This was probs so healing I can feel it Lmao

Sometimes, we all need to just vent. Im so glad she had such a wonderful family. I also was undiagnosed as a kid and struggled with autism. Its good to look back and realize how silly you were as a kid.

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Thank God.

Way better than middle school! I liked having more freedom to choose classes and other things like football and basketball games could be fun

One hundred percent, middle school was such a nightmare for me that the high school experience was...well, not better but sucked in a different way. I also did not go to prom or participate in any sports/activities, so. That was a thing.

Elementary school to middle school were absolute hell for me, likely because I kept getting stuck with the same classmates from 2nd grade up to my last year of middle school and they were pretty much all horrible to me, come high school I was rarely in the same class with anyone else since everyone had different classes they went to and I had a group of friends in highschool. I probably would've managed to finish high school had I not hit a mental wall, the moment I learned I could dropout and just go get my GED elsewhere I did it, best decision of my life as I spent what would've been my junior and senior years of high school at home, playing video games and watching anime getting the much needed mental break. Middle school was the worst because of the three as the constant bullying took such a toll that I developed an aversion to going out anywhere to the point of getting physically ill if I needed to go to school or go out somewhere....

This is so sweet, I'm so glad you got the help you needed

same! i found out i was autistic bc of her. thats so sweet

So sweet! ❤️

Actually turns out, when my grandma used to live in Oklahoma as a kid she absolutely demolished Hanna Montanas dad in soccer. Apparently he sucked at it and all old people know eachother. He actually called her out in college when she got sick.

same thing happened to me! but i’m still not officially diagnosed because i don’t have the money for it and support in the country i currently live. i hope one day i’ll manage to do it tho

*hugs* You're ok! You made it through and you're not alone.

Same

Too real 💀 at least I've found people here who have the same experience!!

God yeah same…I would always talk about my friends at school and my parents would wonder why I never hung out with anyone outside of school

@Pingo its so normal in every school in the uk aswell mine was the same thing, you either went to "reset room" where you missed two lessons to sit there in silence and do your work or you went to isolation . its so sick.

I’m lowkey jealous of those, if i could just do my work alone at school that would be a dream, i don’t get in trouble I’d probably ask for that lol

The school to prison pipeline is a documented reality in America unfortunately, especially for students of color. In my Education courses in college we talked about how the state prison systems use Third Grade End-of-Year test scores to ballpark many cells they'll need in the coming years.. We also had ISS (in school suspension) growing up, which was what Jesse described as isolation.

@@ireadtoomanycomics Kids need interaction and stimulus though. Many kids are in isolation ALL DAY. Meaning no break times, no leaving the room for lunch, no getting up to stretch your legs. Even the staff won't talk to you. You're sat in silence all day, have your lunch on your own in silence, no breaks, no moving around, nothing to do all day except homework. Can't even nap or hum to yourself or doodle or anything without getting in trouble if caught. It'd drive me insane, quite honestly, and I'm an extremely unsociable person. The utter cruelty and irony of punishing ADHD kids that way when they act up from being understimulated is beyond comprehension.

I literally used to ask to be put in isolation 😂 I hated people especially the ones in my school (badly bullied) but liked the work. So isolation was not punishment it was the best day ever lol

I stayed in my parents house till I was 22 or 23 and it was the best thing I ever did for my relationship with my parents. It became so much healthier for me and them! So I feel you.

I really feel this. My relationship with my parents is actually pretty good now that we dont live under the same roof, but as a late-diagnosed autistic woman I really sometimes wish I could just go back home.

I both am able too and don't have a choice. I'm nearing 30, am disabled (late-diagnosed autism + other mental health things) and have never been able to leave home, but thankfully I have a good relationship with my parents and it's a big apartment. Still, it's hard sometimes because I feel like a failure, and my living situation (amongst other things) undoubtedly makes me very unattractive to potential partners. But that's just the way it is. 🤷‍♀️

I love living with my parents. So much better than being “indépendant”, aka lonely.

