You can hear it in the way he speaks, this is taking a lot of energy and focus for him. It's fucking hard to actually stand for something. This man isn't anti-male, he's fuckin' pro-male and so many don't even realize it. It's so hard to stand up to this. Men are kind of scary. And they kick and fucking scream if they're ever implicated. Kudos to this man.

He clearly talks about abuse among men as well as women. So stop making assumptions. Listen to the video, and educate yourselves. Listen with your mind and heart, not with your own ego.

Just a note to commenters here: To highlight the struggles of one group is not to undermine the struggles of another. In speaking out against violence against women, you are in no way condoning violence against men. There is enough space in the discourse to have compassion for all groups. Nevertheless giving a voice to a marginalised group in society who for decades have not had a voice, is a powerful and vital conversation. To come into a space that facilitates that conversation, with criticism for another cause is missing the point.

I appreciate his passion, it shows he cares what hes talking about. Respect to him for standing on stage and giving his speech.

"A lot of men hear the term "women's issues" and we tend to tune it out" That's kind of an issue in itself though!

I was abused by my ex husband for years. I know all about that "victim blaming" stuff. This dude is awesome here! God bless y'all out there who are or have been victims.

This one of the most beautiful, well spoken, well informed, and truthful speeches. This man and all others like him are heroes.

A "real MAN" doesnt need to dominate others- He is Master of himself and thats what good Leadership is about. - "Human dignity shall be inviolable".

Funny how the comments below just proves how right he is..

This guys is seriously my hero. Every time I bring up gender issues, guys tend to shut me down because they claim that it's not their problem. Everyone needs to watch this because it does affect everybody

This is so healing...I'm happy that there are men that care about women's empowerment. THANK YOU.

As an autistic man who lives in a group home, I witnessed violence against the female staff multiple times. To the point where police literally just did nothing, while the male housemate assaulted the women staff. As I was raised around mostly women growing up, this traumatized me greatly. I'm looking to move out into my own place, as there is someone there now (another male) who threatened me as I told him to respect the female staff who work there. (It's mostly women that work at my house btw) and so he threatens me quite a bit. He keeps saying "sorry" for stuff like that, and obviously doesn't learn, although he has the capacity to do so. Hopefully I will move out soon, as even the neighbors have been noticing the police coming and going through at a frequent pace. Well, I live in Minnesota, I work in Minneapolis, so its been...quite a couple weeks here. But my opinion, it is needed. Change must happen. Same with this point being made in this TEDtalk here. We must stand beside the women, never behind. We inhabit this spinning blue marble together, after all. And you know, women help to the make the world, so there's that also.

All the comments on here are the reason we needed this video in the first place.

I'm so touched. I actually shed some tears listening to him ... Wish more men could listen to this speech...

They always say "why doesn't she leave?" instead of saying "why does he hit her?"

I was a battered woman for 16 years, I was blamed, ridiculed and told to shut up and stop lying. I will always be afraid and look over my shoulder, that will never leave me. I encourage everyone to re think that this is a womans fault

I'm soooo very grateful that men are starting to stand up to other men and tell them that the way abusers treat women is wrong. Too many times, in my life and other women's lives, women get treated like sh-- and not a single man ever stood up to the abuser, even in the smallest way, and tell the guy he's a jerk. Ever! I love this video!! A courageous man with a fabulous mission. This is THE issue of the planet, even above climate change and global economics.

I wanna hug this awesome man. Kind of impossible to do over the internet. Can we make virtual hugs a thing, please?

This is the first time I have ever heard a man speak so clearly about these issues. I wish more men and boys and also women and girls could hear him speak.His insight and passion are enlightening.

I've been working with abusive men for a long time now, and I can support everything he says. If you don't realize what a problem this is and the importance of our own change motivation to ourseleves, to improve and to stop hurting others, it means you're part of the problem.

You can see how pure his intentions just by the passion he has been speaking. Thank you sir for standing up for us women.

90% on the comments on this place prove his point.

I was so blown away at how thorough and compassionate this is. I showed this video to all my students this year and had productive and constructive discussions with teens who are on board with making positive changes in this area! Thank you for your work and dedication to making the world a better place! :-)

Preach, my Brother in this cold, hard world! Peace be to you. Xo

What's interesting to me about this subject is that there's a social demand for women to stop playing the victim. But when they take their safety into their own hands by learning how to fight, carrying and learning how to use firearms, they are accused of trying to be like men.

