133. From Good to Great: How Supercommunicators Unlock the Secrets to Connection with Charles Duhigg

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Stanford Graduate School of Business

Stanford Graduate School of Business

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In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and author Charles Duhigg shares what he means by the term "supercommunicator" and what it takes to become one.
In his conversation with host and Stanford GSB lecturer Matt Abrahams, Duhigg illustrates his transition from exploring personal growth for his bestselling books, "The Power of Habit" and "Smarter Faster Better," to investigating the realm of communication, his own and others’.
“One of the things that we know about supercommunicators is that they seem to notice what kind of conversation is going on,” Duhigg says. His current book, "Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection" came out earlier this year.
Abrahams and Duhigg explore the precise techniques that distinguish a “supercommunicator:” traits such as active listening, looping for understanding, and identifying someone's true feeling underneath their actual words.
“They've trained themselves to look for the little clues or cues that tell us, ‘oh, this person might be talking about something that seems practical, but they're feeling something. This is an emotional conversation,’ or, ‘that person is talking about a plan they want to make.’”

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@ReflectionOcean
@ReflectionOcean Місяць тому
00:13:19 Listen actively by using the technique of looping for understanding. 00:15:37 Prepare deep questions that focus on values, beliefs, and experiences to foster meaningful conversations. 00:17:49 Recognize the importance of control in different contexts. 00:18:23 Practice giving junior team members a voice in meetings. 00:19:03 Emphasize conversational equity in hybrid communication settings. 00:19:49 Recognize and adapt to different types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social. 00:21:01 Understand the nuances of online communication channels. 00:22:42 Take a moment to consider the mode of conversation before communicating. 00:23:29 Slow down your communication to enhance understanding. 00:23:35 Control the boundaries of a conflict to prevent it from escalating into unrelated issues. 00:25:24 Practice paraphrasing to validate the other person's words and demonstrate active listening. 00:25:34 Embed information in stories to make it more memorable. 00:25:50 Focus on the middle of your stories to engage listeners effectively. 00:29:40 Ask questions that invite more information and show genuine interest in understanding the other person. 00:30:40 Ask questions to show interest and deepen relationships. 00:32:55 Display vulnerability to make others feel comfortable around you. 00:33:00 Take a moment to control yourself, the environment, and the boundaries of the conflict during disagreements. 00:33:36 Listen actively, recognize emotional cues, and adapt the conversation accordingly. 00:34:48 Share your unique perspectives and experiences to make conversations more engaging. 00:37:55 Understand the differences in conflict resolution between personal and professional settings, considering power dynamics and appropriateness.
@sabashahirdavarpanah2790
@sabashahirdavarpanah2790 Місяць тому
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@murthigowda471
@murthigowda471 19 днів тому
Huu bro you spend lot of time to write this.. Appreciated
@hassanalroz9881
@hassanalroz9881 3 дні тому
I really appreciate your Job
@hassanalroz9881
@hassanalroz9881 3 дні тому
It is so impressive and touching conversation, Thank you so much and I was lucky to catch this on UKposts.
@HienLe-yp4zz
@HienLe-yp4zz Місяць тому
We need more conversations like this . Excellent !
@sleepnabox
@sleepnabox Місяць тому
Great listen while i was working out. Will listen to this again and take notes when i sit down later this evening.
@PhilippBenz
@PhilippBenz 2 місяці тому
A very powerful conversation. Tell me more...
@RanmaSyaoranSaotome
@RanmaSyaoranSaotome 2 місяці тому
There's a great book on deep conversations called 'Small Talk Small Ideas: Fifty Ways to Have a Deep Conversation'.
@k.t8174
@k.t8174 Місяць тому
Mad looks an amazing person. His attitude when he listens, he is performing all practices he learned in his podcast.
@rmschindler144
@rmschindler144 Місяць тому
agreed!
@JUDALIONNN
@JUDALIONNN Місяць тому
Didn't know GBS launched a podcast. This is great. GBS should promote this series.
@stanfordgsb
@stanfordgsb Місяць тому
We're glad you like it. We have a few podcasts! Think Fast Talk Smart has more than 130 episodes and our newest show, If/then launched earlier this year. Check them out in our "podcasts" vertical.
@Pwr2b1
@Pwr2b1 2 місяці тому
Nice collaborative discussion filled with caring connection. Well done! Thank you.
@AtandraBhar
@AtandraBhar Місяць тому
This is a very good conversation. As an aspirent of US MBA course, how conversation helps me to be successful in the said course. Thank you.
@claumj8428
@claumj8428 Місяць тому
Excellent interview! You both shine!🤩
@darshantsdarshan1
@darshantsdarshan1 27 днів тому
Wow! GSB should promote this content :) Superb and such a critical podcast #2024
@aja363
@aja363 Місяць тому
It is so satisfying to watch & listen to master communicators - topnotch articulation! Thank you, Matt & Charles!🎉
@user-dw2lt3bd7y
@user-dw2lt3bd7y 2 місяці тому
Thanks very much ❤ I learn English and communication skills 😊 of this good information content! Developmental 😇🍀
@FeliciaStepanpodcast
@FeliciaStepanpodcast 24 дні тому
It's fascinating how much the way we communicate affects the message itself. This reinforces the importance of not only being a good listener, but also consciously choosing the right channel, based on the kind of conversation we want to have. This video sparked a lot of thought. I'm curious - what are some subtle cues and habits that help us become a better listeners? I'd love to hear some tips.
@TheWood1965
@TheWood1965 23 дні тому
I think this captures one of the ideas, I like me best when I am with you
@rmschindler144
@rmschindler144 Місяць тому
