The take-away from your comment is that we are a society trained to obey We are not free

Agape

Brent Scheihagen Look for a poem or the song “Believe me if all those endearing young charms”. It reflects this same sentiment beautifully. I sang it for my wife at our wedding party. 🙏

That love exists in the Universe is one of its most deepest and strangest of mysteries.

We are one... together💖

@@tuvantrader omg thanks for introducing us this gem 😍

C Wilton I’ll say it. I teared up at that.

When he asked that question, he took the first step forward towards healing himself

@@kellenwillett8263 me too.

I was destroyed at that moment.

I just started weeping at that

Me too and thank you for saying so

Oh, me too... first time in months I have felt a glimmer of hope. Funny how some people show up with a message you need to hear just when you’re finally ready to hear it. I’ll figure out what’s been eating at my soul. I know I’m close. And then I’ll go out there and REALLY make a difference...🙏

Me three. Puts my whole life of depression and 13 years' bankruptcy in perspective. Stay broken open so my soul's yearning can take root.

because he talked from this soul

We're in this together

Khalid...I respect your concern for society. I wish I could agree with your hopes. I have acquired a lot of knowledge about human behavior. What I hear (and it all sounds so great) on many of these informative videos makes so much sense. But I have spent my time among the public multitasking and simply observed and listened very closely to what so many people say and do. Trying to teach most of them, basic proven simple truths, is constantly both frustrating yet fascinating. Most of them simply verify what proven, time tested, clinical studies about humans proved. They are way too narrow minded and can't even be taught even simple fact based truths with only one mathematically proven answer. Naturally, people will challenge my conclusion by claiming I have no proof I am right. This is a perfect example of how little they know about proven testing methods that insure a very high degree of accuracy. These obscure videos get less than .01% of viewership of the usual junk that the major media loves to report on over and over. It's all about figuring out what's not being reported on that is absolutely happening. This takes many years to just begin to become competent at learning.

are you sure about that. watch the TED talks where they say pedophilia should be socially accepted. SERIOUS< look it up. its on youtube

From your lips to God’s ears

tom colopy www.google.com/amp/s/blog.ted.com/tedx-talk-under-review/amp/

I agree, Khalid. Well said.

At the end of this Ted Talk one word remained in my head. Replay. 💯❤👏👏

@John Fritz Nah, we don't need more evangelism.

Boy isn't that the truth... Touche!

Watch ted talk..kill your bucket list...=

You are one of a fortunate few! Especially to have such a visceral experience to alert you! Sadly, most do NOT know when they are hearing wisdom and it slips by without acknowledgement. Although the answers to our problems and questions are available and presented to us; we usually fail to recognize them as such and cry out in despair declaring that God has forsaken us and/or the world is out to get us.

Poor David. He is lost and unable to save his own soul.

Absolutely! It was the same for me. I don't think anyone that puts the effort to understand what he's saying won't feel this. :-)

​@@DJJonPattrsn22brilliantly put!

Brandon Jones very strong statement! Will take it as a backbone!

easier said than done

Kick the can AND transform---I love to "kick the can" as it were, while I walk my dogs!

This too takes realization, deep soul searching... and understanding... Are we ready ?? Then shift 🤗

Right on.

@B.T. 333 Yeah, feminism being the biggest threat of them all!!!

or rebuild society, genetically

@@sylwia0123 biggest threat is overpopulation that numberise people into units,feminism is nothing but a reaction to an ill.

@@ericscaillet2232 sarcasm, that was sarcasm

@B.T. 333 It is having the courage to be yourself, and love others where they are at, where you are at. Not creating blame out there but starting within to expand possibilities

He is genius and amazing

What's intrepiation? Not in the dictionary. Typo?

@@hijodelaisla275 might have been trepidation

Awww so happy you were able to overcome that, beautiful

I am glad to hear what you have lost in your father you found in your son. My respects for raising such a son sir

My father was a WWII Marine vet. I don't think society helped them, or knew what PTSD was then. He was extremely Intelligent, but an awful angry, explosive person. My mom developed her own issues staying with him. I put myself through lots of therapies in my 20's, and didn't have a child until I was 30.