Same. I moved out with my bf as soon as we could and it’s such a struggle honestly but I’d much rather have financial stress than simply live with my parents, and that shows a lot. It’s sad to think about that I feel like I don’t have real “parents” I can rely on. But I’m happy to provide my little sister a safe place that I didn’t have at her age

Home was my escape from my traumatic high school experience

My mom was so strict so I was in every after school activity 🤣

cutting school to go hide at my bffs house whose mother was the truancy officer! lol shed never report us but was up the ass of anyone else. shed write us excuse notes. my high school and home were nightmares for me. my only escape was my friends. im pretty sure i spent more time at friends houses from 10-17 than i did at home. i hated that entire period of my life. HATED it. wanted to disappear, not exist, but was too scared to end it all. thank GOD. im on the fence about buying this ex pack because it was literally the worst time in my life but i want to relive it and be on the cool kid side. the popular, not wanting to crawl into a wall when anyone walked by me, kid. its rediculous, im in tears as i write this ( im 50 years old now, so, if it still brings up this kind of emotion, you know it sucked for everyone). high school really fucks people up, not gonna lie

we don't even have after school activities at school in my country, you either go home or sit around alone in school

Oh yeah I was at school from 7 to 7 everyday bbbb I did Not wanna go home. Theater kids never wanna go home tbh

So, they have to? I’m confused.

I had childhood trauma; but found peace at being at school away from all the drama at home. Different circumstances for different folks. I also think people say they "miss high-school" because it's mostly a time of self discovery with minimal consequences.

@@brandoniswhoiam ?

@@brandoniswhoiam No one has to experience trauma, but it’s more likely for people with bad childhoods to have worse memories of their school days. Cause if your childhood wasn’t great then your memories of school probably weren’t great either

high school was the best BECAUSE at home sucked so much. school was my favorite place to be and my memories there are still some of the best i have specifically because of my trauma

yaaaaay go you mummy for knowing the signs! My mum just hated me because of how different I was to my perfectly healthy high achieving sister haha the drama was real

@@dandygirl6 thank you. I’m trying hard, so far my biggest hurdles are trying to make extended family aware that they just can’t expect the same type of behavior from this kiddo as the other cousins. The conversations are a million percent different and the expectations really need to be let go of.

@@dandygirl6 I’m sorry you had to go through sibling comparisons :( People shouldn’t ever be hated or feel hated for being neurodivergent (or any other way of existing that’s perfectly natural, human, and not in their control)! It’s really unfair, and especially hurtful when it comes from your own family. I hope you’re in a better place now! 🤍 /gen edit: thought I messed up the tone indicator, so I edited it, but then realized I was right the first time 😂 it’s all good now! 👍

LMFAO we doooo, it’s cold 90% of the time so closed plans bring the heat in but rn it’s 40 degree celsius and this floor plan will be the DEATH OF ME !!!

@@Plumbella honestly, I feel like I’m melting

Mine was similar, we called it In House Suspension. It'd be a teacher chaperoning us in an empty classroom for the entire school day, kind of like a study hall except no talking, no phones, and no joy of any kind. Absolutely miserable. The only upside was actually getting some of my classwork done 😭

I feel that, it was awful!!!! I went to high school in the US and we had detention as well as ISS/OSS. We had a couple designated tiny, dark rooms with a desk and a chair in the corner so you had to sit in there alone until school was out. I don't think that helped ANYBODY lol, just made everything worse for most

My school had a large library so ISS was inside right next to the librarians office so you could do homework and stuff.

In the UK here and once I was out in isolation for three days, and I loved it! The students in my school were so naughty and the teachers had completely given up on the class, so every lesson I’d just sit there stressing out and hyper stimulated as all the students shouted and messed about around me, with the teacher just giving us all the silent treatment. In isolation I was just put in a room with a computer, my pack of work and one teacher keeping an eye on me and helping me when I needed it. Learned more in those three days than I would have in two weeks of normal lessons. Was in isolation for hitting a bully back after they shoved me, after that I kind of wanted to get in more fights just so I wouldn’t have to deal with the stress of being in those classes. Never did, my parents moved me out of that school shortly after.

omg so painful, most schools have some kind of version of this. Here in Aus in a staunchly catholic school it's called the RTC (responsible thinking classroom) where most of my educating was done.

Oof, the "I wish I had the language and understanding to have spoken up" hits hard. Being undiagnosed for both ADD and autism, school was difficult for me, and oftentimes I didn't have the language and understanding to (1) properly express how people were mistreating me or (2) make people understand why I was more sensitive to things. And it is sad that the adults and children of that time seemed to have no inclination to show any kindness or try to figure out how they could help

i’m 32, not diagnosed with anything but strongly believe i either have autism and/or adhd, and i had about 2-3 teachers who would bully me just for being different. my second grade teacher was the worst though… i remember being so confused about why she didn’t like me :/ looking back i must’ve frustrated her in some way, but i’ll always resent the fact that instead of trying to get me help or something her first instinct was to be mean to a child.