Love this man. Hopefully other men will listen.

I was a bystander. This is my story: My friend and I were travelling home, when a middle aged man entered our tram carriage that was at near capacity and proceeded over to the nearest female. The female in question was around 14 years old. The man forced her into a corner and pushed his groin into her body. This went on for around 10 mins. I felt physically sick and I still feel like such a coward for not confronting the man. I told myself that if the girl had a problem she would have exited the tram but it wasn't true. She looked truly terrified and none of us stood up for her. It was a pretty shameful moment. As a bystander I allowed this man to sexually assault a teenage girl.That moment will live with me forever.

Today I got to breaking point after reading the news, I actually felt like I hate men having seen all the murder, rape and violence almost exclusively carried out by men, and then other men making excuses for them (she was asking for it. What did she do to make him kill her? Etc). And then I found this. Thank you for reminding me that there are decent men out there.

If the content of this presentation was exactly the same, and instead there was a woman saying these things, there would be thousands of dislikes and there would be comments insulting the speaker's appearance and intelligence as UKposts pundits create angry backlash videos and direct their followers here.

its so refreshing to see a male feminist.

You know when you're so angry about something that your blood boils and you feel the adrenaline in your body going, so your words end up more sputtered and thoughts scattered than normal? That's this guy. And I appreciate it.

It made me cry to see a man so genuinely speak about this. Thank you, Jackson Katz.

It is quite ironic that women relate more to his talk than the men who this talk is targeted.. Goes to show how corrupt the society really is.

The reason we ask "why doesn't she leave?" instead of "why doesn't he stop hitting her?" is because we don't know the answer to the first question but know the answer to second. The reason he beats her is because he is insecure, abusive, power hungry asshole.

Thank you for your courage. I was surprisingly pleased to hear your lecture about violence against women. Thank you for being on our side. We really need true leaders to care for Both men and women issues in our world.

I've been molested by a family member, I've been raped, and I've been groped by men. I don't understand why this is so common. I don't hate mens rights they deserve equal pay, custody rights, ability to protect themselves, and everything a woman does. Yet more than 50% of the females I know have been molested or raped. Female family members, my best friend, her girlfriend, acquaintances, coworkers. I can't say it hasn't altered my perspective and I expect men to be overly sexual, violent, and cruel. I'm kind in public. I try my best to stay out of men's way. Men aren't allowed in my apartment. I don't go to private parties. So what is the answer? How do we fix this? It's a pandemic in our culture and we need answers before another generation is raised believing that to stay safe is to stay away from men.

Violence against PEOPLE-it's a HUMAN issue "All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose." ~ Warren Farrell

Men should not get more cred for talking about this issue than women. But we need more of us to do so badly.

Why can’t men just empathize with women and the things we face due to the patriarchy. This was very refreshing to see this man speak on this 🖤

The only man who majored in Women's Studies. Respect.

If you wonder if this lecture is needed - please notice all of the comments below. How many people took time to write and say: yes, violence towards woman needs to stop! The majority prefers to criticise...

it is not just about women. it is about all of us. like he said... race, gender, religion and so on. everyone of us. if i would saw a woman who is hurting a man (verbally and\or phisically) i would say: "hey, stop it. why did you do that?" or with a gay or hetero or black or white or pink etc. the main message is that: we are all live in this planet so just be tolerant to each other and try not to hurt anyone. and if you saw someone did, be brave enough to say: "this is not right".

Finally, for 30 years I've been askng about a man, man enough to challenge other men (and women).... He nails it.

Very crucial point that he spoke about.....the impact of abuse on young boys and girls who witness this trauma.

Fantastic. That's the kind of men, the kind of people, that actually build a better world.

From reading the comments, I can tell that a lot of people misunderstood this speech. This talk isn't limited to violence against women, it is against violence in general. All he did was connecting the "violence" issue with the "violence against women" issue. He's saying that when a man gets violent towards another man it is the same issue as when a man gets violent towards a woman. It's that simple. Currently, violence against women gets systematically put in a "women's issues" box, therefore most man ignore it, but the truth is that it's everybody's problem because the same issues that causes men to commit violence against women also causes men to commit violence towards other men and children.