People who went through war seen too much pain. Something we can never understand. I hope your father is in peace now

This made me bawl. My dad was a WW2 Vet too. My uncle told me he was never the same after going to war. He was angry all the time. Was incapable of showing love. Growing up all we ever saw was a miserable man who never let his protective wall down. I know this is why I hv never been able to express my love towards anyone especially a man. I hv hurt too many men, bc they feel I do not love them. I am cold, not affectionate. I hv turned into my father.

I hope your ok ? Stay well .

I’m ok and still here, because being brave works.

@@sarahsuero You poor thing I'm so sorry to hear that . If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here .

Yup we either become victims or survivors. It is so unfair, though.

I am so sorry to hear that Selestine. Stay strong sweetheart.

You got that right! Everything is temporary. You don't take that bigger house or promotion. You take with you the love that you gave & received. When you pass, you won't be taking a U-Haul with you.

Dang that one hit me too. Hard

Same.

Yeah.

@Rashmi Jain better not to be loved that to be tortured

I thought I was replying to the main post from Garciela

Y6060h

It's also pop psychology.

@ALFONSO FRIJIO One can only understand from the viewpoint at which they stand.

@@sarahjaynewilkes3604 Believe me, even though I am not English, I understand what the speaker says. Surely, the talk is worthy of praise, but not because of the statement pointed out by the comment I replied to.

@BMWMD1 - Most interesting comment I’ve seen on any thread. And I must say that I agree with your last sentence. However, I’m curios, how you would you feel if all the Giants were traded to the Cowboys?

Depends what the “opinion” is. If it is an attack on other peoples souls, it’s doubtful you’ll find relationship in that. Maybe examine what it is you are going your “beliefs” to. There is a lot of people using beliefs to simulate belonging instead of relationships to have real belonging. Don’t give up on people, keep trying to relate. 🤍

Communication, is a complex process, with the self it is a set of living experiences that is not a choice. Yet, to still have woke within the idea of choice, the idea of understanding forever changing. Thinking about "choice" did any "one" "choose" to be born? Is it a choice "who" "we" are raised with? What resources are available to guarantee the best possible outcome. The idea of Understanding when applied to choice is as complex and basic as reconciling the actual nature of choice to that of understanding. Given the complexity inherent to the specific understanding of the context of choice to the context of understanding, contrast must be developed to understand the way that these two ideas might be informing one another in sets of relationships determined by the definitions used to frame the relitive relationships of the two ideas. The ideas are so complex as to need to have multiple bifurcation of definition to alow the use of context for contrast of the structures that underpin these ideas. The complex communication inherent to a specific context of real relationship will be defined both as an individual ie: "Definition for Individual" and "The fundamental endosymbiotic relationship in context to the evolution of the environment vs: the assorted understandings and approaches to represented relationships in structures of relationships informed by relationships understood." "Choice" then can be understood with context.. first it must be understood that the majority of context that allows for the facts of life are beyond choice. To understand the possible implications of having choice only in narrow frameworks that are built on larger frameworks with little choice. What is the relationship of- "Choice" and "Enviroment" "Enviroment" a nd "Behavior" "Behavior" and "Choice" how these ideas are "defined" or structured develops the inter-linking ideas that become the framework or frameworks for how one can understand the complexity to understand "choice". Is understanding "choice"? "Behavior"? "Enviroment"? What is your understanding with this proposed framework? Jason M. Decker

Sofia R 😀 I have listened to/watched him for years on NPR and only here learned him to be a “conservative”. He is one of my favorites. Talking in a studio with colleagues while sitting behind a table is VERY DIFFERENT from standing on stage in front of hundreds of strangers. I slowed down the playback a few times. Now will play again at the normal speed. 🌞♥️

He is a moderate conservative, which is not a very welcome political alignment anywhere today. Yet he has always spoken the same truths and ideals. When moderate liberals speak like that, it's hard to tell the difference. David Brooks will always listen and reply intelligently. There are many other conservatives who are very far to the right who also talk like this. Far-right doesn't mean more like our president. (That's a concept that bugs David Brooks to no end.) Far-right is a completely rational political philosophy that simply isn't practiced much these days. It's as valid as far-left, and there was a time when people found it easy to talk to people who were poles apart politically.