@Pingo Holy shit, yeah. Thinking about it, I had times like that as well. Most notably because of my hair. My fringe would grow over my eyes, and I had this snobby music teacher in high school that would say the same. And then there were cooking classes. By the time my sister was in high school, we got even poorer, so much so we couldn't afford the ingredients to cook in the class. The teacher would mock my sister and ask how we couldn't afford food.

Well that’s low key horrifying lol. What is that meant to achieve other than making the kid resent the school??

cold lunches as in, the foods were hot foods that had gone cold, or they were just cold food options? I'm australian so having food provided to you is weird to me in the first place

@@countrye3013 cold food options like turkey or ham sandwiches which were really gross I went to a football highschool so our school lunches were pretty good to feed the school teams but our isolation foods were straight prison foods .. terrible

@@CountLilac honestly I don't understand it. No idea what it was to achieve it did make me build a resentment to the school and the principle who kept sending me to in school suspension instead of talking to me and seeing what was going on. I didn't live in the best area and a lot of kids around me were dying from gun violence or just misfortune events. My parents were divorcing and it was a new area for me and we weren't the richest so I didn't have the best things. So it made me act out.. which wasn't a good excuse but it's the truth the principle didn't seem to care "just send them to in school so we don't have to deal with it "

@@CountLilac It was probably to ensure that they were actually being punished as opposed to out of school suspension where you were at home doing whatever you pleased. If I needed a mental break from school, I actively went out of my way to get suspended so I could stay home and watch tv and play video games because at that point I would rather risk being seen as a troublemaker for a mental break than sit in class being treated like garbage by my classmates and even by some of my teachers, plus I was decent enough at school that I could make up for it once I went back, of course I had to carefully walk the line to be sure I didn't get expelled.

Absolutely agree with you here, it's brutal, especially to those undiagnosed (because people wrongly assume you're being argumentative or disagreeable just to be difficult). I would like to add to your society would do better comment - I think society is absolutely key here. I am going through diagnosis for autism at 33, and I had a hard time in school, but I had an AMAZING friend group and their parents (and mine) were all incredible. I realize how lucky I was to have a literal "society" around me so supportive when I struggled - especially with social issues and such. Even if we cannot get parents and doctors on board with catching/diagnosing these issues, I hope other kids/teens and their parents and also teachers can realize they can make a huge difference in other kids lives.

It’s the opposite for me (well I understand how people could say it was the worst time of their life from their stories but) I had mental health issues and struggles during high school but none of them stemmed from high school they came from home life and junior school. Getting to go to school every day, be with my friends, pmsl at the charismatic teachers (or with my friends at the rubbish ones though they were the minority), learn so much, have so many awesome experiences, have no real responsibilities (even if they feel real at that age). It’s just a setting that you’ll never get in the rest of your life because as an adult you’re restricted by your friends being all over the place, real responsibilities, jobs, time crunches it’s just so much harder and more isolated. I remember every few months in high school I’d remind myself, you need to appreciate this time right now, and I don’t think I did enough as I let myself get overwhelmed by the anxiety and such. But yeah I hope my potential kids have a good high school experience like mine and not one like yours.

It was a hard time in life just by virtue of puberty and being a teenager…normal stuff…but I still have overall positive memories of high school. I enjoyed high school. My dad was like the King of High School. Popular, football player, homecoming king, always partying, etc. My mom, on the other hand, didn’t have a good high school experience. She ended up doing independent study to get out of going every day. She had a really tough four years, mentally. So yeah they’re my parents, but their experiences compared to my (and my brother’s), were vastly different from my own. Because my brother even had a different experience than I did. You can’t really assume everyone’s going to go through what you did. You don’t have to have kids if you don’t want them of course, but thinking they’d automatically have the same experience as you did, is flawed logic. My point is to say kids are who they are, and who their parents are, is not a guarantee of who they are going to be.

I agree. My high school experience was a lovely blend of social rejection, developing health issues, and increasingly ab*sive parent relationship. It felt like a constant fight. My school even let me down because once I started doing my general classes in college I realized I wasn’t taught anything in high school, even basic stuff like how a cell works we never went over. I don’t have a single good time I remember about being in high school. I was always struggling with everything. Now I’m 21 going to uni and am content as a loner, living with my boyfriend and have a handle on my health issues. So much better

They do

Yeah they do. Its pretty much to keep them from disrupting the other kids. here youre a problem child we simply dont want to see you. Youd think they would have come up with a better system by now or go hey maybe this kid is acting out for a reason. What sucks more is the only classes they have for kids who cant mask or blend at all(special ed) and they don’t even try and teach those kids. Just hear learn how to be a janitor

Yea they do still it’s such a crazy way to ‘punish’ a literal child/teen

they do it was terrible. i swore once in middle school at no one in particular and my english teacher heard me and i got sent to isolation for a day. it was hell and my guardian was so pissed off.

