emphasize is the principle that crisis is a turning point. In every crisis there are equal amounts of danger and opportunity. What we do with any crisis is our choice. This applies on a personal level, but also for organizations, communities, companies, countries. Again: thank you for your reaction. I value your openness and insight very much, and it helps me understand more also.

+Arash Aazami You can see this video has close to 30 thousand views, only about 300 likes, and not even 30 comments. That actually is pretty much the rates for most UKposts videos. What I mean is, most people simply passively watch things, some participate a little, and very few will actually take the time to address points critically. They may be "haters", or they may be people with honest, valid criticism. I know that marketing techniques are a key factor to anything, and is widely, intensely used in media, and that a "catchy" title is very important in terms of UKposts videos and TED talks. So I already expect some issues "less intense" than the video's title. But personally I just don't like stuff that somewhat downplays others indirectly. There are many people who lose a lot, really a lot, they may lose (as in death) their whole family at once, lose all their money, their home. There's just too many people trapped in very difficult situations, and these types of titles are somewhat offensive (in my view) to these people, as if they are lazy or stupid (although there are also many lazy and stupid people, surely). I could rewrite this title in 5 different ways that would make it more honest and just as much effective. But, anyway, most people do not care, and those who have lost everything surely will not be here watching TED talks to be offended, since they lost everything, and likely don't even have a computer anymore...

I lost everything my kids relationship my money my home I was homeless sleep in cars bushes to someone sofa,s .. anticipate suicide over and over,, cry night day don't want food are anything.. I haven't seen my kids for two years now if all goes well I will reunited with them in a month I am a better person and father than I ever was I never had anything to do with illegal or criminal law s,, but the love of my kids wouldn't let me give up on them there mom met some guy on the internet take my kids jump country and gone 4 kids under the age of ten years old,, I don't know my father and build my life around growing up my kids .of course they didn't last a month together I fell apart lost everything.. but I had lots of skills and I bounce back with a mind set that up is were I have to be and my kids will be here as soon as I am ready I forgive my EX and I find a peaceful spiritual growth in me.. I feel like I am blessed to lose it all in the past

True. I just bounced off rock bottom after trying to start a business. I"m literally trying to avoid real homelessness and starvation. I'm over 40 now and I'm like a dinosaur in the workplace. I'll be in tent city in two weeks.

I lost everything I loved but my little jack Russell He’s gold to me

Hi Anni, you are right, in hindsight I would have titled the story differently. It was never intended to be of help for people that are in dire straits. My straits were far less dire than many other people's. Key message would have been the importance of energy access for 2,9 billion people so that they can unlock their potential to contribute to their own lives, that of their families and the ultimately the world. An insight I would never have gathered without losing a little bit myself, but having said that, I always had food on my plate and had a little bit of a professional track record which enabled me to receive job offers. And yes, I got lucky with both an opportunity and a purpose. My apologies. I wish you the best in your life.

Arash Aazami hi no worries, good luck to you too xxx

thank you :)

Who gives him money for investment...and so many rules

@@arashaazami5904 I agree, you have not slot on everything, and have a suit,

Mary.C Thank you so much for enjoying the talk, and cherishing your turning points!

Mary.C you should do a Ted talk. Or At least a video on UKposts to help others who are in the same situation.

Mam can you share..how survive when you lose all I need some of your advice pls

What happens when your real passion gets killed and you can’t ever acces it again

@@KarthikKarthik-db9zc Every human being has this potential within themselves, just try to look for it within you.

What's your education?

40 is literally young

@@lil3raw Not in the workforce.

Sending healing friend

I really need to see and read posts such as yours. You speak genuinely. Its not always going to be alright. Some things some of us never get over. I to have lost eveything all within a year. No job. No family. No friends, to speak of. No money. No drivers license. I do have good health. Although I'm 53 and I can see the end of the tunnel. I still love life. I am just broken right now. Good luck to you my friend. And I hope you will persevere until the universe sends you something auspicious.

I genuinely hope everything gets gradually better for everyone on here. I lost my mum in 2021 and she died in my arms. There will always be something missing in my life now. I haven't been the same and I hit a low point, which I am still recovering from. Never give up and keep going no matter how hard it gets. That's what my mum would tell me ... she continues to live in my heart ...

Whoa tuff stuff man...hope things have gotten better since then

don"t give up bro

It's been a year since you left this comment. I'm genuinely interested to see how you're doing now.

PrinceChris93 please update us on your situation, I am worried about you, even though I don’t know you. I sincerely hope that you’re doing well!

PrinceChris93 bless you

Eagles Fan Since Super Bowl 52 i never turned down jobs. Jobs turned down me. I wasnt allowed to work hard. That feeling, having the will but not the means, makes a man feel violated on a level that few understand.