@@beenaplumber8379 plz elaborate on what u mean by "far right" & btw, i don't think many of the ppl who r trying to pass themselves off as "conservatives" r that in any meaningful way. some r crypto-fascists (lou dobbs, rush limbaugh, dennis praeger et al) & some r just business ppl (tucker carlson, sean hannity, alex jones et al). in any case, what is this "Far-right 'with' a completely rational political philosophy" of which u speak?

@@babagalacticus That's a tricky question. I recognize that left and right are usually used nowadays (in the US anyway) as shorthand for people we don't like. My easiest reply is to give an example, like George Will. He is a brilliant man with great integrity, as far as I know (with an ego to match), and he does not take a position without sound conservative ideology to support it. (I would describe myself as a liberal constitutionalist.) I guess by far right, I mean people who take conservative ideology farther than is politically expedient. The ideology is more important than winning political office with compromises to the centrists. They are not religious nuts or fascists, but people who value freedom and prosperity, and believe it or not, equality. Most whom I've met (and been friends with) are good, careful listeners and well-reasoned in their political arguments. Those people you named are all reality TV stars IMO, except Rush Limbaugh, who does reality radio. They all have the sole priority of boosting ratings to make money. Not one of them is paid to be a thoughtful journalist. (I confess, I don't know who Dennis Praeger is.)

Yes it true what you told

Made me shed a tear...😢

Same. This is powerful, encouraging, and send a strong message to those amidst suffering and trials in their life.

AlexLordAlcyone Agree 100%. But you can pay your bills AND still have room for smiles and compassion for others. Just have to accept working either less hours or less money for a lower standard of living for yourself. Sounds like you are not there ; Everyone has different limits.

In short you want others to think and be just like you, because you are always right ...

Yes!!

I think that's different. A certain kind of loneliness in the correct state of mind can be very much enjoyed. But only you could know this for sure, if when you ask yourself the question of are you choosing this loneliness because this is what you truly desire in the depth of your heart, or do you feel like you're running away from something? If it's the latter then you have some work to do toward healing, and whichever it is, I wish you good health and happiness. God bless.

Living alone in a rural area would probably terrify me - but then you can feel very alone in a large city.

I love being alone. I love having the whole bed to myself and having the remote to myself. I hate having to put up with stupid people. I fell sorry for people who need the approval of others to value themselves. There are many people who agree with you Connie. Thoreau would never have thought of Civil Disobedience if he had stayed around other people. I never feel loneliness because the world is full of so many marvels which you can only see if you separate yourself from the noise of other people.

You Cat! You Catwoman!! I bet you like cats...

Connie. I think it’s a lot easier for a woman to be alone and live alone than for a man. It’s a totally different thing.

Michael Schneider ...no Sir, you do not! Beagle lover here🥰

Speaking from the actual heart we each have is what is sorely needed now these days. Bravo Mr. Brooks.

went through the desert

David Brooks loses his soul when he talks about the Palestinians.

@@pakpala1 disagree

I have a sticker on my computer that goes with me everywhere, "Speak up even if your voice shakes". That would be me, too.

This man is a regular on national shows like Meet the Press. Why would he be terrified of this? I think it's just how he always sounds.

@@moderoy Vulnerability

Are you serious? David Brooks is a despicable lying right wing scumbag

@@J.M.-nb4gw I've never heard of this man before this video and all I heard was deep truths. All people are capable of change.

Keep in mind that Brooks is now the culmination of his life experience. Brooks was not the man he is today 10 years ago. Are you? He went through a difficult divorce, among other things, and it led him to these great realizations.

And yet he goes on defending the kind of forces, that puts fragmented traumatized individuals in the valleys, a GOP Party,for example, and a kind of 'conservative approach that conserves nothing.while also studying this so ardently what is there and what is missing at the core of much of human behavior. . A conflicted person full of denial about many things, yet willing to look and see other and surprisingly related things!

@@bettinazwerdling9158 Yes, he's a man of contradictions. Politically, he's lost, searching for a conservatism that no longer exists in the U.S. He's best hopping in bed with progressive liberals and other humanitarians.