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yeah being in isolation sucks, my school last year changed the name to "wellbeing hub" but its still just sitting a room, alone, in silence lmao

I second this! I left mainstream school 3 months into in year 7, diagnosed autistic at 13/14, was only given the chance to do 4 GSCEs and now I'm in my second year in uni at 21! It's so great to see other's success stories !! Can't thank you enough Jesse

@@itssgracie I hate when you're kid who keeps their head down because they just don't pay attention to you 🤪and you have to suffer in silence. I can't stand burnt looking crisps 😭like mccoys, walkers etc

@@cflo1606 BURNT CRISPS😭nahh anything that looks ‘burnt’ like cheese on pizza or chips i can’t.. i just can’t do it 💔 i know i remember at parents evenings the teachers would be like contribute more, put your hand up etc I literally cannot i’m the quiet one i’ll let everyone else do it 😭

Two Tipps 1 Dont be a goody two shoes people wobt respect you. Be respectfull but if they Start calling you namens and make fun of you call them cunts and punch the living shit out of them if you have two 2 yes i totaly aggre

I did the same in high-school and only passed because I actually tried in my senior year. I spent most of my time at school daydreaming and trying to look like I was paying attention and snuck by because I'm decent at figuring things out, but I barely remember anything now at age 28 besides basic knowledge and a few random interesting facts. I did significantly better in college though because you pick the field you're interested in instead of being forced to memorize the same things as everyone else. If you want to go to college and are in the US, I would suggest going to community college first to figure out what you enjoy studying. I switched my major 3 or 4 times before getting my bachelor's degrees and saved a lot by going to a good community college beforehand. Also, I was diagnosed with ADD (whch is now called ADHD-PI [PI stands for primarily inattentive]) when I was 22 or 23 and it made me realize why I struggled so much with things that shouldn't be that hard to do. I really wish that I was diagnosed earlier though because I probably would have stuck with mechanical engineering as my primary major (instead of switching back to psychology) and would have a higher paying job now :/ It takes a while and you'll keep changing as a person over time, but eventually you will find a career field that intrigues you enough to stick with and hopefully brings you some fulfillment! If academics really aren't your thing, there are many jobs that focus more on experience so there are still options available. Education is important, but you're still a valid and valuable person even if you don't do well in school! There's way more to life than just memorizing stuff because someone told you to.

@@itssgracie I was one of the quiet kids in school and have spent years trying to learn how to socialize and interact with people because being shy doesn't help you at all when you're an adult. Being quiet/shy is often a mild defense mechanism to protect you from social rejection (or potential harm in abusive environments), but can also significantly stunt your development of beneficial social skills. I missed out on soooo many opportunities and experiences when I was younger because I was afraid to speak up and didn't realize the benefits of just talking with other people. My dad was also extremely quiet and his life was very stagnant until he recently started talking to people more often and is now finally doing more of the things he said he wanted to do for the past 20-30 years. I've learned from his experience that you have to get out and talk to people to accomplish many things in life (except for becoming an off-the-grid hermit), so the sooner you develop decent social skills, the better. I'm still very introverted and lots of social interaction is still exhausting, but becoming comfortable with talking to strangers/people I barely know definitely helped me do a lot of things that I didn't think was possible (like travel internationally, meeting certain people, make money w/ art, etc.). If you let people know about your skills and interests, a surprising amount of people are willing to help you out or just talk with you and become a connection or friend if they have similar interests. I'm saying all of this in case any other former quiet kids see this comment thread and hopefully don't end up make the same mistake that I did of making "shyness" part of their identity and later discovering how much they missed out on 😕

Lol same, my experience was just uneventful and disappointing. But I had a decent time with my little friend group so I'm not complaining too much! Although I am now 24 and mentally still feel 14 because it's like I never really experienced being a teenager so it feels like I've been frozen in time for a decade

It actually feels like it, we couldn’t even go to the toilet without having teachers escort us there (my school was full of bad students) so isolation was full every week 😭💀

you can do that anyways you just need to cook something and make it a packed lunch then it will go in your inventory so you can take it anywhere

I'm pretty sure you can already pack meals into bags and put it in your inventory, atleast it's in my game

@@SaraMcNutz i for sure mean that at lunch time you have to bring a packed lunch that your sim will automatically eat without your say

@@spiidercider i’m pretty sure sims eat the food randomly anyways if it’s in their inventory