This video is excellent! South Africa is in a crisis of gender- based violence right now. If we can get and keep the conversations going, this crisis in our country will start to turn around. This is definitely worth the listen, especially for men.

Men’s emotional and verbal abuse is underrated for the amount of damage this does. I was with an emotional & verbal abusive man for 2ys, it’s going to take me years to recover from the degradation, the hurt and the sock that someone you love could abuse you this way. To realize a relationship gave you PTSD is stunning.

Is it powerful and amazing because a man is saying it? Many women have expressed all these ideas, articulately and passionately, prior to - and alongside, this man (as he outlined). I think we should really be commending him for using his power and privilege to elevate an already well researched and proven issue. Not so much what he says, but just that he is willing to say it!

The really sad part about all of this is just how horribly human life has been damaged by violence. Women have been oppressed. But also, men have had their true potential deflated. They wont ever know how it feels to be truly loved.

The perfect talk. What an admirable man

This brought me to tears. Nothing has been more relevant in my life.

Thank you, Sir. I believe it is a leadership issue as well. My sons are defenders of women because of the leadership of their father. One even taught women's self defense classes for two years before entering the service. Thank God for men of valor and integrity who value the lives and dignity of other people.

very courageous, passionate speech. a topic that needs more highlighting. thank you Jacson.

Men should never be violent to women.

Amen! MEN need to hold eachother accountable and support and protect women children and other men from abuse. my son sanity has been deeply effected by it and challenges every sexist toxic man around him. does not abide guys putting down women in any way.

Wow, what a logical, well-structured, informative, and engaging talk! There were a lot of good points in there. I especially liked the point he made about how homosexual issues, race issues, and gender issues often implies the exclusion of the majority group when they are still equally apart of the issue. But my favorite point he made was that gender equality is leadership training not sensitivity training. Rather than putting members of the community down and belittling them, a good leader brings out the strength of each member so that the team may achieve the best results.

"Standing with women, not against them" is standing up for men's wives, sisters, daughters, mothers. I continue to be baffled by how challenging this is for some (not all) men.

As a man if you searched up this video to understand this issue you’re awesome

90% comments on here actually prove this video.

Violence... it's a human issue.

How can you call this talk an anti-male speech? A feminist propaganda? Did you all even fucking watch the video? I'm just pissed at this point. I really appreciate Jackson Katz's speech because it's full of truths, and I honestly did not expect to come here and read about men feeling threatened and wronged by this brilliant man. Why do you all feel victimized? This video is for you to realise that there is something wrong with society, not with you. You shouldn't be so eager to bash on women and defend violent men. You shouldn't be so scared of changes, of progress, of equality.

This is a breath of fresh air! It takes awareness, skill and courage to be a real leader. What we often have are followers pretending to be leaders.

This talk should be screened in all schools, work environments, and family movie nights.

To all of the people talking about male domestic violence victims...the truth is that we don’t know what the true number of victims are even with statistics because a lot of domestic violence can go unreported for both male and female victims. A lot of people who have abusive partners are afraid to report it because of the possibility of their abusive partner hurting them. This isn’t a gendered issue. I just wish MRAs and Feminists would stop fighting over ‘who has it worse’ and just agree that this is an issue that we all need to teach about. We should teach our children what an abusive and controlling relationship looks like and how to spot warning signs. Also offer resources for both women and men, which may include therapy or couples therapy. People need to stop feeling ashamed for their mental health issues. Therapy isn’t just for the mentally ill. Having good mental health should be important to everyone.

I love Jackson Katz. I had the pleasure of seeing him when he came to the University of Akron back in early October. Of course, the fact that all the knuckle-dragging MRA trolls are crawling out of their filthy rocks to spout off their usual list of deflections and whataboutery means that Dr. Katz has obviously struck a nerve. You keep doing good work, Dr. Katz!

10 years later and there's little to no progress on this issue.

My son doesn't have a father figure to show him behaviors either good or bad. It's been up to me. He is one of these guys, who stands up to his friends when they're in a group and one of them makes a sexist comment. They're 12 year olds, and the sexism is already deeply a part of their mindset. My kid has lost some friends over it, and he's ok with that. I'm proud of him. He has a strong mother and a wonderful little sister. I'm hoping that his example in some way helps the boys growing up around him to unlearn these behaviors. I'm proud of the man he is growing up to be, because he WILL be a better leader than many men are today!