​@@bettinazwerdling9158 I think that is because there is no winning when you divide.

Political wonks are rarely willing to talk WITH others who see the world differently. They are conditioned to, and encouraged and rewarded for talking AT those labeled “the enemy.” I, a Liberal, would love to be this man’s friend and talk with him. O, what we share diminishes our differences!

Beautiful. Thank you.

Just reading krishnamurti books now,he certainly makes you think!!

That is a tough age as it is

Been there. It's painful, but transformative. Be patient with yourself.

That’s exactly what you said! Same here.

Whats the story behind ur sorrows !

This too shall pass

Instant heartbreak

Yes. Great that you recognize its importance. It was the one that caused me to cry out loud. My children had often told me that I loved the other child more but they got by....and my son turned out to be the best father on the face of the Earth, paying for all his daughter's college and everything involved in her path to Registered Nurse so she faces the future debt free. My daughter has not had children. We are all closer today than we were five years ago due to my refusal to react with hurt at the snide comments tossed my way by both of my children from time to time. I knew they were coming from the the disassociated nature we had entered into because of the demands of the culture to hustle every minute of our lives just to keep our heads above the poverty line. So of course, the children felt a bit neglected. But they grew strong nevertheless. We have made it to a stage where all the petty complaints to the parents (of which I am the only one left) have been abandoned. This was a great speech. It touched many levels emotionally.

Obesity, opioid addiction, high divorce rates, what has the west gained from exploitation? The rich who are behind government don’t spare their own. In such a society how can there be any love? Every rich westerner once they become rich come to east for enlightenment but can’t see the mirror.

@Climate C. Heretic I think you didn´t get the message. It is not about blame, but about making the best out of it - despite all. But maybe i am missing the point too :)

My father was born right after the war and his mother had to give him away because they have lost everything in the war. He grew up in an orphanage where love was never present. I must tell you that he was the most loving father and husband. In ways that i can not explain, we were poor but happy, but that for me was normal, until i grew up and i saw that not all fathers were like mine. I am an educated adult now and i can tell you 100% that love is inside us. Unless a man suffers some kind of sick abuses in childhood that severely broke him on the inside, that man can be a great father.

He's teaching slave morality, which is rooted in ideology.

He's always been earnest, and honest with himself.

True, although I personally contend that "meaning" would be a more appropriate goal that even joy.

Sort of a lying political shill. Like the world doesn't have enough of those.

The best Republican ever seen or hear, Im totally Independent

Mark Shields makes David better

@@rafo54 LOL he is and denounces Trump because he is so honest. Sometimes we can believe in a thing but not the leader of said thing. We have to make choices. I did too. This guy is smart.

@@FathomlessJoy What an appropriate (disguised) name you use. Sad.

Me too

felt that aswell

Tears to my eyes

Jacob Opstad me too!!

+Jacob Opstad That was a great line (bad way of putting it) and the answer is a definite YES. I can only speak from second hand experience but the right person can take that lack of love, that wanting to be loved, and transfer it as love to the child, making the child incredibly loved. It all depends on the person, not whether they've been loved or not.

Respect

Shaun Browne - Ditto!!!

David Brooks has been unable to adapt to the political sphere since Donald Trump was elected President. Yeah, I was hoping Brooks would be sent out to pasture and replaced by a pundit who would challenge Mark Shields in point/counterpoint discussions.

@@SteveTheFazeman I am thrilled for David Brooks - his so-called "inability to adapt to the political sphere" has made him such a better person. I, too, have watched him for years - and I'm so happy that the snippy, sarcastic self-absorbed know-it-all that was David Brooks is no more. He is now living as a human being - not a pundit. I hope the same for you, my friend.

@@phyllisfrierson5402, The whole point to the Shields and Brooks segment is to have a point/counterpoint discussion based on Judy Woodruff's questions. Because Brooks is no longer an effective pundit to counter Shields, he needs to step down so that a strong pundit can step in and challenge Shields. You said that you watched the show for years. Obviously, you value the opinions of political pundits.