“Think Fast, Talk Smart” - I wonder if the name might one day change to: “Think Slow, Speak Wisdom” :)
@ecofriend93
@ecofriend93 Місяць тому
The middle arc is the most important is coz that's where the most learning can happen. People have similar struggles so the beginning and the end are things people are familiar to them. What different people do in the middle from beginning to end is what makes the difference.
@luissuarez5845
@luissuarez5845 2 місяці тому
This is great! Finally I can see you Matt bravo 👍🏽👍🏽
@StefDelbecque
@StefDelbecque Місяць тому
I listened to the podcast, and loved it so much that I came here for the video. Thank you for sharing these amazing pieces of advices.
@dindiramamohanarao7344
@dindiramamohanarao7344 Місяць тому
Wonderful conversation....
@makersfieldguide
@makersfieldguide Місяць тому
What's Dan Bilzerian doing at Stanford?
@miguelpazos2334
@miguelpazos2334 27 днів тому
Don't confuse language with communication. Language is a super power. Communication is universally on, all the time. You are either tuned in or tuned out. Animals communicate.
@BenW.-lx9eq
@BenW.-lx9eq 18 годин тому
Animals as pets are in market share of the US more valued than Africans in Africa.
@shrikantpawar8269
@shrikantpawar8269 Місяць тому
Thank you so much sir 🙏
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Excellent performance of experience
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Best way is learning something new hobbies
@pierrekambeya2363
@pierrekambeya2363 2 місяці тому
Thanks you matt
@jaydeeppatidar5434
@jaydeeppatidar5434 Місяць тому
I have few questions, would love to have conversation 1. When person A talks with person B, for starters it is good to exchange values and belief. However along the way you start developing biases towards next person and your mind become clouded with biases - what do we do then, how to have conversation ? ( what strategies to use then ?) 2. People often are busy in their head and when you think who smiled back at you when you smiled - would it lead to any conclusion then ?
@Eliyahu-uq3ec
@Eliyahu-uq3ec Місяць тому
Can you disclose your bias? If not, consider exiting the conversation. Then, take time to reflect on your bias. Find another person to discuss your bias with. I do not understand your second question. Whether smiling is indicative of emotional intelligence is proven by the video’s claims about laughter. Someone who is in his head is not practicing emotional intelligence.
@rmschindler144
@rmschindler144 Місяць тому
I’d be very interested to get any links to learn more about this idea of ‘spontaneous speaking’ which the interviewer raised
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Thanks for enjoying 21 century
@couchpotato9497
@couchpotato9497 Місяць тому
Why did the beginning sound extremely similar to Andrew Hubermanns podcast 🤨
@user-jy5gv8vc2x
@user-jy5gv8vc2x 2 місяці тому
do you have any worksheets to practice communications? Thanks
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Old is gold rate today
@kholoudgherbal2242
@kholoudgherbal2242 2 місяці тому
Good!
@dsd5705
@dsd5705 22 дні тому
New Subscriber
@juhigandral7093
@juhigandral7093 2 місяці тому
Nice
@shrikantpawar8269
@shrikantpawar8269 2 місяці тому
Good morning
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Exposure of journey
@heathermc2916
@heathermc2916 21 день тому
Marine Corps m.o., "Officers eat last" = senior execs speak last.
@michaelgarcia4100
@michaelgarcia4100 Місяць тому
In my experience, most people are terrified of actually answering a question. They'll search for an oppprtunity to say anything but.
@tharandtermountain
@tharandtermountain 25 днів тому
That's interesting...in my experience, I ask 10-20x more questions than the people I meet, to the extent that when someone does ask me a question about myself, I am thrown off guard and can't respond as eloquently as I can ask! To add, I find it's somewhat of a cultural phenomenon because where I am from, I find folks to be much better at conversing back AND forth much moreso to where I live today. To add,
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Understand opponents
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Take it and cuddle
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Listening is different from understand
@rmschindler144
@rmschindler144 Місяць тому
interesting: the conspicuous absence of the idea of God or Allah or the Infinite Light & Love of our compassionate unity . very, very interesting that this just doesn’t come up!
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Answer ir family
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Sir (s)understand (u) please (p) every (e)respected (r)
@kahea2018
@kahea2018 24 дні тому
Explains mob mentality
@sampatel90069
@sampatel90069 17 днів тому
It’s alarming that these people completed grade school. I will admit that I’m not sure if this is effective communication or not.
@williamvest209
@williamvest209 16 днів тому
ROFL. - that comment is so meta I’m having a hard time unpacking it. Can you explain what you mean?
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Increase oxygen level in immediately increase
@navdeepkumar9258
@navdeepkumar9258 3 дні тому
You are getting old Mr. Abraham ❤
@pldevries
@pldevries Місяць тому
Don't waste your time on this vacuous conservation. A lot of empty terminology but no substance.
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Doctor cannot cure time
@akkunya
@akkunya 18 днів тому
This guy wrote a book to learn how to talk to his wife lol 😂😂😂
@narayanaraokdsss4833
@narayanaraokdsss4833 Місяць тому
Drink some water
@raginald7mars408
@raginald7mars408 Місяць тому
... as a German Biologist - the strangest par DOXXX is we live in crowded dense cities so close to each other and do the opposite to insulate ourselves with huge Ear Phones talking LOUD on the Phone in the streets to make sure noli me tangere stay away from me how difficult it is to talk to a person it is this self destruction that disables all our social emotional abilities - then no relationship will ever develop and we are lonely, frigid, getting addicted to anything making it worse....
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