This is how you're an ally.

I’m a man and I was physically and emotionally abused by a female preschool teacher. What she did in person ended 20 years ago, but the aftermath of it still affects me today. I was the only student in the class that could speak (it was a special needs class). Every day, she’d pick me up by the chair I was sitting on and literally drop me into a corner. She’d hit other kids in the class and cuss them out, and all the while, I’d hear them screaming and crying. And when I’d turn my head to see, she’d smack me on the side of my head so I’d face the wall. Ever since then, I’ve been unable to be around small children, especially kids 5 and under. I don’t want to remain silent anymore. I want the world to know who she is and what she did. Her name is Dina Holder and she lives in Brentwood California.

As a Navy veteran, I would love to live long enough to see military personnel become true defenders of decency and equality in all walks of life. No woman/person should be afraid of her ship mates or anyone in her chain of command. If you're not on board with what this man says you should resign your commission immediately.

I got hit in the head with a pan by my ex. I had internal bleeding and coming out of my ear. I still didn't touch her. A man can do some serious damage to a woman, it's the way we are born. She called the cops and shockingly they took her because she lied to them. Infidelity is another one that can make one, man or woman snap. We need to just be good people to each other.

"In the end what will hurt the most is not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." I could say the same about the way we treat animals: the indifference of a laaaaaarge majority of people is what creates so much suffering.

The comment section of this wonderful talk gives me dismay. The words are so obviously insightful and true, supported by my experience as a male midwife working closely with women and their families. Blokes, men are not the enemy, the enemy is the stereotypical stylisation of what it is to be a man. Work with your partners, your daughters, and sons to respect and stand to fight for the equality of our fellow people. Not a grandiose statement of PC intention but a common sense approach to what it is to be a truly STRONG member of society. It's hard in a group of 'blokes' to break out of the molded expected 'locker room' talk of pseudo-masculinity to address sexism, and inappropriateness. It takes true strength to stand up for the abused be it on the basis of gender, race, culture, difference or other insecurities. My sons and daughters will hear how it is a demonstration of strength to address bullies, to confront and challenge the abuse of any person by another, they will and do learn that true strength lies in respect. My daughters and sons will strive to express their own freedoms and the right for others to do the same. Enough with the bullshit apologists for abuse in all its guises.

I have watched & sent this talk out so many times. Just watching it again and SO GRATEFUL for you Dr. Katz!! You and Tony Porter are our hope--and, as you say, for BOTH girls/women AND boys/men. THE FUTURE!! Thank you for your work

“Calling gender violence a women’s issue is part of the problem. It gives men an excuse not to pay attention.”

LOL....the men in this thread are really funny....when he said this is a men's issue he didn't mean, "Turn this whole thing around to make yourselves victims." I just love how men can't stand to NOT get their way all the time and vehemently refuse to do any introspection whatsoever.

this is powerful and inspiring, a Man standing up for Women is rare, but a brave, intelligent man with a plan is even more of a commodity and I salute you for being the leader and the change you want to see in the world. Thank you.

I dealt with physical abuse for years. I married again and dealt with mental abuse. Mental abuse affects us for the rest of our lives. The reason we put up with it has to do with how we were raised and who we are from birth, and from the first five years of our lives.

wow a man speaking up about injustices we face!!🙌🙌👼

One of the best speech I Have ever listenned to. WE can't STOP violence against women without men's involvement.

That's how man's power looks like!

Men have coached for many generations on other topics and now it is vital that you all coach on this w a megaphone. I asked a friend how he would feel if women coached his athletic team and he said he wouldn’t stay on the team or wouldn’t take instruction from “her” bc he felt like she didn’t have what he needed to lead him or the male team.Your voice w other male voices are so important. Thank you for your work!

Men's comment in this section just proves how correct he is.

Its sad that so many people are threatened by this. It has nothing to do with worshipping and everything to do with equality. Talk to anyone, male, female, inter-sexed, everyone has felt discriminated against in different levels. Feminism is merely the belief that everyone across all genders and races deserve equality. Get educated rather than speaking out of ignorance, you'll be surprised to find out what your missing.