Shields has moved to the center, also. It's like an echo chamber. I wish they could get two respectful pundits to give both sides, but, in today's political climate, you're liable to just get a Democrat vs a trumper. There's no one else left on the right side. All the real republicans have bailed.

I was never impressed with David before. I'm amazed and happy to see who he really is! Ted talk showed me a really good part of David!

Okba Cherboub Did he really say that? Make sense.

And the quality of the people you keep. I like that question bit. Higher quality questions. Like heres some cool stuff. There’s water on the sun Your body is made from Stardust 4.5 billion years old. There is only one color pigment that makes all eye colors. It’s the concentration layers and refractions. The grass is not green. The grass is EVERY COLOR BUT GREEN AND ITS REFLECTED OFF. WHAT ever color you see. It’s not that color and reflecting off. When you lose weight. 80% of your weight is lost through your lungs as co2. 20% sweat pee energy It takes a single photon 40,000 years to move out of the sun but 8 minutes to reach earth. A pound of feathers is heavier than a pound of gold. By 4 oz. how many grooves does a 45 record have. Many people guess 70 grooves. Wrong. Only ONE GROOVE GOING AROUND AND AROUND AND AROUND. SO if I asked you how many grooves on a 45. You’d say one. WRONG. U FORGOT SIDE B. FLIPSIDE 2. 2 grooves. No 4. The songs slang is called a groove. Love this groove man. 4. 4 grooves

The Consumer economy, mindless consuming. BB

let's create a better way.

Yes yes and yes

@@wwayne2318 fighting is losing

@@MichaelDarlingCo Better lose than encourage that behavior.

Great delivery. He's not making a a sales pitch, he's sharing his heart. PowerPoint and polished patter wouldn't help much, there... I'm very much listening to how he is saying what he's saying. His gentle fear of self-exposure. His gentle courage to overcome it , and test his convictions in front of others.

@@rbettsx he stutters alot. That is bad delivery. If you speak in public you should not be stuttering like that. Who cares if its a sales pitch. He has something really inportant to say. And HE IS advertising his organization. That being said, I dont think it matters much. Like I said, what matters most to me is what he said, not how he said it. But i can still objectively say, it was poorly delivered.

Agreed. Literally every person needs to watch this. Because if you don't think this will touch you now, it still will sometime in your life. It's just that sometimes people are going full speed with blinders on and they don't often take a good rest stop to really look. Wish more did.

Wow. Totally agree.

👍

Watch on ted talks " kill your bucket list"

Definitely

Nory-Chan so true!!! Everyday all the time even if we see each other more than once in a day. I have taught my kids that this Latino greeting shows you value, honor, and respect the person in front of you! It shows you are open to a relationship of friendship and does show vulnerability. We do get hurt sometimes from it but when it works...it lights souls on fire! Life long relationships!

There’s a lot of truth in that

I was born and raised in the US, but am now married to a Latina from Peru; I finally understand what family really is and how I can be a better version of myself because of it.

@Fred Wright , no but I feel like I should tell you that it's Sotomayor as in SotoMayor. I have 2 last names. My name is Normaris Gonzalez Tosado, nice to meet you.

@@Norimarisu This is only half true. The extremes in Latin countries and South East Asian and African countries is more common, mostly due to poverty. Some people treat each other better as they rely on each other and others commit horrible crimes every day and get away with it due to widespread corruption, something western countries don't have to deal with as much. There is an abundance of everything so people are far more indifferent to each other. As Latin countries change in wealth so will the culture.

@Michael I do not share your opinion, Michael. Mark's speech can be, at times, halting, but his perspective is often more sagacious than vacant. Be well.

So why do humans construct these artificial (separateness)?

@@michaelgilbertsr3107 I think that humanity has taken a wrong turn. The wrong turn is manifesting through the self, the self is a way for us to interface with our environment, human thought has made this self "the center" and it really isn't. My observation is that what I call myself arises in thought,.other than that self except for the need to interface has no actual existence. This is not a new idea of course the Buddhist have made this notion of self quite clear. dungteller.com is my blog. What do you think?