@@michaelmorse4444 I've got an idea for you, you can do freelance job or build website whenever you are free. No limit.

@@llllll58 I live in Houston, the 4th most populated city in the US. Plus its right next to the southern border. There is nothing that hasn't already been monopolized.

@@michaelmorse4444 the more you know in software development, the higher is the chances of getting a job.

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❤️

Exactly

A lot of people like to overemphasize their losses or their beginnings, to make it look like they're real strugglers, and came a long way. When actually they were already in a good situation, and had a few set backs, and basically went back to their natural level (socially/economically). This guy was obviously rich, chances are his father was already working in the oil industry. I say that because his last name is persian (and the middle east has nothing good but oil...) and the fact he lived in Niger when he was a kid. Turns out that petroleum was found in Niger in the 70's, and exploration began in those days with Texaco and Esso and Elf setting offices there in the 70's and 80's... That would explain why a woman (his mother) left the Netherlands with two small kids to live in a God forsaken land like Niger. I haven't found much info on this guy, but it says somewhere he founded his first energy company at 21... that's not really a "normal" type of company for a 21 year old to found. That's also far from his "early beginnings as a musician" as he makes it seem like in this speech. Also, it's not like he was jobless, wandering through bars. He was already in the industry, and knew a lot of people in the industry (assuming his father was in the industry, and that he really found an energy company at 21, as it seems). But, I mean, this is TEDx talks... so it's expected that people embelish things to make it more appealing to world wide audiences, and although this guy does have an unique life, this storyline of "poor kid from Niger who became a musician and then transformed himself into a magnate CEO of energy companies" is totally not the reality.

+CzechRiot Great reply and thorough analysis, but wrong (you couldn't have known). Just a little background info to clarify things: my father left Iran for Dubai in the early seventies because of him being a Baha'i, a strongly oppressed religious minority, and came to The Netherlands in 1975 and I was born in '77. He worked as a medical analyst for a Dutch NGO in Niger fighting malaria between 1980 and '88. We were never materially rich, but I do consider us to be very rich nonetheless, albeit in the immaterial sense. Our family has never had anything to do with the oil industry. The statement that I founded an energy company at 21 is incorrect. At 22 I started my first business: a webdesign agency in Rotterdam. I founded my energy company BAS in 2010, at 32 years old, and left it in 2015. Lastly: I do not agree with the title of this talk, it was not my choice. I would have liked to change it for "how a musician ended up trying to change the energy industry" or something along these lines. In any case: thanks a lot for your extensive replies and I wish for you to do exactly what you would do if all the work in the world were voluntary.

Arash Aazami Good that you replied with the real world facts. I like to sort of "create stories" for people based on the little evidence I have available, but it's more of an exercise in hypothetical thinking, and often I try to check later on how right or wrong I was (when I do that in the real world, with people I just met for example). It's also a way to refine my judgment, test my own heuristics. In this case, my second guess would be that your parents were diplomats, and third guess that it was some humanistic health related work. But I treat everything as probabilities. There will always be the times when we're dealing the 1% case events. But there is a website with that false information about you starting an energy company at 21.

+CzechRiot thanks for your reply. Your third guess was right after all. ;-) Thanks also for the heads up on the website stating false information, do you have a link?

Especially me now I’m pregnant too alone homeless lost job no friends no family Just been through abuse all my life and suffering I’m numb I don’t know the rest of the people are so calm and so loved and have money and me nothing I have no

+Emil Goubasarian Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope to gain some high-energy traits of new generations instead. ;-)

I resonate with what you said. Word by word. Can we have a chat over discord?

Im right there with you man

Stop complaining, snowflake !

I have lost everything. My hard earn money for my school fees have been defrauded by frudsters.i need assistance pls just to pay for my school fees. M just a poor ophan from nigeria. Thank you

Thank you. You are actually helping me right now as i am 53 yrs old and walking the streets with no home, nobody that loves and cares for me. But when I stop at a place that has wifi because my phones bill is unpaid, i look for inspiration on UKposts and I found this segment. What sticks out most for me is the replies such as yours. Thank you.

even your access to youtube comments?

I did to

Tell me more...

No you didn't, because u still have phone or laptop and watching this video and you are able to comment. You still have hands to write, ears to listen, eyes to watch and mind to understand things. U have everything bro. U should to be grateful on all the things you have.

Me too 😢😢

***** Thank you Doll. you are the first person to tell me something positive in months. Thank you. - I cant tell you how much the words you simply typed made me tear up and fell so much better. Its been a long time since someone believed in me and has given me hope. -Thank you so much.

oh its so sad , i also lost my job 6 days ago and left in a strange country. i hope everything is better for you since the time you left comment.