Just saying, any guy who is open about his support of feminism, gets 100x hotter

I like the 'shifting the verbiage.' I cringe when I hear the term "battered woman" How about "Abusive insecure creep who abuses people!"

Good talk. Not politicised, well-prepared. A true pleasure to watch.

I agree with the Bystander Approach part of his talk. Instead of seeing any gender as sole perpetrators or sole victims, we should just see each other as bystanders who can help out someone being abused or call out someone being abusive. This should be the main point of the conversation. He has a point about status and peer culture, but not only among men and boys. It's sad that it's true that our moral compasses fail against peer culture.

Good speech. I like how he said both men and women need to start working together instead of being in opposition. Much of what I see today regarding this issue is both sexes in opposition to one another.

So many insecure men in these comments getting personally offended just because the problem of male violence is named. No I'm sure you're all wonderful little angels and those nasty feminists are just telling lies about the number of women murdered by men each week, and all the wars we've had were led by them, and that 98% of violent crimes are carried out by men....if it upsets you so much, do something about it. But the truth is, you want to keep it don't you?

although violence happens to all genders, this video makes a lot of important points in how when women specifically have been beaten, raped, murdered, undermined and destroyed and yet it some how is only a women's issue. that separately is just messed up on its own. and yet reading this comment section is really disheartening. the majority of the commenters dont realize how deep it runs and how historically when women were looked at and treated like just another possession and second class citizens by law and their husbands was an actual real thing. some wives were even sold to other men. there is so much so many people don't even know. especially men because they have never had to experience that kind of oppression. that's why women's right to vote was so important because they wanted to right to be treated like human beings and not be treated like slaves and have a say in their own health, happiness and well being. it's really upsetting to see men argue against this. instead of trying to understand and educate themselves on something that they never had to deal with. I absolutely know the abuse in all forms happens to men too and it is not as known as when it happens to women, which is awful but BECAUSE OF feminism, mens abuse is also coming to light and we want to take care of our abused men just as much as we want to as our abused women. feminism isn't just one sided. feminism started from the suffrage of women but has circulated to the suffrage all of beings and that there is a war against all persons of oppression. there's so much more to it and I wish and I hope that people educate themselves on such things and maybe just maybe it can continue to help and change the diseased system for all everyone. understanding and helping the oppression of someone else can lift you up and everyone else up as well. things can change for the better but sometimes you have to realize that there are shackles different from your own and supporting each other can lead to the freedom and happiness for us all. the idea that your life, freedom, convenience and happiness is more important or valuable than another's IS what is wrong with the world.

I love this talk. I know that he didn't address every issue of gender on both sides, but I love how eloquently he addressed this specific issue.

I don't get how people end up like this guy.

I love this so much ! If all men stood up and spoke like this it would help so much!

This was a very much needed TedTalk. These are definitely issues everyone should be vested in. Thanks for your leadership!

The lack of empathy shown in these comments that some men are posting is vile and disgusting. I don't have an issue with some men not supporting equality and feminism in its entirety for whatever reasons, but to continually defame feminism (calling it femme-nazi for example) adds no value and make you sound like children. Most feminists I know, care about males being beaten, children being molested and others being rape. This at least adds social value to the collective conscious and morale. There is still a lot of work to be done for EVERYONE in the realm of feminism and gender issues, but even more so the practice of tact, apparently. I would rather a world of politically correct activists (and I don't even consider myself PC) over a world of whiny, movement haters who have nothing better to do than criticize a positive message to make themselves feel better. Go cry about it together and leave the REAL men who aren't intimidated by topics like these, to take the lead and the ladies. Thanks!

I wonder how many people disliked the video before watching it, because of the title

Ah, it is SO soothing to hear an insightful male.... this gives me hope. Only thing that doesn't make sense is that it appears on TED(...)WOMEN which undermines his statement of this being a mainly male issue (and it will keep a majority of potential male allies from even watching....) 😕

In the end what we will remember is not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. This is so true. Silence emboldens and empowers abusers. We have to create a peer culture where certain behaviours are unacceptable, not because they are illegal, but because they are wrong....... So true. If men lost their status for engaging in these behaviours they will think twice. There are not enough consequences, so the abuse continues.......So true.