@@dungteller367 you should read Freud's book on the matter "civilization and its discontents"

@@Sqlut I will

@@dungteller367 , (I) is the result of the need to feel. (We) is the result of accepting OUR interconnectedness. It's not easy, partly because humans are inherently selfish. Ignoring the inherent manifestation for love, we substitute a multitude of failings instead.

He meant alone.

... psychological word games

As someone once said, "If reading one book changes your life, you aren't reading enough".

You could hear the emotion in his voice. I'm glad he's more than just a political pundit.

@@davidm5707 Also, you can tell he's not really a public speaker. He's trembling and a bit nervous. But for me, this vulnerability is what makes him more authentic and relatable. He's not just a talking head on TV. I always liked his political analyses on PBS but this makes me appreciate him more.

@@utubefreshie I liked him too, because was always reasonable. Him, and David Gergen.

Mai: There are places in the nation where people greet each other as they pass. There are other places in the nation where people pass in silence. When we are in one of those places where silence is the custom, we can change the place by greetings. About 1 in 1000 strangers will react with hostility. Most others will greet or chat on invitation.

@@crusindc5282 sadly that man was the only one that responded. The people I passed . . I felt they were so deep in misery that did not know how to respond. I kept saying "hi", not expecting anything in return, not wanting to break through but just responding to what I saw. My response has taught me many things on many levels about myself. There are so many juxpositions in our daily lives.

@@maibritton2882 You deserved better.

@@crusindc5282 I don't want to blow the empathy but don't you think deserving is similar to I or anyone "expecting" to be treated a certain way? I have learned to be accountable. Just like Mr. Brooks I have struggled with being alone and lonely. Am I making any sense?

Well that is also called universal law

What happened that made you disabled?

Artizan I went into something called status epilepticus which means that I was in and out of seizures for over 20 minutes but the woman that was with me when it happened went into shock and didn’t tell anyone about how serious it was for over 2 weeks. Ironically, I had to cover her shifts because she was out due to stress. Anyway, I ended up with some irreversible brain damage and a previously unidentified mitochondrial disease came to the surface sooooo, now I sleep about 12-18 hours a day and lay around like a vegetable when I’m awake but I’m seriously lucky because I have someone to take care of me and I’m not in any pain so that’s a bit of a win 👌

@@MissBlueEyeliner I'm sorry you had to go through that and thank you for sharing. I'm glad you still have your optimism as that's what makes life worth living.

Congrats. That's illumination.

Stay Strong, Bianca is a beautiful name

For me, it didn't even feel like 15 minutes, even when I rewinded a couple of times to re-listen to an idea or message. Genuine talks like this, genuine communication from the heart tend to have this kind of time stopping or getting lose in time power. It's like that good friend you love and cherish so much and that late night talk you have on many subjects and you just flow, until you notice daybreak coming through the shutters. Indeed, indeed. Lovely comment by the way.

It depends on the society you live in. People in rural Siberia or any other secluded area are quite poor from our perspective but they're often happier. It's expectations that decide how content you are.

Well, in this western society game, sadly: Amen to your statement.

The scarcity tunnel- when in need, we can't see beyond the resource that we need. Loneliness, lack of time, and lack of lack money are all common causes of the scarcity mindset.

@@Dionyzos Yeah, where are you writing this from? Rural Siberia or Starbucks?

@@raccoons_stole_my_account It doesn't matter. I have relatives in rural Russia and visited them a few times. They're very happy with the few things they possess.

Yes looniness is different than solitude. The root meaning of alone is' all one" which certainly align's with what you are saying and what is being said in the talk. In looking at the world we see divisions to be an individual means that which can not be divided. I think there is an irony here in that until we understand that we are all one we can n to be true individuals. These of course are just my thoughts. Thank you for your comment.

Billie Holiday couldn't have sung it better

@Mr. Burns: Shakespeare once said that "Life is a stage and we are all actors." But acting is work, and therefore requires effort. And so much of human effort requires disconcerting self-appraisal. What he failed to conclude, perhaps in service to his belief that "Brevity is the soul of all wit", is that the acting can cease once the curtain closes. And so I prefer to live, more often than not, behind the curtain.

He wasn't talking about solitude though, was he?