I'm in a similar situation Landon, I know how you feel

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Nobody should have to experience what you shared with us. You’re loved always, no matter what.

Landon Landeros how did you make yourself stand after you lost your job and after what happened to you because i am also going through exactly the similar kind of problem and i want to know what should i do right now

Hi @catherinemulenga2234 I don’t know where you are in your recovery, or if you’ll ever see this. But I really hope that this reply reaches you. As someone who is only now starting to come out of months of debilitating depression from having lost everything in my professional life, I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that once you’ve made up your mind to fight the negative forces that are fighting to take you down, then it’s not over for you. Not by a long shot. That business that you started, and the time that you spent building and operating said business, no doubt gave you loads of experience at many different levels. You started out with a knowledge of how to work independently in your particular field. That knowledge allowed you start and manage your own business. Then, the debacle with the people who later became involved in the business, no doubt gave you immeasurable experience regarding operations from a partnership or group standpoint. You have loads of experience in both, what to do and what not to do next time. Hindsight is indeed a blessing. Altogether, your past wins + your recent losses = a golden opportunity. You are now in a position to create a new niche. That business that you ran was run from only one particular angle. But now, using all of your experience gained both before and during this loss, perhaps you can establish a new way of operating in the same field, which has not (or barely) been explored by any of the competitors in your area. It’s a start that may take you further than you can ever imagine right now. Believe this stranger from the internet when I say, in a few short years, you will be laid back in a recliner chair laughing about this experience, as you enjoy your favorite drink. Please please please, just don’t give up! ❤

maybe he sold his soul to get that

I'm worried that's where I'm headed. I've been homeless before and don't want to have to go through that again.

@@twintwo278 I hope not and good luck. It’s been 2 months and I am still homeless. I went from having a lot to nothing. But I have got another car and a job in these 2 months and I’ll have a home in a few months.

Just keep it out your mind and do your best at staying positive through whatever. I hope you don’t end up homeless again.

@@shesoverit2302thanks man. It’s been a year and I’ve gotten my stuff together. New car, home and I’m doing good. I hope you are too

Keep going man, eventually things will pay off, stay strong , life will bless you brother

@@shesoverit2302 no, everything is not well until now, but I want to heal and hopefully Buddha will help me to heal. Thanks for your reply. I don't know who u are and your religion etc, but Kindly pray and hope the best for me Sorry if i sound cheesy, but really need support

Yeah.. is this really "rock bottom" lol

Everyone’s definition of rock bottom differs

So very true - some of the comments are much more inspiring than this guy. Loved your comment. It’s like seeing these 20 year old models say look what great shape I’m in. I’m not impressed!!!

I’m wishing you well 🙏🙏

I lost the love of my life in a car crash in front of me. I pushed myself to rock bottom depressed and got drunk almost to the point as an alcoholic.. I did however got up and fail continuously for years.. Its not easy.. Not easy it's the hardest thing u may ever have to endure... You may be on ur knees or even lying down bt u can always rise up my brother.. I'm still going so can you!! We have to have enough faith to believe whats in front of us is greater what is behind us.

Anita Barneycastle Your son probably didnt lost his mind, you have to accept that he is who he is, he doesn want the same things as you and dont see the world the same way. I identify my self with your son. How much I wanted that my parents accepted my as I am, is the only thing I nedeed from them. Probably your son just want the same thing. Or probably not, but remember that love is also about acceptance, not high expectations

Hugo Antunes my son is a drug addict and is currently in jail...again. I don't accept this behavior. And neither do the authorities.

Anita Barneycastle I hear you

Anita Barneycastle I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m also going through immense loss. My heart goes out to you. I hope you are finding some way to cope with it all...I know I’m trying to - peace 💗

He did not loose his sanity and self respect & hope. Those things are usually learned in wealthy families because those qualities bring wealth, but you can learn it later too.

PUT YOURSELF FIRST….YOU CAN NOT HELP ANYONE WHEN YOU ARE NOT 99.9% GOOD.👍 AND when your are not GOOD Helping OTHERS just Make you MORE UNWELL ‼️ And that means you can not help YOURSELF or ANYONE …. 1) places to stay 2) income…. Later income from Something you enjoy doing 😊 3) join a Club …. Dance or sports or Cycling or art…BUT mix and Speak with Other PEOPLE men and women. 3) good Food & exercise ( no Smoking vapping exes drinking alcohol ( alcohol 1 one ☝️ night per week and don’t get DRUNK. That is the Start, when you do this your Brain 🧠 Starts to work, and WORK MUCH BETTER….i know I’ve did this 3 times in my Life 👍 GOT FOR IT 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿😎